March 27, 2024 • 40 mins
Sisanie is gearing up for a BIG BIRTHDAY this weekend and shares the plans she has to ring in a new decade! Plus she shares how old she really feels, discusses the "bottle night" trend she tried with her husband Michael and of course she and Erica discuss some of the biggest news stories of the week from Kate Middleton to momfluencers.
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So then I said, what aboutbreakfast at Siceny's. Well, that's one
thing. We got time to sitback, relax and indulge in your weekly
tea. Welcome to breakfast at Sicins. Well we are back hi at Sisney
and Erica, and a lot's goingon. We were just discussing that lot
is going on. Yes, Ifeel like it's been a NonStop hence no
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show last week that was on me. Yeah, you know what happens and
it does you know, Yeah,I wone throw you into the bus,
but yeah, we wouldn't throw youon the bus, but absolutely, Oh
I know. So here we areand I also we both have plans this
weekend, so we're trying to kindof organize everything and make sure that we're
packed and ready to go. I'mactually looking for a new suitcase. Oh
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you have the away, right,I have an Away look like and Away
look Alive. Yeah. So oneof my girlfriends has the away and she
was telling me like, it's thebest. This is not a commercial at
all. By the way, I'mjust like genuinely curious because we're going to
be going to Europe this summer andMichael and I are not going to take
any we're not going to check inany of our luggage, and so,
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wow, you're going to do carryon to Europe? Yes, for two
weeks almost? How are you goingto have access to a washer and dryer?
Uh no, I mean I havedone this before. I backpacked through
Europe for almost three weeks with justa backpack. Honestly shocking to me.
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No offense, just not really whatI would pit you as. This is
like I this is before I evenmet Michael. I was like probably twenty
three with my girlfriend. It wasjust the two of us. Oh my
gosh, it was so much fun. Oh my gosh, Brazilians. And
always tell Michael about the Brazilians.Oh he knows, he knows. So
anyways, Uh, we're trying.It's because because we're gonna be going from
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so many we're taking little flights,like from Italy to then Greece and then
Greece, and so it's just likeit's just a lot. And if I
can really just have like my littlerollie and then like a bag that I
can put on top of it andjust move on, that's the That's what
I'm looking for. But you needto have the international sized carry on,
not the Domestic carry on is thatsmaller. International is a little bit smaller,
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a few inches on each side.So how you looked into base the
brand. I love Bass because that'sthe actual the duffel, like the Weekender.
I have that one, and that'sthe one I'm probably gonna put on
top of it. And this islike turn into a podcast about like age,
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you know, for us, we'llget to we'll get to interesting things
that are happening in the world rightnow, like you know, the Cape
Middleton situation, this whole story aboutmom influencers. I need to touch base
on. Okay, Okay, Sothat being said, yes, the International
carry On is a little bit smaller. And I did look at Bass and
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I read mixed reviews, which nowI'm like, I'm not getting a base,
right, Okay, okay, somethingabout like that seems like the zippers
won't hold. I mean, Iget it's always like great reviews, one
bad review, and it's like that'swhat poisons the whole pond, right,
yeah, I am. I amlike, so that'll do it for me,
Like if I read that one badreview, I'm just like, Nope,
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well of course I will say I'veheard almost no bad things about a
way. And I have indeither,and I have a girlfriend who's had it
for like six years. She's hadhers, and she's like, no issues
and it looks pretty in good shape. She's actually checked it in a few
times, but the majority of thetime it is her carry on, and
she had nothing but great things tosay about away. So I was like,
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all right, maybe I do that. Okay. Can I just say
you are packing a carry on fortwo weeks? Two weeks, okay?
I am currently trying to pack forfour and a half days, and I'm
like, we're gonna have to checka bag. I am literally so insane
that I'm like, I'm gonna haveto check a bag. So you are
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a better person than I am.I think vacation that is different. Like
you're going for like your sister's weddingthis weekend, and so yes, there's
like a lot of more like verytailored probably events and different shoes you have
to wear with that outfit versus thatoutfit. So all of that stuff takes
up space. But I think,like we're gonna just be lounging and it's
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gonna be like bikinis and sorongs andand just kind of yeah, I mean
sneaks for walking over a couple acouple of sun dresses, you know.
Okay, Okay, I get Ifeel like it's gonna be more that vibe
than that I need to have liketailored looks for like every single day,
Like we're different than different shoes ordifferent like you know, I just feel
like all that kind of gets itmessy. But you know, we'll see
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because I'm also I'm going to Vegasfor two days this weekend and I'm pretty
sure I'm probably gonna check my back. That's what I was like, And
how is your Vegas packing going?It's different, Like we're gonna have different
heels like one night the versus theother night, and then shoes for walking
during the day and then make goto the pool but not like the weather
sucks. Oh can you talk throughthis is your birthday trip? We have
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not really talked about it on thepodcast. You've told me bits and pieces.
Yeah, I am having a milestonebirthday this weekend. It's so lovingly
landed on Easter Sunday, so lovingyay me. No, nothing screams your
fortieth like of Easter birthday. SoI was like, cool, how can
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we make this sexy. Yeah,so we are going to be in Vegas
for the majority of the weekend.We come back home on Easter Sunday hashtag
my birthday right, and everything iskind of basically not like set in Stone,
but like planned, reserved, whateverit may be. You know,
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it's much different because I did mythirtieth in vague and did you? I
did? Remember you didn't come andI also pissed and I wasn't you.
I wasn't here. Yeah, wedidn't know each other. I started and
started. You started working with thatJanuary. I'm confusing you with whatever other
friends, so it was not yet. I'm sorry, you're both blonde.
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You were like just trying to figureout who I'm talking about. I think
I know, but okay, okay, So what was your thirtieth like compared
to what this is going to belike? I mean, it was more
like, oh my gosh, Iwant to just not stop partying. Like
it's like back to back this thispoll party into that into this. I
didn't even think we sat. Idon't even think we went out to dinner,
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to be honest. In my thirtieth, like there was like no food.
So what did you eat? Likewhat. Everybody just was on their
own and we just kept the partygoing. Every man for himself. When
it comes to eating mid yeah,you just need one meal and it's like
at two am, and then youjust rally the next day. That was
kind of what the if you hadto sum up my thirtieth. Now this
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is a little bit different, Likewe're gonna land, Michael and I are
gonna go do a spa treatment andthen you know, we're gonna have welcome
drinks in our suite for all ofour friends to come over, and then
we're gonna go down and have anice dinner at one of the restaurants in
the hotel and then hilarious, andthen we're gonna go We actually are gonna
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go to a club Friday night andsee Cascade. Okay, it's such a
on brand DJ for me and myage. What club is Cascade Resort Resorts
World? You know Cascade? Anyways, I know the name, I don't
know the songs. We'll just leaveit at that. Yeah. So then
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this is where it gets all likepoo pooye because Saturday and I didn't want
to do like a big old likepool party, no, because they's just
like I won't make it like backin the day, I could rally it
all day and then rally And sowhat I want is like chill vibes.
You know, maybe rent but weare renting a cabana and we'll just like
it's just be like just hanging outby the pane as long as you wish
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going. You want to go gamble, do your own lunch, come back,
We'll have food, We'll have drinkshere. We're like, we're just
gonna park it here for five hours. Well, the weather is putting a
big old monkey wrench in my plants. What's it look like right now?
It's saying that it's like a fortypercent chance of rain and like sixty two
degrees not not fun pool vibes.No, I'm looking it up right now.
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I know it's definitely raining in Laat weekend, like that's for sure.
And so when I saw that,I was like, oh, And
then I looked at Vegas and Iwas like, damn, okay, okay,
rain starts right around noon, goesuntil the evening. It's a buzz
kills at the end of the world. Look, all we want to do
is just like day, drink andbe chill. And somewhere maybe around music
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or whatever. So now we're talkingaround different ideas of like what we could
do. Yeah, but you knowthis is like first class problems, Like
oh, for sure, it's problemstrying to second also first class problems.
