April 11, 2025 • 8 mins
Producer Sam joins the show to share her experience during her IVF journey.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey, producer, Sam is here.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
I'm so glad that we have this time to talk
about something that's really really important to you, and a
lot of people listening can totally relate with something you're
going through.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Oh yeah, you want to talk about.
Speaker 4 (00:15):
It, let's do it. To me, it's ripping the band
aid off. So I've been getting a lot of questions
the last couple of years I've been married, so William
and I are currently still this is not a birth
announcement going through IVF. We've been doing it for about
a year, which even for people dealing with this, that's
a long amount of time. But I kind of got
(00:38):
to the point recently where, you know, after so long
of just being through this it's so consuming, it feels
kind of normal. So I've been able to talk with
people more, and I've been getting the most comfort hearing
other people going through it, because there's just so many people.
I had no idea that I really wanted to offer that,
so I kind of wanted to just be able to
(01:00):
get this off my chest because that's what we do here.
We share like the deepest parts of our lives good
or bad. So it was really hard. It was a
struggle keeping it a secret for so long, just because
I've been trying to deal myself.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
It's an emotional roller coaster at times. I'm sure all
my friends who have got to it said, yeah, yeah,
there are times where you're like, WHOA what am I doing?
And there are other times where you're hopeful.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
And it's exactly right. And the physical toll too, oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
I ever knew that it was. It was so difficult
and so invasive until my friends started going through it
and I.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Was like, oh my god, you do this all the time. Yeah,
that's why I've been home for you.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Well, people wonder why Sam's at home a lot, and
that's why, because she needs a lot of time to
go to the doctor to just relax. So what for
you and your journey with this? What are what's the
physical toll?
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I am very good at disassociating, so right now this
isn't really happening to me, which is why I'm able
to talk about it, I think, and just get through.
The physical toll depends on where you are in the process.
I just got over a really rough one because we
did another egg retrieval, and that's about two weeks of
being shot up with hormones every day because our cycle
(02:15):
drops one egg a month. But what IVF does is
it needs to borrow from your future, so you're kind
of roided up to drop a bunch of eggs so
they could go in there and just collect them and
hopefully fertilize as many as possible. So that time is
physically excruciating for me. I've done three retrievals so far.
(02:37):
Two out of the three were really bad. One really
didn't affect me too much, but it physically hurts. It's
a part of your body you're not used to really
feeling being messed with, and it takes a long time
to kind of come down from those things. Today I'm fine, Today,
I'm great. Like it really does go up and down.
(02:59):
You don't really have it, and I think that I
wear it very well as far as what the outside perceives.
My husband and I are the only ones who really
see how it affects the other person.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
How does it affect Will He is having.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
A hard time because he is too respectful of me
for his own good. He says he has a hard
time connecting with people because it's my body and he
doesn't want to talk about my body without me, which
I think is so sweet. But now he doesn't get
to talk to anyone else whereas I.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Get to talk to my friends. So this is a
journey for both of you.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Oh yeah, absolutely. My joke is because I've never had
baby fever. I don't have baby fever, and a lot
of people are like, why are you doing it to me?
That's the same thing as wanting a puppy, and then
once it's a dog, you get rid of it. I've
always wanted a family, but when I imagine myself as
a mother, I have kids, they're older. So I think
(03:56):
that's part of the reason why I'm in my mid
thirties and starting this little later than a lot of
my friends is because I was waiting for baby fever
and that just never came. So I was like, you
know what, I'm going to have one. And when I
admitted that to William, because I was afraid of how
it's going to be received, he said, it's okay, I'll
hold the baby until you're ready to meet it. And
obviously a joke, but like he's gonna make the joke,
(04:17):
He's going to make the best mom. I think I'll
be the bonus parent in the beginning. Who knows, but
but yeah, he's beyond ready. I married someone I knew
would be a great dad. I didn't just marry a husband.
So it's really rob for both of us in a
bunch of different ways.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I mean, have each other to go through this with.
Oh yeah, and us, Yeah you need what would?
Speaker 1 (04:42):
So this obviously is, like you said, huge. So many
people are going through it or are about to go
through it. What is your advice for somebody who is
about to take that first step but they're like just
so nervous about it.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
I want to acknowledge that it really freaking sucks. One
of the worst parts of this whole thing, other than
any phone call I've gotten where you know, the pregnancy
did not take, was accepting that I had to in
the first place. Like I was petrified to tell you guys,
just because you who wants to start a family this way?
