April 7, 2025 • 49 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:45):
Welcome to Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I don't think you should say the Decisions. It sounded
like you was talking to Persky. You definitely say to welcome.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Welcome to the new podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
How are you want to say together the decisions decisions come, guys,
tune another episode of the Cisyons Decisions and.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
I'm singing cause I guess today. But it's your.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Girl, may d b Okay, okay, bitch, go ahead and
give us some vocals, cause you could say bitch, so
go ahead, give us some vocals.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
It's your girl.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
I say, it's your girl.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Let's be in the building. Yeah, I was good. No,
really she can really say. I can hold that tune? Now, weazy?
What heard you doing? Because you know what people fake sing?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
No, no, no, she goes. She she sounds like Tony Braxton.
You know over y'all, so you fund like Tony Braxton.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
I will tell you now, I sound like share can.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Do you that when you believe life after love?
Speaker 1 (01:59):
They are I'm not mad at that they are. Couldn't
have done this. Guys excited. We got a girl, les Pete.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
More.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
The p is for that girl, Ueen. There's no she's
gonna be all marriage that girlfriend. That's all of it.
The lex pee stands for I'm that girl. I thought
it meant that pussy mills all love it. It can
it can be that too. I'd like you to hear
I could that you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
So normally we start off with a quick catch up
of what Weezye and I got going on. However, I
thought we could start this af really cute podcasters for
years now. We're not new to this, We're true to this,
yead old Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
It's like this may be the first time the three
of us have all been on a mic. We boyfriends.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
You gotcha, bitch, gotcha?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
USh this?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I had him be delivered.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Okay, I know we recorded this episode the same as
whatever episode you heard a go.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
We both record these. Fly was still here, y'all go
see these for the flowers period, and we ain't send.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
The gonna be just like this, Hello, welcome. That's with you,
as you been used to know. No one want to
shoot my niggas married me.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I can't even because so lex you are very mimmy
and my ma and my man.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I am where I get sick of it. So I
thought we could actually just all be really annoying you
that so you know, I'm always like that in the beginning.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I think it's like the beginning honeymoon Stace. It was
for the last year and a half he's an amazing guy.
Like he's an amazing man.
Speaker 6 (03:54):
We have amazing relationship. We still talk every day, you know,
it's not like.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
A bad stuck up. Well, no, it's not. We're not
in a relation.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Why how you talk to a guy every day still
fuck him work together and that not be your man?
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Wait, I've done that.
Speaker 6 (04:13):
Well, I think it's just because it's just we have
a lot going on individually that we need to work on,
and I can't recognize that.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You know. So I have a lot of growing I
need to do and he does as well. So it's
not like weird and bad blood and we hate. It's
not none of that.
Speaker 6 (04:28):
It's just like we're trying to figure it out. If
it works out and we get back together, cool and
if it don't cool?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Like are you are?
Speaker 5 (04:34):
You?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Are y'all both seeing other people? I'm not? I mean
I don't. I mean I don't think he is. I
don't know, but I don't.
Speaker 6 (04:40):
I'm not in that space right now, to be honest, Like,
I have so much going on.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I know it sounds so cliche. No, it don't have
so much going on work.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Why I don't even have time to like worry about that?
Speaker 6 (04:51):
And be concerned about it. It was like a point
in time was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
If he moves on to date somebody, I'm gonna jump
off a bridge.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
But I'm like, you know what I feel like, like
if we work out cool, if we don't cool, I
feel like I'm here because God has guided me down
such a good path. So instead of doubting what's gonna
happen all the time, I just have to have faith
that it'll work out in my path.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You sound like every bit of the modern day won't. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
I think like when women back in the day, when
I say back in the day, maybe your mama's or whatever,
like when they couldn't really have jobs or they couldn't
be entrepreneurs, and their whole lives were dictated on the patriarchy. Yeah,
and finding a man or a husband to provide hearing
all those things.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
A woman had to be like, I gotta say what
you Yeah, yeah, I will say this though.
Speaker 7 (05:36):
There is a weird privilege that making more money kind
of gave me.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Oh facts, like for sure, period, even though I have
more niggas.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
When I was broke and I was they like to
say bitches. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:49):
At the same time, there's something internally that like that
little bit of I mean like independence.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I don't know what it is.
Speaker 7 (05:56):
It just makes you have this different viewpoint. It's almost
like you think you're options are bigger, but I do
think it has to do it being busy.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Yeah, being busy definitely has saved me.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Like I'm not the type of girl like if I
go through a breakup, I'm like, don't get me wrong,
I'm gonna be in the house for a little bit
and go through my emotion, to go through my feelings, but.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I gotta go to work so you know, I have
stuff to do, so I can't.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
And then it's like the way my podcast is, it's
like I gotta be funny and I gotta be vibr
so I don't got time for all that.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
I gotta keep it pushed. And I think that's my thing.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
When you are a C suite woman or a woman
with a nine to five or multiple jobs, they're running
your own businesses.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Like the last thing you need a man to do
is to come in and not be your peace. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
So if you're not gonna make my life easier while
I'm not, because work is never.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Easy, let's be very right, even though you get to.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Come and show up and be funny and do the
love of shows and travel all over the world and
do the things like when that still becomes exhausting and
draining on our body and we're dealing with a lot
of people. Yeah, so when I finally get free time, nigger,
the last thing I want to do is argue with you.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Right right?
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Is so you said that you feel like you have
to always come and show up for me. I think
whenever I want to back see, it's we're so lucky.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
We have a guest. Tell me how when you've had a.
Speaker 7 (07:12):
Tough day with your partner, what's that conversation with you Andrea,
like where you like, bitch, have you had a day
where you're like, romantic wise, not family stuff, romantic wise,
You're like, I'm fucking having a bad day.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
I'm like, I can't do it. I let her know.
Speaker 6 (07:26):
We be having conversations, but I don't know what. I
hate to say this, but I know how to turn
that shit on period. Yeah said that camera presses record.
All that goes out the window because at the end
of the day, it's people out there who have worse
days than me who watch poor minds to put them
in a good mood, or watch love Lex Pete to
put them in a good mood.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
I'm crying. I'm upset over a nigga. You the world.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Months ago I was crying in a card, not over
a nigga, but just stressed, right, And I had listened
to this podcast. I shared it on You Got Decisions,
where basically it says, watch out, you talk to yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I'm in the car. I had a good cry in
a parking garage. That's the best place. Some cars be
going by, some lady getting grocery, dog still crying.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
So I'm in the car and I'm crying. I'm like, fuck,
this shit sucks. And then I said, but I'm crying
in my car. That's paid off though, Hey, and this
is a problem that I had, Like there's always a
bright side.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
I know that's weird. But everything be feeling like boom,
yeah when it rained and poor. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (08:30):
There's been days where I've cried in my house. Even
this morning, I had a little fit. I woke up
to five thirty.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
I was fucking tired, and I was like, bro, I
work for myself, right, I could have been getting up
for a corporate job today.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I have friends who hate their job can.
Speaker 7 (08:44):
Find another way, right, Like I have a lot of outlets,
I can enjoy free time. Like I almost tried to
start saying it out loud. Oh, I say I talked
to myself.
Speaker 6 (08:52):
I'd say I'd be like, girl, look at you body, teeth, face, card,
never decline period. You know you got a lot of money.
You know what I'm saying, God, fear a woman.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
You got a blessed job. You have to work with
your best friend.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
You know.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
I launched my YouTube. It's so many good things. Okay,
tell us about lovelex P.
Speaker 6 (09:09):
Yeah, so lovelex P is my solo show that I
have now. And it's so weird because I don't want
to say I want to gossip with integrity because you can't.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Gossip is no one right.
Speaker 6 (09:20):
But I do think that the gossip hot topics thing
has gotten so ugly.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
We are in a space now where everybody wants to
go viral. Oh. I'm going to read her her writes
and break her down what happened when.
Speaker 6 (09:32):
We had like Juliana Ransick and John Rivers being fun
and funny and cute on Eve. But what I'm saying
is it was all in good hearted fun because when
she would see you, it would still be.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Like, you know what's crazy about you? Saying that we
can say things ingest and wholehearted fun. You never know
how someone's gonna receive something. So to me, even if
you and I just had this conversation with Lou Weell,
I was on the under lounge with him and Spank
and you know I used to be a.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Blogger. Yeah, yeah, on sports specifically, so.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
Sucking a little will and he was like, yeah, man,
but sometimes we don't want nobody talking about our business.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
And as human beings, sometimes it don't matter if you.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Put on something that you like, if someone says it's ugly,
they're going to receive it back. So unfortunately, like, I
don't think that's possible, only because the way people receive
anybody talking about them in any capacity, depending on the day,
well exactly.
Speaker 6 (10:34):
First of all, I feel like the way I've branded myself,
everybody knows I'll play all day and then with love lads,
I'm not reporting on serious topics and serious things like
for example, like with the meg shooting, Like if that
would have happened while my show was going, that's not
something I'm reporting on it's lighthearted fun. We cracking jokes.
I'm not posting people kids. You know, we're talking about
(10:55):
fun things where we're doing Real Housewives of Atlanta reviews.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
How did you feel the top? For forty minutes?
Speaker 6 (11:00):
I love it because I could, because you know what
it is with four minds. I gotta I be interrupting
Drea a lie, I'm so badfast Sorry, Drea, my girl.
I'm working, but no, I'm really bad with it. I've
gotten better with it, but now I can just.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Go play no part. Wait, I'll be having to stop myself.
The comments made you feel let me just get out there.
Speaker 6 (11:23):
Yeah, somebody wrote a letter, so y'all know we do
the letters at the end of the episode to pour
your heart out.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Segment.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
Somebody was like reading asking the advice, and that was like, Andrea,
please answer and don't let Lex say nothing.
Speaker 6 (11:37):
I said, well, bitch, you ain't getting no advice. Well
you want to know what's crazy?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Did you get it? You don't know? That's not you. Listen, No,
I bet you would. No, don't let me in.
Speaker 6 (11:47):
But honestly, I be a great advice and where I'm
at in life, I really had something good to say,
but you don't deserves It's funny because we had our.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Homemail at the very end of horrible decisions.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
We never got a whole little every Wednesday, you've got
decisions because we weren't getting to because you can there fans.
I'm like, I think still allowing them to come in
and talk and tell you to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
It's needed, ol' connors. That fit is needed, but we
like to have our our When they say ship sometimes
they'd be like, hell, just kidding, love you mean he
let you easy? I need bit. You better soften it up,
soften it up.
