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This is a big nineties seven nineproduction. Welcome to Scott and Sadie's twenty
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in the podcast, and we getso few we're still on the mail lady
from about a month ago. Nowthe last comment, you know, telling
myself it's because people like will messageon Facebook. Yeah they do, or
then they'll or Instagram or you know, and then I'll find it like six
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months later, right, Yes,the concert starts at eight and they're like
thanks six months here you go.Oh my god, I just read something
in this like shitimidly upsets me.Okay, I didn't know this. Texas
is where German chocolate cake originated.First of all, I myself am a
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proud German and not many people willsay that, but there's nothing wrong with
the Germanic people. All right.Hitler was kind of a bad rap.
No, it was a lot morethan kind of a bad rap like that
sucks that when people think German theythink of Hitler. One individual does not
indict the industrious sculpture of the Germans. I say it, you say it.
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What the world doesn't believe us,Scott so anyway, so this makes
me sad. It isn't even German. The German and German chocolate cake is
actually an American man. That's aconfusing sentence. He's not a member of
the European Union. His name SamGerman. He developed the recipe for a
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mild dark baking chocolate bar in eighteenfifty two, and then it morphed into
German chocolate cake. That's so cool, that's really cool. They named it
after him, to be known fora German chocolate cake. Sad that he's
just a regular old American and notan actual German. You know, because
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here's the deal. My grandmother superGerman spoke German would make German chocolate cake.
It's kind of like our cake,you know. Um, Can I
just tell you this, little DebbieSwiss cake rolls, yeah, are not
Swiss. We'll look at you,look at you with your jokes, Look
at me just walking into the joke. How much longer do we have How
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dare you? You know? Iopened up to you, you know,
okay French toast. I literally justsaying, when I was growing up,
it was like, wow, Germanshot, we have our own cake and
you didn't even get to head.As I became an adult, I guess
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that never changed. I just assumeGermans invented German chocolate cake. You guys
have Schnitzel's sour, great crowd beer, Octoberfest or rich culture. The German
people, I know, but wehave Hitler, and I just feel like
all the beer in the world isn'tgoing to make up for that guy.
Again, I kind of a speedbump. No, it ruined my people,
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did not ruin the culture. Youever watch any movie ever made in
Hollywood where there's a German, We'realways Nazis every movie, or were hard
asses or we're just awful people.You never meet a kind German in a
movie there. The Germans are hardasses. They are are an articulate,
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strict kind of regiment people That felloff with me. But I do remember
my grandmother d regimented woman, andagain that was lost upon me. But
yeah, I don't know. Ijust I read that and it just ah,
another part of my childhood gets crappedon. Sorry, I can't make
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up for the fact that German cakeis not actually from Germany, nor our
little debby Swiss cake roles from Switzerland. Not to go to the next super
depressing topic. What more despressing thanHitler? Are more depressing than me thinking
German chocolate cake was from Germany?Okay, I was watching a commercial the
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other night. This should a explainwhat TV shows I'm watching and be explained
how sad I am because it wasfor one of those beds that like lifts
your legs, lifts your body youcould watch TV. Oh my god,
I just late. Are you beingserious? I'm dead serious? Why why
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would you think I'm lying? BecauseI because that's a flex Scott the kids
call a flex What my bed thatthere's a button that says zero gen Oh
my gosh. So wait, Sobecause I've seen these beds where it's just
like one queen sized bed or kingsized bed. But that would mean that
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when you go up, your partnerwould have to go up, as is
what is known as a split king. Okay, so that's what I was
wondering because my parents had one myI went with my mom to the bed
store. Yeah, I said,I'll go with you to the bed store.
And I found this bed. Firstof all, it was double digits,
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but it was in front of theComma every everything you've gramped ev Yes,
I mean, this was the Cadillacof mattresses. So my mom and
I earned the store laying on thebed, rolling around, you know,
and I'm like, this is luxurythat I have never experienced in my life,
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and you need this bed and youshould do it. After about an
hour, I did talk her intobuying the double digit Comma bet and I
was like, think about it.You're in bed me get out, gopee,
get back in. I mean,think about it. Did they hate
it? I sold it like sixmonths later on Marketplace for how much?
