DELILAH DILEMMAS: Some needed perspective

A frustrated lady who wants her man to put a ring on it, a teenager longing for a caring father, and an 62 year young single lady who is fallllling for an online romance, all looking for some words of wisdom. Do I have them? ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Hey It's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, I have a feature

(00:22):
called Delilah's Dilemmas, or folks call me or write me
and share a sticky situation they're in and I try
to help them figure out the best course of action. Today,
we're going to listen to some of those unique situations
right here on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is

(00:45):
from d her boyfriend. She says, heard your show about
a gentleman who had been dating a lady for a
couple of months and she was pressuring him to marry her.
You told him to put on some shorts and tennis
shoes and run the other direction. You said the woman
was controlling. My boyfriend then told me he was sharing
this story with me because I am the same way

(01:08):
as that woman, but our story is different. He and
I have been dating for two and a half years,
not two and a half months. I asked him about
our future and told him I was ready for a
commitment after a year. Don't you think you should know
if someone is right for you. I'm forty four years
old and he is forty six. I have a seven

(01:28):
year old and I desire a complete family. He's a
good hearted man, but he has a closed mind and
he feels our situation is the same as the one
you spoke of. I would like your response, Well, D,
I will give you my response coming up next. Tonight's

(01:52):
Delilah's Dilemma is from a forty four year old woman
who has a son who is seven, who has been
dating a man for over two years and wants a
commitment and he's saying, no, you're being too controlling about that. D.
You're the one who needs to put on the shorts
and the tennis shoes and run if after two and
a half years, he doesn't know what he wants. There's

(02:13):
a great book out it's by Steve Harvey. It's called
Act like a Lady, Think like a Man, and it
is so good. D you got to pick it up
and read it, and then you will discover if he
is looking for keeps or if he's just out having
a little bit of fun and not really interested in
a forever relationship. Read that book and then I'm sure

(02:36):
you will come to your own conclusions. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says,
my dad has been in and out of jail since
I was about two. I am now sixteen, and I
haven't seen him in about eight years. I mostly just

(02:57):
tear things, and he used to write to me, and
I look forward to it. Now I wish I didn't
know him at all. He video cams homeless people and
makes fun of them. He's cynical and mean. He's just
a bad person. So how do I deal with this?

(03:18):
I'm so disappointed and I'm so hurt. I will have
my words for you, honey, coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's

(03:38):
Dilemma is from a sixteen year old who's not seen
or talked to their dad in eight years. Dad's been
in and out of jail since they were two, and
dad is a cynical, mean person. How do I deal
with this? Here's how you deal with this. You thank
God that you are here and that God allowed your
father to father you, and then you recognize that just

(04:02):
because your dad is those things doesn't mean that those
things have to be visited upon you. In fact, it's
probably if he's that cynical, and that mean it's a
good thing that God kept him away from you for
the last eight years. So number one, you wouldn't be hurt.
And number two, those character traits are character defects, those
bad things wouldn't be visited upon you. Because a lot

(04:27):
of times kids become what they are exposed to. So
if they're exposed to drugs and fighting and alcohol and abuse,
they become drug addicts and alcoholics and abusers. But because
your dad's been in jail and you said you haven't
had any contact for eight years, he's not been allowed
to influence you that way. Now, how do you accept

(04:50):
the fact that your dad is a deadbeat dad and
as a mean person. You just put him in God's
hand and say, I don't know how he ended up
so broken. I don't know what happened to him in
his childhood that he's got such a mean spirit and
I can't fix it. So God, you deal with him
and then you let it go. And I bet you

(05:11):
have a lot of people that love you, So focus
on the gifts that you do have, not on what
you don't. Here Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is so sweet. It
says I know this sounds silly. I'm sixty two and single.

(05:31):
I've been single for almost twenty years, and I've not
dated during this time. I just get on the computer
and I joined one of the dating sites. I'm very safe,
very picky. I've had several lunch dates, but the chemistry
was not there. Two weeks ago, I received a message
from a guy in another state, and we've been emailing
and instant messaging constantly. Now we're talking on the phone.

(05:54):
He's flying here in two weeks, and I'm sure the
sparks will be flying when we get together. He said
all the right things. He makes my toes curl and
anticipation of this visit. Delilah, am I too old to
fall head over heels in love with this man. He's
on my mind constantly. I ache with the very thought
of him. Am I just being silly? I feel giddy,

(06:15):
not like a sixty two year old grandma. Any advice
from Linda, young lady. I will have my advice for
you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from Linda,
who is falling head over heels. She is twitter paid.

(06:38):
I won't call it love yet because it's only been
a few weeks, but you are twitter paated, Linda, and
that's a very very good thing. So long as your
heart is beating and you are alive on this planet,
you have the capacity to love. And there are so
many different kinds of love, and romantic love is just
one of those kinds. But it's so delightful and so delicious,

(07:01):
and you have protected your heart for two decades. Good
for you. Be safe, Be sure you set boundaries if
you've not met him, make sure that you've got a
safety net and friends around, and you're not getting into
a bad situation. He could be a flake. Many people are,

(07:21):
but if he's as wonderful as you think, you're not
being silly at all. Good luck. I so hope you
have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy
bringing them to you. I'll share more with you each
weekday on Hey It's Delilah.