FULL SHOW: The Day We Asked About the Nut Implant

Yep, we actually asked Alex about his nut implant—and he answered. Danielle channeled her inner private investigator, Skeery did a mid-show workout (again), and we played another chaotic round of Family Feud. Plus, Mel Robbins joined us, we broke down fake apologies, and confessed the petty things we still haven’t gotten over.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:04):
It just always makes me laugh. I mean, I just
I can't get enough of it. It makes my morning
all night.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
I don't even notice that I'm sitting in traffic robing.
I wake up to the show every day.

Speaker 3 (00:15):
And I literally listen all the time.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
It uses up all my data. I just love their interaction.

Speaker 4 (00:20):
They really seem to genuinely just love each other.

Speaker 5 (00:22):
Love each other.

Speaker 6 (00:23):
Tell me Saran in the morning show, Well, look.

Speaker 7 (00:40):
At straight Nate. What are you eating? What are you
doing over there?

Speaker 1 (00:42):
I just finished my yogurt.

Speaker 7 (00:44):
Oh, we have a special guest. My husband Alex is here.
Good morning Alex, Hey, what's up? But he doesn't want
to be on camera? How come because I just woke up? Okay,
all right, we did too.

Speaker 2 (00:59):
I like it.

Speaker 4 (01:00):
It's very like reality show TV Diva. Yeah, like no cameras,
no cameras.

Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yeah, no, no cameras for the TV show.

Speaker 7 (01:06):
Makes no sense anyway. So on the previous show, we
were talking about how we took Alex out one night
with a bunch of friends and we were drinking at
amah Are, one of our favorite restaurants, and he told
us that that was the second anniversary of the removal
of your testicle. Is that correcrect? Yeah, it was the
left or right. I keep forgetting my left right. So

(01:30):
we brought a meatball out and put a candle in it,
and what was the song was saying happy lost ball, Happy.

Speaker 2 (01:36):
Lost ball to we lost.

Speaker 7 (01:38):
And it seems kind of like a weird thing to celebrate,
but there's a good reason to celebrate this.

Speaker 8 (01:43):
No, it brings awareness. You know, I'm not ashamed and embarrassed.

Speaker 1 (01:47):
You know that I lost my testicle.

Speaker 8 (01:48):
You know they replaced it, but an artificial one, and
you can't tell.

Speaker 7 (01:52):
We've got questions we got yeah, hold on, hold on,
But you know being a cancer survivor is a reason
to celebrate exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 8 (01:59):
You know, I have so many friends going through cancer
right now, and you know I want to bring attention
to it.

Speaker 7 (02:04):
All right, And there's no better way than putting a
candle in a meat ball and singing happy lost ball
in the middle of a crowded restaurant.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
And it was delicious.

Speaker 7 (02:11):
It was so there you go, any questions for our guests, okay,
Gandhi Danielle, Yeah, go ahead.

Speaker 4 (02:24):
Okay, So when we started talking about the replacement testicle,
the stand in whatever it is that youicle Yeahicle scary
mentioned something about it being ping pong ball sized. Is
that a normal ball size or is that big? To me?
That feels like a big ball.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yes, no, that's a big ball.

Speaker 8 (02:45):
But what they do is, uh, there's a little different
sizes and they measure your other one and they swap
it in.

Speaker 9 (02:54):
If you want to have a really big nut, can
you get one of those?

Speaker 1 (02:57):
Well, I asked for a brass one, but they said
they come out.

Speaker 7 (03:00):
I mean it's actually it's a it's a display. You
get to like look at him right.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
No, No, I didn't say it. I was knocked out.
The doctor did.

Speaker 8 (03:08):
No.

Speaker 7 (03:08):
No, when you you got to choose your size, though,
you got to choose I remember that.

Speaker 1 (03:12):
No, not me.

Speaker 7 (03:13):
Oh maybe I chose for you.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Were you in the room?

Speaker 4 (03:17):
Okay, okay, wait, something to follow up to that. If
you didn't like the other ball, original ball, is there
like cosmetic surgery to make them bigger or smaller?

Speaker 2 (03:27):
In general?

Speaker 1 (03:28):
I don't believe so.

Speaker 7 (03:30):
I don't think that would be a want to mess
with that.

Speaker 2 (03:33):
Is it the same size as your other ball or
is it heavier or lighter?

Speaker 7 (03:38):
Yeah, what's the difference?

Speaker 8 (03:40):
You could tell the difference, you know, it's firm, and
it's a little bit larger.

Speaker 7 (03:45):
I believe it's like overcooked kalamaro. Are you learning a
lot to follow? Okay, let's let's move over to Froggy.
Froggy has a question for you. He stuck around just
because of this conversation.

Speaker 10 (03:57):
I'm sure at so with like regular balls, somebody can
just barely graze it and it will knock you to
your knees with the neuticle, I mean, is it the
same sensation or could you like really take a good
like blow to the nuts and I.

Speaker 1 (04:16):
Don't have feeling in there.

Speaker 7 (04:17):
Okay, so something like no flicky, no flicky, no hurdy. Wow,
that's a good question now I know that. Uh straight,
Nate has a question. He's been asking it all morning
and finally he has the opportunity.

Speaker 5 (04:30):
So many Okay, we have time.

Speaker 1 (04:33):
Is it?

Speaker 11 (04:34):
Is it attached to anything?

Speaker 5 (04:35):
Or is it just kind of rolling around like a
marble and a sack?

Speaker 9 (04:38):
Oh?

Speaker 7 (04:38):
No, no, it's attached. One follow up, what is it
attached to? Is it attached to the other ball? It's
like a no ball. No, it's attached to something. I
don't know what, because if not, it would go up
inside me. Or you know that was another question?

Speaker 9 (04:54):
Another question?

Speaker 1 (04:54):
So it is attached. I don't know how they attack
the follow up.

Speaker 5 (04:57):
That's the follow up question. H Uh you get cold
right like you. Let's say you're got a really cold water.
Does it stay hanging and the real one retreats inside
of you?

Speaker 7 (05:08):
Or does it really? Oh yeah, you're very uneven uneven Stephen,
I tip over sometimes? Oh god, So wait.

Speaker 2 (05:17):
A minute, can you roll it around in your hand
like a fidget spinner?

Speaker 1 (05:20):
Yes, I can.

Speaker 7 (05:21):
He's doing it right now.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
I'm doing it right now, making sure it's still there.

Speaker 11 (05:26):
Yes, scary now that you have one instead of two,
is there half as much shop?

Speaker 7 (05:35):
I know exactly where you were going, but I want
to know the answer. You already know where I'm going
with this. It's kind of an odd answer.

Speaker 1 (05:43):
It is because I think I produced more. Who Yes,
I don't know. Ever since the operation, that's been crazy.

Speaker 7 (05:53):
I'm sure there's an explanation behind that, but we don't.

Speaker 1 (05:55):
I really don't know.

Speaker 9 (05:56):
What about velocity? Is the velocity the same or.

Speaker 1 (05:59):
Is that yeah, it's the same.

Speaker 7 (06:02):
We're talking about the principles of inertia. I don't know
what I got another one. Look at that. Oh my god,
look at all these questions about your ball. Where do
they insert it?

Speaker 5 (06:12):
Do they like follow that the natural seam on the
on the on the bag?

Speaker 1 (06:18):
No, actually through your throat.

Speaker 7 (06:19):
They went down through his throat right, No?

Speaker 9 (06:23):
Did you help him?

Speaker 7 (06:24):
Can you imagine?

Speaker 8 (06:26):
Actually it's blow my belly button to the left side,
halfway down between yes, yeah, my penis and my belly buttons.

Speaker 7 (06:35):
It was laparoscopic.

Speaker 8 (06:37):
Yeah, so that's where they went in and removed it
and put the nill in it.

Speaker 2 (06:41):
What will it deteriorate over time?

Speaker 7 (06:46):
You know what?

Speaker 1 (06:46):
I'm not sure about that, but I think I got
a while.

Speaker 8 (06:49):
You know, yeah, I'll probably pass away before my ball does.

Speaker 7 (06:55):
Let's not push it, Scotty B. Of course we knew
he would have a question.

Speaker 12 (06:59):
Well, I'm just curious are they both the same weight?
Because I'm thinking like a scale. I know that when
I go to terminal five.

Speaker 2 (07:05):
It's already Where are you listening to?

Speaker 12 (07:08):
No, because when I go to terminal five at JFK,
my left ball always dips in the toilet. So I'm
just curious as if if they're ever uneven.

Speaker 7 (07:16):
Yes it is, Why don't you stop going to that
terminal to take a poop, because that's what that's where
I fly out of.

Speaker 8 (07:25):
Yeah, yes, my left, my fake one. Yes, it's heavy
than am I?

Speaker 1 (07:29):
Right?

Speaker 4 (07:30):
Did you did you name it?

Speaker 8 (07:32):
No?

Speaker 1 (07:32):
Actually I did? And should we do a naming contest?

Speaker 9 (07:35):
Yes?

Speaker 7 (07:35):
Text us now, Harry text Harry text fifty one right now,
let us know what you want to name Alex's ball,
Harry ball, Harry ball.

Speaker 4 (07:46):
What they do with the old one?

Speaker 8 (07:49):
Well, they you know, dissect dissected it, and uh you
know that's how I found out it was cancer.

Speaker 7 (07:56):
The cancer.

Speaker 9 (07:57):
Yeah, so no.

Speaker 7 (07:59):
One wants a cancerous ball. Yeah, hanging. Does hair still
grow on that one? Yes?

Speaker 12 (08:04):
Okay, well on the sack? Yeah, I know, but I
figured because there was some surgery.

Speaker 1 (08:09):
I don't know. No, the surgery was up in my stomach. Okay,
you know, blow my belly, but got it.

Speaker 7 (08:16):
This is a powerful, powerful U addition of this is
a powerful conversation. So does it feel weird when you
shave that one? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (08:26):
There's really no feeling.

Speaker 4 (08:27):
Okay, cool, is there any Oh well you just said
there's no feeling there, so like certain acts that would
involve that, you don't you just don't feel it on
that side.

Speaker 12 (08:36):
Yeah, okay, Wow, So you can get punched in that
ball over and over and just take it.

Speaker 10 (08:43):
You can do you can start like an only fans
because people like to watch people like step on their balls.

Speaker 7 (08:47):
Yeah, you could start hurt.

Speaker 4 (08:51):
I don't want to page for sure dot com.

Speaker 9 (08:55):
Let me see if that's available.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
Punching bag.

Speaker 7 (08:58):
Punching bag.

Speaker 5 (08:58):
Ball man is back, bringing it back to serious, the
serious side of think. So when you went in, did
you know the only one affected was the left one?
Was there a chance that they might have had to
take both of them?

Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 8 (09:15):
Well they do all the scans beforehand, and you know,
they run all the tests.

Speaker 1 (09:20):
So my left one was the bad one.

Speaker 5 (09:22):
Okay, so going forward, is there a chance the other
one might have an issue?

Speaker 8 (09:27):
Yeah, there's always a chance, you know. That's why you
got to keep on top of it, you know, especially
when I'm in a shower, I feel and make sure
that there's no lumps or anything.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
And it was a lumbery that you felt. Initially.

Speaker 8 (09:41):
It was really really hard. It was you know, it
wasn't soft, and it was very very firm.

Speaker 7 (09:49):
It felt unusual.

Speaker 8 (09:49):
Yeah, And I kept on saying, you know, I don't
feel a lump or anything, but I said, something's not right.

Speaker 1 (09:56):
So that's when I made a cold to my doctor.

Speaker 7 (09:59):
Wo And it's good. It's good to be proactive if
every other question, don't be embarrassed to because this could
be an embarrassing conversation.

Speaker 8 (10:05):
That was the That was the first time I ever
dropped my pants for the doctor to feel money.

Speaker 9 (10:10):
You're gonna say for a guy. So no, it's not.

Speaker 7 (10:14):
Thank you for any more questions, because you guys are
when you.

Speaker 2 (10:21):
Go to the metal detector at the.

Speaker 7 (10:25):
Yeah, it's not it's not that.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
Uh, it's silico.

Speaker 7 (10:30):
It's a silicon saline.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
Saline y saline, that's what I mean.

Speaker 7 (10:36):
I thought it's been removing saline.

Speaker 1 (10:37):
Yeah, yeah, that's what I thought too.

Speaker 9 (10:38):
So you got salty balls.

Speaker 2 (10:41):
Yes, takes a pin and puts a pin there and
pops it and then it will leak.

Speaker 1 (10:46):
That's not let's not try that.

Speaker 7 (10:48):
And you're thought, gandhi was what No, That's what I
was going to ask if.

Speaker 4 (10:50):
It was possible that it could rupture.

Speaker 7 (10:52):
See, well, so if you sit here and pound it
with a pound it with a hammer with a frying
pan about it, check and see if pounding your ball
with the frying pan is taken.

Speaker 5 (11:06):
Did they give you any special instructions things to avoid
going forward?

Speaker 8 (11:11):
Like?

Speaker 1 (11:12):
Nothing?

Speaker 2 (11:13):
Really?

Speaker 8 (11:13):
But you know when I had the operation, I had
to wear this like diaper thing you did? Yeah?

Speaker 7 (11:19):
Oh I don't remember.

Speaker 8 (11:19):
Oh I got pictures of it.

Speaker 1 (11:23):
Three days I had to wear this.

Speaker 7 (11:26):
Hey, look up one ball with a diaper and see
if that's available. One like like a, yeah, it's available.

Speaker 8 (11:35):
One?

Speaker 7 (11:37):
Okay, Well, all right, I think this has been very informative.
I had a ball, just one? All right. Well, thank
you for being our special guest.

Speaker 8 (11:49):
And also I want to thank all the doctors at
Northwell Held and the hospital you know for my chemotherapy.
Everybody was so great and made me feel very comfort.

Speaker 7 (12:00):
Excellent Alex, fabulous, nice ball.

Speaker 13 (12:09):
All of you are so hilarious.

Speaker 9 (12:15):
Can I start my day?

Speaker 14 (12:17):
Elvis Terran in the Morning Show? Ha ha, laugh, Bunny,
Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 7 (12:32):
All right, you know, people still get mad if they
miss their horoscopes, so we do them every day. You know,
I hate these things.

Speaker 1 (12:38):
I don't believe him.

Speaker 7 (12:40):
It's a bunch of poppy cock. But you know what,
so h we're gonna get into them anyway. Let's get
into the horse Gupes producer sam Hi. Who are you
doing them.

Speaker 4 (12:49):
With today, Danielle? Will you helpe me deliver the stars?

Speaker 2 (12:51):
Cool?

Speaker 15 (12:52):
Thank you so much?

Speaker 7 (12:52):
All right, all right, here we go the stars.

Speaker 2 (12:55):
It is John Cena had Eat and George Lopez's birthday today.
Happy birthday to them, Capricorn. Your body needs you to
leave the house for fun today. Take a walk around,
get some fresh air. Your days's seven, hey, Aquarius.

Speaker 16 (13:08):
Something you're stressing yourself out about will work out in
the best way possible.