Speaker 7 (12:22):
I was just gonna sayt me and what I always
thought was the most lighthearted gossip and one of the
biggest viral moments when Jesus and Marrow everybody knows I'm
a huge fan.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Yeah, made a joke about.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
Envy and they said you knew them dj V check
though now I'm just playing. Jesus literally said, I'm just playing.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, envy. That whole thing.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
It was mad and so it was making me think
about it. When you said you never know how somebody
will receive it, right, y'all was just playing you and
Alex was playing when you were saying I was I
lost pounds.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Because he putted me. I didn't care how much that
was ajo. I remember, yo, it depends. I don't care
if you put a lo o l at the end
of that motherfucker shep.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
But like I said, I think it's how you deliver
it to now. No, No, it doesn't matter the delivery.
Someone will always the delivery.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Does that matter? Okay, okay, delivery.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I know tone matters and the way you deliver something
to do. You could say something and.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Say ha ha ha bitch, just joking.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
If it's not something that if someone's receiving it and
feels offensive, that's not for us to say.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
They can't say.
Speaker 6 (13:22):
I'm also the type of person where if I'm wrong,
I don't mind saying, look girl, my bad.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
I didn't mean to make you feel that way.
Speaker 6 (13:28):
But I feel like too, I'm in a space where
I'm not a comedian, but people like to put me
in that category.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I'm gonna fall on the sword that I'm a comedian,
but I'm gonna be real with you.
Speaker 7 (13:38):
There does need to be a middle, and I think
there's a few people that are popular that are comedians
that I really think should be in the middle. Yeah,
I think content creators are becoming so popular and they're
switching to comedian.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I don't really think that's necessary.
Speaker 7 (13:53):
A lot of the girls, a lot of the like
people are getting on stage t I not.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Saying that he shouldn't be a commedi.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
I'm just saying a lot of big words is funny
to me, was actually funny. See a long one that
I think about a lot, because I'm like, damn, you
saw somebody take a second career. However, See, I was
a fucking actor, right, bitch.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
You had a good TikTok.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Rapper, actor, producer, writer, all the things you on the
stage just a little what So I think sometimes when
we do things for the virality of it, it's the
problem of someone guessing you told me.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Oh, just go on stage and do this because you could,
you know.
Speaker 6 (14:30):
Yeah, And that's and and I and I actually agree
with you want that because I feel like that's why
a lot of people are in the lane, in lanes
that they're really not supposed to be in. I never
I think that's why poor Minds is so successful. We
don't look for viral moments. When we have banks that
come on we just talking.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
If something happens to go viral cool, I'm not looking
for a moment to read somebody down.
Speaker 7 (14:51):
That is the worst part of podcasts. Yeah, Like I
don't listen to podcasts. I listened to like clips and
some good if there's a good tem and YouTube. I
loved the saucy ten minute clip. And it's not that
I don't want to support. I just sometimes feel like
it's an overload for me because a lot of it
is a little too much guest, Like it's too much
(15:11):
hyping something up.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Sometimes it doesn't feel original. I love hearing two friends
just chill and talk back. But much like y'all love
the solo episodes, sometimes I do too. I can't handle
what a guest will bring out of you, and sometimes
can feel like podcasters are so desperate and pulling that
guest to give them something.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
I mean, it's why I listen to pods that don't
normally have guests.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Like I love brit Idiots, I love the read I
love mess with Sitting Reezie. Like I know we we
convolute with guests a lot, but.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I love just when it's wrote a book. Bitchy'all be fighting?
Speaker 6 (15:52):
Are you asking for real? I'm asking, oh, no, me
and don't fight. I believe you. You know what's crazy. In
the beginning, we did. We don't got nothing to fight about.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Life is good.
Speaker 7 (16:01):
Girl like fights turned into with a solid friendship conversation.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
You know, I like, she'll call me be like friend.
I don't like that. I'd be like, oh girl, my bad.
We moved on.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
It's a real friendship. Like I have friends for over
a decade. We've never fought. I'm never probably like me
and my best friend Crystal have been friends for I
think for thirteen years. And when my boyfriend just came
to Atlanta, I told him the one time I thought
we had an argument, yeah and was crazy. Shout out
to my friend Jazz. She was there to we were
(16:33):
in Miami. She was there to like mediate. We sat
down and I said, I said, as Crystal when we fought,
and she said the same time. We've lived together for
four years, traveled the world together. I see her so
much and one argument I don't argue. I don't fight
with my friend has just become.
Speaker 6 (16:52):
To be sisters though, And that's dress my sister and
I don't talk to.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Once every few year, few years. Video give me and
you know you do this boom, I like a table
and looks at medios. I just need these moments from you,
and sometimes you don't. I think you need them with me.
I need with you. I need you to prioritize having
moments take this with me.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
I don't like that.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
And I think when you're so close with somebody, like
it's so hard to check them. Sometimes not like that,
but it can be for an awkwardness some people don't
know for someone.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Who can't maybe receive criticism.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
But when you know a friend, you know again how
to deliver it to them and how to come with
them with love. So it's not about you checking them
into telling them how they maybe I made you feel her,
how their actions.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Not friends want to save awkward moments. Now see. I'm
more so like that, but Dreya isn't.
Speaker 6 (17:45):
So a lot of times I'm like I don't want
to talk about something, She'll be like, friend, what's up?
Speaker 1 (17:49):
What happened? Like that's true. So it's a balance.
Speaker 6 (17:52):
Though, because I feel like sometimes you have two people
who are confrontational, that's kind of where this starts, are
two people who don't.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Want to talk about it.
Speaker 6 (17:59):
I'm very, very extremely sensitive.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
I know that well, but you know what she's so
both of you have such the same exterior, so sweet,
so warm.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I feel like all your fans would say that it's interesting.
Speaker 3 (18:13):
I picture you in my brain as someone that's more assertive.
Speaker 6 (18:17):
I that's that's crazy that you said that, because I
am I'm a bit. I am a sensitive bitch is
way nicer than me, Like when it comes to work
talking to people, like when we out in publish, they'd
be like, hang on, like, hey, I'm not gonna sit
in the car because I get anxiety a little bit,
and I'm just like hold.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
On, like, hey, oh my god, y'all like the bite and.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
I'm just like, guys, we need to be out of
the quick as fall and be like you didn't have
to go.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Yeah, I like to go to sleep. Drag is way nice.
Physical overload.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
It'll be like, let me know, like I could tell
like anxiety, but I want to get to our hypothetically
speaking Okay, because said that she was single, I can't
wait to hear what you would do if this happened.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
Are you dating? Okay? So hypothetically speaking.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
This week is brought to you by our producer Billy
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Speaker 1 (19:27):
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Speaker 1 (19:35):
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Speaker 7 (19:36):
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Speaker 1 (19:43):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
So these are his scenarios, hypothetically speaking, So here we go.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Let's answer these.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
Now, your date picks an expensive restaurant but conveniently forgets
their wallet.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
How do you respond?
Speaker 3 (19:58):
You can, it's an easy one, real cash as you
know what? You know what's crazy? My mind didn't even
go there.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
But I'm old. I remember when he used to have
to get Western Union from niggas.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
Okay, western wild, we ate in ourselves, but you call yourself.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
I am Western.
Speaker 7 (20:20):
From a Jamaican nigga and he having Western Union him
money that another nigga dropped off. And I remember when
I came to one of my homegirls, I was like,
I do this every week and she was like, but
you're investling this is money, you know.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Do you know the last experience that I have a
Western Union? Uh oh, just talk about these niggas. So
I had one nigga bring me to Cutter. So I
was all the way out in fucking the Middle East. Correct,
it is correct. It's not guitar, it's Cutter.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I said, who was colored man? Who is there? So guitar?
I went there, one of my old my old thing,
and thanks. So I get out there and the team
didn't pay him. So bitch.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
But I'm also out there and nigga, I'm broke. I
ain't got no money.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
The team know the team. So when you play on
them overseas teams them teams were playing with you. I'm
like a bitch. He was over first off overseas is
like a bitch bench. He was an element o p lister.
Fuck you mean what he be?
Speaker 3 (21:23):
So he over there playing in the Middle East and
the team didn't bring it give.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Him his money. So here we go help. We had
to do this. I call my homegirl, shout out to Lena,
love you for life.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
So I hit my homegirl up like I got bleep
sending me money through Western Union. I might have it
sent to your name. Can you pick it up and
then deposit it into my account? Because this is back
when Chase allowed you to catch deposits. So out of
I had him send me one thousand dollars because back then, bitch,
a thousand dollars meant something that I ain't ask.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
For, No thousand, no more. So I had my other nigga.
I called him.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
I said, Yo, I'm all the way out in the
Middle East. This they can't get paid.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
My dress is tight. Hell and my friend, my friend
picked up the Western Union and deposited in somebody account. Okay,
so now that's the easy picked out it.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Here we go. Next hypothetical. Thank you Billy for this one.
Scenario two, you're on a date.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
This is a good one. Scenario two.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
You're on a date and he mentions he's never dated
a black girl, but yet he's currently on a date
with you.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
What do you respond to a man who says that
he's never dated a black woman? Is this a black man?
It's whatever colored man it is that you allowed to
take you on a date, all right?
Speaker 3 (22:37):
So, because but it depends on his race. So how
do you respond to a white man saying it?
Speaker 1 (22:42):
And how do you respond to a black man saying
it a girl, Oh.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
My god, whe man, Yeah, yeah, you can make it work.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
The fuck you can go for a So you you're
cool with being a white man's woman.
Speaker 7 (23:05):
Yeah's assuming that the white man is love grect.
Speaker 6 (23:10):
Wait where you if you're a right man and you're
not rich, you did not be like right?
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Like what are you doing? How are we the ones?
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Like?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
If you're white and a man and you're not rich,
you fucking suck.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
You had all the sets of God book and.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
You're American on top of that, Bro, you just don't
get you watching Paradise. You watch a Paradise.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
There's a scene my think of god man just watching
when the grandfather said, our last name alone will get
you elected.
Speaker 5 (23:40):
He moved.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
You're talking about this ship like.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
He ain't like you know, like you know, like the
last name brad Brown, Bradford.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
It is something you know what really pisses me off
with a Jewish father. I'm telling you you are you are?
He ain't doing right? What are you talking about? Like, bru,
do you know what Jewish kids have? Are you Jews?
We had? Can we calm down with this segment? Okay? Now,
(24:09):
what if it was it was a black man. I
ain't going at you, you.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
White man, to know why because I have dated a
black guy before who didn't date black us more and
was he a football player? He was a basketball player. Wow.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
And it was just like he would say things that he.
Speaker 6 (24:32):
Would think was a compliment, like like you know, oh,
you don't act like.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
You know and it was.
Speaker 6 (24:38):
Given like you're black, you are n I G G hardy.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Ark yes, like what other things is that?
Speaker 6 (24:48):
That was the main thing he would say, like, oh,
you don't act like you know, and you don't.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
No like he likes Oh I liked God, I'm not
talking about it a little but a little flavor, you know.
Speaker 6 (25:06):
Yes, yes, like it wasn't no hispanic, No, he likes
something real.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
You know what I learned at a young age, and
I'm glad I did.
