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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Guys.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
I mean, it's been a day. It's been a day,
and this is one of those days where I'm like,
I don't want, I don't wanna, We're not, but we're
gonna why because it's our New Year's resolution, and like
every other New Year's resolution, let's see how long we
can keep it up. It's the tangent, hey, it's the
tangent giving you all this shit we couldn't talk about
on the air.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Guys.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yeah, I don't know what didn't we get you on
the show today. Everyone have a good New Year's Then
what did you guys all do on New Year's Eve?
By the way, because I I think I was asleep
by nine th oh ten. Maybe I may have been
with the assistance of a gummy, hypothetically a very large one.
But actually we did something very very clever. This is
my sister's idea. I'm not sure where she got this,
(00:43):
but she managed. She told Polly that she could stay
up for New Year's Polly is almost four and but
yet you know, I guess the earliest in Arizona, because
we're all in Arizona, the earliest that we could have
gotten a New Year's was like ten. It would have
been or maybe nine was New York New Year's or ten.
I think it's ten, So we weren't doing that. She
(01:04):
needs to be in bed about I ate something there.
So my sister found last year's ball drop in London
on YouTube and played that at like seven twenty and
we all counted down and we clapped, and then we
handed her like sparkling grape juice and she was so excited.
It was me, you know, it was New Year's and
all we faked the whole thing. We were all a
little drunk, so we were like way over the top,
(01:27):
so funny.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
But then she bought it. She loved it.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
She was like, oh my god, I was here when
she smiled and then boom went to bed.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Okay, I was nervous because wasn't that sparkling grape juice?
Like dark? And you handed it to her and she
was going like.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Yeah, you know what if I had done that and
she had spilled something, my sister would have screamed at me.
My sister did it, So that's her kid, that's her deal. Okay,
that's her, that's her programmy.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
She's very smart for that.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
But I cannot I saw so many TikTok videos about
like the Funkals and the fun Ants over the holidays
doing stuff they weren't supposed to do, like giving the
kids more candy. And the problem is my sister's so
high strung that like she would hold it out, like
she would take it out of me for like months.
But I can't wait till they're old enough that I
can like truly do the thing that my sister doesn't
want me to do for them, and they they can
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truly embody it. Like I saw one TikTok video where
the guy, the uncle went and bought a hamster for
the little girls and the and like he didn't live there,
right because he's the uncle. So like he brings his
hamster in and yay, and the mom is just so
she's like I said no, and he's like, but I
said yes, And then he puts it down. The girls
are freaking out. They're rubbing it in their mom's face,
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you know, like look what uncle whoever did. And then
this dude, you know, he goes back to you know,
Kansas City or where the hell he lives and he didn't
have to deal with it, and I just I can't wait.
I cannot wait do you do that? Do you do
that kind of thing for your because you got a
five thousand nephews?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Yes, yes, I used to just buy loud toys like
that was my thing. Like I just like toy whatever
I liked and thought was cool, I would buy for them,
whether they made noise or whatever, like drum sets and
piano stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Okay, so your thing was just getting everything that was noisy.
And did they ever get mad at.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
You for Oh?
Speaker 5 (03:05):
Yes, they were hot about it.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Yeah, well right.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Not my problem exactly. Exactly what did you guys all
do for it? Eventful New Year's? Did did anyone do
like the thing where you go out and Kiki?
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Did?
Speaker 5 (03:17):
I hosted a party at the Palmerhouse.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Oh yeah, that's right you did.
Speaker 5 (03:21):
It was insane, like I wasn't ready for what.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
It's like multiple ballrooms, right, yes, yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
And they had me go into multiple ballrooms really yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Like did you get the bag for that?
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (03:33):
I got a bag and I stayed downtown and I
hadn't done that in years.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You were like, you could throw a rock to my
house from where you were. Yes, yeah, of course was
not there because I was asleep somewhere else.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
So yeah, hard stand up, Yeah, what did you do?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
So I was at our cabin in northern Michigan.
Speaker 6 (03:51):
But by that point, and I don't know if you
guys feel this way, like I had had to see
so many people and a lot of that like involves drinking,
and by that point my body was like, we're not, like,
we are not drinking another drop. So I too, was
asleep on the couch very early. Well, my boyfriend played
cards and drinking games with my.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Sister and all her friends.
Speaker 6 (04:12):
Okay, my mom thanked him for entertaining them because you know,
they had a cabin, like the gen Z. Little girls
are like, we're bored, We're bored. So he entertained them,
and I slept on the couch because I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Of my little girls.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
You mean twenty two year olds who were about to
graduate college and be in the workforce.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
They're twenty year olds, yes, but it's there.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I thought she was older because she looks older and
she acts older, and she does things that older people do.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
Yeah, well I don't know what she does that older
people do, but she drinks. Well, you know she got
her fake taken though here in Chicago, really, so yeah,
so that sucked. Yeah, that sucked over the breaks.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Was it a bad one? No?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
No, it scans and everything, but they're I mean they're hard.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
How did they catch her here?
Speaker 2 (04:52):
They just was it like a true fake or was
it a someone else's ID or what was it?
Speaker 6 (04:56):
It's allegedly a fake with her own photo on it,
which is yeah, which what?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
They they are So.
Speaker 6 (05:03):
I when I had fakes, I would always use like
an older girl that like looked similar to me, Like
this is a real ID, and I know it works.
They have some shady place that they order from, so
it's their photo and stuff. But I think she's from
like Jersey and some places.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Just know like no, wow, yeah she got a ticket.
She's got to figure that out. But it sucks because
she's twenty, like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
It's like she just call it right.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
But so I was old too.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Jason Big Knight bed.
Speaker 7 (05:33):
I laid in bed and watched Anderson and Andy and
Diplo and LSD on LSD on CNN, CNN. Yes, that
was insane, CNN. Let a lot fly that night. Whitney
Cummings was saying a whole bunch of weird stuff, like
they're just but they.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Broke the record, like they should let all that stuff.
They like tried to ban them from drinking.
Speaker 6 (05:54):
People were so pissed off, and I think they broke
a record with viewership, so like, let her rip.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
I think that's the best thing on CNN, and it's
only once a year.
Speaker 8 (06:06):
Huge Night was drinking as well. But I did my
little vision board night that I like to do. I know,
I did, you like a whole little like event with it.
But I got sick. I had the plague for like
yes or like three nights, and the.