Speaker 2 (13:12):
Your days of six Picees. You're getting some fantastic news soon.
Remain calm to truly appreciate it. Your day's a ten, Aries.

Speaker 16 (13:18):
When you let go of the need to control, you'll
flourish even more than before.

Speaker 2 (13:22):
Your day's nine Taurus. Your time and your health are
the most valued treasures. Don't prioritize anything else.

Speaker 4 (13:28):
Your day is an eight, hey, Jemini.

Speaker 16 (13:29):
Even if it's something small, doing something to nourish your
creativity will really help out your soul.

Speaker 4 (13:34):
Your day's seven Cancer.

Speaker 2 (13:35):
It's all right to say no to somebody, even if
you're afraid of their reaction. Emotional control is a them issue.

Speaker 16 (13:42):
Your day is a five, hey, Leo, you need to
get more clear in your communication.

Speaker 4 (13:46):
Beating around the bush will drag issues out. Your day's
an eight Virgo.

Speaker 2 (13:50):
Stop collecting things around you. Purging physical items will give
your mind a body more clear space. Your days of
nine Libra.

Speaker 16 (13:56):
If you put yourself in a tight spot, you likely
also have the tools to get yourself out of it.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
Your day's of six Scorpio. Fashion is fun, but style
is what matters. Arm yourself and a feel good fit.
Today you're days.

Speaker 16 (14:07):
And nine and finally Sagittarius.

Speaker 4 (14:09):
You don't always have to be right.

Speaker 16 (14:10):
Sometimes it's a lot better to look at it from
the other person's perspective. Days and eight and those are
your Wednesday morning Horscopes.

Speaker 7 (14:16):
Scary, would you put that salad in the trash?

Speaker 11 (14:20):
I can't do it?

Speaker 7 (14:20):
Scary, Okay, Scary. Well, Scary's got this thing. He's got
this need to chew things at all times. This morning,
as a matter of fact, there was a brownie sitting
here and he picked it up.

Speaker 1 (14:29):
And what did he says?

Speaker 7 (14:30):
He said, Ah, there's nothing.

Speaker 5 (14:32):
Else, do you There's nothing else to eat, So I
guess I'll eat this. So then he ordered a great salad.

Speaker 7 (14:37):
He's back here eating it, and with every bite I
see it it's a pain. You don't like the salad
at all, but you keep eating it, And I'm like, well,
why don't you just stop eating it?

Speaker 11 (14:46):
I paid good money for this salad. I only took
about maybe ten or eleven bites. It's still two thirds full,
and I just now I'm just eating it out of
the fact that I have to clean my plate because oh, now, were.

Speaker 7 (14:59):
You remember of the clean plate club when you were
growing up?

Speaker 9 (15:03):
Oh?

Speaker 8 (15:03):
Was?

Speaker 7 (15:03):
I was? That was a different time.

Speaker 10 (15:08):
I had to if I didn't, if I didn't clean
my plate, I wasn't allowed to have any kind of
dessert after dinner.

Speaker 9 (15:13):
Don't even ask. Yep, you didn't eat all your dinner.

Speaker 7 (15:15):
You get that. If you don't finish your dinner, maybe
you shouldn't have dessert.

Speaker 4 (15:19):
There are separate compartments.

Speaker 7 (15:21):
Yeah, but you shouldn't be a reward for being a glutton.

Speaker 4 (15:26):
I'm exactly like. I never was able to finish everything
on my plate.

Speaker 2 (15:29):
I was little.

Speaker 4 (15:30):
People gave me too much food. That was a very
stressful situation.

Speaker 7 (15:32):
But another thing I called scary doing eating the salad.
He doesn't want to eat, He said, well, I guess
I'm just eating because I'm bored. Yeah, well, you know
why you're bored, because you're eating a salad. There's nothing
exciting about that salad.

Speaker 4 (15:46):
No, And then he said, I'm just eating it for
the sport of it.

Speaker 7 (15:48):
So yeah, I know, a sport of eating. But you
say you blame this on your parents totally.

Speaker 11 (15:54):
Well, first of all, I eat because either I'm hungry
or something tastes delicious.

Speaker 7 (15:58):
This is now, this is the third reason. This isn't
either you're not hungry, nor is this delights.

Speaker 11 (16:02):
The third reason why I'm eating is because I have
to finish my plate. And my parents are the ones
that used to stay when I was growing up. You know,
there are kids starving in other countries.

Speaker 7 (16:13):
And you I'm like, well, why don't you just mail
it to them?

Speaker 2 (16:16):
Oh?

Speaker 7 (16:16):
I used to.

Speaker 4 (16:17):
My parents used to tell me that kids used to
eat out of dumpsters, so you should be very thankful
and eat all your food. So I would go throw
my food into the dumpster, thinking I was feeding people.
Oh god, yeah that's logic.

Speaker 7 (16:28):
Yeah, yeah, I know, but it is scary here. The thing. Look,
the last thing we want to do ever, is to
waste food. And I do give you that? And this
is a dressed salad. There's really it doesn't have a
lot more mileage on it, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (16:40):
No, it can't be.

Speaker 7 (16:41):
So you need to maybe ask around, maybe someone here.
The problem with eating that salad is you've been like
licking your fork and putting it back in the salad,
and so no one wants to eat that. So that
that salad is done, it's condemned. Yeah.

Speaker 11 (16:54):
I think this is why we over reap, because I
will just sit here until it's finished.

Speaker 7 (16:58):
Okay, well we don't do that.

Speaker 4 (17:00):
Maybe take it down to rat park and feed the natives.

Speaker 7 (17:03):
Now, let's not feed the rat I think that salad
is done. I hate to say it for me because
I can't. I can't throw it out.

Speaker 4 (17:09):
Oh scary, really, I like how annoyed you were getting
because every bite he takes he was making a different
noise of unhappiness.

Speaker 2 (17:16):
How are you doing?

Speaker 7 (17:17):
Did you hear that?

Speaker 2 (17:18):
Yes?

Speaker 7 (17:18):
And I said, what's that noise you're making? You said,
what donamical noise? He's back through eating the salad and
he looks up to the heavens and he goes, oh, yeah,
why are you? Why are you eating it. He's like,
what did I make a noise? Yeah, you're back there going.
That was the last bit of feta.

Speaker 11 (17:35):
The last bit of feta was there, and now there's
nothing else to look forward to.

Speaker 7 (17:38):
It's just greens. Okay, I'm sorry, scary. Hey, why we're
only topic of food is Look, I don't know what
to do with that. You know, you're a grown man.
Just figure it out. I got it. I gotta do
a show. I'm not going to turn this whole room
and this whole show this. You know, this show generates
how many hundreds of millions of dollars in revenue and
we're sitting here talking about your salad for thirty minus again?

(18:00):
Thank you, scared. You don't make sound effects throwing away
to salad. You heard him do that right? All right,
I'm going to throw away the sound.

Speaker 1 (18:11):
God.

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Speaker 10 (18:24):
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Speaker 14 (18:42):
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Speaker 7 (18:52):
All right, dare we let Nate host this show? You
get a new host today.

Speaker 4 (18:58):
I kind of like Nate doing he's so bad. Yeah, wow,
it's like you're welcome.

Speaker 2 (19:05):
I mean, I feel like American Idol wouldn't be the
same without Ryan Seacrest. The Feud's not the same without n.

Speaker 7 (19:12):
He's great.

Speaker 5 (19:13):
Well, yeah, he's so smooth. I don't have a tell.

Speaker 2 (19:16):
I think Nate's Great Secrets is great.

Speaker 4 (19:18):
Nate's great. Oh you know how we were talking about
how we love things that are cringey. I think this
is the exact demonstration of that.

Speaker 7 (19:25):
I know, Okay, think this through. What if just out
of nowhere, Diamond came in and hosted the feud? How
fun would that be?

Speaker 1 (19:32):
You want her to do it?

Speaker 7 (19:33):
I think it'd be fun, But no one else is
agreeing to me, so.

Speaker 4 (19:35):
I think she too would be terrible.

Speaker 10 (19:38):
Yeah, I don't If we let somebody else do it,
then we would think Nate's great.

Speaker 2 (19:44):
Oh maybe.

Speaker 7 (19:47):
That's not nice to say that about our diamonds. She
maybe what if she is the next superstar in a
game show hosting, that would be.

Speaker 10 (19:55):
Great saying diamond I'm saying anybody, I just don't think
Nate's that terrible. I don't think if anybody else tried
to do it would be miserable. And we go, Yeah,
you know what, Nate's pretty damn Goodlet's.

Speaker 7 (20:02):
Hold on, Frog, You think Nate's not that terrible? And
they let you program our radio station?

Speaker 5 (20:08):
Makes me the complidence there for rog.

Speaker 9 (20:10):
I didn't say I was doing good at it. He
just let me do it. I'm not saying I'm good.

Speaker 7 (20:13):
They're gonna rename our station in Jacksonville ninety seven nine
Cringe FM. All right, well here we go, Dialonde.

Speaker 1 (20:25):
I think that's a good idea.

Speaker 4 (20:27):
All right, next time you should play. She actually has
to be.

Speaker 7 (20:32):
Could she ever contestant? Ready to go?

Speaker 1 (20:33):
Well, no, we don't need a contestant.

Speaker 7 (20:35):
We just have it here in the room. Oh wait,
we are the contestants satisfaction, we are the world.

Speaker 2 (20:40):
Oh yeah, that's right, right, Well let's go.

Speaker 7 (20:42):
Here we go. But she has to play, so name
the team. All right, so we have this hold on.
I insist on being on Diamonds team.

Speaker 5 (20:49):
No, you screwed me up, I'm sorry, I've already made
the team I have.

Speaker 7 (20:52):
Sorry, Sorry, it's gonna happen that way. What's your suggestion?

Speaker 4 (20:55):
Shouldn't she be able to pick her team? Okay, fine,
you can't say no, pick your team. Let's go.

Speaker 17 (21:02):
I'm going to take Gandhi and because he said that
he wanted to be on my team, let's go without.

Speaker 18 (21:11):
You.

Speaker 7 (21:11):
You will regret this, but I love being on your team.

Speaker 11 (21:13):
Place for the other team, then, Diamond.

Speaker 7 (21:15):
I'm also going to let you pick the other team
then as well. Who do you want to compete against.

Speaker 17 (21:20):
Let's go with Scotty because he's a loser and Danielle
because she'll make.

Speaker 2 (21:25):
Him a little bit better. Thank you, And let's go
with Froggy Scary. Sit this one out.

Speaker 7 (21:34):
I gotta I gotta tell you, you know, scary music comes
up with the winning answers.

Speaker 9 (21:38):
Just scary over me, Scary is good?

Speaker 7 (21:43):
Just over there, up and push the buttons.

Speaker 5 (21:47):
All right, team Diamond, here we go. Ready, Question number one.
We pulled a thousand audience members here in a huge
illustrated in the morning show studios. The question name something
you do in a hotel room but not at home.

Speaker 7 (22:05):
Yes, oh it's not. It's Diamond.

Speaker 5 (22:07):
She's leading this team they're doing.

Speaker 17 (22:09):
Oh sorry, Oh okay, Well, I'm thinking of like parents
who have young children who can't get it on.

Speaker 2 (22:16):
So maybe have sex.

Speaker 5 (22:18):
Have sex you do in a hotel room but not
at home?

Speaker 2 (22:20):
Show me sex?

Speaker 7 (22:28):
Team Wait, hold on? Was because because the button pusher
pushed the bell, they did this with his hand.

Speaker 4 (22:35):
He gave you.

Speaker 7 (22:39):
Had one job. By the way, that's that's wrong. Everyone
has sex in hotel room, but enough with themselves.

Speaker 9 (22:45):
It's not in our audio.

Speaker 5 (22:46):
Only if you're drink okay, Deem loser, Scotty be something
you do in a hotel room but not at home.

Speaker 7 (22:52):
Top five answers on the board. I know what I do,
but I don't think that would be there.

Speaker 4 (22:57):
Say it.

Speaker 12 (22:57):
No, I'm gonna say, take a super long shower, super
long shower.

Speaker 7 (23:03):
Let's get ready this deal. Hold on, hold on, showers
on there and sex isn't only stupid people.

Speaker 5 (23:12):
You're talking to your your audience, all right, So Team Loser,
you have control of the board. We're going to the
second loser Danielle. Danielle names something you do in a
hotel room but not at home.

Speaker 2 (23:22):
I'm gonna say, you don't make your bed.

Speaker 7 (23:24):
Don't make Wow, that's a good answer, good answer, But no,
it's not as sorry people. You know what I combine.
I combine everything. I have sex wild. They're making me
up in the bed?

Speaker 9 (23:39):
Yeah, all right.

Speaker 5 (23:40):
The third loser, Froggy, name something you do in a
hotel room but not at home.

Speaker 9 (23:45):
Shave your pribes.

Speaker 7 (23:46):
Yes, that's good, gets everywhere.

Speaker 2 (23:49):
Yes, this is a lot.

Speaker 7 (23:52):
That's what I was.

Speaker 9 (23:53):
A lot.

Speaker 7 (23:54):
This is the biggest number response. And Scottie B was
also going to say that. Okay, let me see that.
Listen it says shave your your another region number five.

Speaker 4 (24:02):
Show us where you sourced this, mate, I.

Speaker 5 (24:04):
Would never reveal my sources. Okay, So back to Scotty B.
Name something you do in a hotel room but not
at home.

Speaker 12 (24:10):
I'm thinking, uh, like thermostat. Wise you just don't care
about it and leave the air or heat on or whatever.

Speaker 7 (24:17):
Especially the cheap people like you. Yes, that's all.

Speaker 5 (24:21):
Number set the thermostat to very hot or very cold.
You got two responses left back to you. Danielle name
something you do in a hotel room but not at home.

Speaker 2 (24:29):
I say, you make a mess because at home you're
need but in the hotel room you don't care. You
leave crap everywhere.

Speaker 7 (24:34):
You know what, I'll give that to you. Food in bed.

Speaker 4 (24:40):
That's definitely the same.

Speaker 7 (24:46):
Judge is not the same. I am judged Jerry an executioner.
I say, it's your.

Speaker 2 (24:49):
Okay, you're giving me the answer, and I'm telling you
it's not.

Speaker 7 (24:51):
Yeah, the executioner, you're executing our riting. You got another buzz,
Give him another buzzar an answer, you get a buzz.
You got one more to you. Froggy name.

Speaker 8 (25:10):
On.

Speaker 7 (25:11):
This is stupid.

Speaker 4 (25:13):
This is one of the worst hosts. Actually, am going
back to either.

Speaker 7 (25:16):
You know I told you people I didn't want it
to host the show. You didn't listen to me. We
did good.

Speaker 1 (25:21):
The crew is spoken.

Speaker 5 (25:23):
So Scottie b you have oncese lit names something you
do in a hotel room but not at home.

Speaker 12 (25:28):
I don't think it'll be worded like this, but but
hold the sheets like naked naked in the bed.

Speaker 7 (25:34):
No, no, it must be a direct quote, right, naked everywhere.