A second uh dinner on Saturday night. Yeah, so then we have dinner,
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We have dinner, and then wehave another club that's at the hotel
so we don't have to like goanywhere. Love it, okay, so
it's fine, and then we leaveSunday morning. I actually and maybe this
is like against what you're supposed todo, but I was like, you
know what, screw it, LikeI want to be there for the kids
experiencing their Easter egg baskets and likeall of that because it's just so fun.
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So originally I was gonna leave everythingprepared for my mom and our nanny
who's going to be staying at ourhouse, and just have them do it
Easter sundaycause we wouldn't be there UNTIprobably like one o'clock, okay. And
so last weekend, because it waslike essentially the kickoff to their spring break,
I was talking to Michael, waslike, what if the Easter Bunny
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comes tonight. What if? Andit was like, no difference, We're
just gonna be here all day Sunday. No, they know, the twins
know. And so I was justlike and so we like we we did
like a whole like wish ceremony forthe Easter Bunny to come early. And
I had like all the kids beinglike, you have to say, Easter
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Bunny, I wish that you cometomorrow, and then they all have to
say it three times, and sothey all said it and then and now
they have to eat this magic cookie. And then they had gave him like
a little cookie, like even thoselittle cookies from Trader Jokes. What the
heck? Your kind of grow upbeing like well, and then you make
the Easter Bunny wish and everyone's likewhat they already cut of? Were like
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a dance class on Monday. Shewas like, the Easter Buddy came early
at my house. Oh oh,I didn't think about it. I was
like, this is not gonna bean issue because they're not gonna see any
kids at school before Easter. Likeit's fine. I didn't think about dance
class. So now all our danceclass friends are like the Easter Buddy came
early at days house. They're like, Mommy, why isn't the eester Bunny
coming early at our house? Youknow what, whatever I had to do,
what for me? You make itwork. It's your fortieth birthday,
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You get to do whatever you want. The Easter Rebunny grants wishes for that
way, damn it to hell.So we had a very nice easter,
a fake easter feaster, uh thispast Sunday, And it was nice because,
you know what, the sun wasshining and there was no rain,
and it was what an easter shouldbe. Because this easter that's coming up
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is definitely ain't it. It's likethunderstorms and gonna be raining all weekend.
What are you guys gonna do onSunday? Now? I think we're just
gonna hide the eggs. So thatwas like I was gonna help. Like
when we get back then we'll stilldo an easter a hunt with them,
and so that kind of just stillsolidifies it bookends, you know, the
whole You get a whole Easter weekand uh, now it's gonna be raining.
So I'm like, well, wehave to just hide him in the
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house. Oh do you remember thoseyears growing up with the Easter bunny had
to get in the house because honestly, it was just horrifying, like a
giant bunny in my house. Idon't think so. They really do ask
a lot of questions like well,like where did they come in? And
then like Maxton was like where arethe footprints? And I was like he
didn't leave Princess year wow, AndI was like, I forgot the foot
the footprints? Did you guys dolike the Leprechaun thing? No, it's
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that I'm just sneeze too. Ohbless you here it is twice? Okay,
okay, carry on your Leprechaun.Well, I guess you did Easter
on Saint Patrick's Day? So no, you didn't do like the Leprechawn coming
and leaving green footprints. Wait,why would the Easter bunny? Oh my
god, I was seizing it.Oh why would the Easter bunny come on
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Saint Patrick's Say? Well, no, I'm saying yours did? I'm confused?
Am I wrong? Oh? Yeah? A week off. I don't
know where I am or who Iam anymore. I am simply a woman
attending a wedding this weekend. AndIra, are you like doing any duties
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for your sister, you made ofhonor? Are you like a bridesmaid?
Or what's the vibe? She's nothaving a bridal party. This is actually
her second wedding, so I don'tthink she cares if I say that.
So she was like, we're notdoing We're not doing a party like you
get to pick out your own dresses. We're still getting ready with her and
my sister and I are doing aspeech the night before, and then she
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and her fiance have this one friendthey both worked with before they even knew
each other, and they're going togive a speech at the wedding. So
honestly, love it. Way chiller. We don't get our hair makeup done
at like six am like you oftendo when you're in a wedding, and
we get to do all the funstuff. So and we still get to
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walk down the aisle and my boyfriendgets walked down the aisle like lucky man.
Just really miss family. Yeah,she's just like having all the like
couples in the family walk down theaisle. That's cool. I like that
vibe. It's gonna be cute.I'm really excited. How could we give
me rethink? Oh oh girl?As of two days ago, we were
in a lot of panicked texts becausethere was chance of rain right when the
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ceremony and dinner. We're supposed tobe outside clear as day now, so
we're gonna say that's gonna stick.Okay, just getting married in Scottsdale,
yeah, yeah, So it's notthat far from Vegas, so right,
so hopefully everything's shifting, yeah,in the good way. I meaning,
like because earlier today it said therain was gonna be gone on Saturday,
and I was like, okay,great, it just looks overcast. And
then then it came back and Iwas like, why are you doing this
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to me? Send the rain fivehours north to Salt Lake City. I
won't be here. It's fine.I don't know why. Like I it
doesn't really like affect my mood perse. And I'm sitting here like kind
of just like jokingly venting about it. Yeah, because this happens all the
time. For my birthday, andthis is exactly why I didn't want to
do like a big party we weretalking about, like there was like talks
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earlier in the year, but maybelike we had a connection with somebody that
like runs the Houdini mansion here andI, and I was like, that's
like all outdoor, and it's justyou know what, if like we would
have planned this entire event and thenit's just dumping rain, right, that
would chill? Yeah? I did. Like one year I did a pool
party at the Roosevelt Hotel and itwas just raining, just out there and
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we didn't even have a band.I was just lounge chairs and bottles and
it was in the rain. Yeah, how do you feel about this birthday?
I think that it's like I hatethat we as women generally are like
if you don't mind sharing your age, and I'm a little bit like who
cares? I never really mind.I don't mind sharing my age. Still
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I'm like proud of the age thatI'm doing. And yeah, like I
I enjoy birthday parties. I enjoyall of that, and I don't feel
like I'm turning forty. I don'tknow what what the definition of turning forty
is, but uh, I guesslike when I was a little girl and
I looked up to someone that waslike forty or like my mom like was
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in her forties when I was inelementary school, and so I always thought
that was just like so old.But like she like, my sister's eight
years older than me, and shedoesn't seem like she's about to be fifty
in a couple of years. Likeit's just true, Like at all,
I feel like I'm stuck at likethirty ish and and I'm okay with that
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for the time being. But it'sjust thirty ish, I do. But
then I'm like, what's gonna happenin another decade? Like do I look
back? And then when I'm turningfifty, it's going to be like if
you forty, I don't know.So as far as that goes, like
I'm if you had to like ona scale of one to ten, on
a ten, on a scale ofone to ten, I'm turning country.
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On a scale of one to ten, I would say that I feel like
a nine of excitement for turning.Oh that's great, And I think the
only reason it's not a ten isbecause, uh, there is a sliver
of the unknown of what this nextdecade is going to bring, and I
hope that it's like the unknown forreally great reasons, you know. But
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then there's like that cynical part ofme that's like, what if some shit
goes down? So that's well,I think that I'm a little concerned by
that, but I think that thethe what if some shit goes down feeling
is like no matter how old youare, like anything could happen. This
is yeah, And that's I'm bringingthis up because of like the Cape Middleton
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situation for example, Okay, youknow what I mean. Like that is
someone who is kind of in mywheelhouse of age, give or take.
