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Speaker 1 (00:01):
If you would like to have us answer your questions.
If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
a terrible throffle, guess what you've got decisions, y'all. I
have to just start this off the top because this
tea is so hot, and I'm so glad that I
have Jacob here with me. Jacob willis from the Justice
(00:24):
Pod and what's your other pod? Call on my own
on my own pod. I'm in La so Manny is
unable to be here, but this tea is so hot,
and oh are you ready?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Sorry for the long DM weezy, but I really need help.
It wouldn't even n low right off the top. This
is true, man. I just recently found out that my
wife and my sister in law get drunk and sometimes kiss.
We've been married for six years, but two kids in
a pretty normal sex life. My brother and his wife
live about a two hour drive away, so whenever we
get the kids together, one of us usually stays at
(01:03):
the other's house for the night. My wife has been
going bi weekly to stay upstate while the kids played
with their cousins. Recently, we installed a baby camera, as
my daughter has asthma. Shout out to the weezy girls,
and we've been wanting to watch her. I could literally
see on the camera my wife and my sister in
(01:25):
law sitting at the edge of the bed kissing while
my daughter was going to sleep. A year ago, they
got drunk on ig Live and played it truth through
their game and when someone asked if they'd ever messed
around because of their chemistry, according to my homeboy, I
didn't see this for myself. My sister in law said,
what else would we do when the kids are sleep?
What makes this worse is that I had also found
(01:46):
out about a kiss after watching a movie where my
children said, that's what Auntie and mom do. I thought
it was a joke. On top of the fact that
all of this is unbelievable, my wife had recently asked
me for a threesome with another woman. A year ago.
She mentioned that she wanted the woman to come in,
(02:08):
me to come in blindfolded so her and the woman
could take advantage of me and the woman would leave.
Here is my dilemma. One what do I do? Two
do I tell my brother? Three? How do I approach
this situation? For I have not told my wife, damn
that sty.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Ah uh uh.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Let's start with number one. What do I do? I
feel like I don't know if y'all got this from
reading it, but I feel like he was turned on
by it.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I feel like he was confused more so about it.
But he ain't saying nothing, so maybe he is really
liking it secretly, because what device would you need? Any
other man would be furious and nipping in the butt.
He just let it go on and on and on.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
All Okay, you said nipping in the butt. The first
thing my man said last time when I was reading
this and I couldn't believe it. He was like, I
would leave you if you slept with me.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Address it at hand like nipper and A.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
But he's like, can you imagine that's disgusting taking the
kids over there and then you fucking.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Her in in front of my daughter on the edge
of the bed.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Okay. The other thing, when when she said the blindfold thing,
I think that it would have been his sister right now.
Do you tell the brother?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
And that's the I think you should. They watched the pod.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I mean the man do Oh my god, not the wife.
There's no way the wife.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Oh no, I'm just talking about the man, this is sentence.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Oh listen, if you want to stay with her, you
need to seek therapy in deliverance because that's sick as fuck.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Really, if he wants to stay with her, there's no forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Here, No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Why because it's a brother's wife, or because the kid
being on the edge of the bed or them being
on the edge.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Of the edge of the bed. And then also that's
your family member that you're kissing. That's disgusting.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
That's the sister, right of the wife, sister in law. Oh,
that's still disgusting. You gonna let you gonna stay? Would
you stay?
Speaker 1 (04:06):
No? But then I started to think, right one, they're
going too far. But I was like, Okay, I wouldn't
want to stay. But if they said they've been together
six years, I can't remember how many kids. I don't know.
When women are exploring or when men are exploring. Maybe
you don't know how else to do.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Yeah, you're saying that because you're buy sexual. Let me
tell you something like, if you if you love her,
you know, and you don't want to leave your break up,
your happy home, dysfunctional home, I would definitely have that conversation.
It just there has to be a conversation. You have
to let her know that you know and how it
makes you feel.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
But see what's so fucked up is because no they're
not blood related, but this is his brother's wife. Now
you involved in my family and it I gotta leave you.
My brother got to leave his wife. The kids get
affected to do it. So that he saw it on
the baby camp, that was.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Yeah, that would have done it for me. I would
have laughed for sure.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
If you're so scared about the daughter's health that you
got to sleep in the room with her, you couldn't
even give that a fucking second before you had to
go start fucking with this bit, right, that's disgusting to me.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
But the fact that he saw it on a baby
cam and he hasn't said nothing, and he is low key,
you're low key turned on by that. That's what I say,
the low key freak, I see what you're doing here.
