February 24, 2025 • 20 mins
Hello and welcome back to another season of the podcast! I’m so grateful to be back and even more grateful for your continued support. I wanted to kick things off with an episode revealing some upcoming changes that’ll be happening in my life – everything from my music career, family planning and cutting back on alcohol. 2025 is going to be a wild ride and I can’t wait for you all to come along with me.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi, guys, Welcome to season four of my podcast, Cheekis
In Chill. Thanks to you, guys, those that listen and
come back every week twice a week to listen to
my podcast, I am so grateful.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
If you've been here since season one, if you came
on a little later, if this is your first time
listening to my podcast, welcome. We receive you with lots
of love and open arms. I'm excited to have you.
I'm excited to have all of you. If it wasn't
for you guys listening in, I would not have a
podcast and I would not be on season four.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So we got to celebrate that. I have missed you, guys.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
I hope that you missed me, and I wanted to
start this season talking about what I have in store
for twenty twenty five and just be completely, one hundred
percent honest with you guys, the way I always am.
That's what Cheeky's and Chill is all about, and I
don't intend to change that even if it is new year.
So I'm gonna let you guys know what's on my mind,
(01:04):
in my heart, and what I'm looking forward to.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
So here we go. It's the first episode.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
For those of you that don't know, you know, there's
Cheeky's and then there's Jane. Janay is my birth name.
I think I've shared it plenty of times here on
the podcast, but if I haven't, you know, Jenney means
precious gift from God. And I feel like I've been
in a way not neglecting Jeney because I always do
(01:33):
my best to like stay centered and stay true to myself.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
And I'm both Jenay and Cheeky's. I mean, I can't
change that.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
But I've been called cheeky since I was very young,
since I was little, and for a long time, that's
what I thought my name was. Until I started going
to school and I was like, oh my god, my
name is Jenney and not really Jena. It was actually Jane.
But that's a whole other story and we'll get into that.
I've talked about it here on the podcast. But anyways,
my point is that for the past I don't know,
(02:01):
I want to say for sure ten years, I have
been very, very focused heavily on Cheeky's and growing my
career as a singer and solidifying myself as a recording artist.
And I feel like I've done a pretty good job,
thank God, and thank God for the people that listen
(02:23):
to my music.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
And stream it.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
It may not be crazy ass streams like other artists,
but I'm so grateful because the people that follow me
on the music platforms are the ones that are definitely
listening in So that means a lot to me, and
I'm very grateful. But I feel like in a way,
I haven't catered as much as i'd like to Jinee
(02:47):
to like who I am at the core of myself.
That sounds weird at the core of myself, but yes,
at my core and anyways, So I just feel like
this year it's more about Jinae and to be completely
honest with you guys, I don't necessarily know what that
looks like fully, And on my New Year's post I
put that I was very honest. I you know, there's
(03:10):
no other way I know how to be. But I said, hey,
I'm starting the new year on the right foot, But
twenty twenty five, I'm not necessarily ready for you, but
I will be. And that's how I feel. This year
already started off with so many things emotionally heavy. I
feel like the energy has been dense everywhere I speak
(03:31):
to people and they're all feeling the same way. So
I am kind of like at a crossroads. I don't
necessarily know exactly what my year looks like. I have plans,
plans as far as becoming a mother, and I hope
that comes to fruition, and I'm just praying about that.
So that's kind of like the only thing that I'm like, Okay,
I really want to focus on this this year, and
(03:54):
I think maybe until that happens, I'll have more clarity
as far as my career goes.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
But here on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
We're gonna continue to do what we have been doing,
and it is a podcast about health and beauty and
spirituality and feeling your best and becoming the best version
of yourself. So as I'm doing that myself, tapping into
this new soft Girl era, should I say, I want
(04:22):
to share that with you guys, And on the podcast,
I want to have professionals and experts on certain topics,
maybe becoming a mother or nutrition, you know, mental health.
