March 6, 2024 • 7 mins
Maya and Tom met on the apps and went out on a date that she said went well, they talked for a while after the date, but then he disappeared. Now he's not responding! Listen to find out why Maya got ghosted!
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(00:02):
He's ever been left waiting by thephone. It's the Fred Show. Hey
Maya, good morning, Welcome tothe program. How are you. I'm
doing all right? How are you? We're doing okay as well. Thanks
for calling and being part of waitingby the phone. So we're trying to
figure out what you may have beenghosted by this guy named Tom. So
tell us about Tom. Uh,you know, how did you guys meet?
(00:24):
We want to know about any datesthat you've been on and then where
things are now? Yeah? Sowe we met on a dating app and
is there any other way? Isthere any other way? People don't you
don't you don't you know, don'tfeel like it. We can't be walking
up to people in the wild.We can't do it. But yeah,
so you met on the app.Then what Yeah, he asked for my
number. We ended up going outand it felt like a perfect birthday for
(00:48):
that. We have so much incommon, like there was never a dull
moment. We even ended up leavinghaving like inside jokes would be at the
end of the night. So itreally couldn't have couldn't have gone better after
just one date. You don't sayyeah, and so you know, I
know that we had fun, wewere talking a bunch after the date,
and then suddenly, without a trigger, seemingly, he goes silent. So
(01:15):
I my first thought is that there'sanother girl in the picture. So okay,
all right, because I would liketo know it's just very strange.
Well, what happens sometimes is peoplego on the date and then they never
hear from the person again. Butyou're saying you win on the date,
and you even communicated after the date, and then he goes exactly exactly Okay,
(01:36):
all right, Well that's where wecan and we're gonna call this guy
Tom see if we can get himon the phone and ask these questions for
you, And you're welcome and jumpin at some point after we get you
the info. But the hope isthat we can figure out what's going on
and then straighten everything out and setyou guys up on another date that we
pay for. So good, that'dbe awesome. All right, good,
I'm gonna play one song back inlike two minutes, Stay right there,
Maya, let's see what's going onPart two of Waiting on the phone right
(01:57):
after Tate McCrae. In two minutes, Fred shows Tay McCray x. His
frend show is on the radio andthe iHeart app as well. Search for
the frend Show anytime. Hey Maya. Yeah, all right, welcome back.
Let's call Tom. You guys meton one of the dating apps.
You had a great time on yourdate. You went out. You know
by the end of it, you'remaking inside jokes. The communication was really
good. You even talked a littlebit after the date, uh, you
(02:19):
know, texted or called or whatever. But then he's gone missing. So
it wasn't like he ghosted you immediatelyafter the date. You talked a little
bit, but then he ghosted,and that's confusing. You want to know
why? Yeah, exactly. Allright, let's call him now. Good
luck, Maya. Thanks? Hiis this Tom? Yeah, this is
(02:44):
hey Tom. Good morning. Myname is Fred. I'm calling from the
Friend Show, the morning radio show, and I have to tell you that
we are on the radio right nowand I would need your permission to continue
with the calls. That okay ifwe chat for just a second. Yeah,
that's fine. Okay, Well,thank you so much. I'll get
right to it. We're calling onbehalf of a woman named Maya who says
that she met you on one ofthe dating apps, and you guys recently
(03:04):
went on a date. Do youremember meeting her? Yeah? Yeah,
I couldn't forget her. Yeah,you couldn't forget her. All right,
Well, here's what we know isthat she reached out to us and said
that you guys had chatted on theapp and then you went on a date
that she thought went really well,and that you chatted a little bit after
the date too, and then youdisappeared. So what's your version of events?
What happened? You know, Yeah, she's fun, she's cool.
