February 5, 2025 • 9 mins
I’m happy to bring you this bonus episode of Dear Chiquis. This week, Juli is wondering if she should stay with her boyfriend after he slept with someone else while they were on a break and possibly got the other woman pregnant; Irene loves my manifestation methods and asks me which one I think is the most effective; and Marisol asks me about the best piece of advice I’ve ever received.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box Forard Dear Cheeky's, I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business,
whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave
your question At the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hey, t you just wanted to say, I'm a huge
fan of you in the podcast and I remind you
so much. I didn't want some advice, though, So two
years ago I got into my very first serious relationship
with this guy. Things didn't work out, we broke up,
but because of work our past happened across again and
we've been talking and just a couple of nights ago
(01:09):
we talked about how we were willing to try things
again and you know, test the waters. And then today
we're in the car he gets a phone call from
this girl and she's like, I took a test, it's
positive and whatever. And then he, you know, we start
talking about it and he's like, well, when we were,
you know, broken up, I slept with this girl who
I met at the club. And he says that he
(01:33):
doesn't think he's the father. He says that, I don't know,
it's just like a tactic. I don't really know what
point is. I'm just kind of like in a little
pickle here, right. I don't know if I'm willing to
try things again. If you know, he slept with another girl,
well we were broken up, because yes, we were broken up,
(01:53):
but also like it's kind of uncomfortable. I don't know.
I'm like one foot in, one foot out. I just
want some guidance or like, you know, to see where
things are willing to go. I told him I'm down
to try it again. I'm just it's in the back
of my.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Mind, alrighty, Julie, Okay, Well it is a little bit
of a pickle for sure. Okay, let's see, I don't
know how long you guys are broken up. That kind
of like depends for me a little. But truth be told,
you guys were broken up. It's free range. He can
do as he pleases, so can you. First of all,
(02:32):
now if you're willing to try it, you do have
the choice. Okay, first of all, let's figure out if
this is his baby or not. How are we going
to figure that out? I don't know because we have
to wait, right But that's it. Yeah, But here's the thing.
What would I do? Okay? Ah, damn. It's a difficult one,
this one. This one has me a little stuck. Because
(02:52):
if you really love this person and he's being honest
with you, like you were there when he got the
phone call, he didn't have a problem answering while you
were there, then he has nothing to hide and he's
being honest with you. And I commend that. I respect
that very much. I think it's gonna take a lot
of maturity on your side, on your part to just
(03:16):
be okay with this if this is his baby. It
really depends on you. I mean, do you see yourself caring?
Do you have that in your heart, in your person
to care and take care of a child that is
not yours but comes from a person that you absolutely love.
(03:37):
That is only a question that you can answer, and
there's no right or wrong It's not gonna make you
a bad person if you walk away from him because
you're like, I can't do this, you know, Like, it's
not like if it was just the wine one night's stand.
You got to figure all these questions out. Was it
in one night's sound? Did you have emotions for this person?
That also changes things? Because if there was some type
of like emotion, then maybe they're gonna want to work
(03:58):
things out. You have to ask them, hey, do you
want to try working this out with her? If not,
then I need to be involved in every single step
of the way, doctor's appointments, whatever. Maybe I want to
be there because I am your girl and I'm going
to support you through this, but I need to be
involved in everything. I think that's fair, honestly, if you're
willing to do that, and if not, does it make
you a bad person to say, Hey, I love you,
(04:19):
but I just I can't do this. I don't see
myself doing this and I'm going to It's going to
be more of a disservice to you and your child
if I'm in your life, because I'm not going to
be happy. So that's a choice you need to make,
and I'm sorry. I wasn't able to give you like
a straight up answer, but I mean, balance it out
and figure it out. And I'm so sorry that you're
in this situation because I can't honestly even imagine. But
I really like to know that he was honest and
(04:41):
he could have ignored that call, he could have hidden it,
and he didn't. So that tells me a lot. And
I'll leave it at that, Julie, So let me know,
I want to kind of know what happens. Let me
go back on, you know, on the recording, like what
did you decide? Not because I'm nosy, just because you know,
I want to know what you decide. Wishing you the
very very very very best. All right, guys, let's move
(05:06):
on to Irene.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Hi chikies, how are you Hope you're doing good? Just
to let you know you motivate me a lot, and
I love your empowering journey. I love your manifesting journey.
But I wanted to ask you what's your most effected
manifesting method for you?
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Ooh, Irene, I like, thank you, thank you so much.
I really love where I'm at in my life right
now as far as like seeing the things that I've
manifested and that I've prayed for come to life. So
I'm really really like because it again, you have a
(05:46):
vision board, right, and that's one that used to be.