How old is she? I actuallyknow, yeah, but I feel like
she's three kids, right, obviouslythey're a little bit older, ten and
eight and five years old. She'sforty two, so she's only thank you,
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she just turned forty two, soshe's like my age. So I
look at someone like that, Ilook at I have another friend who just
like you know, lost a familymember that was like super young, and
it's just like that is where likeI'm like, that's the uncontrollable unknown that
you just don't know. Every yearyou turn older, doesn't matter, if
you're forty, doesn't matter, you'returning thirty two. I'm turning thirty one
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on Friday. I don't know ifit's like an aries thing about us or
a birthday thing. I have beenhaving that weird like random doom and gloom
feeling too, where I'm like,I'm getting older, so everyone around me
is getting older, so it's likescary, but you have so many great
things you have. You are turningsuch a fun age, like thirty run
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is epic, like this is Yourthirties in general are super fun. But
then I hear from everyone. Ihear from everyone that like your forties are
when you just like really figure itout, and apparently they're supposed to better
than your thirties. So I'm likehere for that, yes, and like
probably you are done with pregnancy.Mm hmmm, problem, there was no
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probably. I'm done so out intothe universe. I don't want to make
proclamations for you, so I'm justsaying, you know, probably, but
so now you just get to likeenjoy your kids and your family and your
dogs and your husband and yeah,and I'm excited about that era, so
to speak. And just two daysago we were at the house and you
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know, we're great training Diego andour new Dalmation puppy, and and so
he's so smart that like he doesn'twant to be in the crate, especially
if we're home. You know,he's just like what the hell. I
just beat like why do I haveto be in the crate ride now?
It's like, well, because we'reall like nobody's watching you, like we're
cooking dinner, and it's like itis what it is. So he was
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like barking like crazy, and thekids were crying about something in the playroom
and then like Saveyah ran into theliving room with like out of her shirt
on and like one sock and likeI was just like this is like this
is Henhouse, Like this is crazytimes. But we're going to look back
at these years and miss them becauseit's just that's how fast I I hear
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that it goes. But even justthe twins turning six this year, I
remember when they were two years oldand it seems like it was yesterday.
No, I remember when they werenewborns, and it feels like it was
yesterday. It's crazy. I thinkthat's been nearly six years. I know,
I remember this. So like thistime six years ago, rh and
you were real pregnant, like youwere getting ready to have twins. Yeah,
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this was like I was a monthout at this point. I have
them in four weeks, little didI know, But they came. They
came four weeks early, so technicallyI had eight weeks left in my term
and I was just miserable. Pluseveryone was going to Coachella and it was
Beyonce was there and it was sosad. That is so sad, and
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I watch it and I watched itfrom my couch and I was like,
whoa wow, big old belly.But anyways, you know, back to
Cape Middleton and this whole situation,I like, it just goes to show
like how messed up the world isand how you never know what's happening behind
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closed doors, and for the amountof conspiracy theories and look and we were
I was guilty of bringing it uphere too, because it was just so
intriguing, how just how many theoriesthere were. That's crazy interesting where TikTok
was going with it at that time. And then like another couple of weeks
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went on and it kind of startedto feel like, Okay, what is
going on? And it was worstcase scenario. I would say, I
think so too, And I alwaysthought that in the back of my head,
and I was like, we're goingto find out that it's going to
be something bad and everyone's gonna feelbad for you. Know, speculating the
world or all these other theories andstuff like that. So if you don't
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know, it has come out thatKate Middleton during her abdominal surgery that she
had, but back in December.It was in early January, early January,
So this is what she told usin the video, and as of
now she's undergoing preventive chemotherapy. ButI don't think that is something that she
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was ready to come out and tellthe world or do that video right right
now. And the fact that shewas forced to speak her truth sooner than
she wanted to, even like,you know, figure it out with her
family, fagure out how she's tellingher children who are ten and like all
the way down to five years old. Right, It's it's just like disgusting
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how the world can be so cruel, I guess, even if they're trying
to be in a joking matter,right, But I think the worst part
is that everyone was like convinced likehe's having an affair coming out all of
that, and it's like, inhindsight, regardless a lot of people say
that there is proof of that.Regardless of that his wife still is going
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through now cancer and chemotherapy, andthere's the kids and they're like public image
to look at and it's a lotand his dat is sick too. Anyways,
it's awful. Let that be alesson for the world. I guess
just chill, chill not, don'tjump to conclusions. Yeah, I mean,
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I know it's tough because they're likethe most in the public eye couple
and family overall, and that's whyit's, you know, so magnified,
and everybody just wants a piece ofthe knowledge of like what's happenings, let
us in your world. But whenit's personal like this, it's like nobody
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ever should have to feel like theyhave to come forward and explain themselves because
of a medical illness. Right well, and did you see that It was
like some of her medical records werein a data leak, and I think
that's why she announced it. Whenshe did, it was so messed up,
awful. Yeah, it truly isit wash her very speedy recovery obviously.
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Yeah. Still confused about the weekendvideo of them in the farmer's market
though, you know, saying wasthat her was it high? I don't
know, were they trying to getpeople off the deal? And then it
just made it worse. Maybe yeah, I guess. Okay, So a
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study came out that showed mom fluencersmake other moms feel like they aren't doing
anything good or good enough right things. I'm saw me thoughts on this.
I was reading this and it Iwas like, Wow, I guess it
does kind of take over my lifea little bit. Social media, obviously,
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is just like a constant thing thatwe're I would say, we're all
addicted to it. And so whenyou see your and I follow a lot
of influencers, and I would thinkthat maybe some of you follow me for
the exact same reason, right,So I hope that I never come off
in a sense that I'm like tryingto to make someone feel bad about the
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way they parent, because you think, like, oh, I just want
to I want to show you thisproduct or I want to show you how
great this is in my life andmaybe you maybe it'll benefit you down the
road or whatever it may be.But I think like these mom influencers that
we're kind of magnifying right now islike the ones that like show you how
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easy it is to make like lunchwith all these little cutouts, and you
know how you know, I makea bubble bath with for my daughter every
Thursday, and I put you know, her iPad there and whatever in candles
and pink bath bombs, right ofcourse, Yeah, I don't know.
That's what I'm kind of thinking.The ones who are like, I don't
know what anyone is talking about.You know, my baby slept through the
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night at three weeks old. AndI think that's the stuff where it's like
it's so perfect that it makes otherparents who like you just described a few
moments ago, the kids are cryingass or surveys running around half dressed,
die goes barking like that's reality.And I do feel like you put that
more out there than some of theselike perfect moms who are always like baking
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and all these things. I thinkjust social media has this. I mean,
look at it when it came out. It had all these filters so
like to already change your appearance oryou know whatever to your face, and
so I and there is a therewas a moment and maybe this is part
of me turning forty, like youjust don't get fuck anymore. But I
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I I would say a few yearsago, and I guess it looking back,
it's basically like almost you know,not almost like it. I guess
we got the house in twenty sixteen, but when we bought our last house,
I was so uh fixated on thefact that one it was a it
was a fixed upper in theory,but we could have probably lived in it
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and you know, been fine.But I was like, Nope, I
need a new kitchen, I neednew bathrooms, I need to do the
floors, I need to do everything, and I'm not going to do it
until I move into this house.And blah bla blah bla blah blahlah blah.
I didn't care how much it wasgoing to cost or waste this money
or or whatever that it may be, because of the fact that I knew
that I would like be filming inmy house and like, you know,
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essentially showcasing it and like it wasmy purse, it was my it was
the way I'm going to like theworld was gonna see me in my home,
you know. And I don't feelthe same way anymore. I don't
like that type of materialistic stuff isnot as important to me as like my
family's safety and health and happiness.You know what I think changed for you.