There are so many things like I have questions about
and I really really want to tap in to that
(04:42):
space on the podcast this year or this season. Should
I say, I'm going to continue to share my personal
life with you guys as I have been doing. Something
always happens in my life, and I'm gonna continue to
be honest and open with you guys, because one thing
I do have clear and has not changed is the
(05:04):
fact that I am meant to change the world one
heart at a time, and my podcast is definitely an
essential part of that. So again, thank you guys for
listening in and being here and being open to listening
to my thoughts, to my experiences, to my aspirations to
(05:24):
this new era that I don't even know what it
looks like, Guys, I really don't. And I had mentorship
the other day and I told my mentor that and
he said it is okay to say I don't know.
And I was like, yeah, you're right, because I've always
been the type of woman that's like, I have a plan.
I know what my year is going to look like.
(05:44):
I know I'm going to go on tour. I know
that I'm gonna, you know, bring out two albums. And
I always have a plan and I love schedules and
I love to do lists, and right now, for the
first time I think in a long time, if not
in my life. I am just taking it day by
day and if I feel like resting, I'm gonna rest.
And if I feel like getting shit done, I'm gonna
do that. Like I don't know, something is definitely shifting.
(06:07):
And I said this on one of my episodes with Roddy,
and she's like a spiritual, like amazing woman. If you
guys did not listen to that episode in season three,
please go listen to it. But I felt a shift.
I felt it. I felt it coming. I felt it
like the end of last year. And I'm like, something
is changing. I don't know what it looks like. And
I'm just embracing that right now and I'm okay with that,
(06:31):
and I'm going to share it with you guys as
I go. And that's just the truth. We're gonna figure
this out together. What I keep hearing during my time
of like meditation is going back to basics, going back
to that why I started everything that I do, the music,
(06:56):
the book, like everything that I that I that I do,
Like I don't want to forget the why.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
I just I don't know. Like I feel like.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Spirituality, like a different version of myself is getting ready
to like be born and it's kind of crazy because
I want to give life to another human being, so
I feel like in order to do that, I want
to make sure that I am prepared in every way
and that I am my best self. So I don't know,
(07:27):
that's what I'm feeling. And of course I still want
to do music. Absolutely, there's still events that we're going
to be doing, but I'm not going to go as
hard or as heavy, and I'm not I don't want
to feel pressured in any way now more than ever.
If I want to say no to something, I'm going
to say no and be okay with it, like that's it.
(07:47):
And the first thing I did this year in regards
to that is saying no to some like Grammy events.
Because I did go to the Grammys. Guys, we were
nominated for an American Grammy. You know, I'm so excited.
We didn't, but I was happy to be there. But
before that, there were events that were very good for
me to be at, you know, networking and you know,
(08:09):
being in that space, especially because it's like you know,
it's the American side of things, and of course making
connections is important. But I wanted to spend time with
my nieces and nephews and my husband and I did that,
and I maybe my management wasn't too happy about it,
but they respected it. But before I'd be like, well, no,
(08:29):
I have to be there. Okay, fine, I'll do it.
And I don't want to do that this year. I
really want to put like my family first, my husband,
like I want, I want to spend more.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Time with my friends. I just I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
I even get really like emotional thinking about it because
I've been working so damn hard for the past, for
my whole life in reality, but especially since my mom
passed away twelve years ago and for sure for the
last ten years that I'm like, I just want to
go back to me, to my soul, to what I'm
meant to do here and make a difference and do
(09:03):
more philanthropy work. And I really, really I'm craving that
and taking a step back from music, not stepping away
because some people were kind of like from one of
the last episodes in season three, I kind of talked
about it, you know, the New Year's one, and people
were like, oh my god, Jesus is going to retire
from music, and I'm like, no, that's not what I said.
(09:24):
I'm taking just a step back, which means I'm able
to look in I want to fall in love again
with the process of making art, and I also feel
like I want to write different type of music and
I want the sound to be different without thinking of
awards and recognition. Although all that feels amazing, don't get
(09:45):
me wrong, But now I'm like, I want to sing
about something different. I'm in a happy place, thank God,
and I hope it stays that way for the rest
of my life. But I want to talk about love
and about how can I inspire people and all the
things that I talk about on the podcast and all
that I am like on social media, like how can
I bring that into my music? So in order to
(10:05):
do that, I need to step back, take a little break.