Maybe did you did you think we're gonna be turned
off with you by I said, I think that's.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
What I thought. The blindfold in Benasy was crazy.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
The blindfolk. Yeah, he knew with the blind fold that
was going to be the assistant law.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
So he said that this has been going on for
a year. She's been asking for a threesome. Right now,
here's the layers one when it comes to coming out,
when it comes to discovering sexuality, is there any grace
given for being private, being confused? Not? Like what are
some things maybe you've experienced with friends or people you've
met with, like how far.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
They've run like with their sexuality when they're with somebody else. Yeah,
me personally, I dated a guy and he had sex
with a girl and started to seeing her.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
More than me.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
He had never been with a woman, no, but he
met a girl and was like, actually, I think I
kind of like her or were together, but he was like,
I don't want to leave you, but I think I'm
a little more bisexual. So for me, I think it
just broke me because I'm like, well, I can't get pregnant,
but she can't. That's my only problem with that. But
now I'm like open to it. I feel like a
lot of people will go deep because they want to
just kind of like you know, to test the water.
(06:27):
But for me, I just feel like if there's a communication,
I wouldn't mind. But as far as going like in
fucking another person, that's where I crossed the line.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
That you know. I mean, well, here's the thing we
don't know if they fucked. Is the kissing okay? Because
the kissing ain't okay to me?
Speaker 2 (06:42):
They only showed enough on a baby camp. I mean,
they ain't gonna do it all.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
But I mean to not even realize you got access
on your phone to this fucking camera. So here's the other.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
They know the camera's in there, So do they know
that he knows too? I don't think they surely they
don't think he ain't gonna look at the camera because a.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Baby camp nowadays, if no one knows or you haven't
seen it recently. Actually just saw this and I was
judging this av and weekend. We're talking to this Korean
couple and on the table is a baby sleeping and
a little camera. I was like, oh my god, you're
spining on the nanny. She's like, no, she's upstairs. She's five,
And so you about to be like, are we judging
(07:19):
this bitch? They had to leave their kid upstairs, but
they're watching the kid on the so what do you do?
So basically it's on your phone. So what I think
happened is they have the camera on if everybody does
in case they hear her do something and the husband
went in and looked. Now, I have a few feelings
about the family thing. One I would feel so violated. One,
(07:42):
you gotta tell you now share this thing with your sibling,
like both of our spouses are fucking each other. That's insane.
Two I think when fidelity, infidelity comes at the sake
of your children. Now I feel like you're so sex
brained you can never think clearly.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
There's nothing rational but the fact that the out knows
that they kissed. Then you mentioned this.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Oh my god, watching a movie. He thought it was
a lie.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Right, So for me, that's that's crazy. Hold on, that's
the eye opener right there.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
The question number two, do I tell my brother? Now,
I'm gonna tell you this. Then if you at the
point where you're writing into a podcast, I know you
don't know what to do, and I ain't gonna lie
to you. I don't know what to do either. But
for you to have held this water almost makes me
question if you're even that mad. I think there's a
(08:32):
part of you that must feel safe because it's your
sister in law, Whereas most people would be even more
mad I think one, you're slightly turned on because she
even building this fantasy up of a threesome. I think two,
you're like, if she gonna do it anybody, it might
as well be her.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
I really feel like he is seeking you for the answer,
because if he wanted to leave her, he would have
already done it. He just wanted to hear you say,
you know, Wes dug it out. That's where he did
see your confirmation you think for real?
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Yes, for real.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
That's why he wrote into this podcast. He needs that
cause and he needs that the verification.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
That's not my No, you do not nug it out.
I think for someone to be going away to he
said that they drive two hours upstate to be together.
Hell no, Like, you can't just fuck this bitch without
my kids involved in it? No, hell no, no, no.
You know what else she's gonna fuck when you take
her back? They high school teacher when they're sixteen, everybody,
(09:23):
if your mama and daddy still alive, she's gonna try
to get that too.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Hell no.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
I really think like there's there should be no for me.
