April 16, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter for Wednesday, April, 16th, 2025: "My Husband's Ex Wife Stayed With Us"
A woman writes in for advice after a wild night in her home with her husband...and his ex wife.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is a strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Let us thank you if you subject to my husband's
ex wife stayed with us. My husband's ex wife stayed
with us. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in a situation
with my husband and his ex wife. She came to
bring their kids for the weekend and we had bad
weather and tornado warnings. My husband and I had prepared
(00:47):
for the storm and he warned his ex wife that
the weather was going to be bad, but she drove
to bring the kids. Anyway, this big tree fell on
our street after she got there, so she was stuck
at our house. He was told it could take up
to two days to get the tree moved. We didn't
have electricity, so their kids asked to sleep in our
(01:07):
suv in the garage so they could watch movies on
an iPad. My husband poured us up some wine so
we could make the best of a bad situation. I've
always been cool with his ex wife, and I didn't
mind her staying. I made sure she was comfortable in
our house. We had wine and cheese and play cards
cards by candlelight. We were all tipsy and decided to
(01:30):
turn things up a notch and play never have I ever.
The more we drank, the sexier the game got. I
ended up having to fondle his ex and she ended
up giving me a lap dance. My husband orchestrated the
whole thing, and he was enjoying it. He suggested, Oh,
he suggested we all sleep together to get warm, and
(01:52):
I wanted to say no, but I also wanted to
see what his ex wife had to offer. I don't
remember everything we did that night because I was drunk.
There was a lot of tension. The next morning, she
went to our guest room and didn't come out all day.
I took her food and I tried to talk through
(02:13):
what happened, but she would not look at me in
my eyes. My husband has apologized to both of us,
But it's still awkward when we see her. Should we
all go talk to someone?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Okay, what.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Did you say? You wanted to see what his ex
wife had to offer? Did you say that out of
your mouth meaning sexually? It had to be right after
you blacked out. It must have been then, from when
you blacked out from drinking. Because this is the craziest
thing I've ever heard. This is the craziest thing I've
ever heard. Now, you want to know what happened because
(02:53):
you were too drunk and you can't remember, But your
husband and the ex haven't said a thing because they
had sex or you all had a threesome. I mean,
that's what I think. Because ex wife, he can't even
look at you right now. She's ashamed of something that
happened that night. Your husband did apologize, but what does
(03:14):
that matter. I mean, it all went down and you
were a participant, drunk or not. The best thing for you,
guys to do is to get the ex out of
your house. I'm glad you guys do that. Get her
out as soon as possible, no more drinking or the
three of you together, and just put this wild night
behind you. You gotta put it behind you steve that issue.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
First of all, after this whole letter was read, this
lady said, should we all go to talk to someone?
I can't believe you told us who you're finna go
tell this to all. Y'all gonna go talk. It's so
much be s in this letter, y'all. Okay, the whole
(04:04):
story came about when she brought the kids over, but
it was bad. Whether her husband called and told it
was bad weather, she brought the kids his ex bought
the kids. Anyway, a storm hit when she got at
the house. The weather was bad, a tree fell. They
said it'd be two days before they can get the
tree out. They ain't got no electricity. The husband and
(04:27):
his ex wife kids wanted to sleep in the suv
so they could watch movies on the iPads, So y'all
put them out there. Y'all inside playing cards by candlelight.
Because you've always gotten along with the ex wife. Well,
according to this letter, you've always been more than just
(04:47):
getting along with.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Yeah, you been hind.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Y'all playing cards and drinking wine and getting tipsy. And
as the night wore on, the game got sexy. Y'all
decided to play. Never have I ever I don't know
what that is, but it sounded like something to pop
off that ain't ever happened before.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You know, it's when you ask questions and you say,
never have I ever had a threesome? And then you
have to drink or whatever. It's like that, never have
I ever done whatever? Whatever you've done it, you drink.
If you haven't, you passed like that?
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Okay, a drinking truth or damn like truth or dear okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
The more we drank, the sexy the game guy. I
ended up having to fondle his ex h and she
ended up giving me a lap dance.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Oh oh ooh ooh, Now I see what's happening.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
My husband orchestrated the whole thing. He wasn't joining it.
Then he's suggestion we all sleep together and some you
got to go through this letter because nothing matters until
I get to the park where she say this, look nothing,
it mul sleepy.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
She suggested that they sleep together to keep waring.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I wanted to say no, but I also wanted to
see what his.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Ex wife had to offer.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
That's cause you were following them lap dancing, touch.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
It on them, and I know the husband got like
both of y'all.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Yeah, hang on, hang on, Steve, hang on nothing. We'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after today's strawberry letter subject my husband's ex
wife stayed with us. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. There was
(06:58):
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of all employers plan to hire for twenty twenty five
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(07:21):
Slash strawberry at ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry. All right,
come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject
to my husband's ex wife stayed with us?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Okay, ex wife bringing the kids over for his visitation. Yeah,
it's bad. Whether he tell her don't come, she came anyway.