There's nothing wrong with taking breaks. I feel like breaks
are definitely necessary because when you're in like sometimes it
kind of fogs your vision. And I feel like it
did for a little bit because especially last year, we
went hard and I told myself I wanted to go
(10:26):
hard in twenty twenty four, careful what you asked for,
because I was like, oh my gosh, and it was
very successful and I don't regret anything, but I was mentally, physically, emotionally,
spiritually exhausted, and I'm like, if I don't take a
little break, I'm going to burn out and I'm going
to resent my career and I don't want to do that.
(10:46):
I'm still going to be present. I still want to
be on social media and share my life and share
things with you guys. But I don't know if I
want to necessarily tour as hard as I did the
past ten years, you know. So that's just that, and
again we're going to figure it out together, you know.
I'm taking it literally day by day, month by month,
you know. Right now, I feel like I'm on a
soul break, on a soul break to kind of become
(11:12):
my best soul child. I was talking to my mentor,
you know, and we talked about what this year because
last year was fulfillment. I always have like a word
for every year. So last year was fulfillment. This year
it's rejoice, Rejoice, reset, recalibrate. It's kind of like that
kind of vibe, and with that comes Yes, I want
(11:34):
to take a break from alcohol. I've been wanting to
do this for a very very very long time, and
I take long breaks. I do forty days. I did
ninety days last year, and I know that as I'm
tapping into this healthier version of myself, not only mentally
and spiritually and emotionally, but physically, and I want to
(11:57):
prepare my body to have a child. I know what
alcohol does. Since I know this, this.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Is how I know.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
That there has to be a change, because I know
how toxic, how poisonous alcohol is for our bodies. I
want to start doing things that are going to increase
my life, not decrease my life, because guys, whether I
want to admit it or not, and I'm better with
this now. I'm going to be forty this year, and
(12:29):
I want to live long and I'm going to have
hopefully a child, you know, so I'm having a child
later in my life, which there is a study they
just sent me this. Guys, anyone that has a child
after forty just saying has a I don't know what percentage,
but a larger percentage of like living till one hundred.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
I don't necessarily know if I want to live to
one hundred, but I'm just.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Saying, you know, it made me feel a little bit better,
But I definitely want to have stopped thinking about out
what makes me happy right now in the moment, and
it's like, you know, that instant gratification like alcohol, because
alcohol gives you that dopamine and that serotonin and it's like, oh.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
My god, I feel really good right now.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
And it's like, yeah, you know, I want to stop
doing that because that's a disservice to myself, you know,
and start thinking about, Okay, I know that this will
make me happy now, but how is it going to
affect me tomorrow and in my future. That's really really
loving yourself. And I'm a person that I'm like, I'm
all about self care and self love, but that's a
(13:31):
huge part of my life that has had a bit
of a hold on me.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
And I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
I enjoyed that gay, I enjoy social drinking and all
that stuff, but it's not good for me. And that's
my personal opinion. That's my personal choice, and I really
really want to get a hold of that.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
This year.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I'm already starting by drinking less the month of February.
I gave up red meat, I gave up coffee, and
you know, making it easy on you know, the alcohol,
like really practicing my willpower. But I need to like
I want to cut it off completely. It's again a
lot easier said than done. I love saying that, but
(14:12):
it's true. But that is one of my goals this year.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
You know, like, for instance, the gym. Sometimes there's days
where I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't want to go.
It's tough, like my trainer kicks my ass. But then
I start thinking, now, how am I going to feel
after because there's so I wake up really early to meditate,
to like pray the whole thing, to prep my day
before I go work out. So sometimes I'm like, oh
my gosh, I'm so tired. I want to text him
(14:36):
and tell him, you know what, I don't feel good today.
But then I'm like, I say a little prayer. I'm like, God,
give me the strength to get out of this bed,
and then I'm like, you know what, I'm going to
feel so good afterwards. I want to do more of that,
because yes, a lot of things that are good for
us guys don't necessarily feel great in the moment, but
afterwards you feel freaking accomplished. And I love that feeling
of accomplishment, and I want to get addicted to that.
(14:58):
Feeling that after feeling not the right now, feeling okay,
right now, I feel good right now, I'm gonna do this.