So accepting that this was going to be my journey
(05:18):
like it or not after a year of trying with
no success was really hard. So I want to acknowledge, Yeah,
it really does suck. You can have whatever experience you
need about it. I do hope we start to move
into a place where people can talk about it more,
which is part of the reason I really want to uh,
because connecting over it has been the most comforting part
(05:41):
of this whole thing, Oddly more comfortable in ways than
talking with my husband, Oddly more comfortable than talking with
my excellent medical staff or my sisters. You know, the
people who are available to me whenever I need talking
to someone I'm even just friends with who's like, you
know what, I got my kid through IVF, and I
had no idea dealing with them and their experience, and
(06:03):
that validation has been a lot more comforting and soothing.
So I hope anyone about to go through it one
accepts that it sucks, and two, whenever you feel ready
to connect with people about it, although it's super scary,
try and.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Do it well. I'm happy that you opened up.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
There are a lot of people texting in right now
who are like, wow, are their head exploding?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Mind blown?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (06:25):
People saying that they feel seen by hearing you say
what you're saying. Isn't it interesting how people are going
through these journeys in life, be it IVF or loss
of a loved one or disease or you know whatever.
But you never hear anyone talking about any of the above.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
But this is why when people are like, when are
you gonna have a baby? Like and say, people don't
know what people are going through, right, So when you
say things like that, you don't know what you're triggering
in a person. Maybe they have been trying, maybe they can't,
maybe they're going through a journey like Samus.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
So you just got to be respectful of asking you Gandhi, you.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Can ask me when we are going to have a
movie that's totally different having amazing.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Well, look, thank you for sharing that with the world.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
But I'm hoping that who is that most benefit is
you and will and you know we love you.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Whatever you need, you have our full support.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
You guys.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
You know that you can borrow Spencer and Preston anytime
if you want older children.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
Really, you sell You're one of the top salespeople for
mom ism.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I love it with you, h Sam. Keep us informed
if you wish.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
I would love to. And I do just want to say,
because I know a lot of people will feel to
check in, I am not going to keep people as
of this moment and me will change my mind. I'm
not going to keep people super privy to my timeline
because where I am right now, I have a few
months ahead of me of taking care of a potential
medical issue. I may have endometriosis. We don't know, so
you don't have to check in. Please don't keep asking
(07:54):
me if I'm pregnant, because we're not even trying for
a few months. I just they're going to work on
my body for now.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Yeah, please don't ask.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
If you're one of those people who has to insist
on knowing if she's pregnant, stop doing this, just to
stop it right now.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Thank you so much. We love you. We love you, Samantha,
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hey, producer, Sam is here.
Speaker 3 (00:06):
I'm so glad that we have this time to talk
about something that's really really important to you, and a
lot of people listening can totally relate with something you're
going through.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Oh yeah, you want to talk about.
Speaker 4 (00:15):
It, let's do it. To me, it's ripping the band
aid off. So I've been getting a lot of questions
the last couple of years I've been married, so William
and I are currently still this is not a birth
announcement going through IVF. We've been doing it for about
a year, which even for people dealing with this, that's
a long amount of time. But I kind of got
(00:38):
to the point recently where, you know, after so long
of just being through this it's so consuming, it feels
kind of normal. So I've been able to talk with
people more, and I've been getting the most comfort hearing
other people going through it, because there's just so many people.
I had no idea that I really wanted to offer that,
so I kind of wanted to just be able to
(01:00):
get this off my chest because that's what we do here.
We share like the deepest parts of our lives good
or bad. So it was really hard. It was a
struggle keeping it a secret for so long, just because
I've been trying to deal myself.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
It's an emotional roller coaster at times. I'm sure all
my friends who have got to it said, yeah, yeah,
there are times where you're like, WHOA what am I doing?
And there are other times where you're hopeful.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
And it's exactly right. And the physical toll too, oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
I ever knew that it was. It was so difficult
and so invasive until my friends started going through it
and I.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Was like, oh my god, you do this all the time. Yeah,
that's why I've been home for you.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Well, people wonder why Sam's at home a lot, and
that's why, because she needs a lot of time to
go to the doctor to just relax. So what for
you and your journey with this? What are what's the
physical toll?
Speaker 4 (01:52):
I am very good at disassociating, so right now this
isn't really happening to me, which is why I'm able
to talk about it, I think, and just get through.
The physical toll depends on where you are in the process.
I just got over a really rough one because we
did another egg retrieval, and that's about two weeks of
being shot up with hormones every day because our cycle
(02:15):
drops one egg a month. But what IVF does is
it needs to borrow from your future, so you're kind
of roided up to drop a bunch of eggs so
they could go in there and just collect them and
hopefully fertilize as many as possible. So that time is
physically excruciating for me. I've done three retrievals so far.
(02:37):
Two out of the three were really bad. One really
didn't affect me too much, but it physically hurts. It's
a part of your body you're not used to really
feeling being messed with, and it takes a long time
to kind of come down from those things. Today I'm fine, Today,
I'm great. Like it really does go up and down.