Speaker 9 (06:18):
Baby got sick. So I was baby's first fever.
Speaker 8 (06:21):
And then I was sick. It was like a miserable city.
I literally hated my life because I'm like disgustingly gross
and coughing, and you know she is too. And then
but I was a little bit better by then, So
then I was just pretty much just making my vision
board with Jonathan and his boyfriend.
Speaker 9 (06:33):
They came over.
Speaker 8 (06:34):
They had to be there, you already know, and Hobby
was there. We were all just like shooting the ship
I did. I was like, everybody to my vision board party.
Speaker 9 (06:41):
He did, he did, he did.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, he's so cute.
Speaker 8 (06:45):
He put that he wants to like get his money
up and I was like, yes, daddy, we're getting our
money up.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
He put it was cute.
Speaker 8 (06:52):
He put like from what we cut out whatever, he
put charity and I was like, that's really sweet. Yeah,
my man wants to give back. And he like, pretty well,
we wants to travel. He put Italy on there because
we think we're going.
Speaker 9 (07:01):
To Italy this year.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Good for you.
Speaker 8 (07:04):
I want to, but like the way my finances are
set up, it's there's no Italy. Like I'm lucky to
go to Indiana.
Speaker 9 (07:11):
Know, so we'll see one day one day.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
But your best friend Jonathan does he sleep between you two?
Does he sleep on one side? Or do you guys rotate?
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Okay, I was just curious, Yeah no, because you post
your husband a lot and I love it, you know,
and your daughter, but you post Jonathan a lot about
as much.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Jonathan's a lot.
Speaker 9 (07:32):
He's there a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
So I was just wondering, like, you know, how how
you rotated? Like who got what? Yeah? Yeah.
Speaker 8 (07:38):
One time I got into a really big fight with
Hobby and he goes like, you know.
Speaker 9 (07:42):
They're that fight. We were like, oh, we find someone.
Speaker 8 (07:43):
Better than me fight, you know, and you know whatever. Yeah,
So he said, find the straight version of Jonathan. That's
that's who you should be with. And I was like, well,
I don't need like this.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I don't think that's possible.
Speaker 9 (07:52):
No, it's not possible.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Jonathan's not Jonathan without the homosexuality. I love him. I
love him.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I find him very entertainings I mean, but like a
straight Jonathan, it ain't gonna work.
Speaker 8 (08:03):
I told Jonathan that, he's like, that makes me want
to throw up, like a straight version of me. Was like,
I know, So I would marry Jonathan probably the way
he is.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Okay, yes, if this is mom says that all the time.
My mom is like, something happens to your dad. I would,
I would just partner with the game.
Speaker 6 (08:16):
Many Oh, she's like, I don't care about We didn't
get that far into it.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
But what I what I surmise is I don't really
care about the sex.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
No, it's just like no one does. It's just like, hey,
someone to travel with me. Somebody's great taste. Yeah, somebody
would probably leave me alone because they don't really want
what I have.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
But leave my alone, little shows together, like that's what
I want.
Speaker 8 (08:37):
Leave me alone, go to work, leave me alone, go
hunt and gather and leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
It is kind of funny that it is kind of
funny about the sex, and I don't like I don't
put myself I'm not old enough to be like low
T category, like I don't have a drive issue, but
like the emphasis that i've if something clicked in me
maybe like a year ago. But the emphasis I put
into sex is very limited. Like I like to talk
of it. I really like to test people to see
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like how far I can go communicatively, not like being gross,
but like I don't know, Like it's not that I
don't I don't have an interest in it, but like
that was these I was chasing after that for a
very long time, and now it's like, yeah, I don't know,
like like i'd much rather I don't know, because I
would say I would much rather find a partner and
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the sex is secondary, but that's not true, like the
sex has to be fire. So I guess I don't
not care. I still care about it, but I guess
it's like I can see a world where I care
less about it and more about the partnership, if that
makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
It does.
Speaker 6 (09:40):
I just read that men reach like full emotional maturity
not until forty two, so it's like, what's happening women?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
We reach it? I think it was like three something,
but it was interesting.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Like I definitely need it and I need it to
be fire off the top, but it's not going to
be good enough that in itself wouldn't do it. Like
I there may have been a time where I was
drawn to people because the sex was good and the
people were shitty. I've also been drawn to shitty people
with the sex was bad, but oh done plenty of that.
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But I also I don't know's it's hard for me
to articulate, but it's like, I don't I don't know.
I could see a world where I meet someone it's fire,
it's great, and then we slip into a point where
I'm not necessarily like always trying to get it, which
you could argue, well, what is it, like you drive
down or whatever? I need to get that ship that
Frank Thomas advertises for like some blue chee or whatever.
I'm not there yet, That's not it. I just I
(10:37):
don't know. I'm just gonna need a lot more than that.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Yeah, you need a bestie?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Yeah who I can fuck?
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Well, yeah, that's essentially what it really that's part is that.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
I've never found that. Yeah, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 8 (10:54):
Though I knew because I always say this if I
ever which I don't want you, but if like you know,
life happens, right, if I ever get divorced. I to
my friend yesterday on the phone, I was like, no
one will ever touch me again.
Speaker 9 (11:04):
Like that's not a priority to me.
Speaker 8 (11:05):
I don't care, like you know what I mean, Like
the sex, Like I understand, like sex is a part
of I don't know, human nature, I guess right, Like
it's not something.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
We do with people what definitely is.
Speaker 9 (11:14):
Yeah, but I just it's not like my priority. I
don't know. That's it's a.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Double edged short like like so you who asked for
sex more hobby or hobby?
Speaker 9 (11:23):
Well yeah, hobby now.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
But here's the thing, Like, so you're not you love
him and you like having sex with him, but you're
not necessarily always trying to have it, Like you don't
need it as much as you once did. But the
problem is if he stopped asking for it, then you'd
get paranoid about So it's kind of a no win,
Like yeah, like even when you don't want to, you
kind of have to like reward him for not reward him,
but you kind of have to. You don't have to
do anything, but you know what I mean, Like when
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you're not in the mood and he asked for it,
more often than not, you're probably doing it because the
last thing you want to do is make him think
he's not wanted. Then he stops asking and then that's
a problem, correct, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Makes sense.
