May 28, 2025 • 36 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re sitting down with Parisa from Grant’s season of “The Bachelor”! Our animal-loving sweetheart is here to give us all her updates, dish out some advice, and so much more. We kick off the episode getting into her experience on the show, including how living in the moment during her journey changed her life! Then, we dive into her dating updates and what she’s looking for in a man. Next, we kick off our advice portion with our question of the day: What would Parisa say to anyone struggling with self-love and confidence? Plus, she helps one of our listeners heal from a major betrayal. Tune in now and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks for
joining us today. We're so excited to be back. Another
great episode.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Absolutely, we got a very special guest today, but be
sure to check out our latest episodes because we always
have so much fun answering the questions, chatting with our
Bachelor Nation fans.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
We do and today, Susan, we have a very special guest.
Please welcome from Grant Season Parisa. Welcome to Golden Hour, Paris.
How are you good?
Speaker 3 (00:36):
You guys? Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Every one of you are so beautiful. We have interviewed
quite a few and just one gets prettier than the next.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Oh my goodness, thank you so much. I'm so excited
to be here today. And I also want to say
congratulations relationship.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Oh I guess that's directed as Susan Parisa. Huh your
lips to God dear? Where are you are you? Are
you in Michigan? Tell us where in Michigan are you?
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I'm in Birmingham. It's right outside of Detroit.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Okay, So tell us we got to get any questions here?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
What You've got a ton of things to ask you
just tell us what you want to tell us first.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
And then and then we'll drill you.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
No perfect, you know. I'm just you have been busy working.
I've been trying, you know, to meet somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But yeah, oh let's talk about that, Parice. I feel
your pain.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Expected.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
That's Susan's moniker.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Now when expected, I'm not expecting anything.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
So well, there you go. So I want to know
what made you because people ask us all the time
why we applied for Golden Bachelor? Why did you apply? Uh?
What made you apply for the show?
Speaker 3 (02:00):
So it's actually, you know, a really funny story. It
was on my birthday.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
When your birthday? When's your birthday?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
March twenty first, Happy birthday.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Okay, I'm a March too, And yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Was just not in the best relationship and I yeah,
it was on my birthday. Just was not a good
birthday with you know, this person. It was just so funny.
I just I was on Instagram and I saw an
advertisement apply now for the Bachelor, and I'm like, you
know what I'm doing it?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, birth time, that is exactly what I did. I
saw an advertisement on Facebook for Golden baucherl and I went,
I could do that. Click. I mean, I just didn't
think about it just clicked.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
I didn't think about it. Yeah, I thought more of it,
just like you know what, I'm going to channel all
of this negative energy right now in this application and
you know, press end and I'm hope you know. And
I never thought about it. And then I you're back
and I'm like, oh wow, okay.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Were you broken up at the time of the location
or in the middle of something.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Yeah, it was. It was one of those relationships where
I'm like, I will fix him.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah, Ossa, Pisa, it took me sixty years to realize
red doesn't change its color.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yeah, let's just let's just give you that this tidbit
right now, Parsa. Here's where you can change on a guy.
If you're lucky, you can get him to put his
socks in the hamper. If you do not change his character,
lack of integrity, none of those things can you ever
change in a man ever.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Well I know that now.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah, that's good. So you're ready for the next one.
So I want to know if you could describe, like
in one word. We always ask this question, what was
your experience like on the Bachelor in one word? And
then you can expound on it.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Hmm. Life changing is two words.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
It's all right, Well, that's all right, we'll take that.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Tell us how how did it change your life?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
It was definitely nothing I ever can expect, and it
was you know, from day one, being a part of
such a great group of girls. Everyone was so welcoming
and you know, right from the start, like there's our
sisterhood and we needed that because none of us had
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our comfort, you know, our family, our mom's sisters, best
friends from at home to help us through this you know,
dating journey, and so we definitely like relied on each other.
And it was just, yeah, an experience of I guess
also too being vulnerable and not only like opening up
so quickly you know, during like kind of a fast
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paced relationship, but also being vulnerable and showing all of
that on TV with you know.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Did you learn anything about yourself?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Yes, you know it was really interesting. I guess throughout
the process, I wasn't really aware of how comfortable and
open I was, But it was when I got home.
You know, you get your phone and you're going back
on your socials and I pulled up my social media
page and I'm like, wow, you know, it's funny, this
girl me on my you know, Instagram, that's not who
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I am. Like, I you know, was looking back and
seeing like what I used to post, how I would post,
and like that was what I wanted people to see,
Like who I want, you know, that's what on your
socials what you want people to see, right, And taking
a break from that, living in the moment and just
being my true authentic self being accepted. I forgot all
about that.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Yeah, yeah, it's interesting, it is, But don't you feel
like social media, we always, I think, at any age,
we put the life we want to have out there.
We put what we want people to see, and so
other people look at and say, oh, I want the
life that Parsa has, when really Parisa has the same struggles, right,
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And so we put out there what we want the
world to see, not really necessarily the way our life really.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Is, no exactly. And that's when you know, like when
I meet people too and I'll tell them more about
myself and they're like shocked, and I'd be so I'm like,
why are you shocked? And any of that you know
from your social media.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I'm like, I want to know more about your rocks.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Oh, thank you for asking.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I got a piece of I got a big piece
of Fool's gold pirite. If you need it to add
to your collection, I got a huge piece. Remember from that,
you got quartz? Yes, I got nothing crystal.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Yeah. I love rocks. I just think they're so beautiful.
I'm more like I love the geology behind it. When
I was younger, I wanted to be a geologist, and
I loved the study of rocks, like rock formations, you
know all of that. And I would go mining down south.
There's you know, some parts like in Georgia and South
Carolina you can literally go digging for like beautiful amethysts
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and quartz crystals.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
And did you find them?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Did you find for diamonds?
Speaker 1 (06:58):
That's not the part of the world diamonds grow? Wow?
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Uh the bugs.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
So I also love entomologies like study of insects and arachnids.
I wish like I always wanted to just be a scientist.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
When I was Wait, she is a behavior I want
this where I want to get to. You're a pediatric
behavior analyst. Tell me what that is and can I
send my grandchildren to you?
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Or so?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I work in the field of behavior analysis, and basically
it's all about behavior change, which is why I thought
I could change my acts. So I love.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Was your ex eighteen months old?
Speaker 3 (07:39):
They acted like it?
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Well, therein lies the problem. Okay, go ahead, Sorry, keep talking.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
But yes, like in my field, I work specifically with
children with autism, and we work on targeting behaviors or
skills that we either want to increase see more of.
So if it's something to do with you know, communication,
or targeting any challenging behaviors that you know disrupt their
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quality of life, so anything from aggressive behavior, self injurius behaviors.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
So you do therapy with them to try to change
these things.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Yeah. So I work closely with like speech pathologists and
occupational therapists, and we work on just like skill development.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
And I can't believe. I cannot believe you're saying this.
My daughter's uh my my granddaughter's birthday was a couple
of days ago, and one of the children invited is
three years old and he's autistic. He was diagnosed about
two and a half years old. And I was asking
the mom exactly, it's exactly what you do. She was
saying that they but she didn't call it a pediatric
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behavior analyst. She called it something else. But she was
saying that that it's been the best help because it
encourages socialization with other kids. And you know, he's got
his particular behavior is at least at the party, he
loves to put rocks where water is. So he was
lugging rocks, like fifty of them out of my daughter's
garden into the pool, the you know, the little children's
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plastic pool, and and I mean he did it for
like an hour. He just kept going back and forth.