It's like my enemies, my colleagues and family, them.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
The three UK, fuck right, But my thing of were
they doing it before the marriage six years? Yeah, they
were doing this before. They say nothing new. They just
got finally got caught. They've been doing this, They've been
had a little love triangle. Yeah, they been bumping.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Cool.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
She just say nothing new. And you probably knew that too.
You just didn't think that you was gonna She probably stopped,
but then you caught her again. But now you don't
want to say nothing because you lucky you turned on
about it.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
That's one percent. He's okay, turned on. This is like
step steps up, step fantasy. Now if you knew, let's
just say you were gonna forgive your wife. Your brother's
got three kids. I don't know how many kids the
brother got, But would you tell them or would you
(10:18):
be like, damn, I don't want to fuck up everybody's house.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
I'm a virgo. I know that doesn't matter to a
lot of people. What's mine is mine. I'm in love. Like,
if I love you, I love you. Nobody can touch you,
kiss you, none of that. Like we could play around,
but especially if it's family member, I'm going to tell.
I'm going to definitely tell the brother in law because
it's right of them. Are we gonna I'm gonna blow
the place up.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Because imagine if you're you've been lying.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
And he's like, you knew, but you didn't tell me,
so now you're wrong. Oh damn, I don't even twist
I would.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
She's sleeping over. That was also something I thought was weird,
like why does the wife sleep over? Maybe not? Maybe
not if we lived two hours away and my kid's
going to visit, because and maybe I almost sleeping against you,
and that's not weird. I guess I'm now sexualizing everything.
Are you telling your brother? No, you don't know. I mean, okay,
(11:21):
So I have this thing where I recently went to
a sex club and saw a friend have sex girl. God,
excuse me, girl have sex with another man. Her boyfriend
is my friend. Now I didn't say anything. Didn't want
to say anything for one main reason. I felt like
(11:44):
I just walked into space where everybody's supposed to be safe,
and now I'm gonna be the person that outs you.
And that was the main reason I didn't do it.
I was confused because she gives opening ribes he doesn't
ran into him, started talking about it and found out
they're monogamous, so that hurt. I called my boyfriend to
(12:06):
talk about it, and he was like, teammate, don't want
to tell you. He's allowing her to fuck o. The
niggas like, don't bring it up. That might be a secret,
that's private for them. You have no idea how they
carry on their relationship. No, and guess what, You're gonna
say that and they still gonna be together, and then
you're gonna be the bitch to told. So as far
as the brother, I feel like you have to because
(12:28):
the kids are involved.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Yeah, because that's totally different. We talked about kids now,
but little little Elizabeth is over there sleeping and you're
kissing at the edge of my bad Absolutely not butter.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
She woke up wheazy. But also the kids probably don't
think nothing about the affection because their family, right, Yeah, no,
would you tell? Yeah? I would tell you, Okay, But
I recently have been thinking about that story with my
friend and the girlfriend because I didn't tell, and I'm
(13:01):
starting to wish I told.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Really, why is that.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Catching a friend's partner out doing something. If you were
me and you found out my knigga was up in
their motherfucker sex club, suck is a bitch. Oh no,
And it was fucking hard, Jacob. When I tell you
it's hard, they were fucking so hard. Kazi know she
was in the sex club. We were all like chatting together.
(13:28):
She was like, that was how I look. She's like
fucking that girl. Then I looked that hurts bad, deep damn.
But I rather you see it than you know they see.
But I know you scarred from that. So are you
gonna go back and tell months ago?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (13:41):
But wait, see it can't I because there's a statute
of limitations on the tail, because now I'm gonna be like, oh, well,
you ain't saying nothing for six months?
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Fuck you right? How close are you with his friend?
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Close enough?
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (13:55):
You talk every we Okay, yeah, I was just leave
it alone. It's six months in past. She's like, weezy,
Like you're my girl, and you're waiting six months to
tell me. Like, I don't want to fuck with any
bitch that sees my man out and doesn't tell me
up front.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
You know. This is the second time this happened to me,
by the way. The first time that this happened, I
wrote the person. I was like, hey, saw you whatever,
and she was really nice about it. This next time,
that it happened. I was like, is this a sign
I'm supposed to be telling her or not going to
sex clubs? Because when you go into a sex club,
you've been to one, I'm assuming.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Yeah, oh excuse me all the time money So you
know how.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
They do a speech, Yes, and they're basically talking about privacy,
no phone, always about.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
I've never been to one that did a speech. Maybe
because I only go to the gay bath houses. I've
never been to an actual like sex club with her
sex woman.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
I never been. I get invited, I never go.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Okay, then what's your sex club experience?
