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April 25, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter for Friday, April 25th, 2025: "I Never Know What's On Her Mind"

A man writes in because his wife has stopped talking to him...and started staring him down.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
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Speaker 3 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time.
We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. I never know what's on her mind.
Dear Stephen Shirley. My girlfriend and I have been together
for three years. She's thirty one and I'm thirty three
years old. She has always been shy and quiet. I
am outgoing and friendly. My family has gotten used to her,
but my friends think she's judging them when she's around,

(00:47):
because she will sit there quietly and stare at them.
She speaks when spoken to, but she's not submissive. I
never know what's on her mind. On her birthday, I
made dinner reservations and I told her I would pick
her up for dinner. I got to her house and
she had cooked a big dinner for herself. And said
she didn't feel like going out. I asked her why

(01:09):
she didn't tell me that upfront, and she got mad.
Because I was mad, she ignored me for days. She
stares at her two year old daughter and that works
on her. But I'm a grown man and I need
her to communicate with me when there's a problem, like
with sex.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
I thought she loved a.

Speaker 1 (01:26):
Certain thing I do, but she told me that it
is uncomfortable and she has never liked it. She stopped
giving me feedback during sex. She frowns and stays silent.
She used to at least whimper, but now it's nothing.
If I could read her mind, I might be offended.
She never seems to be happy, but she says she is.

(01:47):
I talked to her daughter and explain things in a
way that she can understand. But my girlfriend said I
give her too much info to process. Somebody has to
talk to the baby. If I'm watching TV, I feel
her staring at me. When I ask her what's wrong,
she says nothing's wrong. I want to marry her for
the sake of our daughter, but I'm kind of scared

(02:09):
of her. Should I suggest that she go talk to someone,
or should I walk away and let her figure out
her issues. Well, yeah, she should talk to someone, and
you both should. I think you do have a child
to consider here, and I'm always up for some therapy.
But from what you've said about her and how she's acting,
she might not agree to go. And just by reading

(02:30):
this letter, I don't think this woman is for you anyway.
You said you're scared of her. You said that that
you're scared of her. She doesn't give you feedback during sex,
She frowned, she stays silent. You're right about communication. Why
wouldn't she Why couldn't she tell you that she didn't

(02:52):
feel like going out for her birthday dinner before you
went over there to pick her up, So she just
decided she didn't feel like going out and cooked dinner
for herself, but didn't tell you. This sounds crazy. I mean,
it's very selfish, it's very inconsiderate. She doesn't like you,
I don't think at all. And no matter what she says,
she's not happy. You would know it by your attitude

(03:15):
if she was happy, and she's got it just a
bad attitude. I can't believe you've put up with her
bad behavior for three whole years. And I understand you
want to keep your family together because of the baby,
but listen, it takes two people. You got to be
on the same page. She's not participating or cooperating or
communicating with you. I'd say start figuring out now your
child support payments, what weekends you want for visitation? Because

(03:38):
this relationship is not working, Steve, this is a wrap.

Speaker 2 (03:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (03:46):
When I read the title, I never know what's on
my mind that I was don't go. Well, that's most
women because it's hard to read a woman's mind because
they will change it on you.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
Now, don't award yet.

Speaker 4 (03:59):
I was ready for, but that ain't what this letter is.
Listen to me, son, you're thirty three years old. I'm
gonna tell you right now.

Speaker 2 (04:08):
Run Arah, you.

Speaker 3 (04:14):
In a way, run.

Speaker 4 (04:19):
All way, Get on your bike and leave, kiss the
baby and drive off.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Leave a note, but be gone. That's all this is.

Speaker 4 (04:39):
And do it before it requires paperwork to do it,
because this this cannot work. You and your girlfriend been
together three years. She thirty one, you thirty three. She
always been shining quiet boy, let me tell you what's
going on here for you? For you think it's just
shy and quiet, she get around your friends. She don't talk.

(05:01):
Your friends think they judging her.

Speaker 3 (05:02):
She is.

Speaker 4 (05:04):
She speaks when spoken to, but she's not submissive. I
never know what's on her mind. On her birthday, I
made dinner reservations. You told her you would pick her
off for dinner. You got over there, she'd have puked,
she'd have picked She didne cooked a full dinner for
herself and said she ain't feel like going out. Well
that's inconsiderate. What yeah, I asked her why she ain't

(05:26):
tell me up front? She got mad because I was
mad because you went out of your way to do
something nice for her on her birthday.

Speaker 3 (05:33):
She decided she gonna do what she want to do.

Speaker 4 (05:37):
I need her to communicate with me when there's a
problem that you know, here's a problem to this letter
right here. I will give women credit to most of
their credit. Women are communication specialist. Women thrive on communication,
and they require communication.

Speaker 3 (05:58):
I will give them that.

Speaker 4 (06:00):
If you cannot say she didn't want to talk, you
got one that don't want to talk to you. Dog,
that's cause she don't like you. She don't like you
at all. We want to communicate, like when we have
in sex. I thought she loved a certain thing I do.
She told me it's uncomfortable and she never liked it.

(06:20):
She stopped giving you feedback doing such. She frowns and
stays silent.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
What the whole time.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
She used to? At least wimple, wimple? Does it? Boy?

Speaker 2 (06:37):
All right, hang on, we'll be there. Yeah, hang on.

Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter. Subject I never
know what's on her mind. We'll get back into it
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All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I never know what's on her mind.

Speaker 4 (07:32):
Well you do know what's on her mind in this letter,
and I'm gonna help you figure it out. You got
a woman that don't like you, bro, She don't.

Speaker 3 (07:43):
Talk to you.

