January 20, 2025 • 10 mins
When was the last time you let your walls down and let your loved one IN? ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast you.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey, it's Delilah.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Are you writing in a car with someone you love
or are you home with someone you love? Are you
home with your husband or your wife or your sweetheart? Well,
if you're in a car, then you're in a trapped
environment and I can talk to you. If you're at home,
they can walk in the other room or change the
(00:42):
channel or whatever. But wherever you are, if you are
in conflict with your sweetheart, with your partner, maybe ah,
this is a new thing, or maybe it's an everyday thing.
Maybe you just can't stop fussing and fighting and you're
in conflict and there is no peace. I want you
to think about something. When was the last time you
(01:08):
let your walls down and let that person in all
the way into your heart? When was the last time
you said I want to know how you feel. I
want to care about how you feel. I'm not going
to get defensive. I'm not going to argue with you.
I'm not going to tell you your feelings are not valid
(01:28):
or I didn't really hurt your feelings by saying what
I said or doing what I did. When was the
last time you listened and let them all the way
into your heart. We're so used to being defensive, argumentative,
to gaslighting our partners, or not listening, not making them
(01:53):
feel heard, feel seen, feel precious, feel loved. Love Someone
show them that by listening and letting them in your heart. Hi, Matthew,
thank you for your patience.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
This is Delilah. Hi. What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Matt I'd like to make your dedication to my life.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
What's her name?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Her name is Christina?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
And what do you want to tell the world about
your bride.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
We've been together for a year and a half now
and everybody's been against us, and about a month ago
we split up. Well, we learned real quickly we could
not live without each other.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Why is everybody fighting against you?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
Her family didn't like my family. My family don't like
her family. So Romeo and Juliet story.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Her family and your family don't get along, Yes, ma'am,
but you're the two that are married. Yes, it doesn't
really matter what her family or your family thinks.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
It was a lot of stress of allowing people trying
to come in between us, and it was decided that
we needed a break, and we both realized that was
the worst of we've ever done it. It was horrible
away from each other.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
There's a very old book that says, and a man
shall leave his mother, and a woman shall leave her home.
And what that means is that you need to break away.
Not that you stop loving your parents or stop honoring
your parents, but you have to make a break from
your parents and establish your own life.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Yeah. Well, we have a beautiful, pretty much old daughter
now and life is wonderful. I've recently got a great
job and she's going to call us to be a nurse,
and life is going great. And I love her so much.
You know, she completes me.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
She really does well.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Do me a favor.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
If anybody suggests again that they know better what you
should be doing in your married life, suggests that they
mind their own business.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yes, i'ned that I've learned that. But where my love
and art?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Welcome to the Delilah Show.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Who is this?
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (04:00):
This is Jackie.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Well?
Speaker 7 (04:05):
Actually, my boyfriend of the year we got into an
argument last week and I don't know, like I felt
really distanced from him lately, and I don't know if
he's listening, but I just was hoping that you could
play a song for us.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
So what was this little argument over I.
Speaker 6 (04:22):
Want to go back to school and his life is
headed in a different direction, and I don't know if
I'm going to be moving And you know, we haven't
been together very long, and we're both really young, and
so it's just kind of hard to know where our
lives are leading us. And so you know, we just
kind of argued about what we were going to do,
and so it's really tough.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But how old are you?
Speaker 7 (04:46):
I'm eighteen.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Well here's a concept. Why don't you cross that bridge
when you get to it? Yep? I mean, instead of
future tripping and trying to decide what's going to happen,
why don't you just love each other and enjoy each
other this company, and have a great summer and wait
and see what happens once that happens.
Speaker 6 (05:05):
I think that's a wonderful idea, Delilah.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I mean, if you live in the hour, if you
live in this moment, if you live in the day
that God has given you, then the future will take.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Care of itself.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Honey, alrighty, but if you spend all your time and
energy worrying about what's going to happen in the future
and are we going to be able to stay together
and should we date other people? And it's too many
miles and blah blah blah blah blah, you'll not only
mess up your future, you'll be messing up here here
and now.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
Yeah, you're right. I hope he's listening, because I wishly
could have heard that you said that too. I don't
think I could tell him as well as you just did.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Oh, I think you can.
