January 30, 2025 • 8 mins
Folks seem to be carrying around a whole lotta anger and resentment these days. Free yourself by forgiving and letting go. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast through last night,
if you were listening to my show, you might have
heard me talking about the topic of forgiveness. And I
(00:25):
think I think I'm probably going to touch on that
probably every night for the rest of this year. I
think that's kind of going to be an overarching theme
because it seems to me like there's a whole lot
of anger and a whole lot of rage going on
(00:45):
around us, and a lot of people are feeling like
nothing is fair.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Today. I probably had three.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Phone conversations with people not on the air, just in
my personal life where people said, that's not fair. It's
so unfair. Guess what it is. It is unfair. There
are so many unfair things, things that are not right,
and what can you do about it. Well, if you
(01:17):
can right the wrong, then do that. But a lot
of times all we can do is forgive and move on,
because if we stay stuck in that feeling of it's
not fair, it's not fair, they owe me an apology.
Guess what happens doesn't hurt them? Whoever wronged you. It
(01:41):
doesn't hurt them, it hurts you.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Hi, Donna, Hi, I want to know if you could
play a song for my two beautiful daughters.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
What are their names, Brittany and Ashley? How old are they? Mom?
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Brittany is eleven and Ashley is five?
Speaker 2 (02:00):
And what do you want to tell them?
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I want to tell them that I love them very
much and they will be home soon. Me and their
dad are going to a big custody battle and they're
with him, and they want to come home really bad.
And I just want them to know that I love
them with all my heart.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Now, is there any way that you two can work
through your problems and they can be a part of
both your lives?
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Yes, we probably could for their sake.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Yeah, the more peace that you two can establish, whether
or not you get along, you're going to have to
figure out a way. Seems to me the best situation
would be to put your differences aside and say, let's
agree to disagree and agree that we don't get along,
but for our children's sake, let's make this thing work.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Yeah, we need to do that.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Yeah, you do.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
And they just I miss him really bad. I've not
seen him. They've been gone for about four months now.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
And does he live out of the area.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Yeah, he does.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Do you not have visitation at all?
Speaker 5 (02:55):
No?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Not right now, just because we argue and he's got
a girlfriend that we don't get along at all, and
we fight and argue, and I know what's wrong.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Okay? How bad does your heart hurt missing your kids?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
It hurts really bad?
Speaker 5 (03:08):
Because does it.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Hurt bad enough to swallow your anger and swallow your
pride and swallow the fact that you have probably been
wronged and find a way to stop fighting with him
and his girlfriend for your kid's sake.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
I need to do that.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Do you know what forgiveness is, honey? Forgiveness is not
a feeling. And forgiveness is not saying what you did
is okay. Forgiveness is saying, God, I am going to
stop expecting somebody to pay me a debt they rightfully
owe me. Does he owe you a debt for wrongs
that he did in your marriage?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
To be honest with you, yeah, I do.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
And is the fact that he wronged you and hurt
you and did things that were inappropriate in your marriage
causing you to hang on to anger and bitterness and resentment, Well.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
It's hard it's hard to let go.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
But if you don't let go of that, and I'm
not saying that you need to feel warm and fuzzy
about this man, But if you don't let go of
that anger and that hurt and that resentment and put
it in God's hands and let him figure out justice
in the situation, Donnie, you're going to lose more than
your children. You're going to lose your serenity, and you're
(04:22):
going to lose your peace, and you're going to lose
your joy. I know that when you can get to
a point where you say, you know what he wronged me.
I'm hurt, I'm angry. What's happened is wrong. But I
am not going to hold him accountable any longer. I'm
going to let God deal with him. I'm going to
put it in God's hands, and I am going to
(04:44):
find a way to get along with this person and
his girlfriend at any cost for my daughter's sake. You
need to do that for your girls, but mostly you
need to do that for you. Marcus High, Welcome to
(05:07):
the Delilah Show. Who is on your heart tonight?
Speaker 6 (05:10):
Well, actually it's a friend of mine and as I've
been traveling back and forth. I keep listening to your
show because it has to be the only thing on
that's really interesting. They can't need to play any good
stuff on the radio anymore except our show.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
So.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 6 (05:30):
Yeah. Well, I keep hearing all these stories of you know,
heartache and things like that, and coming back from a
friend tonight, I kind of realized the truth that I
have never realized before and starting to make me wonder
of everything that I write about is actually wrong. But
as she is on my mind, I'm wondering, you know,
(05:51):
maybe if there's any answer to love and all that,
maybe the only thing we can do is take a
step back and quit dreaming of the fantasy of it
and really focus on the it, which is probably the
most successful part of it, or what we really need
in our lives. Of course, that might just seem like
mindless philosophy too, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Oh no, I think that so many people.