Speaker 4 (25:37):
Don't get loosey goosey with this.

Speaker 7 (25:44):
Okay, so I have a few can we can talk together?
Talk either either order room service or watch porn.

Speaker 4 (25:49):
I was thinking both of those, but I was thinking
room service more.

Speaker 7 (25:52):
Okay, you know what if they can be so loosey
goosey with their answers, our answer is, even though I'm
not the host, it's it's it's it's you, Diamond. What
do you think, Diamond?

Speaker 17 (26:05):
Oh, I'm clocked out of this one. I knew that
the first thing was wrong, and I'm still thinking about that.

Speaker 5 (26:11):
Do you want to hint?

Speaker 7 (26:14):
I would say, order room service while watching porn?

Speaker 2 (26:17):
Do you have to?

Speaker 4 (26:18):
Okay, in hotel rooms do you have to order porn?
Or is it just like there?

Speaker 7 (26:22):
Sometimes it depends on the hotel.

Speaker 4 (26:24):
As Elvis, you could say, order things you wouldn't order
at home. Yes, need an answer, and then Nate's stupid
system it has to he has to give it.

Speaker 9 (26:33):
To us a long time ago.

Speaker 7 (26:36):
At this point, if if I say order something you
wouldn't order a home, that would be porn and room service.
That's the answer.

Speaker 5 (26:41):
Yes, okay, that that's you were wrong five minutes ago,
and you're wrong now.

Speaker 1 (26:45):
Sorry.

Speaker 5 (26:48):
You want to know what the number one response was
wear a robe.

Speaker 4 (26:56):
I wear robes at home every day.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
A lot of people Tony's get that fuzzy.

Speaker 1 (27:02):
You want to continue or do you want to call
it quits?

Speaker 19 (27:04):
The way?

Speaker 2 (27:04):
Did we win?

Speaker 7 (27:05):
Yes? That was the worst ever. She should.

Speaker 9 (27:21):
Feel me.

Speaker 7 (27:22):
Did you see what happened? It was so bad that
the leader of our team wouldn't even talk enjoyed it.
That's how bad your game.

Speaker 4 (27:29):
I would like to call something out here. Nate's sitting
there talking about one hundred people surveyed. I want to
see the survey because I believe this came from the
brain of Nates.

Speaker 2 (27:42):
That nobody's survey.

Speaker 4 (27:46):
There's no way some of these answers went on there.
There's just no way unless they is okay, okay.

Speaker 2 (27:50):
Okay is the perfect answer, because did you go to
the hotel room you don't make your bad and you
do you're normally at home. That should have been the
number one answerybe.

Speaker 11 (27:58):
One of the thousand people said that it's your wasn't one.

Speaker 7 (28:00):
Of the time order room service? You can do that
at home. That's the most obvious answer.

Speaker 4 (28:06):
It doesn't even exist at home.

Speaker 7 (28:07):
Room you guys can you can keep making fun of me.
But the answer is that the team loser.

Speaker 2 (28:13):
You know, wipe yourself on the curtains should have been
there because.

Speaker 9 (28:17):
The topic.

Speaker 7 (28:18):
I don't do it. I'm just saying to the curtains because.

Speaker 2 (28:20):
Other people do it.

Speaker 7 (28:21):
Okay, sorry, coffee machine, the coffee Yeah, don't.

Speaker 2 (28:24):
Put your junk in the coffee machine.

Speaker 7 (28:27):
Those curtains never get cleaned.

Speaker 2 (28:32):
This is a mess.

Speaker 7 (28:34):
Are you guys done? We're all We're all done. After that.

Speaker 2 (28:39):
That was awful.

Speaker 7 (28:40):
It is It was totally awful.

Speaker 9 (28:43):
But it was fun though.

Speaker 1 (28:47):
Make a mess.

Speaker 5 (28:48):
Yes, half of the fun is making fun of me.
I realized that is true.

Speaker 2 (28:58):
We do enjoy that.

Speaker 7 (28:59):
Wow, congratulations, you've done very well.

Speaker 20 (29:03):
Elvis Dan Here he is the Morning Show, Elvis ter
Wan in the Morning Show.

Speaker 7 (29:16):
Mel Robbins, thank you for dropping by. I know you're
the busiest person in show business. I think you are.
I'm not.

Speaker 15 (29:25):
I'm really I am not the busiest person in show business.

Speaker 7 (29:30):
Well, welcome to our show. Ranking We're so excited that
you're here.

Speaker 15 (29:33):
Thank you.

Speaker 7 (29:34):
It's a dream come true to be honest, But I'm
not going to butter your biscuit anymore.

Speaker 15 (29:39):
That sounds very sexual.

Speaker 7 (29:40):
Your biscuits buttered the number one New York bestseller, They'll
let them. Theory is out, and we're talking about a
book that people in the publishing industry are saying, well,
maybe one of the biggest selling books of all time,
which has got to freak you out just a little bit?
Or do you believe it? Are they liars?

Speaker 15 (29:58):
I you know, you know, it's a weird thing to
talk about. Is like, there is no doubt. This is
my legacy. This book, this book, this is my legacy.
It's so I can't believe'nna start crying again.

Speaker 13 (30:12):
I am so blown away by the impact it's making
and the fact that people are interested in reading a
book you know that is not helping you escape your life,
but helping you turn toward your life.

Speaker 7 (30:31):
Wow, now I'm gonna start crying.

Speaker 4 (30:33):
Don't you think people need that right now? So desperately?

Speaker 15 (30:36):
Yes, I feel. You know, there are so many moments
in your life where you're going to feel impatient and
where you're going to feel like you're not quite sure
where things are going. And I know over the past
sixteen years in particular, I've certainly felt that way. And
what has happened with this theory and the way it's
spread around the world. Is I now can look back

(30:59):
and go, Oh, all of those reps you were putting in,
all of those days you got yourself out of bed,
all of those days you didn't quit, all of those
times you kept going even though you got fired or
that didn't work out, or you didn't think it was
gonna happen. It's because you were being held for this moment.
And I really believe that. You know, there are two

(31:20):
skills that I would love to talk about today that
have made a huge difference in my life that anybody
can learn. Number One, it is a skill in life
to learn how to make yourself do the things you
don't feel like doing. Like, if you only did the
things you don't feel like doing, you'd have everything you've
ever wanted. Motivation is complete garbage. Stop sitting around waiting
for it. It's not coming. Nobody's coming to save you. You

(31:43):
have everything you need inside you. That's not some sort
of wizard of Oz gobblygoo woo woo crap. The truth
is you have the ability to push yourself through anxiety,
through depression, through overwhelm, through fear, through anything that is
currently holding you back and do the simple things that
will change your life.

Speaker 7 (32:04):
And what was the second? Do you remember?

Speaker 1 (32:05):
Yes?

Speaker 15 (32:05):
And the second is teaching yourself how to believe in
a bigger possibility that things are going to work out
for you.

Speaker 7 (32:14):
I just wanted people to hear those two things because I.

Speaker 15 (32:18):
Well, people even just ask me how did you how
did you become Mel Robbins, And I'm like, how did
you become Mel Robbins by teaching myself how to get
out of bed on those moments when the anxiety and
depression was so crushing and I felt like what was
the point?

Speaker 7 (32:35):
Right?

Speaker 2 (32:35):
And there's at one point in the book where you
go I walked into my friend's house and she had
just renovated the whole house and you were so jealous. Yes,
and you were so and that's and that's the point
where I feel you were like, f this, I gotta
do something.

Speaker 15 (32:47):
Well, you know, there's again life is always teaching you something,
so you know, for for if you're listening and this
is the first time that you're either watching or hearing
my voice. My story begins sixteen years ago when we
were eight hundred thousand dollars in debt and my husband's
restaurant business was going under, and I was unemployed at
the time, and we had three kids ten and under,
and that was not the vision for my life. And

(33:09):
what you will find is that it's easy to give
other people advice, but when you know what hits the
fan in your own life, you get paralyzed with the
fear that you're not going to figure it out. And
that was me. And instead of doing what I knew
I needed to do, which was get a job, stop
screaming at Chris, get out of bed, get the kids
on the bus, ask for help, I did the opposite.
I drank myself into the ground and I would lay

(33:29):
in bed like a human pot rose, staring at the ceiling.

Speaker 7 (33:32):
Oh this sounds good.

Speaker 2 (33:33):
Yeah.

Speaker 15 (33:34):
I wouldn't open the bills. They just kept piling up
on the counter. And it gets worse and worse, and
then you start to convince yourself there's nothing you can do,
and that's a lie. There is always something you can
do to improve even the worst of situations, through your attitude,
through your actions, and through the way you process your emotions.
And this is not a new idea, by the way,

(33:54):
This is Victor Frankel's man search for eating. This is
what's true about the human experience. And so I became
the success that you see today due to sixteen years
of boring, grueling reps that I would put in every
day that began with just get your butt out of
bed on the mornings. You don't feel like it.

Speaker 7 (34:15):
Wow, you know, very simple, the five four three two
one theory of the the countdown. There's always something we're
procrastinating about. I don't want to go out of bed.
I don't want to do this. You got to be
that rocket at Cape Canaveral that's about to take off,
and once the countdown is done, down one and then
blast off, you have no choice but to go to

(34:36):
outer space. And it actually works. I've actually applied this
to my life and it works. When I first read that,
I'm like, this is what this is stupid? Yes, I agree,
Number one, belt over this crap. Yes, it works, it works.
Tell everyone what fivesecond grul.

Speaker 15 (34:49):
Is super simple. It's a It's a hack you can
use for instant courage or motivation any moment where you
have this instinct that you should do something, whether it's
speaking up at work, or it's getting out of bed
or putting the phone down. And actually stepping outside for
a walk, whatever it may be. Just start counting five
four three two one. You got to count backwards. Does
not work if you count up, because you've been taught

(35:10):
to count up your entire life, so it's already recorded
in your subconscious. The trick works because if you count
backwards five four three two one, it requires a moment
where you have to focus on the counting, and that
pulls the front part of your brain, the prefrontal cortex online.
So now you've just activated the part of the brain
that you need to change behavior or to actually push

(35:32):
yourself to do something. You're now in control for a moment.
And the other reason why it works is because it's
like the first domino. Counting is an action, and if
you've actually decided to count five four three two one,
you've already decided to do it, So you're going to
do it the first domino. Yeah, and then you move
five four three to one. Move.

Speaker 14 (35:49):
Now.

Speaker 15 (35:49):
I didn't know any of this when I invented it.
I invented it after having four bourbon Manhattans and seeing
a rocket ship launch across a television screen right and thinking,
oh my god, Okay, that is a sign from God
tomorrow morning, I'm gonna watch.

Speaker 7 (36:05):
I have no problem with that.

Speaker 15 (36:06):
You know, I always say that, you know, my expertise
comes from being life tested, Like when you're in that hole,
there's a lot of things that you learn about life.

Speaker 2 (36:15):
But that's the best part about the book is that
you're so honest about that, where you're not just like
shoving this information down people's throats. You're saying, Okay, here's
an example, this is what happened to me.

Speaker 15 (36:25):
Yeah, totally, Like I am the villain in my own
book for sure, like the person the fun that you know,
as you read the let them theory, or like you
hear the stories from it, you're like, oh my gosh,
old Mel was pretty awful, jealous friend, immature, constantly taking
her emotions out on her family. You know, Wow, this
either reminds me of me or it reminds me of

(36:45):
somebody in my life that I wish would change. And
so I also think the success of this is is
because let them and Let Me is so simple and
it's a tool. You don't have to think about it,
you just use it and it works. And also this
is a book that is large about stories, but the
stories are what translate the research.

Speaker 7 (37:04):
But I'm sure from time to time you still throw
sharp objects if you're crazy. Okay, just making sure I
need to know that God.

Speaker 4 (37:10):
Yes, So from all the things that you're saying, it's
not about the end. It's more about the beginning and
getting started. Yes, how can you I know you're saying
get out of bed. But for people who are just
super sad and they're having a tough time that day,
aside from get out of bed, what do you tell them?

Speaker 15 (37:25):
Well, if you're having a tough day, the first thing
I want you to understand is that in order to
have good days, you gotta have bad days and reminding
yourself that this is temporary and that another wave is
going to come and you have the ability to just
ride this wave. You don't have to gaslight yourself into positivity.
You can just allow yourself to be sad. One of

(37:46):
the things that is very helpful for me is to
say things like I'm sad because I'm going to allow
myself to be a little down today because and the
because is important because then sadness doesn't become your identity.
You've identified the thing that makes you sad, and there
are going to be times where being sad or heartbroken
or down is a mentally healthy response to the things

(38:08):
that are going on in life. And you know, the
other thing that I would tell you is, I do
think they'll let Them theory will help a lot, because
if you find that you're at a point in your
life where you're overwhelmed, you're struggling, you're worried, you're sad,
you're tired, or you just are working very hard and
nothing's clicking. The problem isn't you. The problem is that you,

(38:29):
unknowingly are giving so much of your power to other people,
to what they think, to their expectations, to their moods,
to the drama that's going on, to their beliefs. And
when you give power to other people, you have none
left for yourself. That's why you're tired. And so this
book and the Let Them theory is actually about power

(38:51):
and control. What can you can control, what can you
not control? Where is power and where are you giving
it away?

Speaker 7 (38:58):
Well, the let Them there is actually a theory. There's
actually some sort of easy to figure out outline to that.
I want to get into that in a second. We'll
be right back.

Speaker 14 (39:08):
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Speaker 14 (39:29):
The morning show.

Speaker 7 (39:31):
What well, mister ran in the Morning Show and we're
back more with Mel Robbins. So with you and your
daughter together wrote the let Them theory. They knew they
had a hit already, they knew the scene was.

Speaker 1 (39:43):
Going to be bad.

Speaker 15 (39:43):
Well, I'll tell you why, because it was excruciating to
write this together. So she does this research project where
I wanted her to go and look at all the
comments online from the podcast and from some of the
social media posts that we had put up, look at
articles that were starting to get written about Let Them.
And she came back and was like, you can't write
this book. And I was like why, and she said, well,

(40:05):
everybody loves it, except for there's like this slice of
people they're saying let them feels good if it's making
them lonely, And then you're kind of left sitting with, now, what,
My brothers and sisters don't reach out unless I do
my friends aren't checking in on me unless I check
out what now what? And she says, you can't put
a book out that makes people lonely and kind of arrogant.
And she said there has to be a second part.

(40:25):
And that was the genesis for let me right, because
you have to let them is when you stop worrying
about other people's opinions and feelings and moods and making
it your responsibility to make everybody else happy. And then
you got to go, okay, but now what let me
remind myself that my power is actually in how I
think about things and what I do or don't do,

(40:47):
and how I process my emotions. And so she is
the reason why they let me part start. And then
I was like, well then we got to write this together.
So now we have two totally different working styles. Like
my brain is like take a bunch of mice in
a cardboard box and tip it over in a kitchen,
and she's a walking Excel spread sheet. Plus her mother daughter.

Speaker 7 (41:04):
We were like.