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Not that much. That's one ofmy fears there are, because we need
a new bed. This bed isthat we have now, it's just we
need a new one. I changedthe sheets on our bed yesterday and I'm
like, oh, dear God,we're gonna have to burn this in the
backyard. I you go shopping forhim and the one that I want,
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I want to go back to theIntermax route. I want to go back
into the sleep number route and thecooling because Julie likes a hard bed and
I like a soft bed. Youknow that kind of stuff. So I
want to go in back into thatroute. But that's where you got two
numbers in front of the comma.Yeah crazy, and if you hate it.
And that's the thing is you reallycan't make up your mind on a
bed to you've slept there four orfive days and you think, okay,
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yeah, I like this, feelpretty good. Yeah. My parents both
hated the heck out of it.And another thing is as you get older.
And I'm not saying my parents,I'm saying even for myself. If
I sleep on a bad mattress likein a hotel, I'm a cripple.
I need to come back and getacupuncture and I need to get you know.
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It's just it's so sad. Sothat's something that you have to consider
too. Because I used to alwayslove soft beds. I think you should
get into a bed and sink intoit like quicksand and the constable's completely different.
Well, we have a hard bednow because I'm old as f I
said something very bad this last weekwhen I was up in veil for that
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conference I had to go to,and I spend two nights at an hotel
room there that had the softest bed. When I sat down on it,
I kind of went, you wereon a cloud, and it's what I
felt like, I said, ona cloud, and I went, oh
my god. And I called mywife and I'm laying there and she says,
how with your day? And Isaid, oh, honey, I
am so glad you're not here.That came out wrong because she'd have hated
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that bed, and That's what I'dmeant. But she was like, what
do you mean You're glad I'm nothere? Because because then I had to
backpedal because you'd hate this bed.Oh, I got the two nights of
fabulous rest. You would have hatedevery second of it. You kind have
moved, you know, all thatstuff. But you slept great, didn't
you? I did. Do yousleep completely differently when you're not sleeping with
your wife? Because the Constable andI are such opposite sleepers. I like
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to have the TV on, nosound, just the lights, and I
like to sometimes listen to music.And I like to have my fan on
humidifier and he just wants it tobe quiet and dark, in complete blackness.
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I've never understood you weird, ohcomplete blackness people where you will only
sleep where I get so paranoid thatI'm going blind. I know how stupid
that sounds, but I will layin bed and just hold my hand in
my face and try to see ifI'm blind or not. I think normal
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would go to bed, but I'mlike, oh my god, is this
what it's like to be blind?This is what it's like. We have
a night light in the bathroom,and our bedroom just kind of opens into
where the vanities are, you know, so that nightlight kind of shines into
our bedroom. You've got to havesomething, you know, that way during
the three times at night when Ihave to get up to pea, I
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can see my No. There willbe nights, yeah, where the constable
will sleep in the basement because it'scool, because it is pitch black,
and it is so silent down there. It's so these are all things that
I personally am terrified of. IfI had to sleep in that way,
I wouldn't sleep a wink. I'dbe up all night. So what you're
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saying is if he wants to sleepwith you, he has to go to
your sleeping style. Oh I'm sopissed that you said that, because that
hasn't been an argument. It shouldn'tthat be a shared thing. Okay,
this week it's going to be mysleeping style and next week it's yours.
I mean, shouldn't that be theway it works. I'm going to slit
your tire out. I'm just suggestingthat marriage is compromise and suggesting in your
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lane. Are we done yet?We are cutting out that last part?
We haven't. No, I know, I know, but it's literally but
I will say with the constable thatman could sleep anywhere. I mean he
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slept in the bathroom. Well,I mean like he can sleep anywhere no
blankets. Now this is weird.I don't get people like this either,
people who fall asleep with absolutely noblankets. I have to be like,
yeah, I do have to havea blanket. I have to have yes,
I and he will sleep without blankets. He'll you know what else he
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does that's weird. He's so tallhe sleeps with his feet his foot off
the bed. Are you kidding?The monsters that live under the bed will
get my feet, thank you.I know how dumb that sounds, but
I'm on a roll today. Thedamn cake. We've gone from Germans to
the monsters that live under your bed. Yeah, this is like mylive all
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over again. Good God. Mygrandmother used to tell us the gypsy people
were coming, and you believed thegypsy people were coming. It was terrifying.
