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Speaker 1 (00:23):
Thank you for you. Subject the child won't understand this.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a thirty four year old
single mother. I have had the same best friend for
twenty years and she is my daughter's godmother. My daughter's
father died when she was two years old, and my
best friend said she would always be there for my child. Well,
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she has not kept her promise. My daughter is seven
years old now and she has a spicy personality and
behavioral problems. She acts out when she's upset, and she
has a problem with being disrespectful to adult. I have
tried everything to discipline her, but nothing has worked. This
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past Saturday, her godmother took her to a birthday party
for me so I could rest and nurse a cold
within thirty minutes of leaving, my child walked back in
yelled at the top of her lungs at her godmother.
The godmother said that as soon as she got to
the party, this child of mine insulted the birthday girl
and told her that her hair was a mess, her
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party decorations were terrible, and her house was stinky. My
best friend said she was so embarrassed she drugged my
daughter out of the party, kicking and screaming. I know
my friend was very upset, but I thought as an adult,
she should have handled it. A few hours later, I
called my best friend to see if she cooled off.
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She said she wasn't mad, but she is done with
my daughter for good. She denounced her title as the
godmother of my child. I didn't even know you could
do that. She doesn't want my child to fear with
our friendship. I'm like, what, who does that? I tried
reasoning with her, but she kept saying that she's not
changing her mind. It's going to devastate my child because
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she loves her godmother. So how will I tell my
child that her godmother quit her I'm so upset? Well,
I mean, really, can you blame her? Though? I mean,
no one likes a bad but child, just no one
likes bad they they's type kids. No one likes them
but their parents. Sorry, and you're her mom, so you know.
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I mean, truth be told, her godmother might come back
if little god daughter, you know, is better behaved. But
I just got to ask, where is she getting this attitude?
I mean, at seven years old, what kind of little
friends does she have? She's disrespectful as she showed at
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the party. She's unruly, she's way too grown. She's just
a bad little kid. I mean, what is wrong are
you doing your part as mom? You as her mother? Okay,
as her mother, I think you got to know that
this is more than what you call a spicy personality.
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I think you're overlooking this whole thing because she's your daughter.
I think you just can't wait for the godmother to
godmother to come over and discipline your child. The stuff
that your godmother does every once in a while, every
now and then, that's not going to stick. That's not
going to stay with your child. It really isn't, you know.
And she could very well be through with your daughter
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because your daughter did act up. The question is why
is she doing all this? And if it's going to
devastate your child so much because she loves her godmother,
maybe you know that would reel your daughter in and
make her behave better. But I think the best thing
to do is to get your daughter into some kind
of therapy right away. I know people will disagree with me.
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Some are just going to say you should whoop her
a little behind. I know people are gonna say that,
but I mean, she's only seven. She's only seven.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
You ain't get your.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
He needs it, that fool. But anyway, that's what I
think about this, because you know she suffered major laws.
I mean, even though she was only two years old.
You're a single mom. There is no man in the home.
She could just be acting out. So get her into
some therapy. Okay, Steve plause please?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Uncle? Oh I thought you had more? Oh okay, okay,
uh fairby.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Red, Yes, sir, you were ready.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
You're a thirty four year old single mother. You got
this best friend you didn't had for twenty years. She's
your daughter's god mother. That's a given title. That's just
you know, you know, when you somebody god mother, god father,
that's just a title. You ain't really supposed to do nothing,
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not really, not really really, doll, this is just.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You know, really supposed to do nothing.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
That's your god mother, that's your god cousin, that's your
god brother.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, you ain't really supposed to do nothing.
All right.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
She said her father died when she was two, and
your best friend said she'd always be there for your child.
Everybody say that. Don't nobody mean that. That's just don't
be real. Who mean that I'll always be there for
your child? That means I'll always know them? Her name Brenda, yes,
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brendaag but Sheikha yes, but Sheika. Well she has not
kept her promise. My daughter is seven years old now.
She has a spicy personality and behavior problem.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Pump your brakes right there.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Seven year old with a spicy personality, behavioral problems. You
know what that means? This little heath of crazy. Famn
your old lord heath for crazy. Nin't old Steve nothing.
She acts out when she's upset, and here go to
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big Wood. She got a problem with being disrespectful to adults.
You know why because she's been allowed. Hello, now when
I come back, you come to truth.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
All right, all right, we're gonna have part two of
Steve's response coming up at twenty three after the hour.
Subject of today's strawberry letter, the child won't understand this.
We'll be back right after this.
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Speaker 2 (07:22):
All right, Steve, come.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
On, let's recap today's strawberry letters. Subject the child won't
understand this?
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Well, what thirty four year old lady got a free
ind being a free in twenty year got a little
girl The little girl father to die when she was two.
The lady that's been her free it is her god mother.
We've discussed this. That don't mean nothing. That title, that term,
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that's just a throwaway line. That's like, hey, happy New Year,
give it hi, your year go, we just got this
year outset.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
You're so wrong, ain't there on everybody? Happy New Year,
Happy New Year.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
It's just traditions, that tradition.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
I don't nobody really how are you today? Last? Like,
I give it.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
I really don't want to know how you do today.
I want you to say I'm fine. I don't want
to hear about your problems god mother, godfather, same thing.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
How you doing? How you feel today? We don't really
want to know that.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Now.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
She said she'd always be there for the little girl,
and she ain't kept a problem the little girls seven
years old. She got a spicy personality and behavior problems flash.
That means this little hef of crazy. She acts out
when she's upset. Oh okay, And she has a problem
with being disrespectful to adults. And you know why she
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has I'm being disrespectful to adults because she has been
allowed to be disrespectful to adults. It ain't been no
consequence I have tried everything to discipline in her, but
nothing has worked.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Oh no, you ain't. Oh no, yeah, ain't. You ain't
did everything. If you did everything, you wouldn't be writing
this letter.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
You've tried something, You ain't done everything.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
What is she trying?
