April 24, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter for Thursday, April 24th, 2025: "If He's Up, Everybody Needs To Be Up"
A woman writes in to Steve and Shirley for advice on how to deal with her husband's insatiable libido.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve BARBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be old bucket love and hold on time.
We got it for you. Hear it in Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. If he's up, everybody needs to
be up. Dis Steven Shirley. My husband and I are
forty eight years old. We have a fourteen year old
son and a nine year old son. And one thing
about my husband, he's going to have some kind of
intimacy every night of the week. I stopped fighting it
when I met him. We had sex on our first
(00:46):
date and we've been together since. It's what made us
closer because we have such great chemistry. When I had
our first child, he got jealous and it killed him
to wait until my body was ready for sex again.
Everyone and our family knows how spicy we are, and
it's a running joke. My mother stayed with us for
a week after I gave birth to the second boy.
(01:08):
My husband showed out every night, and she finally said
something to me about it. She asked if I enjoyed
it as much as my husband did. I blushed and
I could not believe. My mom asked me that I
can't get my husband to be quiet or stay in
one room. He wakes our sons up sometimes because he
yells or moans the whole time. He overdoes it every time.
(01:31):
His reactions are better than any gift he could ever
give me. He always thanks me over and over and
calls me his queen. My two aunts think it is unnatural,
and I can't tell them if they're both haters, or
I can't tell if they're both haters, or if there
might be really something wrong with my husband. I wouldn't
(01:52):
consider him a sex addict, but there are times when
he will not take no for an answer. As we
get older, I wonder if I will be able to
keep up with him because he does not believe in quickies.
Is it cool to still be that loud and wild
during intimacy after sixteen years of marriage? Well to that,
I have to say, girl, yes, you know that depends
(02:14):
on you too. I just say, please don't listen to
those haters. Enjoy your life. Okay, there's nothing wrong with
your husband except he has a very high libido. You
guys are only forty eight, you're grown, and the kids
are not babies anymore. Although I don't think he should
be waking them up at night with all of that.
(02:34):
Could he be more quiet? He could probably take it
down and not your two. But it is his house
and he's free to do what he wants. The question
is why are your aunties all up in your business?
And how does everyone in your family know what's going
on in your house?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Is it your mom telling them? I mean who's telling them?
Speaker 1 (02:53):
You?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Are you telling them? They're all too nosy?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
You yourself said his reactions are the greatest gifts he
could ever give you. So if you're not doing anything
that makes you feel uncomfortable, if it's painful in any way,
and he won't stop or something like that, then I
would say that would be a problem. You seem happy
to me, So, like I said earlier, enjoy your life, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
You know.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
What, too much?
Speaker 4 (03:26):
It's too much. Go sit down somewhere. Wait a minute,
stop it. I don't feel like it. Not tonight.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You just had some.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
What you won't now, don't touch me. I'm over this.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
What's the matter with you?
Speaker 4 (03:56):
What in here? Child's be quiet? These kids get away
from that job. We all right, I'm just.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I am. I'm fine.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
Get waiting the door now, Charles Jr.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Child Jr.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
The second, Get wait. I'm in here with your mama.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
A ah, heart is good. I ain't never had nothing
like this, hear me.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Now tell the neighbors, tell him.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
I'll be at the minute.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
Girl, I don't want to put the fill over my mouth,
Charley said, my house, I do what I want. This
letter crazy, This letter is crazy, she said, both of them.
For the the one thing about my husband. He gonna
have some kind of intimacy every night of the week,
(05:10):
Shirley said, girl, ignored them. Going to enjoy your life?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
How this every night? This is every night.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
I stopped fighting when I met him. We had sex
on our first date and we've been together since. It's
what made us closer. You can't get no closer if
y'all always being intimate. You were as close as you
(05:44):
can get. When I had my first child, he got
jealous and it killed him to wait until my body
was ready for sex again.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
What y'all to say't what you mean? How this normal?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Everybody in our families know how spicy we are, and
this will run a joke. Your mama stayed with you
for a week after you gave birth to the second boy.
My husband showed out every night, every night after the
boy was borned finally your mama saying something. Ask you
if I enjoyed it as much as my husband did.