And then my other grandma, who'swas French, she would always say,
the ugurdoo is coming. It's Frenchfor boogeyman. So you know,
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I need therapy, need wows,kick a girl while she's down. Have
received countless hours, but I didn'tdo anything. I'm just kidding. Therapy
is amazing. You're like legitimately payingsomeone for an hour just to shut up
and listen, which is so peoplejust don't know how to listen because they're
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always thinking of how they're going torespond. When you go in to talk
to a therapist, they just theyask such good questions and then they let
you go on and on and onand all those things that you just can't
get over that you've told your friendsa million times and they're like, yeah,
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we get it. The therapist won'tdo that, but you have to
pay him at the end, soyou're essentially paying and I think for friendship,
you know, I I how manytimes have I ranted, and quite
frankly, in my other professional life, I'm working towards increasing the accessibility to
mental healthcare. I have ranted thatthere's a mental healthcare epidemic in this great
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nation. I think that we needto normalize it, to more lean into
it. I think all those things, But when it comes to me thinking
about it, I have cigars aboutonce a month with with my pastor,
of all people, and who hasbecome really one of my better friends.
And he'll say, you know,let me ask you said on my business
I'm sure it is, says,do you see somebody? And he says,
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because these things that you just sharedwith me, you know, maybe
I want to talk that true?So and I said, well, what
do you think I'm doing now?I mean, that's a twenty six dollar
cigar I just bought you there.I mean, that's I know, that's
much deeper, cheaper than an hourslided across the table land. Just saying
no, sometimes Julie, and thenwhen you at it, just light a
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flame anyway. No, I mean, to me, the hardest thing is
finding somebody. I actually found thisgal and I'm like, oh, okay,
I'll give this a try. Well, first of all, she was
my age. Yes, she wasactually younger than me. I don't want
to take life advice from somebody youngerthan me, you know what I mean?
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Number one, Number two she mentionedthat she listened to us on the
radio, and I that was it. I couldn't go back. And she
was very sweet and very kind,and I it's not like a diva thing.
It's like a I would second guesseverything knowing that my therapist is listening,
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you know what I mean. Ithink I would bottle up the crazy
a little more. That would besaving you money because if she listens.
I mean, we don't lie onthe radio. We are who we are.
I mean, there's we don't shecould do is drop me a note
here and there, tell me whereto focus my attention on. But no,
so I don't know. I don'tknow. I wish I could find.
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But you know, I do knowpeople who got super sucked into therapy
where they go multiple times a weekto a therapist. Yeah I do.
I I didn't say they were poor, yea, but yeah, I'm like,
damn, how could you go multipletimes in a week? Because about
an hour, fifty five minutes fiftyno doubt, you don't even get an
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hour. And you know what,sometimes wouldn't therapy. I'll think this is
so riveting, we're both feeling thisstory. And then she'll be like times
up, and I'm like, no, no, we were both into this,
and then I want to talk somemore. But literally, you get
fifty five minutes, and it's usuallyabout one hundred and thirty one hundred and
forty. Jeezus, if you goto this psychologist mart but if I just
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started sending a bill to my parentsfor that on to mom and dad.
That's what my son says, You'rethe reason I need therapy. I love
therapy. There's no shame in thetherapy game. I think it's so gray.
But I don't think that I'm necessarilyand solely the reason he might not
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necessarily agree with some things. Isay. Yeah, but parents are a
big thing about therapy. You knowyou talk about your parents? Why?
Well, you know, because thenyou could show where you came from,
where he came from, and thedifferent patterns, the old family of origin
thing. Yeah, yeah, Doyou not believe in therapy? No?
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I do? Okay, for everybodybut me, I just I find it.
You'd cry. I don't because I'vecried before. To me, it's
just okay, I'm going to tellmy Isn't that what friends are for?
And again, I believe in therapy, seek it out if you need it.
I'm trying to do. Yeah.But again it's different because you know,
I know with my friends were prettybrutally harsh with each other, and
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uh, therapy isn't like that.They're very kind and like, tell me
more. And you're like, ohmy gosh, thank you for asking,
because it's been bothering me. Youknow, so where my friends are like
shut up you know about this orthat some things are hard to get over,
Scott, you can't get over thehump you need? Hell, what
was it? I can't ask thatthat was incredibly personal? What was it
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the last thing that you have troublegetting over? I mean, what was
the last thing you really had totalk through? Oh? Wow? Um,
if we're if we're being honest,well we're usually all I know.