Speaker 6 (05:42):
All right, Thank you so much, Jelilah.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
All right, good night, honey, good night. Hi Sean. What
can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Well, I don't know right now with the caller, but
we're having a bit of a trouble in our relationship,
Like right now we're separated temporarily because me.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
And my significant other who may not be my significant other,
because I don't know if we're going to make it work,
but I really want it to work because I love.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Her with all my heart and soul.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Exactly is that.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Where you're at?
Speaker 5 (06:18):
Exactly? You always know it?
Speaker 2 (06:20):
What led to.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
This separation between you and what's her?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Name.
Speaker 5 (06:24):
Her name's Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
What happened with you and Chelsea that you're in this quandary?
Speaker 5 (06:28):
Well, basically we were. We had a big fight and
then over what she was talking to her ex boyfriend,
who we've had problems with in the past.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We've had problems with. Obviously, if she's talking to him,
she's not having problems with it.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
Well, she had a problem with him in the past,
but she got over it and I never did.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
She's still emotionally connected to her ax, which drives you nuts. Yes,
and for whatever reason, she can't let go of that
emotional tie and still Oh.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
Yes, she told me today that she that it was
over between them and now she's devoted to me, and
that made me really happy. And I just wanted to
see if you can play a song for us that
shows her that I forgive her and I understand.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
But what's to forgive, honey. She's not in the wrong
for no.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
She I don't know how to say it, but.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I'm saying, if she still has feelings for her ex boyfriend,
that's not something she can control.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Yes, I know that, it's just that she in a
way has deceived me.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Okay, so she can control the line.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
But if she still is emotionally connected to him, that's
not something that can be wished away or made to
go away, or you know, she can be honest with
you about it, but if they still.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
Have an emotional sort of the deception, she lied a
lot about the situation. That's the main part of it.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Why are you wanting to stay in a relationship with
somebody who is not emotionally.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Available to you?
Speaker 5 (07:58):
Well, now, after talking to her today before she went
into work, she explained everything to me and it said
that she is now and I'm giving her a second
chance because I believe that everyone deserves a second chance.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Everyone does deserve a second chance. So I'm glad you
guys are working it out.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Good luck, sweetheart, Thank you, Hi Will, This is Delilah.
What can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
The middle of a divorce and the child custody battle,
and I know the relationship's over, but trying to get
over it's been a real struggle with me because I
have a lot of history with my wife and she's
got a lot of mental problems and addictions, and I
still have feelings for even though I know that it's
(08:50):
for the best, and I'm trying to get that through
to my own head. I find it difficult every day
to be a challenge. You know, we have a child involved,
and but I'm listening thinking myself, it's when.
Speaker 5 (09:03):
Does it end?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
When does your heart stop loving her? I guess when
you love somebody with all of your heart, even though
you see that it's not healthy, you see that it's
not good, you see that it's destroying you, you still
love them. The love doesn't go away. But what you
have to do is decide, Okay, I love her, I
will always love her, but I cannot be in relationship
(09:28):
with her because it hurts too bad. Right, you have
to get to a point where you can accept that
somebody you love is not somebody that you can be
in relationship with. That you can still love her, you
can still wish her well, you can still cherish all
those wonderful memories. You can still miss her, But you
can't put yourself back in that mess.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
No, I can't.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
If your heart doesn't love again for years, it may
take a long time.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Who knows.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
It was twenty years for me before my my heart
felt right and at home again, that I was able
to truly give myself completely.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
But I still had a full life in that time.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I just didn't allow myself. It's not that I didn't
allow myself. I couldn't be in love because I wasn't
in love. Let me find a song for you.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Thanks you for talking with me.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey, It's Delilah to Lo.