Speaker 6 (25:15):
Mmm.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
I was gonna say, maybe I don't know.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
I had seeing my mom growing up who was dating
with a white man, not dating. They're married, But there
was a lot that made me feel like sometimes she
would imply, and maybe it was just a small insecurity
that black men didn't always find her beautiful. And I'd
never heard her say that outwardly, but I would always
feel like she'd be surprised when black men would hit
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on her. So, whatever the case may be, a lot
of black women, I'm sure have felt like that in
their life.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Yeah. Uh So when I was on.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
A date once, maybe young, I remember a guy telling
me I acted like a dark skinned girl.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Maybe I was. I don't remember how I was talking.
Speaker 7 (25:56):
Or whatever, but I've had another man tell me, oh,
like your real hair, Like I thought you're gonna have
mixed girl hair.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
You have black girl hair, they said, hearty hard, Oh
my god.
Speaker 7 (26:10):
The thing that I started to learn as a biracial
girl is, oh, the niggas I'm dated just like girls
that look like this, this is just black now.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (26:19):
And so that wasn't a weird thing for me too,
but I didn't know it until I got old.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah yeah, okay, you like them like you want to
you want to say nigga with me, but y'all don't
want to date. Yeah. Yeah, those are the things.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
That I think light skinned women and mixed girls never
really understand. Right, you are dating one of them niggas, right,
because he realizes.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Like I could say I'm with a black woman right
and say like, oh, I love black women. They can
pand her down.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
Let be honest with you, maybe because the bitch is
the way I am, but also I feel like my
body type I've never.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
You's notting right, throwing no no bit to my niggas.
A bitch ain't mixed.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
I'm black, I got a big ass, got thighs. No,
I'm telling you for any time. I'm telling you right now,
for any time. All my athletes, my whole twenties, for
what I've dated, I've never dated a guy who oftentimes
dates white women or things.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
I'm just black enough. I also date a lot.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
A lot of what people were attracted to me for
was my body type. I have a black body type
so much too to where y'all listen to the past episodes,
anytime a white man would even approach me, they would
approach me as.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
You only date black guys. No cool, it could be
a tight, but I have the black body.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
So the men that are attracted to me date black women,
and whether they're lights dark, dre't you.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Let's be very clear if I if I.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Go through also, and this is gonna sound fucked up
as fuck for all the niggas that I was a
side bitch to all the married niggas that I'm fuck
all black, curvy, bodacious or dark skin thin women, but
all black women.
Speaker 6 (28:05):
But you cannot say as a light skinned black woman
that men, well, yes.
Speaker 3 (28:14):
For for any black man who holds those fucking biases
wants a light skin bitch with nice hair, a bitchman
ball for five years and before that, I bored in
a fucking button because I have thin ass hair.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
I'm not gonna take away the privilege of me being
light skinned.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
But I've never personally had the experience of any man
saying you're just black and no, no.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
I never had that.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
Ye say it, but I've never been put into that
group of If I look at the other women, you
probably don't feel that had But I don't think you're
you are You're like you're not. I think what Weezy
is trying to say is you not necessarily like nobody's
gonna look at you and be like, oh, she's just
black enough, Like you're a black woman. As a light
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skin black woman, there are things that you have access
person even talking about right right, talking about For the
men that I've only specifically dated, they're like black women,
but a lot of them probably was like it's a
fatish and they don't want a dark skin.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
They probably didn't tell you that. I think that's the thing.
You really don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:14):
You never know, you never know, you never know, And
honestly speaking, but I'm anna fuck them with a lot
of other bitches.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Bitches be all shades and colors. Yeah, Like whenever women
like black women.
Speaker 7 (29:25):
I've had two men in my life make the comment
that I'm the outlier. It's the partner I have now
and a few before that, and that's when I knew, like, oh,
you actually really do.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Like right right right like the nigger.
Speaker 3 (29:37):
I remember saying to me the first dude that ever
said it, It almost made me feel embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
He was like, I don't know, bro, we're going on
in the sun. Who knows what's gonna happen to you?
You know? Yeah? Yeah, I think for me.
Speaker 3 (29:50):
And even though I made the joke about the white man,
I don't I'm not attracted to white men for.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
Real, like that neither.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
But I love black men, especially black men who love
black women.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
You know what I'm saying, You're like all shapes inside
off the up.
Speaker 7 (30:05):
You know what I'm saying, You could be having another
wife who's in that interview talking about his favorite food
is chicken fries.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
He loves fried chicken. Oh my god, I know that's
his favorite. It's color. But you know what's crazy, And
I know we've talked about it. Every time I see
a video of his daddy, I'm like.
Speaker 3 (30:28):
You came from boll That mother's mock be lit, bro,
he'd be drunk then the mother.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
And that's the party. He was raised by his white
mama because he's black. Daddy wasn't red.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Don't shake like the mixed people don't when on going back,
because my mom will make a collar green bitch, she
make a oxtail.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Mama can call him ma. Mama throws the pop down hooky.
Don't got nothing to do with her being old. That's fine.
What she's like, she's quite, she's quite. That's your answer.
But my mama was black as hell. Have you seen
the there's a TikTok Okay.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
So they're like, all right, not all X girls or
mixed people with white mamas are the same.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
What is it that makes some of them different?
Speaker 7 (31:09):
And this one girl said, I feel like I've had
a different experience than other mixed women with white mothers
because my mom's community and friends were black women.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Yeah, and some guys.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Make a little different my mother a little bit, I mean,
and I get it because it's just like, Okay, your
auntie's the friends, you're kind of surrounding yourself. But there
is something a little bit different to me with white
people raising a black neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
And they'd be like, yeah, that should be kind of
weird too, So I think it's a thin line. It is, yeah,
and it's tough because with me.
Speaker 7 (31:44):
I remember watching Doctor Umar talk about confusion with mixed kids. Oh,
I think when you're a mixed kid like the PWY girls,
either a black.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Girl in white school, and they get real, what oh
that happened to me?
Speaker 7 (31:58):
My mom fucking picked me up from the project to
the lie about sleeping over our friend's house.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
She's like, what the fuck are you doing over here?
Not like the fuck? And I was like, because I
made friends that they a call her new new growing up.
She joy, I got a movie theater, bitch. We would
be in the hood with our girls and draw spring
pony tail. But it's crazy because when you're a fucking
mixed kid, you're like, which, what where do I yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
I really gotta say today I am so glad to
see people embracing their national hair.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
I think even the perm complex fucked me up.
Speaker 7 (32:32):
Yeah, there is so much shit I learned after thirty
twenty five and thirty that I was like, Okay, doctor
Marr's like, we don't need no more meal.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
Yeah for no milk. I need the buck needs to
stop with me and Mandy. I'm serious. I'm a weak no.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
Reactionary real quick, okay, because I want to get into
the topic everybody is talking about, and I know, because
you're a monogamous hope, damn have this conversation.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
I want to play. Cliff O Marion sat down recently.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
Oh god, this is what he had to say about
Koffee's comments on non monogamy.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Could be in.
Speaker 6 (33:18):
My cheer for hot topics about actor Kofee Sarah Bo
and he says that he practices.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Ethical non monogamy.
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Okay, do you think that's a good idea, ethical non monogamy.
Speaker 5 (33:27):
Well, I will say I'm in agreeance. You know, I
don't know all of the backstory of.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Those those words.
Speaker 5 (33:34):
I will say ethical, being open is important and also,
you know, a woman just truly outnumbered the men. You
know what I mean, is this like all you can
eat buffet. Let me just say, it's only a few
good men. It's only a few good men, right, you know,
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whether or not, it's whether or not it's a physical thing.
You know, we end up during the next generation as well.
So why not have our queens our queen women, Because
because I was raised by all women, why not have
our queens aligned with that that it takes a village.
It's not going to just be one man, you know.
You you even you could get married, that man still
(34:15):
ain't gonna be just your man. He's gonna be you know. Therefore,
his daughter, he's gonna be like his mom, his grandmother.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
You know what. It's always a nigga concept. Isn't really foreign.
Speaker 5 (34:23):
It's it's just a little old you know, and it's
it's meant to be upgraded. And I love this conversation
because I think when men of company and honest that
they don't want to have just this one thing for
the rest of their life, it gives a woman an
opportunity to choose.
Speaker 1 (34:37):
Flex.
Speaker 6 (34:39):
It's crazy because I just had a conversation with Jesse
about this yesterday. So I think The problem with his
views on that is a lot of times American men
want to adopt what these African the West African men
are doing in their homes with polygamy and have it
multiple wiles. But y'all will realize that it is a
structure though they and home, they have a community, they're
(35:02):
paying the bills.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
It's not I got a kid in LA I got
a kid in New York, I got a kid in Houston.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Y'all are not.
Speaker 6 (35:09):
There are still rules and structure to polygamy. You just
want to fuck around, period, and that's not what it is.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
Professor.
Speaker 6 (35:17):
Hello, now don't get me on my doctor Oumar.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
Do you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (35:26):
As somebody who is I am like, I'm monogamous.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
I only want to be with one person.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
But I don't have a problem with people who are polycoples.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
Because everybody's mad at Neo right now why.
Speaker 6 (35:38):
He's leaving in his truth because if he was always
living in his truth, he wouldn't have drug Moneta and.
Speaker 1 (35:44):
Crystal through whe So I.
Speaker 3 (35:46):
Do believe that men can identify as Polly, but Neo
also takes care of all of his girlfriends. You know
what I'm saying, I think their structured to that that
y'all don't want to do.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Y'all can't even take care of little day day.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
I think so what it's so My issue with on
Maaya's response is he says.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Women outnumber men. That's the reason that men.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Should have multiple partners, a few goods, only a few
good men.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
Now, I will say this, I believe that, but women.
Speaker 7 (36:19):
There are an abundant amount of women that are accepting
this lifestyle and aren't fucking non monogamousts. The thing that
I think makes the neo situation strange is, for example,
if you asked me today if I could be in
an monogamous relationship, I've already been tested and it didn't
work for me with someone who was monogamous. It was
hospital dick for those listening, it wouldn't work for me today. However,
(36:42):
I think if you gave any neo's girlfriend an option
to be the only one, they would say yes. And
I think a lot of women accept situations that they
aren't really happy in. I don't know if ethical nonminogamy
is something that women are allowed to do on their own.
I really don't know any girls other than Mandy and
I that I've been living this life for as long.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I will say. I know one of Neal's girlfriends and
I've known her since I lived in Miami. She is
very much her I think many one Ariel I don't know, but.
Speaker 3 (37:13):
I've known her since Miami. I'm not saying that she's
with Neo because this is what she has to put
up with. She's very much living in her life and
her truth. I main one loves it down no probably
what I'm talking about, and I've known her since Miami.