And she said that they're working on trying to diminish
those behaviors and encourage more socially, you know, playing with kids,
more social behavior. So I found it fascinating.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
Yeah, with that exactly, it's you know, well, so that
would be our target behavior and then yeah, we will
find a replacement that is uh, it has the same function,
so he you know, feels he's getting the same feeling
that he's getting when he you know, is yeah, those
rocks and water. And then we try now to associate
that so with social skills. We would want to associate
that with peer play and just kind of like, yeah,
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promoting those social interactions and but yeah, and I love
it so much. I love I focus more with like
play based therapy, because I want to make it as
natural as possible. Yeah, and I feel like that's when
a child is most engaged.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
It doesn't it feel rewarding at the end, like when
you're working with children like that? Do you want children?
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Do you want children?
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Wait, I have to say, Susan yet another gorgeous, brilliant.
Not only is she gorgeous, I'm lovely. You are absolutely
stunningly beautiful, but she's articulate. She has a great career.
Like what is wrong with these men out there? That
was a question?
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Let me ask you something. Is there anything at all
looking back that you would have changed had to do
it again? In my life in general, doing the show,
in the show, any regrets or any.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
I never live with regrets because I look at everything
as just like a little bit experience, like, oh well,
next time, we won't do that.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Next time I'll do better, or I'll try to do better.
And that's all we can ask you.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
You got to make those mistakes in order to, you know,
to know in the future. Yeah, I think the main
thing was I definitely I'm I'm not you know, the
type to like interject myself into drama ever, but I
think towards the end I did mentally, so I you know,
I told myself, oh, you know, we're not going to
(11:24):
get in on you know, any of that, but mentally
I did, and I think that interacted me because now
looking back, there were a few times like my one
on one moments with Grant, like I wasn't prepared and
you have to be prepared because you're only given so
much time and use that time wisely. Then it's just
like you're.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Not able to wait a minute. I want to know,
because I kind of agree with you on my season
with Gary, but I'm curious, what do you mean you
weren't prepared? Like can you give me some specifics?
Speaker 3 (11:51):
So I feel like every like going in on every
group date or you know, during the cocktail hour, you
want to be prepared with Okay, I'm you know, going
to go grab him to talk. I want to talk
about this today and I want to make sure he
knows this about me, and I was. I felt very
on top of it throughout my whole time there, except
(12:12):
that last my last week, and I would ask myself
as I'm walking to go grab him, I'd be like, oh, wait,
what am I going to tell him.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Now, and I start checking guessing, yeah, and.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
I just wasn't, you know, as prepared, And I felt like, yeah,
there was, you know, a couple of times, I just
I missed my opportunity to tell him more about me
and more about you know, what I'm looking for in
my future.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
So that's the question, what are you looking for? That
is right where I was headed? What are you looking
for in a partner?
Speaker 3 (12:41):
So, and that's a great question. I love. So I'm
a you know, a woman of reflection and emotional awareness.
This year was a huge year for me. I turned
thirty and I you know, I'm doing that reflection asking myself. Okay,
you know, I'm what do I want and my forever partner?
And usually you know those characteristics and you know, all
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that stays the same, but there was a new thing.
Now I'm noticing that I'm like looking for and it's
those qualities of like and I use this word as
my umbrella term, but I'm now looking for a man
that has those daddy.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Vibes to be not your daddy, you mean dad? Well,
the Oedipus complex is alive and well you mean you
mean a daddy for your children?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Like I want to look at you know, you know,
the man that I'm with, and like I could hear
my future child saying, don't worry, my dad will handle that,
or my dad will be there and it will have
and you.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Know what that is. That is again, so many attributes
that you're looking for. I'm looking for, Susan's found, you know,
a man that makes us laugh, a man who's honest,
a man who's trustworthy, a man who's fun, who makes
me laugh, who has high eq all of those things.
But the one difference at your age is we don't
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want children. We're done with that, so we're looking for someone.
I would say the correlated corollary topic is we're looking
for men that can integrate into our families so we
can get to their children. App But you're wise to
consider that because that's an important aspect of a partner.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I mean, I know, I remember back when people would say,
write a list, write a list, like you don't go
out in the world with this list, you know you
kind of Sometimes chemistry is chemistry, right, So when you
came off the show, when we first started chatting today,
you've shared that trying to date. Did you go back
on social media or dating apps?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Yeah, And it was just one of those things where
I really did. I tried. But I think also too,
it's just maybe my that I'm in, you know, like
I was born and raised here and I left for
a few years, but and then I came back. I
think I might just need.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
To get up come to Austin, Prisa, I will set
you up. There so many single guys here in your
age group. It's crazy willing.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
So how about paradise. If you're asked, would you be willing? Oh?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Yes, okay, who do you want to see?
Speaker 3 (15:21):
You know, this is another thing. I am just so superstitious.
I feel like I could just I can name someone.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
And then ruin all chances.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
And then also too, it's fun to be surprised. I
really don't know many like bachelor alum men, and I
you know, like, of course I started looking up guys,
but then I'm like, you know what, like.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
I'm not doing this.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
If you went, what would your strategy be, I'm serious
to meet guys to pick what's your strategy? Because if
I get to I'm taking your strategy go ahead.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
So my strategy, I feel like, honestly it's when you
live in the moment and you're just having fun. I
want to just I think my personality just being playful.
It's attracts like you know, you know everyone, everyone wants
to be a part of that positivity and you know,
absolutely and absolutely I agree, But.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Are you gonna are you? I agree with all that,
and Susan and I are very positive and we're fun
loving and people like to be around us because we
laugh a lot more fun. Having said that, when you
get there, if you go, there's gonna be from you know,
from other seasons, there's gonna be a slew of handsome,
twelve pack guys strolling on the beach and new one's
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coming all the time. So how you know what's your radar?
How do you pick out?
Speaker 2 (16:49):
How do you so if you're attracted to somebody, you'll
walk you're okay with.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Them? Yeah, oh my goodness, you got to shoot your
out nowadays.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
I mean, you know, sitting do you feel about another
girl like in the same person? Would that be I mean,
you just did the show that was different than Yeah,
I know.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
It's so different. I if another girl liked the same guy,
it would have to you know, I feel like that
would just be a conversation, which would be just an
easy conversation.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
It's like, I'm going to give you some good news.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Do you want to tell us?
Speaker 1 (17:23):
I'm going to give you some good news if I go.
If I end up going, you don't have to worry
about me. I will not be going after the same
guys that you would be going after. I just wanted
to think I'll support you in your adventure.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Same.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
What did you think of the end of your show?
Were you surprised to be picked or did you kind
of know? I was really torn with the list too.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
I mean, yeah, I know it was it definitely, I guess.
You know, it's hard because when so I wasn't there,
you know, during you know, hometowns or you know, the
final three all that. It's it's easier when you're there
and you have like the inside look throughout, you know,
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like you can see, you know, the relationship developing, you
can see connections. But then you know, since I wasn't there,
then of course, yeah, like you know, it's a surprise
because the way where I left off, I'm you know,
I left off like, okay, these are the relationships that
are established. I'm sure it's going to go this way.
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But I wasn't there to see how things unfolded after Hometown,
because so much, you know, changes after you know, just
one little thing.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
So wait, who who? Who were you really good friends
with on the show and are you still good friends
with them? You know? Tell us, like, I want to
hear about the relationships other than in touch with everybody?