While she was there, the weather got banned, a tree
fail in the street, and I guess they live in
a cul de sac on daddy in one way and
she couldn't get out. They said it gonna be two
days for the tree got moved. House didn't had no electricity.
(07:56):
Kids asked, could they sleep in the car so they
can watch movies on our y'all send his kids out there.
Obviously y'all don't have kids yourself, So y'all send his
kids out there after watching movies. Y'all ain't got any electricity.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Y'all need that. Playing cards and drinking.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Yeah, the more you drinking, the more you played the
section you got up in there, so y'all stopped playing
the game called never have I ever? Y'all ended up
your husband orchestrated the whole thing. You ended up fondling her,
and she ended up giving you a lap dance. Your
(08:34):
husband was just enjoying. Then he suggested my man that
we all sleep together to stay warm. What And I
wanted to say no, but I also wanted to see what.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
She had to offer. Okay, okay, got that.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
And these are legal terms now because I've taken that
HR course and I know now the pronouns.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Steve, can we just back up a second? How did
his husband? How did her husband say that? Though he
know what have you ever?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Never? Have you ever? Have you ever been with another woman?
Speaker 3 (09:17):
Yeah? No, I haven't, Yes you have, But if you
was with what would you do? Okay, didn't fondle her?
See what they feel like? Now you give her a
lap dance. Now he's sitting there with his wife jes.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Now he liked both of them because he didn't been
married to both of 'em, and he didne had both
of them. So this is all fantasizing for him. But
now he suggested y'all sleep together. I want to say no,
but I also wanted to see what his wife was
working with. Now Here, here's the part of the letter
I gotta get to. This is what they're telling me.
(09:59):
I don't remember everything we did that night because I
was drunk. You are, y'all was drinking wine.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Y'all wasn't drinking that hard stuff. This wine.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Now you can get drunk drinking wine. I know that,
but it's a different kind of Henderson drunk and Crown drunk.
Ian j drunk, different from wine drunk.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
He says, doesn't drink.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
I don't, Yeah, and I don't drink, but I do
or I've been around enough people who do here's a difference.
I tell you that the the person that drank wine
and get drunk way different to the one that's in
there uh pouring down hard liquor. It's a different. I
don't remember everything we did that night because I was drunk. Ladies,
(10:50):
shut up, and that was a lot of tension the
next morning, tension.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
She went to guess room. It didn't come out all day.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I took her food and I tried to talk through
what happened, but she wouldn't look me in my eyes.
Are you and her with clown? You and her was clowning?
And he was too. You think he was orchestrating it.
While y'all was in that card game when y'all got
in that bed, he was in there in a director's
(11:23):
chair with a with a town on it. He had
on a town with a with a megaphone saying this
is same truth, act one and action. Are y'all was
in there and he was over there, good lord of murder.
And it went down. And you don't remember everything we did, lady,
(11:43):
Yes you do, and she do too. That's why she
went in that room and can't believe what she did.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
And the kids is in here talking because they they
want some neat.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
So now she in here trying to cook you and
it trying to talk about what happened. Your husband apologized
the boy. I don't know what I think about you know,
you know, baby, it was just it was just so crazy.
I was in you know, all this are causing Neo.
I was just sitting up a Neil. I was doing fine,
and here come Neo with his old crazy life. And
(12:18):
I was drinking and then I and then I said,
never have I ever been Neo?
Speaker 2 (12:23):
And I said huh uh, And I said, but tonight,
I'm is. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Yeah, it's just Neo fault.
Heap it in him and had to Neo got folk.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Blaming on Neil, blame.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
It on it. J Jamie Fox said, where Kanye, right,
it's still awkward when we see each other. Yeah, when
y'all done something, well, you can't look at each other
no more. It got wild up in there. Everybody was everybody. Okay,
(13:07):
I'm just telling you. That's all I'm saying about it.