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You had three kids, you hadtwins the year after you moved into
that house and your world changed.Yeah, it's true. It was just
you and Michael that you were thinkingabout before and the dogs that you had,
right, And I was like,all, like the Q videos we're
going to do in this kitchen,and we needed to do be perfect and
used to look like a movie set. And we did do a lot of
work in that kitchen. You weren'twrong about that. But then I think
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it's like you had the twins andboy was that a whirlwind. Yeah,
and then you had another baby andit's like now you're thinking more reality based
kind of and I love that aboutyou. Yeah, Like I first of
all, I love the house thatwe bought. It is by no means
the style or decor that I wouldchoose for my home right our new home.
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Sure, And and yes, Michaeland I could figure out how to
remodel it now and like probably bepaying it back for like a few years,
But like, why put that stresson us for like no reason when
it's not that I meant that thekit everything is still working fine, it's
not ugly in my opinion, andit's just not my style. And so
(29:19):
we're just like it's just so differentnow and like before I would be like,
oh my gosh, like I can'tfilm this anything in this kitchen because
it's like the backsplash has like applesin it, like for real, I
don't know, I thought, Imean because the previous owner was a teacher.
Like it's actually maybe decent backsplash,but then there's like a random apples
like scattered throughout the backsplash, ifit makes you feel better. I don't
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think I noticed that when I wasthere, because of the same color as
the tile. It's really strange.Huh. You know there's little things well
d I why stuff here and there, But like as far as like a
full remodel, like I don't thinkthat's happening anytime soon. Plus my kids
are going to destroy it, sowait and till they are older. And
(30:02):
yeah, just like more in controlof themselves literally, like they don't like
they bang into something on like onthe constant and if it's not them,
it's me. So yeah. Anyways, my whole point to this story was
that like nothing is perfect, noone has put no matter how many times
that you've ever seen a video ofme, and like it maybe looks perfect
(30:23):
in the background, like the otherside of the lens was a complete shit
show, like it was you knowthat the rest of the house was messy
and this and that, and Iprobably told the kids to stop screaming for
five minutes while I can do thisvideo and like whatever it is. Yeah,
I think that it's more of atrend now to be more realistic about
your life, which is awesome,but at the end of the day,
(30:44):
like our social media is on somelevel a highlight reel, it's always going
to be, so take that witha grain of salt. When you follow
these like mom influencers, I evenlike, I know myself, I'll be
like, I only showed the bestmoments. Wait to have kids. There's
gonna be nothing to show. I'mgonna be like, I don't have time
for this, Like I'm ready overwhelmed. I can't show any of this.
(31:07):
I'll just be judged. No,No, I love when people show like
the real stuff, like Michael postedSaveyah rocking out to some music. The
other thing I know, you knowwhat's so funny about that is that he
asked me. He's like, hey, are you okay if I post this?
And so I watched your video,Well, that's what I said,
Erica, and I said yeah,because I'm in the background. I was
(31:30):
like, I don't care. I'msipping my red wine. I'm like,
that's reality right there. And he'slike no, because it's our daughter.
And it's like she's like, wherehave you been for the last six years?
But I was really thrown off.I'm like, yeah, I've been
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posting the kids all the time,Like I don't know what this one IDEO
would do about every video that's hilarious. I know, if I can post
their kids because they're not my own, right right, I don't. I
mean I post the kids. Idefinitely don't post as much as I used
to. I feel like I posteda lot when like the twins are babies,
since it was just like it wasliterally like a segment on the show.
(32:15):
I mean it was so exciting,like it was just you know whatever.
But life has just been too busyand so y'all just randomly, I
have none of the things. Ihave so much video on my phone that
just nobody will see except for uswhen we look back and look at videos.
Yeah, that's great, that's howshould be. That's how life was
before social media. I know,gosh, one day, one day,
(32:38):
we will get back to it.Have you tried that bottle night thing that
we talk about that yet? Huh? Have you tried bottle night yet?
This is a foreign language to me. Well, okay, so I will
I forget what shows we discuss thisstuff on. It's a show. It's
not a show. It's I'm justsaying I didn't know if I talked about
it on the morning show or onthe podcast or my own show. So
(33:00):
anyways, okay, Bottle night iswhen you and Nate will grab a bottle
of wine. Okay, and it'sin the What I was seeing on TikTok
was like you each pick out yourown bottle and that's like your bottle and
technically you're not even supposed to portingglasses. But I'm like, okay,
we're not in college. So bottleof wine one, maybe two, you
(33:22):
guys can share it. Fine.But the point is you completely detach yourself.
I mean, you go completely offthe grid. No cell phone,
no Apple watch, okay, turnyou turn off your phones essentially or put
them in another room, I don'tknow, whatever. You feel like it's
safe. You've had to get aphone call for whatever emergency reason. But
(33:43):
you essentially just camp out with eachother and just a no TV nothing basically
and you just talk. I lovethat. I know Mikel and I did
it the other night and I waslike, okay, but I still feel
like there was like apple watches andstuffasically kind of for just like we're the
kids in bed and bed yeah,okay, okay, So, like how
(34:05):
many hours is this supposed to last? I didn't just until you finish your
bottle? Oh my gosh, wellwe can. I've got a low tolerance
these days. Finish ours in liketwenty minutes. I think that's great.
Did you guys like learn anything newabout each other or asking me honestly yes
and no, Like I'm it.What it does is it basically it opens
(34:30):
up that communication that you're like supposedto have in a relationship. And I
find that like if Michael and Iwill go too long without conversing of random
stuff than any little thing that hedoes, I'll start just kind of like
holding in and then I'll eventually explodedue to the resentment of whatever reason,
(34:52):
whatever it may be may be.And it's all because like we just haven't
talked or communicated and sometimes our lifeis so busy, so busy, and
sometimes days will go by and I'mjust like, oh, I'm coming from
here to here, and then ihave a work event, and then I
have a work dinner, and thenI'll see you tonight. Okay, lovey.
Then my time I go home,he's asleep, and et cetera,
et cetera. You haven't even liketouched base exactly. So I think it's
(35:15):
just like important in that sense.I like that. I guess what I'm
trying to say is like the thingswe learned I probably shouldn't discuss on this
podcast. Okay, that's great,but like it was good for your communication
as a couple. Yes, itactually really was, and I want to
like continue to do it like oncea month, once a week maybe,
(35:37):
yeah, yeah, I think so. I will say since starting to date
Nate, I am on my phonea lot less. I think I just
used to be so sad alone everynight. I just used to sit on
my couch and text NonStop. AndI've just realized, like, if someone
(35:57):
needs me, my phone's around.But I'm not constantly texting and catching up
with friends on text, and I'mnot scrolling and scrolling, and it's really
refreshing. I'm sure we're only sixmonths in, you know, Like,
I'm sure in time, some ofthat'll come back. No, yes and
no. But also you might justbe busier. Maybe known feels you're engaged,
and then you're gonna start planning,like your wedding, and then you're
(36:21):
gonna get pregnant, and then yourlife's gonna rove learning the kids, and
you're just like good friend less andless time. Like I even like some
you know, some people were like, oh, did you see that on
Instagram or did you see that?I'm like, no, I haven't been
on Instagram for like two days,Like I don't like what. I actually
like liked one of my Instagram videosfrom last week the other day, and
I was like, this is sorandom. I feel like you never see
(36:44):
my stuff anyway, which is totallyfine, but I did take note of
it because I notice you're not onlike that much anymore. I know,
Wow, what video was that wewere talking about the proposal trend? Yeah
that was old. I was fromlast week. Yeah, that literally popped
up in my algorithm like whenever thatday I liked it. Yes it was
your sisterday. Yeah. Wow,you're just not scrolling much. That's great,
(37:07):
That's what I'm saying. I Now, sometimes I look at stuff and
I'll be like, and actually Ikind of like miss something kind of important
with a coworker, and I don'tknow. I'm like, guy, does
I have a homminstream? Right?Gosh, It's like you need a bottle
night and then you also need aphone night to catch up. Literally,
like I needed like the cliff notesof just the current events that are happening.