Speaker 3 (18:43):
Yeah, yeah, with everybody. I I'm really good. I feel
like with all the girls, you know, we try. We've
been hanging out as much as possible.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
We were.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Me, Sarafina, Ali, Joe, Kelsy, we were in Miami and
then that was before a fr Then we all everyone
met up in La Sarah, Fina, Me, Dina and Latia.
We're just in Chicago as well, after a far. I
think we're all too like in that travel time, you
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know what.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I Yeah, girls trips and just yeah, it's fun.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
It's fun. It's so fun. Yeah, it's fun to see
everybody and and and you know, just catch up and
it's do you feel like the relationships are different off
the show with the girls.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
All so much closer now for sure, and a lot
of us too. It's you know, when you're always miked
up and the cameras are there. I feel like there's
always some you know, has everyone's a little bit hesitant
to speak up about things. It's just now it's like
we're you know nothing, No.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
You speak freely.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
All right.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
So now we're going to get into our advice portion
of our episode, and we want you to be a
part of this. So people write in question, some give
their name, some are anonymous, and we'd like your two
cents on it, if you will your advice. Okay, alrighty,
We're going to start it off with the question of
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the day.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
All right, here we go. All right, what advice do
you have for anyone struggling with self love and confidence?
What says you? You have some good advice, Pertce.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
I'm sure, yeah, self love and confidence. My advice is
do not seek that reassurance elsewhere. It comes from within.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
And that's very good, exactly the truth.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
And my one tip because this was one thing that
I did after a really tough breakup. I was living
by the phrase romanticize your life. So if you know
I'm a single woman, I love alone. I'm going to
make myself dinner tonight. I'm going to make the best spread,
the best presentation. I don't need someone to be sitting
with me eating to you know, make that beautiful.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
I love that. I love that. And the thing PRI
say is I say this all the time, people say,
you know, I want to find the perfect man who
will love me. I believe that you have to love
yourself before you can even think about loving someone else and.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Be comfortable in your own skin.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
You can't pretend to be somebody else. And that was
one of my issues. When I met somebody and got
started in a relationship, I would jump into their world
and like everything that they liked, and six months down
the road, you're like, what about me? What about what
I want to do? You forget your own things, you know,
because you're excited and it's new. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
What do you think about confidence prices? Do you think confidence?
Do you think a woman who exudes confidence confidence is
attractive to a guy or how do you feel about that?
Speaker 3 (21:50):
I think that's attracted to a secure guy, and there's
not many of them. Yeah, and I think that's a
great way to weave them out too. I mean, if
you see a guy who's an issue with how confident
and independent you are, then that's just someone that you
don't you know?
Speaker 1 (22:06):
I think it's true.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Yeah, it is all right. Now it's time to get
into our listeners writing questions for today and Farisa. Are
you ready to dish out some advice?
Speaker 3 (22:15):
Oh? I'm ready?
Speaker 2 (22:17):
Okay, this is from anonymous ladies. I found out one
of my best friends is the owner of a social
media account that's been sending me hate comments for years?
What do I do? Here's the story. The other night,
my friend group and I were out getting drinks. My
phone died, so I asked my best friend Ali if
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I could use her phone to show everyone at TikTok.
So she handed me her phone and went to grab
us another round while I looked for the video. Well,
so you forgot to switch back to her real profile
and yeah, I checked the page's activity to confirm and
it really was her. She came back before I could
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find a video, so I just changed the subject. What
do I do now? I don't want to be her
friend anymore, obviously, but I really don't want to lose
my group over this. How do I navigate this?
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Thanks?
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Ladies, Wow, it's better than me that she slept on it.
I'd be there.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
No, it's always smart to sleep.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Always smart to think before yes.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
So my advice I always ask first when someone's asking,
you know, advice, I always ask what end result are
you looking for? And from there, yeah, you will know
how to navigate to get there. So she doesn't want
to be her friend anymore, which I'm glad to hear
that because that is not a friend. But it is
hard because you share the same friend group. So you know,
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I feel like with that, it's asking yourself questions are
you okay? You know, with acknowledging you know this is
the situation, bringing it to her attention and just saying
like I just this is not what I want in
my life.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
And so I you know, I would you ask her why?
Why would you do that to me? You've been sending
me hate mail from a fake account?
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Yeah, well wait a minute, wait a minute, wait, but
Paris said all that truth is but pric well, you
wouldn't address it right then and there, would you? Because
I wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
No, because also to the setting, if you want to
recognize to the setting, it's like, okay, this is time
and place. I don't think we would you know, would
be productive for us to like, you know, handle this
and I don't think I would get any of the
answers that I'd be looking for in this situation right
now too. But again it's just asking yourself. You know,
what's that result you're looking for? If you really don't
want to, you know, break up this friend group, lose
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these friends, then you would have to ask yourself, are
you able to tolerate then her being present? And you know,
just you guys are still a friend group. But you
have to tell yourself, Okay, this is just someone who I'm.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
The perfect keep them on the periphery. I always say,
don't ask someone that. I always say, don't ask a
question that you either know the answer to or you
don't want the answer to.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
So nobody else feels like I do right now, like
I'm in I put myself in that moment. Yes, she
goes off to get drinks. I'm reading it. All your
friends are standing around. I'm in shock.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Yeah, but you're not going to bring it up, Susan
right then and there, I hope you will.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
She comes back, I'm going to hold it there and say,
do you want to explain this in front of her friends? Oh?
Speaker 3 (25:37):
Yes, I would, I know you I would, I know
you know I will admit that would that would steel good,
It would really.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
But what it gets you the ultimately the result you want.
That's always you know, what's the end game? Like you said,
so what's it? But you know what this whole conversation
brings me when earlier in the in the podcast, we
were talking to you about people say they're surprised about
(26:06):
when they meet you in comparison to what you put
out on social media. What do those people say, because
I'd be curious, like this is the kind of thing
when people have hidden accounts and such. So tell me
what people say that it's surprising about you that I'm.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
You know, because I'm always posting the glitz and the
glamd because you know, don't get me wrong, I love
you know, getting dulled up.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
When you're like yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
I love that When they see that, that's I think
that's all that they view me as is.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Like, you know, another pretty face, a pretty girl up.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
Make up, you know, materialistic, superficial. You know, those words
are always like thrown in, but I mean, I am, yeah,
I think that's only just like the tip of the
iceberg of you know, what I want to be shown.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Don't you think people who are who are thoughtful, who
you know, understand social media would say that's just one
aspect of her. I mean, I want to give people
credit and say they would see that you're a beautiful,
charming person, but you also so many other sides. Maybe
I'm wrong, but yeah, so you're saying people will say
(27:13):
that you're just this glamour girl. That's how they describe you.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
Yeah, and I think the majority of the feedback i'd get,
you know, it's that which is it's fine because I
know too, Like you know, the people that are close
to me in my circle, it's they know who I am,
I know you.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
Yeah, that's I always say that. It's it's I don't
care what the bots on social media say. I don't
care really what anyone says about me. The people who
know me are the ones I care about.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
People in your life. I mean, like this is like
another world. That's right, it it's like that world's gone.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
I'll tell you. When we were on The Golden Bachelor,
I miss my phone at all. I never missed it.
The only thing I missed was I knew when I
got off the show, I had to deal with the
thousands of emails that had come in that I had
to delete once I got off the show, but I
did not miss it because I was in the moment.
People got to see the real me, so I loved that.