Speaker 8 (11:58):
Well, yeah, I think in marriage, like you have to
hot take is you got to prioritize the sexy time
like you do, you know what I mean, Like especially
if like I know my man wants to have sex
and I want to as well. We'll get me wrong,
but I'm tired half the time, and I know I'm
a parent now, so like it makes it even harder.
You're just even more tired. And I understand all that,
but like to me, I'll be exhausted with like one
eye open, and I will still make time because I
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care about him. That that's truly the reason. And I
love having sex with him, Like I was of a
good time. At the end of it, I'm like, I'm
glad we did that, you know, But when it's about
to like you know, panties off, I'm like, oh, I'm tired,
but I fight.
Speaker 9 (12:30):
I fight and I find the strength to keep going
because I am so tired.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
I gotta find the strength, find the energy. But I
think it's important. That's my hot take when it comes
to sex and marriage. But what I'm saying is if
I don't end up with hobby like I want to,
that's the goal.
Speaker 9 (12:46):
But like I'm just being realistic.
Speaker 8 (12:47):
If one day I'm not, I'm a single woman, Like
the streets have nothing for me. Like I'm good, you
know what I mean, Like it's me, my daughter, Like
I'm very happy. Will I casually date maybe, but I
will never get remarried because to me, like that's a
marriage is a job too write like I've I've done marriage,
Like I'm cooking, I'm cleaning, I'm you know, I have.
Speaker 9 (13:07):
A household, I have a child. Like why the fuck
would I want to do that again?
Speaker 1 (13:12):
You say that, but I you know, but sir, okay.
Speaker 6 (13:16):
See for someone, I'm terrified of marriage, I don't know
that I want to do it. Still when I listen
to you, because you're like, you know, You're like, it's
a job.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
I don't want to do it.
Speaker 9 (13:24):
It's a job.
Speaker 8 (13:24):
It's I think it's a rewarding, if fulfilling job for
the right person. And that's what I'm saying, Like, I
honestly don't think like hobbies, like truly, Like what is
it the ying to the yang shit?
Speaker 9 (13:32):
Yeah, like I think he's bad. He's my ying to
the yang.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Yeah. You know what's interesting, though, is it? I'm sorry
I continue, I don't mean what's interesting to me is
that I know happily married people, I know unhappily married people.
I know people in the middle. Yes, but I cannot
find one person who tells me to do it. Like
nobody out there looks at my life and says you
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should totally blow it up and get married. Anyone, nobody,
and this this is one should tell you to And
I'm not just hanging out with with disgruntled people, Like
I know people who are who love their are happy
to be married, and they're like, I don't I don't
know why you would do that. I really don't know
why you would do that. And I don't know if
it's because I'm in my forties and haven't done it.
It's like, why start now. I think there are a
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lot of people who were like I wouldn't have that.
I wouldn't even consider it if I didn't want to
have kids. But then I think some of that's antiquated too,
because I think people have kids all the time. Yeah,
you know, and spirituality is not a component or religious sure,
but like I cannot find one person. There's not one
person who's like, you gotta, you gotta do this. You
gotta put a ring on it, you gotta go down
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the aisle, you gotta move in and combine all your shit.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Yeah, you gotta.
Speaker 8 (14:42):
Well, no one should be telling you, guys or anybody
to get married, right like, because again, marriage is a job.
Marriage is a huge lifestyle change, you know what I mean.
Like I went from like my mom's basement basically, like
I was living like the Vita Loco over there, right
living like I was like really like.
Speaker 9 (14:59):
Just focusing on it was all about me. I'm a
selfish person, like I am.
Speaker 8 (15:02):
And and the big argument too that I've been thinking
about that is like that type girls and women we
don't want to have kids because we are selfish, but
we're like owning that. And like when it comes to
even like parenthood, right, like having kids, people are like, hey,
like on TikTok real talk moms, parents, would you tell
me to have a kid? Like I'm thirty years old,
like like, be fucking for real, right And people are
actually saying, no, I love my kids. She's my world,
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he's everything, you know whatever, whatever, But I no, I
wouldn't recommend this because parenting is a job. It's a
lifelong job, and it's hard. It's the hardest job in
the world. My answer is do if that's like what.
Speaker 9 (15:36):
You yearn for.
Speaker 8 (15:37):
If like you like, hey, I want a child and
I want to do it like that, I would say yes,
if you can give your time, energy, resources and all
of that to a child and be there, because it's
more than the baby face.
Speaker 9 (15:47):
Like I you know what I mean.
Speaker 8 (15:48):
People think, oh, I have a cute little baby, and
then guess what that baby grows up?
Speaker 9 (15:51):
So, like, you know, people need to understand, like parenting
is for life.
Speaker 8 (15:54):
So if that's something you want to commit to and
you're okay with giving up free time or giving up
like even parts of your career. I hate that women
have to do that more than men. But that's another conversation.
If you want to give up parts of your social
life whatever that is, like then yes, it is all
temporary because babies are just for babies for a little right,
and then they're gonna go to school and grow up
and all this and that. But like I always preach
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from the rooftops and from the mountains, like please don't
lose yourself in marriage, in motherhood or whatever it might be.
Speaker 9 (16:21):
Like, yes, it's heart.
Speaker 8 (16:22):
There's seasons that are gonna be fucking hard, but like,
please don't lose yourself, Like, please still do the things
you love, like take care of yourself any way you can,
like prioritize yourself.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Like, but I think you do a great job of it.
And I realized I compared to some other people I know.
And I'm not saying that this is an excuse or anything,
but I know you have a lot of help.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
You know.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
I know that you've got two sets of parents and
you got Marte. You got his parents, you got nothing
without them. You've got you know, sisters in law and
the whole thing. So you got a best friend who
will watch Gabby, I mean, the whole thing. But like,
and I know other people that don't have all those resources.
But yet I don't know, you make it. You may
look easy, you really do, and I know it's not.
Speaker 9 (17:00):
It's not.
Speaker 8 (17:00):
And I get told that all the time, and to me,
that's like a compliment because that just shows you how
strong my village is.
Speaker 9 (17:04):
And like that's a privilege.
Speaker 8 (17:06):
I know, I'm blessed, right because it's it's hard, like
everybody has that, Like your parents won't live here, Like
when my sister has her baby whenever, that will be
Like she's in Michigan, right, she's in Detroit, Like my
mom can't just go my mom is four minutes away.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Well that's my sister's issue too. But then again, I don't,
you know, and I love my sister to death, but
I'm not sure that she I mean, she's got his
in law, his parents, her in law is right down
the street, and I don't I don't think she's using them,
you know, utilizing them, I should say, totally.