(06:23):
Because he in that jet clown, he don't care who
in the house. This ain't normal. We come back, I'll tell.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
You the rest. I just.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
All right. We'll have her too. Of Steve's response after
the hour, A ya ya ya ya.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Subject is if he's up, everybody needs what you doing
back into it right after this.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
You're listening hardy morning show.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Folks. There are a lot of reasons to like Hyundai.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Hyundai's done a lot to support American consumers. I mean,
they announced their investment of twenty one billion dollars in
the United States over the next three years that will
expand manufacturing and create more jobs for Americans. And they
just announced that they will not be raising MSRP through June.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Second no matter what.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Call five six y two three one four four six
zero three for more details. All right, come on, Steve,
Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is if He's up,
everybody needs to be up.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
This is about a letter about a man that has
to have intimacy with his wife after sixteen years of
marriaging two children. They have to have some form of
intimacy every single night of the week. I'm saying, this
ain't natural. Shirley said, go and enjoy your life.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
How you going to enjoy your night every night?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
It's not natural for who?
Speaker 4 (08:03):
It ain't natural for most people. This is abnormal. And
you what you gonna do is quit acting like it
is natural.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (08:12):
That's what you gonna do. You gonna stop acting like
it's natural because it ain't. But she is complaining, you
just don't hear it.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
The line, the line that says, it's the great his
his reaction is the greatest gift he he overdoes it
every time. His reactions are better than any gift he
could ever give me.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
No, no, no, no.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
The line says, I stopped fighting it when I met him.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
They had the first night they're into.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
It and she stopped fighting it because it's how they
stay close. My husband showed out every night. He don't
keep quiet something he wake our sons up. My mama
stayed with me for a week and she couldn't believe it.
She asked me one day, do you just enjoy it
as much as he did? She come talking about I
(09:11):
couldn't believe. My mama asked me that I can't listen
to this shirt. I can't get my husband to be
quiet or stay in one room. There is some turmoil
going on in this house, all this holland he wakes
up our sons sometimes because he yells or moans the
(09:34):
whole time. Next line that says there's a problem. He
overdes it every time. This is a cry for help,
but she trying to mask it his reactions. Then she
goes his reactions are better than any gift he could
ever give. He always thanks me over and over and
(09:56):
calls me his queen. My two aunts think it's unnatural,
and I can't tell if they both hate us or
if there might be something really wrong with my husband.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Both of them statements is true.
Speaker 4 (10:10):
Your aunts them them big wide helpless is up?
Speaker 2 (10:13):
They hate us, ain't.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
Nobody moaned and hollered on them in a while, so
they hate me now.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
The next line says, or.
Speaker 4 (10:24):
If there might be something really wrong with my husband,
it is, it is, but.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
It's it's every day.
Speaker 4 (10:32):
Though. Listen, surely, surely, too much water ain't good for you.
If you too much of anything in excess, it's not
good for you.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
You're taking away the specialty of it.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
We already with the anniversary Mother's Day date night don't
mean nothing because every night.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Now, let me explain something to you that you don't know.
Speaker 4 (11:06):
Shit. Okay, in a man's body, he's able to produce
x amount of monumental moments.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Let's just say that for okay, all right, a man.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
Can only produce x amount of monumental moments.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
And now you're getting clinical.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Go ahead.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
The gun is now gonna fire. After you've used up
your bullets, you have to reload. That's gonna come shortly
for him.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
He forty eight.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
Now I'm predicting at this pace, he got about another
three years of every day.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
Okay, then he'll slow down. Okay, that's fair.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
He gonna slow wade own.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Should he gonna be out of bullets, he gonna have
to go get the manufacturing chamber for the bullets repaired,
because he's done extreme damage.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
To hisself the same medicine. Should it be something else, now,
let me.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Tell you this, Okay, if there might be something wrong
with him, I wouldn't consider him a sex at it.
But there are times when he will not take no
for an answer. We are constantly talking about on this
show somebody not being able to take no for an answer.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Uh huh. We're gonna deal with one of these stories
this week in the news.
Speaker 4 (12:51):
I would assume now if you that's a problem, if
he can't take no for an answer, because it has
to happen every night.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
According to this letter, Now there is a problem.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Make him make up your mind.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
No, I did say if it's uncomfortable.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
Or I told you it was a problem at the
beginning of this letter.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
She now took you to just now to admit.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I said it in my response if it's uncomfortable for her.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
As we get all, I wonder if I will be
able to keep up with him.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
You ain't gonna have to wear about it, so he
ain't gonna be able to keep up.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Listen post you're coming before solved.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Us in a minute, and you ain't gonna have to
wear about it.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
At Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app
Free Never Sounded So Good. You can download it. Today
you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve BARBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be old bucket love and hold on time.