(37:29):
Maybe that's what this podcast is foryou. Probably, Oh, it
is what I was gonna say,though, kind of read Bottle Night and
you and Michael's relationship, I thinklike you changing to care less about the
like superficial stuff is really healthy fora relationship. And like you guys have
been married ten years now, andI think your part of that is why,
(37:49):
because you're not so worried about whatit looks like taking the cutest,
most perfect photos together and making sureyou post with him once a week or
anything like that. You're just worriedabout having a good relationship and being good
parents. I feel like, onehundred percent, like I don't want my
kids to grow up and not havea relationship with my husband. You know
and look back and be like,what, you're like a stranger because all
(38:14):
we've been doing is like raising thekids and working our asses off, and
so I really find it important tomake that time with him, even if
we get into these like ebbs andflows where ye are fighting over the way
he put the stroller into the backof the car and I'm like losing my
shit and he's like, why areyou so mad about this? And I
(38:35):
was like, well, I don'tknow, but it's probably because of these
other six reasons. Yes, that'slike you're not supposed to let it get
to that point. You're supposed tolike talk about it like before. But
you know, basically it's like,don't make of this. Don't make the
excuse that there's no time, becausethere's always time. You can find the
time. Wow. What a therapeuticepisode today. I'm glad that hopefully it
(38:55):
helps and someone listening as well.So I'm happy. Oh, thank you.
I was going to wish you happybirthday. I was going to tell
you that I have these big hopesand dreams of compiling audio messages from all
these people in your life and playingback for you, And then I woke
up yesterday morning, and I waslike, well, that didn't happen.
(39:17):
So the thought was there to beautiful. I love it and that's all that
Matterson was not. But oh well, it makes you feel any better.
You mentioned that your birthday was onFriday. I was like, holy shit,
your birthday is. I forgot aboutmy birthday because I'm going to be
(39:38):
at this wedding and that's okay.Thirty one is like a whatever age,
like it totally is gonna be agreat year and it's whatever. So yeah,
I hope thatst weekend in Vegas.Thank you. I'm so bummed you're
not going to be there. No, but we'll have a recap here in
a week. Yes, if Imake it back alive, I will.
You will. But it's Easter Sunday. There's gonna be a heck or somewhere
(40:00):
at some point there. It willsuck for a few hours. All right,
Have a wonderful rest of your week, Happy Easter to everyone who celebrates,
and we'll talk next week.
So then I said, what aboutbreakfast at Siceny's. Well, that's one
thing. We got time to sitback, relax and indulge in your weekly
tea. Welcome to breakfast at Sicins. Well we are back hi at Sisney
and Erica, and a lot's goingon. We were just discussing that lot
is going on. Yes, Ifeel like it's been a NonStop hence no
(00:24):
show last week that was on me. Yeah, you know what happens and
it does you know, Yeah,I wone throw you into the bus,
but yeah, we wouldn't throw youon the bus, but absolutely, Oh
I know. So here we areand I also we both have plans this
weekend, so we're trying to kindof organize everything and make sure that we're
packed and ready to go. I'mactually looking for a new suitcase. Oh
(00:48):
you have the away, right,I have an Away look like and Away
look Alive. Yeah. So oneof my girlfriends has the away and she
was telling me like, it's thebest. This is not a commercial at
all. By the way, I'mjust like genuinely curious because we're going to
be going to Europe this summer andMichael and I are not going to take
any we're not going to check inany of our luggage, and so,
(01:11):
wow, you're going to do carryon to Europe? Yes, for two
weeks almost? How are you goingto have access to a washer and dryer?
Uh no, I mean I havedone this before. I backpacked through
Europe for almost three weeks with justa backpack. Honestly shocking to me.
(01:32):
No offense, just not really whatI would pit you as. This is
like I this is before I evenmet Michael. I was like probably twenty
three with my girlfriend. It wasjust the two of us. Oh my
gosh, it was so much fun. Oh my gosh, Brazilians. And
always tell Michael about the Brazilians.Oh he knows, he knows. So
anyways, Uh, we're trying.It's because because we're gonna be going from
(01:53):
so many we're taking little flights,like from Italy to then Greece and then
Greece, and so it's just likeit's just a lot. And if I
can really just have like my littlerollie and then like a bag that I
can put on top of it andjust move on, that's the That's what
I'm looking for. But you needto have the international sized carry on,
not the Domestic carry on is thatsmaller. International is a little bit smaller,
(02:16):
a few inches on each side.So how you looked into base the
brand. I love Bass because that'sthe actual the duffel, like the Weekender.
I have that one, and that'sthe one I'm probably gonna put on
top of it. And this islike turn into a podcast about like age,
(02:37):
you know, for us, we'llget to we'll get to interesting things
that are happening in the world rightnow, like you know, the Cape
Middleton situation, this whole story aboutmom influencers. I need to touch base
on. Okay, Okay, Sothat being said, yes, the International
carry On is a little bit smaller. And I did look at Bass and
(02:59):
I read mixed reviews, which nowI'm like, I'm not getting a base,
right, Okay, okay, somethingabout like that seems like the zippers
won't hold. I mean, Iget it's always like great reviews, one
bad review, and it's like that'swhat poisons the whole pond, right,
yeah, I am. I amlike, so that'll do it for me,
Like if I read that one badreview, I'm just like, Nope,
(03:20):
well of course I will say I'veheard almost no bad things about a
way. And I have indeither,and I have a girlfriend who's had it
for like six years. She's hadhers, and she's like, no issues
and it looks pretty in good shape. She's actually checked it in a few
times, but the majority of thetime it is her carry on, and
she had nothing but great things tosay about away. So I was like,
(03:42):
all right, maybe I do that. Okay. Can I just say
you are packing a carry on fortwo weeks? Two weeks, okay?
I am currently trying to pack forfour and a half days, and I'm
like, we're gonna have to checka bag. I am literally so insane
that I'm like, I'm gonna haveto check a bag. So you are
(04:04):
a better person than I am.I think vacation that is different. Like
you're going for like your sister's weddingthis weekend, and so yes, there's
like a lot of more like verytailored probably events and different shoes you have
to wear with that outfit versus thatoutfit. So all of that stuff takes
up space. But I think,like we're gonna just be lounging and it's
(04:24):
gonna be like bikinis and sorongs andand just kind of yeah, I mean
sneaks for walking over a couple acouple of sun dresses, you know.
Okay, Okay, I get Ifeel like it's gonna be more that vibe
than that I need to have liketailored looks for like every single day,
Like we're different than different shoes ordifferent like you know, I just feel
like all that kind of gets itmessy. But you know, we'll see
(04:46):
because I'm also I'm going to Vegasfor two days this weekend and I'm pretty
sure I'm probably gonna check my back. That's what I was like, And
how is your Vegas packing going?It's different, Like we're gonna have different
heels like one night the versus theother night, and then shoes for walking
during the day and then make goto the pool but not like the weather
sucks. Oh can you talk throughthis is your birthday trip? We have
(05:10):
not really talked about it on thepodcast. You've told me bits and pieces.
Yeah, I am having a milestonebirthday this weekend. It's so lovingly
landed on Easter Sunday, so lovingyay me. No, nothing screams your
fortieth like of Easter birthday. SoI was like, cool, how can
(05:34):
we make this sexy. Yeah,so we are going to be in Vegas
for the majority of the weekend.We come back home on Easter Sunday hashtag
my birthday right, and everything iskind of basically not like set in Stone,
but like planned, reserved, whateverit may be. You know,
(05:57):
it's much different because I did mythirtieth in vague and did you? I
did? Remember you didn't come andI also pissed and I wasn't you.