Speaker 9 (17:31):
And then so everyone's journey is just so different, you know,
when it comes to like.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
If you're gonna let I gotta think if you're gonna
let other people, if you're gonna rely on other people
to take care of your your child, who you trust
and you love and you then you have to let
them do their thing, right, Like you hand your you
hand her over to your mom. If you're gonna do
that regularly, then I don't know if you can also
tell your mom how to raise Like like it's hard.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 9 (17:55):
Yes, it's like you.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Can't be completely controlling and then also rely rely on
other people because it's like, no, you're asking me to
do this, and I'm gonna baby's gonna be safe, but
like we're gonna do it grandma's way.
Speaker 8 (18:05):
Yeah, I had to accept Grandma's way. I had to
like was it worth the battle? Is it worth the fight?
I mean I get like free babysitting, and who better
than grandma? Right, Like a lot of you guys here
had like grandparents, Like I didn't have that on either side,
like biological grandparents that I grew up with, you know,
so like I can't tell those stories you guys do.
So like my daughter will and she's attached to her
grandma's and her grandpa and I love that, And I
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had to let go of that little control. And there's
those arguments like I caught the baby with a sugar
cookie in her hand one day and I almost lost it,
like because I'm like, we're not trying to give her sugar.
Speaker 9 (18:34):
She's nine months old, so like there's.
Speaker 8 (18:35):
Battles and like I think my mom's a little confused
of whose baby this thing is.
Speaker 9 (18:40):
Right, it dropped her off, it gave her a cookie. Yeah,
that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 8 (18:44):
It's like, I don't know, like it's hard because like, yeah,
if you want the help, especially if it's free help,
you know, I can't be like too picky about that.
But there are boundaries you have to set as a parent,
especially like you know, my mom hasn't raised a kid
in thirty years, so things are different, Mom, Like they
just don't you know they are if I know, they're
gonna be like, well but you survived barely, but yes,
these are barely by hanging my thread.
Speaker 9 (19:06):
But no, I mean definitely it's not easy.
Speaker 8 (19:07):
And I give it all to the village because I
like really welcome people, like you know, friends, you guys
obviously are all there for us too, And it's like
to me, like that's the biggest blessing that my daughter
gets to grow up in. And also another part is
like my baby, I feel like is an easy baby.
And I say that because I feel like I see
you know, other videos or other people talk about their babies,
and they can go so many different ways, right, Like
(19:29):
there's babies who cry twenty four to seven when they're
born because of colic or whatever it might be, right,
Like Gigi didn't have that, But there's other babies who
don't sleep, they don't nap. So it's like everyone's journey
is mad different because of every little part, right, like
the baby who your support system?
Speaker 9 (19:43):
You know, what you do for a living. Some people,
you know, stay at home, some people work. It's a lot.
It's a lot, man.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Yeah, and don't get me started on them. This is
a whole different tangent. But don't get me started on
the if you don't get married and don't have kids,
that you're selfish because like you talk about being selfish before,
I am selfish and very selfish. I am a selfish well,
but you you moderate because you you also do a
good job.
Speaker 9 (20:05):
With you know, well, of course baby's number one.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Baby and you know, your relationship whatever.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
But like, like I don't have any of that, so
like why the fuck wouldn't I be? So Like I'm
not selfish with my family, I'm not selfish with my friends,
but like, what what do you what do you What
am I supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (20:22):
You know?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I think the wrong thing to do would be what
a lot of people do, my father have a couple
of kids, but then still do whatever the fuck you
want and be selfish and then when that backfire is
on you and then just hit a race and start
over again. And I don't mean I'm not trying to
like make it dark. I'm just saying, like, to me,
that's selfish. But when you're on your own and you
live alone, and you don't have a spouse and you
(20:43):
don't have a child, then what am I supposed to do?
Am I supposed to start knocking on doors and asking
people if they want me to watch their kid, or
like if I can clean their house or some fucking
shit like I don't, I don't know. And obviously it's
a it's a pain point for me because I think
there are people that look at it like, well, you
don't do any of this because you don't you know,
and you can't possibly understand because you know you're selfish.
It's like, well, yeah, I mean I am, but it
(21:05):
doesn't mean I'm i'man capable of not being that way.
But how am I supposed to be it's it's I
only have to worry about me.
Speaker 8 (21:12):
I see nothing wrong with being selfish. And that's what
the big argument about, Like why women don't want to
have kids because they're like, it's selfish with me, but
like I don't want to give up my time, right,
Like one thing that I missed personally is just like
bed rotting or rotting on the couch.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Oh god, I'm an expert and I have a PhD.
Speaker 6 (21:27):
Seriously, I used to get turned over by like a
bunch of nurses. They have to come to my room.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Yeah you have those two. Yeah, yeah, no, I have
the same thing.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I'm not getting up though. They just got a rotat.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Oh no, they just come over. They wash my ass
and roll me over.
Speaker 6 (21:40):
Yeah, okay, Well, Paulina clorox my ass this morning, So
I did mine?
Speaker 3 (21:43):
Is mine as queaky?
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Oh that's nice.
Speaker 8 (21:45):
Yeah that sounds like a yeah, clean up my girl?
Like she sat in clarox and I feel really bad
about it. But her pants look great though, I've been
looking at her ass and pants look great.
Speaker 9 (21:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
No, except for a big white spec No, no, what's that?
Speaker 1 (22:03):
All right? Guys, we'll hear we're one for one on
the tange. So we did that.
Speaker 9 (22:06):
We did something.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Wow, we did something. We did It's been a day.
It's been a day, hey, But here's what I can say.
It wasn't you know, whatever fucked up, wasn't it within
our control. So you know, a lot of times we
fuck it. I'll be the first to admit when I
FuG it, I pushed it round button all the time.
But today there were there were no buttons to push
because we forgot to pay the electricity bill. Apparently, no,
we forgot to pay the Yeah, the Wi Fi bill.
(22:28):
So that's you know, not important for a multimedia company.
But anyway, Yeah, guys, first tange of twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
What year is it? What days? And I don't know.
Thanks for listening. Have a good day.
