March 3, 2025 • 21 mins
Hi, everyone! I’m coming at you this week with a brand-new episode! Today, I’ll be talking about a major life update: I’ve finally changed my last name! Tune in to hear why I decided to take Emilio’s last name, what the process was like and whether I’m happy with my decision.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Labian Benigles. Welcome to this new episode of Cheeky's and
Chill Podcast, your favorite podcast. I know, I know, I'm
so excited. Thank you guys so much for coming back
every week to listen in and learn and grow and
all that good stuff. I don't know if it's Monday
or Tuesday or what day it is, but I hope
you're having an amazing day today. I'm going to be
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talking about something that I'm excited about, but wasn't that
excited about. It's about changing my name. Guys. Now you
can call me Janey Sanchez officially. Huge step for me.
You have no idea. I've come such a long way, guys.
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So that's why I felt the need to talk about
this on my podcast, because this is my safe space.
This is where I talk about anything and everything. And
thank goodness, you guys listen, so thank you so much.
You guys know, I just got married. It'll be a
year July. So let me just kind of give you
guys a backstory before we get into like the nitty gritty.
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I have never had a middle name. I'm the only
one of my siblings that doesn't have a middle name.
I'm just Janee Marine. You know, that's the name my
mother gave me. She wanted to name me Marie because
she was really into Tina Marie, you know, the singer.
But my dad, who was very traditional, which is weird
because I feel like a lot of Mexicans or Latins
have like so many different names, right they have the
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middle last and I don't know how many last names.
But my dad said no for whatever reason, so my mom,
you know, respected it, and then after that she didn't care.
So all my siblings have middle names. There is Jackie Molina, Marin,
Michael Angelo Marine, well actually his real name is Trinidad,
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and then there's Jenica Priscilla, and then there's Johnny Angel
and I'm just Janee. So when this came up and
I decided to get married again because when I first
met Amidio, I was like, I don't. One of our
very first conversations was like, you know what, I don't
want to have kids and I don't ever want to
get married again. I'm going through divorce right now and
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I just don't. I don't want to get married again.
And he said, awesome, cool, I'm good with that. I
don't either, And that was what our relationship was like
for the first year and a half almost two, and
so as the relationship grew and you know, we fell
more in love with each other, and this idea of
getting married came about. And I think for a long
time he said, I knew I wanted to marry you,
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but I was afraid because I knew that you were
afraid or hesitant or whatever the case, or maybe even
he said not ready. So when he did ask, we
talked about very early on when we were engaged, like
would you change your name? And I think his one
of his family members asked me, and I said, oh, yeah,
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you know, I would add it, and then Nimidia stayed quiet,
and then later on he told me, He's like, I
don't want you to just hyphen it, like I want
you to like just be Jenne Sanchez. And I was like, oh,
I thought it would be Janee Marine Sanchez because I
still want to be me. And he's like, yeah, but
as a man, like I don't know, I just like
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it to just be Sanchez. Like why are you so
attached to Marine, especially if you don't have your dad
in your life. I'm like, I don't know. I just
really have always really liked my last name, guys, and
way back when I'll tell you guys something I don't
think I've ever talked about. But way back when, I
want to say, wow, at least eight oh nine, I
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don't really remember exactly what year, but my mom was here,
and my mom wanted all of us her children to
change our last names because Johnny and Jenica, the younger
ones are Lopez they have a different dad, and then
the older ones, us three are Maren. So she's like,
you know what, I really want you guys to have
Rivera And I said no, I said, you know, I
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want to keep my last name. I like it. I
just I don't know, I've always liked how Jane Marine
sounds and I feel like it's a little different, you know.
And she respected it. She said, okay, fine, I'm not
going to force you, but whoever wants to change it,
I would really appreciate it because I feel like I've
been your mother and your father. Obviously, my mom was
still here, so I was just like, it's cool, Mom,
like I love you and you're my mom and you're
my dad, and like, you know, so she respected it.
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So I never changed it, and never thought I was
going to change it, but as time went by, I
started noticing. I was like, well, you know what, Like
Emilio is a good guy, I feel like he deserves it.
I didn't do it my first marriage wouldn't even make
it to the first year of being married. But I
did tell myself. I was like, if we make it
to the first year, then okay, I'll hyphen my name.
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And he was fine with it. I was going to
like just add his last name. Never came around to it.
We got separate and divorced fairly quickly anyways, So with Emilio,
I was like, okay, I just started kind of getting
more comfortable with the idea of possibly changing my last name.