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Well, you go inside. This is most gay sex clubs.
You go inside and you check in. You get a
locker or a room. There's luber Kins to give you luber kins,
a tal a key, you can buy poppers, all of
the things. You go inside. If you get a locker,
you just go take a shit. You walk around. There's gloryholes.
There's like porn rooms and stuff like that. People have
their door open so you can go in. Like if
(15:07):
their doors open, their laying down on the all fours
going there.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
How is the door open? How is there a bunch
of rooms in a bathouse? What is the room supposed
to be from massages?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
No, it's for you, like if you can want to
spend the night there, or if you want to bring
somebody in your room and have your privacy, you can
literally go in there and close the door. Or if
you're like traveling, you know, because you have I think
you're up to if you have up to about five
hours and then that's when your thing expires. So a
lot of people that travel, they like to do that.
A lot of men, straight men that have corporate jobs
and they just want some head. That's where they go.
(15:35):
They go to the gate because it's no woman allowed
us strictly men. Do you go inside those glory holes? Yeah,
that's my experience. I just saw there's snacks to an answer.
I don't know about y'all, but we got snacks.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Okay, let me show you this gloryhole. I went to
go on sex Cells. Julie Ginger is her name. She's
a BBW that has a company called BBW Angels, and
we covered the fact that she directs gloryhole porn. I
can't even believe I was looking at this, Look at
this this. She is so goddamn crazy talk talk and
(16:09):
oh she's instructing her. You know, talk, talk and spit
and there you go.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
And that's what I need you to do. Okay, if
I needed anything to change off, I'll let you know.
All right, all right, go ahead. Do you think.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Looks so crazy?
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Right? I know I knew your camera man where it
starts off.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Oh, I know it was. Wait, look at the guys
getting ready, so you know how to sub dick and
you know how you see how they rubbing themselves to
get ready for the gloryhole. The gloryhole though, no shade, Julie.
It was a little seedy in a sexy way. So
like when I get to it, there was come all
over it and spit.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
So do they not clean it up for the next
So she was.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Like, oh, well you can you take the fabric off
and you clean them she She's like, but that's kind
of the fun part, is it? Dirtiness a little?
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Okay, that's the ship they hed. We listen and we
don't judge. Less you ask for an opinion.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
No kink shaming, No kink shaming anyway, quick follow up
before we get out of here. If he decides to forget,
what are the boundaries he now needs to have.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
Okay, I would say, if you guys are going to
do this, because I feel like he can't stop this
at this point. I mean six years, they're gonna find
a way. Just communicate. I'll bean communicating, let me know,
or don't let me see it. Just don't let me
see it.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
And keep sucking the sister law. Are you crazy?
Speaker 2 (17:45):
He's not gonna stop doing it. She's been doing it
for all this time. She knows she wrong.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
You think so when you start cheating and you really
get caught up, but you think you're gonna lose somebody, Yeah,
you stop sucking that person.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Or you get more turned on because it's like, oh
my god, he knows, let me sneak into it.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
People have that kind of turn Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
My boundary will be she can't y'all can't be alone together.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
All yeah, yeah, I like that boundary.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Your t mobile minutes in night calls and see if
you on the.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Phone right, somebody adult has to be president at all
times when we're together.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I say, you guys got to be separated, and she
needs some therapy because that's really fucking crazy to be
doing with them kids. But if you decide to forgive,
put up a boundary. I already know y'all wanna be
in these comments like bitch forgive.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
They probably all go to have the benaj as well.
That's gonna be one of the boundaries. I gotta be
in it.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Brother's Wife, my wife dot com. Anyway, I don't know what,
but fuck town you guys live in. But I'm really
sorry that this is happening, and I really hope you
tell the whole off. Check us out next Wednesday for
more You've Got Decisions and check out Jacob's podcast, Just
Us Podcast and on my Way right.
Speaker 3 (18:48):
Nope, on my way No, I did yes on my own,
on my own.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
In the descriptive of I'm So Embarrassed by Bad
If you would like to have us answer your questions.