We got it for you. Hear it in Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you, nephew. Subject. If he's up, everybody needs to
be up. Dis Steven Shirley. My husband and I are
forty eight years old. We have a fourteen year old
son and a nine year old son. And one thing
about my husband, he's going to have some kind of
intimacy every night of the week. I stopped fighting it
when I met him. We had sex on our first
(00:46):
date and we've been together since. It's what made us
closer because we have such great chemistry. When I had
our first child, he got jealous and it killed him
to wait until my body was ready for sex again.
Everyone and our family knows how spicy we are, and
it's a running joke. My mother stayed with us for
a week after I gave birth to the second boy.
(01:08):
My husband showed out every night, and she finally said
something to me about it. She asked if I enjoyed
it as much as my husband did. I blushed and
I could not believe. My mom asked me that I
can't get my husband to be quiet or stay in
one room. He wakes our sons up sometimes because he
yells or moans the whole time. He overdoes it every time.
(01:31):
His reactions are better than any gift he could ever
give me. He always thanks me over and over and
calls me his queen. My two aunts think it is unnatural,
and I can't tell them if they're both haters, or
I can't tell if they're both haters, or if there
might be really something wrong with my husband. I wouldn't
(01:52):
consider him a sex addict, but there are times when
he will not take no for an answer. As we
get older, I wonder if I will be able to
keep up with him because he does not believe in quickies.
Is it cool to still be that loud and wild
during intimacy after sixteen years of marriage? Well to that,
I have to say, girl, yes, you know that depends
(02:14):
on you too. I just say, please don't listen to
those haters. Enjoy your life. Okay, there's nothing wrong with
your husband except he has a very high libido. You
guys are only forty eight, you're grown, and the kids
are not babies anymore. Although I don't think he should
be waking them up at night with all of that.
(02:34):
Could he be more quiet? He could probably take it
down and not your two. But it is his house
and he's free to do what he wants. The question
is why are your aunties all up in your business?
And how does everyone in your family know what's going
on in your house?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Is it your mom telling them? I mean who's telling them?
Speaker 1 (02:53):
You?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Are you telling them? They're all too nosy?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
You yourself said his reactions are the greatest gifts he
could ever give you. So if you're not doing anything
that makes you feel uncomfortable, if it's painful in any way,
and he won't stop or something like that, then I
would say that would be a problem. You seem happy
to me, So, like I said earlier, enjoy your life, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
You know.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
What, too much?
Speaker 4 (03:26):
It's too much. Go sit down somewhere. Wait a minute,
stop it. I don't feel like it. Not tonight.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You just had some.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
What you won't now, don't touch me. I'm over this.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
What's the matter with you?
Speaker 4 (03:56):
What in here? Child's be quiet? These kids get away
from that job. We all right, I'm just.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
I am. I'm fine.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
Get waiting the door now, Charles Jr.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Child Jr.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
The second, Get wait. I'm in here with your mama.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
A ah, heart is good. I ain't never had nothing
like this, hear me.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Now tell the neighbors, tell him.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
I'll be at the minute.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
Girl, I don't want to put the fill over my mouth,
Charley said, my house, I do what I want. This
letter crazy, This letter is crazy, she said, both of them.
For the the one thing about my husband. He gonna
have some kind of intimacy every night of the week,
(05:10):
Shirley said, girl, ignored them. Going to enjoy your life?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
How this every night? This is every night.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
I stopped fighting when I met him. We had sex
on our first date and we've been together since. It's
what made us closer. You can't get no closer if
y'all always being intimate. You were as close as you
(05:44):
can get. When I had my first child, he got
jealous and it killed him to wait until my body
was ready for sex again.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
What y'all to say't what you mean? How this normal?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Everybody in our families know how spicy we are, and
this will run a joke. Your mama stayed with you
for a week after you gave birth to the second boy.
My husband showed out every night, every night after the
boy was borned finally your mama saying something. Ask you
if I enjoyed it as much as my husband did.