I also know one of the baby moms. I know
a lot of women, and maybe because I am more
(37:33):
in the lifestyle, I do know so many women that
really vibe for this ship that they love being with
men and women and when they can do it together
and it's honest and it's fun, they're like, this is
the best fucking shit ever.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Like they have a fucking black we get like three great.
Speaker 7 (37:52):
I'm saying, we don't see that, Mandy. We see a
lot of celebrity matter of porfriend.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
Now and everyone's judging them, saying they can't be happy.
Speaker 3 (37:58):
Like I don't think we're the old ones truthfully loving
non monogamy as much as like a lot of people
that I know are like so glad that they don't
have to lean into societal's norms of a lifestyle that
hasn't worked for them.
Speaker 7 (38:11):
They want this. I really, I'm being honest with you.
I'm in the same field and world that you're in too, right.
I really don't believe there are women that choose this.
I don't see it.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
More times than none, I see many non monogamous relationships
fail because women want to change it.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
At some point.
Speaker 7 (38:29):
All of the girls that I know they married a
ball player or got with one and was having fun
doing the threesome.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
They're tired of it.
Speaker 6 (38:36):
Like yeah, mo will say, I do hear those stories
a lot of women sleeping with other women with their
man just to make him happy him. Yeah, now, I
will say, because now we get into another topic because
a lot of these women are doing these things because Ritt,
do you know what I'm saying. It's different, but you know,
but what I'm saying is no, no, I don't mean
literally like oh, there are green because they're like, Okay,
(38:59):
well at least I don't have to go to work
and he gonna pay my bills.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
Like you know what I'm saying the patriarchy.
Speaker 3 (39:04):
There's a lot of women that like have an advantage
by leaning into the patriarchy, and that's what it has
afforded us. It is a man providing and you kind
of turning a blind eye because you actually are in
need of something not from him. We talked about this
in a previous episode, like even on my ex. Once
I became self sufficient, I loved that I could love
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a man without needing anything more than who he was
as a man. But I don't need you for provision.
I don't need you to pay my bills. I can
now take the blinders. I could take the blinders off,
and now I can exist as a woman who can
choose a partner because I'm happy and to me.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
And you don't identify with being a lifestylar.
Speaker 3 (39:43):
A lot of my friends, the couples, the sex club owners,
the dungeon owners, A lot of my friends right now
are lifestylers who choose this life.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
I don't say I'm saying we don't. I'm saying I
know them, and I hear it.
Speaker 6 (39:55):
Well, I figure she's saying, is they're still the minority though,
like women, we.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
Have couples out. But then I think Let's be very clear.
If a woman comes out and says, yeah, I let
my man have sex with other women, everyone on the
internet in the comments, they're gonna be like.
Speaker 1 (40:11):
Huh, she goes can't pay her rent, she gotta do that.
She's not happy.
Speaker 3 (40:14):
There's also a lot of projection on people just assuming
that this isn't the life we choose. We fought it
for the last eight years of this podcast, where they
thought that maybe we were leaning into an insecurity or oh,
she must feel like she has to do this to
keep a man. I just feel like, and maybe I'm blessed.
I'll say it's a privilege to know so many women
who have genuinely been able to exist in a relationship
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where their man having sex with someone else isn't a hindrance.
And as a woman who's bisexual, they now get to
have fun with a whole bunch of women with their nigga.
Speaker 7 (40:44):
Now, y'all, they're part of the relationship. Yes, they can
fuck girls with they man. They can have sex with
women too.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
Do we see women having other relationships with men? No?
And that's what I mean about.
Speaker 7 (40:59):
You watch the niggas on these clips talk about nom monogamy, ethical.
This this that the true language around nominogamy to me
is everybody's engagement. You're either doing it together and right
or you're both dating. I'll tell you right now, I
don't believe Neo's girlfriends have other niggas. To me, this
is a one sided situation. That is not what we
all non monogamy. You talk about the porn star that
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you know whose husband filmed her like that is lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
We're not talking about lifestyle here, but monogamy too much
and six that's fine, but not only that.
Speaker 3 (41:36):
Let's be clear about non monogamy being an umbrella. You
have polygamy, you have polyamory, you have the other one
with which which is the women one.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
But y'all are whatever.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
So to me, in my last relationship, I genuinely didn't
feel like I needed other men. So to me, I
don't think you're just fully non monogamous if both of
y'all are willing to date. I'm a non non monogamous
person who doesn't think that my partner should date anyone
and I can't, but we could have sex with someone
else unemotionally attached. Non monogamy can absolutely be customizable. It
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could be with you and your partner make it, which
is why maybe we didn't understand the Will and Jada,
which is why maybe we don't understand why r P.
Vanessa Bryant chose to stay with Kobe because that white
woman in Denver probably wasn't the first one. It's probably why.
And I know nothing of this to be true. Allegedly
Savannah is still rocking with lebron.
Speaker 5 (42:30):
So.
Speaker 3 (42:32):
We complete that our days are.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Doctor Ubar said, no Ice, no right.
Speaker 3 (42:50):
What I'm saying is we would be completely irresponsible with
this platform to say that non monogamy looks one way.
It doesn't, And we don't know the inner workings of
everyone's relationships. They may be able to have sex with
other people, but can't date other people. They can't embarrass
Neo publicly. So maybe they can have sex with other men,
but don't let it get messy, like a lot of
us are allowing our partners to maybe step out, don't
(43:10):
bring the mess home, don't get another bitch pregnant, wrap
up if you step out. There's a lot of people
that have those boundaries set up that to me, just.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Because you can or cannot as a woman date another man,
so or not maybe you'll know, maybe Samannah got another on.
Speaker 6 (43:24):
I don't like that though, because I feel like, if
you're dating a man and he gets to do everything,
you can't do nothing.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
Sometimes you can't. It depends on what you agree to.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
And as a woman, if you bitch, if you want
to go suck another dick and your nigga said no,
then that ain't the nigga for you.
Speaker 7 (43:41):
But great guy, is that these men with money and
power are literally coming to women, you know, going through
the motions, playing the whole role, vacation, this, this, that.
Oh you know I think I'm ready for relationship.
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Well, you know, I'm out all the time. I'm traveling
a lot. I like to fuck other women.
Speaker 7 (43:59):
Now, if you wouldn't mind being one of my girlfriends,
I'm gonna take care of you.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
Are you ready?
Speaker 3 (44:04):
Her pasandacity the roof over her head, so she's like, Okay, Davey.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
That's what I'm saying. It's not that, but that's what
we were saying.
Speaker 6 (44:10):
A lot of women that really enjoy these this lifestyle,
they're outnumbered by the men who want the lifestyle. I
think that's what you were trying to say, because you
were like eighty percent of men.
Speaker 3 (44:20):
Told the women accountable who are saying relationships that aren't
fully fulfilling because they need the Oh yeah, but luckily
we're in the modern girl era where we do make
our own money and we're able to now hold some
footing ground in our household and in our relationships to
demand that either this is what works for me, this
is what I like, this is my boundary, and if
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you cross it, I don't have to stay.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
I don't have to mean we're.
Speaker 6 (44:43):
Getting a little to the other side now because now
you have women with money who are dealing with it
because they don't want to be lonely. So that say,
it's a lot of successful women thing right right now.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
It's definitely not a gender thing.
Speaker 7 (44:58):
The problem too with women that are putting up with
it is men are really being vocal about needing this,
and we are seeing this uptick in women saying I
won't accept this, like I'll be alone, and dudes being like, fine,
I'll just take there's a lot of women I can't
believe I'm right answering that.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
That was his response. You can tell that slipped out.
We're out.
Speaker 3 (45:23):
All into the world just to see all the queens,
all the queen's horses, all the queens men.
Speaker 6 (45:30):
Yeah, But like I said, I think there is a
little responsibility, like you said, in structure, and you have
to have rules for yourself, and I think they just
kind of want to do whatever, and I think that's bullshit.
Speaker 1 (45:40):
No, I agree.
Speaker 3 (45:41):
I do think that we would love y'all to jump
into the comments on this one specifically because we've been
talking about nominogamy from horrible decisions to decisions decisions so
much and clearly now with the being a buzzword now
with people hopping in and out of these relationships or
choosing to be single, we had an episode on choosing
to be single as well. Like I think you as women,
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and I will only want to speak to the women
because we know y'all are ninety percent our demo. You
have the voice to say in something that serves you
or that doesn't. But what I want you to not
lean into is society's comments and views on what they
think looks like happiness. Because if you allow your nigga
to have multiple girlfriends and that is fun for you,
stay in that motherfucking relationship and enjoy your life and
(46:23):
kind of block out the noise.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
But if you're a woman.
Speaker 3 (46:26):
If you're a woman that doesn't align with that, and
you're with a partner that is like, hey, babe, I
want to step out, but don't want you to. If
that doesn't work for you, feel free to sit here
and move on because there's plenty of fish in the
mother places crying.
Speaker 1 (46:38):
In the beans. Bitch, go buy one. Okay, hello, Lea,
you're talking my language all right now.
Speaker 3 (46:45):
By the way, I know that we are gonna get
the comments like ex bitches in their outlines. They couldn't
have bought another hour studio time. We want more like speed.
If you grow bit y'all talking like y'all got buddy,
it couldn't afford a goddamn soo age.
Speaker 1 (46:58):
They are going to cuss us out. God said, you
know what. But we'll be back in.
Speaker 3 (47:02):
April, so we may have to have a part to
bring Drey back on here. Maybe we come on the
poor mind here.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Yes, we have to do another one. We have to
do another round. Yeah, we haven't done y'all studio. Y'all
have haven't been.
Speaker 3 (47:13):
Yeah, yeah, we'll have to do official, another official crossover.
After we did our rebrand, y'all gotta coming.
Speaker 1 (47:21):
Out and ship.
Speaker 3 (47:22):
Uh yeah, well, y'all have a book also if you
go ahead.
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Speaker 1 (00:45):
Welcome to Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I don't think you should say the Decisions. It sounded
like you was talking to Persky. You definitely say to welcome.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Welcome to the new podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
How are you want to say together the decisions decisions come, guys,
tune another episode of the Cisyons Decisions and.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
I'm singing cause I guess today. But it's your.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Girl, may d b Okay, okay, bitch, go ahead and
give us some vocals, cause you could say bitch, so
go ahead, give us some vocals.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
It's your girl.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
I say, it's your girl.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Let's be in the building. Yeah, I was good. No,
really she can really say. I can hold that tune? Now, weazy?
What heard you doing? Because you know what people fake sing?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
No, no, no, she goes. She she sounds like Tony Braxton.
You know over y'all, so you fund like Tony Braxton.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
I will tell you now, I sound like share can.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Do you that when you believe life after love?
Speaker 1 (01:59):
They are I'm not mad at that they are. Couldn't
have done this. Guys excited. We got a girl, les Pete.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
More.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
The p is for that girl, Ueen. There's no she's
gonna be all marriage that girlfriend. That's all of it.