(02:59):
You don't really have it, and I think that I
wear it very well as far as what the outside perceives.
My husband and I are the only ones who really
see how it affects the other person.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
How does it affect Will He is having.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
A hard time because he is too respectful of me
for his own good. He says he has a hard
time connecting with people because it's my body and he
doesn't want to talk about my body without me, which
I think is so sweet. But now he doesn't get
to talk to anyone else whereas I.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Get to talk to my friends. So this is a
journey for both of you.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Oh yeah, absolutely. My joke is because I've never had
baby fever. I don't have baby fever, and a lot
of people are like, why are you doing it to me?
That's the same thing as wanting a puppy, and then
once it's a dog, you get rid of it. I've
always wanted a family, but when I imagine myself as
a mother, I have kids, they're older. So I think
(03:56):
that's part of the reason why I'm in my mid
thirties and starting this little later than a lot of
my friends is because I was waiting for baby fever
and that just never came. So I was like, you
know what, I'm going to have one. And when I
admitted that to William, because I was afraid of how
it's going to be received, he said, it's okay, I'll
hold the baby until you're ready to meet it. And
obviously a joke, but like he's gonna make the joke,
(04:17):
He's going to make the best mom. I think I'll
be the bonus parent in the beginning. Who knows, but
but yeah, he's beyond ready. I married someone I knew
would be a great dad. I didn't just marry a husband.
So it's really rob for both of us in a
bunch of different ways.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I mean, have each other to go through this with.
Oh yeah, and us, Yeah you need what would?
Speaker 1 (04:42):
So this obviously is, like you said, huge. So many
people are going through it or are about to go
through it. What is your advice for somebody who is
about to take that first step but they're like just
so nervous about it.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
I want to acknowledge that it really freaking sucks. One
of the worst parts of this whole thing, other than
any phone call I've gotten where you know, the pregnancy
did not take, was accepting that I had to in
the first place. Like I was petrified to tell you guys,
just because you who wants to start a family this way?
So accepting that this was going to be my journey
(05:18):
like it or not after a year of trying with
no success was really hard. So I want to acknowledge, Yeah,
it really does suck. You can have whatever experience you
need about it. I do hope we start to move
into a place where people can talk about it more,
which is part of the reason I really want to uh,
because connecting over it has been the most comforting part
(05:41):
of this whole thing, Oddly more comfortable in ways than
talking with my husband, Oddly more comfortable than talking with
my excellent medical staff or my sisters. You know, the
people who are available to me whenever I need talking
to someone I'm even just friends with who's like, you
know what, I got my kid through IVF, and I
had no idea dealing with them and their experience, and
(06:03):
that validation has been a lot more comforting and soothing.
So I hope anyone about to go through it one
accepts that it sucks, and two, whenever you feel ready
to connect with people about it, although it's super scary,
try and.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Do it well. I'm happy that you opened up.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
There are a lot of people texting in right now
who are like, wow, are their head exploding?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Mind blown?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (06:25):
People saying that they feel seen by hearing you say
what you're saying. Isn't it interesting how people are going
through these journeys in life, be it IVF or loss
of a loved one or disease or you know whatever.
But you never hear anyone talking about any of the above.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
But this is why when people are like, when are
you gonna have a baby? Like and say, people don't
know what people are going through, right, So when you
say things like that, you don't know what you're triggering
in a person. Maybe they have been trying, maybe they can't,
maybe they're going through a journey like Samus.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
So you just got to be respectful of asking you Gandhi, you.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
Can ask me when we are going to have a
movie that's totally different having amazing.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Well, look, thank you for sharing that with the world.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
But I'm hoping that who is that most benefit is
you and will and you know we love you.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Whatever you need, you have our full support.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
You guys.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
You know that you can borrow Spencer and Preston anytime
if you want older children.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
Really, you sell You're one of the top salespeople for
mom ism.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
I love it with you, h Sam. Keep us informed
if you wish.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
I would love to. And I do just want to say,
because I know a lot of people will feel to
check in, I am not going to keep people as
of this moment and me will change my mind. I'm
not going to keep people super privy to my timeline
because where I am right now, I have a few
months ahead of me of taking care of a potential
medical issue. I may have endometriosis. We don't know, so
you don't have to check in. Please don't keep asking
(07:54):
me if I'm pregnant, because we're not even trying for
a few months. I just they're going to work on
my body for now.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Yeah, please don't ask.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
If you're one of those people who has to insist
on knowing if she's pregnant, stop doing this, just to
stop it right now.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Thank you so much. We love you. We love you, Samantha,
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