(06:23):
Because he in that jet clown, he don't care who
in the house. This ain't normal. We come back, I'll tell.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
You the rest. I just.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
All right. We'll have her too. Of Steve's response after
the hour, A ya ya ya ya.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Subject is if he's up, everybody needs what you doing
back into it right after this.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
You're listening hardy morning show.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Folks. There are a lot of reasons to like Hyundai.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Hyundai's done a lot to support American consumers. I mean,
they announced their investment of twenty one billion dollars in
the United States over the next three years that will
expand manufacturing and create more jobs for Americans. And they
just announced that they will not be raising MSRP through June.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Second no matter what.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Call five six y two three one four four six
zero three for more details. All right, come on, Steve,
Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is if He's up,
everybody needs to be up.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
This is about a letter about a man that has
to have intimacy with his wife after sixteen years of
marriaging two children. They have to have some form of
intimacy every single night of the week. I'm saying, this
ain't natural. Shirley said, go and enjoy your life.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
How you going to enjoy your night every night?
Speaker 3 (08:00):
It's not natural for who?
Speaker 4 (08:03):
It ain't natural for most people. This is abnormal. And
you what you gonna do is quit acting like it
is natural.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
That's what it is.
Speaker 4 (08:12):
That's what you gonna do. You gonna stop acting like
it's natural because it ain't. But she is complaining, you
just don't hear it.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
The line, the line that says, it's the great his
his reaction is the greatest gift he he overdoes it
every time. His reactions are better than any gift he
could ever give me.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
No, no, no, no.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
The line says, I stopped fighting it when I met him.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
They had the first night they're into.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
It and she stopped fighting it because it's how they
stay close. My husband showed out every night. He don't
keep quiet something he wake our sons up. My mama
stayed with me for a week and she couldn't believe it.
She asked me one day, do you just enjoy it
as much as he did? She come talking about I
(09:11):
couldn't believe. My mama asked me that I can't listen
to this shirt. I can't get my husband to be
quiet or stay in one room. There is some turmoil
going on in this house, all this holland he wakes
up our sons sometimes because he yells or moans the
(09:34):
whole time. Next line that says there's a problem. He
overdes it every time. This is a cry for help,
but she trying to mask it his reactions. Then she
goes his reactions are better than any gift he could
ever give. He always thanks me over and over and
(09:56):
calls me his queen. My two aunts think it's unnatural,
and I can't tell if they both hate us or
if there might be something really wrong with my husband.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Both of them statements is true.
Speaker 4 (10:10):
Your aunts them them big wide helpless is up?
Speaker 2 (10:13):
They hate us, ain't.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
Nobody moaned and hollered on them in a while, so
they hate me now.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
The next line says, or.
Speaker 4 (10:24):
If there might be something really wrong with my husband,
it is, it is, but.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
It's it's every day.
Speaker 4 (10:32):
Though. Listen, surely, surely, too much water ain't good for you.
If you too much of anything in excess, it's not
good for you.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
You're taking away the specialty of it.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
We already with the anniversary Mother's Day date night don't
mean nothing because every night.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Now, let me explain something to you that you don't know.
Speaker 4 (11:06):
Shit. Okay, in a man's body, he's able to produce
x amount of monumental moments.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Let's just say that for okay, all right, a man.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
Can only produce x amount of monumental moments.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
And now you're getting clinical.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Go ahead.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
The gun is now gonna fire. After you've used up
your bullets, you have to reload. That's gonna come shortly
for him.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
He forty eight.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
Now I'm predicting at this pace, he got about another
three years of every day.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
Okay, then he'll slow down. Okay, that's fair.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
He gonna slow wade own.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Should he gonna be out of bullets, he gonna have
to go get the manufacturing chamber for the bullets repaired,
because he's done extreme damage.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
To hisself the same medicine. Should it be something else, now,
let me.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
Tell you this, Okay, if there might be something wrong
with him, I wouldn't consider him a sex at it.
But there are times when he will not take no
for an answer. We are constantly talking about on this
show somebody not being able to take no for an answer.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Uh huh. We're gonna deal with one of these stories
this week in the news.
Speaker 4 (12:51):
I would assume now if you that's a problem, if
he can't take no for an answer, because it has
to happen every night.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
According to this letter, Now there is a problem.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Make him make up your mind.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
No, I did say if it's uncomfortable.
Speaker 4 (13:09):
Or I told you it was a problem at the
beginning of this letter.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
She now took you to just now to admit.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
No, that's not true.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I said it in my response if it's uncomfortable for her.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
As we get all, I wonder if I will be
able to keep up with him.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
You ain't gonna have to wear about it, so he
ain't gonna be able to keep up.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Listen post you're coming before solved.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Us in a minute, and you ain't gonna have to
wear about it.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
At Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app
Free Never Sounded So Good. You can download it. Today
you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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