And as I got to know his family more and
I fell in love with his grandma and she became
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my grandma. I just I'm like, I love this freaking family,
like I would love to be a Sanchez. And I
just it happened so organically. And I know if I
would have told Emilio, like, I want to hyphen it,
I'm just gonna be Jene Marine Sanchez, he would have
been fine with it. But it just happened organically, Like
I just fell more and more in love, not only
with him, but with his family and the idea of
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getting remarried, I just I'm like, you know what, like
why not, you know, And then I came up with
the bright idea of saying, hey, I never changed my
last name to Rivera the way my mom had asked
me to. I was like, what if I do Jenny
Marie Sanchez. I'll remove the marine and I'll do Marie
because I've never had a middle name and I want
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to have a middle name. If I'm already going to
change my name, I might as well do that. And
that's something my mom really wanted, so I thought that's
a way of honor her. But Amlia was like, you know,
I just want you to be Janee Sanchez and I'm
like no. But we kind of like not fought because
we didn't. It wasn't like a huge conversation, but he
really felt in his heart like I just want you
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to be Jane Sanchez. Just that's it, JS, And I'm
like fine. I didn't argue. I'm like okay, But when
it all came down to it, guys, I was like,
you know what, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do it,
and I'm gonna do it quickly, like I want to
do it before we like celebrate our first year anniversary
as a married couple. And I did, you know, thank
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God for my assistant Kim, because she did all the
heavy lifting for me on the internet and she changed
the Social because I didn't even know how this worked, guys,
to be honest, so I was like, Kim, can you
just help me and figure this out. I need to
change my name and I want to prayse the media
with it. But she went on the internet, she did it.
She's like, oh, it's done. You'll be getting your new
social card soon when it came in. Because I guess
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I didn't do the process myself, I didn't really feel it.
I was like, okay, I'm like, well, what happens after this? Okay,
so after this, now that you have your Social with
your new name Jennay Sanchez, now you have to go
to the DMV and then from there you do the
passport and so on and so forth. So I was like, okay, cool. Still,
I was like, I'm still Jenny Madin all my credit cards,
my idea, everything, say Jenny Mighty, my passport, all of it.
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But guys, when I told Kim again, can you make
me an appointment with the DMV so I can finally
change my last name. It was crazy. I didn't think
I was going to feel this way, but I got
my hair done because, mind you, my driver's license has
had the same picture since I was like nineteen years old, guys,
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the same freaking picture. One time at the airport last year, actually,
one of the TSA officers looked at me and they said,
you know what, this is an old picture. You need
to change it, like this doesn't even look like you anymore.
I was offended. First of all. I was like, what
do you mean? I'm still cute and young. So anyways,
from there, I was like, do I gotta get around
to it? Like I got to change my picture because
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I'm not nineteen years old anymore, So I mean, come on,
And anyways, so I took the opportunity. I said, you know,
I'm gonna get my hair and makeup done. You know,
I'm going to try to pull a Kim Kardashian and like,
you know, take a light in the whole thing the
way she did. I don't know if you guys ever
saw that episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians, but
Kim did that when she went to renew her license
and renew the picture. So I was like, Okay, I'm
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going to get done up, like this is a huge
thing for me. I need a new picture. I'm going
to change my name. And I was all cute and
I was happy, and we got to the DMV and
we were waiting in line, and while I was waiting
in line, I was looking outside of the window because
the line was kind of long, and Kim was there
with me. Emilio couldn't go. I don't know what. I
think he had to work. I don't remember exactly what
he was doing, but he couldn't make it. Anyways, it
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so happened to be also Johnny's birthday, February eleventh, which
I think is kind of ironic and kind of beautiful
at the same time, because Johnny's the one that gave
me away at the wedding, at the ceremony to Emilio,
and Johnny and e Media are very very close. So
I just thought, there's something so beautiful about this that
we didn't plan it that way. Obviously, the DMV gives
you a random ass date, and it happened to be
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on Johnny's birthday, so I'm thinking about Johnny and thinking
about life and thinking about what I'm doing, and oh
my gosh, guys, I got this crazy, like like a
panic attack. I was looking outside of the window and
my eye started getting watery, and I was like, oh
my god, I'm freaking out, like, oh my gosh, I'm
going to change like like I'm Jane Mariene, like my
whole identity. Like I started freaking out, and I text
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my friends and my group chat. I was like, you, guys,
I'm freaking out. I need help. Like I hadn't told anyone.
I just wanted to surprise everyone except to me. I
told him, Hey, I'm just gonna go do this today.
He was really excited about it. But anyways, I told
my friends, this is why it's so important to have
good friends. Guys. Okay. I sent them a message in
our group chat and I said, guys, I'm freaking the
f out right now, like I'm having a pan attack,
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like legit, Like my I started getting watery and I
had my makeup on, so I was like, I can't.
I don't even have a touch up kit, Like I
can't mess up my makeup because I want to look
cute in my picture, and I thought, maybe I should
just walk out. Maybe it's too soon, Maybe I should
have wait till we like turn a year being married,
like my last marriage didn't. Like you know, I just
started thinking all these things and I was like freaking out.