Speaker 7 (06:11):
My producer Janie and I were talking this morning about
how when you're young, especially, you buy into this fantasy
of what you think it is supposed to be, and
you miss out on so many important and life changing
and wonderful situations because you're expecting it to look like
something else right.
Speaker 6 (06:33):
Well, And the thing is, you know, I always talk
about the things that we're most afraid of are the
things we don't understand, and maybe that is true, but
I think the things that we're more afraid of is
the actual success of it.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Leona, what can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (06:51):
My biological father was what everybody calls a deadbeat dad.
So my sister and I grew up without knowing our father,
and for many years I was very, very bitter about
it and very angry. I never really had a father figure,
true father figure me and my grandparents helped to raise me,
but that was about it. And we found out that
he passed away and I really didn't care at the time.
(07:14):
And then two years ago my sister decided that she
wanted to try to find our family on that side,
and she did, and for me, it was kind of
like this door that I had dead bolted and everything
had just been yanked wide open. And it's just been
two years of being on emotional rollercoaster, and I've loved
meeting my family, but I still didn't want anything to
do with hearing about my father or anything like that
(07:38):
until about four months ago, and I was striving to
work and had passed an accident, and I started praying
for the people in the accident, and all of a sudden,
I just started crying, and I really felt like God
was saying, it's time for you to stop running. You
need to go and take care of this. And so
I called my sister and we made a trip to
take care of that, and I went two weeks ago
(07:59):
and she had some of his ashes. He had been cremated,
and so I took some of his ashes and went
out onto the pier that they had had the ceremony
on and made my peace with him. And it was
I've never felt more free in my life. And I felt,
all of a sudden, I just felt this immense love
not only for him, but the love that he actually
(08:19):
did half for us. He was really screwed up and
for whatever reason, he couldn't make it work. But I
forgave him that day. And it's just the last two
weeks this has been really awesome. I've just felt so free,
and there's just so many things that are coming together
now that I took that step.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday. On eight, it's Delilah Love
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast through last night,
if you were listening to my show, you might have
heard me talking about the topic of forgiveness. And I
(00:25):
think I think I'm probably going to touch on that
probably every night for the rest of this year. I
think that's kind of going to be an overarching theme
because it seems to me like there's a whole lot
of anger and a whole lot of rage going on
(00:45):
around us, and a lot of people are feeling like
nothing is fair.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Today. I probably had three.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Phone conversations with people not on the air, just in
my personal life where people said, that's not fair. It's
so unfair. Guess what it is. It is unfair. There
are so many unfair things, things that are not right,
and what can you do about it. Well, if you
(01:17):
can right the wrong, then do that. But a lot
of times all we can do is forgive and move on,
because if we stay stuck in that feeling of it's
not fair, it's not fair, they owe me an apology.
Guess what happens doesn't hurt them? Whoever wronged you. It
(01:41):
doesn't hurt them, it hurts you.
Speaker 3 (01:47):
Hi, Donna, Hi, I want to know if you could
play a song for my two beautiful daughters.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
What are their names, Brittany and Ashley? How old are they? Mom?
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Brittany is eleven and Ashley is five?
Speaker 2 (02:00):
And what do you want to tell them?
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I want to tell them that I love them very
much and they will be home soon. Me and their
dad are going to a big custody battle and they're
with him, and they want to come home really bad.
And I just want them to know that I love
them with all my heart.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Now, is there any way that you two can work
through your problems and they can be a part of
both your lives?
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Yes, we probably could for their sake.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Yeah, the more peace that you two can establish, whether
or not you get along, you're going to have to
figure out a way. Seems to me the best situation
would be to put your differences aside and say, let's
agree to disagree and agree that we don't get along,
but for our children's sake, let's make this thing work.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Yeah, we need to do that.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Yeah, you do.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
And they just I miss him really bad. I've not
seen him. They've been gone for about four months now.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
And does he live out of the area.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Yeah, he does.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Do you not have visitation at all?
Speaker 5 (02:55):
No?
Speaker 3 (02:55):
Not right now, just because we argue and he's got
a girlfriend that we don't get along at all, and
we fight and argue, and I know what's wrong.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Okay? How bad does your heart hurt missing your kids?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
It hurts really bad?