Speaker 3 (09:27):
No time out that ain't work?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Told her she couldn't go outside. Don't nobody give it
about that? No more, that's true.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Go to your room.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Hell, that's where my computer. I'm good.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Cool, Yeah, yeah, I'm not gonna get you nothing for Christmas.
Have fuck out a whole year for you to change
your man. I've tried everything, but nothing has worked. You
ain't tried everything. But let's move on. This past Saturday,
her godmother took her to a birthday party for me.
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Now keep in mind who took her, now her godmother
to throw away title. Now, this ain't thing the mama
took of her grandmother. Her godmother took her this party
for me so I could rest and nurse a cold.
Thirty minutes after leaving, my child walked back in the house, yelling.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
At the top of her lungs at her god mother, you.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Don't bring me back to this party. I just went
to the party. How you gonna bring me back home.
You don't bring me back. Hold I bought you back
on because you can't drive you back in this house because.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
You don't know how to act. The godmother said.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
As soon as she got to the party, this child
of mine insult to the birthday girl, told her that
her hand was a mess, her party decoration was terrible,
and her house was stinking. We got to get this
half here, see, the godmother say, I got to get
this little ignorant helper out this woman house. Oh she
hid this and kill everybody in him. If wasn't a
little girl she was concerned about. It was the little
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girl who mama threw the party that didn't invited joke
daughter over to the house, that ain't bought a gift.
You know why, because she funky and she got a
bad attitude. So she just over there assulting some people's house.
So your best friend saying she was so embarrassed, she
drug her daughter out the party, kicking and screaming like
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she was supposed to be. Cause you know why, she
the godmother. She ain't got to invest no more of
her day in this little help your little girl crazy.
I know my friend was very upset. But I thought
as an adult, she could have handled it better. Oh
you're talking about handled it better to the little girl.
That's disrespectful to adults, right You thought she could have
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handled it better.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
I agree with you right there. I think she could
have handled it better too.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Think that I would have dead as soon as she
said something about the little girls messed up here, I'd
have missed her hair. Now you're both standing here with
your hair all over your head. How you like that?
And then I have said somebody addressed. I had to
threw punch on her dress. Now everybody outfit messed up
and out of stuffed to one of them balloons in
her little ragged ass mouth because she keeps running it.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
That's how i'd have hand it.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Oh, we just stayed at the party because I'm not
going to the party and don't get no cake, So
we're not leaving this party right here. I'm I like
going to kids party because kid party her good hate
because some of it they had a little crazy writing
on her, but it be red velvet on the inside.
So I don't know why you think we gonna leave
this party about this cake. I'd have beat your daughter
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and bought her back. But see, you know, watch she
don't beat your daughter because she just a god mother.
Now she with the grandmother. She brought your little baby
back home with a couple of wounds on that. But no,
she bought this little crazy helpa back. A few hours later,
I call my best friend to see if she cool off.
She says she wasn't mad, but she's done with my
daughter for good.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
I'm too. I don't won't be to god mother anyway.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
I ain't never gonna be godmother no way. But you
said you beat that for light. As far as I go,
I ain't beat that no more. I've been there for
twenty years. I ain't finn be that no more.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
I'm just a god MoMA. I ain't finna be it
no more.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
I will finish this letter when I come back, because
I got mold to say.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
I got more to say. Goota, all right?
Speaker 1 (13:27):
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Speaker 3 (14:29):
A letter of a seven year old that ain't got
no home training, behave no problems of funken attitude.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Win.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
Her god mother personality went and picked up to take
her to a party for her sick riend. Got to
the party. Now her friend wasn't really sick. Her friend
knew what was gonna happen at the god at the
party and decided she wasn't going over to the party.
Let me take somebody else to the party, take that
look crazy to have them go over here and show out.
And that's exactly what she did. Took her a little
crazy over there and insult to the girls. Ha talked
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about the decoration and everything. Now I can't get no cake.
I don't draw you way over here. Now we're back
at the house. The little girl coming to house, just
just just cussing everybody else because you know, when you
got a nasty child with that hairs of spicy personality
behavior problems, I ain't take unattractive children.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
I ain't they do. I don't care how cute the
baby is.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Once they got a sp spicy personality and behavior problem,
there are other little kids.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Then that's when you started finding something wrong.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
With the kids. You look just like your daddy. Yeah,
sitting up here, you letting up in here. You look
just like your grandmother capt for her e though she
took a little out of the house, insulting people like
she cute seven year old little hefel got behavior problems
in a spicy personality. You can beat spice out of
a child. You can kick the spice right out of
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eight Yeah, yeah, come on, you ain't got to have
behavior problem. I have no You should be quiet, Shirley.
You said up, you're talking about go to therapy. I
never went to that. I had a spicy personality and
I had behavioral problems, all of it at the same time.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Slick Harvey got rid of all of that.
Speaker 3 (16:14):
In eight n I no longer had a spicey almost
and I didn't have no behavior problems because my daddy,
Slick Carvey, we ain't had no money for therapy. You're
not going down now, laying on the white folk couch
with no legal pad sharing your problems. I'm gonna beat
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your until you straighten your stupid up.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Look at look at me.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
I had behavior problems. My aunt I studied. He beat
me till I started studying. Now saying she's done with
your daughter for good. She denounced her title as the
godmother my child because it ain't really no title.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
I ain't the god mother, no mom. Let's props. Glad
the Lord alone. Now we have the pod God.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
We'll be back with the Harvey Morning Show. You're listening
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