Guys.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
I mean, it's been a day. It's been a day,
and this is one of those days where I'm like,
I don't want, I don't wanna, We're not, but we're
gonna why because it's our New Year's resolution, and like
every other New Year's resolution, let's see how long we
can keep it up. It's the tangent, hey, it's the
tangent giving you all this shit we couldn't talk about
on the air.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Guys.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yeah, I don't know what didn't we get you on
the show today. Everyone have a good New Year's Then
what did you guys all do on New Year's Eve?
By the way, because I I think I was asleep
by nine th oh ten. Maybe I may have been
with the assistance of a gummy, hypothetically a very large one.
But actually we did something very very clever. This is
my sister's idea. I'm not sure where she got this,
(00:43):
but she managed. She told Polly that she could stay
up for New Year's Polly is almost four and but
yet you know, I guess the earliest in Arizona, because
we're all in Arizona, the earliest that we could have
gotten a New Year's was like ten. It would have
been or maybe nine was New York New Year's or ten.
I think it's ten, So we weren't doing that. She
(01:04):
needs to be in bed about I ate something there.
So my sister found last year's ball drop in London
on YouTube and played that at like seven twenty and
we all counted down and we clapped, and then we
handed her like sparkling grape juice and she was so excited.
It was me, you know, it was New Year's and
all we faked the whole thing. We were all a
little drunk, so we were like way over the top,
(01:27):
so funny.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
But then she bought it. She loved it.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
She was like, oh my god, I was here when
she smiled and then boom went to bed.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Okay, I was nervous because wasn't that sparkling grape juice?
Like dark? And you handed it to her and she
was going like.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Yeah, you know what if I had done that and
she had spilled something, my sister would have screamed at me.
My sister did it, So that's her kid, that's her deal. Okay,
that's her, that's her programmy.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
She's very smart for that.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
But I cannot I saw so many TikTok videos about
like the Funkals and the fun Ants over the holidays
doing stuff they weren't supposed to do, like giving the
kids more candy. And the problem is my sister's so
high strung that like she would hold it out, like
she would take it out of me for like months.
But I can't wait till they're old enough that I
can like truly do the thing that my sister doesn't
want me to do for them, and they they can
(02:15):
truly embody it. Like I saw one TikTok video where
the guy, the uncle went and bought a hamster for
the little girls and the and like he didn't live there,
right because he's the uncle. So like he brings his
hamster in and yay, and the mom is just so
she's like I said no, and he's like, but I
said yes, And then he puts it down. The girls
are freaking out. They're rubbing it in their mom's face,
(02:35):
you know, like look what uncle whoever did. And then
this dude, you know, he goes back to you know,
Kansas City or where the hell he lives and he didn't
have to deal with it, and I just I can't wait.
I cannot wait do you do that? Do you do
that kind of thing for your because you got a
five thousand nephews?
Speaker 4 (02:50):
Yes, yes, I used to just buy loud toys like
that was my thing. Like I just like toy whatever
I liked and thought was cool, I would buy for them,
whether they made noise or whatever, like drum sets and
piano stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Okay, so your thing was just getting everything that was noisy.
And did they ever get mad at.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
You for Oh?
Speaker 5 (03:05):
Yes, they were hot about it.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Yeah, well right.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Not my problem exactly. Exactly what did you guys all
do for it? Eventful New Year's? Did did anyone do
like the thing where you go out and Kiki?
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Did?
Speaker 5 (03:17):
I hosted a party at the Palmerhouse.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Oh yeah, that's right you did.
Speaker 5 (03:21):
It was insane, like I wasn't ready for what.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
It's like multiple ballrooms, right, yes, yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:26):
And they had me go into multiple ballrooms really yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Like did you get the bag for that?
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (03:33):
I got a bag and I stayed downtown and I
hadn't done that in years.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You were like, you could throw a rock to my
house from where you were. Yes, yeah, of course was
not there because I was asleep somewhere else.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
So yeah, hard stand up, Yeah, what did you do?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
So I was at our cabin in northern Michigan.
Speaker 6 (03:51):
But by that point, and I don't know if you
guys feel this way, like I had had to see
so many people and a lot of that like involves drinking,
and by that point my body was like, we're not, like,
we are not drinking another drop. So I too, was
asleep on the couch very early. Well, my boyfriend played
cards and drinking games with my.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Sister and all her friends.
Speaker 6 (04:12):
Okay, my mom thanked him for entertaining them because you know,
they had a cabin, like the gen Z. Little girls
are like, we're bored, We're bored. So he entertained them,
and I slept on the couch because I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Of my little girls.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
You mean twenty two year olds who were about to
graduate college and be in the workforce.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
They're twenty year olds, yes, but it's there.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I thought she was older because she looks older and
she acts older, and she does things that older people do.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
Yeah, well I don't know what she does that older
people do, but she drinks. Well, you know she got
her fake taken though here in Chicago, really, so yeah,
so that sucked. Yeah, that sucked over the breaks.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Was it a bad one? No?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
No, it scans and everything, but they're I mean they're hard.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
How did they catch her here?
Speaker 2 (04:52):
They just was it like a true fake or was
it a someone else's ID or what was it?
Speaker 6 (04:56):
It's allegedly a fake with her own photo on it,
which is yeah, which what?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (05:02):
They they are So.
Speaker 6 (05:03):
I when I had fakes, I would always use like
an older girl that like looked similar to me, Like
this is a real ID, and I know it works.
They have some shady place that they order from, so
it's their photo and stuff. But I think she's from
like Jersey and some places.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Just know like no, wow, yeah she got a ticket.
She's got to figure that out. But it sucks because
she's twenty, like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
It's like she just call it right.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
But so I was old too.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Jason Big Knight bed.
Speaker 7 (05:33):
I laid in bed and watched Anderson and Andy and
Diplo and LSD on LSD on CNN, CNN. Yes, that
was insane, CNN. Let a lot fly that night. Whitney
Cummings was saying a whole bunch of weird stuff, like
they're just but they.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Broke the record, like they should let all that stuff.
They like tried to ban them from drinking.
Speaker 6 (05:54):
People were so pissed off, and I think they broke
a record with viewership, so like, let her rip.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
I think that's the best thing on CNN, and it's
only once a year.
Speaker 8 (06:06):
Huge Night was drinking as well. But I did my
little vision board night that I like to do. I know,
I did, you like a whole little like event with it.
But I got sick. I had the plague for like
yes or like three nights, and the.
Speaker 9 (06:18):
Baby got sick. So I was baby's first fever.