That's why I'm like, I'm notgonna be a jerk and be like I'm
not gonna say I completely struggle nowmore than ever with co parenting yeah,
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more than which is odd because ourdaughter's eighteen and our son is going to
be sixteen. And I felt likeat this point it would maybe smooth in
a little, but I feel likeit's gotten harder as we've gotten older.
So that is something that I dostruggle with and think about a lot.
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And you know, you always ifyou have children, you think a lot
every day about am I messing thesechildren up? What am I doing here?
You know? I told Sophie theother day, here's the crazy thing
about being an adult. You don'trealize you're an adult. You know.
It's like if I asked her aquestion and she's like, I don't know.
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You don't turn like twenty one andall of a sudden have all the
universe in your brain. And especiallywhen my brain is I mean, when
I say the words sixty, it'sa singular word. But when I say
I am sixty, No I'm not, I still think like I'm in my
mid twenty easy, you know,I mean, and that is starting to
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have like things that tip me offwhere it's like these new retro closer and
their clothes that I wore, andI'm like, retro scrunches aren't retro,
but they are now and that's whenit really hits me. One of the
biggest things I struggle with is issince I passed that threshold, feeling like
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I have wasted the time I havebeen given. Really, I do I
feel that way a lot. Ifeel like I've been a white or you've
been a husband, you've been afather, Yeah, you've had a career,
could have been more? Could Ithink that you will always And this
isn't this is serious. Scott willalways There will always be a part of
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him that wishes he ran for president. Yes, and so I think unless
you ran for president and one youwould of course you're going to have regrets.
But I mean, like you know, I don't know, would you
have won with a letter that's behindmy name? Likely not. Stop.
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This is a big nineties seven nineproduction. Welcome to Scott and Sadie's twenty
minute morning show. All right,let's go Welcome to Scott and Sadie's twenty
minute morning show. Here's content we'reproducing right now and then tomorrow for you
know, for the iHeartRadio app orwhere were you download podcasts. You can
like share, subscribe on iTunes.You can comment and we'll read the comments
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in the podcast, and we getso few we're still on the mail lady
from about a month ago. Nowthe last comment, you know, telling
myself it's because people like will messageon Facebook. Yeah they do, or
then they'll or Instagram or you know, and then I'll find it like six
(00:46):
months later, right, Yes,the concert starts at eight and they're like
thanks six months here you go.Oh my god, I just read something
in this like shitimidly upsets me.Okay, I didn't know this. Texas
is where German chocolate cake originated.First of all, I myself am a
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proud German and not many people willsay that, but there's nothing wrong with
the Germanic people. All right.Hitler was kind of a bad rap.
No, it was a lot morethan kind of a bad rap like that
sucks that when people think German theythink of Hitler. One individual does not
indict the industrious sculpture of the Germans. I say it, you say it.
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What the world doesn't believe us,Scott so anyway, so this makes
me sad. It isn't even German. The German and German chocolate cake is
actually an American man. That's aconfusing sentence. He's not a member of
the European Union. His name SamGerman. He developed the recipe for a
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mild dark baking chocolate bar in eighteenfifty two, and then it morphed into
German chocolate cake. That's so cool, that's really cool. They named it
after him, to be known fora German chocolate cake. Sad that he's
just a regular old American and notan actual German. You know, because
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here's the deal. My grandmother superGerman spoke German would make German chocolate cake.
It's kind of like our cake,you know. Um, Can I
just tell you this, little DebbieSwiss cake rolls, yeah, are not
Swiss. We'll look at you,look at you with your jokes, Look
at me just walking into the joke. How much longer do we have How
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dare you? You know? Iopened up to you, you know,
okay French toast. I literally justsaying, when I was growing up,
it was like, wow, Germanshot, we have our own cake and
you didn't even get to head.As I became an adult, I guess
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that never changed. I just assumeGermans invented German chocolate cake. You guys
have Schnitzel's sour, great crowd beer, Octoberfest or rich culture. The German
people, I know, but wehave Hitler, and I just feel like
all the beer in the world isn'tgoing to make up for that guy.