Speaker 5 (03:08):
Because does it.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Hurt bad enough to swallow your anger and swallow your
pride and swallow the fact that you have probably been
wronged and find a way to stop fighting with him
and his girlfriend for your kid's sake.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
I need to do that.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
Do you know what forgiveness is, honey? Forgiveness is not
a feeling. And forgiveness is not saying what you did
is okay. Forgiveness is saying, God, I am going to
stop expecting somebody to pay me a debt they rightfully
owe me. Does he owe you a debt for wrongs
that he did in your marriage?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
To be honest with you, yeah, I do.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
And is the fact that he wronged you and hurt
you and did things that were inappropriate in your marriage
causing you to hang on to anger and bitterness and resentment, Well.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
It's hard it's hard to let go.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
But if you don't let go of that, and I'm
not saying that you need to feel warm and fuzzy
about this man, But if you don't let go of
that anger and that hurt and that resentment and put
it in God's hands and let him figure out justice
in the situation, Donnie, you're going to lose more than
your children. You're going to lose your serenity, and you're
(04:22):
going to lose your peace, and you're going to lose
your joy. I know that when you can get to
a point where you say, you know what he wronged me.
I'm hurt, I'm angry. What's happened is wrong. But I
am not going to hold him accountable any longer. I'm
going to let God deal with him. I'm going to
put it in God's hands, and I am going to
(04:44):
find a way to get along with this person and
his girlfriend at any cost for my daughter's sake. You
need to do that for your girls, but mostly you
need to do that for you. Marcus High, Welcome to
(05:07):
the Delilah Show. Who is on your heart tonight?
Speaker 6 (05:10):
Well, actually it's a friend of mine and as I've
been traveling back and forth. I keep listening to your
show because it has to be the only thing on
that's really interesting. They can't need to play any good
stuff on the radio anymore except our show.
Speaker 5 (05:26):
So.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Thank you.
Speaker 6 (05:30):
Yeah. Well, I keep hearing all these stories of you know,
heartache and things like that, and coming back from a
friend tonight, I kind of realized the truth that I
have never realized before and starting to make me wonder
of everything that I write about is actually wrong. But
as she is on my mind, I'm wondering, you know,
(05:51):
maybe if there's any answer to love and all that,
maybe the only thing we can do is take a
step back and quit dreaming of the fantasy of it
and really focus on the it, which is probably the
most successful part of it, or what we really need
in our lives. Of course, that might just seem like
mindless philosophy too, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Oh no, I think that so many people.
Speaker 7 (06:11):
My producer Janie and I were talking this morning about
how when you're young, especially, you buy into this fantasy
of what you think it is supposed to be, and
you miss out on so many important and life changing
and wonderful situations because you're expecting it to look like
something else right.
Speaker 6 (06:33):
Well, And the thing is, you know, I always talk
about the things that we're most afraid of are the
things we don't understand, and maybe that is true, but
I think the things that we're more afraid of is
the actual success of it.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Leona, what can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (06:51):
My biological father was what everybody calls a deadbeat dad.
So my sister and I grew up without knowing our father,
and for many years I was very, very bitter about
it and very angry. I never really had a father figure,
true father figure me and my grandparents helped to raise me,
but that was about it. And we found out that
he passed away and I really didn't care at the time.
(07:14):
And then two years ago my sister decided that she
wanted to try to find our family on that side,
and she did, and for me, it was kind of
like this door that I had dead bolted and everything
had just been yanked wide open. And it's just been
two years of being on emotional rollercoaster, and I've loved
meeting my family, but I still didn't want anything to
do with hearing about my father or anything like that
(07:38):
until about four months ago, and I was striving to
work and had passed an accident, and I started praying
for the people in the accident, and all of a sudden,
I just started crying, and I really felt like God
was saying, it's time for you to stop running. You
need to go and take care of this. And so
I called my sister and we made a trip to
take care of that, and I went two weeks ago
(07:59):
and she had some of his ashes. He had been cremated,
and so I took some of his ashes and went
out onto the pier that they had had the ceremony
on and made my peace with him. And it was
I've never felt more free in my life. And I felt,
all of a sudden, I just felt this immense love
not only for him, but the love that he actually
(08:19):
did half for us. He was really screwed up and
for whatever reason, he couldn't make it work. But I
forgave him that day. And it's just the last two
weeks this has been really awesome. I've just felt so free,
and there's just so many things that are coming together
now that I took that step.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday. On eight, it's Delilah Love
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