Speaker 8 (06:21):
And then I was sick. It was like a miserable city.
I literally hated my life because I'm like disgustingly gross
and coughing, and you know she is too. And then
but I was a little bit better by then, So
then I was just pretty much just making my vision
board with Jonathan and his boyfriend.
Speaker 9 (06:33):
They came over.
Speaker 8 (06:34):
They had to be there, you already know, and Hobby
was there. We were all just like shooting the ship
I did. I was like, everybody to my vision board party.
Speaker 9 (06:41):
He did, he did, he did.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, he's so cute.
Speaker 8 (06:45):
He put that he wants to like get his money
up and I was like, yes, daddy, we're getting our
money up.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
He put it was cute.
Speaker 8 (06:52):
He put like from what we cut out whatever, he
put charity and I was like, that's really sweet. Yeah,
my man wants to give back. And he like, pretty well,
we wants to travel. He put Italy on there because
we think we're going.
Speaker 9 (07:01):
To Italy this year.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Good for you.
Speaker 8 (07:04):
I want to, but like the way my finances are
set up, it's there's no Italy. Like I'm lucky to
go to Indiana.
Speaker 9 (07:11):
Know, so we'll see one day one day.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
But your best friend Jonathan does he sleep between you two?
Does he sleep on one side? Or do you guys rotate?
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Okay, I was just curious, Yeah no, because you post
your husband a lot and I love it, you know,
and your daughter, but you post Jonathan a lot about
as much.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Jonathan's a lot.
Speaker 9 (07:32):
He's there a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
So I was just wondering, like, you know, how how
you rotated? Like who got what? Yeah? Yeah.
Speaker 8 (07:38):
One time I got into a really big fight with
Hobby and he goes like, you know.
Speaker 9 (07:42):
They're that fight. We were like, oh, we find someone.
Speaker 8 (07:43):
Better than me fight, you know, and you know whatever. Yeah,
So he said, find the straight version of Jonathan. That's
that's who you should be with. And I was like, well,
I don't need like this.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I don't think that's possible.
Speaker 9 (07:52):
No, it's not possible.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Jonathan's not Jonathan without the homosexuality. I love him. I
love him.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I find him very entertainings I mean, but like a
straight Jonathan, it ain't gonna work.
Speaker 8 (08:03):
I told Jonathan that, he's like, that makes me want
to throw up, like a straight version of me. Was like,
I know, So I would marry Jonathan probably the way
he is.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Okay, yes, if this is mom says that all the time.
My mom is like, something happens to your dad. I would,
I would just partner with the game.
Speaker 6 (08:16):
Many Oh, she's like, I don't care about We didn't
get that far into it.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
But what I what I surmise is I don't really
care about the sex.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
No, it's just like no one does. It's just like, hey,
someone to travel with me. Somebody's great taste. Yeah, somebody
would probably leave me alone because they don't really want
what I have.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
But leave my alone, little shows together, like that's what
I want.
Speaker 8 (08:37):
Leave me alone, go to work, leave me alone, go
hunt and gather and leave me alone.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
It is kind of funny that it is kind of
funny about the sex, and I don't like I don't
put myself I'm not old enough to be like low
T category, like I don't have a drive issue, but
like the emphasis that i've if something clicked in me
maybe like a year ago. But the emphasis I put
into sex is very limited. Like I like to talk
of it. I really like to test people to see
(09:03):
like how far I can go communicatively, not like being gross,
but like I don't know, Like it's not that I
don't I don't have an interest in it, but like
that was these I was chasing after that for a
very long time, and now it's like, yeah, I don't know,
like like i'd much rather I don't know, because I
would say I would much rather find a partner and
(09:25):
the sex is secondary, but that's not true, like the
sex has to be fire. So I guess I don't
not care. I still care about it, but I guess
it's like I can see a world where I care
less about it and more about the partnership, if that
makes sense.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
It does.
Speaker 6 (09:40):
I just read that men reach like full emotional maturity
not until forty two, so it's like, what's happening women?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
We reach it? I think it was like three something,
but it was interesting.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
Like I definitely need it and I need it to
be fire off the top, but it's not going to
be good enough that in itself wouldn't do it. Like
I there may have been a time where I was
drawn to people because the sex was good and the
people were shitty. I've also been drawn to shitty people
with the sex was bad, but oh done plenty of that.
(10:14):
But I also I don't know's it's hard for me
to articulate, but it's like, I don't I don't know.
I could see a world where I meet someone it's fire,
it's great, and then we slip into a point where
I'm not necessarily like always trying to get it, which
you could argue, well, what is it, like you drive
down or whatever? I need to get that ship that
Frank Thomas advertises for like some blue chee or whatever.
I'm not there yet, That's not it. I just I
(10:37):
don't know. I'm just gonna need a lot more than that.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Yeah, you need a bestie?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Yeah who I can fuck?
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Well, yeah, that's essentially what it really that's part is that.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
I've never found that. Yeah, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 8 (10:54):
Though I knew because I always say this if I
ever which I don't want you, but if like you know,
life happens, right, if I ever get divorced. I to
my friend yesterday on the phone, I was like, no
one will ever touch me again.
Speaker 9 (11:04):
Like that's not a priority to me.
Speaker 8 (11:05):
I don't care, like you know what I mean, Like
the sex, Like I understand, like sex is a part
of I don't know, human nature, I guess right, Like
it's not something.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
We do with people what definitely is.
Speaker 9 (11:14):
Yeah, but I just it's not like my priority. I
don't know. That's it's a.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Double edged short like like so you who asked for
sex more hobby or hobby?
Speaker 9 (11:23):
Well yeah, hobby now.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
But here's the thing, Like, so you're not you love
him and you like having sex with him, but you're
not necessarily always trying to have it, Like you don't
need it as much as you once did. But the
problem is if he stopped asking for it, then you'd
get paranoid about So it's kind of a no win,
Like yeah, like even when you don't want to, you
kind of have to like reward him for not reward him,
but you kind of have to. You don't have to
do anything, but you know what I mean, Like when
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you're not in the mood and he asked for it,
more often than not, you're probably doing it because the
last thing you want to do is make him think
he's not wanted. Then he stops asking and then that's
a problem, correct, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Makes sense.