(28:07):
I loved it. Well, Anonymous, you let us know. Here's
the long and short of it. I would not bring
the other friends into it. Deal with it quietly by yourself.
Get a resolution that you can live with and let
us know.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
Let us and I wish you luck and I feel
for you, honey, that's that's yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah, it's terrible. It is horrible, but social media sometimes isn't.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
Yeah, yeah, regardless if you know, if it's a boyfriend
that you know betrays your best friend, like the best
if your world just.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Less friends are even worse. I mean that's your best friend, Yeah,
for her, and I'm sure it happens a lot.
Speaker 1 (28:45):
Yeah, Well, let us know. Okay, So Parisa, you know
we've gotten to know you a little better. We want
to open the floor to you. Advice for us, questions,
anything you want to know about us, or advice you
up for us.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Okay, I have a question sure in this has to
do with dating, So like with your approach with dating,
how much has it changed compared to you know, when
you were, you know, in your twenties, compared to now, Like,
how much had that dating world changed?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Because then we met people outdoors at a social event,
a bar, restaurant wherever. Now you have to be on
not have to. But most of it comes from dating apps.
I married people for a living, and nine times out
of ten, the couple that is getting married met online. Yeah,
(29:37):
I think the way of the world, I.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Think there's a I think Susan's right, but I also
think Presidrea is a push to meet people more organically.
I can say for me, I got married very young.
I was twenty when I got married by only ten
days and I was married almost forty six years. So
she didn't date, so I didn't date it. But I
(29:59):
can tell you the way I date now has dramatically
changed for me since I came off the show. I mean,
I'm I've always been pretty clear about who I am,
but I don't you know, people say, oh, give them
a couple of days. Yeah I can. I'm pretty good
at sussing out pretty quickly, and so I'm out and
(30:24):
you know what I have learned. It's almost the opposite
for me pretty soon because I didn't date much, so
I had a very steep learning curve after my husband died.
I'm learning how to date, and so I have learned
very quickly. A red flag is a red flag. You
never turn them green. You know. A yellow flag is
something to pay attention to. It could go either way.
(30:45):
I mean those sort of things that we talk about
all the time. I've had to learn really quickly.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
And also we look for different things.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Right, I said, we're not looking for daddy. You know
we're not looking I'm looking for I'm looking for a
guy who would have kind of fun with, to travel with,
to have shared experiences with, to to be part of
my family, be part of his. Like Susan, I say
it ad nauseam, like this is the last chapter of
our lives. I wanted to be the longest, the happiest
(31:16):
and the best. Yeah and so yeah, But I do
think it dating will change for you as you get older.
I it's your dating for you different now than when
you were twenty. I'm guessing it is that she knows.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
She's looking for something different like her.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Well, I know change, but do you still care about uh,
you know, the fun, the humor? Would you move for example,
would you move.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Ok No, definitely. I think that was another thing too.
You know, a few years ago, I was always telling myself,
I'm looking for someone to grow old with. But then
I'm like, you know, I think life, I mean, especially
during you know, today's climate is so it's just so tough,
and you know, there's so much negativity, and it's just
I'm now I'm looking for someone I want to stay
(31:59):
young with. I want to have fun with and be good. Yeah, like,
we don't have to your DMS.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Blowing up after the show where you're getting all kinds
of messages from strange men and no, not.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
I'm thinking I'm like, oh, like, if this doesn't work out,
like you know, it might meet someone you know through
Instagram and.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Yeah, yeah. Well.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Susan made a very good point on another podcast for
our age. Men are not on social media. They don't
know how to DM. They they're not on Instagram. They
might be on Facebook and they know how to have
the like button. But at your age, everybody's on social media,
and that has its good side and it's bad size right,
it's good at that At the same time.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
I feel like it's tough now too, because I think
a lot of people rely on that and they hide
behind their screen. So now we're in public, no one's
coming up to me or anyone.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
I mean, I just well, wait, pray. So what do
you do for fun? Because that's another way to organically
meet people. How do you get out?
Speaker 3 (32:57):
I love traveling on the weekends as often as I can,
going to new cities, you know, trying new restaurants. I'm
a huge foodie, so I love trying new.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
Travel by friends that you go with. Yeah, that is
some funny. I was going to say, do you travel
by yourself? And Susan said, do you travel with a
group of friends?
Speaker 3 (33:16):
Were also like having friends in other states is amazing because.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Then you just try to visit. Yeah, it's great.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Do you ask your friends to fix you like friends?
If you have friends in Georgia, do you ask them
to fix you up with guys?
Speaker 3 (33:29):
Yeah, like I'll ask if they know when you want to.
And then I just that hasn't worked out either, and
then everyone everyone's getting engaged now, and so it's.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
Like that must put a little something in you too.
You're like, why not me?
Speaker 1 (33:43):
My daughter said that That's exactly what my daughter said
when she was thirty, what's wrong and my daughters as
pretty as you are present. She was like, what's wrong
with me? You know? And I said, there's nothing.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Wrong with you. Expect that you met them.
Speaker 1 (33:55):
Well, yeah, well yeah, she met a guy. They were
out on a boat on the lake in Austin with
a bunch of friends and he was he was, it
was his boat and so she chatted with him, and
she at first she thought it was sort of pompous. Anyway,
they fell in love and they're married and they have
a baby. So, but she didn't meet himuntil she was
thirty one.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
I think, okay, you have plenty of time.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
Don't rush it.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
And then you rush especially too. It's just like you
those things you really you don't want to rush that.
That's forever.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Would you relocate you if you fell in love with
somebody that of course?
Speaker 3 (34:29):
My family everyone's all spread out all over.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
Yeah, Where's where's your dream place? What's next for traveling?
Speaker 3 (34:35):
For travel? So I chew Montana on Utah.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
I want to open to both the gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:43):
I want to do a hiking trip, horseback riding, just
anything with the outdoors nature.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Are you scarce?
Speaker 2 (34:50):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (34:50):
I love Yeah, I love.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Utah's got some great scheme, yes, and so does Montana.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Actually, well, well you know what, I think you're absolutely stunning.
You are will fun. I'm the right person you will.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
Both you ladies as well. I thank you so much,
and I hope.
Speaker 2 (35:06):
You go to Paradise.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Yeah, I hope to paradise.
Speaker 3 (35:12):
Wow. And that would be changing opportunity, you.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
Know, life change, that's right, and you know what, it's
an opportunity and you never know what comes from up.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Don't miss it. You don't want to miss it, all right, guys,
believe it or not. That does it for this episode
of Bachelor Happy. Thank you so much person for coming
and just have good advice and just sharing your life
with us. We wish you all.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
We loved having you, We loved getting to chat with you. Parisa.
Really you are lovely and intelligent and you are the
full package. So thanks for sharing part of your day
with us.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
And then thank you for wanting to be a daddy.
You know, have a family with a beautiful wife and
a child.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
You know where we're celebrating here, Parsa. We're doing it
for you a dm or but listen, thank you all
for joining us, and please be sure to follow Bachelor
Happy Hour. We have new episodes coming out every week
that you don't want to miss.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
And make sure you submit those questions. You can go
to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or just dm
us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
It's a perfect way to do it. And don't forget
to DM Parsa because she's a catch. Okay, listen to
Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or
wherever you listen to podcasts. Till next time, have a
great week, Joe
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks for
joining us today. We're so excited to be back. Another
great episode.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Absolutely, we got a very special guest today, but be
sure to check out our latest episodes because we always
have so much fun answering the questions, chatting with our
Bachelor Nation fans.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
We do and today, Susan, we have a very special guest.