Speaker 15 (41:06):
I would come and be like, I want to write
this story about my friends and being a jealous, you know, jerk,
and she's like, what my age cares about that story?
And then we fight about it, and then we get mad,
and then and then we both be like let her,
and then she would leave and go to a different room,
and then I would leave as we'd get frustrated. And
so we actually sorted through every aspect of the book
and we argued over everything because she wanted to make
it relevant to twenty somethings. I wanted to make it relevant,

(41:28):
you know, to kind of like a little bit older demographic.
And the result was we argued over every word. And
in fact, another incredible story is that when we wrote
the love section, we're getting near the end of the book.
There's eight sections. Her boyfriend of two years, the one
she thought that was going to be the end of
the aisle. Dumb sir. She's like, I hate this theory.

Speaker 4 (41:49):
What am I supposed to do?

Speaker 2 (41:50):
Just let him leave, let him sleep with somebody else?

Speaker 19 (41:52):
What?

Speaker 15 (41:53):
And so we wrote the breakup guide and using the
let them theory as she was going through it in
real time. And I got to say it was incredible
because she had to use let them to manage her
emotions and the let me part, and I had to
use let them and let her to give her the

(42:16):
dignity of her own experience without wanting to solve it,
Like I wanted to text the other mom constantly. I
wanted to reach out to him like you know when
she's when she's like you know. One of the pieces
of advice is nobody actually goes through the detox and
a breakup. This is why you don't get over people.
When you break off a relationship. What you don't realize

(42:38):
is that you are neurologically and in your nervous system
hardwired to be connected to this person. So for the
first couple of weeks, when you think you hear them talking,
that's not because they miss you. That's not because you
should get back together. That's because your brain has patterns
that have been encoded that it's just repeating. And if

(42:59):
you've never gone thirty days without looking at a photo
or listening to a voice memo, or watching their social
media profile, then you've never fully actually given your nervous
system in your brain a chance to get over them.
Every time you listen to a voice memo, every time
you look at a photo, you reactivate that circuitry. It's

(43:20):
just like an alcoholic who has a drink, and so
you have to do this thirty day thing where you
don't look at anything, put their stuff in a box.
I had to go through the digital frame in the kitchen.
Pause pause because I'm not I don't want to delete,
because I'm holding out hope, right pause, pause pause, you know,
because but I have to let her have this experience.

(43:42):
And what's interesting is when you have somebody in your
life who's going through something it's so uncomfortable that you
want to save them from it, if you can learn
to give them a little space while you're standing on
the sidelines in support, like how would you like me
to show up? What's interesting thing is you actually signal
to somebody I believe in your capacity to change. I

(44:05):
believe in your capacity to move through this. And as
a mom, it's been incredible to recognize that my innate
desire to want my husband to change doesn't make him change.
It also creates distance between us, learning how to let
him be who he is and forcing myself to accept
and love him as he is. Like, that's a whole

(44:27):
different way to be with somebody. They always I heard
somebody say once that second marriages are amazing, especially when
it's with the same person.

Speaker 1 (44:35):
Wow.

Speaker 15 (44:36):
And when you change how you show up, you change
the relationship. But we've always put the pressure on other
people to change when actually you've got the power based
on your energy and your attitude towards somebody, and creating
space for somebody to be themselves is actually the best
way to love them.

Speaker 4 (44:53):
When you were writing this, did you have any idea
how many people were going to tattoo let them on
their bodies? Because it's all I see everywhere.

Speaker 15 (44:59):
Well, it's currently because we you know, we went through
the process of contacting every tattoo studio that you see
in here and getting rights for it, really, and every
one of them are like I ought to tell you,
this is the number one tattoo that is everywhere. Well
because seeing it and I love seeing now the let
me tattoos, because let them. When you say it, it's

(45:19):
instant peace, because you're reminding yourself this drama or this
situation does not deserve to be stressing me out. My
time and energy is worth protecting. So when you say
let them, it's a boundary. So a big mistake that
people like have about this is that, well, aren't you
just letting them treat you like garbage? I'm like, no,
they already are you're explaining it away. When you say

(45:41):
let them, you're erecting a boundary between yourself and the
other person, and you're saying yourself, Okay, let them be
who they are, let them do what they're doing, because
their behavior is giving me data.

Speaker 7 (45:50):
There you go.

Speaker 15 (45:51):
Now I get to choose.

Speaker 7 (45:52):
See, that's the thing. When I first saw the book
and the title, I automatically go to, well, let them.
Let me just make an assumption what this is about.
Let them Okay, someone said something just really disrespectful to me, whatever, Okay,
let them because what they're saying doesn't matter. Well, I
don't get I'm not giving them the power. That's the
point to mess with my power. So that was my that.

Speaker 15 (46:16):
But here's the other thing. One of the things that
you'll recognize when you start saying this let them and
let me is that the one thing in life you
have no control over is what another human being thinks, says, believes,
does no control. And so it is the biggest form
of gaslighting to yourself to think that there is absolutely
something you could do that would guarantee that somebody has

(46:38):
a thought. And I'll give you an example. We've all
had the experience where you've bent over backwards. You go
to some party you don't want to go to. You
do it because you don't want people to be mad
at you, or you feel guilty, and then you get
to the party and the host is kind of annoyed
because you're not as fun as you normally are. And
so even though you bent over backwards and you did
this thing hoping that somebody would feel a certain way
about you, it didn't work. There's a better way to

(47:00):
live your life, which is let people feel what they're
going to feel, think what they're going to think, follow
you or unfollow you, misunderstated, Just let them because they're
going to anyway, So why would you waste any time
on it.

Speaker 7 (47:09):
That's it.

Speaker 4 (47:10):
I can't listen.

Speaker 2 (47:11):
Because I feel like I'm listening to you on audible
because that's how I read the book. And I know
you do side bars all the time, and like, I
know it's different because you very different things, but I
feel like you know that she's with me.

Speaker 7 (47:21):
In the car right now, right, and I feel like
that's my friend.

Speaker 2 (47:26):
It's great, your friend.

Speaker 7 (47:27):
Yeah, Mel Robbins. Of course, the let them theory. It's
out and I expect everyone listening to the sound of
my voice to buy fourteen copies because they're really decorative,
these books. Yes, I mean they designed this cover to
show up on a beach.

Speaker 15 (47:38):
Actually, I love that you said that because the color
of it. We were told green books don't sell and
it's bad luck to do a green book. And it
was inspired by cord of Thorne and Rose's book two.
I'm a big fantasy reader, and so my daughter and
I were like, oh, we love the cover of book too,
Let's do green and yellow. And then we did it.
And as we were designing it, I said to my daughter,
this cover has to if you're walking down the beach,

(47:59):
you have to be to go, oh, there's that book.

Speaker 7 (48:01):
It's everywhere, Yes, and in the airport.

Speaker 4 (48:04):
Everywhere, well, everywhere I see it.

Speaker 7 (48:05):
I have to say that, you know, Jay Shatty's a
good friend of ours. Jefferson Fisher. I've fallen in love
with this guy. If you've ever seen him, he's usually
in his car telling you, like how to cut people
off and they're trying to f with your head. He's great.
And I saw the podcast for the two of you. Yeah,
are there other people like that emerging that could be
the next best seller that we should be following. I

(48:27):
love I love to collect these incredible forces on my.

Speaker 15 (48:30):
Instagram Jefferson Fisher fantastic human being. I also love doctor Julie.
Do you know doctor Julie is in the UK who's
that well. I love her because she's a psychiatrist or
psychologist that uses all these models to explain different principles.
So she'll like take out kids toys and show you
these intellectual concepts. And she's a mom of three kids.

(48:52):
And when she flew over to be on the podcast,
she brought her three kids and it was just really
fun and we did all these things with physical models.
So I really like her to that. But there's a
lot of it, like look, I here's my philosophy in
life is you can learn from anybody because on the
road of life, you know, you might be ahead of
me by three steps because you've gone through something that

(49:12):
I haven't, so you can help me. I might be
ahead of you at another time because I've gone through
something with you know, my son, and now I can
help you. You are best equipped to help the person
you used to be. And I don't think that you
need some fancy credentials or a new York Times bestselling
book to make a difference in another person's life. I
think we all have important stories to share, lessons that
we can teach other people, things that we can learn

(49:35):
from our lives. And if you look at everybody around
you with the potential that you could learn something from them,
it changes everybody's ability to lift each other up. And
that's a really cool thing. And so you can be
the next Jefferson Fisher. You could be the next person
that does something online that really reaches somebody halfway across

(49:57):
the world that really needed to hear it. There's eight
billion people on this planet, and so there's something about
the way that you're going to say something that is
going to reach somebody in a way that I can't
because my life experience is different than yours.

Speaker 7 (50:10):
I'm over halfway through the book, and now I want
to reach read by listening to the audible version. I
know I'm over halfway through the book. Because you're getting
into friendships and how important they are. Our friend Barbara
Corkman was here the other day, said, Barbara still one
of my best friends. Barbara, you're at checks. I look
at her, She's sitting in this She's sitting in this chair.
I said, Barbara, you're almost one hundred and five years old.
What is it in life that you're loving the most?

(50:32):
And she said, surrounding myself with the people I love
friends and talk about that because I think this is
such an important, powerful thing people need to pay more
attention to, and that's the people they surround themselves with.

Speaker 15 (50:45):
Absolutely well, it's easy to forget that this all ends
the same way for all of us. And at the
end of your life, you're not going to be in
a hearse that's pulling a U haul full of crap
and people aren't going to care much about your acknowledgments.
If you do it right, you actually reflect on your
life and you say to yourself, I am proud of

(51:05):
the way that I used my time and energy, that
I was a good boss, I was a good parent,
I was a good friend. And if you do it right,
you're surrounded by people that you care about who love you,
and it's easy to get caught up. I know I
certainly have in the day to day or in chasing
the next thing, that you forget that it's really about

(51:26):
the people. And one thing that has helped me a
lot with the let them. Theory is really understanding the
nature of friendship. And in order to create friendships, three
things have to be present. Proximity, timing, and energy. That's it,
and these factors have been proven by research. In order
to be a casual friend with somebody, you got to

(51:46):
spend about seventy hours. To be a good friend, you
got to spend two hundred. And when we were little,
from zero to twenty, we were around people our same age,
going through life at the exact same time, celebrating the
same milestones, the same vacations, the same everything. Who We're
in proximity with so many people your age. You're in
the same timing of life, and schools set up the
structure for it, and you could understand, Okay, do I

(52:08):
click do I not click with these people? Then you
hit your twenties and what I call the great scattering happens.
Everybody suddenly is going in different directions. But you don't
realize that it's always about these three things proximity, timing,
and energy. And so it begs the question, why aren't
you just best best best friends with everybody at work?
Because from the age of twenty to sixty, you'll spend
more time at work with people than you will friends

(52:30):
and family combined. Well, the reason why is timing. So
if you're in your twenties at work and you work
with people that are in their fifties, you may love
these people and have great energy, but you're in different
time of life. You know, my daughter's out partying and
throwing up in a garbage can, and she comes in
on a Monday. You know she's not really gonna click
with people talking about what they did at the soccer

(52:51):
field with their kids on the weekend. And that's why
you can love people at work, but they're just not
the best of friends. And this is also why I
hate this trend. Got to break up with that toxic friend. No,
you don't let them come in and out of your life.
Let them come and go. Just because you don't see
them doesn't mean you're not friends. What if you took
a flexible approach and recognize that everybody you've ever met,

(53:14):
unless you had some massive destructive falling out, everybody's still
your friend. And your job isn't to sit back and
be transactional and wait for them to reach out. If
you want good relationships, it's not on them, it's on you.

Speaker 4 (53:26):
Is there ever a time though, that you say no,
I'm not gonna let them. I'm not gonna let that
person treat me this way or do that thing.

Speaker 15 (53:32):
Okay, great, So yes, all the time, I hope, because
you're gonna say let them. So do you have an
example me?

Speaker 2 (53:41):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (53:41):
I mean in the past, I had worked with people
who were terrible to be around every single day. Okay,
it was terrible, and I used to think, Okay, I'm
just gonna let this person do whatever they're gonna do
because I cannot control that.

Speaker 7 (53:52):
Correct.

Speaker 4 (53:52):
However, there were boundaries, yes, where it came to, which
is like that, I'm not gonna let you break like that.

Speaker 15 (53:57):
They let me part because you can't ever control whether
or not the words are going to come out in
a particular tone. Let me is where you have to
take the power back and ask yourself, how am I
going to respond to this? And how you respond to things,
especially when it's a disrespect is going to depend on

(54:17):
a lot of things. It's going to depend on your
energy today, It's going to depend on the situation that
you're in. You get to choose if you speak up
and be like, look, I realize you're stressed out, but
you're gonna have to apologize for how your stress is
impacting me. You get to choose if you're going to
go to HR. You get to choose if you're going
to stay in that job, because you have the power.
I'm going to recognize this is who this person is.
But now it's on me to hold a boundary and

(54:39):
respect myself enough to either get out of this job
or go to HR, or call out the tone of
voice and do what I need to do. See, I
think this if we extend it into dating, Like one
of the big crises in dating right now is that
people explain away crappy behavior like people like if you're
going out on a date with somebody, or if you're

(55:00):
in a situationship and you know you're sleeping with somebody
and they slink like a cat out the door in
the morning, let them because that's data they're showing you
they don't want to hang out with you, and you
have to decide if this is attractive or what you
deserve in your life. They're not the problem you are
if you allow it. And that's not victim blaming. It

(55:21):
is a conversation about where's the control and the power.
Most of us get in these relationships and we explain
away the disrespect or we cling onto the fantasy and
we don't look at the reality that we're in. And
if you could look at people's behavior when they goes
to you, when you have to chase them, like you
inserting yourself into somebody's friend group and really thinking, oh,
if I just hang around them more, maybe they're going

(55:42):
to like me. No, they're already showing you they don't
like you. And then take a step back and go,
let me remind myself it's up to me to decide
if this is what I deserve.

Speaker 7 (55:51):
Well, this is sort of goes back to the theory we
always talk about arranged marriages are actually sometimes a great
thing because your friends and family know you. Yeah, and
how you're going going to totally be in denial with
someone you're dating, but they see it. That's just another theory.
There's something interesting going on here in the room. Noluh.
Danielle of course a huge fan of yours. H but
her husband, Sheldon.

Speaker 2 (56:11):
We fight over you.

Speaker 7 (56:11):
They fight over in their own bed, They fight over
who knows you best. The third part, So Sheldon, you've
been quiet. I have unleash.

Speaker 1 (56:18):
Well, here's the thing.

Speaker 19 (56:19):
For the last month, my wife Danielle has been peacocking
around our house saying, oh listen, I've I've found this
new great person who's going to influence our life. I'm like,
oh great, who's that?

Speaker 1 (56:29):
Mel Robins?

Speaker 5 (56:29):
I'm like, really, where you've been?

Speaker 19 (56:31):
I said, I've been best friends with Mel Robbins in
my head for ten years?

Speaker 1 (56:35):
Can you tell me.

Speaker 5 (56:36):
What the three two one method is of getting a
better night sleep?