Speaker 8 (11:58):
Well, yeah, I think in marriage, like you have to
hot take is you got to prioritize the sexy time
like you do, you know what I mean, Like especially
if like I know my man wants to have sex
and I want to as well. We'll get me wrong,
but I'm tired half the time, and I know I'm
a parent now, so like it makes it even harder.
You're just even more tired. And I understand all that,
but like to me, I'll be exhausted with like one
eye open, and I will still make time because I
(12:19):
care about him. That that's truly the reason. And I
love having sex with him, Like I was of a
good time. At the end of it, I'm like, I'm
glad we did that, you know, But when it's about
to like you know, panties off, I'm like, oh, I'm tired,
but I fight.
Speaker 9 (12:30):
I fight and I find the strength to keep going
because I am so tired.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
I gotta find the strength, find the energy. But I
think it's important. That's my hot take when it comes
to sex and marriage. But what I'm saying is if
I don't end up with hobby like I want to,
that's the goal.
Speaker 9 (12:46):
But like I'm just being realistic.
Speaker 8 (12:47):
If one day I'm not, I'm a single woman, Like
the streets have nothing for me. Like I'm good, you
know what I mean, Like it's me, my daughter, Like
I'm very happy. Will I casually date maybe, but I
will never get remarried because to me, like that's a
marriage is a job too write like I've I've done marriage,
Like I'm cooking, I'm cleaning, I'm you know, I have.
Speaker 9 (13:07):
A household, I have a child. Like why the fuck
would I want to do that again?
Speaker 1 (13:12):
You say that, but I you know, but sir, okay.
Speaker 6 (13:16):
See for someone, I'm terrified of marriage, I don't know
that I want to do it. Still when I listen
to you, because you're like, you know, You're like, it's
a job.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
I don't want to do it.
Speaker 9 (13:24):
It's a job.
Speaker 8 (13:24):
It's I think it's a rewarding, if fulfilling job for
the right person. And that's what I'm saying, Like, I
honestly don't think like hobbies, like truly, Like what is
it the ying to the yang shit?
Speaker 9 (13:32):
Yeah, like I think he's bad. He's my ying to
the yang.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
Yeah. You know what's interesting, though, is it? I'm sorry
I continue, I don't mean what's interesting to me is
that I know happily married people, I know unhappily married people.
I know people in the middle. Yes, but I cannot
find one person who tells me to do it. Like
nobody out there looks at my life and says you
(13:55):
should totally blow it up and get married. Anyone, nobody,
and this this is one should tell you to And
I'm not just hanging out with with disgruntled people, Like
I know people who are who love their are happy
to be married, and they're like, I don't I don't
know why you would do that. I really don't know
why you would do that. And I don't know if
it's because I'm in my forties and haven't done it.
It's like, why start now. I think there are a
(14:16):
lot of people who were like I wouldn't have that.
I wouldn't even consider it if I didn't want to
have kids. But then I think some of that's antiquated too,
because I think people have kids all the time. Yeah,
you know, and spirituality is not a component or religious sure,
but like I cannot find one person. There's not one
person who's like, you gotta, you gotta do this. You
gotta put a ring on it, you gotta go down
(14:38):
the aisle, you gotta move in and combine all your shit.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Yeah, you gotta.
Speaker 8 (14:42):
Well, no one should be telling you, guys or anybody
to get married, right like, because again, marriage is a job.
Marriage is a huge lifestyle change, you know what I mean.
Like I went from like my mom's basement basically, like
I was living like the Vita Loco over there, right
living like I was like really like.
Speaker 9 (14:59):
Just focusing on it was all about me. I'm a
selfish person, like I am.
Speaker 8 (15:02):
And and the big argument too that I've been thinking
about that is like that type girls and women we
don't want to have kids because we are selfish, but
we're like owning that. And like when it comes to
even like parenthood, right, like having kids, people are like, hey,
like on TikTok real talk moms, parents, would you tell
me to have a kid? Like I'm thirty years old,
like like, be fucking for real, right And people are
actually saying, no, I love my kids. She's my world,
(15:24):
he's everything, you know whatever, whatever, But I no, I
wouldn't recommend this because parenting is a job. It's a
lifelong job, and it's hard. It's the hardest job in
the world. My answer is do if that's like what.
Speaker 9 (15:36):
You yearn for.
Speaker 8 (15:37):
If like you like, hey, I want a child and
I want to do it like that, I would say yes,
if you can give your time, energy, resources and all
of that to a child and be there, because it's
more than the baby face.
Speaker 9 (15:47):
Like I you know what I mean.
Speaker 8 (15:48):
People think, oh, I have a cute little baby, and
then guess what that baby grows up?
Speaker 9 (15:51):
So, like, you know, people need to understand, like parenting
is for life.
Speaker 8 (15:54):
So if that's something you want to commit to and
you're okay with giving up free time or giving up
like even parts of your career. I hate that women
have to do that more than men. But that's another conversation.
If you want to give up parts of your social
life whatever that is, like then yes, it is all
temporary because babies are just for babies for a little right,
and then they're gonna go to school and grow up
and all this and that. But like I always preach
(16:15):
from the rooftops and from the mountains, like please don't
lose yourself in marriage, in motherhood or whatever it might be.
Speaker 9 (16:21):
Like, yes, it's heart.
Speaker 8 (16:22):
There's seasons that are gonna be fucking hard, but like,
please don't lose yourself, Like, please still do the things
you love, like take care of yourself any way you can,
like prioritize yourself.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Like, but I think you do a great job of it.
And I realized I compared to some other people I know.
And I'm not saying that this is an excuse or anything,
but I know you have a lot of help.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
You know.
Speaker 2 (16:39):
I know that you've got two sets of parents and
you got Marte. You got his parents, you got nothing
without them. You've got you know, sisters in law and
the whole thing. So you got a best friend who
will watch Gabby, I mean, the whole thing. But like,
and I know other people that don't have all those resources.
But yet I don't know, you make it. You may
look easy, you really do, and I know it's not.
Speaker 9 (17:00):
It's not.
Speaker 8 (17:00):
And I get told that all the time, and to me,
that's like a compliment because that just shows you how
strong my village is.
Speaker 9 (17:04):
And like that's a privilege.