Speaker 4 (07:44):
You made dinner reservations for a birthday. You go over
there to pick a up. She didnet cook the food dinner,
says she ain't want to go nowhere. Then you went, wow,
I did all. This is your birthday. I know you
made some plans, probably has some surprises down there.

Speaker 3 (07:57):
She don't want none of it. You mad now?

Speaker 4 (07:59):
She mad that you're forgetting mad. She ignored me for days.
This is a self centered person here. She didn't even
take it to consideration that you might have done something
nice for her birthday. She she gonna you see she
wanted them people. Well, you can't out mad. Then if
you get mad, she just get mad.

Speaker 3 (08:19):
Up, she says. She stares.

Speaker 4 (08:24):
She here's a dangerous part. She stares at our two
year old daughter, and that works for her. But I'm
a grown man. I need her to communicate. So you
say you need to communicate about sex. You thought you
did something she liked. She told you she didn't like it.
She was uncomfortable with it, as she never liked it.
She stopped giving you feedback doing sex. She frowns and

(08:46):
stays silid. Dogs, this woman don't.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Like you, Brown.

Speaker 3 (08:54):
She used to at least whimple, but now it's nothing.
Now it's nothing.

Speaker 4 (09:02):
I don't really want your boy priend either. You can
say that too. What are we doing here? We in
here making love? Were in here crying? What are we doing?
If I could read her mind, I might be offended.

Speaker 3 (09:15):
You should be get off of me.

Speaker 4 (09:19):
It's going through her mind. I'll be glad when this
is over. Be going through her mind. You make me sick.
It's going through her mind. You know, God, I can't
stand you.

Speaker 3 (09:31):
She never seems to be happy, but she says she is.
She lying.

Speaker 4 (09:36):
I talk to our daughter and explain things in a
way that she can understand. But my girlfriend says I
give her too much info to process. Somebody got to
talk to the baby. If I'm watching TV, I feel
her staring at me. When I asked her what's wrong,
she said, nothing wrong?

Speaker 3 (09:53):
Dog? She fin to kill you. That wasn't finna hapen here? Dog.
I'm just I try to be nice to you.

Speaker 4 (10:01):
But if you watch a TV and you look over there,
she's stand upside your head.

Speaker 3 (10:06):
Get out out, run behind about that house.

Speaker 4 (10:20):
When I asked her what was wrong, she said nothing.
I want to marry her for the sake of our daughter.

Speaker 3 (10:25):
Brother.

Speaker 4 (10:26):
That's the dumbest statement you've made in this letter. You
want to marry her for what? PRAU read this letter?
Why would you marry this person? She don't talk to you,
to you, she stared at you, she complains about everything,
she's inconsiderate, she's not a good mother, she's not good

(10:49):
wife material.

Speaker 3 (10:50):
But you want to marry her for the sake of
our daughter. Dog.

Speaker 4 (10:53):
You steal the baby's father, and I'm kind of scared
of her. That where you need to be because she
gonna kill you. That's what I'm trying to tell you, though.
Right there, she gonna kill you. This is serial killer
activity she doing, staring at you, don't talk.

Speaker 3 (11:10):
To the baby, no noise, doing sex, silent frowning.

Speaker 4 (11:15):
That signs of about to kill somebody.

Speaker 3 (11:18):
What you need to do is look on her computer history.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
I can assure you she has been looking up stuff
like how to poison somebody and not get caught.

Speaker 3 (11:31):
Where to put her body? You got to look at
her computer history.

Speaker 4 (11:35):
I trust me you on now, should I suggest that
she gonna talk to someone?

Speaker 3 (11:42):
Or should I walk away and let her figure out
her issue?

Speaker 4 (11:45):
That's it, walk away and let her figure out her issue,
Because dog, I'm telling you right now what the issue is?
Issue you she don't like you? Brug get out?

Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yeah, yeah, questions. I just want to know.

Speaker 1 (12:04):
Why would she do that? Though she knows this man
is coming over to her house. I mean, how selfish
can you be? He's coming over to her house to
take her out for her birthday?

Speaker 2 (12:16):
Her birthday, Steve. And she's mad about that.

Speaker 1 (12:20):
Yeah, she's mad about that though.

Speaker 4 (12:24):
Yeah, you know your boyfriend is coming to pick you up? Yeah,
instead you pick a dinner. And then that's just mean.
Women are normally not that way.

Speaker 2 (12:34):
No, she's mean. She's a mean woman.

Speaker 3 (12:39):
And what I really think if she's a serial killer.

Speaker 2 (12:48):
But she doesn't even talk to her child.

Speaker 3 (12:49):
Steve.

Speaker 2 (12:50):
The guy said someone has to talk to the baby.

Speaker 3 (12:53):
She doesn't even talk. I leave and call a child's
Protect your Service.

Speaker 2 (13:00):
Yeah, get that baby out of there.

Speaker 3 (13:02):
Yeah this CPS.

Speaker 1 (13:04):
Yeah, this woman is not cool. She's staring at him
while he's watching TV.

Speaker 3 (13:09):
I see that right there.

Speaker 4 (13:10):
If I'm watching the game and I look over and
I see you staying upside my hand, first of all,
I'm gonna get off the couch and go sit in
that chair across from you.

Speaker 3 (13:17):
So I got that's the first time.

Speaker 4 (13:20):
Yeah, now I'm gonna sit up. I'm getting up, Go
get in the chair directly across from you, and he's
gonna need at least ten feet of clean So I'm down.
You case you started running at meet with that state nighte.

Speaker 2 (13:31):
I got to be but you know all right.

Speaker 1 (13:35):
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