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Subject Something seems fishy here, Dear Stephen Shirley. I rushed
into a relationship and I thought I was in love.
My boyfriend moved in with me after we date it
for two months, and I got pregnant four months later.
He wanted us to get married, but I couldn't do
that until I lost my baby. Wait, I ended up
having a second child, so I kept postponing our wedding.
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Now that our kids are two and four, my boyfriend
doesn't mention marriage all. He says his money is tight
and he's focused on getting his hustle, his side hustle going.
He told me that he wants to get a salon
suite to do tattoos. He hasn't done tattoos in years,
but he feels like it would bring in a lot
of money. So he's been going out every night of
the week and saying that he's going to find customers.
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He'll stay out all night sometimes, and his excuse is
that he does not want to wake the children by
coming in late. Their bedroom is right by the back door.
But that's a very bad excuse. This weekend, he stayed
out again and came home at seven am Sunday morning.
He went straight to the shower. I asked him to
please take his shower at his girlfriend's house before he
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comes home. That caused a big argument, and he told
me to get dressed and get the kids dressed. He
took us to the bad part of town to show
me an old gas station that he had been renovating.
He said it was going to be his tattoo shop.
There was an old sofa and a microwave in the back,
and he expected me to believe that's where he sleeps
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when he stays out. This is where all of his
money has been going, and he didn't even tell me
about it. I feel like he has plans to out
move on without me and the kids. He still hasn't
told me why he doesn't come home some nights. Would
I be foolish to keep dating this man after all
of this? I think, yeah, you would be foolish to
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keep dating him, But not for the reason you think.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
It's way past time for a commitment between the two
of you.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
You've moved fast in the beginning.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
You said you rushed into this relationship, and now two
kids later, because you didn't lose your baby weight, you
didn't want to marry him, so he stopped asking. But
if you're still living together and having sex with our
protection like before, guess what, baby number three can't be
far behind.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Huh. But I do agree with you.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
A man shouldn't be spending the night out and coming
in at all times at all kinds of crazy hours
and all of that.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
But he did take you to the place. He showed
you what he's been up to.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
He said he's been working on his future, and it
looks like that's what he's been doing. He's been renovating
his business. He told you he wanted to open a
tattoo shop. That was his side hustle, so and he
could make a lot of money with that, so I'm sorry,
but it doesn't feel to me like he's cheating. I
don't know. He might be, but I don't think he is.
You never once mentioned that he's ever stepped out on you.
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So I say to you, worry about yourself. Now, you
got to stop putting it off. Start your self care
routine right now, get your extra weight off, get your
self esteem back, and begin feeling better about you.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
This is not about him.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
He says he's doing something for the family, and he
took you and the kids to see it.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
Steve, something seems fishy here, No, it doesn't. I see
exactly what's going on in this letter. You typed it.
I'm gonna read it to you. You tell me if
you don't see what I see. I rushed into a relationship,
and I thought I was in love. Okay, right there,
rushed into a relationship. I thought you was in love.
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So now that's doubt. My boyfriend moved in with me
after we dated for two months. Who rolling kind of fast.
I got pregnant four months later.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
That's six months.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
He wanted us to get married, but I couldn't do
that until I lost my baby. Wait, okay, I ended
up having a second child, so I kept postponing our wedding.
Now the kids are two and four. My boyfriend doesn't
mention marriage. Now let's stop right here, because this is
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what this whole letter is about.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
And I figured it out.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
You said he wanted to get married after your first baby,
but you couldn't do that because you didn't want to
get married until you lost your baby, because you gotta
take pictures in everything, right. Well, then you mess around,
your had baby number two and I ended up having
a second child, so I kept postponing I wedded.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Yeah you did, this is all you.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Now the kids are two and four, and my boyfriend
don't mention marriage. Well, you know why he don't mention
marriage because you told him before you wasn't getting married
until you lost the baby weight from the first baby.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
Then you had baby number two.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Now the reason he don't mention marriage is because you
ain't gonna get married because you still got some more
baby weight. Now you got baby weight number one and
two on you, and so he hasn't mentioned marriage because
you said you're not gonna get married until you lose
the baby weight. So now with two children, that's why
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he don't ask you no more now. He says money's
tight and he's focused on getting in side hustle. Going
told me you want to get a salon sweet to
do tattoos. He hasn't done tattoos in years, but he
feels like it would bring in a lot of money. Okay,
sounds like a plan. So he's been going out every
night of the week and saying that he's going to
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find customer. That's when a lot of people get tattoos
at the club clothes because they drunk.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Okay, so he that was his plan.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
He'll stay out all night sometime and his excuse is
that he don't want to wake the children by coming
he early.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
God d you can say that, hey, I ain't never
used that one.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Hang on, Steven, I love these.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
I ain't never used that one. I ain't never used.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
That's well.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
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All right, come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is something seems fishy here.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
Well, this couple met and they rushed into a relationship,
according to the lady that wrote the letter, and she
thought she was in love.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
They moved in with each other after they dated.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
For two months, and then he wanted us to get married.