The lex pee stands for I'm that girl. I thought
it meant that pussy mills all love it. It can
it can be that too. I'd like you to hear
I could that you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
So normally we start off with a quick catch up
of what Weezye and I got going on. However, I
thought we could start this af really cute podcasters for
years now. We're not new to this, We're true to this,
yead old Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
It's like this may be the first time the three
of us have all been on a mic. We boyfriends.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
You gotcha, bitch, gotcha?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
USh this?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Uh?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I had him be delivered.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
Okay, I know we recorded this episode the same as
whatever episode you heard a go.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
We both record these. Fly was still here, y'all go
see these for the flowers period, and we ain't send.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
The gonna be just like this, Hello, welcome. That's with you,
as you been used to know. No one want to
shoot my niggas married me.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I can't even because so lex you are very mimmy
and my ma and my man.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I am where I get sick of it. So I
thought we could actually just all be really annoying you
that so you know, I'm always like that in the beginning.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
I think it's like the beginning honeymoon Stace. It was
for the last year and a half he's an amazing guy.
Like he's an amazing man.
Speaker 6 (03:54):
We have amazing relationship. We still talk every day, you know,
it's not like.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
A bad stuck up. Well, no, it's not. We're not
in a relation.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Why how you talk to a guy every day still
fuck him work together and that not be your man?
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Wait, I've done that.
Speaker 6 (04:13):
Well, I think it's just because it's just we have
a lot going on individually that we need to work on,
and I can't recognize that.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You know. So I have a lot of growing I
need to do and he does as well. So it's
not like weird and bad blood and we hate. It's
not none of that.
Speaker 6 (04:28):
It's just like we're trying to figure it out. If
it works out and we get back together, cool and
if it don't cool?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Like are you are?
Speaker 5 (04:34):
You?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Are y'all both seeing other people? I'm not? I mean
I don't. I mean I don't think he is. I
don't know, but I don't.
Speaker 6 (04:40):
I'm not in that space right now, to be honest, Like,
I have so much going on.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I know it sounds so cliche. No, it don't have
so much going on work.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Why I don't even have time to like worry about that?
Speaker 6 (04:51):
And be concerned about it. It was like a point
in time was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
If he moves on to date somebody, I'm gonna jump
off a bridge.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
But I'm like, you know what I feel like, like
if we work out cool, if we don't cool, I
feel like I'm here because God has guided me down
such a good path. So instead of doubting what's gonna
happen all the time, I just have to have faith
that it'll work out in my path.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You sound like every bit of the modern day won't. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
I think like when women back in the day, when
I say back in the day, maybe your mama's or whatever,
like when they couldn't really have jobs or they couldn't
be entrepreneurs, and their whole lives were dictated on the patriarchy. Yeah,
and finding a man or a husband to provide hearing
all those things.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
A woman had to be like, I gotta say what
you Yeah, yeah, I will say this though.
Speaker 7 (05:36):
There is a weird privilege that making more money kind
of gave me.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Oh facts, like for sure, period, even though I have
more niggas.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
When I was broke and I was they like to
say bitches. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:49):
At the same time, there's something internally that like that
little bit of I mean like independence.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
I don't know what it is.
Speaker 7 (05:56):
It just makes you have this different viewpoint. It's almost
like you think you're options are bigger, but I do
think it has to do it being busy.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
Yeah, being busy definitely has saved me.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Like I'm not the type of girl like if I
go through a breakup, I'm like, don't get me wrong,
I'm gonna be in the house for a little bit
and go through my emotion, to go through my feelings, but.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I gotta go to work so you know, I have
stuff to do, so I can't.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
And then it's like the way my podcast is, it's
like I gotta be funny and I gotta be vibr
so I don't got time for all that.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
I gotta keep it pushed. And I think that's my thing.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
When you are a C suite woman or a woman
with a nine to five or multiple jobs, they're running
your own businesses.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Like the last thing you need a man to do
is to come in and not be your peace. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
So if you're not gonna make my life easier while
I'm not, because work is never.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Easy, let's be very right, even though you get to.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Come and show up and be funny and do the
love of shows and travel all over the world and
do the things like when that still becomes exhausting and
draining on our body and we're dealing with a lot
of people. Yeah, so when I finally get free time, nigger,
the last thing I want to do is argue with you.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Right right?
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Is so you said that you feel like you have
to always come and show up for me. I think
whenever I want to back see, it's we're so lucky.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
We have a guest. Tell me how when you've had a.
Speaker 7 (07:12):
Tough day with your partner, what's that conversation with you Andrea,
like where you like, bitch, have you had a day
where you're like, romantic wise, not family stuff, romantic wise,
You're like, I'm fucking having a bad day.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
I'm like, I can't do it. I let her know.
Speaker 6 (07:26):
We be having conversations, but I don't know what. I
hate to say this, but I know how to turn
that shit on period. Yeah said that camera presses record.
All that goes out the window because at the end
of the day, it's people out there who have worse
days than me who watch poor minds to put them
in a good mood, or watch love Lex Pete to
put them in a good mood.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
I'm crying. I'm upset over a nigga. You the world.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Months ago I was crying in a card, not over
a nigga, but just stressed, right, And I had listened
to this podcast. I shared it on You Got Decisions,
where basically it says, watch out, you talk to yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I'm in the car. I had a good cry in
a parking garage. That's the best place. Some cars be
going by, some lady getting grocery, dog still crying.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
So I'm in the car and I'm crying. I'm like, fuck,
this shit sucks. And then I said, but I'm crying
in my car. That's paid off though, Hey, and this
is a problem that I had, Like there's always a
bright side.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
I know that's weird. But everything be feeling like boom,
yeah when it rained and poor. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 7 (08:30):
There's been days where I've cried in my house. Even
this morning, I had a little fit. I woke up
to five thirty.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
I was fucking tired, and I was like, bro, I
work for myself, right, I could have been getting up
for a corporate job today.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I have friends who hate their job can.
Speaker 7 (08:44):
Find another way, right, Like I have a lot of outlets,
I can enjoy free time. Like I almost tried to
start saying it out loud. Oh, I say I talked
to myself.
Speaker 6 (08:52):
I'd say I'd be like, girl, look at you body, teeth, face, card,
never decline period. You know you got a lot of money.
You know what I'm saying, God, fear a woman.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
You got a blessed job. You have to work with
your best friend.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
You know.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
I launched my YouTube. It's so many good things. Okay,
tell us about lovelex P.
Speaker 6 (09:09):
Yeah, so lovelex P is my solo show that I
have now. And it's so weird because I don't want
to say I want to gossip with integrity because you can't.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Gossip is no one right.
Speaker 6 (09:20):
But I do think that the gossip hot topics thing
has gotten so ugly.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
We are in a space now where everybody wants to
go viral. Oh. I'm going to read her her writes
and break her down what happened when.
Speaker 6 (09:32):
We had like Juliana Ransick and John Rivers being fun
and funny and cute on Eve. But what I'm saying
is it was all in good hearted fun because when
she would see you, it would still be.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Like, you know what's crazy about you? Saying that we
can say things ingest and wholehearted fun. You never know
how someone's gonna receive something. So to me, even if
you and I just had this conversation with Lou Weell,
I was on the under lounge with him and Spank
and you know I used to be a.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Blogger. Yeah, yeah, on sports specifically, so.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
Sucking a little will and he was like, yeah, man,
but sometimes we don't want nobody talking about our business.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
And as human beings, sometimes it don't matter if you.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Put on something that you like, if someone says it's ugly,
they're going to receive it back. So unfortunately, like, I
don't think that's possible, only because the way people receive
anybody talking about them in any capacity, depending on the day,
well exactly.
Speaker 6 (10:34):
First of all, I feel like the way I've branded myself,
everybody knows I'll play all day and then with love lads,
I'm not reporting on serious topics and serious things like
for example, like with the meg shooting, Like if that
would have happened while my show was going, that's not
something I'm reporting on it's lighthearted fun. We cracking jokes.
I'm not posting people kids. You know, we're talking about
(10:55):
fun things where we're doing Real Housewives of Atlanta reviews.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
How did you feel the top? For forty minutes?
Speaker 6 (11:00):
I love it because I could, because you know what
it is with four minds. I gotta I be interrupting
Drea a lie, I'm so badfast Sorry, Drea, my girl.
I'm working, but no, I'm really bad with it. I've
gotten better with it, but now I can just.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Go play no part. Wait, I'll be having to stop myself.
The comments made you feel let me just get out there.
Speaker 6 (11:23):
Yeah, somebody wrote a letter, so y'all know we do
the letters at the end of the episode to pour
your heart out.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Segment.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
Somebody was like reading asking the advice, and that was like, Andrea,
please answer and don't let Lex say nothing.
Speaker 6 (11:37):
I said, well, bitch, you ain't getting no advice. Well
you want to know what's crazy?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Did you get it? You don't know? That's not you. Listen, No,
I bet you would. No, don't let me in.
Speaker 6 (11:47):
But honestly, I be a great advice and where I'm
at in life, I really had something good to say,
but you don't deserves It's funny because we had our.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Homemail at the very end of horrible decisions.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
We never got a whole little every Wednesday, you've got
decisions because we weren't getting to because you can there fans.
I'm like, I think still allowing them to come in
and talk and tell you to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
It's needed, ol' connors. That fit is needed, but we
like to have our our When they say ship sometimes
they'd be like, hell, just kidding, love you mean he
let you easy? I need bit. You better soften it up,
soften it up.
Speaker 7 (12:22):
I was just gonna sayt me and what I always
thought was the most lighthearted gossip and one of the
biggest viral moments when Jesus and Marrow everybody knows I'm
a huge fan.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Yeah, made a joke about.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
Envy and they said you knew them dj V check
though now I'm just playing. Jesus literally said, I'm just playing.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, envy. That whole thing.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
It was mad and so it was making me think
about it. When you said you never know how somebody
will receive it, right, y'all was just playing you and
Alex was playing when you were saying I was I
lost pounds.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Because he putted me. I didn't care how much that
was ajo. I remember, yo, it depends. I don't care
if you put a lo o l at the end
of that motherfucker shep.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
But like I said, I think it's how you deliver
it to now. No, No, it doesn't matter the delivery.
Someone will always the delivery.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Does that matter? Okay, okay, delivery.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I know tone matters and the way you deliver something
to do. You could say something and.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Say ha ha ha bitch, just joking.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
If it's not something that if someone's receiving it and
feels offensive, that's not for us to say.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
They can't say.
Speaker 6 (13:22):
I'm also the type of person where if I'm wrong,
I don't mind saying, look girl, my bad.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
I didn't mean to make you feel that way.
Speaker 6 (13:28):
But I feel like too, I'm in a space where
I'm not a comedian, but people like to put me
in that category.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I'm gonna fall on the sword that I'm a comedian,
but I'm gonna be real with you.