(03:32):
You know, we had a gooddate. But I think just after the
date our communication just got a littleintense. So okay, what does that
mean? So what happened? Everythingwas great throughout the date, leaving the
date, you felt good, andthen something happened in the communication. What
does that mean? Yeah, Imean you know, so, yeah,
we had a good date, wehad fun. You know, we kind
(03:53):
of messaged and talked about maybe meetingup in the future, and she started
sending you know, text messages andvideos and memes and tiktoks and which is
you know cool. I do theapps to all that, and I have
social media, but it was justexcessive. Well, what do you mean,
(04:13):
like like NonStop basically like it was. It was just non stop texting,
but a lot of it was kindof jug like content and not necessarily
tell you anything. Yeah, itwasn't even really uness anymore. It was
just you know, she's just sendingme funny you know memes and videos and
tiktoks and all that, and likeit was just it was to the point
where I couldn't keep up with allof it and there wasn't even anything about
(04:36):
our relationship or you know, talking, and it's got too much for me
and I, you know, Ihad to back out. So she's like,
look at this guy falling ha haha, And you're like, I'm
in the middle of a meeting,Like, I guess that's to do exactly.
Yeah, I'm at work and I'mgetting thirty messages of just funny you
know, cat meme. I'm noteven a cat person. Okay, So
(04:56):
it became a little bit excessive.Now, you probably could have just said,
hey, hey, you know what, like I'd love to talk to
you later or hang out agammut,like I don't I can't really respond to
all of this or something. Imean, maybe there's there's a way to.
I mean, do we have tojust eliminate this person because of that?
I did, but I think shegot lost in all the messages I
said, like, hey, I'mat work, you know, I'll talk
to you later. And I thinkshe missed it because of how many she
(05:17):
sent. Yeah, Maya, didyou did you miss the part between the
cat videos of him saying, Hey, I can't respond to all this like
it's a little bit much. Didyou miss I'm sorry I forgot to mention
that Maya's here. I'm so forgetfulTom Maya. Yeah, I just like,
I just sun him stuff that Ithought would be funny, and he's
annoyed, like okay, air rude, Like what the heck? I mean,
(05:40):
Tom, this is personally curated contentjust for you. This is me
and Paulina ye Glitter and Rufeo andme and Kaylin. But I will say
Rufo does get a little bit offendedwhen I don't acknowledge the stuff that he
has sent to me. I getmore offended when I send you something I
think it's hilarious, you don't seeit. Two days later you sent me
the same thing I just said.Doesn't that mean that we both have the
(06:03):
same sensibility, and we know eachother well, see the video the first
time. So you're so upset thatI wouldn't go and read all of your
messages first, But I just Ijust watched the videos first. But I
thought of you, and you thoughtof me. It's serendipitous. Yeah,
okay, you know what time,I'm starting to understand what you just making.
(06:24):
I mean, Maya looks so hefeels like the communication got a little
bit crazy. Like it's like,okay, I got I can't follow all
this. I don't have time.Yeah all right, I don't know,
kind of rude, oh, liketrying to make I was just trying to
make a connection and be funny andyeah, and he's like annoyed by my
okay whatever. All right. Well, look so Tom, if if Maya
(06:46):
word has sort of pumped the brakeson the on all the texting, then
would you consider another date with her? Honestly, I don't know. I
mean it was nice, she's cool, but I don't know if it's gonna
work. Wow. Also, hey, by the way, none of the
videos that we were actually funny,So now see how that is. That's
a low blow. It's not verynice. However, I will say,
(07:08):
if someone's sending me a bunch oflike cheeseball stuff all day and I'm not
cheeseball, which I'm not on purpose, then I might be like, do
we even have the same sense ofhumor? Now? I don't know that
I would not go out with youagain if I thought we had a great
date. But I don't know.He says you're not funny? Yeah,
whatever? In what we're gonna say, Ruville, that's a relationship, and
(07:28):
you get into a relationship. That'sall it is is texting funny memes and
videos with each other all day.Oh can't wait me up? Okay,
Well, if that's all it is, that I'm dating Jason and I'm dating
all of you, which I kindof am, so whatever, all right,
Look, so Tom's not interested inmy I don't think you are anymore
(07:48):
either, So look, I'm sorryI didn't work out. Guys. Best
of luck to both of you.Thank you so much, Thank you.