It is one of my favorite ways to manifest because
you see it hopefully on a daily basis and it's
a reminder and you can pray over it. But I
think one of my favorite ways to manifest is vision
bored but praying and meditating. It all, I feel goes together.
Like you have to visualize it, you have to see
(06:08):
yourself there. You have to feel like you deserve it,
like I it is my god given right to have this.
I deserve it. I'm a good person. It all goes
also giving what you want, like spreading good things and
being intentional and being good to other people. All of
that brings you good things. So if you're not doing that,
(06:28):
it's gonna take a little longer to get to you.
But it all is intertwined. It all just works together.
So I can't say one specific thing, but definitely the
vision board because you visualize it, but you could also
do that during prayer and meditation and just leaving it
in God's hands and just like really taking steps positive
steps in your daily life to make sure that you
(06:50):
attract that. But yeah, I feel like I went a
whole other way with that, but hopefully I did answer
your question. But oh my gosh, it's awesome. I truly
believe in it. I've seen it come to life in
my own life, so manifesting and mantras and all that stuff.
It really works. But you really have to believe it,
like really believe it and believe that you deserve it.
(07:11):
You deserve it because you do. Okay, thank you, I read. Okay, guys,
(07:31):
So next question, last question actually comes from Marisol. What
is the best piece of advice you have ever received? Oh?
All right, Mariisol, she was just like, straight up the
best piece of advice I've ever received. I've I've received
a lot of advice. Actually, I think the best piece
(07:54):
of advice has has always come from books. For me.
Of course, like my mom taught me a lot a
lot of life lessons, but like I feel the book
The Four Agreements, it has been the best advice and
I think the best out of the four for me.
Besides not taking things personal, are not expecting things from
(08:14):
people because then we let ourselves down. So if you
haven't read that book, the Four Agreements, and I believe
they have a fifth now amazing life changing, great advice
for just living your best life. But yes, not expecting
things from others, just that will life changing, life changing.
(08:37):
So yeah, Marisoult, that is it. You guys, Thank you
so much for your questions. I really really enjoyed this episode.
And yeah, I'll catch you guys on the next episode
of Dear Cheeky's. If you have a question you already know,
you already know, sing it with me Speakpipe dot Com,
slash Cheeks and Chill Podcasts. I'll see you guys later, mesitos.
(09:09):
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Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box Forard Dear Cheeky's, I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business,
whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave
your question At the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hey, t you just wanted to say, I'm a huge
fan of you in the podcast and I remind you
so much. I didn't want some advice, though, So two
years ago I got into my very first serious relationship
with this guy. Things didn't work out, we broke up,
but because of work our past happened across again and
we've been talking and just a couple of nights ago
(01:09):
we talked about how we were willing to try things
again and you know, test the waters. And then today
we're in the car he gets a phone call from
this girl and she's like, I took a test, it's
positive and whatever. And then he, you know, we start
talking about it and he's like, well, when we were,
you know, broken up, I slept with this girl who
I met at the club. And he says that he
(01:33):
doesn't think he's the father. He says that, I don't know,
it's just like a tactic. I don't really know what
point is. I'm just kind of like in a little
pickle here, right. I don't know if I'm willing to
try things again. If you know, he slept with another girl,
well we were broken up, because yes, we were broken up,
(01:53):
but also like it's kind of uncomfortable. I don't know.
I'm like one foot in, one foot out. I just
want some guidance or like, you know, to see where
things are willing to go. I told him I'm down
to try it again. I'm just it's in the back
of my.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Mind, alrighty, Julie, Okay, Well it is a little bit
of a pickle for sure. Okay, let's see, I don't
know how long you guys are broken up. That kind
of like depends for me a little. But truth be told,
you guys were broken up. It's free range. He can
do as he pleases, so can you. First of all,
(02:32):
now if you're willing to try it, you do have
the choice. Okay, first of all, let's figure out if
this is his baby or not. How are we going
to figure that out? I don't know because we have
to wait, right But that's it. Yeah, But here's the thing.
What would I do? Okay? Ah, damn. It's a difficult one,
this one. This one has me a little stuck. Because
(02:52):
if you really love this person and he's being honest
with you, like you were there when he got the
phone call, he didn't have a problem answering while you
were there, then he has nothing to hide and he's
being honest with you. And I commend that. I respect
that very much. I think it's gonna take a lot
of maturity on your side, on your part to just
(03:16):
be okay with this if this is his baby. It
really depends on you. I mean, do you see yourself caring?
Do you have that in your heart, in your person
to care and take care of a child that is
not yours but comes from a person that you absolutely love.