Speaker 7 (13:38):
There does need to be a middle, and I think
there's a few people that are popular that are comedians
that I really think should be in the middle. Yeah,
I think content creators are becoming so popular and they're
switching to comedian.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I don't really think that's necessary.
Speaker 7 (13:53):
A lot of the girls, a lot of the like
people are getting on stage t I not.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Saying that he shouldn't be a commedi.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
I'm just saying a lot of big words is funny
to me, was actually funny. See a long one that
I think about a lot, because I'm like, damn, you
saw somebody take a second career. However, See, I was
a fucking actor, right, bitch.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
You had a good TikTok.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Rapper, actor, producer, writer, all the things you on the
stage just a little what So I think sometimes when
we do things for the virality of it, it's the
problem of someone guessing you told me.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Oh, just go on stage and do this because you could,
you know.
Speaker 6 (14:30):
Yeah, And that's and and I and I actually agree
with you want that because I feel like that's why
a lot of people are in the lane, in lanes
that they're really not supposed to be in. I never
I think that's why poor Minds is so successful. We
don't look for viral moments. When we have banks that
come on we just talking.
Speaker 3 (14:45):
If something happens to go viral cool, I'm not looking
for a moment to read somebody down.
Speaker 7 (14:51):
That is the worst part of podcasts. Yeah, Like I
don't listen to podcasts. I listened to like clips and
some good if there's a good tem and YouTube. I
loved the saucy ten minute clip. And it's not that
I don't want to support. I just sometimes feel like
it's an overload for me because a lot of it
is a little too much guest, Like it's too much
(15:11):
hyping something up.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Sometimes it doesn't feel original. I love hearing two friends
just chill and talk back. But much like y'all love
the solo episodes, sometimes I do too. I can't handle
what a guest will bring out of you, and sometimes
can feel like podcasters are so desperate and pulling that
guest to give them something.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
I mean, it's why I listen to pods that don't
normally have guests.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Like I love brit Idiots, I love the read I
love mess with Sitting Reezie. Like I know we we
convolute with guests a lot, but.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I love just when it's wrote a book. Bitchy'all be fighting?
Speaker 6 (15:52):
Are you asking for real? I'm asking, oh, no, me
and don't fight. I believe you. You know what's crazy. In
the beginning, we did. We don't got nothing to fight about.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Life is good.
Speaker 7 (16:01):
Girl like fights turned into with a solid friendship conversation.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
You know, I like, she'll call me be like friend.
I don't like that. I'd be like, oh girl, my bad.
We moved on.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
It's a real friendship. Like I have friends for over
a decade. We've never fought. I'm never probably like me
and my best friend Crystal have been friends for I
think for thirteen years. And when my boyfriend just came
to Atlanta, I told him the one time I thought
we had an argument, yeah and was crazy. Shout out
to my friend Jazz. She was there to we were
(16:33):
in Miami. She was there to like mediate. We sat
down and I said, I said, as Crystal when we fought,
and she said the same time. We've lived together for
four years, traveled the world together. I see her so
much and one argument I don't argue. I don't fight
with my friend has just become.
Speaker 6 (16:52):
To be sisters though, And that's dress my sister and
I don't talk to.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Once every few year, few years. Video give me and
you know you do this boom, I like a table
and looks at medios. I just need these moments from you,
and sometimes you don't. I think you need them with me.
I need with you. I need you to prioritize having
moments take this with me.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
I don't like that.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
And I think when you're so close with somebody, like
it's so hard to check them. Sometimes not like that,
but it can be for an awkwardness some people don't
know for someone.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Who can't maybe receive criticism.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
But when you know a friend, you know again how
to deliver it to them and how to come with
them with love. So it's not about you checking them
into telling them how they maybe I made you feel her,
how their actions.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Not friends want to save awkward moments. Now see. I'm
more so like that, but Dreya isn't.
Speaker 6 (17:45):
So a lot of times I'm like I don't want
to talk about something, She'll be like, friend, what's up?
Speaker 1 (17:49):
What happened? Like that's true. So it's a balance.
Speaker 6 (17:52):
Though, because I feel like sometimes you have two people
who are confrontational, that's kind of where this starts, are
two people who don't.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Want to talk about it.
Speaker 6 (17:59):
I'm very, very extremely sensitive.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
I know that well, but you know what she's so
both of you have such the same exterior, so sweet,
so warm.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
I feel like all your fans would say that it's interesting.
Speaker 3 (18:13):
I picture you in my brain as someone that's more assertive.
Speaker 6 (18:17):
I that's that's crazy that you said that, because I
am I'm a bit. I am a sensitive bitch is
way nicer than me, Like when it comes to work
talking to people, like when we out in publish, they'd
be like, hang on, like, hey, I'm not gonna sit
in the car because I get anxiety a little bit,
and I'm just like hold.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
On, like, hey, oh my god, y'all like the bite and.
Speaker 3 (18:42):
I'm just like, guys, we need to be out of
the quick as fall and be like you didn't have
to go.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Yeah, I like to go to sleep. Drag is way nice.
Physical overload.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
It'll be like, let me know, like I could tell
like anxiety, but I want to get to our hypothetically
speaking Okay, because said that she was single, I can't
wait to hear what you would do if this happened.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
Are you dating? Okay? So hypothetically speaking.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
This week is brought to you by our producer Billy
b of the Needs to Be Studied podcast thank you
for sending this in.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
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Speaker 3 (19:30):
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Speaker 1 (19:35):
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Speaker 7 (19:36):
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and the Need to Be Studied podcasts. Yes, is his
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Speaker 1 (19:43):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
So these are his scenarios, hypothetically speaking, So here we go.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Let's answer these.
Speaker 3 (19:50):
Now, your date picks an expensive restaurant but conveniently forgets
their wallet.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
How do you respond?
Speaker 3 (19:58):
You can, it's an easy one, real cash as you
know what? You know what's crazy? My mind didn't even
go there.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
But I'm old. I remember when he used to have
to get Western Union from niggas.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
Okay, western wild, we ate in ourselves, but you call yourself.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
I am Western.
Speaker 7 (20:20):
From a Jamaican nigga and he having Western Union him
money that another nigga dropped off. And I remember when
I came to one of my homegirls, I was like,
I do this every week and she was like, but
you're investling this is money, you know.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Do you know the last experience that I have a
Western Union? Uh oh, just talk about these niggas. So
I had one nigga bring me to Cutter. So I
was all the way out in fucking the Middle East. Correct,
it is correct. It's not guitar, it's Cutter.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I said, who was colored man? Who is there? So guitar?
I went there, one of my old my old thing,
and thanks. So I get out there and the team
didn't pay him. So bitch.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
But I'm also out there and nigga, I'm broke. I
ain't got no money.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
The team know the team. So when you play on
them overseas teams them teams were playing with you. I'm
like a bitch. He was over first off overseas is
like a bitch bench. He was an element o p lister.
Fuck you mean what he be?
Speaker 3 (21:23):
So he over there playing in the Middle East and
the team didn't bring it give.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Him his money. So here we go help. We had
to do this. I call my homegirl, shout out to Lena,
love you for life.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
So I hit my homegirl up like I got bleep
sending me money through Western Union. I might have it
sent to your name. Can you pick it up and
then deposit it into my account? Because this is back
when Chase allowed you to catch deposits. So out of
I had him send me one thousand dollars because back then, bitch,
a thousand dollars meant something that I ain't ask.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
For, No thousand, no more. So I had my other nigga.
I called him.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
I said, Yo, I'm all the way out in the
Middle East. This they can't get paid.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
My dress is tight. Hell and my friend, my friend
picked up the Western Union and deposited in somebody account. Okay,
so now that's the easy picked out it.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Here we go. Next hypothetical. Thank you Billy for this one.
Scenario two, you're on a date.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
This is a good one. Scenario two.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
You're on a date and he mentions he's never dated
a black girl, but yet he's currently on a date
with you.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
What do you respond to a man who says that
he's never dated a black woman? Is this a black man?
It's whatever colored man it is that you allowed to
take you on a date, all right?
Speaker 3 (22:37):
So, because but it depends on his race. So how
do you respond to a white man saying it?
Speaker 1 (22:42):
And how do you respond to a black man saying
it a girl, Oh.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
My god, whe man, Yeah, yeah, you can make it work.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
The fuck you can go for a So you you're
cool with being a white man's woman.
Speaker 7 (23:05):
Yeah's assuming that the white man is love grect.
Speaker 6 (23:10):
Wait where you if you're a right man and you're
not rich, you did not be like right?
Speaker 1 (23:17):
Like what are you doing? How are we the ones?
Speaker 3 (23:20):
Like?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
If you're white and a man and you're not rich,
you fucking suck.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
You had all the sets of God book and.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
You're American on top of that, Bro, you just don't
get you watching Paradise. You watch a Paradise.
Speaker 3 (23:33):
There's a scene my think of god man just watching
when the grandfather said, our last name alone will get
you elected.
Speaker 5 (23:40):
He moved.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
You're talking about this ship like.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
He ain't like you know, like you know, like the
last name brad Brown, Bradford.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
It is something you know what really pisses me off
with a Jewish father. I'm telling you you are you are?
He ain't doing right? What are you talking about? Like, bru,
do you know what Jewish kids have? Are you Jews?
We had? Can we calm down with this segment? Okay? Now,
(24:09):
what if it was it was a black man. I
ain't going at you, you.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
White man, to know why because I have dated a
black guy before who didn't date black us more and
was he a football player? He was a basketball player. Wow.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
And it was just like he would say things that he.
Speaker 6 (24:32):
Would think was a compliment, like like you know, oh,
you don't act like.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
You know and it was.
Speaker 6 (24:38):
Given like you're black, you are n I G G hardy.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Ark yes, like what other things is that?
Speaker 6 (24:48):
That was the main thing he would say, like, oh,
you don't act like you know, and you don't.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
No like he likes Oh I liked God, I'm not
talking about it a little but a little flavor, you know.
Speaker 6 (25:06):
Yes, yes, like it wasn't no hispanic, No, he likes
something real.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
You know what I learned at a young age, and
I'm glad I did.
Speaker 6 (25:15):
Mmm.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
I was gonna say, maybe I don't know.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
I had seeing my mom growing up who was dating
with a white man, not dating. They're married, But there
was a lot that made me feel like sometimes she
would imply, and maybe it was just a small insecurity
that black men didn't always find her beautiful. And I'd
never heard her say that outwardly, but I would always
feel like she'd be surprised when black men would hit
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on her. So, whatever the case may be, a lot
of black women, I'm sure have felt like that in
their life.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Yeah. Uh So when I was on.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
A date once, maybe young, I remember a guy telling
me I acted like a dark skinned girl.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
Maybe I was. I don't remember how I was talking.
Speaker 7 (25:56):
Or whatever, but I've had another man tell me, oh,
like your real hair, Like I thought you're gonna have
mixed girl hair.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
You have black girl hair, they said, hearty hard, Oh
my god.