It was a lot of bad night. I'm telling you
right now, all right. Because the last time you looked up,
she was looking back at you. That's the last time
y'all made our contract.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Leave your comments onto this.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Should we all go talk to somebody? I can't believe
you told up? Don't go talk to nobody.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Leave your comments on Today's letter on Instagram and Facebook
at Steve Harvey FM, and check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next to
his Junior and Sports.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
One of them kids came out that garage and knocked
on that door. That's why ain't nobody talking.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning
Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is a strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Let us thank you if you subject to my husband's
ex wife stayed with us. My husband's ex wife stayed
with us. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in a situation
with my husband and his ex wife. She came to
bring their kids for the weekend and we had bad
weather and tornado warnings. My husband and I had prepared
(00:47):
for the storm and he warned his ex wife that
the weather was going to be bad, but she drove
to bring the kids. Anyway, this big tree fell on
our street after she got there, so she was stuck
at our house. He was told it could take up
to two days to get the tree moved. We didn't
have electricity, so their kids asked to sleep in our
(01:07):
suv in the garage so they could watch movies on
an iPad. My husband poured us up some wine so
we could make the best of a bad situation. I've
always been cool with his ex wife, and I didn't
mind her staying. I made sure she was comfortable in
our house. We had wine and cheese and play cards
cards by candlelight. We were all tipsy and decided to
(01:30):
turn things up a notch and play never have I ever.
The more we drank, the sexier the game got. I
ended up having to fondle his ex and she ended
up giving me a lap dance. My husband orchestrated the
whole thing, and he was enjoying it. He suggested, Oh,
he suggested we all sleep together to get warm, and
(01:52):
I wanted to say no, but I also wanted to
see what his ex wife had to offer. I don't
remember everything we did that night because I was drunk.
There was a lot of tension. The next morning, she
went to our guest room and didn't come out all day.
I took her food and I tried to talk through
(02:13):
what happened, but she would not look at me in
my eyes. My husband has apologized to both of us,
But it's still awkward when we see her. Should we
all go talk to someone?
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Okay, what.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Did you say? You wanted to see what his ex
wife had to offer? Did you say that out of
your mouth meaning sexually? It had to be right after
you blacked out. It must have been then, from when
you blacked out from drinking. Because this is the craziest
thing I've ever heard. This is the craziest thing I've
ever heard. Now, you want to know what happened because
(02:53):
you were too drunk and you can't remember, But your
husband and the ex haven't said a thing because they
had sex or you all had a threesome. I mean,
that's what I think. Because ex wife, he can't even
look at you right now. She's ashamed of something that
happened that night. Your husband did apologize, but what does
(03:14):
that matter. I mean, it all went down and you
were a participant, drunk or not. The best thing for you,
guys to do is to get the ex out of
your house. I'm glad you guys do that. Get her
out as soon as possible, no more drinking or the
three of you together, and just put this wild night
behind you. You gotta put it behind you steve that issue.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
First of all, after this whole letter was read, this
lady said, should we all go to talk to someone?
I can't believe you told us who you're finna go
tell this to all. Y'all gonna go talk. It's so
much be s in this letter, y'all. Okay, the whole
(04:04):
story came about when she brought the kids over, but
it was bad. Whether her husband called and told it
was bad weather, she brought the kids his ex bought
the kids. Anyway, a storm hit when she got at
the house. The weather was bad, a tree fell. They
said it'd be two days before they can get the
tree out. They ain't got no electricity. The husband and
(04:27):
his ex wife kids wanted to sleep in the suv
so they could watch movies on the iPads, So y'all
put them out there. Y'all inside playing cards by candlelight.
Because you've always gotten along with the ex wife. Well,
according to this letter, you've always been more than just
(04:47):
getting along with.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Yeah, you been hind.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Y'all playing cards and drinking wine and getting tipsy. And
as the night wore on, the game got sexy. Y'all
decided to play. Never have I ever I don't know
what that is, but it sounded like something to pop
off that ain't ever happened before.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You know, it's when you ask questions and you say,
never have I ever had a threesome? And then you
have to drink or whatever. It's like that, never have
I ever done whatever? Whatever you've done it, you drink.
If you haven't, you passed like that?
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Okay, a drinking truth or damn like truth or dear okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
The more we drank, the sexy the game guy. I
ended up having to fondle his ex h and she
ended up giving me a lap dance.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Oh oh ooh ooh, Now I see what's happening.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
My husband orchestrated the whole thing. He wasn't joining it.
Then he's suggestion we all sleep together and some you
got to go through this letter because nothing matters until
I get to the park where she say this, look nothing,
it mul sleepy.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
She suggested that they sleep together to keep waring.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
I wanted to say no, but I also wanted to
see what his.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Ex wife had to offer.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
That's cause you were following them lap dancing, touch.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
It on them, and I know the husband got like
both of y'all.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Yeah, hang on, hang on, Steve, hang on nothing. We'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after today's strawberry letter subject my husband's ex
wife stayed with us. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. There was
(06:58):
a reason zip recruiter survey that says seventy six percent
of all employers plan to hire for twenty twenty five
this year. And if you're hiring, at zip Recruiter's latest feature,
zip Intro to your plan. It's easy. You just pick
a time and zip Intro finds and schedules qualified candidates
for you. Try it for free at ZipRecruiter dot com.