Please welcome from Grant Season Parisa. Welcome to Golden Hour, Paris.
How are you good?
Speaker 3 (00:36):
You guys? Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Every one of you are so beautiful. We have interviewed
quite a few and just one gets prettier than the next.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Oh my goodness, thank you so much. I'm so excited
to be here today. And I also want to say
congratulations relationship.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Oh I guess that's directed as Susan Parisa. Huh your
lips to God dear? Where are you are you? Are
you in Michigan? Tell us where in Michigan are you?
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I'm in Birmingham. It's right outside of Detroit.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Okay, So tell us we got to get any questions here?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
What You've got a ton of things to ask you
just tell us what you want to tell us first.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
And then and then we'll drill you.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
No perfect, you know. I'm just you have been busy working.
I've been trying, you know, to meet somebody.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
But yeah, oh let's talk about that, Parice. I feel
your pain.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Expected.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
That's Susan's moniker.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Now when expected, I'm not expecting anything.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
So well, there you go. So I want to know
what made you because people ask us all the time
why we applied for Golden Bachelor? Why did you apply? Uh?
What made you apply for the show?
Speaker 3 (02:00):
So it's actually, you know, a really funny story. It
was on my birthday.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
When your birthday? When's your birthday?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
March twenty first, Happy birthday.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Okay, I'm a March too, And yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Was just not in the best relationship and I yeah,
it was on my birthday. Just was not a good
birthday with you know, this person. It was just so funny.
I just I was on Instagram and I saw an
advertisement apply now for the Bachelor, and I'm like, you
know what I'm doing it?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Yeah, birth time, that is exactly what I did. I
saw an advertisement on Facebook for Golden baucherl and I went,
I could do that. Click. I mean, I just didn't
think about it just clicked.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
I didn't think about it. Yeah, I thought more of it,
just like you know what, I'm going to channel all
of this negative energy right now in this application and
you know, press end and I'm hope you know. And
I never thought about it. And then I you're back
and I'm like, oh wow, okay.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Were you broken up at the time of the location
or in the middle of something.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Yeah, it was. It was one of those relationships where
I'm like, I will fix him.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah, Ossa, Pisa, it took me sixty years to realize
red doesn't change its color.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yeah, let's just let's just give you that this tidbit
right now, Parsa. Here's where you can change on a guy.
If you're lucky, you can get him to put his
socks in the hamper. If you do not change his character,
lack of integrity, none of those things can you ever
change in a man ever.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Well I know that now.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah, that's good. So you're ready for the next one.
So I want to know if you could describe, like
in one word. We always ask this question, what was
your experience like on the Bachelor in one word? And
then you can expound on it.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Hmm. Life changing is two words.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
It's all right, Well, that's all right, we'll take that.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Tell us how how did it change your life?
Speaker 3 (03:57):
It was definitely nothing I ever can expect, and it
was you know, from day one, being a part of
such a great group of girls. Everyone was so welcoming
and you know, right from the start, like there's our
sisterhood and we needed that because none of us had
(04:18):
our comfort, you know, our family, our mom's sisters, best
friends from at home to help us through this you know,
dating journey, and so we definitely like relied on each other.
And it was just, yeah, an experience of I guess
also too being vulnerable and not only like opening up
so quickly you know, during like kind of a fast
(04:40):
paced relationship, but also being vulnerable and showing all of
that on TV with you know.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Did you learn anything about yourself?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Yes, you know it was really interesting. I guess throughout
the process, I wasn't really aware of how comfortable and
open I was, But it was when I got home.
You know, you get your phone and you're going back
on your socials and I pulled up my social media
page and I'm like, wow, you know, it's funny, this
girl me on my you know, Instagram, that's not who
(05:11):
I am. Like, I you know, was looking back and
seeing like what I used to post, how I would post,
and like that was what I wanted people to see,
Like who I want, you know, that's what on your
socials what you want people to see, right, And taking
a break from that, living in the moment and just
being my true authentic self being accepted. I forgot all
about that.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Yeah, yeah, it's interesting, it is, But don't you feel
like social media, we always, I think, at any age,
we put the life we want to have out there.
We put what we want people to see, and so
other people look at and say, oh, I want the
life that Parsa has, when really Parisa has the same struggles, right,
(05:53):
And so we put out there what we want the
world to see, not really necessarily the way our life really.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Is, no exactly. And that's when you know, like when
I meet people too and I'll tell them more about
myself and they're like shocked, and I'd be so I'm like,
why are you shocked? And any of that you know
from your social media.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
I'm like, I want to know more about your rocks.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
Oh, thank you for asking.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
I got a piece of I got a big piece
of Fool's gold pirite. If you need it to add
to your collection, I got a huge piece. Remember from that,
you got quartz? Yes, I got nothing crystal.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Yeah. I love rocks. I just think they're so beautiful.
I'm more like I love the geology behind it. When
I was younger, I wanted to be a geologist, and
I loved the study of rocks, like rock formations, you
know all of that. And I would go mining down south.
There's you know, some parts like in Georgia and South
Carolina you can literally go digging for like beautiful amethysts
(06:53):
and quartz crystals.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
And did you find them?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Did you find for diamonds?
Speaker 1 (06:58):
That's not the part of the world diamonds grow? Wow?
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Uh the bugs.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
So I also love entomologies like study of insects and arachnids.
I wish like I always wanted to just be a scientist.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
When I was Wait, she is a behavior I want
this where I want to get to. You're a pediatric
behavior analyst. Tell me what that is and can I
send my grandchildren to you?
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Or so?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I work in the field of behavior analysis, and basically
it's all about behavior change, which is why I thought
I could change my acts. So I love.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Was your ex eighteen months old?
Speaker 3 (07:39):
They acted like it?
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Well, therein lies the problem. Okay, go ahead, Sorry, keep talking.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
But yes, like in my field, I work specifically with
children with autism, and we work on targeting behaviors or
skills that we either want to increase see more of.
So if it's something to do with you know, communication,
or targeting any challenging behaviors that you know disrupt their
(08:09):
quality of life, so anything from aggressive behavior, self injurius behaviors.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
So you do therapy with them to try to change
these things.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Yeah. So I work closely with like speech pathologists and
occupational therapists, and we work on just like skill development.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
And I can't believe. I cannot believe you're saying this.
My daughter's uh my my granddaughter's birthday was a couple
of days ago, and one of the children invited is
three years old and he's autistic. He was diagnosed about
two and a half years old. And I was asking
the mom exactly, it's exactly what you do. She was
saying that they but she didn't call it a pediatric
(08:51):
behavior analyst. She called it something else. But she was
saying that that it's been the best help because it
encourages socialization with other kids. And you know, he's got
his particular behavior is at least at the party, he
loves to put rocks where water is. So he was
lugging rocks, like fifty of them out of my daughter's
garden into the pool, the you know, the little children's
(09:14):
plastic pool, and and I mean he did it for
like an hour. He just kept going back and forth.
And she said that they're working on trying to diminish
those behaviors and encourage more socially, you know, playing with kids,
more social behavior. So I found it fascinating.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
Yeah, with that exactly, it's you know, well, so that
would be our target behavior and then yeah, we will
find a replacement that is uh, it has the same function,
so he you know, feels he's getting the same feeling
that he's getting when he you know, is yeah, those
rocks and water. And then we try now to associate
that so with social skills. We would want to associate
that with peer play and just kind of like, yeah,
(09:53):
promoting those social interactions and but yeah, and I love
it so much. I love I focus more with like
play based therapy, because I want to make it as
natural as possible. Yeah, and I feel like that's when
a child is most engaged.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
It doesn't it feel rewarding at the end, like when
you're working with children like that? Do you want children?