Again, I kind of a speedbump. No, it ruined my people,
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did not ruin the culture. Youever watch any movie ever made in
Hollywood where there's a German, We'realways Nazis every movie, or were hard
asses or we're just awful people.You never meet a kind German in a
movie there. The Germans are hardasses. They are are an articulate,
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strict kind of regiment people That felloff with me. But I do remember
my grandmother d regimented woman, andagain that was lost upon me. But
yeah, I don't know. Ijust I read that and it just ah,
another part of my childhood gets crappedon. Sorry, I can't make
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up for the fact that German cakeis not actually from Germany, nor our
little debby Swiss cake roles from Switzerland. Not to go to the next super
depressing topic. What more despressing thanHitler? Are more depressing than me thinking
German chocolate cake was from Germany?Okay, I was watching a commercial the
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other night. This should a explainwhat TV shows I'm watching and be explained
how sad I am because it wasfor one of those beds that like lifts
your legs, lifts your body youcould watch TV. Oh my god,
I just late. Are you beingserious? I'm dead serious? Why why
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would you think I'm lying? BecauseI because that's a flex Scott the kids
call a flex What my bed thatthere's a button that says zero gen Oh
my gosh. So wait, Sobecause I've seen these beds where it's just
like one queen sized bed or kingsized bed. But that would mean that
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when you go up, your partnerwould have to go up, as is
what is known as a split king. Okay, so that's what I was
wondering because my parents had one myI went with my mom to the bed
store. Yeah, I said,I'll go with you to the bed store.
And I found this bed. Firstof all, it was double digits,
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but it was in front of theComma every everything you've gramped ev Yes,
I mean, this was the Cadillacof mattresses. So my mom and
I earned the store laying on thebed, rolling around, you know,
and I'm like, this is luxurythat I have never experienced in my life,
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and you need this bed and youshould do it. After about an
hour, I did talk her intobuying the double digit Comma bet and I
was like, think about it.You're in bed me get out, gopee,
get back in. I mean,think about it. Did they hate
it? I sold it like sixmonths later on Marketplace for how much?
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Not that much. That's one ofmy fears there are, because we need
a new bed. This bed isthat we have now, it's just we
need a new one. I changedthe sheets on our bed yesterday and I'm
like, oh, dear God,we're gonna have to burn this in the
backyard. I you go shopping forhim and the one that I want,
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I want to go back to theIntermax route. I want to go back
into the sleep number route and thecooling because Julie likes a hard bed and
I like a soft bed. Youknow that kind of stuff. So I
want to go in back into thatroute. But that's where you got two
numbers in front of the comma.Yeah crazy, and if you hate it.
And that's the thing is you reallycan't make up your mind on a
bed to you've slept there four orfive days and you think, okay,
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yeah, I like this, feelpretty good. Yeah. My parents both
hated the heck out of it.And another thing is as you get older.
And I'm not saying my parents,I'm saying even for myself. If
I sleep on a bad mattress likein a hotel, I'm a cripple.
I need to come back and getacupuncture and I need to get you know.
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It's just it's so sad. Sothat's something that you have to consider
too. Because I used to alwayslove soft beds. I think you should
get into a bed and sink intoit like quicksand and the constable's completely different.
Well, we have a hard bednow because I'm old as f I
said something very bad this last weekwhen I was up in veil for that
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conference I had to go to,and I spend two nights at an hotel
room there that had the softest bed. When I sat down on it,
I kind of went, you wereon a cloud, and it's what I
felt like, I said, ona cloud, and I went, oh
my god. And I called mywife and I'm laying there and she says,
how with your day? And Isaid, oh, honey, I
am so glad you're not here.That came out wrong because she'd have hated
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that bed, and That's what I'dmeant. But she was like, what
do you mean You're glad I'm nothere? Because because then I had to
backpedal because you'd hate this bed.Oh, I got the two nights of
fabulous rest. You would have hatedevery second of it. You kind have
moved, you know, all thatstuff. But you slept great, didn't
you? I did. Do yousleep completely differently when you're not sleeping with
your wife? Because the Constable andI are such opposite sleepers. I like
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to have the TV on, nosound, just the lights, and I
like to sometimes listen to music.And I like to have my fan on
humidifier and he just wants it tobe quiet and dark, in complete blackness.