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And my friends were like, relax, it's gonna be fine.
Like he deserves it. He's a great guy, like go
all in. And I was like, you're right. I want
to be all in. I don't want to be one
foot in, one foot out. And this is my way
of showing him I'm all in. I love you. He
deserves it, like he really does. He's a great guy
to me. And again, I love his family. So they
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walk me through it, and I was so grateful in
that moment. I'm like, oh my god, I have the
best friends ever. Like they're amazing, all of them. We're like,
you got it, Like you're fine, You're doing the right thing.
We're so proud of you. Because I've always been a
very independent woman of this is me and my identity
and blah blah blah, and and yeah that's cute, you know,
being an independent woman. But I don't want to be
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an independent woman that's alone and that doesn't give her
man his place because eventually he's gonna get tired of that,
you know. And I saw that time and time again
in my life and respectfully with my mom and her relationships,
and those are things that I want to break, and
those cycles and those generational curses that I want to break.
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So I'm like, I have to do this, and I
have to do it fully. And I didn't add Marie.
I could have, but I did it because I really
want to honor him, and I want to honor his
wishes and do things differently than I have in the past.
And that's the only way that I'm going to see
a change and see a difference and really say I
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did everything to make this relationship work. I really feel
that need to do that. And I'm telling you I
went through it. I was like, I'm going to walk away.
I'm gonna just walk out. I'm gonna say, oh, the
line's too long, blah blah blah. But we did it.
I got through the line. My legs were kind of shaking.
I was very nervous the entire time. Kin like it's
gonna be okay, it's fine, Like, don't worry, Like it
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was nice. So Anyways, we get to the teller and
she was very very sweet. Everything worked out nicely. We
get to the picture part and Kim pulls out her
a little light try to do it very discreetly. Didn't work.
The guy got very upset, the guy that was taking
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the picture, so that didn't work. Guys. I wasn't able
to like do my little Kim Kardashian moment at the DMV.
But I'm hoping the picture came out cue because it
don't even show you the damn picture. And then I
was fine. I was a little bit like quiet the
rest of the day. And I think it was because
in a way, I was mourning the person I'm leaving
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behind in a way, and I was not sad. I
don't know what I was. I was just like, I
guess that's what it is. I was mourning, and it
still makes me emotional to think about it. But I'm like,
you know, I'm still me, and this all makes sense,
and I'm changing my name and I'm stepping into this
new life that I'm creating and this is the perfect
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time to do so. So I just kind of had
to give myself therapy and walk myself through it. And
I was fine, and then I met a media for lunch.
I went to Sugarfish because I love sugarfish right now.
I want to have it like once or twice a
week if you guys haven't tried it to sushi plays,
it's so good. And we went to Sugarfish and it
was crazy because Kim dropped me off and she left
because she had to do some stuff. So Amlia was
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on his way from from the gym or whatever it
is he was doing, and he was late, and then
my phone died. So I was sitting there at Sugarfish
for at least almost forty minutes, at least thirty almost
forty and I'm sitting there and my phone died. And
I had told the media my phone died, and he's
never late, and I'm thinking, why the hell is he
he late? Like I started freaking out. I was like, dude,
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I was going through so much that day. I'm sitting
there at Sugarfish, waiting, waiting, waiting. My phone's dead, Like
I don't know anyone's number. Who do I ask for
a damn charger? I have the older phone, not even
the newer ones, So it's like, is anyone even going
to have a charger for my phone, and I started thinking,
I'm like, oh my god, like what if something happened
to him? Like I started like freaking out. Then again
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my eyes got watery and I'm like, God, please like
just let him here safely. I want to tell him
that I changed my name that I didn't because I
had text him as well while I was in line
at the DMV like a media I'm freaking out, like
I'm so nervous to do this, like please tell me
we're going to be okay, Like you're gonna be a
good man, You're going to continue to be a good man.
And he answered me, and it was very cute what
he said. He's like, Babe, I love you, like you
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just said all these beautiful things. So anyways, so I
was just thinking, I'm like, oh my gosh, like what
if something happen or whatever. And then he got there
because he was buying me flowers and the guy at
the flower shop took a long time. So he brought
me these beautiful red roses and asked me to be
his Valentine. And he said, hey, so apparently I have
to ask you to be my Valentine, So will you
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be my Valentine and I was like, oh, it's so cute.
We had lunch and it was cute and it all
went away and I was like, Okay, it's fine, It's
gonna be okay, Like it's fine. I even text my
sisters too. I was like, sisters, I'm freaking out. They
helped me out. It was awesome and I feel better.
I'm fine with it, really excited to get my ID.