Speaker 1 (56:38):
Can you do that now?

Speaker 2 (56:40):
No?

Speaker 1 (56:40):
Exactly?

Speaker 19 (56:41):
And when was the last time you used the five
four three two one method?

Speaker 1 (56:44):
In actuality? I know you read it, but have you
done it?

Speaker 8 (56:47):
No?

Speaker 7 (56:47):
I did it this morning?

Speaker 1 (56:48):
How about that?

Speaker 19 (56:49):
I can't fight if I didn't want to get out
of bed this morning, I simply imagine New Year's even
I'm counting down to five four three two one, and
there's thirty other people in my bedroom right now, and
they're cheering for me to get out of bed. So
why wouldn't I get out of bed?

Speaker 2 (57:03):
The other day? The other day, we were at a
track meet and there was a guy and he was
acting like a total ass right, and I wanted to
say something. I was ready, I had the words, and
I said, melts let them. So I'm like, I'm just
gonna let them. So then we got in the car
and I started cursing the guy out in the car
and he turns to me and he goes, what did meltay?
I know, let them? So then I let them, and

(57:26):
I actually did feel better. So I take credit for that,
and I think I'm your friend more than that.

Speaker 15 (57:32):
I'll let you both think whatever you want.

Speaker 7 (57:35):
So they go on and on and I just let them.
I want to go down, Thank you. I want to
go down this. I just just notes, okay, from the
leat them theory, maybe as I see it, stop wasting
energy on things you cannot control. Stop comparing yourself to
other people, Break free from fear and self doubt, release
the grip of people's expectations. Loving that build the best

(57:57):
friendships of your life. We talked about that, create that
love you deserve. Pursue what truly matters to you with confidence,
build resilience against everyday stressors, distractions, define your own path
to success, joy and fulfillment, and so much more. That's
a taller order, it sure is, and it's in one book.

Speaker 15 (58:13):
It is because all you need is one tool. The
only person that can keep you from what's meant for
you in life is you. No other human being is
blocking your way.

Speaker 7 (58:24):
We are are our own worst enemies times.

Speaker 15 (58:27):
But I look, I didn't realize this. I was fifty four.
Like I was, I constantly let other people stress me out.
I was constantly tired and overwhelmed and jealous and pissed
off about stupid things, and then blaming my stress and
my emotions on the world around me. It wasn't until
I started to say those words let them that I
erected a boundary between the outside world and how I

(58:51):
was allowing it to stress me out and drain me.
And once you stop draining yourself, you start to get
your energy back, and you start to realize your time
matters and your energy is everything. Your experience of life
is determined by what you spend time on and what
you pour energy into.

Speaker 4 (59:12):
Full stop.

Speaker 2 (59:12):
Do you still have those days though, where you're like,
I can't do it today, of how do you get
yourself back on track?

Speaker 15 (59:18):
Well, I let myself have that day like so, I
think it's important like that there are times in life
where the mentally healthy response. This goes to your question
about sadness. There are times in life where it's important
to just be down, but often when things are bad,
you're still carrying the weight of how this is impacting

(59:38):
other people, like when you're down like I with a
lot of people. My husband's has struggled with depression, and
a lot of what he felt, other than that dark cloud,
was this sense of added shame that he wasn't able
to show up in those moments for the family, you know,
carrying this burden that somehow he is responsible for showing

(01:00:01):
up a certain way because we need it. I wish
we had had let them, because it would give you
the grace to be able to release the responsibility of
everybody else so that you can actually take care of yourself.
And let's look at the word responsibility. Responsibility is just
the ability to respond. And life is going to be

(01:00:21):
happening out there all the time. The headlines are going
to be what they're going to be. People in your
life are going to struggle, Jobs are going to come
and go. Think the economy is going to go up
and down. Let it. Your response to what's happening is everything.
And in fact, you know, I spoke to doctor Martin
Luther King the third during you know, when we were
talking about this book, and it was incredible to hear

(01:00:42):
him reflect You know this s Melt is my father's
legacy that the power is in your response to what's happening.
You get to choose peace, You get to choose what
you fight for, You get to choose how you're going
to show up in the face of things that seem
dark and so understanding that you have more power than

(01:01:03):
you realize is a very incredible thing.

Speaker 7 (01:01:07):
The power of the word no. Remember we used to
preset all the time.

Speaker 2 (01:01:09):
It's a full sentence.

Speaker 7 (01:01:10):
Remember, yeah, no is a sentence years ago and you
gave me a hat no on it, which is my
favorite hat to wear. But that was my first foray
into like, okay, I do have the power to be
in control here say no. Saying no is just the
most wonderful word.

Speaker 15 (01:01:26):
And then let them be disappointed.

Speaker 7 (01:01:27):
Does this where you at, by the way, well these
questions when you're done with this, in these these interviews,
does she go to the car and just go, damn,
I'm done. I'm gonna take off my spanks and just explode.

Speaker 1 (01:01:39):
And just no.

Speaker 15 (01:01:40):
You know, I because I think what's standing in people's
way most is discouragement, the sense that it doesn't matter
what you do, nothing's going to change. And if there's
anything that I hope to offer people, especially at a
very dark moment, I really want to be a light

(01:02:01):
that activates a sense of hope and encouragement in you
that yes, things can get better, and yes there are
things that you can use, and yes it matters, It
matters profoundly.

Speaker 7 (01:02:11):
So this charges you up this conversation absolutely.

Speaker 4 (01:02:14):
All right, Yes, go ahead, gond Okay, So you've obviously
been very inspirational to so many people and they're getting
let them tattooed on them. I see a tattooed on
your wrists. I can't read the entire thing. It says,
it shall be what it shall be, It.

Speaker 15 (01:02:25):
Shall be, it shall be is a reminder in your
ability to figure it out. Like I really do believe that.
I think you can look backwards in your life and
even the horrible things that happened that you didn't deserve,
you can see how every twist in turn led you
to where you are today. You can see the lessons
in it. You can kind of understand how it shaped

(01:02:46):
you and led you to this moment. It shall be.
And this skill that I believe that everybody can learn
is standing in this moment and actually doing that to
the future, that this moment, too, is but a brick
on the path of your life that is leading you somewhere,
and you can stand in this moment and even when

(01:03:07):
it's devastating or heartbreaking or overwhelming and scary, that you
can hold your own hand and remind yourself that this
is but a moment and some point in the future
there is such a bigger possibility that is waiting for you.
And your job is not to doubt that. Your job
is to trust that it is coming, and that at

(01:03:29):
some point you'll look back and understand why this happened
and what you learn from it, because it was preparing
you for something bigger that was coming.

Speaker 7 (01:03:39):
And that's why that tattoo is there to remind you, Wow, Wow,
you're my best friend who passed away. His line and
his tattoo was just be that thinks that's my first
and only tattoo I'm gonna get.

Speaker 2 (01:03:49):
Danielle, I don't even know what to say. I love
the book. It's great, it's so inspirational. I love the
I think a lot of younger people should read it
as well.

Speaker 7 (01:03:58):
I think that people towing up in trash can, Yes,
people up in trash.

Speaker 2 (01:04:02):
Can because I know our son was just going through something,
you know, something similar to what we all do. Yeah,
And I think that he would take a lot from
this book. So I don't think it's It's definitely geared
to so many different people.

Speaker 7 (01:04:13):
I cannot tell you how grateful him that you spent
time with us today.

Speaker 15 (01:04:16):
Well, thank you for inviting me.

Speaker 7 (01:04:17):
The let them theory is out, of course. Why don't
you be one of the ka billions of people who
made it the best selling book.

Speaker 2 (01:04:22):
Here's the thing.

Speaker 15 (01:04:23):
You don't even need to buy it. We just told
you how to use it.

Speaker 7 (01:04:26):
Nothing from Sheldon.

Speaker 5 (01:04:27):
I mean, I'm thrilled to be here.

Speaker 19 (01:04:29):
I love the fact that this is a moment that
I have pictured in my mind for many many years.

Speaker 7 (01:04:34):
But you are.

Speaker 19 (01:04:35):
Exactly who I thought you would be. So thanks for
everything you give to everyone.

Speaker 7 (01:04:39):
Mel Robbins. Of course, the let them theory it's out,
go get it. Thank you.

Speaker 14 (01:04:45):
That's funny to me, it's funny.

Speaker 2 (01:04:47):
Do you have a sense of humor?

Speaker 14 (01:04:49):
Telvis Duran in the morning show.

Speaker 7 (01:05:00):
This phone tap, do you ever go with the phone tap? Scary?
What's your phone tap all about? Today?

Speaker 11 (01:05:04):
So Lily wants to phone tap her sister Eileen. They
are a Chinese family who took over a Japanese restaurant
and the health department did a surprise visit.

Speaker 7 (01:05:14):
On Saturday night.

Speaker 11 (01:05:15):
The inspectors wrote a whole bunch of stuff down and
then they left. So Lily wanted me to call the
restaurant and pretend I'm the inspector from the other night
calling back with some of our findings.

Speaker 7 (01:05:25):
Scary, the health inspector shows up. Today's phone tap.

Speaker 11 (01:05:30):
Can help you, Lily, Hey, it's scary Jones from Elvis
Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 7 (01:05:36):
Is Eileen around? Is now a good time? Okay? Can
she pick up to the line and you just listen
in on this phone too?

Speaker 21 (01:05:43):
Oh yeah, yeah, I think so, Eileen. How department is
from the other night?

Speaker 1 (01:05:50):
All do they want? I don't know?

Speaker 7 (01:05:56):
Is this Eileen now?

Speaker 8 (01:05:57):
Oh?

Speaker 11 (01:05:58):
Yes, this is Norman Gadget from there, all Department of Health.
We made the inspections to your restaurant.

Speaker 13 (01:06:05):
Yes, I remember, I'm calling to follow.

Speaker 7 (01:06:07):
Up regarding what we witnessed the other night.

Speaker 20 (01:06:09):
You say we passed.

Speaker 11 (01:06:11):
That's actually not only half the truth. We take notes
and then we actually call back regarding sanitary grades. So
we noticed that the hand washing facility there was no
soap in the soap dispenser.

Speaker 21 (01:06:23):
No, we always we always have soap, and we have
a sink in the kitchen.

Speaker 11 (01:06:27):
I didn't see that. I don't know what you're talking about.

Speaker 12 (01:06:29):
Can I can?

Speaker 21 (01:06:29):
I can take a picture for you.

Speaker 11 (01:06:31):
You saw, Well, that's easy now for you to say,
I'm just gonna throw soap in the dispenser and take
a picture of it.

Speaker 21 (01:06:36):
No, no, no, no, no no. I talked with her
the other day.

Speaker 8 (01:06:39):
You know.

Speaker 21 (01:06:39):
She never listened to me.

Speaker 9 (01:06:42):
Let me.

Speaker 21 (01:06:44):
I told him to wash the low frequently, Lily, I
told her, Lily, shut up, Lily.

Speaker 11 (01:06:50):
Wow, that's very unsanitary. We didn't even catch that.

Speaker 21 (01:06:52):
No, no, no, no, no, no. First of all, what
is your name?

Speaker 11 (01:06:57):
My name is Norman, Norman Gadget.

Speaker 21 (01:07:00):
Their gadget, I remember, Lily, Lily, Lily, Yeah, that's him.

Speaker 11 (01:07:07):
Did you know that there was evidence of mice in
the facility's food areas.

Speaker 21 (01:07:11):
There are no mice in our restaurant. You shouldn't do
that a lot.

Speaker 7 (01:07:16):
Yes, there were none.

Speaker 11 (01:07:17):
There were droppings you remember me pointing to the one
employee who was not wearing rubber gloves.

Speaker 21 (01:07:22):
Right, I don't remember that. I never will really let
me down the phone.

Speaker 7 (01:07:28):
We're gonna have to shut you down.

Speaker 21 (01:07:30):
You cannot hold our restaurants down like that are the rules.

Speaker 11 (01:07:33):
I saw that there was cold food items held above
forty one degrees. You know that that's illegal.

Speaker 21 (01:07:38):
Right, we have a in there.

Speaker 3 (01:07:40):
It does not say over forty one degrees.

Speaker 11 (01:07:42):
I suspect that your spicy salmon is more like spicy salmonilla.

Speaker 21 (01:07:45):
Are you kidding me?

Speaker 7 (01:07:47):
No, I'm being honest.

Speaker 21 (01:07:52):
Why listen, you know what, Just come one more time
right now and check around you and.

Speaker 11 (01:07:59):
Really, so you want me to come down right now
to check No?

Speaker 21 (01:08:03):
No, literally, I talk sailing talk. You got you got,
you got your whole used door. Yeah, I'm going to
create your supervisor.

Speaker 8 (01:08:13):
Your place is filthy.

Speaker 7 (01:08:16):
I'm shutting you down.

Speaker 21 (01:08:17):
Don't believe you.

Speaker 11 (01:08:17):
You are your spider roll has spiders.

Speaker 21 (01:08:20):
Can shut me dragging you?

Speaker 11 (01:08:22):
Why is your angry dragon Roll? Why is it angry
because they've been dragging across your filthy floor?

Speaker 21 (01:08:26):
We have a clean Stamphanie show every night.

Speaker 7 (01:08:31):
Maybe I am because you've been phone tapped.

Speaker 2 (01:08:33):
We got.

Speaker 17 (01:08:35):
What do we get?

Speaker 7 (01:08:37):
What are you talking about?

Speaker 11 (01:08:38):
Your younger sister Lily got you, Eileen. My name is
Scary Jones, who helps.

Speaker 7 (01:08:42):
The end of the Morning Show.

Speaker 2 (01:08:43):
This is a joke.

Speaker 21 (01:08:45):
What shes this? This is did not help inspector.

Speaker 16 (01:08:50):
No, you are not.

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Speaker 14 (01:09:27):
This is Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 7 (01:09:33):
So, Danielle, Yes, what I did? You're you're at the mall? Yeah,
and you saw your friend's son's girlfriend with another guy.
Let me say that again so people get it straight.
You were at the mall, minding your own business, and

(01:09:54):
you looked across the way and you saw your friends
son's girlfriend with another guy.

Speaker 2 (01:10:04):
And I right away called them and I was like,
guess what I see? And so they told me take pictures,
and I said, so, so, let me just tell you
that I try. I didn't. What's the scary shut up?
So I was playing private investigator because there's wait, there's
issues there to begin with. So yes, so I was like,

(01:10:28):
let me take it. So I took some pictures and
Spencer was with me at the time and he's like, Mom,
please never become a private investigator because they can see
you over here with your phone and I'm recording them,
and I sat so close to them, and my answer
to him was, I really don't give a crap. They
shouldn't be doing what they're doing. And if they have
a problem, they can come over to me and I'm

(01:10:49):
going to ask them about that other person and say, hey,
how so and so doing and and call them out right.
I said, what's he gonna do? What's she gonna do?
It's a little kid, a.

Speaker 7 (01:11:00):
Bad so he So your son was saying that your mom,
you're not a good private investiator because you're like in
the middle of They could look right over and see
who were you in the food court?

Speaker 8 (01:11:09):
Are you?