I wasn't here. Yeah, wedidn't know each other. I started and
started. You started working with thatJanuary. I'm confusing you with whatever other
friends, so it was not yet. I'm sorry, you're both blonde.
(06:20):
You were like just trying to figureout who I'm talking about. I think
I know, but okay, okay, So what was your thirtieth like compared
to what this is going to belike? I mean, it was more
like, oh my gosh, Iwant to just not stop partying. Like
it's like back to back this thispoll party into that into this. I
didn't even think we sat. Idon't even think we went out to dinner,
(06:42):
to be honest. In my thirtieth, like there was like no food.
So what did you eat? Likewhat. Everybody just was on their
own and we just kept the partygoing. Every man for himself. When
it comes to eating mid yeah,you just need one meal and it's like
at two am, and then youjust rally the next day. That was
kind of what the if you hadto sum up my thirtieth. Now this
(07:03):
is a little bit different, Likewe're gonna land, Michael and I are
gonna go do a spa treatment andthen you know, we're gonna have welcome
drinks in our suite for all ofour friends to come over, and then
we're gonna go down and have anice dinner at one of the restaurants in
the hotel and then hilarious, andthen we're gonna go We actually are gonna
(07:23):
go to a club Friday night andsee Cascade. Okay, it's such a
on brand DJ for me and myage. What club is Cascade Resort Resorts
World? You know Cascade? Anyways, I know the name, I don't
know the songs. We'll just leaveit at that. Yeah. So then
(07:44):
this is where it gets all likepoo pooye because Saturday and I didn't want
to do like a big old likepool party, no, because they's just
like I won't make it like backin the day, I could rally it
all day and then rally And sowhat I want is like chill vibes.
You know, maybe rent but weare renting a cabana and we'll just like
it's just be like just hanging outby the pane as long as you wish
(08:07):
going. You want to go gamble, do your own lunch, come back,
We'll have food, We'll have drinkshere. We're like, we're just
gonna park it here for five hours. Well, the weather is putting a
big old monkey wrench in my plants. What's it look like right now?
It's saying that it's like a fortypercent chance of rain and like sixty two
degrees not not fun pool vibes.No, I'm looking it up right now.
(08:33):
I know it's definitely raining in Laat weekend, like that's for sure.
And so when I saw that,I was like, oh, And
then I looked at Vegas and Iwas like, damn, okay, okay,
rain starts right around noon, goesuntil the evening. It's a buzz
kills at the end of the world. Look, all we want to do
is just like day, drink andbe chill. And somewhere maybe around music
(08:54):
or whatever. So now we're talkingaround different ideas of like what we could
do. Yeah, but you knowthis is like first class problems, Like
oh, for sure, it's problemstrying to second also first class problems.
A second uh dinner on Saturday night. Yeah, so then we have dinner,
(09:15):
We have dinner, and then wehave another club that's at the hotel
so we don't have to like goanywhere. Love it, okay, so
it's fine, and then we leaveSunday morning. I actually and maybe this
is like against what you're supposed todo, but I was like, you
know what, screw it, LikeI want to be there for the kids
experiencing their Easter egg baskets and likeall of that because it's just so fun.
(09:35):
So originally I was gonna leave everythingprepared for my mom and our nanny
who's going to be staying at ourhouse, and just have them do it
Easter sundaycause we wouldn't be there UNTIprobably like one o'clock, okay. And
so last weekend, because it waslike essentially the kickoff to their spring break,
I was talking to Michael, waslike, what if the Easter Bunny
(09:56):
comes tonight. What if? Andit was like, no difference, We're
just gonna be here all day Sunday. No, they know, the twins
know. And so I was justlike and so we like we we did
like a whole like wish ceremony forthe Easter Bunny to come early. And
I had like all the kids beinglike, you have to say, Easter
(10:18):
Bunny, I wish that you cometomorrow, and then they all have to
say it three times, and sothey all said it and then and now
they have to eat this magic cookie. And then they had gave him like
a little cookie, like even thoselittle cookies from Trader Jokes. What the
heck? Your kind of grow upbeing like well, and then you make
the Easter Bunny wish and everyone's likewhat they already cut of? Were like
(10:39):
a dance class on Monday. Shewas like, the Easter Buddy came early
at my house. Oh oh,I didn't think about it. I was
like, this is not gonna bean issue because they're not gonna see any
kids at school before Easter. Likeit's fine. I didn't think about dance
class. So now all our danceclass friends are like the Easter Buddy came
early at days house. They're like, Mommy, why isn't the eester Bunny
coming early at our house? Youknow what, whatever I had to do,
what for me? You make itwork. It's your fortieth birthday,
(11:01):
You get to do whatever you want. The Easter Rebunny grants wishes for that
way, damn it to hell.So we had a very nice easter,
a fake easter feaster, uh thispast Sunday, And it was nice because,
you know what, the sun wasshining and there was no rain,
and it was what an easter shouldbe. Because this easter that's coming up
(11:22):
is definitely ain't it. It's likethunderstorms and gonna be raining all weekend.
What are you guys gonna do onSunday? Now? I think we're just
gonna hide the eggs. So thatwas like I was gonna help. Like
when we get back then we'll stilldo an easter a hunt with them,
and so that kind of just stillsolidifies it bookends, you know, the
whole You get a whole Easter weekand uh, now it's gonna be raining.
So I'm like, well, wehave to just hide him in the
(11:43):
house. Oh do you remember thoseyears growing up with the Easter bunny had
to get in the house because honestly, it was just horrifying, like a
giant bunny in my house. Idon't think so. They really do ask
a lot of questions like well,like where did they come in? And
then like Maxton was like where arethe footprints? And I was like he
didn't leave Princess year wow, AndI was like, I forgot the foot
the footprints? Did you guys dolike the Leprechaun thing? No, it's
(12:09):
that I'm just sneeze too. Ohbless you here it is twice? Okay,
okay, carry on your Leprechaun.Well, I guess you did Easter
on Saint Patrick's Day? So no, you didn't do like the Leprechawn coming
and leaving green footprints. Wait,why would the Easter bunny? Oh my
god, I was seizing it.Oh why would the Easter bunny come on
(12:30):
Saint Patrick's Say? Well, no, I'm saying yours did? I'm confused?
Am I wrong? Oh? Yeah? A week off. I don't
know where I am or who Iam anymore. I am simply a woman
attending a wedding this weekend. AndIra, are you like doing any duties
(12:54):
for your sister, you made ofhonor? Are you like a bridesmaid?
Or what's the vibe? She's nothaving a bridal party. This is actually
her second wedding, so I don'tthink she cares if I say that.
So she was like, we're notdoing We're not doing a party like you
get to pick out your own dresses. We're still getting ready with her and
my sister and I are doing aspeech the night before, and then she
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and her fiance have this one friendthey both worked with before they even knew
each other, and they're going togive a speech at the wedding. So
honestly, love it. Way chiller. We don't get our hair makeup done
at like six am like you oftendo when you're in a wedding, and
we get to do all the funstuff. So and we still get to
(13:39):
walk down the aisle and my boyfriendgets walked down the aisle like lucky man.