It hasn't come in the mall. It takes like forever now,
I guess. But I'm excited to see the picture and
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see my name as Janney Sanchez and start that whole process,
because yeah, it's a new it's a new life for me. Guys.
I feel like I'm starting this like new life. I
don't even know how to explain it, Like, I don't
even I've been trying to like find the words of
what it is that I'm going through. But things are
definitely just changing in my life, and I feel like
for the better, and that's what I believe in. Anyways,
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we evolve, we change, and we become different versions of
ourselves and and I'm I'm this is definitely different version.
And I know that this is an important topic to
speak about because I know some of you are listening
and feel the way that I used to feel of like,
oh am, I going to change my last name and
this and that, and if you don't, that's fine, and
that's it's totally fine. I've even heard of, you know,
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men changing their last names to their wives' last name.
I even played around with Emilia and I was like,
what if you become a marine? He's like, what the heck? No,
He's like, what about my legacy? So he was and
having it. But I'm happy and I'm very like proud
of myself for taking this big step that I never
thought that I would take completely. And I'm all in, guys,
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I'm all in. I'm gonna do everything I can to
make this relationship and this marriage work and do my
part and hopefully it pays off completely because he's in
a place that he's doing his part. I'm doing my part,
and together we'll just be better, you know. But I'm
okay with not being that strong independent woman that can
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do it all without a man and this and that,
and it's like, no, I want a man. I don't
want to be alone, you know. I want a partner,
and not just any partner, because if Emidia wasn't the
man he is, and if he starts acting up like
I also like know my worth and my value and
if things are going to start changing or things aren't
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what they were that made me fall in love with him,
then you know, definitely got to put my foot down.
That's not going to change. That is still the same
for me. I'm like, I know what I deserve, I
know what I want, I know what I don't want,
and as much as I want those things, I know
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I also have to give those things. It can't just
be a one one way straight here. So I'm very
well aware of that. But I do I want a partner,
And now I know more than ever. After I kiss
so many frogs, you know what to do and not
to do, and now I know I'm doing it. Guys,
I'm doing it. I did it. Oh my god, I
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did it. So yeah, and he's happy. He's so happy.
He said, thank you. He says, I know that this
wasn't an easy decision for you, but I won't let
you down. And he told me he was proud of
me and he was going to take care of my heart.
So I believe him, and I'm happy that I did it,
and I'm happy to say that I'm Jenney Sanchez now. Guys.
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Oh my goodness is gracious. And now that I'm thinking
about it, guys, I know exactly when it clicked in
my head because I still had this idea. Remember, I
had this idea of Janny Marie Sanchez or Janey Sanchez
or Jane Marine Sanchez hyphenating. So I had that for
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a while. But what really made me change my mind
was when I was pregnant, right before the miscarriage, obviously,
when I was pregnant, and how he was treating me
and how he was acting and like just being there
for me and so patient and even after when we
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had the miscarriage, and how supportive he was. I really
felt like, oh my god, this man is a good man.
But when I was pregnant, that's when I was like,
I need to change my last name because I really
really want my child and myself to have the same
last name. And I was like, I have to do it.
That's when I knew, and I'm like, and this guy
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is the perfect guy to do it, Like he's he
just he's so good to me. He treated me good.
And mind you, guys, He's not perfect. Okay, there's things
that are something I just want to, like, you know,
choke him out a little bit and not in a
bad way, but you know, it's just it's a relationship.
There are things and that's you know, it's normal because
I don't want people to think, oh, he's you know,
he is. He's a great guy. He is. But that
was a moment and oh, hi, I did want to
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choke you. He's here, Hi, Emelia, I'm talking about how
I changed my name. Oh wow, say hi to everyone
babe on the podcast. So now I'm Janey Sanchez. How
do you feel about that? The greatest come closer? What
do you feel as a man, it is the greatest
thing that you have ever done? Frost, Oh, I don't
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even think. I love it. It's so special and it
just it means so much to me. It means a lot,
and I just I love it. Thank you, You're welcome,
thank you. So yeah, I was just I was telling them,
babe that the moment I don't even think a medio
knows this. The moment that I was like, this is
why I'm going to change my last name and I'm
going to surprise him with it. Because in his head
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I was going to do Jenny Marie Sanchez, but I
just did Jenny Sanchez. And it was because when I
was pregnant, I felt all those things that I just said. Well, anyways, guys,
I do feel like now with me just being all
in in every way and with something so physical, you know,
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and like changing your name, it does for me personally
make not that the marriage wasn't real before, but it
solidifies it a little more, you know. It makes it
just more in concrete, I guess, and in my mind
it makes me want to work more for the relationship.
And again when we have our issues and stuff and
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I'm like, you know what, it's okay. We're having a
bad moment. It's not a bad marriage. But anyways, guys,
thank you for listening to me, for tuning in all
the time. I appreciate it. Oh my god, Jenny Sanchez
in the house. What was all okay? Guys? Love you bye.