If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
a terrible throffle, guess what you've got decisions, y'all. I
have to just start this off the top because this
tea is so hot, and I'm so glad that I
have Jacob here with me. Jacob willis from the Justice
(00:24):
Pod and what's your other pod? Call on my own
on my own pod. I'm in La so Manny is
unable to be here, but this tea is so hot,
and oh are you ready?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Sorry for the long DM weezy, but I really need help.
It wouldn't even n low right off the top. This
is true, man. I just recently found out that my
wife and my sister in law get drunk and sometimes kiss.
We've been married for six years, but two kids in
a pretty normal sex life. My brother and his wife
live about a two hour drive away, so whenever we
get the kids together, one of us usually stays at
(01:03):
the other's house for the night. My wife has been
going bi weekly to stay upstate while the kids played
with their cousins. Recently, we installed a baby camera, as
my daughter has asthma. Shout out to the weezy girls,
and we've been wanting to watch her. I could literally
see on the camera my wife and my sister in
(01:25):
law sitting at the edge of the bed kissing while
my daughter was going to sleep. A year ago, they
got drunk on ig Live and played it truth through
their game and when someone asked if they'd ever messed
around because of their chemistry, according to my homeboy, I
didn't see this for myself. My sister in law said,
what else would we do when the kids are sleep?
What makes this worse is that I had also found
(01:46):
out about a kiss after watching a movie where my
children said, that's what Auntie and mom do. I thought
it was a joke. On top of the fact that
all of this is unbelievable, my wife had recently asked
me for a threesome with another woman. A year ago.
She mentioned that she wanted the woman to come in,
(02:08):
me to come in blindfolded so her and the woman
could take advantage of me and the woman would leave.
Here is my dilemma. One what do I do? Two
do I tell my brother? Three? How do I approach
this situation? For I have not told my wife, damn
that sty.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Ah uh uh.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Let's start with number one. What do I do? I
feel like I don't know if y'all got this from
reading it, but I feel like he was turned on
by it.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
I feel like he was confused more so about it.
But he ain't saying nothing, so maybe he is really
liking it secretly, because what device would you need? Any
other man would be furious and nipping in the butt.
He just let it go on and on and on.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
All Okay, you said nipping in the butt. The first
thing my man said last time when I was reading
this and I couldn't believe it. He was like, I
would leave you if you slept with me.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Address it at hand like nipper and A.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
But he's like, can you imagine that's disgusting taking the
kids over there and then you fucking.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Her in in front of my daughter on the edge
of the bed.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Okay. The other thing, when when she said the blindfold thing,
I think that it would have been his sister right now.
Do you tell the brother?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
And that's the I think you should. They watched the pod.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I mean the man do Oh my god, not the wife.
There's no way the wife.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Oh no, I'm just talking about the man, this is sentence.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Oh listen, if you want to stay with her, you
need to seek therapy in deliverance because that's sick as fuck.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Really, if he wants to stay with her, there's no forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Here, No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Why because it's a brother's wife, or because the kid
being on the edge of the bed or them being
on the edge.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Of the edge of the bed. And then also that's
your family member that you're kissing. That's disgusting.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
That's the sister, right of the wife, sister in law. Oh,
that's still disgusting. You gonna let you gonna stay? Would
you stay?
Speaker 1 (04:06):
No? But then I started to think, right one, they're
going too far. But I was like, Okay, I wouldn't
want to stay. But if they said they've been together
six years, I can't remember how many kids. I don't know.
When women are exploring or when men are exploring. Maybe
you don't know how else to do.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Yeah, you're saying that because you're buy sexual. Let me
tell you something like, if you if you love her,
you know, and you don't want to leave your break up,
your happy home, dysfunctional home, I would definitely have that conversation.
It just there has to be a conversation. You have
to let her know that you know and how it
makes you feel.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
But see what's so fucked up is because no they're
not blood related, but this is his brother's wife. Now
you involved in my family and it I gotta leave you.
My brother got to leave his wife. The kids get
affected to do it. So that he saw it on
the baby camp, that was.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Yeah, that would have done it for me. I would
have laughed for sure.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
If you're so scared about the daughter's health that you
got to sleep in the room with her, you couldn't
even give that a fucking second before you had to
go start fucking with this bit, right, that's disgusting to me.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
But the fact that he saw it on a baby
cam and he hasn't said nothing, and he is low key,
you're low key turned on by that. That's what I say,
the low key freak, I see what you're doing here.