He's ever been left waiting by thephone. It's the Fred Show. Hey
Maya, good morning, Welcome tothe program. How are you. I'm
doing all right? How are you? We're doing okay as well. Thanks
for calling and being part of waitingby the phone. So we're trying to
figure out what you may have beenghosted by this guy named Tom. So
tell us about Tom. Uh,you know, how did you guys meet?
(00:24):
We want to know about any datesthat you've been on and then where
things are now? Yeah? Sowe we met on a dating app and
is there any other way? Isthere any other way? People don't you
don't you don't you know, don'tfeel like it. We can't be walking
up to people in the wild.We can't do it. But yeah,
so you met on the app.Then what Yeah, he asked for my
number. We ended up going outand it felt like a perfect birthday for
(00:48):
that. We have so much incommon, like there was never a dull
moment. We even ended up leavinghaving like inside jokes would be at the
end of the night. So itreally couldn't have couldn't have gone better after
just one date. You don't sayyeah, and so you know, I
know that we had fun, wewere talking a bunch after the date,
and then suddenly, without a trigger, seemingly, he goes silent. So
(01:15):
I my first thought is that there'sanother girl in the picture. So okay,
all right, because I would liketo know it's just very strange.
Well, what happens sometimes is peoplego on the date and then they never
hear from the person again. Butyou're saying you win on the date,
and you even communicated after the date, and then he goes exactly exactly Okay,
(01:36):
all right, Well that's where wecan and we're gonna call this guy
Tom see if we can get himon the phone and ask these questions for
you, And you're welcome and jumpin at some point after we get you
the info. But the hope isthat we can figure out what's going on
and then straighten everything out and setyou guys up on another date that we
pay for. So good, that'dbe awesome. All right, good,
I'm gonna play one song back inlike two minutes, Stay right there,
Maya, let's see what's going onPart two of Waiting on the phone right
(01:57):
after Tate McCrae. In two minutes, Fred shows Tay McCray x. His
frend show is on the radio andthe iHeart app as well. Search for
the frend Show anytime. Hey Maya. Yeah, all right, welcome back.
Let's call Tom. You guys meton one of the dating apps.
You had a great time on yourdate. You went out. You know
by the end of it, you'remaking inside jokes. The communication was really
good. You even talked a littlebit after the date, uh, you
(02:19):
know, texted or called or whatever. But then he's gone missing. So
it wasn't like he ghosted you immediatelyafter the date. You talked a little
bit, but then he ghosted,and that's confusing. You want to know
why? Yeah, exactly. Allright, let's call him now. Good
luck, Maya. Thanks? Hiis this Tom? Yeah, this is
(02:44):
hey Tom. Good morning. Myname is Fred. I'm calling from the
Friend Show, the morning radio show, and I have to tell you that
we are on the radio right nowand I would need your permission to continue
with the calls. That okay ifwe chat for just a second. Yeah,
that's fine. Okay, Well,thank you so much. I'll get
right to it. We're calling onbehalf of a woman named Maya who says
that she met you on one ofthe dating apps, and you guys recently
(03:04):
went on a date. Do youremember meeting her? Yeah? Yeah,
I couldn't forget her. Yeah,you couldn't forget her. All right,
Well, here's what we know isthat she reached out to us and said
that you guys had chatted on theapp and then you went on a date
that she thought went really well,and that you chatted a little bit after
the date too, and then youdisappeared. So what's your version of events?
What happened? You know, Yeah, she's fun, she's cool.