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Do you want children?
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Wait, I have to say, Susan yet another gorgeous, brilliant.
Not only is she gorgeous, I'm lovely. You are absolutely
stunningly beautiful, but she's articulate. She has a great career.
Like what is wrong with these men out there? That
was a question?
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Let me ask you something. Is there anything at all
looking back that you would have changed had to do
it again? In my life in general, doing the show,
in the show, any regrets or any.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
I never live with regrets because I look at everything
as just like a little bit experience, like, oh well,
next time, we won't do that.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Next time I'll do better, or I'll try to do better.
And that's all we can ask you.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
You got to make those mistakes in order to, you know,
to know in the future. Yeah, I think the main
thing was I definitely I'm I'm not you know, the
type to like interject myself into drama ever, but I
think towards the end I did mentally, so I you know,
I told myself, oh, you know, we're not going to
(11:24):
get in on you know, any of that, but mentally
I did, and I think that interacted me because now
looking back, there were a few times like my one
on one moments with Grant, like I wasn't prepared and
you have to be prepared because you're only given so
much time and use that time wisely. Then it's just
like you're.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
Not able to wait a minute. I want to know,
because I kind of agree with you on my season
with Gary, but I'm curious, what do you mean you
weren't prepared? Like can you give me some specifics?
Speaker 3 (11:51):
So I feel like every like going in on every
group date or you know, during the cocktail hour, you
want to be prepared with Okay, I'm you know, going
to go grab him to talk. I want to talk
about this today and I want to make sure he
knows this about me, and I was. I felt very
on top of it throughout my whole time there, except
(12:12):
that last my last week, and I would ask myself
as I'm walking to go grab him, I'd be like, oh, wait,
what am I going to tell him.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Now, and I start checking guessing, yeah, and.
Speaker 3 (12:24):
I just wasn't, you know, as prepared, And I felt like, yeah,
there was, you know, a couple of times, I just
I missed my opportunity to tell him more about me
and more about you know, what I'm looking for in
my future.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
So that's the question, what are you looking for? That
is right where I was headed? What are you looking
for in a partner?
Speaker 3 (12:41):
So, and that's a great question. I love. So I'm
a you know, a woman of reflection and emotional awareness.
This year was a huge year for me. I turned
thirty and I you know, I'm doing that reflection asking myself. Okay,
you know, I'm what do I want and my forever partner?
And usually you know those characteristics and you know, all
(13:06):
that stays the same, but there was a new thing.
Now I'm noticing that I'm like looking for and it's
those qualities of like and I use this word as
my umbrella term, but I'm now looking for a man
that has those daddy.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Vibes to be not your daddy, you mean dad? Well,
the Oedipus complex is alive and well you mean you
mean a daddy for your children?
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Like I want to look at you know, you know,
the man that I'm with, and like I could hear
my future child saying, don't worry, my dad will handle that,
or my dad will be there and it will have
and you.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Know what that is. That is again, so many attributes
that you're looking for. I'm looking for, Susan's found, you know,
a man that makes us laugh, a man who's honest,
a man who's trustworthy, a man who's fun, who makes
me laugh, who has high eq all of those things.
But the one difference at your age is we don't
(14:08):
want children. We're done with that, so we're looking for someone.
I would say the correlated corollary topic is we're looking
for men that can integrate into our families so we
can get to their children. App But you're wise to
consider that because that's an important aspect of a partner.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
I mean, I know, I remember back when people would say,
write a list, write a list, like you don't go
out in the world with this list, you know you
kind of Sometimes chemistry is chemistry, right, So when you
came off the show, when we first started chatting today,
you've shared that trying to date. Did you go back
on social media or dating apps?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Yeah, And it was just one of those things where
I really did. I tried. But I think also too,
it's just maybe my that I'm in, you know, like
I was born and raised here and I left for
a few years, but and then I came back. I
think I might just need.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
To get up come to Austin, Prisa, I will set
you up. There so many single guys here in your
age group. It's crazy willing.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
So how about paradise. If you're asked, would you be willing? Oh?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Yes, okay, who do you want to see?
Speaker 3 (15:21):
You know, this is another thing. I am just so superstitious.
I feel like I could just I can name someone.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
And then ruin all chances.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
And then also too, it's fun to be surprised. I
really don't know many like bachelor alum men, and I
you know, like, of course I started looking up guys,
but then I'm like, you know what, like.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
I'm not doing this.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
If you went, what would your strategy be, I'm serious
to meet guys to pick what's your strategy? Because if
I get to I'm taking your strategy go ahead.
Speaker 3 (16:02):
So my strategy, I feel like, honestly it's when you
live in the moment and you're just having fun. I
want to just I think my personality just being playful.
It's attracts like you know, you know everyone, everyone wants
to be a part of that positivity and you know,
absolutely and absolutely I agree, But.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Are you gonna are you? I agree with all that,
and Susan and I are very positive and we're fun
loving and people like to be around us because we
laugh a lot more fun. Having said that, when you
get there, if you go, there's gonna be from you know,
from other seasons, there's gonna be a slew of handsome,
twelve pack guys strolling on the beach and new one's
(16:45):
coming all the time. So how you know what's your radar?
How do you pick out?
Speaker 2 (16:49):
How do you so if you're attracted to somebody, you'll
walk you're okay with.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Them? Yeah, oh my goodness, you got to shoot your
out nowadays.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
I mean, you know, sitting do you feel about another
girl like in the same person? Would that be I mean,
you just did the show that was different than Yeah,
I know.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
It's so different. I if another girl liked the same guy,
it would have to you know, I feel like that
would just be a conversation, which would be just an
easy conversation.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
It's like, I'm going to give you some good news.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Do you want to tell us?
Speaker 1 (17:23):
I'm going to give you some good news if I go.
If I end up going, you don't have to worry
about me. I will not be going after the same
guys that you would be going after. I just wanted
to think I'll support you in your adventure.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Same.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
What did you think of the end of your show?
Were you surprised to be picked or did you kind
of know? I was really torn with the list too.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
I mean, yeah, I know it was it definitely, I guess.
You know, it's hard because when so I wasn't there,
you know, during you know, hometowns or you know, the
final three all that. It's it's easier when you're there
and you have like the inside look throughout, you know,
(18:04):
like you can see, you know, the relationship developing, you
can see connections. But then you know, since I wasn't there,
then of course, yeah, like you know, it's a surprise
because the way where I left off, I'm you know,
I left off like, okay, these are the relationships that
are established. I'm sure it's going to go this way.
(18:25):
But I wasn't there to see how things unfolded after Hometown,
because so much, you know, changes after you know, just
one little thing.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
So wait, who who? Who were you really good friends
with on the show and are you still good friends
with them? You know? Tell us, like, I want to
hear about the relationships other than in touch with everybody?
Speaker 3 (18:43):
Yeah, yeah, with everybody. I I'm really good. I feel
like with all the girls, you know, we try. We've
been hanging out as much as possible.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
We were.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Me, Sarafina, Ali, Joe, Kelsy, we were in Miami and
then that was before a fr Then we all everyone
met up in La Sarah, Fina, Me, Dina and Latia.