Speaker 7 (26:10):
The thing that I started to learn as a biracial
girl is, oh, the niggas I'm dated just like girls
that look like this, this is just black now.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (26:19):
And so that wasn't a weird thing for me too,
but I didn't know it until I got old.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Yeah yeah, okay, you like them like you want to
you want to say nigga with me, but y'all don't
want to date. Yeah. Yeah, those are the things.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
That I think light skinned women and mixed girls never
really understand. Right, you are dating one of them niggas, right,
because he realizes.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Like I could say I'm with a black woman right
and say like, oh, I love black women. They can
pand her down.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
Let be honest with you, maybe because the bitch is
the way I am, but also I feel like my
body type I've never.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
You's notting right, throwing no no bit to my niggas.
A bitch ain't mixed.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
I'm black, I got a big ass, got thighs. No,
I'm telling you for any time. I'm telling you right now,
for any time. All my athletes, my whole twenties, for
what I've dated, I've never dated a guy who oftentimes
dates white women or things.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
I'm just black enough. I also date a lot.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
A lot of what people were attracted to me for
was my body type. I have a black body type
so much too to where y'all listen to the past episodes,
anytime a white man would even approach me, they would
approach me as.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
You only date black guys. No cool, it could be
a tight, but I have the black body.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
So the men that are attracted to me date black women,
and whether they're lights dark, dre't you.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Let's be very clear if I if I.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Go through also, and this is gonna sound fucked up
as fuck for all the niggas that I was a
side bitch to all the married niggas that I'm fuck
all black, curvy, bodacious or dark skin thin women, but
all black women.
Speaker 6 (28:05):
But you cannot say as a light skinned black woman
that men, well, yes.
Speaker 3 (28:14):
For for any black man who holds those fucking biases
wants a light skin bitch with nice hair, a bitchman
ball for five years and before that, I bored in
a fucking button because I have thin ass hair.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
I'm not gonna take away the privilege of me being
light skinned.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
But I've never personally had the experience of any man
saying you're just black and no, no.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
I never had that.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
Ye say it, but I've never been put into that
group of If I look at the other women, you
probably don't feel that had But I don't think you're
you are You're like you're not. I think what Weezy
is trying to say is you not necessarily like nobody's
gonna look at you and be like, oh, she's just
black enough, Like you're a black woman. As a light
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skin black woman, there are things that you have access
person even talking about right right, talking about For the
men that I've only specifically dated, they're like black women,
but a lot of them probably was like it's a
fatish and they don't want a dark skin.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
They probably didn't tell you that. I think that's the thing.
You really don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:14):
You never know, you never know, you never know, And
honestly speaking, but I'm anna fuck them with a lot
of other bitches.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Bitches be all shades and colors. Yeah, Like whenever women
like black women.
Speaker 7 (29:25):
I've had two men in my life make the comment
that I'm the outlier. It's the partner I have now
and a few before that, and that's when I knew, like, oh,
you actually really do.
Speaker 1 (29:35):
Like right right right like the nigger.
Speaker 3 (29:37):
I remember saying to me the first dude that ever
said it, It almost made me feel embarrassed.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
He was like, I don't know, bro, we're going on
in the sun. Who knows what's gonna happen to you?
You know? Yeah? Yeah, I think for me.
Speaker 3 (29:50):
And even though I made the joke about the white man,
I don't I'm not attracted to white men for.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
Real, like that neither.
Speaker 3 (29:56):
But I love black men, especially black men who love
black women.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
You know what I'm saying, You're like all shapes inside
off the up.
Speaker 7 (30:05):
You know what I'm saying, You could be having another
wife who's in that interview talking about his favorite food
is chicken fries.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
He loves fried chicken. Oh my god, I know that's
his favorite. It's color. But you know what's crazy, And
I know we've talked about it. Every time I see
a video of his daddy, I'm like.
Speaker 3 (30:28):
You came from boll That mother's mock be lit, bro,
he'd be drunk then the mother.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
And that's the party. He was raised by his white
mama because he's black. Daddy wasn't red.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Don't shake like the mixed people don't when on going back,
because my mom will make a collar green bitch, she
make a oxtail.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Mama can call him ma. Mama throws the pop down hooky.
Don't got nothing to do with her being old. That's fine.
What she's like, she's quite, she's quite. That's your answer.
But my mama was black as hell. Have you seen
the there's a TikTok Okay.
Speaker 3 (31:02):
So they're like, all right, not all X girls or
mixed people with white mamas are the same.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
What is it that makes some of them different?
Speaker 7 (31:09):
And this one girl said, I feel like I've had
a different experience than other mixed women with white mothers
because my mom's community and friends were black women.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
Yeah, and some guys.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
Make a little different my mother a little bit, I mean,
and I get it because it's just like, Okay, your
auntie's the friends, you're kind of surrounding yourself. But there
is something a little bit different to me with white
people raising a black neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
And they'd be like, yeah, that should be kind of
weird too, So I think it's a thin line. It is, yeah,
and it's tough because with me.
Speaker 7 (31:44):
I remember watching Doctor Umar talk about confusion with mixed kids. Oh,
I think when you're a mixed kid like the PWY girls,
either a black.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Girl in white school, and they get real, what oh
that happened to me?
Speaker 7 (31:58):
My mom fucking picked me up from the project to
the lie about sleeping over our friend's house.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
She's like, what the fuck are you doing over here?
Not like the fuck? And I was like, because I
made friends that they a call her new new growing up.
She joy, I got a movie theater, bitch. We would
be in the hood with our girls and draw spring
pony tail. But it's crazy because when you're a fucking
mixed kid, you're like, which, what where do I yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
I really gotta say today I am so glad to
see people embracing their national hair.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
I think even the perm complex fucked me up.
Speaker 7 (32:32):
Yeah, there is so much shit I learned after thirty
twenty five and thirty that I was like, Okay, doctor
Marr's like, we don't need no more meal.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
Yeah for no milk. I need the buck needs to
stop with me and Mandy. I'm serious. I'm a weak no.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
Reactionary real quick, okay, because I want to get into
the topic everybody is talking about, and I know, because
you're a monogamous hope, damn have this conversation.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
I want to play. Cliff O Marion sat down recently.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
Oh god, this is what he had to say about
Koffee's comments on non monogamy.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Could be in.
Speaker 6 (33:18):
My cheer for hot topics about actor Kofee Sarah Bo
and he says that he practices.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Ethical non monogamy.
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Okay, do you think that's a good idea, ethical non monogamy.
Speaker 5 (33:27):
Well, I will say I'm in agreeance. You know, I
don't know all of the backstory of.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
Those those words.
Speaker 5 (33:34):
I will say ethical, being open is important and also,
you know, a woman just truly outnumbered the men. You
know what I mean, is this like all you can
eat buffet. Let me just say, it's only a few
good men. It's only a few good men, right, you know,
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whether or not, it's whether or not it's a physical thing.
You know, we end up during the next generation as well.
So why not have our queens our queen women, Because
because I was raised by all women, why not have
our queens aligned with that that it takes a village.
It's not going to just be one man, you know.
You you even you could get married, that man still
(34:15):
ain't gonna be just your man. He's gonna be you know. Therefore,
his daughter, he's gonna be like his mom, his grandmother.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
You know what. It's always a nigga concept. Isn't really foreign.
Speaker 5 (34:23):
It's it's just a little old you know, and it's
it's meant to be upgraded. And I love this conversation
because I think when men of company and honest that
they don't want to have just this one thing for
the rest of their life, it gives a woman an
opportunity to choose.
Speaker 1 (34:37):
Flex.
Speaker 6 (34:39):
It's crazy because I just had a conversation with Jesse
about this yesterday. So I think The problem with his
views on that is a lot of times American men
want to adopt what these African the West African men
are doing in their homes with polygamy and have it
multiple wiles. But y'all will realize that it is a
structure though they and home, they have a community, they're
(35:02):
paying the bills.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
It's not I got a kid in LA I got
a kid in New York, I got a kid in Houston.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
Y'all are not.
Speaker 6 (35:09):
There are still rules and structure to polygamy. You just
want to fuck around, period, and that's not what it is.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
Professor.
Speaker 6 (35:17):
Hello, now don't get me on my doctor Oumar.
Speaker 1 (35:21):
Do you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (35:26):
As somebody who is I am like, I'm monogamous.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
I only want to be with one person.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
But I don't have a problem with people who are polycoples.
Speaker 1 (35:35):
Because everybody's mad at Neo right now why.
Speaker 6 (35:38):
He's leaving in his truth because if he was always
living in his truth, he wouldn't have drug Moneta and.
Speaker 1 (35:44):
Crystal through whe So I.
Speaker 3 (35:46):
Do believe that men can identify as Polly, but Neo
also takes care of all of his girlfriends. You know
what I'm saying, I think their structured to that that
y'all don't want to do.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Y'all can't even take care of little day day.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
I think so what it's so My issue with on
Maaya's response is he says.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
Women outnumber men. That's the reason that men.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Should have multiple partners, a few goods, only a few
good men.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
Now, I will say this, I believe that, but women.
Speaker 7 (36:19):
There are an abundant amount of women that are accepting
this lifestyle and aren't fucking non monogamousts. The thing that
I think makes the neo situation strange is, for example,
if you asked me today if I could be in
an monogamous relationship, I've already been tested and it didn't
work for me with someone who was monogamous. It was
hospital dick for those listening, it wouldn't work for me today. However,
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I think if you gave any neo's girlfriend an option
to be the only one, they would say yes. And
I think a lot of women accept situations that they
aren't really happy in. I don't know if ethical nonminogamy
is something that women are allowed to do on their own.
I really don't know any girls other than Mandy and
I that I've been living this life for as long.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I will say. I know one of Neal's girlfriends and
I've known her since I lived in Miami. She is
very much her I think many one Ariel I don't know, but.
Speaker 3 (37:13):
I've known her since Miami. I'm not saying that she's
with Neo because this is what she has to put
up with. She's very much living in her life and
her truth. I main one loves it down no probably
what I'm talking about, and I've known her since Miami.
I also know one of the baby moms. I know
a lot of women, and maybe because I am more
(37:33):
in the lifestyle, I do know so many women that
really vibe for this ship that they love being with
men and women and when they can do it together
and it's honest and it's fun, they're like, this is
the best fucking shit ever.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
Like they have a fucking black we get like three great.
Speaker 7 (37:52):
I'm saying, we don't see that, Mandy. We see a
lot of celebrity matter of porfriend.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
Now and everyone's judging them, saying they can't be happy.
Speaker 3 (37:58):
Like I don't think we're the old ones truthfully loving
non monogamy as much as like a lot of people
that I know are like so glad that they don't
have to lean into societal's norms of a lifestyle that
hasn't worked for them.