I'm gonna drink and I'm gonna feel good right now,
But then I feel like shit the next day because
I don't. Honestly, my body's not taking alcohol the way
it used to, like it gives me a headache, like
I'm just like, okay, I think my body's even like
rejecting it. So I really need to tap into that,
and I need you guys to help me. So we're
(15:19):
gonna probably speak to an expert about alcohol so that
we can all learn together the effects of alcohol, because
it's poison, guys, it really is. And also if we're
not careful, it can make us do really bad things
and make bad choices. We'll talk about that in an episode,
but that's just me personally.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
That's my choice.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I'm not telling everyone to do that, but I think
it's important for us to be informed, and that's what
I want to do. I want to have those hard
conversations and face those hard conversations that perhaps in the
past I've been you know, putting on the back burner
or ignoring because I don't necessarily want to know because
I kind of know. But if I know more than
hopefully you know, I'll be able to just really cut
(15:59):
back or cut everything.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
For twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
At the end of twenty twenty five, i'd like to
say I will be a mommy. I have shared a
lot here on the podcast how I've gone back and forth,
you know, with the thought of becoming a mom. For
a long time. I didn't want to be a mother.
When I met at Media my husband, one of our
very first conversations was, Hey, I don't ever want to
(16:29):
get married again. I don't want to have kids. Are
you cool with that? He was like, hell, yeah, that's great.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Neither do I. And here we are.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
We're married and planning a baby, and I feel good
about it. I haven't told a lot of people this,
so they're going to find out, you know, with this episode.
But I am excited. And the more and more I
think about it, the more excited I get. And I
know that I'm going to be a great mother, God willing,
and I think this everything happened the way it was
(17:01):
supposed to happen. I can honestly say I'm excited to
turn forty and to be able to look back on
my life and say, Wow, I've accomplished so much. I've
done so much, I've traveled, I've lived, you know, and
now I'm ready to live my life for a little person.
And this will be like the biggest project, accomplishment, whatever
(17:21):
you want to call it, of my life. And I've
never felt more ready. And of course I'm scared, of course,
because I'm stepping into the unknown, but I also kind
of know because I've raised my siblings. But at the
end of twenty twenty five, I hope that I can
tell you, guys, oh my gosh, not only am I pregnant,
but I have a baby. Because if we start soon, guys,
(17:44):
then by the end of the year, I'll have a
little baby. So that is the biggest thing I want
to accomplish this year, to be honest, that's the only
thing I can really think about right now. And the
crazy thing is that I've been working on a children's
book and if you guys haven't seen on my social media,
I put it and you know, it's all kind of
coming together and I did not plan it this way.
(18:05):
It's called The Girl who Sings to Bees, So it's
all kind of just coming together. So I'm just I'm
happy and I am hopeful and optimistic for twenty twenty five.
It did not start in the best of ways. I
had a very heavy heart all of January a little
bit of February. But now, you know what, I'm feeling
better and I and I think it's all how we
(18:27):
choose to see things and look at things and do
our part in the world. And that's what I'm going
to do. I'm going to do my part what I
can do, and that'll be my way of making this
world's a better place, you know. So twenty twenty five,
now I'm ready. In the beginning of the year, I
can't say I was, but still the beginning of the year.
(18:47):
But still I'm ready. I'm more ready than I was
for sure January first. And I hope you guys are too,
and I hope that you guys are excited for this
new season of Cheeky's and Chill. I think we're going
to learn a lot together and we're going to have
some tough conversations, but with tough conversations comes growth and maturity,
and more than anything helps us and preps us for
(19:09):
becoming our best selves and anything that is worthwhile. Guys
will be uncomfortable, but when we're uncomfortable, that's when we grow.
So I am ready to grow and I hope you
guys are too.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
So that is it. That is all I have to
share for this episode.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And please tell your friends and share it and let
them know that like cheeks and Chill podcast is the
best podcast ever. And yeah, I'll catch you on the
next episode of Cheekys and Chill and don't forget dear
Cheeky's on Wednesdays.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Kay. I love you.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Guys, and I'm excited. I'm excited for this new season,
this new era that's coming for all of us. Do
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(20:02):
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Speaker 2 (20:12):
I can't wait to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
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Hi, guys, Welcome to season four of my podcast, Cheekis
In Chill. Thanks to you, guys, those that listen and
come back every week twice a week to listen to
my podcast, I am so grateful.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
If you've been here since season one, if you came
on a little later, if this is your first time
listening to my podcast, welcome. We receive you with lots
of love and open arms. I'm excited to have you.