But I couldn't do that until I lost my baby weight.
But then messed around and had another baby. So and
now she kept postponing the wedding because of the baby weight.
Now the boyfriend don't mention marriage no more. You know
why he don't mention it because of the baby. Wait,
he know you ain't gonna get married no way. Now
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you got double baby weight on you. You got baby
woe and baby two. Now that's a real issue because
when women gave the children, they gain weight. That's that's real,
and then they got the hormone in balance. It is real.
What they go through is real. Okay, So now, yeah,
but he's telling you that the money tight. He trying
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to get a side hustle going. He won't open up
a salon to do tattoos. But you say, he ain't
done tattoos in years. So he's been going out every
night of the week saying he's going to find customers.
Speaker 3 (08:40):
He'll stay out all night sometime.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
And his excuse he is he don't want to wake
the children by coming in late because their bathroom, their
bedroom is right by the back door.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
That's a very bad You know, you can open that
door quiet. Kids don't wait coming.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
Kids sleep hard as hell, especially they feel safe. That
ain't even the problem. Who at the back door? Their
mom and daddy problem. I was I can't go answer
the door, not way, so I got to lay here.
I was told you don't gonna answer that door. I
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got the beating my life opening the door one time
on a Saturday morning, open the door for the Jehovah
witnesses I opened and let them in here, let them
all the way in that house. They was in the
living little god.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Watching. Yeah, I was just thinking about that time. Open
that door.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
Man.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
They got all the way up, invited the me in,
asked them they want some water and everything. Boy, my
mama came around the corner. My mama came around the corner.
Ball so they watchtowner standing. They got her back to
the letter anyway, so I couldn't have answered that don't
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know boy. Anyway, this weekend he stayed out again. He
came in at seven am on Sunday morning and went.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Straight to the shower.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
I asked him, please take this shot his girlfriend's house
before he come home. Oh, that started a big argument.
He told me, get dressed, get the kids dressed. He
took us to the bad part of town to show
me an old gas station that he had been renovated.
He said it was going to be his tattoo shot.
That was an old sofa microwave in the back, and
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he expected me to believe that that's where he sleeps
when he stays out.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
My man come through. Boy, what that was? That's that's
some good thinking right there. And they had a microwave
and a couch. Whoa that was a good boy, But
no pillar and no blanket. Hard to sleep without a blanket?
Speaker 4 (10:55):
It really is man Some about a blanket that makes
sleep better even in the summer time. Anyway, that and
this is where all his money has been going, and
he didn't even tell me about it. I feel like
he has plans to move on without me and the kids.
He still hasn't told me why he doesn't come home
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some nights. Should I be foolish to keep dating this
man after all of this? Well, first of all, let
me clarify a couple things for y'all. Ain't dating. Y'all
live together. Y'all don't just live together. Y'all are family.
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So all this would I be foolish to.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
Keep dating this man? Dating is man?
Speaker 4 (11:43):
He the father your children? What you're talking about? Do
you know how far up the roads y'all are right now?
And you're gonna break it back down to just dayton.
And he still ain't told me why he don't come
home some night. Wait a minute, lady, you waiting on
a man to walk in the house and really tell
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you why he stay out at night? You know why
he stay out? At night because that because ain't no consequences.
There's none because he's done it more than once and
there are no consequences. See, I can't stay out all
night because I already know when I come in there's
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gonna be some consequences.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Well, I'm gonna know that long before that, because.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
That phone, that phone gonna be off the hook. If
I was up to something, I wouldn't be able to
enjoy myself. My phone be on constant rain.
Speaker 5 (12:48):
As we lay oh now Sureley Burdock, as we.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
Forgot about the price we had to pay.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Ah, the gospel version.
Speaker 4 (13:14):
As a lay here and the song comes through the window, My.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
Explode.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
You're coming.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
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