Just really miss family. Yeah,she's just like having all the like
couples in the family walk down theaisle. That's cool. I like that
vibe. It's gonna be cute.I'm really excited. How could we give
me rethink? Oh oh girl?As of two days ago, we were
in a lot of panicked texts becausethere was chance of rain right when the
(14:03):
ceremony and dinner. We're supposed tobe outside clear as day now, so
we're gonna say that's gonna stick.Okay, just getting married in Scottsdale,
yeah, yeah, So it's notthat far from Vegas, so right,
so hopefully everything's shifting, yeah,in the good way. I meaning,
like because earlier today it said therain was gonna be gone on Saturday,
and I was like, okay,great, it just looks overcast. And
then then it came back and Iwas like, why are you doing this
(14:26):
to me? Send the rain fivehours north to Salt Lake City. I
won't be here. It's fine.I don't know why. Like I it
doesn't really like affect my mood perse. And I'm sitting here like kind
of just like jokingly venting about it. Yeah, because this happens all the
time. For my birthday, andthis is exactly why I didn't want to
do like a big party we weretalking about, like there was like talks
(14:50):
earlier in the year, but maybelike we had a connection with somebody that
like runs the Houdini mansion here andI, and I was like, that's
like all outdoor, and it's justyou know what, if like we would
have planned this entire event and thenit's just dumping rain, right, that
would chill? Yeah? I did. Like one year I did a pool
party at the Roosevelt Hotel and itwas just raining, just out there and
(15:16):
we didn't even have a band.I was just lounge chairs and bottles and
it was in the rain. Yeah, how do you feel about this birthday?
I think that it's like I hatethat we as women generally are like
if you don't mind sharing your age, and I'm a little bit like who
cares? I never really mind.I don't mind sharing my age. Still
(15:39):
I'm like proud of the age thatI'm doing. And yeah, like I
I enjoy birthday parties. I enjoyall of that, and I don't feel
like I'm turning forty. I don'tknow what what the definition of turning forty
is, but uh, I guesslike when I was a little girl and
I looked up to someone that waslike forty or like my mom like was
(16:00):
in her forties when I was inelementary school, and so I always thought
that was just like so old.But like she like, my sister's eight
years older than me, and shedoesn't seem like she's about to be fifty
in a couple of years. Likeit's just true, Like at all,
I feel like I'm stuck at likethirty ish and and I'm okay with that
(16:22):
for the time being. But it'sjust thirty ish, I do. But
then I'm like, what's gonna happenin another decade? Like do I look
back? And then when I'm turningfifty, it's going to be like if
you forty, I don't know.So as far as that goes, like
I'm if you had to like ona scale of one to ten, on
a ten, on a scale ofone to ten, I'm turning country.
(16:45):
On a scale of one to ten, I would say that I feel like
a nine of excitement for turning.Oh that's great, And I think the
only reason it's not a ten isbecause, uh, there is a sliver
of the unknown of what this nextdecade is going to bring, and I
hope that it's like the unknown forreally great reasons, you know. But
(17:08):
then there's like that cynical part ofme that's like, what if some shit
goes down? So that's well,I think that I'm a little concerned by
that, but I think that thethe what if some shit goes down feeling
is like no matter how old youare, like anything could happen. This
is yeah, And that's I'm bringingthis up because of like the Cape Middleton
(17:29):
situation for example, Okay, youknow what I mean. Like that is
someone who is kind of in mywheelhouse of age, give or take.
How old is she? I actuallyknow, yeah, but I feel like
she's three kids, right, obviouslythey're a little bit older, ten and
eight and five years old. She'sforty two, so she's only thank you,
(17:51):
she just turned forty two, soshe's like my age. So I
look at someone like that, Ilook at I have another friend who just
like you know, lost a familymember that was like super young, and
it's just like that is where likeI'm like, that's the uncontrollable unknown that
you just don't know. Every yearyou turn older, doesn't matter, if
you're forty, doesn't matter, you'returning thirty two. I'm turning thirty one
(18:14):
on Friday. I don't know ifit's like an aries thing about us or
a birthday thing. I have beenhaving that weird like random doom and gloom
feeling too, where I'm like,I'm getting older, so everyone around me
is getting older, so it's likescary, but you have so many great
things you have. You are turningsuch a fun age, like thirty run
(18:36):
is epic, like this is Yourthirties in general are super fun. But
then I hear from everyone. Ihear from everyone that like your forties are
when you just like really figure itout, and apparently they're supposed to better
than your thirties. So I'm likehere for that, yes, and like
probably you are done with pregnancy.Mm hmmm, problem, there was no
(19:02):
probably. I'm done so out intothe universe. I don't want to make
proclamations for you, so I'm justsaying, you know, probably, but
so now you just get to likeenjoy your kids and your family and your
dogs and your husband and yeah,and I'm excited about that era, so
to speak. And just two daysago we were at the house and you
(19:25):
know, we're great training Diego andour new Dalmation puppy, and and so
he's so smart that like he doesn'twant to be in the crate, especially
if we're home. You know,he's just like what the hell. I
just beat like why do I haveto be in the crate ride now?
It's like, well, because we'reall like nobody's watching you, like we're
cooking dinner, and it's like itis what it is. So he was
(19:48):
like barking like crazy, and thekids were crying about something in the playroom
and then like Saveyah ran into theliving room with like out of her shirt
on and like one sock and likeI was just like this is like this
is Henhouse, Like this is crazytimes. But we're going to look back
at these years and miss them becauseit's just that's how fast I I hear
(20:10):
that it goes. But even justthe twins turning six this year, I
remember when they were two years oldand it seems like it was yesterday.
No, I remember when they werenewborns, and it feels like it was
yesterday. It's crazy. I thinkthat's been nearly six years. I know,
I remember this. So like thistime six years ago, rh and
you were real pregnant, like youwere getting ready to have twins. Yeah,
(20:33):
this was like I was a monthout at this point. I have
them in four weeks, little didI know, But they came. They
came four weeks early, so technicallyI had eight weeks left in my term
and I was just miserable. Pluseveryone was going to Coachella and it was
Beyonce was there and it was sosad. That is so sad, and
(20:56):
I watch it and I watched itfrom my couch and I was like,
whoa wow, big old belly.But anyways, you know, back to
Cape Middleton and this whole situation,I like, it just goes to show
like how messed up the world isand how you never know what's happening behind
(21:19):
closed doors, and for the amountof conspiracy theories and look and we were
I was guilty of bringing it uphere too, because it was just so
intriguing, how just how many theoriesthere were. That's crazy interesting where TikTok
was going with it at that time. And then like another couple of weeks
(21:41):
went on and it kind of startedto feel like, Okay, what is
going on? And it was worstcase scenario. I would say, I
think so too, And I alwaysthought that in the back of my head,
and I was like, we're goingto find out that it's going to
be something bad and everyone's gonna feelbad for you. Know, speculating the
world or all these other theories andstuff like that. So if you don't
(22:02):
know, it has come out thatKate Middleton during her abdominal surgery that she
had, but back in December.It was in early January, early January,
So this is what she told usin the video, and as of
now she's undergoing preventive chemotherapy. ButI don't think that is something that she
(22:23):
was ready to come out and tellthe world or do that video right right
now. And the fact that shewas forced to speak her truth sooner than
she wanted to, even like,you know, figure it out with her
family, fagure out how she's tellingher children who are ten and like all
the way down to five years old. Right, It's it's just like disgusting
(22:48):
how the world can be so cruel, I guess, even if they're trying
to be in a joking matter,right, But I think the worst part
is that everyone was like convinced likehe's having an affair coming out all of
that, and it's like, inhindsight, regardless a lot of people say
that there is proof of that.Regardless of that his wife still is going
(23:10):
through now cancer and chemotherapy, andthere's the kids and they're like public image
to look at and it's a lotand his dat is sick too. Anyways,
it's awful. Let that be alesson for the world. I guess
just chill, chill not, don'tjump to conclusions. Yeah, I mean,
(23:32):
I know it's tough because they're likethe most in the public eye couple
and family overall, and that's whyit's, you know, so magnified,
and everybody just wants a piece ofthe knowledge of like what's happenings, let
us in your world. But whenit's personal like this, it's like nobody
(23:52):
ever should have to feel like theyhave to come forward and explain themselves because
of a medical illness. Right well, and did you see that It was
like some of her medical records werein a data leak, and I think
that's why she announced it. Whenshe did, it was so messed up,
awful. Yeah, it truly isit wash her very speedy recovery obviously.