I'm excited to have all of you. If it wasn't
for you guys listening in, I would not have a
podcast and I would not be on season four.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So we got to celebrate that. I have missed you, guys.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
I hope that you missed me, and I wanted to
start this season talking about what I have in store
for twenty twenty five and just be completely, one hundred
percent honest with you guys, the way I always am.
That's what Cheeky's and Chill is all about, and I
don't intend to change that even if it is new year.
So I'm gonna let you guys know what's on my mind,
(01:04):
in my heart, and what I'm looking forward to.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
So here we go. It's the first episode.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
For those of you that don't know, you know, there's
Cheeky's and then there's Jane. Janay is my birth name.
I think I've shared it plenty of times here on
the podcast, but if I haven't, you know, Jenney means
precious gift from God. And I feel like I've been
in a way not neglecting Jeney because I always do
(01:33):
my best to like stay centered and stay true to myself.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
And I'm both Jenay and Cheeky's. I mean, I can't
change that.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
But I've been called cheeky since I was very young,
since I was little, and for a long time, that's
what I thought my name was. Until I started going
to school and I was like, oh my god, my
name is Jenney and not really Jena. It was actually Jane.
But that's a whole other story and we'll get into that.
I've talked about it here on the podcast. But anyways,
my point is that for the past I don't know,
(02:01):
I want to say for sure ten years, I have
been very, very focused heavily on Cheeky's and growing my
career as a singer and solidifying myself as a recording artist.
And I feel like I've done a pretty good job,
thank God, and thank God for the people that listen
(02:23):
to my music.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
And stream it.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
It may not be crazy ass streams like other artists,
but I'm so grateful because the people that follow me
on the music platforms are the ones that are definitely
listening in So that means a lot to me, and
I'm very grateful. But I feel like in a way,
I haven't catered as much as i'd like to Jinee
(02:47):
to like who I am at the core of myself.
That sounds weird at the core of myself, but yes,
at my core and anyways, So I just feel like
this year it's more about Jinae and to be completely
honest with you guys, I don't necessarily know what that
looks like fully, And on my New Year's post I
put that I was very honest. I you know, there's
(03:10):
no other way I know how to be. But I said, hey,
I'm starting the new year on the right foot, But
twenty twenty five, I'm not necessarily ready for you, but
I will be. And that's how I feel. This year
already started off with so many things emotionally heavy. I
feel like the energy has been dense everywhere I speak
(03:31):
to people and they're all feeling the same way. So
I am kind of like at a crossroads. I don't
necessarily know exactly what my year looks like. I have plans,
plans as far as becoming a mother, and I hope
that comes to fruition, and I'm just praying about that.
So that's kind of like the only thing that I'm like, Okay,
I really want to focus on this this year, and
(03:54):
I think maybe until that happens, I'll have more clarity
as far as my career goes.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
But here on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
We're gonna continue to do what we have been doing,
and it is a podcast about health and beauty and
spirituality and feeling your best and becoming the best version
of yourself. So as I'm doing that myself, tapping into
this new soft Girl era, should I say, I want
(04:22):
to share that with you guys, And on the podcast,
I want to have professionals and experts on certain topics,
maybe becoming a mother or nutrition, you know, mental health.
There are so many things like I have questions about
and I really really want to tap in to that
(04:42):
space on the podcast this year or this season. Should
I say, I'm going to continue to share my personal
life with you guys as I have been doing. Something
always happens in my life, and I'm gonna continue to
be honest and open with you guys, because one thing
I do have clear and has not changed is the
(05:04):
fact that I am meant to change the world one
heart at a time, and my podcast is definitely an
essential part of that. So again, thank you guys for
listening in and being here and being open to listening
to my thoughts, to my experiences, to my aspirations to
(05:24):
this new era that I don't even know what it
looks like, Guys, I really don't. And I had mentorship
the other day and I told my mentor that and
he said it is okay to say I don't know.