Maybe did you did you think we're gonna be turned
off with you by I said, I think that's.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
What I thought. The blindfold in Benasy was crazy.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
The blindfolk. Yeah, he knew with the blind fold that
was going to be the assistant law.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
So he said that this has been going on for
a year. She's been asking for a threesome. Right now,
here's the layers one when it comes to coming out,
when it comes to discovering sexuality, is there any grace
given for being private, being confused? Not? Like what are
some things maybe you've experienced with friends or people you've
met with, like how far.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
They've run like with their sexuality when they're with somebody else. Yeah,
me personally, I dated a guy and he had sex
with a girl and started to seeing her.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
More than me.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
He had never been with a woman, no, but he
met a girl and was like, actually, I think I
kind of like her or were together, but he was like,
I don't want to leave you, but I think I'm
a little more bisexual. So for me, I think it
just broke me because I'm like, well, I can't get pregnant,
but she can't. That's my only problem with that. But
now I'm like open to it. I feel like a
lot of people will go deep because they want to
just kind of like you know, to test the water.
(06:27):
But for me, I just feel like if there's a communication,
I wouldn't mind. But as far as going like in
fucking another person, that's where I crossed the line.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
That you know. I mean, well, here's the thing we
don't know if they fucked. Is the kissing okay? Because
the kissing ain't okay to me?
Speaker 2 (06:42):
They only showed enough on a baby camp. I mean,
they ain't gonna do it all.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
But I mean to not even realize you got access
on your phone to this fucking camera. So here's the other.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
They know the camera's in there, So do they know
that he knows too? I don't think they surely they
don't think he ain't gonna look at the camera because a.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Baby camp nowadays, if no one knows or you haven't
seen it recently. Actually just saw this and I was
judging this av and weekend. We're talking to this Korean
couple and on the table is a baby sleeping and
a little camera. I was like, oh my god, you're
spining on the nanny. She's like, no, she's upstairs. She's five,
And so you about to be like, are we judging
(07:19):
this bitch? They had to leave their kid upstairs, but
they're watching the kid on the so what do you do?
So basically it's on your phone. So what I think
happened is they have the camera on if everybody does
in case they hear her do something and the husband
went in and looked. Now, I have a few feelings
about the family thing. One I would feel so violated. One,
(07:42):
you gotta tell you now share this thing with your sibling,
like both of our spouses are fucking each other. That's insane.
Two I think when fidelity, infidelity comes at the sake
of your children. Now I feel like you're so sex
brained you can never think clearly.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
There's nothing rational but the fact that the out knows
that they kissed. Then you mentioned this.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Oh my god, watching a movie. He thought it was
a lie.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Right, So for me, that's that's crazy. Hold on, that's
the eye opener right there.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
The question number two, do I tell my brother? Now,
I'm gonna tell you this. Then if you at the
point where you're writing into a podcast, I know you
don't know what to do, and I ain't gonna lie
to you. I don't know what to do either. But
for you to have held this water almost makes me
question if you're even that mad. I think there's a
(08:32):
part of you that must feel safe because it's your
sister in law, Whereas most people would be even more
mad I think one, you're slightly turned on because she
even building this fantasy up of a threesome. I think two,
you're like, if she gonna do it anybody, it might
as well be her.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
I really feel like he is seeking you for the answer,
because if he wanted to leave her, he would have
already done it. He just wanted to hear you say,
you know, Wes dug it out. That's where he did
see your confirmation you think for real?
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Yes, for real.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
That's why he wrote into this podcast. He needs that
cause and he needs that the verification.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
That's not my No, you do not nug it out.
I think for someone to be going away to he
said that they drive two hours upstate to be together.
Hell no, Like, you can't just fuck this bitch without
my kids involved in it? No, hell no, no, no.
You know what else she's gonna fuck when you take
her back? They high school teacher when they're sixteen, everybody,
(09:23):
if your mama and daddy still alive, she's gonna try
to get that too.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Hell no.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
I really think like there's there should be no for me.