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast you.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey, it's Delilah.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Are you writing in a car with someone you love
or are you home with someone you love? Are you
home with your husband or your wife or your sweetheart? Well,
if you're in a car, then you're in a trapped
environment and I can talk to you. If you're at home,
they can walk in the other room or change the
(00:42):
channel or whatever. But wherever you are, if you are
in conflict with your sweetheart, with your partner, maybe ah,
this is a new thing, or maybe it's an everyday thing.
Maybe you just can't stop fussing and fighting and you're
in conflict and there is no peace. I want you
to think about something. When was the last time you
(01:08):
let your walls down and let that person in all
the way into your heart? When was the last time
you said I want to know how you feel. I
want to care about how you feel. I'm not going
to get defensive. I'm not going to argue with you.
I'm not going to tell you your feelings are not valid
(01:28):
or I didn't really hurt your feelings by saying what
I said or doing what I did. When was the
last time you listened and let them all the way
into your heart. We're so used to being defensive, argumentative,
to gaslighting our partners, or not listening, not making them
(01:53):
feel heard, feel seen, feel precious, feel loved. Love Someone
show them that by listening and letting them in your heart. Hi, Matthew,
thank you for your patience.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
This is Delilah. Hi. What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Matt I'd like to make your dedication to my life.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
What's her name?
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Her name is Christina?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
And what do you want to tell the world about
your bride.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
We've been together for a year and a half now
and everybody's been against us, and about a month ago
we split up. Well, we learned real quickly we could
not live without each other.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Why is everybody fighting against you?
Speaker 3 (02:37):
Her family didn't like my family. My family don't like
her family. So Romeo and Juliet story.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Her family and your family don't get along, Yes, ma'am,
but you're the two that are married. Yes, it doesn't
really matter what her family or your family thinks.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
It was a lot of stress of allowing people trying
to come in between us, and it was decided that
we needed a break, and we both realized that was
the worst of we've ever done it. It was horrible
away from each other.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
There's a very old book that says, and a man
shall leave his mother, and a woman shall leave her home.
And what that means is that you need to break away.
Not that you stop loving your parents or stop honoring
your parents, but you have to make a break from
your parents and establish your own life.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Yeah. Well, we have a beautiful, pretty much old daughter
now and life is wonderful. I've recently got a great
job and she's going to call us to be a nurse,
and life is going great. And I love her so much.
You know, she completes me.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
She really does well.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Do me a favor.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
If anybody suggests again that they know better what you
should be doing in your married life, suggests that they
mind their own business.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yes, i'ned that I've learned that. But where my love
and art?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Welcome to the Delilah Show.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Who is this?
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (04:00):
This is Jackie.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (04:03):
Well?
Speaker 7 (04:05):
Actually, my boyfriend of the year we got into an
argument last week and I don't know, like I felt
really distanced from him lately, and I don't know if
he's listening, but I just was hoping that you could
play a song for us.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
So what was this little argument over I.
Speaker 6 (04:22):
Want to go back to school and his life is
headed in a different direction, and I don't know if
I'm going to be moving And you know, we haven't
been together very long, and we're both really young, and
so it's just kind of hard to know where our
lives are leading us. And so you know, we just
kind of argued about what we were going to do,
and so it's really tough.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But how old are you?
Speaker 7 (04:46):
I'm eighteen.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Well here's a concept. Why don't you cross that bridge
when you get to it? Yep? I mean, instead of
future tripping and trying to decide what's going to happen,
why don't you just love each other and enjoy each
other this company, and have a great summer and wait
and see what happens once that happens.
Speaker 6 (05:05):
I think that's a wonderful idea, Delilah.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I mean, if you live in the hour, if you
live in this moment, if you live in the day
that God has given you, then the future will take.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Care of itself.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Honey, alrighty, but if you spend all your time and
energy worrying about what's going to happen in the future
and are we going to be able to stay together
and should we date other people? And it's too many
miles and blah blah blah blah blah, you'll not only
mess up your future, you'll be messing up here here
and now.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
Yeah, you're right. I hope he's listening, because I wishly
could have heard that you said that too. I don't
think I could tell him as well as you just did.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Oh, I think you can.