And I was like, yeah, you're right, because I've always
been the type of woman that's like, I have a plan.
I know what my year is going to look like.
(05:44):
I know I'm going to go on tour. I know
that I'm gonna, you know, bring out two albums. And
I always have a plan and I love schedules and
I love to do lists, and right now, for the
first time I think in a long time, if not
in my life. I am just taking it day by
day and if I feel like resting, I'm gonna rest.
And if I feel like getting shit done, I'm gonna
do that. Like I don't know, something is definitely shifting.
(06:07):
And I said this on one of my episodes with Roddy,
and she's like a spiritual, like amazing woman. If you
guys did not listen to that episode in season three,
please go listen to it. But I felt a shift.
I felt it. I felt it coming. I felt it
like the end of last year. And I'm like, something
is changing. I don't know what it looks like. And
I'm just embracing that right now and I'm okay with that,
(06:31):
and I'm going to share it with you guys as
I go. And that's just the truth. We're gonna figure
this out together. What I keep hearing during my time
of like meditation is going back to basics, going back
to that why I started everything that I do, the music,
(06:56):
the book, like everything that I that I that I do,
Like I don't want to forget the why.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
I just I don't know. Like I feel like.
Speaker 1 (07:06):
Spirituality, like a different version of myself is getting ready
to like be born and it's kind of crazy because
I want to give life to another human being, so
I feel like in order to do that, I want
to make sure that I am prepared in every way
and that I am my best self. So I don't know,
(07:27):
that's what I'm feeling. And of course I still want
to do music. Absolutely, there's still events that we're going
to be doing, but I'm not going to go as
hard or as heavy, and I'm not I don't want
to feel pressured in any way now more than ever.
If I want to say no to something, I'm going
to say no and be okay with it, like that's it.
(07:47):
And the first thing I did this year in regards
to that is saying no to some like Grammy events.
Because I did go to the Grammys. Guys, we were
nominated for an American Grammy. You know, I'm so excited.
We didn't, but I was happy to be there. But
before that, there were events that were very good for
me to be at, you know, networking and you know,
(08:09):
being in that space, especially because it's like you know,
it's the American side of things, and of course making
connections is important. But I wanted to spend time with
my nieces and nephews and my husband and I did that,
and I maybe my management wasn't too happy about it,
but they respected it. But before I'd be like, well, no,
(08:29):
I have to be there. Okay, fine, I'll do it.
And I don't want to do that this year. I
really want to put like my family first, my husband,
like I want, I want to spend more.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Time with my friends. I just I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
I even get really like emotional thinking about it because
I've been working so damn hard for the past, for
my whole life in reality, but especially since my mom
passed away twelve years ago and for sure for the
last ten years that I'm like, I just want to
go back to me, to my soul, to what I'm
meant to do here and make a difference and do
(09:03):
more philanthropy work. And I really, really I'm craving that
and taking a step back from music, not stepping away
because some people were kind of like from one of
the last episodes in season three, I kind of talked
about it, you know, the New Year's one, and people
were like, oh my god, Jesus is going to retire
from music, and I'm like, no, that's not what I said.
(09:24):
I'm taking just a step back, which means I'm able
to look in I want to fall in love again
with the process of making art, and I also feel
like I want to write different type of music and
I want the sound to be different without thinking of
awards and recognition. Although all that feels amazing, don't get
(09:45):
me wrong, But now I'm like, I want to sing
about something different. I'm in a happy place, thank God,
and I hope it stays that way for the rest
of my life. But I want to talk about love
and about how can I inspire people and all the
things that I talk about on the podcast and all
that I am like on social media, like how can
I bring that into my music? So in order to
(10:05):
do that, I need to step back, take a little break.
There's nothing wrong with taking breaks. I feel like breaks
are definitely necessary because when you're in like sometimes it
kind of fogs your vision. And I feel like it
did for a little bit because especially last year, we
went hard and I told myself I wanted to go
(10:26):
hard in twenty twenty four, careful what you asked for,
because I was like, oh my gosh, and it was
very successful and I don't regret anything, but I was mentally, physically, emotionally,
spiritually exhausted, and I'm like, if I don't take a
little break, I'm going to burn out and I'm going
to resent my career and I don't want to do that.