(03:37):
That is only a question that you can answer, and
there's no right or wrong It's not gonna make you
a bad person if you walk away from him because
you're like, I can't do this, you know, Like, it's
not like if it was just the wine one night's stand.
You got to figure all these questions out. Was it
in one night's sound? Did you have emotions for this person?
That also changes things? Because if there was some type
of like emotion, then maybe they're gonna want to work
(03:58):
things out. You have to ask them, hey, do you
want to try working this out with her? If not,
then I need to be involved in every single step
of the way, doctor's appointments, whatever. Maybe I want to
be there because I am your girl and I'm going
to support you through this, but I need to be
involved in everything. I think that's fair, honestly, if you're
willing to do that, and if not, does it make
you a bad person to say, Hey, I love you,
(04:19):
but I just I can't do this. I don't see
myself doing this and I'm going to It's going to
be more of a disservice to you and your child
if I'm in your life, because I'm not going to
be happy. So that's a choice you need to make,
and I'm sorry. I wasn't able to give you like
a straight up answer, but I mean, balance it out
and figure it out. And I'm so sorry that you're
in this situation because I can't honestly even imagine. But
I really like to know that he was honest and
(04:41):
he could have ignored that call, he could have hidden it,
and he didn't. So that tells me a lot. And
I'll leave it at that, Julie, So let me know,
I want to kind of know what happens. Let me
go back on, you know, on the recording, like what
did you decide? Not because I'm nosy, just because you know,
I want to know what you decide. Wishing you the
very very very very best. All right, guys, let's move
(05:06):
on to Irene.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Hi chikies, how are you Hope you're doing good? Just
to let you know you motivate me a lot, and
I love your empowering journey. I love your manifesting journey.
But I wanted to ask you what's your most effected
manifesting method for you?
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Ooh, Irene, I like, thank you, thank you so much.
I really love where I'm at in my life right
now as far as like seeing the things that I've
manifested and that I've prayed for come to life. So
I'm really really like because it again, you have a
(05:46):
vision board, right, and that's one that used to be.
It is one of my favorite ways to manifest because
you see it hopefully on a daily basis and it's
a reminder and you can pray over it. But I
think one of my favorite ways to manifest is vision
bored but praying and meditating. It all, I feel goes together.
Like you have to visualize it, you have to see
(06:08):
yourself there. You have to feel like you deserve it,
like I it is my god given right to have this.
I deserve it. I'm a good person. It all goes
also giving what you want, like spreading good things and
being intentional and being good to other people. All of
that brings you good things. So if you're not doing that,
(06:28):
it's gonna take a little longer to get to you.
But it all is intertwined. It all just works together.
So I can't say one specific thing, but definitely the
vision board because you visualize it, but you could also
do that during prayer and meditation and just leaving it
in God's hands and just like really taking steps positive
steps in your daily life to make sure that you
(06:50):
attract that. But yeah, I feel like I went a
whole other way with that, but hopefully I did answer
your question. But oh my gosh, it's awesome. I truly
believe in it. I've seen it come to life in
my own life, so manifesting and mantras and all that stuff.
It really works. But you really have to believe it,
like really believe it and believe that you deserve it.
(07:11):
You deserve it because you do. Okay, thank you, I read. Okay, guys,
(07:31):
So next question, last question actually comes from Marisol. What
is the best piece of advice you have ever received? Oh?
All right, Mariisol, she was just like, straight up the
best piece of advice I've ever received. I've I've received
a lot of advice. Actually, I think the best piece
(07:54):
of advice has has always come from books. For me.
Of course, like my mom taught me a lot a
lot of life lessons, but like I feel the book
The Four Agreements, it has been the best advice and
I think the best out of the four for me.
Besides not taking things personal, are not expecting things from
(08:14):
people because then we let ourselves down. So if you
haven't read that book, the Four Agreements, and I believe
they have a fifth now amazing life changing, great advice
for just living your best life. But yes, not expecting
things from others, just that will life changing, life changing.
(08:37):
So yeah, Marisoult, that is it. You guys, Thank you
so much for your questions. I really really enjoyed this episode.
And yeah, I'll catch you guys on the next episode
of Dear Cheeky's. If you have a question you already know,
you already know, sing it with me Speakpipe dot Com,
slash Cheeks and Chill Podcasts. I'll see you guys later, mesitos.
(09:09):
This is a production of iHeartRadio and the Microdura podcast Network.
Follow us on Instagram at Michael Dura Podcasts and follow
me Cheeky's That's c h I q U i s.
For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite podcast, and check
us out on YouTube.
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