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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:27):
Letter subject this cannot be my life. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a thirty five year old female with a cute
face and a small waist. I haven't had any trouble
meeting men, but I've had trouble keeping a man. That's
all behind me now because I'm seeing a man that
caters to me, respects me, and will do anything he
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needs to do to put a smile on my face.
He thinks ahead and is a great planner. We've been
dating almost a year and he wants to go on
an anniversary trip, so I think he might be ready
to propose.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I got rid of.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
All my exes and I changed my life around to
make sure my past is in the past. I stopped
hanging out and I stopped posting suggestive pictures on social
media because I wanted to have a queenlike behavior for
my king. Our first date was at his house and
we had grilled steaks, a lot of wine, and a
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lot of great conversation. He told me upfront that he
wants to be married, but he wants the option to
have more than one woman in his life if it's
okay with his wife. I love women, too, so we
have that in common. Throughout our relationship, we've had six
different girls in our bed. I submit to him in
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bed and do whatever he tells me to do, and
it drives him wild.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
We've been.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Huh, I'm sorry, go ahead, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
We've been to counseling together because his last girlfriend got
jealous and flipped out on him, so he thought it
would help me.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Here's my problem though. My mother and I.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Are very close, so she is aware of what's going
on in my relationship. She doesn't condone it, and she
told me if my boyfriend proposals, she will be out
of my life for good. I told her, I cannot
believe this is my life with such a handsome, caring
and open man. I may never find another man that
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I'm this compatible with. Why is my mother being so
judgmental and why is she forcing me to make a choice?
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Well, I don't think she is.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
But if your mother is forcing you to make a choice,
as you say in the letter, she wants.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
You to choose you in this instance.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
She doesn't want you to marry a man who wants
other women. Your mom doesn't want her beautiful daughter having
threesomes and being some man sex slave. That that's just
how her parents.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
That's just a parent.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
I mean, do you honestly think this is the way
to keep a man?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Now?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Does your mom wants you to be happy and live
your life and all of that?
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Of course she does, yes, But she wants you to be.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Your own woman on your own terms, not because that's
what this man wants. You say you like women too,
rite But can you spend time with them alone?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Can you?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
You know?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
And not with him and all of that. I highly doubt.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
It because it doesn't sound like he cares what you
want as long as you submit to him and continue
to drive him wild. Like you said in a letter,
no parent's ever going to give their blessing to this
kind of marital arrangement. It is just to one sided.
All him know you, and for that reason, your mom
will never like him. That's why she says she's out.
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She doesn't want to support this. And as a mother myself,
I can tell you that there may not be anything
I can do about it, but I would never agree
to my daughter being with a guy like this either.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
No. Steve very very well said being a mother young.
So I like your response.
Speaker 4 (04:05):
This letter has so many ignorant statements in it throughout
the letter that I almost don't know how to respond
to this letter. But I want to go to the
very last line of the letter. And after this letter,
this girl says, why is my mother being so judgmental?
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And why is she forcing me to make a decision
after this ignorant letter that I'm about to read, That's
what your takeaway was, why is my mother being so judgmental? Well,
let's read this letter out loud. Michellette, thirty five year
old female with a cute face and a small waist.
I haven't had any trouble meeting men, but I've had
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trouble keeping a man well, and after you read this letter,
we about to find out why.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Let's go here we go.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
That's all behind me now, because I'm seeing a man
that caters to me and he would do anything he
needs to do to put a smile on my face.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
He thinks ahead and is a great planner.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
So let me show you how great of a planner
he is and how far he think ahead.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Let me go a skip down to this line in
the letter.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
He told me off front that he wants to be married,
but he wants an option to have more than one
woman in his life, if that's okay with his wife. Yeah,
that's what I call playing in there. Oh yeah, he
was playing sid sound kind of like a plot, but
if you want to call it a plan, okay, lady,
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he was playing in the head and he thinks ahead.
Yeah nah, he'd have told yo, stupid this piece of
information to see how it's set with you the first Okay,
Now let's go back up the letter.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
He thinks ahead as a great planner.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
We've been dating almost a year and he wants to
do an anniversary trip, so I think he might be
ready to propose.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Now here's what.
Speaker 4 (05:58):
The line where she starts telling on herself, I got
rid of all my exes. Wait a minute, if you
have an ex, why would you have to get rid
of him? See but with dealing with somebody who keeps
all her exes in her life, so she keeps God
to get rid of all my exes. I changed my
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life around to make sure my past is the past.
That means she'd have done a lot of sketchy stuff.