(10:46):
I'm still going to be present. I still want to
be on social media and share my life and share
things with you guys. But I don't know if I
want to necessarily tour as hard as I did the
past ten years, you know. So that's just that, and
again we're going to figure it out together, you know.
I'm taking it literally day by day, month by month,
you know. Right now, I feel like I'm on a
soul break, on a soul break to kind of become
(11:12):
my best soul child. I was talking to my mentor,
you know, and we talked about what this year because
last year was fulfillment. I always have like a word
for every year. So last year was fulfillment. This year
it's rejoice, Rejoice, reset, recalibrate. It's kind of like that
kind of vibe, and with that comes Yes, I want
(11:34):
to take a break from alcohol. I've been wanting to
do this for a very very very long time, and
I take long breaks. I do forty days. I did
ninety days last year, and I know that as I'm
tapping into this healthier version of myself, not only mentally
and spiritually and emotionally, but physically, and I want to
(11:57):
prepare my body to have a child. I know what
alcohol does. Since I know this, this.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Is how I know.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
That there has to be a change, because I know
how toxic, how poisonous alcohol is for our bodies. I
want to start doing things that are going to increase
my life, not decrease my life, because guys, whether I
want to admit it or not, and I'm better with
this now. I'm going to be forty this year, and
(12:29):
I want to live long and I'm going to have
hopefully a child, you know, so I'm having a child
later in my life, which there is a study they
just sent me this. Guys, anyone that has a child
after forty just saying has a I don't know what percentage,
but a larger percentage of like living till one hundred.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
I don't necessarily know if I want to live to
one hundred, but I'm just.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Saying, you know, it made me feel a little bit better,
But I definitely want to have stopped thinking about out
what makes me happy right now in the moment, and
it's like, you know, that instant gratification like alcohol, because
alcohol gives you that dopamine and that serotonin and it's like, oh.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
My god, I feel really good right now.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
And it's like, yeah, you know, I want to stop
doing that because that's a disservice to myself, you know,
and start thinking about, Okay, I know that this will
make me happy now, but how is it going to
affect me tomorrow and in my future. That's really really
loving yourself. And I'm a person that I'm like, I'm
all about self care and self love, but that's a
(13:31):
huge part of my life that has had a bit
of a hold on me.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
And I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
I enjoyed that gay, I enjoy social drinking and all
that stuff, but it's not good for me. And that's
my personal opinion. That's my personal choice, and I really
really want to get a hold of that.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
This year.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I'm already starting by drinking less the month of February.
I gave up red meat, I gave up coffee, and
you know, making it easy on you know, the alcohol,
like really practicing my willpower. But I need to like
I want to cut it off completely. It's again a
lot easier said than done. I love saying that, but
(14:12):
it's true. But that is one of my goals this year.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
You know, like, for instance, the gym. Sometimes there's days
where I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't want to go.
It's tough, like my trainer kicks my ass. But then
I start thinking, now, how am I going to feel
after because there's so I wake up really early to meditate,
to like pray the whole thing, to prep my day
before I go work out. So sometimes I'm like, oh
my gosh, I'm so tired. I want to text him
(14:36):
and tell him, you know what, I don't feel good today.
But then I'm like, I say a little prayer. I'm like, God,
give me the strength to get out of this bed,
and then I'm like, you know what, I'm going to
feel so good afterwards. I want to do more of that,
because yes, a lot of things that are good for
us guys don't necessarily feel great in the moment, but
afterwards you feel freaking accomplished. And I love that feeling
of accomplishment, and I want to get addicted to that.
(14:58):
Feeling that after feeling not the right now, feeling okay,
right now, I feel good right now, I'm gonna do this.