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Labian Benigles. Welcome to this new episode of Cheeky's and
Chill Podcast, your favorite podcast. I know, I know, I'm
so excited. Thank you guys so much for coming back
every week to listen in and learn and grow and
all that good stuff. I don't know if it's Monday
or Tuesday or what day it is, but I hope
you're having an amazing day today. I'm going to be
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talking about something that I'm excited about, but wasn't that
excited about. It's about changing my name. Guys. Now you
can call me Janey Sanchez officially. Huge step for me.
You have no idea. I've come such a long way, guys.
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So that's why I felt the need to talk about
this on my podcast, because this is my safe space.
This is where I talk about anything and everything. And
thank goodness, you guys listen, so thank you so much.
You guys know, I just got married. It'll be a
year July. So let me just kind of give you
guys a backstory before we get into like the nitty gritty.
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I have never had a middle name. I'm the only
one of my siblings that doesn't have a middle name.
I'm just Janee Marine. You know, that's the name my
mother gave me. She wanted to name me Marie because
she was really into Tina Marie, you know, the singer.
But my dad, who was very traditional, which is weird
because I feel like a lot of Mexicans or Latins
have like so many different names, right they have the
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middle last and I don't know how many last names.
But my dad said no for whatever reason, so my mom,
you know, respected it, and then after that she didn't care.
So all my siblings have middle names. There is Jackie Molina, Marin,
Michael Angelo Marine, well actually his real name is Trinidad,
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and then there's Jenica Priscilla, and then there's Johnny Angel
and I'm just Janee. So when this came up and
I decided to get married again because when I first
met Amidio, I was like, I don't. One of our
very first conversations was like, you know what, I don't
want to have kids and I don't ever want to
get married again. I'm going through divorce right now and
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I just don't. I don't want to get married again.
And he said, awesome, cool, I'm good with that. I
don't either, And that was what our relationship was like
for the first year and a half almost two, and
so as the relationship grew and you know, we fell
more in love with each other, and this idea of
getting married came about. And I think for a long
time he said, I knew I wanted to marry you,
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but I was afraid because I knew that you were
afraid or hesitant or whatever the case, or maybe even
he said not ready. So when he did ask, we
talked about very early on when we were engaged, like
would you change your name? And I think his one
of his family members asked me, and I said, oh, yeah,
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you know, I would add it, and then Nimidia stayed quiet,
and then later on he told me, He's like, I
don't want you to just hyphen it, like I want
you to like just be Jenne Sanchez. And I was like, oh,
I thought it would be Janee Marine Sanchez because I
still want to be me. And he's like, yeah, but
as a man, like I don't know, I just like
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it to just be Sanchez. Like why are you so
attached to Marine, especially if you don't have your dad
in your life. I'm like, I don't know. I just
really have always really liked my last name, guys, and
way back when I'll tell you guys something I don't
think I've ever talked about. But way back when, I
want to say, wow, at least eight oh nine, I
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don't really remember exactly what year, but my mom was here,
and my mom wanted all of us her children to
change our last names because Johnny and Jenica, the younger
ones are Lopez they have a different dad, and then
the older ones, us three are Maren. So she's like,
you know what, I really want you guys to have
Rivera And I said no, I said, you know, I
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want to keep my last name. I like it. I
just I don't know, I've always liked how Jane Marine
sounds and I feel like it's a little different, you know.
And she respected it. She said, okay, fine, I'm not
going to force you, but whoever wants to change it,
I would really appreciate it because I feel like I've
been your mother and your father. Obviously, my mom was
still here, so I was just like, it's cool, Mom,
like I love you and you're my mom and you're
my dad, and like, you know, so she respected it.
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So I never changed it, and never thought I was
going to change it, but as time went by, I
started noticing. I was like, well, you know what, Like
Emilio is a good guy, I feel like he deserves it.
I didn't do it my first marriage wouldn't even make
it to the first year of being married. But I
did tell myself. I was like, if we make it
to the first year, then okay, I'll hyphen my name.
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And he was fine with it. I was going to
like just add his last name. Never came around to it.
We got separate and divorced fairly quickly anyways, So with Emilio,
I was like, okay, I just started kind of getting
more comfortable with the idea of possibly changing my last name.