It's like my enemies, my colleagues and family, them.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
The three UK, fuck right, But my thing of were
they doing it before the marriage six years? Yeah, they
were doing this before. They say nothing new. They just
got finally got caught. They've been doing this, They've been
had a little love triangle. Yeah, they been bumping.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Cool.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
She just say nothing new. And you probably knew that too.
You just didn't think that you was gonna She probably stopped,
but then you caught her again. But now you don't
want to say nothing because you lucky you turned on
about it.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
That's one percent. He's okay, turned on. This is like
step steps up, step fantasy. Now if you knew, let's
just say you were gonna forgive your wife. Your brother's
got three kids. I don't know how many kids the
brother got, But would you tell them or would you
(10:18):
be like, damn, I don't want to fuck up everybody's house.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
I'm a virgo. I know that doesn't matter to a
lot of people. What's mine is mine. I'm in love. Like,
if I love you, I love you. Nobody can touch you,
kiss you, none of that. Like we could play around,
but especially if it's family member, I'm going to tell.
I'm going to definitely tell the brother in law because
it's right of them. Are we gonna I'm gonna blow
the place up.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Because imagine if you're you've been lying.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
And he's like, you knew, but you didn't tell me,
so now you're wrong. Oh damn, I don't even twist
I would.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
She's sleeping over. That was also something I thought was weird,
like why does the wife sleep over? Maybe not? Maybe
not if we lived two hours away and my kid's
going to visit, because and maybe I almost sleeping against you,
and that's not weird. I guess I'm now sexualizing everything.
Are you telling your brother? No, you don't know. I mean, okay,
(11:21):
So I have this thing where I recently went to
a sex club and saw a friend have sex girl. God,
excuse me, girl have sex with another man. Her boyfriend
is my friend. Now I didn't say anything. Didn't want
to say anything for one main reason. I felt like
(11:44):
I just walked into space where everybody's supposed to be safe,
and now I'm gonna be the person that outs you.
And that was the main reason I didn't do it.
I was confused because she gives opening ribes he doesn't
ran into him, started talking about it and found out
they're monogamous, so that hurt. I called my boyfriend to
(12:06):
talk about it, and he was like, teammate, don't want
to tell you. He's allowing her to fuck o. The
niggas like, don't bring it up. That might be a secret,
that's private for them. You have no idea how they
carry on their relationship. No, and guess what, You're gonna
say that and they still gonna be together, and then
you're gonna be the bitch to told. So as far
as the brother, I feel like you have to because
(12:28):
the kids are involved.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Yeah, because that's totally different. We talked about kids now,
but little little Elizabeth is over there sleeping and you're
kissing at the edge of my bad Absolutely not butter.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
She woke up wheazy. But also the kids probably don't
think nothing about the affection because their family, right, Yeah, no,
would you tell? Yeah? I would tell you, Okay, But
I recently have been thinking about that story with my
friend and the girlfriend because I didn't tell, and I'm
(13:01):
starting to wish I told.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Really, why is that.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Catching a friend's partner out doing something. If you were
me and you found out my knigga was up in
their motherfucker sex club, suck is a bitch. Oh no,
And it was fucking hard, Jacob. When I tell you
it's hard, they were fucking so hard. Kazi know she
was in the sex club. We were all like chatting together.
(13:28):
She was like, that was how I look. She's like
fucking that girl. Then I looked that hurts bad, deep damn.
But I rather you see it than you know they see.
But I know you scarred from that. So are you
gonna go back and tell months ago?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (13:41):
But wait, see it can't I because there's a statute
of limitations on the tail, because now I'm gonna be like, oh, well,
you ain't saying nothing for six months?
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Fuck you right? How close are you with his friend?
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Close enough?
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (13:55):
You talk every we Okay, yeah, I was just leave
it alone. It's six months in past. She's like, weezy,
Like you're my girl, and you're waiting six months to
tell me. Like, I don't want to fuck with any
bitch that sees my man out and doesn't tell me
up front.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
You know. This is the second time this happened to me,
by the way. The first time that this happened, I
wrote the person. I was like, hey, saw you whatever,
and she was really nice about it. This next time,
that it happened. I was like, is this a sign
I'm supposed to be telling her or not going to
sex clubs? Because when you go into a sex club,
you've been to one, I'm assuming.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Yeah, oh excuse me all the time money So you
know how.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
They do a speech, Yes, and they're basically talking about privacy,
no phone, always about.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
I've never been to one that did a speech. Maybe
because I only go to the gay bath houses. I've
never been to an actual like sex club with her
sex woman.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
I never been. I get invited, I never go.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Okay, then what's your sex club experience?