Speaker 6 (05:42):
All right, Thank you so much, Jelilah.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
All right, good night, honey, good night. Hi Sean. What
can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Well, I don't know right now with the caller, but
we're having a bit of a trouble in our relationship,
Like right now we're separated temporarily because me.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
And my significant other who may not be my significant other,
because I don't know if we're going to make it work,
but I really want it to work because I love.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
Her with all my heart and soul.
Speaker 5 (06:16):
Exactly is that.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Where you're at?
Speaker 5 (06:18):
Exactly? You always know it?
Speaker 2 (06:20):
What led to.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
This separation between you and what's her?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Name.
Speaker 5 (06:24):
Her name's Chelsea.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
What happened with you and Chelsea that you're in this quandary?
Speaker 5 (06:28):
Well, basically we were. We had a big fight and
then over what she was talking to her ex boyfriend,
who we've had problems with in the past.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We've had problems with. Obviously, if she's talking to him,
she's not having problems with it.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
Well, she had a problem with him in the past,
but she got over it and I never did.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
She's still emotionally connected to her ax, which drives you nuts. Yes,
and for whatever reason, she can't let go of that
emotional tie and still Oh.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
Yes, she told me today that she that it was
over between them and now she's devoted to me, and
that made me really happy. And I just wanted to
see if you can play a song for us that
shows her that I forgive her and I understand.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
But what's to forgive, honey. She's not in the wrong
for no.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
She I don't know how to say it, but.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I'm saying, if she still has feelings for her ex boyfriend,
that's not something she can control.
Speaker 5 (07:24):
Yes, I know that, it's just that she in a
way has deceived me.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Okay, so she can control the line.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
But if she still is emotionally connected to him, that's
not something that can be wished away or made to
go away, or you know, she can be honest with
you about it, but if they still.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
Have an emotional sort of the deception, she lied a
lot about the situation. That's the main part of it.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Why are you wanting to stay in a relationship with
somebody who is not emotionally.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Available to you?
Speaker 5 (07:58):
Well, now, after talking to her today before she went
into work, she explained everything to me and it said
that she is now and I'm giving her a second
chance because I believe that everyone deserves a second chance.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Everyone does deserve a second chance. So I'm glad you
guys are working it out.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Good luck, sweetheart, Thank you, Hi Will, This is Delilah.
What can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 4 (08:28):
The middle of a divorce and the child custody battle,
and I know the relationship's over, but trying to get
over it's been a real struggle with me because I
have a lot of history with my wife and she's
got a lot of mental problems and addictions, and I
still have feelings for even though I know that it's
(08:50):
for the best, and I'm trying to get that through
to my own head. I find it difficult every day
to be a challenge. You know, we have a child involved,
and but I'm listening thinking myself, it's when.
Speaker 5 (09:03):
Does it end?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
When does your heart stop loving her? I guess when
you love somebody with all of your heart, even though
you see that it's not healthy, you see that it's
not good, you see that it's destroying you, you still
love them. The love doesn't go away. But what you
have to do is decide, Okay, I love her, I
will always love her, but I cannot be in relationship
(09:28):
with her because it hurts too bad. Right, you have
to get to a point where you can accept that
somebody you love is not somebody that you can be
in relationship with. That you can still love her, you
can still wish her well, you can still cherish all
those wonderful memories. You can still miss her, But you
can't put yourself back in that mess.
Speaker 4 (09:50):
No, I can't.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
If your heart doesn't love again for years, it may
take a long time.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Who knows.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
It was twenty years for me before my my heart
felt right and at home again, that I was able
to truly give myself completely.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
But I still had a full life in that time.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
I just didn't allow myself. It's not that I didn't
allow myself. I couldn't be in love because I wasn't
in love. Let me find a song for you.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Thanks you for talking with me.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey, It's Delilah to Lo.
Host
Delilah
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