And as I got to know his family more and
I fell in love with his grandma and she became
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my grandma. I just I'm like, I love this freaking family,
like I would love to be a Sanchez. And I
just it happened so organically. And I know if I
would have told Emilio, like, I want to hyphen it,
I'm just gonna be Jene Marine Sanchez, he would have
been fine with it. But it just happened organically, Like
I just fell more and more in love, not only
with him, but with his family and the idea of
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getting remarried, I just I'm like, you know what, like
why not, you know, And then I came up with
the bright idea of saying, hey, I never changed my
last name to Rivera the way my mom had asked
me to. I was like, what if I do Jenny
Marie Sanchez. I'll remove the marine and I'll do Marie
because I've never had a middle name and I want
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to have a middle name. If I'm already going to
change my name, I might as well do that. And
that's something my mom really wanted, so I thought that's
a way of honor her. But Amlia was like, you know,
I just want you to be Janee Sanchez and I'm
like no. But we kind of like not fought because
we didn't. It wasn't like a huge conversation, but he
really felt in his heart like I just want you
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to be Jane Sanchez. Just that's it, JS, And I'm
like fine. I didn't argue. I'm like okay, But when
it all came down to it, guys, I was like,
you know what, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do it,
and I'm gonna do it quickly, like I want to
do it before we like celebrate our first year anniversary
as a married couple. And I did, you know, thank
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God for my assistant Kim, because she did all the
heavy lifting for me on the internet and she changed
the Social because I didn't even know how this worked, guys,
to be honest, so I was like, Kim, can you
just help me and figure this out. I need to
change my name and I want to prayse the media
with it. But she went on the internet, she did it.
She's like, oh, it's done. You'll be getting your new
social card soon when it came in. Because I guess
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I didn't do the process myself, I didn't really feel it.
I was like, okay, I'm like, well, what happens after this? Okay,
so after this, now that you have your Social with
your new name Jennay Sanchez, now you have to go
to the DMV and then from there you do the
passport and so on and so forth. So I was like, okay, cool. Still,
I was like, I'm still Jenny Madin all my credit cards,
my idea, everything, say Jenny Mighty, my passport, all of it.
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But guys, when I told Kim again, can you make
me an appointment with the DMV so I can finally
change my last name. It was crazy. I didn't think
I was going to feel this way, but I got
my hair done because, mind you, my driver's license has
had the same picture since I was like nineteen years old, guys,
(07:40):
the same freaking picture. One time at the airport last year, actually,
one of the TSA officers looked at me and they said,
you know what, this is an old picture. You need
to change it, like this doesn't even look like you anymore.
I was offended. First of all. I was like, what
do you mean? I'm still cute and young. So anyways,
from there, I was like, do I gotta get around
to it? Like I got to change my picture because
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I'm not nineteen years old anymore, So I mean, come on,
And anyways, so I took the opportunity. I said, you know,
I'm gonna get my hair and makeup done. You know,
I'm going to try to pull a Kim Kardashian and like,
you know, take a light in the whole thing the
way she did. I don't know if you guys ever
saw that episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians, but
Kim did that when she went to renew her license
and renew the picture. So I was like, Okay, I'm
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going to get done up, like this is a huge
thing for me. I need a new picture. I'm going
to change my name. And I was all cute and
I was happy, and we got to the DMV and
we were waiting in line, and while I was waiting
in line, I was looking outside of the window because
the line was kind of long, and Kim was there
with me. Emilio couldn't go. I don't know what. I
think he had to work. I don't remember exactly what
he was doing, but he couldn't make it. Anyways, it
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so happened to be also Johnny's birthday, February eleventh, which
I think is kind of ironic and kind of beautiful
at the same time, because Johnny's the one that gave
me away at the wedding, at the ceremony to Emilio,
and Johnny and e Media are very very close. So
I just thought, there's something so beautiful about this that
we didn't plan it that way. Obviously, the DMV gives
you a random ass date, and it happened to be
(09:04):
on Johnny's birthday, so I'm thinking about Johnny and thinking
about life and thinking about what I'm doing, and oh
my gosh, guys, I got this crazy, like like a
panic attack. I was looking outside of the window and
my eye started getting watery, and I was like, oh
my god, I'm freaking out, like, oh my gosh, I'm
going to change like like I'm Jane Mariene, like my
whole identity. Like I started freaking out, and I text
(09:28):
my friends and my group chat. I was like, you, guys,
I'm freaking out. I need help. Like I hadn't told anyone.
I just wanted to surprise everyone except to me. I
told him, Hey, I'm just gonna go do this today.
He was really excited about it. But anyways, I told
my friends, this is why it's so important to have
good friends. Guys. Okay. I sent them a message in
our group chat and I said, guys, I'm freaking the
f out right now, like I'm having a pan attack,
(09:48):
like legit, Like my I started getting watery and I
had my makeup on, so I was like, I can't.
I don't even have a touch up kit, Like I
can't mess up my makeup because I want to look
cute in my picture, and I thought, maybe I should
just walk out. Maybe it's too soon, Maybe I should
have wait till we like turn a year being married,
like my last marriage didn't. Like you know, I just
started thinking all these things and I was like freaking out.
(10:08):
And my friends were like, relax, it's gonna be fine.