I stopped hanging out and stop posting suggested pictures on
social media because I wanted to have queen light behavior
from my king. We come back, I'm gonna close out on.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Yes, hang on.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll get part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Subject for today's Strawberry Letter, this.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Cannot be my life. We'll get back into it right
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Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject
this Cannot be My Life.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Well, let's get on with this netting letter entitled this cannot.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Be My life.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
Thirty five year old female got a Q face and
small waists, has never had trouble meeting me in, but
been having trouble keeping them. And I'm about to tell
you why she met this guy. She says, that's a
great planner. We'll get into that. We've been dating almost
a year. He wants to go on anniversary trips, so
I think he might be ready to propose.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Or if she ain't.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Got the cart in front of this horse right here,
horse in front of this car, watch's IGNI mess right here.
I got rid of all my exes now, like I
said before, if they your exis, why would you have
to get rid of it? But this is a woman
that hangs on to a lot of people, and I
changed my life around to make sure.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
My past is in the past.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
See, you can't all of a sudden erase your past.
I can tell you that right now. So I don't
know what you think you bene done to make sure
your past is in your past. But it don't work
like that, lady. You just can't wipe the slate clean yourself.
I mean, God can forgive you for anything, but you can't.
Just too many people go. And then I stopped hanging
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out and I stopped posting suggested pictures on social media
because I want to have queen like behavior from my king.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Now, let me explain something to you.
Speaker 4 (08:52):
I'm pretty sure the way y'all met was on social media.
So this man that you're going out on this date with,
on your first date, that you're about to describe before
you took the pictures off and found out he was
your king.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
That's how y'all hooked up.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
He saw the suggestion picture, he been on your Facebook page.
He know how many friends you got, He know you why,
that's why y'all.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Out on this date.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
So now on our first day was at his house
and we had grill steaks and a lot of ones.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
It'll kill me.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
When women go over a manhouse and they get a
steak and they think that's high end. It's just food,
that's all it is. It's just that he's of meat.
We had grill steaks. What you the only person that
balls a steak in the crock party, Shirley Strawberry. The
rest of us grillized steaks, So that ain't nothing new.
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I don't know when you had a lot of wine
and a lot of great conversations. He told me off
front he wants to be married, but he wants an
option to have more than one woman in his life.
This is okay with me. Then here's the line that
sets it off. I love women too, So we had
that in common. That ain't nothing to have in coming.
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Throughout our relationship, we have had six different girls in
our bed. I submit to him in bed and do
whatever he tells me to do, and it drives him wild.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Drive anybody while Hell.
Speaker 4 (10:25):
If you do everything I tell you to do? Hell,
who ain't finna go wild for that? I can't even
get my wife to watch the same TV show I
want to watch. Hell, Yeah, that'll drive me wild.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Try that on him. We been to Now here's the
other part.
Speaker 4 (10:45):
We been to counseling together because his last girlfriend got
jealous and flipped out on him, so he thought it
would help me.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Here's my problem though, What Wait a minute, y'all.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Went to counseling because his last girlfriend flipped out on
him and he thought counselor would help you. What kind
of swing a counselor he going to to help.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Y'all get through this?
Speaker 4 (11:10):
Right here, here's the other part. My mother and I
are very close, so she's aware of what's going on
in my relationship. Wait, man, hold on, you told your
mama Di. You told your mama Din. She doesn't condone it.
And she told me that if my boyfriend proposes, she
would be out of my life for good. I told her,
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I can't believe this is my life with such a
handsome man carrying an open man. I may never find
another man that I'm this compatible with. Why is my
mother being so judgmentally? Why is she forcing me to
make such a choice? Wait, man, hold on, lady, all
this crazy messing this letter and you worried about why
your mama being judgmential?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
You don't see the craziness in this letter.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
The six girls in y'all's bed, This anniversey a trip
y'all going on? Where you think he fitting and proposed
proposed to you for what?
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Let me ask you a.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Question, why would he marry you? When he get in
everything he want from you? What's to marry? He'd had
six different girls in y'all's bed. He told you the
beginning he wants to get married. He loved to get
married one day, but he wants a woman in his life.
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That's okay with him having other women. He didn't say
he wanted to marry you. Once again, here's a woman
plugging herself into the equation. He did not say he
wanted to marry you.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
And even if you do.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Get married, what are y'all's vows for? Yeah, to cleave
only unto her? Which one of these vials y'all want
to break first to love and honor? Which one you
want to break first?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
For?
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Better off of worse?
Speaker 4 (12:58):
Y'all already in the way worst relationship you can be in.
So all you can do is get married and hope
it get better. Marry him for what? What is the
what do you need? A holy mattrimum a ceremony for
to bless?
Speaker 3 (13:14):
What? Married?
Speaker 1 (13:15):
For? What?
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Girl? You're crazy? For real?
Speaker 4 (13:20):
Your mama don't want to talk to you no more,
and don't write us no more either.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
We don't want to talk to you anymore? All right?
Thank you?
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Speaker 2 (13:35):
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