Speaker 2 (01:11:10):
We were in a food court, were the court and
I was sitting there and I had my cat. I
had my phone out and I was pretending I was
doing something on my phone. And Spencer says to me, Mom,
it is so obvious you are not doing something on
your phone and that you are recording these kids. And
I'm like, I don't care. And he said, you're really embarrassing.
I said, I don't care.

Speaker 1 (01:11:27):
Then what was your friend?

Speaker 7 (01:11:28):
Was your friend? Appreciated? Thank you?

Speaker 2 (01:11:30):
And she said she was keeping that for a rainy day.
Oh oh, because there's some stuff going down now yet.

Speaker 7 (01:11:36):
Okay, It's like in the old movies when a politician
would be in a meeting and the guy across the
table from him would pull out an envelope and pull
the photos. I go, well, here you are having sex
with a donkey or so. I wonder what that reveal
will be like.

Speaker 2 (01:11:52):
I don't know, but it hasn't happened yet.

Speaker 7 (01:11:54):
Oh my god, Oh my gosh. Danielle's Jerry.

Speaker 11 (01:11:57):
I learned a long time what then, Never get involved
in other people's business, because what could happen is you
could cause.

Speaker 7 (01:12:04):
Some kind of strife.

Speaker 11 (01:12:05):
They could break up, chaos could ensue, and then they
could get back together and then your enemy number one.

Speaker 2 (01:12:11):
Let me tell you, I really don't care, because here's
the thing. There's so much drama behind the scenes with
these two as it is, and the person not my
friend's side of it has done things that shouldn't have
been done. So they should have broken up a long
time ago, and they didn't. So this was my proof
that hello breaking.

Speaker 7 (01:12:31):
I think there is a lesson we learned for all
of us here. If you plan on cheating, don't do
it at the food court. We're Danielle shopping, thank you. Okay,
So back to this thing, A private investigator your son said, Eh,
maybe you shouldn't do it. Maybe there's a better way
to like stand behind a plant, yeah, you know, or
maybe were the plant and walk around as the plant.

Speaker 2 (01:12:52):
But I felt, see, I mean, am I wrong? I
felt like, if I'm doing it right in front of
your face, right, you're you're less likely to think I'm
doing it because why would I.

Speaker 4 (01:13:03):
Do it right in front of your face?

Speaker 2 (01:13:04):
Like I whipped that.

Speaker 7 (01:13:05):
Phone out, and I was like, you're saying it was
too obvious? What they wouldn't notice it?

Speaker 2 (01:13:09):
Right? I Thought's what I thought, And I don't think
they noticed.

Speaker 8 (01:13:12):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:13:12):
Spencer's like all of them, calm down, mom, But.

Speaker 7 (01:13:15):
That's hilarious, Danielle.

Speaker 4 (01:13:17):
I love it that your sound was on so as
you were taking pictures, it was the camera, it was.

Speaker 2 (01:13:25):
Not it was on silence.

Speaker 7 (01:13:26):
Dan, of course I sent that right off. Yeah, she's
on an assignment. She had to turn off with camera sound.

Speaker 2 (01:13:32):
It's going to be used a later date.

Speaker 7 (01:13:33):
Okay's funny you brought this up because Samantha has a friend.
Is your friend a p I? A private investigator?

Speaker 4 (01:13:40):
Her boyfriend is, so my friend was, yeah, the one training.

Speaker 7 (01:13:44):
Okay, so how do you train to become a private investigator? Maybe, maybe, Danielle,
you should train with her friend's boyfriend husband, come on.

Speaker 4 (01:13:54):
Her boyfriend.

Speaker 7 (01:13:55):
So her boyfriend.

Speaker 16 (01:13:56):
She volunteered to help her boyfriend out. She knew she
was to be followed for an entire day. She didn't
know who or whatever. So she went about a really
normal schedule just knowing someone was going to watch. That
person had to take like X amount of photo and
video and notes or whatever, and then she had to
report back anything like suspicious or noticeable.

Speaker 2 (01:14:14):
Oh wow, I could do this.

Speaker 7 (01:14:20):
But here's the thing. So she was supposed to be
the target quote unquote, and then her boyfriend is training
a guy who's supposed to follow her exactly, so, but
tell them the funny thing that happened.

Speaker 4 (01:14:34):
And she texts me two.

Speaker 16 (01:14:35):
Hours later she goes, I spotted him, I said, how,
She goes, I'm in Marshall's and I looked up and
there was one person without a shopping cart.

Speaker 4 (01:14:41):
Kind of watching me. So she started watching that because
she wanted taking a photo.

Speaker 16 (01:14:46):
And in her notes it says, must have shopping cart
in Marshalls. That's that is his note for period training.

Speaker 7 (01:14:53):
Sh Danielle could say, you're at a Marshall. Now, let's
say you were walking past a Marshall's and you see
your friends son's girlfriend walk into Marshall's with another guy
just like you saw. It's a food court. Yeah, would
you go? Would you go into Marshalls and try to
get a picture in there?

Speaker 2 (01:15:09):
Yeah?

Speaker 7 (01:15:10):
Would you remember to get a cart and it look
like you're shopping?

Speaker 2 (01:15:15):
Probably not for now now that I've been told, I'll
definitely get that cart next time.

Speaker 7 (01:15:20):
And you have to put stuff in the cart, and yeah,
I got to put Yeah, if it's you, you can
put any item in there, because you could be shopping
for your family whatever. If it's a guy's if you
start putting sports bras in there, we're kind of wondering.

Speaker 4 (01:15:31):
What are you doing?

Speaker 21 (01:15:32):
Right?

Speaker 7 (01:15:32):
I love that training to be a p.

Speaker 4 (01:15:34):
I have fun so cool. I love you. Got a
whole bunch of photos of herself. Later on in the day,
She's just like it was creepy, even though I knew
it was happening.

Speaker 2 (01:15:41):
Yeah, Wow, we have a.

Speaker 4 (01:15:44):
P I in the building.

Speaker 2 (01:15:46):
Chris, Yes, yeah, Chris, Oh yeah, yeah yeah, Christy.

Speaker 4 (01:15:49):
Yeah, he has all kinds of fascinating stories.

Speaker 7 (01:15:52):
You talked to on your podcast.

Speaker 4 (01:15:54):
Oh yeah. I had him on the podcast because I
wanted to know. He's been doing this for a long
time now. He has a company that they just go
out and investigated a ton of stuff, and I just
wanted to know what are some of the craziest situations
he's been in and has he gotten caught doing it?

Speaker 7 (01:16:06):
Do you remember any great stories?

Speaker 4 (01:16:09):
Oh yeah, he was talking about. I mean, I can't
give the specifics because he didn't give them either, but
some celebrities that he's had to follow around who have
done some really shady stuff that he's busted. Some couples,
he said, it's typically couples. It's a woman wanting to
know if the man is cheating, and almost always the
answer is yes.

Speaker 7 (01:16:29):
So she had the intuition, she hired a PI to
follow and she's it's confirmed yes.

Speaker 4 (01:16:35):
And he said he actually had a really good time
doing one of them because following this couple around, he
said they had the greatest date. They went to a
good restaurant, so we got to eative food. Then they
went to a concert he wanted to be part of,
so we got to go to that concert. All the
while he's telling these people taking pictures the whole time
to send back to the other one.

Speaker 7 (01:16:49):
Yeah. Now, was he ever caught?

Speaker 4 (01:16:52):
He said, He's never been caught.

Speaker 1 (01:16:54):
But so word of.

Speaker 7 (01:16:55):
Advice, if you're at the mall in the food court,
Daniel taking your photo from them, you're obviously doing something wrong.

Speaker 2 (01:17:04):
Yeah, they didn't know it was made. The person does
not know me, so they had no idea that it
was you know. I mean, I guess I could be
recognized since what I do for a living, But I'm
just saying I don't think that particular person knew. Okay,
maybe they knew Spencer, but you know, he I just
he just gets back to it's a busy mall, food

(01:17:26):
it was absolutely packed.

Speaker 7 (01:17:28):
And you know, Alex, your son made fun of you.

Speaker 4 (01:17:33):
Yeah, Danielle, if it had come the other direction, So
if your friend was at the mall and she saw
let's say Spencer has a girlfriend, yeah, and his girlfriend
was someone else and she sent you the video, would
you save it for a rainy day or would you
immediately be like, Spencer, look at this.

Speaker 2 (01:17:48):
I would do research first and make sure that what
was going on there, and then I would do it
because I did, because at first I wasn't sure. I
was like, Okay, well, wait a minute, are these people
just friends or is it something else? Because it was
a guy girl guy girl, so I was like, look
like a date and the certain individuals were really hot,
so I was like I was like, this is this.

(01:18:09):
This does not look good. And then they got a
little close and I'm like, yeah, this is not good.
So it was what I thought it was.

Speaker 7 (01:18:16):
So, Danielle, if they didn't, you know, I don't know,
did you feel that, Danielle a feeling of satisfaction.

Speaker 2 (01:18:26):
Because because, believe me, you need to know the backstory
to know that. At this point, you're like, Okay, this
is the icing on the cake and this is all
the person needs Elvis Duran.

Speaker 14 (01:18:39):
He just gives people getting his mouth up to stand
in the Morning Show.

Speaker 7 (01:18:42):
Okay, they're hot.

Speaker 4 (01:18:45):
It's going down for sure. Wouldn't have followed them, but
people wouldn't matter.

Speaker 7 (01:18:51):
They're hot.

Speaker 14 (01:18:58):
This is ll Lister ran in the Morning Show.

Speaker 7 (01:19:03):
It's about to get kind of real in here.

Speaker 4 (01:19:05):
I don't think I've ever been more excited.

Speaker 7 (01:19:07):
Okay, well, okay, So we have guests in the room.
My trainer Charles is here.

Speaker 9 (01:19:12):
Hi, Charles, Hello, how you doing.

Speaker 7 (01:19:14):
I'm doing great, We're all doing great.

Speaker 12 (01:19:15):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (01:19:16):
And our friend Aaron, who also as a trainer with Charles,
is here, Hi, Erin, Hello, welcome to our show.

Speaker 2 (01:19:22):
Thank you for having met his shirt.

Speaker 7 (01:19:25):
You've got your shirt. You know, if I had a
chest like that, I would never wear a shirt. I
would if I took off my shirt now, I would
clear this room. So anyway, I'm glad you guys are here.
They wanted to just stop by and say hi, check
up on us whatever. They're on the way to the
gym and I have a full day, a full roster
of clients working out. See Charles, how many do you
have today? Hmm?

Speaker 1 (01:19:47):
One?

Speaker 7 (01:19:49):
And it's me.

Speaker 9 (01:19:51):
That's good.

Speaker 1 (01:19:52):
That sounds about right.

Speaker 7 (01:19:53):
But Aaron works a lot, right, Yes, you're much more
successful than Charles No where about he he does very well.
We thought it'd be kind of funny for Scary who
is just anti workout to maybe maybe you do a
few a few exercises, maybe exercises you guys can teach

(01:20:14):
him to do in his living room. Okay, yeah, all right,
you know, just simple, simple things, Scary, what are your thoughts?

Speaker 11 (01:20:20):
Well, the living room is a good place for me
to start because no one's watching me or judging me, right, okay, okay,
and I have had some workout sessions in the past
at a full gym uh and all that equipment is
extremely intimidating to me. I mean, in fact, I'm out
of my comfort zone right now. I'm not just standing
in front of trainers. Well, he's standing in well with

(01:20:40):
all the people around and all the equipment. So then
someone said to me, you know what, you don't even
even need all that big crazy equipment. Resistance training is
where it's at. That stuff is all for marketing purposes, right, No,
it actually does, it actually does. Okay, Well, anyway, they
say that you using your own body weight and doing

(01:21:01):
your own exercises, calisthetics whatever you call them, and and
things you can have resist You could resistance train yourself
into a better body. Is that true?

Speaker 1 (01:21:11):
Yes?

Speaker 7 (01:21:12):
Okay, all right, all right, all right, So I mean
these dude.

Speaker 11 (01:21:14):
Guys jacked right, well, yeah, yeah, they're okay, they're trainers.

Speaker 7 (01:21:20):
I mean they train a lot. I mean when they're
not training us, they're training themselves. It's kind of a
homoerotic thing. They're standing around each other, like spotting each other.
I'm like, god, dirty old on my day off, I'm
training if you are. Then they eat chicken stuff like that.

Speaker 2 (01:21:35):
Yeah, they don't eat like well, they don't need those
jalapeno poppers.

Speaker 4 (01:21:39):
Is that the most important thing? They always say, you
can't out train a bad diet.

Speaker 7 (01:21:42):
That's correct in trouble.

Speaker 4 (01:21:45):
Then we're all in trouble.

Speaker 7 (01:21:46):
Yeah, forget it then, all right, so let's just get
him going scary.

Speaker 4 (01:21:49):
I think you can do this.

Speaker 11 (01:21:51):
You know what, I have been told that I'm I'm
pretty limber from my stature. Yeah, I have a bit
of a g but I actually can move.

Speaker 7 (01:22:02):
I bet you can't. And you have those big calves.

Speaker 11 (01:22:04):
They're very they're they're very muscular.

Speaker 2 (01:22:07):
Do they know about your like your dieting that you
do no in the.

Speaker 11 (01:22:10):
Beginning of every year, for sixty five days, I go
on this crazy diet where I just eat protein, vegetables
and fruit, no.

Speaker 7 (01:22:16):
Sugar, no carbs, no alcohol.

Speaker 11 (01:22:19):
No no milking, dairy, nothing, okay, and you.

Speaker 7 (01:22:22):
On average lose I lose thirty pounds every January.

Speaker 1 (01:22:25):
Okay.

Speaker 7 (01:22:26):
We call him first quarter scary, but like the last
rest three quarters of the year, he just bloats out.

Speaker 2 (01:22:31):
Puts it back on instead of going And we keep
saying to him, maybe if you just did a little
bit or you went to the gym, you could, you know,
maybe at least keep some of it off and you're
not starting from like round.

Speaker 7 (01:22:40):
Zero, And he just is that unhealthy to do that?

Speaker 18 (01:22:45):
I would say, maybe it's a little too intense because
you can't maintain it.

Speaker 11 (01:22:48):
Yeah, well, and it's it's a detox. So you lose
the thirty and I spend the rest of the year
gaining it back.

Speaker 5 (01:22:54):
So then he spends the rest of your putting on
fort Didn't you.

Speaker 2 (01:23:00):
Say that it gets harder every year to lose this
same amount of weight.

Speaker 11 (01:23:04):
As you get older, the metabolism slows and it's got
it's harder to achieve those those highs that you did
in years one and two. It's now you're seven of
me doing this.

Speaker 7 (01:23:13):
All right, well, let's see what you want. Do you
want to just plank for a minute or two? Or okay?

Speaker 8 (01:23:17):
Could you?

Speaker 1 (01:23:18):
Could you refresh my memory?

Speaker 7 (01:23:19):
How to plank?

Speaker 1 (01:23:20):
Get here?