Like he deserves it. He's a great guy, like go
all in. And I was like, you're right. I want
to be all in. I don't want to be one
foot in, one foot out. And this is my way
of showing him I'm all in. I love you. He
deserves it, like he really does. He's a great guy
to me. And again, I love his family. So they
(10:29):
walk me through it, and I was so grateful in
that moment. I'm like, oh my god, I have the
best friends ever. Like they're amazing, all of them. We're like,
you got it, Like you're fine, You're doing the right thing.
We're so proud of you. Because I've always been a
very independent woman of this is me and my identity
and blah blah blah, and and yeah that's cute, you know,
being an independent woman. But I don't want to be
(10:50):
an independent woman that's alone and that doesn't give her
man his place because eventually he's gonna get tired of that,
you know. And I saw that time and time again
in my life and respectfully with my mom and her relationships,
and those are things that I want to break, and
those cycles and those generational curses that I want to break.
(11:13):
So I'm like, I have to do this, and I
have to do it fully. And I didn't add Marie.
I could have, but I did it because I really
want to honor him, and I want to honor his
wishes and do things differently than I have in the past.
And that's the only way that I'm going to see
a change and see a difference and really say I
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did everything to make this relationship work. I really feel
that need to do that. And I'm telling you I
went through it. I was like, I'm going to walk away.
I'm gonna just walk out. I'm gonna say, oh, the
line's too long, blah blah blah. But we did it.
I got through the line. My legs were kind of shaking.
I was very nervous the entire time. Kin like it's
gonna be okay, it's fine, Like, don't worry, Like it
(11:56):
was nice. So Anyways, we get to the teller and
she was very very sweet. Everything worked out nicely. We
get to the picture part and Kim pulls out her
a little light try to do it very discreetly. Didn't work.
The guy got very upset, the guy that was taking
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the picture, so that didn't work. Guys. I wasn't able
to like do my little Kim Kardashian moment at the DMV.
But I'm hoping the picture came out cue because it
don't even show you the damn picture. And then I
was fine. I was a little bit like quiet the
rest of the day. And I think it was because
in a way, I was mourning the person I'm leaving
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behind in a way, and I was not sad. I
don't know what I was. I was just like, I
guess that's what it is. I was mourning, and it
still makes me emotional to think about it. But I'm like,
you know, I'm still me, and this all makes sense,
and I'm changing my name and I'm stepping into this
new life that I'm creating and this is the perfect
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time to do so. So I just kind of had
to give myself therapy and walk myself through it. And
I was fine, and then I met a media for lunch.
I went to Sugarfish because I love sugarfish right now.
I want to have it like once or twice a
week if you guys haven't tried it to sushi plays,
it's so good. And we went to Sugarfish and it
was crazy because Kim dropped me off and she left
because she had to do some stuff. So Amlia was
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on his way from from the gym or whatever it
is he was doing, and he was late, and then
my phone died. So I was sitting there at Sugarfish
for at least almost forty minutes, at least thirty almost
forty and I'm sitting there and my phone died. And
I had told the media my phone died, and he's
never late, and I'm thinking, why the hell is he
he late? Like I started freaking out. I was like, dude,
(13:43):
I was going through so much that day. I'm sitting
there at Sugarfish, waiting, waiting, waiting. My phone's dead, Like
I don't know anyone's number. Who do I ask for
a damn charger? I have the older phone, not even
the newer ones, So it's like, is anyone even going
to have a charger for my phone, and I started thinking,
I'm like, oh my god, like what if something happened
to him? Like I started like freaking out. Then again
(14:03):
my eyes got watery and I'm like, God, please like
just let him here safely. I want to tell him
that I changed my name that I didn't because I
had text him as well while I was in line
at the DMV like a media I'm freaking out, like
I'm so nervous to do this, like please tell me
we're going to be okay, Like you're gonna be a
good man, You're going to continue to be a good man.
And he answered me, and it was very cute what
he said. He's like, Babe, I love you, like you
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just said all these beautiful things. So anyways, so I
was just thinking, I'm like, oh my gosh, like what
if something happen or whatever. And then he got there
because he was buying me flowers and the guy at
the flower shop took a long time. So he brought
me these beautiful red roses and asked me to be
his Valentine. And he said, hey, so apparently I have
to ask you to be my Valentine, So will you
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be my Valentine and I was like, oh, it's so cute.
We had lunch and it was cute and it all
went away and I was like, Okay, it's fine, It's
gonna be okay, Like it's fine. I even text my
sisters too. I was like, sisters, I'm freaking out. They
helped me out. It was awesome and I feel better.
I'm fine with it, really excited to get my ID.
It hasn't come in the mall. It takes like forever now,
I guess. But I'm excited to see the picture and
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see my name as Janney Sanchez and start that whole process,
because yeah, it's a new it's a new life for me. Guys.