Speaker 8 (17:06):
I know, I'm blessed, right because it's it's hard, like
everybody has that, Like your parents won't live here, Like
when my sister has her baby whenever, that will be
Like she's in Michigan, right, she's in Detroit, Like my
mom can't just go my mom is four minutes away.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Well that's my sister's issue too. But then again, I don't,
you know, and I love my sister to death, but
I'm not sure that she I mean, she's got his
in law, his parents, her in law is right down
the street, and I don't I don't think she's using them,
you know, utilizing them, I should say, totally.
Speaker 9 (17:31):
And then so everyone's journey is just so different, you know,
when it comes to like.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
If you're gonna let I gotta think if you're gonna
let other people, if you're gonna rely on other people
to take care of your your child, who you trust
and you love and you then you have to let
them do their thing, right, Like you hand your you
hand her over to your mom. If you're gonna do
that regularly, then I don't know if you can also
tell your mom how to raise Like like it's hard.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 9 (17:55):
Yes, it's like you.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
Can't be completely controlling and then also rely rely on
other people because it's like, no, you're asking me to
do this, and I'm gonna baby's gonna be safe, but
like we're gonna do it grandma's way.
Speaker 8 (18:05):
Yeah, I had to accept Grandma's way. I had to
like was it worth the battle? Is it worth the fight?
I mean I get like free babysitting, and who better
than grandma? Right, Like a lot of you guys here
had like grandparents, Like I didn't have that on either side,
like biological grandparents that I grew up with, you know,
so like I can't tell those stories you guys do.
So like my daughter will and she's attached to her
grandma's and her grandpa and I love that, And I
(18:26):
had to let go of that little control. And there's
those arguments like I caught the baby with a sugar
cookie in her hand one day and I almost lost it,
like because I'm like, we're not trying to give her sugar.
Speaker 9 (18:34):
She's nine months old, so like there's.
Speaker 8 (18:35):
Battles and like I think my mom's a little confused
of whose baby this thing is.
Speaker 9 (18:40):
Right, it dropped her off, it gave her a cookie. Yeah,
that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 8 (18:44):
It's like, I don't know, like it's hard because like, yeah,
if you want the help, especially if it's free help,
you know, I can't be like too picky about that.
But there are boundaries you have to set as a parent,
especially like you know, my mom hasn't raised a kid
in thirty years, so things are different, Mom, Like they
just don't you know they are if I know, they're
gonna be like, well but you survived barely, but yes,
these are barely by hanging my thread.
Speaker 9 (19:06):
But no, I mean definitely it's not easy.
Speaker 8 (19:07):
And I give it all to the village because I
like really welcome people, like you know, friends, you guys
obviously are all there for us too, And it's like
to me, like that's the biggest blessing that my daughter
gets to grow up in. And also another part is
like my baby, I feel like is an easy baby.
And I say that because I feel like I see
you know, other videos or other people talk about their babies,
and they can go so many different ways, right, Like
(19:29):
there's babies who cry twenty four to seven when they're
born because of colic or whatever it might be, right,
Like Gigi didn't have that, But there's other babies who
don't sleep, they don't nap. So it's like everyone's journey
is mad different because of every little part, right, like
the baby who your support system?
Speaker 9 (19:43):
You know, what you do for a living. Some people,
you know, stay at home, some people work. It's a lot.
It's a lot, man.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Yeah, and don't get me started on them. This is
a whole different tangent. But don't get me started on
the if you don't get married and don't have kids,
that you're selfish because like you talk about being selfish before,
I am selfish and very selfish. I am a selfish well,
but you you moderate because you you also do a
good job.
Speaker 9 (20:05):
With you know, well, of course baby's number one.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Baby and you know, your relationship whatever.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
But like, like I don't have any of that, so
like why the fuck wouldn't I be? So Like I'm
not selfish with my family, I'm not selfish with my friends,
but like, what what do you what do you What
am I supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (20:22):
You know?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I think the wrong thing to do would be what
a lot of people do, my father have a couple
of kids, but then still do whatever the fuck you
want and be selfish and then when that backfire is
on you and then just hit a race and start
over again. And I don't mean I'm not trying to
like make it dark. I'm just saying, like, to me,
that's selfish. But when you're on your own and you
live alone, and you don't have a spouse and you
(20:43):
don't have a child, then what am I supposed to do?
Am I supposed to start knocking on doors and asking
people if they want me to watch their kid, or
like if I can clean their house or some fucking
shit like I don't, I don't know. And obviously it's
a it's a pain point for me because I think
there are people that look at it like, well, you
don't do any of this because you don't you know,
and you can't possibly understand because you know you're selfish.
It's like, well, yeah, I mean I am, but it
(21:05):
doesn't mean I'm i'man capable of not being that way.
But how am I supposed to be it's it's I
only have to worry about me.
Speaker 8 (21:12):
I see nothing wrong with being selfish. And that's what
the big argument about, Like why women don't want to
have kids because they're like, it's selfish with me, but
like I don't want to give up my time, right,
Like one thing that I missed personally is just like
bed rotting or rotting on the couch.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
Oh god, I'm an expert and I have a PhD.
Speaker 6 (21:27):
Seriously, I used to get turned over by like a
bunch of nurses. They have to come to my room.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Yeah you have those two. Yeah, yeah, no, I have
the same thing.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I'm not getting up though. They just got a rotat.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Oh no, they just come over. They wash my ass
and roll me over.
Speaker 6 (21:40):
Yeah, okay, Well, Paulina clorox my ass this morning, So
I did mine?
Speaker 3 (21:43):
Is mine as queaky?
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Oh that's nice.
Speaker 8 (21:45):
Yeah that sounds like a yeah, clean up my girl?
Like she sat in clarox and I feel really bad
about it. But her pants look great though, I've been
looking at her ass and pants look great.
Speaker 9 (21:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
No, except for a big white spec No, no, what's that?
Speaker 1 (22:03):
All right? Guys, we'll hear we're one for one on
the tange. So we did that.
Speaker 9 (22:06):
We did something.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Wow, we did something. We did It's been a day.
It's been a day, hey, But here's what I can say.
It wasn't you know, whatever fucked up, wasn't it within
our control. So you know, a lot of times we
fuck it. I'll be the first to admit when I
FuG it, I pushed it round button all the time.
But today there were there were no buttons to push
because we forgot to pay the electricity bill. Apparently, no,
we forgot to pay the Yeah, the Wi Fi bill.
(22:28):
So that's you know, not important for a multimedia company.
But anyway, Yeah, guys, first tange of twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
What year is it? What days? And I don't know.
Thanks for listening. Have a good day.
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