Speaker 3 (14:45):
Well, you go inside. This is most gay sex clubs.
You go inside and you check in. You get a
locker or a room. There's luber Kins to give you luber kins,
a tal a key, you can buy poppers, all of
the things. You go inside. If you get a locker,
you just go take a shit. You walk around. There's gloryholes.
There's like porn rooms and stuff like that. People have
their door open so you can go in. Like if
(15:07):
their doors open, their laying down on the all fours
going there.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
How is the door open? How is there a bunch
of rooms in a bathouse? What is the room supposed
to be from massages?
Speaker 3 (15:15):
No, it's for you, like if you can want to
spend the night there, or if you want to bring
somebody in your room and have your privacy, you can
literally go in there and close the door. Or if
you're like traveling, you know, because you have I think
you're up to if you have up to about five
hours and then that's when your thing expires. So a
lot of people that travel, they like to do that.
A lot of men, straight men that have corporate jobs
and they just want some head. That's where they go.
(15:35):
They go to the gate because it's no woman allowed
us strictly men. Do you go inside those glory holes? Yeah,
that's my experience. I just saw there's snacks to an answer.
I don't know about y'all, but we got snacks.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Okay, let me show you this gloryhole. I went to
go on sex Cells. Julie Ginger is her name. She's
a BBW that has a company called BBW Angels, and
we covered the fact that she directs gloryhole porn. I
can't even believe I was looking at this, Look at
this this. She is so goddamn crazy talk talk and
(16:09):
oh she's instructing her. You know, talk, talk and spit
and there you go.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
And that's what I need you to do. Okay, if
I needed anything to change off, I'll let you know.
All right, all right, go ahead. Do you think.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Looks so crazy?
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Right? I know I knew your camera man where it
starts off.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Oh, I know it was. Wait, look at the guys
getting ready, so you know how to sub dick and
you know how you see how they rubbing themselves to
get ready for the gloryhole. The gloryhole though, no shade, Julie.
It was a little seedy in a sexy way. So
like when I get to it, there was come all
over it and spit.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
So do they not clean it up for the next
So she was.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Like, oh, well you can you take the fabric off
and you clean them she She's like, but that's kind
of the fun part, is it? Dirtiness a little?
Speaker 3 (17:04):
Okay, that's the ship they hed. We listen and we
don't judge. Less you ask for an opinion.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
No kink shaming, No kink shaming anyway, quick follow up
before we get out of here. If he decides to forget,
what are the boundaries he now needs to have.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
Okay, I would say, if you guys are going to
do this, because I feel like he can't stop this
at this point. I mean six years, they're gonna find
a way. Just communicate. I'll bean communicating, let me know,
or don't let me see it. Just don't let me
see it.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
And keep sucking the sister law. Are you crazy?
Speaker 2 (17:45):
He's not gonna stop doing it. She's been doing it
for all this time. She knows she wrong.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
You think so when you start cheating and you really
get caught up, but you think you're gonna lose somebody, Yeah,
you stop sucking that person.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Or you get more turned on because it's like, oh
my god, he knows, let me sneak into it.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
People have that kind of turn Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
My boundary will be she can't y'all can't be alone together.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
All yeah, yeah, I like that boundary.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Your t mobile minutes in night calls and see if
you on the.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Phone right, somebody adult has to be president at all
times when we're together.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I say, you guys got to be separated, and she
needs some therapy because that's really fucking crazy to be
doing with them kids. But if you decide to forgive,
put up a boundary. I already know y'all wanna be
in these comments like bitch forgive.
Speaker 3 (18:23):
They probably all go to have the benaj as well.
That's gonna be one of the boundaries. I gotta be
in it.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Brother's Wife, my wife dot com. Anyway, I don't know what,
but fuck town you guys live in. But I'm really
sorry that this is happening, and I really hope you
tell the whole off. Check us out next Wednesday for
more You've Got Decisions and check out Jacob's podcast, Just
Us Podcast and on my Way right.
Speaker 3 (18:48):
Nope, on my way No, I did yes on my own,
on my own.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
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