Speaker 7 (01:23:21):
Come over here? Where he it's a nice and where
do you where do you want the camera? Our friends
Charles and Aaron are here and we already told him
about Okay, he's setting scary up with a plank. Okay,
all right, then from here, I think you're gonna get
this all right?

Speaker 1 (01:23:40):
Okay, how's that? That's very good? A little bit?

Speaker 7 (01:23:47):
So what do you think that?

Speaker 21 (01:23:48):
Charles?

Speaker 1 (01:23:49):
Is you looking?

Speaker 7 (01:23:49):
Okay, you're close to a microphone.

Speaker 1 (01:23:51):
He looks like he looks like a stud.

Speaker 7 (01:23:53):
Okay, all right, now are you timing this? How long
is he on this plank? We're gonna start timing now now.

Speaker 9 (01:24:10):
Seven?

Speaker 7 (01:24:13):
How's he doing? He's not breathing? Okay? Hey, question should
he be breathing?

Speaker 1 (01:24:24):
Scary?

Speaker 7 (01:24:25):
Scary? You're holding your breath? I think was?

Speaker 4 (01:24:27):
I think I was?

Speaker 7 (01:24:28):
But I did that inadvertently.

Speaker 11 (01:24:30):
Okay, I have to concentrate on the plank, so I
can't really, I don't have time to think about breathing.

Speaker 7 (01:24:39):
Okay, Gandhi. The importance of oxygen in the brain.

Speaker 4 (01:24:44):
Is I think it's pretty high.

Speaker 2 (01:24:48):
Breath through it. You think?

Speaker 1 (01:24:51):
What now?

Speaker 7 (01:24:51):
What about some lunging things? What are those things I
do that? I hate the You don't like the split squad?
Split squad? Scary should do some split squad?

Speaker 1 (01:24:59):
How do you do that?

Speaker 7 (01:25:00):
You gotta stand up? Are you okay?

Speaker 2 (01:25:02):
I know that Scary is very strong because when he
throws me into a wall because something goes wrong at
the radio stage, Yeah, he's always very strong, but he does.

Speaker 7 (01:25:09):
He's got some sort of theft.

Speaker 18 (01:25:13):
Okay, so face face the camera.

Speaker 7 (01:25:15):
All right, here we go.

Speaker 18 (01:25:16):
You're gonna place your left foot in front of your
right a split stance like this, roughly hip with apart?

Speaker 7 (01:25:24):
Do you need to go further out? You're listening to
live coverage? Are Scary doing exercises? If you're just turning
us on? It's a very very amazing day here at
the show.

Speaker 2 (01:25:39):
That's nice.

Speaker 7 (01:25:40):
Wait wait, I never get to hold your hand. Keeping
his arms tight down and.

Speaker 2 (01:26:00):
Face what he's making are just priceless.

Speaker 1 (01:26:04):
Left heel left heel, Yeah.

Speaker 7 (01:26:07):
Okay, okay, he's done too. You don't get to breathe balance. Okay,
we're not going to be able.

Speaker 2 (01:26:26):
To get out of bed tomorrow morning.

Speaker 8 (01:26:29):
You need to.

Speaker 7 (01:26:29):
But you need to do the other side too, otherwise
he's gonna ben. You have to to split squat. Yeah,
you need to even out with the other side to
so try to have.

Speaker 18 (01:26:39):
Both hips facing forward, so both to facing the camera.

Speaker 11 (01:26:42):
Right is weaker than my left though.

Speaker 7 (01:26:46):
That's the whole point of this. You know, we're people
are saying we're making we're making fun of scary. We're
not making fun of scary. We're having fun people.

Speaker 19 (01:26:57):
You know what.

Speaker 2 (01:26:58):
You know, Wow, that's gonna hurt tomorrow.

Speaker 7 (01:27:07):
I can be honest with you. The soreness I feel
the next day, I like it. Yeah, it makes me
feel like I did something.

Speaker 2 (01:27:13):
I have a question. Have you ever gotten a scary
type of a person in and they actually have completed
their journey and at the end they're like ripped and
they're in the best health of their life.

Speaker 7 (01:27:24):
Absolutely?

Speaker 2 (01:27:25):
How long does it usually.

Speaker 7 (01:27:26):
Take, depending on the frequency, how many times they're coming
in a week three to six months.

Speaker 18 (01:27:35):
And have dedicated there, How many times a week, and
how many poppers.

Speaker 1 (01:27:46):
Push up?

Speaker 7 (01:27:47):
Push up?

Speaker 21 (01:27:49):
Go for it.

Speaker 7 (01:27:49):
You can do a push up, right, Scary, you can
do this a few you are here.

Speaker 1 (01:27:55):
We go, okay, yeah, drive through the.

Speaker 7 (01:27:59):
He look at that.

Speaker 1 (01:28:01):
I love it.

Speaker 7 (01:28:02):
I love that he's doing this.

Speaker 5 (01:28:04):
I just did what I did.

Speaker 7 (01:28:05):
That that counts absolutely.

Speaker 2 (01:28:09):
I don't think that's not a push up. Why don't
you let him go in and start?

Speaker 7 (01:28:16):
That was not good?

Speaker 1 (01:28:17):
Not great?

Speaker 7 (01:28:21):
You know, okay, but but don't be like I'm more
of a sit up. Don't be okay, let's try up crunch,
let's try sit ups. But keep him. Don't be discouraged, Scary,
get up, don't discourage. I get discouraged all the time.

Speaker 4 (01:28:32):
Yeah, this up, it's not great. That gives you lots
of room to improve. That's not bad.

Speaker 2 (01:28:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 11 (01:28:39):
Do I get a pillow?

Speaker 15 (01:28:40):
Pillow?

Speaker 7 (01:28:42):
Did you bring my pillow with you?

Speaker 11 (01:28:45):
Scary?

Speaker 9 (01:28:45):
You're doing great.

Speaker 7 (01:28:46):
You're scary, you're doing great, savage. Yes, the word of
a tuck your chip. I love that he's worried, he's
working out with Scary.

Speaker 8 (01:29:00):
There we go.

Speaker 7 (01:29:01):
That's a sit up. That's good. Scary, that's awesome. You're
a beast. You scary is Look, you're so slow.

Speaker 1 (01:29:16):
That is awesome.

Speaker 7 (01:29:18):
We got one more for him again, hold of what
do you have left for him?

Speaker 9 (01:29:22):
We're gonna give him an air squat, an air squad?

Speaker 7 (01:29:25):
What's an air squad?

Speaker 6 (01:29:26):
Do that?

Speaker 1 (01:29:27):
Know how to do that?

Speaker 7 (01:29:28):
Face to kill?

Speaker 1 (01:29:29):
Absolutely?

Speaker 7 (01:29:30):
Here comes Charles to show the air.

Speaker 1 (01:29:33):
Squad a little wider than shoulder with so slightly.

Speaker 7 (01:29:37):
This is one where you stick your butt out.

Speaker 9 (01:29:38):
Yeah, keep your keep tight.

Speaker 7 (01:29:40):
Okay, don't let your knees buckle in. This would be great.

Speaker 9 (01:29:44):
Your hands out and imagine you're sitting right into a chair.

Speaker 7 (01:29:48):
Oh right, that's easy. Okay, it looks easy.

Speaker 1 (01:29:53):
Do it, you can do it.

Speaker 7 (01:29:54):
Scary, scary, you're doing great.

Speaker 9 (01:29:56):
You're doing great.

Speaker 5 (01:29:58):
Putting nice and easy, and your bud to go way back?

Speaker 7 (01:30:03):
One beautiful?

Speaker 1 (01:30:05):
Two?

Speaker 7 (01:30:06):
Wow, savage, you're doing great. But is this but farmer back?

Speaker 1 (01:30:12):
We'll take it.

Speaker 7 (01:30:16):
That was great, Scary, scary. You got to go to
the gym. Come come to the but don't come with
me because I'll have too much fun. That's awesome. I'm
not gonna lie.

Speaker 11 (01:30:30):
That was I didn't even do a workout when I
was intense.

Speaker 2 (01:30:34):
Tomorrow we're going to get a call.

Speaker 15 (01:30:35):
He can't make it in.

Speaker 7 (01:30:37):
Awesome. That was fun.

Speaker 11 (01:30:40):
It was because there was somebody there leading me.

Speaker 1 (01:30:43):
See.

Speaker 7 (01:30:43):
But if that's why it's great to get a great trainer,
like like Charles or Aaron.

Speaker 11 (01:30:47):
I mean, if I was to be self motivated about
it and someone just gave me a regiment and wrote
stuff down for me, I don't know.

Speaker 7 (01:30:53):
If i'd go through with it. So how many guys
or how many men and women do you train to
agree with that? If they did, they say to you,
if I didn't come here to the gym and have
accountability through you, I never would work out, because that's
how I am.

Speaker 1 (01:31:06):
Most of my clients pretty common.

Speaker 7 (01:31:08):
Yeah, because this one over here. He's like, won't you
just zoom me from your backyard and we'll work out.
I'm like, uh nah, why most clients?

Speaker 5 (01:31:20):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 11 (01:31:21):
I feel something on the left side of my chest.

Speaker 5 (01:31:23):
What is it?

Speaker 7 (01:31:23):
That's your heart?

Speaker 11 (01:31:27):
It's just kind of tight.

Speaker 7 (01:31:30):
Nate has had heart attacks.

Speaker 14 (01:31:31):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (01:31:32):
How's your left arm field. Do you have a feeling
of impending doom?

Speaker 4 (01:31:36):
Okay, oh yeah, it's fine.

Speaker 7 (01:31:43):
I like that. He's like, it's a little it's a
little tight.

Speaker 11 (01:31:47):
I feel like I haven't worked out some of these
muscles in a while, and they're just finally waking up.
You know, it's like, whoa, hey, I'm being used so scary.

Speaker 7 (01:31:53):
I'll tell you, you know, because I went all during
pandemic without working out with Charles, and even before pandemic,
I worked out, but I'm I wasn't like a beast,
and I got a little muscle tone, didn't lose a
lot of weight whatever. I felt like I was okay.
So I got back after two and a half years
of working out, and it took a little time, but
I feel like I'm moving forward.

Speaker 1 (01:32:12):
I mean, I'm not you know some adonnist.

Speaker 7 (01:32:14):
It's not not the point. But I mean, I'm getting stronger.

Speaker 1 (01:32:17):
You're back in, you look phenomenal.

Speaker 7 (01:32:19):
Well, no, but I'm getting stronger. You can tell absolutely.

Speaker 18 (01:32:22):
I show you that you're getting stronger, and then you
still tell me no, I know, he says it just
like that.

Speaker 8 (01:32:28):
No.

Speaker 5 (01:32:29):
What I'll tell you these guys are good trainers. The
reason I know is because you were doing positive reinforcement
to Scar. You're telling that savage even though he did
four setups which basically did two your positive reinforcement, I
mean and that's that's a sign of a good trainer.

Speaker 1 (01:32:47):
I think.

Speaker 5 (01:32:47):
So even if you're not up to their level, they're
making you feel like you're maxing out your level.

Speaker 1 (01:32:52):
There you go.

Speaker 7 (01:32:53):
Well, thank you for coming and doing this with our ski.

Speaker 1 (01:32:55):
Thank You're very welcome.

Speaker 5 (01:32:56):
Thank you for having us.

Speaker 7 (01:32:56):
Now we were just on Instagram live. But also we're
gonna take photos and post them so you can follow
both Aaron and Charles on Instagram because I mean, you
got you put a lot of great video out. You
do great stuff. Charles used to want to tell jokes
and be funny, and he kept losing followers. They were
leaving about the thousands, this is true.

Speaker 18 (01:33:17):
And then and then I would put up what I
thought was a pretty good exercise and I'd lose some more.

Speaker 7 (01:33:23):
One time I was working out and he was videoing
me doing like, what are you doing? He's I'm gonna
post this so people can see how great you're doing.
I'm like, no, you won't. I do not want to
say no. No one wants to see me exercise.

Speaker 1 (01:33:32):
And you get serious.

Speaker 7 (01:33:33):
That's the one time where you get very serious.

Speaker 1 (01:33:35):
I'm like, we're gonna put this exercise up.

Speaker 7 (01:33:37):
No, I don't like it.

Speaker 9 (01:33:40):
I don't like it.

Speaker 7 (01:33:41):
I'm just happy I finally go to a gym and
I leave the locker room.

Speaker 1 (01:33:44):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (01:33:46):
He likes he likes hanging out at the juice Bar
London and espressos. We do we get down at the
juice bar well anyway, Okay, So thank you guys for
coming in, and make sure when you see this stuff
on Instagram follow, Follow Aaron, follow Charles, show him support,
listen Scary still breathing. That's good.

Speaker 11 (01:34:03):
By the way, these are the kind of guys that
you see a tiki Monday in Point Pleasant.

Speaker 7 (01:34:07):
These are the dudes.

Speaker 11 (01:34:08):
It's accept your shirts would be often you'd be well oiled,
muscle in la.

Speaker 2 (01:34:12):
That's what guys.

Speaker 7 (01:34:14):
I feel like, this is what I need.

Speaker 9 (01:34:15):
To hell it no oil.

Speaker 4 (01:34:16):
One question?

Speaker 7 (01:34:18):
Fifteen questions on a cheat day?

Speaker 14 (01:34:20):
What do you go for?

Speaker 7 (01:34:23):
Burger King Whopper? Come on, Charles, what do you cheat with?
I don't think you.

Speaker 18 (01:34:28):
Cheese Burger Deluxe, Ben and Jerry's Strawberry Cheesecake pints and
sometimes too yeah, and then he yell at me.

Speaker 7 (01:34:38):
They're supposed to keep each other in line. All guys,
thank you for coming in. Scary though, scary. Is looking
so swollen right now? You look swoll I'm swollen. You
look good, you look great.

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Speaker 14 (01:35:20):
Elvis Duran in the Morning Show, Elvis.

Speaker 2 (01:35:23):
Dan in the Morning Show Worth.

Speaker 7 (01:35:26):
I don't know how I got into it. With a
friend of mine. We're having a conversation and I was
and I was told, hey, Elvis, the other day you
said something and it was sort of sort of upsetting
to me. I just wanted to bring it up to
you and let you know I was offended. I'm like, oh, oh, god, okay,
and I've said God, I'm I'm so sorry you feel
that way. I don't want you to feel that way.
And then I got the I'm so sorry you feel

(01:35:48):
that way is not an apology.

Speaker 4 (01:35:52):
Yeah, I get torn on that because, to be fair,
I do say that when I'm not trying to apologize
about something, and I'm more putting like the onus on them,
like i'm sorry you feel that way, as opposed to
me saying I'm sorry I did that. But I believe
in this case you probably meant what you said.

Speaker 7 (01:36:08):
I think I did. Yeah, yeah, Frog, I do exactly this.

Speaker 10 (01:36:14):
When I have an argument with Lisa, I'll say if
I was you, i'd feel exactly the same way.

Speaker 7 (01:36:19):
That's not an apology, Yeah, duck, it does.

Speaker 10 (01:36:22):
It's true because if I was you, I would feel
that way. But I'm not you, so I don't feel
that way.