Speaker 7 (38:11):
They want this. I really, I'm being honest with you.
I'm in the same field and world that you're in too, right.
I really don't believe there are women that choose this.
I don't see it.
Speaker 3 (38:23):
More times than none, I see many non monogamous relationships
fail because women want to change it.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
At some point.
Speaker 7 (38:29):
All of the girls that I know they married a
ball player or got with one and was having fun
doing the threesome.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
They're tired of it.
Speaker 6 (38:36):
Like yeah, mo will say, I do hear those stories
a lot of women sleeping with other women with their
man just to make him happy him. Yeah, now, I
will say, because now we get into another topic because
a lot of these women are doing these things because Ritt,
do you know what I'm saying. It's different, but you know,
but what I'm saying is no, no, I don't mean
literally like oh, there are green because they're like, Okay,
(38:59):
well at least I don't have to go to work
and he gonna pay my bills.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
Like you know what I'm saying the patriarchy.
Speaker 3 (39:04):
There's a lot of women that like have an advantage
by leaning into the patriarchy, and that's what it has
afforded us. It is a man providing and you kind
of turning a blind eye because you actually are in
need of something not from him. We talked about this
in a previous episode, like even on my ex. Once
I became self sufficient, I loved that I could love
(39:26):
a man without needing anything more than who he was
as a man. But I don't need you for provision.
I don't need you to pay my bills. I can
now take the blinders. I could take the blinders off,
and now I can exist as a woman who can
choose a partner because I'm happy and to me.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
And you don't identify with being a lifestylar.
Speaker 3 (39:43):
A lot of my friends, the couples, the sex club owners,
the dungeon owners, A lot of my friends right now
are lifestylers who choose this life.
Speaker 1 (39:50):
I don't say I'm saying we don't. I'm saying I
know them, and I hear it.
Speaker 6 (39:55):
Well, I figure she's saying, is they're still the minority though,
like women, we.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
Have couples out. But then I think Let's be very clear.
If a woman comes out and says, yeah, I let
my man have sex with other women, everyone on the
internet in the comments, they're gonna be like.
Speaker 1 (40:11):
Huh, she goes can't pay her rent, she gotta do that.
She's not happy.
Speaker 3 (40:14):
There's also a lot of projection on people just assuming
that this isn't the life we choose. We fought it
for the last eight years of this podcast, where they
thought that maybe we were leaning into an insecurity or oh,
she must feel like she has to do this to
keep a man. I just feel like, and maybe I'm blessed.
I'll say it's a privilege to know so many women
who have genuinely been able to exist in a relationship
(40:35):
where their man having sex with someone else isn't a hindrance.
And as a woman who's bisexual, they now get to
have fun with a whole bunch of women with their nigga.
Speaker 7 (40:44):
Now, y'all, they're part of the relationship. Yes, they can
fuck girls with they man. They can have sex with
women too.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
Do we see women having other relationships with men? No?
And that's what I mean about.
Speaker 7 (40:59):
You watch the niggas on these clips talk about nom monogamy, ethical.
This this that the true language around nominogamy to me
is everybody's engagement. You're either doing it together and right
or you're both dating. I'll tell you right now, I
don't believe Neo's girlfriends have other niggas. To me, this
is a one sided situation. That is not what we
all non monogamy. You talk about the porn star that
(41:23):
you know whose husband filmed her like that is lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
We're not talking about lifestyle here, but monogamy too much
and six that's fine, but not only that.
Speaker 3 (41:36):
Let's be clear about non monogamy being an umbrella. You
have polygamy, you have polyamory, you have the other one
with which which is the women one.
Speaker 1 (41:44):
But y'all are whatever.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
So to me, in my last relationship, I genuinely didn't
feel like I needed other men. So to me, I
don't think you're just fully non monogamous if both of
y'all are willing to date. I'm a non non monogamous
person who doesn't think that my partner should date anyone
and I can't, but we could have sex with someone
else unemotionally attached. Non monogamy can absolutely be customizable. It
(42:11):
could be with you and your partner make it, which
is why maybe we didn't understand the Will and Jada,
which is why maybe we don't understand why r P.
Vanessa Bryant chose to stay with Kobe because that white
woman in Denver probably wasn't the first one. It's probably why.
And I know nothing of this to be true. Allegedly
Savannah is still rocking with lebron.
Speaker 5 (42:30):
So.
Speaker 3 (42:32):
We complete that our days are.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Doctor Ubar said, no Ice, no right.
Speaker 3 (42:50):
What I'm saying is we would be completely irresponsible with
this platform to say that non monogamy looks one way.
It doesn't, And we don't know the inner workings of
everyone's relationships. They may be able to have sex with
other people, but can't date other people. They can't embarrass
Neo publicly. So maybe they can have sex with other men,
but don't let it get messy, like a lot of
us are allowing our partners to maybe step out, don't
(43:10):
bring the mess home, don't get another bitch pregnant, wrap
up if you step out. There's a lot of people
that have those boundaries set up that to me, just.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Because you can or cannot as a woman date another man,
so or not maybe you'll know, maybe Samannah got another on.
Speaker 6 (43:24):
I don't like that though, because I feel like, if
you're dating a man and he gets to do everything,
you can't do nothing.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
Sometimes you can't. It depends on what you agree to.
Speaker 3 (43:32):
And as a woman, if you bitch, if you want
to go suck another dick and your nigga said no,
then that ain't the nigga for you.
Speaker 7 (43:41):
But great guy, is that these men with money and
power are literally coming to women, you know, going through
the motions, playing the whole role, vacation, this, this, that.
Oh you know I think I'm ready for relationship.
Speaker 1 (43:54):
Well, you know, I'm out all the time. I'm traveling
a lot. I like to fuck other women.
Speaker 7 (43:59):
Now, if you wouldn't mind being one of my girlfriends,
I'm gonna take care of you.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
Are you ready?
Speaker 3 (44:04):
Her pasandacity the roof over her head, so she's like, Okay, Davey.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
That's what I'm saying. It's not that, but that's what
we were saying.
Speaker 6 (44:10):
A lot of women that really enjoy these this lifestyle,
they're outnumbered by the men who want the lifestyle. I
think that's what you were trying to say, because you
were like eighty percent of men.
Speaker 3 (44:20):
Told the women accountable who are saying relationships that aren't
fully fulfilling because they need the Oh yeah, but luckily
we're in the modern girl era where we do make
our own money and we're able to now hold some
footing ground in our household and in our relationships to
demand that either this is what works for me, this
is what I like, this is my boundary, and if
(44:41):
you cross it, I don't have to stay.
Speaker 1 (44:42):
I don't have to mean we're.
Speaker 6 (44:43):
Getting a little to the other side now because now
you have women with money who are dealing with it
because they don't want to be lonely. So that say,
it's a lot of successful women thing right right now.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
It's definitely not a gender thing.
Speaker 7 (44:58):
The problem too with women that are putting up with
it is men are really being vocal about needing this,
and we are seeing this uptick in women saying I
won't accept this, like I'll be alone, and dudes being like, fine,
I'll just take there's a lot of women I can't
believe I'm right answering that.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
That was his response. You can tell that slipped out.
We're out.
Speaker 3 (45:23):
All into the world just to see all the queens,
all the queen's horses, all the queens men.
Speaker 6 (45:30):
Yeah, But like I said, I think there is a
little responsibility, like you said, in structure, and you have
to have rules for yourself, and I think they just
kind of want to do whatever, and I think that's bullshit.
Speaker 1 (45:40):
No, I agree.
Speaker 3 (45:41):
I do think that we would love y'all to jump
into the comments on this one specifically because we've been
talking about nominogamy from horrible decisions to decisions decisions so
much and clearly now with the being a buzzword now
with people hopping in and out of these relationships or
choosing to be single, we had an episode on choosing
to be single as well. Like I think you as women,
(46:02):
and I will only want to speak to the women
because we know y'all are ninety percent our demo. You
have the voice to say in something that serves you
or that doesn't. But what I want you to not
lean into is society's comments and views on what they
think looks like happiness. Because if you allow your nigga
to have multiple girlfriends and that is fun for you,
stay in that motherfucking relationship and enjoy your life and
(46:23):
kind of block out the noise.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
But if you're a woman.
Speaker 3 (46:26):
If you're a woman that doesn't align with that, and
you're with a partner that is like, hey, babe, I
want to step out, but don't want you to. If
that doesn't work for you, feel free to sit here
and move on because there's plenty of fish in the
mother places crying.
Speaker 1 (46:38):
In the beans. Bitch, go buy one. Okay, hello, Lea,
you're talking my language all right now.
Speaker 3 (46:45):
By the way, I know that we are gonna get
the comments like ex bitches in their outlines. They couldn't
have bought another hour studio time. We want more like speed.
If you grow bit y'all talking like y'all got buddy,
it couldn't afford a goddamn soo age.
Speaker 1 (46:58):
They are going to cuss us out. God said, you
know what. But we'll be back in.
Speaker 3 (47:02):
April, so we may have to have a part to
bring Drey back on here. Maybe we come on the
poor mind here.
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Yes, we have to do another one. We have to
do another round. Yeah, we haven't done y'all studio. Y'all
have haven't been.
Speaker 3 (47:13):
Yeah, yeah, we'll have to do official, another official crossover.
After we did our rebrand, y'all gotta coming.
Speaker 1 (47:21):
Out and ship.
Speaker 3 (47:22):
Uh yeah, well, y'all have a book also if you
go ahead.
Speaker 6 (47:29):
And go all the good stuff. So we have an
e book. So if you want to have the podcast,
you know, go to poor mindes dot com. Cop that
Love LEXP. That's when we got voting right now, you
see me here so long poor Minds is not going nowhere.
Every Friday seven pm, me and my girl have a
huge announcement coming up. It's super exciting there. But yeah,
(47:50):
poor minds every Friday seven pm, Love LEXP. On Mondays
ten a M and I got mused beauty on my lips.
Shout out to Drea, Hello, make up line, Harry Pop. Yes,
use beauty collection dot com.
Speaker 1 (48:01):
So you've dropped that everything I think they seek.
Speaker 3 (48:08):
No hose Bard, a dual manifesto, Sexual Exploration and Power,
is available now for pre order. Make sure y'all help
us become a New York Times bestseller because we cannot
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(48:29):
this episode.
Speaker 1 (48:29):
Also bonus episodes.
Speaker 3 (48:31):
That's right every week Patreon dot com backslash, horrible Decisions,
No match, I got this.
Speaker 1 (48:38):
Also if we don't keep going before we get out
of here.
Speaker 3 (48:41):
Also selective ignorance every Tuesday that drops and I said
everything for us, said.
Speaker 1 (48:47):
It to me.
Speaker 3 (48:47):
Wheezy drop yards and let's get out of here. Cut
to Trapouse, Bye Bye, bye guys. See you guys next
week because there's been another episode of the CISTI PANDU
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