We're just in Chicago as well, after a far. I
think we're all too like in that travel time, you
(19:17):
know what.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I Yeah, girls trips and just yeah, it's fun.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
It's fun. It's so fun. Yeah, it's fun to see
everybody and and and you know, just catch up and
it's do you feel like the relationships are different off
the show with the girls.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
All so much closer now for sure, and a lot
of us too. It's you know, when you're always miked
up and the cameras are there. I feel like there's
always some you know, has everyone's a little bit hesitant
to speak up about things. It's just now it's like
we're you know nothing, No.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
You speak freely.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
All right.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
So now we're going to get into our advice portion
of our episode, and we want you to be a
part of this. So people write in question, some give
their name, some are anonymous, and we'd like your two
cents on it, if you will your advice. Okay, alrighty,
We're going to start it off with the question of
(20:11):
the day.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
All right, here we go. All right, what advice do
you have for anyone struggling with self love and confidence?
What says you? You have some good advice, Pertce.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
I'm sure, yeah, self love and confidence. My advice is
do not seek that reassurance elsewhere. It comes from within.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
And that's very good, exactly the truth.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
And my one tip because this was one thing that
I did after a really tough breakup. I was living
by the phrase romanticize your life. So if you know
I'm a single woman, I love alone. I'm going to
make myself dinner tonight. I'm going to make the best spread,
the best presentation. I don't need someone to be sitting
with me eating to you know, make that beautiful.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
I love that. I love that. And the thing PRI
say is I say this all the time, people say,
you know, I want to find the perfect man who
will love me. I believe that you have to love
yourself before you can even think about loving someone else and.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Be comfortable in your own skin.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
You can't pretend to be somebody else. And that was
one of my issues. When I met somebody and got
started in a relationship, I would jump into their world
and like everything that they liked, and six months down
the road, you're like, what about me? What about what
I want to do? You forget your own things, you know,
because you're excited and it's new. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
What do you think about confidence prices? Do you think confidence?
Do you think a woman who exudes confidence confidence is
attractive to a guy or how do you feel about that?
Speaker 3 (21:50):
I think that's attracted to a secure guy, and there's
not many of them. Yeah, and I think that's a
great way to weave them out too. I mean, if
you see a guy who's an issue with how confident
and independent you are, then that's just someone that you
don't you know?
Speaker 1 (22:06):
I think it's true.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Yeah, it is all right. Now it's time to get
into our listeners writing questions for today and Farisa. Are
you ready to dish out some advice?
Speaker 3 (22:15):
Oh? I'm ready?
Speaker 2 (22:17):
Okay, this is from anonymous ladies. I found out one
of my best friends is the owner of a social
media account that's been sending me hate comments for years?
What do I do? Here's the story. The other night,
my friend group and I were out getting drinks. My
phone died, so I asked my best friend Ali if
(22:41):
I could use her phone to show everyone at TikTok.
So she handed me her phone and went to grab
us another round while I looked for the video. Well,
so you forgot to switch back to her real profile
and yeah, I checked the page's activity to confirm and
it really was her. She came back before I could
(23:03):
find a video, so I just changed the subject. What
do I do now? I don't want to be her
friend anymore, obviously, but I really don't want to lose
my group over this. How do I navigate this?
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Thanks?
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Ladies, Wow, it's better than me that she slept on it.
I'd be there.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
No, it's always smart to sleep.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Always smart to think before yes.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
So my advice I always ask first when someone's asking,
you know, advice, I always ask what end result are
you looking for? And from there, yeah, you will know
how to navigate to get there. So she doesn't want
to be her friend anymore, which I'm glad to hear
that because that is not a friend. But it is
hard because you share the same friend group. So you know,
(23:58):
I feel like with that, it's asking yourself questions are
you okay? You know, with acknowledging you know this is
the situation, bringing it to her attention and just saying
like I just this is not what I want in
my life.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
And so I you know, I would you ask her why?
Why would you do that to me? You've been sending
me hate mail from a fake account?
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Yeah, well wait a minute, wait a minute, wait, but
Paris said all that truth is but pric well, you
wouldn't address it right then and there, would you? Because
I wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (24:30):
No, because also to the setting, if you want to
recognize to the setting, it's like, okay, this is time
and place. I don't think we would you know, would
be productive for us to like, you know, handle this
and I don't think I would get any of the
answers that I'd be looking for in this situation right
now too. But again it's just asking yourself. You know,
what's that result you're looking for? If you really don't
want to, you know, break up this friend group, lose
(24:51):
these friends, then you would have to ask yourself, are
you able to tolerate then her being present? And you know,
just you guys are still a friend group. But you
have to tell yourself, Okay, this is just someone who I'm.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
The perfect keep them on the periphery. I always say,
don't ask someone that. I always say, don't ask a
question that you either know the answer to or you
don't want the answer to.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
So nobody else feels like I do right now, like
I'm in I put myself in that moment. Yes, she
goes off to get drinks. I'm reading it. All your
friends are standing around. I'm in shock.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Yeah, but you're not going to bring it up, Susan
right then and there, I hope you will.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
She comes back, I'm going to hold it there and say,
do you want to explain this in front of her friends? Oh?
Speaker 3 (25:37):
Yes, I would, I know you I would, I know
you know I will admit that would that would steel good,
It would really.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
But what it gets you the ultimately the result you want.
That's always you know, what's the end game? Like you said,
so what's it? But you know what this whole conversation
brings me when earlier in the in the podcast, we
were talking to you about people say they're surprised about
(26:06):
when they meet you in comparison to what you put
out on social media. What do those people say, because
I'd be curious, like this is the kind of thing
when people have hidden accounts and such. So tell me
what people say that it's surprising about you that I'm.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
You know, because I'm always posting the glitz and the
glamd because you know, don't get me wrong, I love
you know, getting dulled up.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
When you're like yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
I love that When they see that, that's I think
that's all that they view me as is.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
Like, you know, another pretty face, a pretty girl up.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
Make up, you know, materialistic, superficial. You know, those words
are always like thrown in, but I mean, I am, yeah,
I think that's only just like the tip of the
iceberg of you know, what I want to be shown.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Don't you think people who are who are thoughtful, who
you know, understand social media would say that's just one
aspect of her. I mean, I want to give people
credit and say they would see that you're a beautiful,
charming person, but you also so many other sides. Maybe
I'm wrong, but yeah, so you're saying people will say
(27:13):
that you're just this glamour girl. That's how they describe you.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
Yeah, and I think the majority of the feedback i'd get,
you know, it's that which is it's fine because I
know too, Like you know, the people that are close
to me in my circle, it's they know who I am,
I know you.
Speaker 1 (27:29):
Yeah, that's I always say that. It's it's I don't
care what the bots on social media say. I don't
care really what anyone says about me. The people who
know me are the ones I care about.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
People in your life. I mean, like this is like
another world. That's right, it it's like that world's gone.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
I'll tell you. When we were on The Golden Bachelor,
I miss my phone at all. I never missed it.
The only thing I missed was I knew when I
got off the show, I had to deal with the
thousands of emails that had come in that I had
to delete once I got off the show, but I
did not miss it because I was in the moment.
People got to see the real me, so I loved that.
(28:07):
I loved it. Well, Anonymous, you let us know. Here's
the long and short of it. I would not bring
the other friends into it. Deal with it quietly by yourself.