(07:21):
Slash strawberry at ZipRecruiter dot com slash strawberry. All right,
come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject
to my husband's ex wife stayed with us?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Okay, ex wife bringing the kids over for his visitation. Yeah,
it's bad. Whether he tell her don't come, she came anyway.
While she was there, the weather got banned, a tree
fail in the street, and I guess they live in
a cul de sac on daddy in one way and
she couldn't get out. They said it gonna be two
days for the tree got moved. House didn't had no electricity.
(07:56):
Kids asked, could they sleep in the car so they
can watch movies on our y'all send his kids out there.
Obviously y'all don't have kids yourself, So y'all send his
kids out there after watching movies. Y'all ain't got any electricity.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Y'all need that. Playing cards and drinking.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Yeah, the more you drinking, the more you played the
section you got up in there, so y'all stopped playing
the game called never have I ever? Y'all ended up
your husband orchestrated the whole thing. You ended up fondling her,
and she ended up giving you a lap dance. Your
(08:34):
husband was just enjoying. Then he suggested my man that
we all sleep together to stay warm. What And I
wanted to say no, but I also wanted to see what.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
She had to offer. Okay, okay, got that.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
And these are legal terms now because I've taken that
HR course and I know now the pronouns.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Steve, can we just back up a second? How did
his husband? How did her husband say that? Though he
know what have you ever?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Never? Have you ever? Have you ever been with another woman?
Speaker 3 (09:17):
Yeah? No, I haven't, Yes you have, But if you
was with what would you do? Okay, didn't fondle her?
See what they feel like? Now you give her a
lap dance. Now he's sitting there with his wife jes.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Now he liked both of them because he didn't been
married to both of 'em, and he didne had both
of them. So this is all fantasizing for him. But
now he suggested y'all sleep together. I want to say no,
but I also wanted to see what his wife was
working with. Now Here, here's the part of the letter
I gotta get to. This is what they're telling me.
(09:59):
I don't remember everything we did that night because I
was drunk. You are, y'all was drinking wine.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Y'all wasn't drinking that hard stuff. This wine.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
Now you can get drunk drinking wine. I know that,
but it's a different kind of Henderson drunk and Crown drunk.
Ian j drunk, different from wine drunk.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
He says, doesn't drink.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
I don't, Yeah, and I don't drink, but I do
or I've been around enough people who do here's a difference.
I tell you that the the person that drank wine
and get drunk way different to the one that's in
there uh pouring down hard liquor. It's a different. I
don't remember everything we did that night because I was drunk. Ladies,
(10:50):
shut up, and that was a lot of tension the
next morning, tension.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
She went to guess room. It didn't come out all day.
Speaker 3 (11:02):
I took her food and I tried to talk through
what happened, but she wouldn't look me in my eyes.
Are you and her with clown? You and her was clowning?
And he was too. You think he was orchestrating it.
While y'all was in that card game when y'all got
in that bed, he was in there in a director's
(11:23):
chair with a with a town on it. He had
on a town with a with a megaphone saying this
is same truth, act one and action. Are y'all was
in there and he was over there, good lord of murder.
And it went down. And you don't remember everything we did, lady,
(11:43):
Yes you do, and she do too. That's why she
went in that room and can't believe what she did.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
And the kids is in here talking because they they
want some neat.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
So now she in here trying to cook you and
it trying to talk about what happened. Your husband apologized
the boy. I don't know what I think about you know,
you know, baby, it was just it was just so crazy.
I was in you know, all this are causing Neo.
I was just sitting up a Neil. I was doing fine,
and here come Neo with his old crazy life. And
(12:18):
I was drinking and then I and then I said,
never have I ever been Neo?
Speaker 2 (12:23):
And I said huh uh, And I said, but tonight,
I'm is. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Yeah, it's just Neo fault.
Heap it in him and had to Neo got folk.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Blaming on Neil, blame.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
It on it. J Jamie Fox said, where Kanye, right,
it's still awkward when we see each other. Yeah, when
y'all done something, well, you can't look at each other
no more. It got wild up in there. Everybody was everybody. Okay,
(13:07):
I'm just telling you. That's all I'm saying about it.
It was a lot of bad night. I'm telling you
right now, all right. Because the last time you looked up,
she was looking back at you. That's the last time
y'all made our contract.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Leave your comments onto this.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Should we all go talk to somebody? I can't believe
you told up? Don't go talk to nobody.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Leave your comments on Today's letter on Instagram and Facebook
at Steve Harvey FM, and check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Coming up next to
his Junior and Sports.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
One of them kids came out that garage and knocked
on that door. That's why ain't nobody talking.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning
Show
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