I'm gonna drink and I'm gonna feel good right now,
But then I feel like shit the next day because
I don't. Honestly, my body's not taking alcohol the way
it used to, like it gives me a headache, like
I'm just like, okay, I think my body's even like
rejecting it. So I really need to tap into that,
and I need you guys to help me. So we're
(15:19):
gonna probably speak to an expert about alcohol so that
we can all learn together the effects of alcohol, because
it's poison, guys, it really is. And also if we're
not careful, it can make us do really bad things
and make bad choices. We'll talk about that in an episode,
but that's just me personally.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
That's my choice.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I'm not telling everyone to do that, but I think
it's important for us to be informed, and that's what
I want to do. I want to have those hard
conversations and face those hard conversations that perhaps in the
past I've been you know, putting on the back burner
or ignoring because I don't necessarily want to know because
I kind of know. But if I know more than
hopefully you know, I'll be able to just really cut
(15:59):
back or cut everything.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
For twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
At the end of twenty twenty five, i'd like to
say I will be a mommy. I have shared a
lot here on the podcast how I've gone back and forth,
you know, with the thought of becoming a mom. For
a long time. I didn't want to be a mother.
When I met at Media my husband, one of our
very first conversations was, Hey, I don't ever want to
(16:29):
get married again. I don't want to have kids. Are
you cool with that? He was like, hell, yeah, that's great.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Neither do I. And here we are.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
We're married and planning a baby, and I feel good
about it. I haven't told a lot of people this,
so they're going to find out, you know, with this episode.
But I am excited. And the more and more I
think about it, the more excited I get. And I
know that I'm going to be a great mother, God willing,
and I think this everything happened the way it was
(17:01):
supposed to happen. I can honestly say I'm excited to
turn forty and to be able to look back on
my life and say, Wow, I've accomplished so much. I've
done so much, I've traveled, I've lived, you know, and
now I'm ready to live my life for a little person.
And this will be like the biggest project, accomplishment, whatever
(17:21):
you want to call it, of my life. And I've
never felt more ready. And of course I'm scared, of course,
because I'm stepping into the unknown, but I also kind
of know because I've raised my siblings. But at the
end of twenty twenty five, I hope that I can
tell you, guys, oh my gosh, not only am I pregnant,
but I have a baby. Because if we start soon, guys,
(17:44):
then by the end of the year, I'll have a
little baby. So that is the biggest thing I want
to accomplish this year, to be honest, that's the only
thing I can really think about right now. And the
crazy thing is that I've been working on a children's
book and if you guys haven't seen on my social media,
I put it and you know, it's all kind of
coming together and I did not plan it this way.
(18:05):
It's called The Girl who Sings to Bees, So it's
all kind of just coming together. So I'm just I'm
happy and I am hopeful and optimistic for twenty twenty five.
It did not start in the best of ways. I
had a very heavy heart all of January a little
bit of February. But now, you know what, I'm feeling
better and I and I think it's all how we
(18:27):
choose to see things and look at things and do
our part in the world. And that's what I'm going
to do. I'm going to do my part what I
can do, and that'll be my way of making this
world's a better place, you know. So twenty twenty five,
now I'm ready. In the beginning of the year, I
can't say I was, but still the beginning of the year.
(18:47):
But still I'm ready. I'm more ready than I was
for sure January first. And I hope you guys are too,
and I hope that you guys are excited for this
new season of Cheeky's and Chill. I think we're going
to learn a lot together and we're going to have
some tough conversations, but with tough conversations comes growth and maturity,
and more than anything helps us and preps us for
(19:09):
becoming our best selves and anything that is worthwhile. Guys
will be uncomfortable, but when we're uncomfortable, that's when we grow.
So I am ready to grow and I hope you
guys are too.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
So that is it. That is all I have to
share for this episode.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
And please tell your friends and share it and let
them know that like cheeks and Chill podcast is the
best podcast ever. And yeah, I'll catch you on the
next episode of Cheekys and Chill and don't forget dear
Cheeky's on Wednesdays.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Kay. I love you.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Guys, and I'm excited. I'm excited for this new season,
this new era that's coming for all of us. Do
you need advice on love, relationships, health emails? I'm so
excited to share with you that my Cheekies and Chill
podcast will have an extra episode drop each week. I'll
be and sharing all your questions. Just leave me a
(20:02):
voice message. All you have to do is go to
speak pipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill Podcasts and
record your questions.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
I can't wait to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
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