(03:32):
You know, we had a gooddate. But I think just after the
date our communication just got a littleintense. So okay, what does that
mean? So what happened? Everythingwas great throughout the date, leaving the
date, you felt good, andthen something happened in the communication. What
does that mean? Yeah, Imean you know, so, yeah,
we had a good date, wehad fun. You know, we kind
(03:53):
of messaged and talked about maybe meetingup in the future, and she started
sending you know, text messages andvideos and memes and tiktoks and which is
you know cool. I do theapps to all that, and I have
social media, but it was justexcessive. Well, what do you mean,
(04:13):
like like NonStop basically like it was. It was just non stop texting,
but a lot of it was kindof jug like content and not necessarily
tell you anything. Yeah, itwasn't even really uness anymore. It was
just you know, she's just sendingme funny you know memes and videos and
tiktoks and all that, and likeit was just it was to the point
where I couldn't keep up with allof it and there wasn't even anything about
(04:36):
our relationship or you know, talking, and it's got too much for me
and I, you know, Ihad to back out. So she's like,
look at this guy falling ha haha, And you're like, I'm
in the middle of a meeting,Like, I guess that's to do exactly.
Yeah, I'm at work and I'mgetting thirty messages of just funny you
know, cat meme. I'm noteven a cat person. Okay, So
(04:56):
it became a little bit excessive.Now, you probably could have just said,
hey, hey, you know what, like I'd love to talk to
you later or hang out agammut,like I don't I can't really respond to
all of this or something. Imean, maybe there's there's a way to.
I mean, do we have tojust eliminate this person because of that?
I did, but I think shegot lost in all the messages I
said, like, hey, I'mat work, you know, I'll talk
to you later. And I thinkshe missed it because of how many she
(05:17):
sent. Yeah, Maya, didyou did you miss the part between the
cat videos of him saying, Hey, I can't respond to all this like
it's a little bit much. Didyou miss I'm sorry I forgot to mention
that Maya's here. I'm so forgetfulTom Maya. Yeah, I just like,
I just sun him stuff that Ithought would be funny, and he's
annoyed, like okay, air rude, Like what the heck? I mean,
(05:40):
Tom, this is personally curated contentjust for you. This is me
and Paulina ye Glitter and Rufeo andme and Kaylin. But I will say
Rufo does get a little bit offendedwhen I don't acknowledge the stuff that he
has sent to me. I getmore offended when I send you something I
think it's hilarious, you don't seeit. Two days later you sent me
the same thing I just said.Doesn't that mean that we both have the
(06:03):
same sensibility, and we know eachother well, see the video the first
time. So you're so upset thatI wouldn't go and read all of your
messages first, But I just Ijust watched the videos first. But I
thought of you, and you thoughtof me. It's serendipitous. Yeah,
okay, you know what time,I'm starting to understand what you just making.
(06:24):
I mean, Maya looks so hefeels like the communication got a little
bit crazy. Like it's like,okay, I got I can't follow all
this. I don't have time.Yeah all right, I don't know,
kind of rude, oh, liketrying to make I was just trying to
make a connection and be funny andyeah, and he's like annoyed by my
okay whatever. All right. Well, look so Tom, if if Maya
(06:46):
word has sort of pumped the brakeson the on all the texting, then
would you consider another date with her? Honestly, I don't know. I
mean it was nice, she's cool, but I don't know if it's gonna
work. Wow. Also, hey, by the way, none of the
videos that we were actually funny,So now see how that is. That's
a low blow. It's not verynice. However, I will say,
(07:08):
if someone's sending me a bunch oflike cheeseball stuff all day and I'm not
cheeseball, which I'm not on purpose, then I might be like, do
we even have the same sense ofhumor? Now? I don't know that
I would not go out with youagain if I thought we had a great
date. But I don't know.He says you're not funny? Yeah,
whatever? In what we're gonna say, Ruville, that's a relationship, and
(07:28):
you get into a relationship. That'sall it is is texting funny memes and
videos with each other all day.Oh can't wait me up? Okay,
Well, if that's all it is, that I'm dating Jason and I'm dating
all of you, which I kindof am, so whatever, all right,
Look, so Tom's not interested inmy I don't think you are anymore
(07:48):
either, So look, I'm sorryI didn't work out. Guys. Best
of luck to both of you.Thank you so much, Thank you.
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