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I've never understood you weird, ohcomplete blackness people where you will only
sleep where I get so paranoid thatI'm going blind. I know how stupid
that sounds, but I will layin bed and just hold my hand in
my face and try to see ifI'm blind or not. I think normal
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would go to bed, but I'mlike, oh my god, is this
what it's like to be blind?This is what it's like. We have
a night light in the bathroom,and our bedroom just kind of opens into
where the vanities are, you know, so that nightlight kind of shines into
our bedroom. You've got to havesomething, you know, that way during
the three times at night when Ihave to get up to pea, I
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can see my No. There willbe nights, yeah, where the constable
will sleep in the basement because it'scool, because it is pitch black,
and it is so silent down there. It's so these are all things that
I personally am terrified of. IfI had to sleep in that way,
I wouldn't sleep a wink. I'dbe up all night. So what you're
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saying is if he wants to sleepwith you, he has to go to
your sleeping style. Oh I'm sopissed that you said that, because that
hasn't been an argument. It shouldn'tthat be a shared thing. Okay,
this week it's going to be mysleeping style and next week it's yours.
I mean, shouldn't that be theway it works. I'm going to slit
your tire out. I'm just suggestingthat marriage is compromise and suggesting in your
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lane. Are we done yet?We are cutting out that last part?
We haven't. No, I know, I know, but it's literally but
I will say with the constable thatman could sleep anywhere. I mean he
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slept in the bathroom. Well,I mean like he can sleep anywhere no
blankets. Now this is weird.I don't get people like this either,
people who fall asleep with absolutely noblankets. I have to be like,
yeah, I do have to havea blanket. I have to have yes,
I and he will sleep without blankets. He'll you know what else he
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does that's weird. He's so tallhe sleeps with his feet his foot off
the bed. Are you kidding?The monsters that live under the bed will
get my feet, thank you.I know how dumb that sounds, but
I'm on a roll today. Thedamn cake. We've gone from Germans to
the monsters that live under your bed. Yeah, this is like mylive all
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over again. Good God. Mygrandmother used to tell us the gypsy people
were coming, and you believed thegypsy people were coming. It was terrifying.
And then my other grandma, who'swas French, she would always say,
the ugurdoo is coming. It's Frenchfor boogeyman. So you know,
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I need therapy, need wows,kick a girl while she's down. Have
received countless hours, but I didn'tdo anything. I'm just kidding. Therapy
is amazing. You're like legitimately payingsomeone for an hour just to shut up
and listen, which is so peoplejust don't know how to listen because they're
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always thinking of how they're going torespond. When you go in to talk
to a therapist, they just theyask such good questions and then they let
you go on and on and onand all those things that you just can't
get over that you've told your friendsa million times and they're like, yeah,
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we get it. The therapist won'tdo that, but you have to
pay him at the end, soyou're essentially paying and I think for friendship,
you know, I I how manytimes have I ranted, and quite
frankly, in my other professional life, I'm working towards increasing the accessibility to
mental healthcare. I have ranted thatthere's a mental healthcare epidemic in this great
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nation. I think that we needto normalize it, to more lean into
it. I think all those things, But when it comes to me thinking
about it, I have cigars aboutonce a month with with my pastor,
of all people, and who hasbecome really one of my better friends.
And he'll say, you know,let me ask you said on my business
I'm sure it is, says,do you see somebody? And he says,
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because these things that you just sharedwith me, you know, maybe
I want to talk that true?So and I said, well, what
do you think I'm doing now?I mean, that's a twenty six dollar
cigar I just bought you there.I mean, that's I know, that's
much deeper, cheaper than an hourslided across the table land. Just saying
no, sometimes Julie, and thenwhen you at it, just light a
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flame anyway. No, I mean, to me, the hardest thing is
finding somebody. I actually found thisgal and I'm like, oh, okay,
I'll give this a try. Well, first of all, she was
my age. Yes, she wasactually younger than me. I don't want
to take life advice from somebody youngerthan me, you know what I mean?