Get a resolution that you can live with and let
us know.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
Let us and I wish you luck and I feel
for you, honey, that's that's yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Yeah, it's terrible. It is horrible, but social media sometimes isn't.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
Yeah, yeah, regardless if you know, if it's a boyfriend
that you know betrays your best friend, like the best
if your world just.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Less friends are even worse. I mean that's your best friend, Yeah,
for her, and I'm sure it happens a lot.
Speaker 1 (28:45):
Yeah, Well, let us know. Okay, So Parisa, you know
we've gotten to know you a little better. We want
to open the floor to you. Advice for us, questions,
anything you want to know about us, or advice you
up for us.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Okay, I have a question sure in this has to
do with dating, So like with your approach with dating,
how much has it changed compared to you know, when
you were, you know, in your twenties, compared to now, Like,
how much had that dating world changed?
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Because then we met people outdoors at a social event,
a bar, restaurant wherever. Now you have to be on
not have to. But most of it comes from dating apps.
I married people for a living, and nine times out
of ten, the couple that is getting married met online. Yeah,
(29:37):
I think the way of the world, I.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Think there's a I think Susan's right, but I also
think Presidrea is a push to meet people more organically.
I can say for me, I got married very young.
I was twenty when I got married by only ten
days and I was married almost forty six years. So
she didn't date, so I didn't date it. But I
(29:59):
can tell you the way I date now has dramatically
changed for me since I came off the show. I mean,
I'm I've always been pretty clear about who I am,
but I don't you know, people say, oh, give them
a couple of days. Yeah I can. I'm pretty good
at sussing out pretty quickly, and so I'm out and
(30:24):
you know what I have learned. It's almost the opposite
for me pretty soon because I didn't date much, so
I had a very steep learning curve after my husband died.
I'm learning how to date, and so I have learned
very quickly. A red flag is a red flag. You
never turn them green. You know. A yellow flag is
something to pay attention to. It could go either way.
(30:45):
I mean those sort of things that we talk about
all the time. I've had to learn really quickly.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
And also we look for different things.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Right, I said, we're not looking for daddy. You know
we're not looking I'm looking for I'm looking for a
guy who would have kind of fun with, to travel with,
to have shared experiences with, to to be part of
my family, be part of his. Like Susan, I say
it ad nauseam, like this is the last chapter of
our lives. I wanted to be the longest, the happiest
(31:16):
and the best. Yeah and so yeah, But I do
think it dating will change for you as you get older.
I it's your dating for you different now than when
you were twenty. I'm guessing it is that she knows.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
She's looking for something different like her.
Speaker 1 (31:31):
Well, I know change, but do you still care about uh,
you know, the fun, the humor? Would you move for example,
would you move.
Speaker 3 (31:38):
Ok No, definitely. I think that was another thing too.
You know, a few years ago, I was always telling myself,
I'm looking for someone to grow old with. But then
I'm like, you know, I think life, I mean, especially
during you know, today's climate is so it's just so tough,
and you know, there's so much negativity, and it's just
I'm now I'm looking for someone I want to stay
(31:59):
young with. I want to have fun with and be good. Yeah, like,
we don't have to your DMS.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Blowing up after the show where you're getting all kinds
of messages from strange men and no, not.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
I'm thinking I'm like, oh, like, if this doesn't work out,
like you know, it might meet someone you know through
Instagram and.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Yeah, yeah. Well.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
Susan made a very good point on another podcast for
our age. Men are not on social media. They don't
know how to DM. They they're not on Instagram. They
might be on Facebook and they know how to have
the like button. But at your age, everybody's on social media,
and that has its good side and it's bad size right,
it's good at that At the same time.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
I feel like it's tough now too, because I think
a lot of people rely on that and they hide
behind their screen. So now we're in public, no one's
coming up to me or anyone.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
I mean, I just well, wait, pray. So what do
you do for fun? Because that's another way to organically
meet people. How do you get out?
Speaker 3 (32:57):
I love traveling on the weekends as often as I can,
going to new cities, you know, trying new restaurants. I'm
a huge foodie, so I love trying new.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
Travel by friends that you go with. Yeah, that is
some funny. I was going to say, do you travel
by yourself? And Susan said, do you travel with a
group of friends?
Speaker 3 (33:16):
Were also like having friends in other states is amazing because.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Then you just try to visit. Yeah, it's great.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Do you ask your friends to fix you like friends?
If you have friends in Georgia, do you ask them
to fix you up with guys?
Speaker 3 (33:29):
Yeah, like I'll ask if they know when you want to.
And then I just that hasn't worked out either, and
then everyone everyone's getting engaged now, and so it's.
Speaker 2 (33:38):
Like that must put a little something in you too.
You're like, why not me?
Speaker 1 (33:43):
My daughter said that That's exactly what my daughter said
when she was thirty, what's wrong and my daughters as
pretty as you are present. She was like, what's wrong
with me? You know? And I said, there's nothing.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Wrong with you. Expect that you met them.
Speaker 1 (33:55):
Well, yeah, well yeah, she met a guy. They were
out on a boat on the lake in Austin with
a bunch of friends and he was he was, it
was his boat and so she chatted with him, and
she at first she thought it was sort of pompous. Anyway,
they fell in love and they're married and they have
a baby. So, but she didn't meet himuntil she was
thirty one.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
I think, okay, you have plenty of time.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
Don't rush it.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
And then you rush especially too. It's just like you
those things you really you don't want to rush that.
That's forever.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Would you relocate you if you fell in love with
somebody that of course?
Speaker 3 (34:29):
My family everyone's all spread out all over.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
Yeah, Where's where's your dream place? What's next for traveling?
Speaker 3 (34:35):
For travel? So I chew Montana on Utah.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
I want to open to both the gorgeous.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:43):
I want to do a hiking trip, horseback riding, just
anything with the outdoors nature.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Are you scarce?
Speaker 2 (34:50):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (34:50):
I love Yeah, I love.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Utah's got some great scheme, yes, and so does Montana.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Actually, well, well you know what, I think you're absolutely stunning.
You are will fun. I'm the right person you will.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
Both you ladies as well. I thank you so much,
and I hope.
Speaker 2 (35:06):
You go to Paradise.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Yeah, I hope to paradise.
Speaker 3 (35:12):
Wow. And that would be changing opportunity, you.
Speaker 1 (35:15):
Know, life change, that's right, and you know what, it's
an opportunity and you never know what comes from up.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Don't miss it. You don't want to miss it, all right, guys,
believe it or not. That does it for this episode
of Bachelor Happy. Thank you so much person for coming
and just have good advice and just sharing your life
with us. We wish you all.
Speaker 1 (35:38):
We loved having you, We loved getting to chat with you. Parisa.
Really you are lovely and intelligent and you are the
full package. So thanks for sharing part of your day
with us.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
And then thank you for wanting to be a daddy.
You know, have a family with a beautiful wife and
a child.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
You know where we're celebrating here, Parsa. We're doing it
for you a dm or but listen, thank you all
for joining us, and please be sure to follow Bachelor
Happy Hour. We have new episodes coming out every week
that you don't want to miss.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
And make sure you submit those questions. You can go
to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or just dm
us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
It's a perfect way to do it. And don't forget
to DM Parsa because she's a catch. Okay, listen to
Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or
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great week, Joe
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
Ridiculous History
History is beautiful, brutal and, often, ridiculous. Join Ben Bowlin and Noel Brown as they dive into some of the weirdest stories from across the span of human civilization in Ridiculous History, a podcast by iHeartRadio.