I feel like I'm starting this like new life. I
don't even know how to explain it, Like, I don't
even I've been trying to like find the words of
what it is that I'm going through. But things are
definitely just changing in my life, and I feel like
for the better, and that's what I believe in. Anyways,
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we evolve, we change, and we become different versions of
ourselves and and I'm I'm this is definitely different version.
And I know that this is an important topic to
speak about because I know some of you are listening
and feel the way that I used to feel of like,
oh am, I going to change my last name and
this and that, and if you don't, that's fine, and
that's it's totally fine. I've even heard of, you know,
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men changing their last names to their wives' last name.
I even played around with Emilia and I was like,
what if you become a marine? He's like, what the heck? No,
He's like, what about my legacy? So he was and
having it. But I'm happy and I'm very like proud
of myself for taking this big step that I never
thought that I would take completely. And I'm all in, guys,
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I'm all in. I'm gonna do everything I can to
make this relationship and this marriage work and do my
part and hopefully it pays off completely because he's in
a place that he's doing his part. I'm doing my part,
and together we'll just be better, you know. But I'm
okay with not being that strong independent woman that can
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do it all without a man and this and that,
and it's like, no, I want a man. I don't
want to be alone, you know. I want a partner,
and not just any partner, because if Emidia wasn't the
man he is, and if he starts acting up like
I also like know my worth and my value and
if things are going to start changing or things aren't
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what they were that made me fall in love with him,
then you know, definitely got to put my foot down.
That's not going to change. That is still the same
for me. I'm like, I know what I deserve, I
know what I want, I know what I don't want,
and as much as I want those things, I know
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I also have to give those things. It can't just
be a one one way straight here. So I'm very
well aware of that. But I do I want a partner,
And now I know more than ever. After I kiss
so many frogs, you know what to do and not
to do, and now I know I'm doing it. Guys,
I'm doing it. I did it. Oh my god, I
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did it. So yeah, and he's happy. He's so happy.
He said, thank you. He says, I know that this
wasn't an easy decision for you, but I won't let
you down. And he told me he was proud of
me and he was going to take care of my heart.
So I believe him, and I'm happy that I did it,
and I'm happy to say that I'm Jenney Sanchez now. Guys.
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Oh my goodness is gracious. And now that I'm thinking
about it, guys, I know exactly when it clicked in
my head because I still had this idea. Remember, I
had this idea of Janny Marie Sanchez or Janey Sanchez
or Jane Marine Sanchez hyphenating. So I had that for
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a while. But what really made me change my mind
was when I was pregnant, right before the miscarriage, obviously,
when I was pregnant, and how he was treating me
and how he was acting and like just being there
for me and so patient and even after when we
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had the miscarriage, and how supportive he was. I really
felt like, oh my god, this man is a good man.
But when I was pregnant, that's when I was like,
I need to change my last name because I really
really want my child and myself to have the same
last name. And I was like, I have to do it.
That's when I knew, and I'm like, and this guy
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is the perfect guy to do it, Like he's he
just he's so good to me. He treated me good.
And mind you, guys, He's not perfect. Okay, there's things
that are something I just want to, like, you know,
choke him out a little bit and not in a
bad way, but you know, it's just it's a relationship.
There are things and that's you know, it's normal because
I don't want people to think, oh, he's you know,
he is. He's a great guy. He is. But that
was a moment and oh, hi, I did want to
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choke you. He's here, Hi, Emelia, I'm talking about how
I changed my name. Oh wow, say hi to everyone
babe on the podcast. So now I'm Janey Sanchez. How
do you feel about that? The greatest come closer? What
do you feel as a man, it is the greatest
thing that you have ever done? Frost, Oh, I don't
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even think. I love it. It's so special and it
just it means so much to me. It means a lot,
and I just I love it. Thank you, You're welcome,
thank you. So yeah, I was just I was telling them,
babe that the moment I don't even think a medio
knows this. The moment that I was like, this is
why I'm going to change my last name and I'm
going to surprise him with it. Because in his head
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I was going to do Jenny Marie Sanchez, but I
just did Jenny Sanchez. And it was because when I
was pregnant, I felt all those things that I just said. Well, anyways, guys,
I do feel like now with me just being all
in in every way and with something so physical, you know,
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and like changing your name, it does for me personally
make not that the marriage wasn't real before, but it
solidifies it a little more, you know. It makes it
just more in concrete, I guess, and in my mind
it makes me want to work more for the relationship.
And again when we have our issues and stuff and
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I'm like, you know what, it's okay. We're having a
bad moment. It's not a bad marriage. But anyways, guys,
thank you for listening to me, for tuning in all
the time. I appreciate it. Oh my god, Jenny Sanchez
in the house. What was all okay? Guys? Love you bye.
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