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Number one, Number two she mentionedthat she listened to us on the
radio, and I that was it. I couldn't go back. And she
was very sweet and very kind,and I it's not like a diva thing.
It's like a I would second guesseverything knowing that my therapist is listening,
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you know what I mean. Ithink I would bottle up the crazy
a little more. That would besaving you money because if she listens.
I mean, we don't lie onthe radio. We are who we are.
I mean, there's we don't shecould do is drop me a note
here and there, tell me whereto focus my attention on. But no,
so I don't know. I don'tknow. I wish I could find.
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But you know, I do knowpeople who got super sucked into therapy
where they go multiple times a weekto a therapist. Yeah I do.
I I didn't say they were poor, yea, but yeah, I'm like,
damn, how could you go multipletimes in a week? Because about
an hour, fifty five minutes fiftyno doubt, you don't even get an
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hour. And you know what,sometimes wouldn't therapy. I'll think this is
so riveting, we're both feeling thisstory. And then she'll be like times
up, and I'm like, no, no, we were both into this,
and then I want to talk somemore. But literally, you get
fifty five minutes, and it's usuallyabout one hundred and thirty one hundred and
forty. Jeezus, if you goto this psychologist mart but if I just
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started sending a bill to my parentsfor that on to mom and dad.
That's what my son says, You'rethe reason I need therapy. I love
therapy. There's no shame in thetherapy game. I think it's so gray.
But I don't think that I'm necessarilyand solely the reason he might not
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necessarily agree with some things. Isay. Yeah, but parents are a
big thing about therapy. You knowyou talk about your parents? Why?
Well, you know, because thenyou could show where you came from,
where he came from, and thedifferent patterns, the old family of origin
thing. Yeah, yeah, Doyou not believe in therapy? No?
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I do? Okay, for everybodybut me, I just I find it.
You'd cry. I don't because I'vecried before. To me, it's
just okay, I'm going to tellmy Isn't that what friends are for?
And again, I believe in therapy, seek it out if you need it.
I'm trying to do. Yeah.But again it's different because you know,
I know with my friends were prettybrutally harsh with each other, and
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uh, therapy isn't like that.They're very kind and like, tell me
more. And you're like, ohmy gosh, thank you for asking,
because it's been bothering me. Youknow, so where my friends are like
shut up you know about this orthat some things are hard to get over,
Scott, you can't get over thehump you need? Hell, what
was it? I can't ask thatthat was incredibly personal? What was it
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the last thing that you have troublegetting over? I mean, what was
the last thing you really had totalk through? Oh? Wow? Um,
if we're if we're being honest,well we're usually all I know.
That's why I'm like, I'm notgonna be a jerk and be like I'm
not gonna say I completely struggle nowmore than ever with co parenting yeah,
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more than which is odd because ourdaughter's eighteen and our son is going to
be sixteen. And I felt likeat this point it would maybe smooth in
a little, but I feel likeit's gotten harder as we've gotten older.
So that is something that I dostruggle with and think about a lot.
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And you know, you always ifyou have children, you think a lot
every day about am I messing thesechildren up? What am I doing here?
You know? I told Sophie theother day, here's the crazy thing
about being an adult. You don'trealize you're an adult. You know.
It's like if I asked her aquestion and she's like, I don't know.
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You don't turn like twenty one andall of a sudden have all the
universe in your brain. And especiallywhen my brain is I mean, when
I say the words sixty, it'sa singular word. But when I say
I am sixty, No I'm not, I still think like I'm in my
mid twenty easy, you know,I mean, and that is starting to
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have like things that tip me offwhere it's like these new retro closer and
their clothes that I wore, andI'm like, retro scrunches aren't retro,
but they are now and that's whenit really hits me. One of the
biggest things I struggle with is issince I passed that threshold, feeling like
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I have wasted the time I havebeen given. Really, I do I
feel that way a lot. Ifeel like I've been a white or you've
been a husband, you've been afather, Yeah, you've had a career,
could have been more? Could Ithink that you will always And this
isn't this is serious. Scott willalways There will always be a part of
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him that wishes he ran for president. Yes, and so I think unless
you ran for president and one youwould of course you're going to have regrets.
But I mean, like you know, I don't know, would you
have won with a letter that's behindmy name? Likely not. Stop.
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