Speaker 7 (01:36:27):
See if you say, if you just say flat out
i'm sorry, that that says you regret, you truthfully regret
what you said or what you did.

Speaker 19 (01:36:36):
Right.

Speaker 7 (01:36:36):
Yeah, and you know me not really living in a
life with any regrets.

Speaker 2 (01:36:43):
But I feel like sometimes when you say i'm sorry
you feel that way, you're kind of saying I didn't
mean it to come out that way in a way,
do you know what I mean?

Speaker 7 (01:36:51):
Well, it depends on how they interpret it. I mean, yes,
I could say one thing to you, Danielle, and say
the same thing to Gandhi. She may not be offended.
You maybe offended. So I'm sorry that you feel that way,
not sorry that Gandi feels that way, because she doesn't
feel anything wrong. So I don't know. So this is
someone posted this online. Uh, this is not an apology.

(01:37:12):
I am sorry, but yeah, you see, I'm sorry. But
you know what I've meant to do is this and
this and this. That's not an apology. I'm sorry you
think I did something wrong exactly. You're not apologizing for
what you say. You're just sorry that they didn't like,

(01:37:34):
Give me more, give me more of these. I'm sorry
you feel that way. I'm sorry you got upset. I'm sorry.
Not an apology. Yeah, also not an apology. You're being
too sensitive. I was just kidding, overwhelm. Uh yeah, fine,

(01:37:56):
I'm sorry. Just okay, we'll move on. See. That's not
an apology. Okay, I'm sorry just for the sake of
putting it on the record. You know we're done, right, Yeah, no, no.

Speaker 4 (01:38:06):
No, And I was having a conversation sort of similar
to this the other day that repeated sorries. Even if
it is a genuine I'm sorry over the same thing
is also not a sorry, because the first time you
say sorry, okay, you you didn't mean to do something.
But if you keep doing that same behavior, repeating the
same behavior, you're really not that sorry. The best apology

(01:38:26):
is changed behavior to not do that thing again. Right,
You can't just keep saying sorry and hope that it
fixes everything.

Speaker 21 (01:38:33):
Well.

Speaker 7 (01:38:34):
Plus, you know, sometimes if you say I'm sorry, the
person you're saying you're sorry to wants to continue the conversation,
and you're like, well, okay, I said I'm sorry, I
really am, I'm truly I'm I now understand why you're
upset at what I said, because what I said hurt you.

(01:38:55):
I get that, But why are you sorry? But why
are we in any different ways? Do you want me to.

Speaker 4 (01:39:02):
In every language lociento.

Speaker 7 (01:39:04):
We are exactly. We are circling the drain here. You know,
after a while, like, okay, is there some underlying something
else you're not telling me that you're upset at? But
we basically handled that. We moved that off the desk.
As they say, I've.

Speaker 4 (01:39:19):
Gotten to the point sometimes where I've said sorry so
many times and then I'm like, you know, what, I'm
not sorry anymore.

Speaker 9 (01:39:24):
Yes, I've done that too anymore.

Speaker 7 (01:39:28):
Okay, how about this. I never was sorry. I was
never sorry. But you know you wouldn't accept the fact
that I said I was sorry. You didn't believe me
in the very first time. Anyway, Yes, Gary.

Speaker 11 (01:39:42):
What if you are sorry, you have regret, but you're
also trying to justify your actions and behavior and why
you felt.

Speaker 7 (01:39:51):
That way to begin with. And you you know what
I'm saying, Like it depends on who you're talking to. Yeah,
because is that is that a sorry?

Speaker 11 (01:39:57):
Then it's like, look, I was just trying to do
this because I because this is how I feel about that.

Speaker 7 (01:40:02):
Well, you know, if you're gonna get so granular and say, Okay,
I totally get it what I said. I should not
have said it. It wasn't nice. But here's why I
said it at the time. Right at the time, we
were going through this and this and this, and I
felt I needed to say it. Well, I do that
at that point. Well, but at that point you could

(01:40:25):
have just moved on, right Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I
don't know.

Speaker 4 (01:40:28):
I had a soccer coach tell me, when you use
the word butt, everything before the butt gets negated by
what comes after the butt. So I really like Danielle,
but she's kind of a bitch. Really, you just left it,
but she's kind of a bitch. Maybe you didn't mean
the I really like Danielle, but part did Gandy just call.

Speaker 7 (01:40:43):
You a bitch?

Speaker 2 (01:40:44):
I think took away from that.

Speaker 7 (01:40:46):
I don't know that that was our soccer coach example.

Speaker 4 (01:40:48):
I love you, Danielle, She's not bitch, you know.

Speaker 7 (01:40:52):
But there are moments no, all right, so you know
people are texting in and in catching up with this.
I guess I'm sorry and I love you. These are
phrases that we just kind of throw about without really
the targeting where they're going, without really understanding what's behind them.

(01:41:14):
So I guess we should be more careful about that.
Who's on the line there.

Speaker 5 (01:41:17):
It's Jessica, and she's a therapist and she can lend
her professional apparition.

Speaker 7 (01:41:21):
I would love to hear her take on this. Hello Jessica,
Is it Jessica, Jessica? Hello Jessica, Well, welcome to Welcome
to the show. Sorry it took so long to get
to you.

Speaker 3 (01:41:33):
No, it's okay. Excited to be talking to you.

Speaker 2 (01:41:36):
Guys.

Speaker 3 (01:41:36):
Listen every day.

Speaker 7 (01:41:38):
Love you all, well, thank you, and thank you for
what you do, because we all agree that mental health
is a very important thing, and having a therapist on
the journey with you is a wonderful, wonderful way to
do it. Okay, So I'm sorry, go ahead.

Speaker 3 (01:41:52):
So I am a little bit of two minds about this,
because on the one hand, if you're being intentionally a
jerk and grew, obviously if an apology is warranted. But
on the other hand, you are only responsible for your
own behavior. You can't necessarily be responsible for other people's

(01:42:13):
reactions or thoughts or emotions.

Speaker 21 (01:42:16):
Because you don't know what somebody's.

Speaker 3 (01:42:17):
Going through at the time. They're looking at the world
through their lens and you're living your life through your lens.

Speaker 8 (01:42:24):
So I don't know.

Speaker 3 (01:42:25):
I just have a kind of.

Speaker 2 (01:42:27):
Mixed feeling about that.

Speaker 3 (01:42:28):
So I don't know that you always need to be
sorry for something that you've not done intentionally that's cruel
or hurtful or harmful.

Speaker 7 (01:42:35):
I'm so glad you brought that up, because this is
another thing that makes me kind of crazy. For instance,
if I'm, you know, going down an aisle in the
grocery store and someone's looking at the paper towels, and
I walk between them and the paper towels, you know,
in their line of sight. I tend to be the
guy who says, ooh, sorry I did do but we
shouldn't sorry, excuse me. You could say pardon me or whatever,

(01:42:57):
but sometimes we say I'm sorry just to move on.
You know, it's just okay, Oh I offended you. I'm
I'm sorry, But am I really.

Speaker 2 (01:43:08):
Well no, But I'm a little confused because if you
didn't mean to offend them on purpose, I understand that.
You know, maybe you wouldn't want to say sorry, but
maybe you just didn't realize the words you chose were offensive,
so maybe you should. So I don't understand why you
wouldn't say you're sorry.

Speaker 7 (01:43:24):
I don't know, Jessica, when should we or which should
we not say we're sorry.

Speaker 3 (01:43:29):
I'm certainly no expert on that, but I think if
you're feeling, if you're expressing an opinion about something, and
you really believe what you're talking about, and again, like
if you're not doing it to be intentionally hurtful or spiteful,
people are going to have different opinions and you can't
always account for how other people interpret what you've said

(01:43:50):
or how other people's opinions are different than you. And
that's kind of what makes life interesting and interacting with
other people and learning and growing.

Speaker 7 (01:43:58):
I know, you know, why can I not be my
authentic self with you? And look, the last thing we
want to do is offend anyone. Yeah, gandhi, what are
you thinking?

Speaker 4 (01:44:06):
So, doctor Jessica in your professional opinion? What is the
best way Jessica, Okay, social order Jessica and your professional opinion,
What is the best way to say sorry without meaning
that you're sorry, just to move past what's going on?

Speaker 7 (01:44:22):
That's a valid question in the words.

Speaker 3 (01:44:25):
So part of what how I think I would approach
a situation like that is saying I understand where you're
coming from. I see how you could think and feel
how you're thinking and feeling, and at the same time,
this is how I think and feel about it. And

(01:44:46):
we may not ever come to terms, we may not
ever see it from the same point of view, but
this is where I'm at, that's where you're and it's
okay that we're not seeing eye to eye about it.

Speaker 10 (01:44:57):
Oh my god, I need you on call around the
You're great close to mine. I can see if I
were you, I would feel like that exactly.

Speaker 7 (01:45:05):
Which which is And you may actually if they actually
say to you, well, that's not an apology. That's when
you have to pull out the big guns and go, well,
I'm not apologizing. I'm telling you. I love you, I
respect you. I don't want to hurt you. But that's
how I feel. And you know if I sit here
and say, well, that's not how I feel. I was
lying the whole time, well then what does that make me?

(01:45:25):
That makes that makes that means I'm chopping down my tree.
Come on anyway, Jessica, you know you're fabulous at what
you do, and uh and I love that you're a
social worker and you're out there helping people who really
truly need it. And to know that you're listening to
our show is pretty incredible.

Speaker 3 (01:45:40):
Thank you very much, Thank you guys.

Speaker 21 (01:45:43):
Love you guys.

Speaker 7 (01:45:47):
Thanks, have a great day, have a great drive. There
you go. I love that. So we'll just send a
text in it. And I love it because I'm guilty
of this. We say sorry too much. We actually say
too much. Sometimes it's good to go okay, If you
would have a long drawn out conversation about why you're offended,
and why I don't think you should be offended. We
can have that conversation. Where's it going to get us?

(01:46:09):
What's the end goal? I mean, if you just need
to like chop me down because you need to make
someone feel like they've done something wrong because it makes
you feel better about yourself. Okay, well let's acknowledge it.
That's what it is. There.

Speaker 9 (01:46:23):
You what about I'm sorry you're.

Speaker 4 (01:46:25):
So sensitive, and then you should follow it up with
a calm.

Speaker 7 (01:46:32):
Down or pull yourself together.

Speaker 14 (01:46:37):
Okay, it's Nicki Mina.

Speaker 7 (01:46:39):
This is Rihanna.

Speaker 14 (01:46:40):
Hey, this is Lady Gaga.

Speaker 22 (01:46:43):
You're listening to the Elvis Duran and the Morning shows
Elvis Duran and the Morning Show.

Speaker 7 (01:47:00):
Look, you know, you you date someone, you have a relationship,
you're friendly, then it ends for whatever reason and you
go your separate ways and it should just end there.
You know me, I'm I'm I really have a problem
with people who can't let go, and they to the
point where they drive their ex crazy, they drive themselves nuts,
and then then there's the revenge people like they did

(01:47:22):
me wrong, so I'm going to key their car. I
don't like tires up. So a friend of mine. Good
text from an ex he broke up with her maybe
five years ago. She said, I just want you to
know I'm happy I'm dating someone better than you.

Speaker 4 (01:47:38):
Five years later.

Speaker 7 (01:47:39):
Yes, hell wow, still like still floating on that floating
on that float in the middle of the ocean for
five years. Really you have to let me know five
years later you're dating someone that's better than me, Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:47:52):
And that's that gives the person the upper hand because
then they think, oh, for the last five years, they
couldn't findnybody better than me, and they've they've been missed.
Should at that point now you know, don't you don't.

Speaker 4 (01:48:02):
And they've been living in your head five years that
real estate should be expensive.

Speaker 7 (01:48:07):
It should, it should be if you if you keep
these thoughts in these emotions just kind of churning around
for even months, I mean, you should be getting over that.
You really owe it to yourself, right But five years later, aha,
five years later, but still I've found someone better than you.
So the question I asked was, well, what is your
what is your response to her? What do you you

(01:48:27):
got to respond to her?

Speaker 2 (01:48:28):
What did he say?

Speaker 7 (01:48:30):
Well, I know he's he's still trying to think. What
I don't know. Maybe you shouldn't. Maybe the best response
is just ignore it.

Speaker 4 (01:48:39):
I feel like you should thumbs up it, like, not
even words, just a little thumbs up reaction.

Speaker 7 (01:48:44):
Right, yeah, send an egg plant.

Speaker 15 (01:48:46):
Yeah, in the eggplant, just right back.

Speaker 4 (01:48:49):
No you didn't.

Speaker 7 (01:48:50):
It's just I don't know. It's like I don't know.
It's like if you five years later, I haven't even thought.
Let me put myself in his place. I haven't even
thought of them in four years. Let's say, so five
years later, I'm instill in your head my response to
you should be no response. I'm starting to get into that.
Just don't respond, Just be quiet.

Speaker 2 (01:49:10):
I think I finally found someone better.

Speaker 15 (01:49:13):
I would have written not possible.

Speaker 2 (01:49:17):
That's a lie.

Speaker 7 (01:49:18):
That's see, that's a fun answer. That's a good answer. Yeah,
I don't know, but yeah, think about what do you
have that's still circulating in your head and in your
heart and in your soul something you should have gotten
over years ago. It may not be a relationship. I'm
believing I'm over all those, but it's an interesting exercise

(01:49:39):
to play with yourself, like, not play with yourself, but
to work out with yourself, Like, what is something that
happened to you years ago that still bounces around in
your head and drives you crazy. These are the thoughts
you have in the shower some mornings, when your mind
goes down these weird alley ways. You're like, why am
I thinking of that? When's the last time you thought
something just really wasteful? And then and you said to yourself,

(01:50:01):
why am I thinking about this? Why am I doing?
Why am I going through this dialogue in my head
right now? Why am I doing this to me? Do
you guys ever do that?

Speaker 4 (01:50:08):
Every night before I go to sleep, I think about
all of my cringiest moments and like fights that I
should have said something different and I would have won
if I would have said the different thing, And I'm
just like battling in my head. I think about it
all the time.

Speaker 7 (01:50:20):
From how long ago the situation is going to go
back to middle school exactly exactly, you know, And sometimes
you have to remind yourself you got to snap out
of it and like slap your own face right, snap
out of it. I love these texts that are coming in.
My friend's ex sent a text saying five years later,
I have finally found someone better than you. They're saying

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you should write back like new phone, who is.

Speaker 11 (01:50:48):
It is?

Speaker 7 (01:50:49):
It's hard to do, but you get you get into
these arguments with people that aren't even in the room
with you. Then you're like, what am I doing? That's
when I want you to slap yourself in the face
and snap out of it.

Speaker 1 (01:51:03):
I'm in.

Speaker 7 (01:51:06):
That's weird.

Speaker 14 (01:51:07):
Elvis Duran in the Morning Show, all right, we're done,
we're out of time.

Speaker 7 (01:51:13):
We'll see you next time, so make sure you're here
with us until then, say peace, out of everybody, piece
out out of my body.