(24:15):
Yeah. Still confused about the weekendvideo of them in the farmer's market
though, you know, saying wasthat her was it high? I don't
know, were they trying to getpeople off the deal? And then it
just made it worse. Maybe yeah, I guess. Okay, So a
(24:36):
study came out that showed mom fluencersmake other moms feel like they aren't doing
anything good or good enough right things. I'm saw me thoughts on this.
I was reading this and it Iwas like, Wow, I guess it
does kind of take over my lifea little bit. Social media, obviously,
(25:03):
is just like a constant thing thatwe're I would say, we're all
addicted to it. And so whenyou see your and I follow a lot
of influencers, and I would thinkthat maybe some of you follow me for
the exact same reason, right,So I hope that I never come off
in a sense that I'm like tryingto to make someone feel bad about the
(25:26):
way they parent, because you think, like, oh, I just want
to I want to show you thisproduct or I want to show you how
great this is in my life andmaybe you maybe it'll benefit you down the
road or whatever it may be.But I think like these mom influencers that
we're kind of magnifying right now islike the ones that like show you how
(25:47):
easy it is to make like lunchwith all these little cutouts, and you
know how you know, I makea bubble bath with for my daughter every
Thursday, and I put you know, her iPad there and whatever in candles
and pink bath bombs, right ofcourse, Yeah, I don't know.
That's what I'm kind of thinking.The ones who are like, I don't
know what anyone is talking about.You know, my baby slept through the
(26:11):
night at three weeks old. AndI think that's the stuff where it's like
it's so perfect that it makes otherparents who like you just described a few
moments ago, the kids are cryingass or surveys running around half dressed,
die goes barking like that's reality.And I do feel like you put that
more out there than some of theselike perfect moms who are always like baking
(26:36):
and all these things. I thinkjust social media has this. I mean,
look at it when it came out. It had all these filters so
like to already change your appearance oryou know whatever to your face, and
so I and there is a therewas a moment and maybe this is part
of me turning forty, like youjust don't get fuck anymore. But I
(26:59):
I I would say a few yearsago, and I guess it looking back,
it's basically like almost you know,not almost like it. I guess
we got the house in twenty sixteen, but when we bought our last house,
I was so uh fixated on thefact that one it was a it
was a fixed upper in theory,but we could have probably lived in it
(27:22):
and you know, been fine.But I was like, Nope, I
need a new kitchen, I neednew bathrooms, I need to do the
floors, I need to do everything, and I'm not going to do it
until I move into this house.And blah bla blah bla blah blahlah blah.
I didn't care how much it wasgoing to cost or waste this money
or or whatever that it may be, because of the fact that I knew
that I would like be filming inmy house and like, you know,
(27:45):
essentially showcasing it and like it wasmy purse, it was my it was
the way I'm going to like theworld was gonna see me in my home,
you know. And I don't feelthe same way anymore. I don't
like that type of materialistic stuff isnot as important to me as like my
family's safety and health and happiness.You know what I think changed for you.
(28:07):
You had three kids, you hadtwins the year after you moved into
that house and your world changed.Yeah, it's true. It was just
you and Michael that you were thinkingabout before and the dogs that you had,
right, And I was like,all, like the Q videos we're
going to do in this kitchen,and we needed to do be perfect and
used to look like a movie set. And we did do a lot of
work in that kitchen. You weren'twrong about that. But then I think
(28:32):
it's like you had the twins andboy was that a whirlwind. Yeah,
and then you had another baby andit's like now you're thinking more reality based
kind of and I love that aboutyou. Yeah, Like I first of
all, I love the house thatwe bought. It is by no means
the style or decor that I wouldchoose for my home right our new home.
(28:56):
Sure, And and yes, Michaeland I could figure out how to
remodel it now and like probably bepaying it back for like a few years,
But like, why put that stresson us for like no reason when
it's not that I meant that thekit everything is still working fine, it's
not ugly in my opinion, andit's just not my style. And so
(29:19):
we're just like it's just so differentnow and like before I would be like,
oh my gosh, like I can'tfilm this anything in this kitchen because
it's like the backsplash has like applesin it, like for real, I
don't know, I thought, Imean because the previous owner was a teacher.
Like it's actually maybe decent backsplash,but then there's like a random apples
like scattered throughout the backsplash, ifit makes you feel better. I don't
(29:41):
think I noticed that when I wasthere, because of the same color as
the tile. It's really strange.Huh. You know there's little things well
d I why stuff here and there, But like as far as like a
full remodel, like I don't thinkthat's happening anytime soon. Plus my kids
are going to destroy it, sowait and till they are older. And
(30:02):
yeah, just like more in controlof themselves literally, like they don't like
they bang into something on like onthe constant and if it's not them,
it's me. So yeah. Anyways, my whole point to this story was
that like nothing is perfect, noone has put no matter how many times
that you've ever seen a video ofme, and like it maybe looks perfect
(30:23):
in the background, like the otherside of the lens was a complete shit
show, like it was you knowthat the rest of the house was messy
and this and that, and Iprobably told the kids to stop screaming for
five minutes while I can do thisvideo and like whatever it is. Yeah,
I think that it's more of atrend now to be more realistic about
your life, which is awesome,but at the end of the day,
(30:44):
like our social media is on somelevel a highlight reel, it's always going
to be, so take that witha grain of salt. When you follow
these like mom influencers, I evenlike, I know myself, I'll be
like, I only showed the bestmoments. Wait to have kids. There's
gonna be nothing to show. I'mgonna be like, I don't have time
for this, Like I'm ready overwhelmed. I can't show any of this.
(31:07):
I'll just be judged. No,No, I love when people show like
the real stuff, like Michael postedSaveyah rocking out to some music. The
other thing I know, you knowwhat's so funny about that is that he
asked me. He's like, hey, are you okay if I post this?
And so I watched your video,Well, that's what I said,
Erica, and I said yeah,because I'm in the background. I was
(31:30):
like, I don't care. I'msipping my red wine. I'm like,
that's reality right there. And he'slike no, because it's our daughter.
And it's like she's like, wherehave you been for the last six years?
But I was really thrown off.I'm like, yeah, I've been
(31:51):
posting the kids all the time,Like I don't know what this one IDEO
would do about every video that's hilarious. I know, if I can post
their kids because they're not my own, right right, I don't. I
mean I post the kids. Idefinitely don't post as much as I used
to. I feel like I posteda lot when like the twins are babies,
since it was just like it wasliterally like a segment on the show.
(32:15):
I mean it was so exciting,like it was just you know whatever.
But life has just been too busyand so y'all just randomly, I
have none of the things. Ihave so much video on my phone that
just nobody will see except for uswhen we look back and look at videos.
Yeah, that's great, that's howshould be. That's how life was
before social media. I know,gosh, one day, one day,
(32:38):
we will get back to it.Have you tried that bottle night thing that
we talk about that yet? Huh? Have you tried bottle night yet?
This is a foreign language to me. Well, okay, so I will
I forget what shows we discuss thisstuff on. It's a show. It's
not a show. It's I'm justsaying I didn't know if I talked about
it on the morning show or onthe podcast or my own show. So
(33:00):
anyways, okay, Bottle night iswhen you and Nate will grab a bottle
of wine. Okay, and it'sin the What I was seeing on TikTok
was like you each pick out yourown bottle and that's like your bottle and
technically you're not even supposed to portingglasses. But I'm like, okay,
we're not in college. So bottleof wine one, maybe two, you
(33:22):
guys can share it. Fine.But the point is you completely detach yourself.
I mean, you go completely offthe grid. No cell phone,
no Apple watch, okay, turnyou turn off your phones essentially or put
them in another room, I don'tknow, whatever. You feel like it's
safe. You've had to get aphone call for whatever emergency reason. But
(33:43):
you essentially just camp out with eachother and just a no TV nothing basically
and you just talk. I lovethat. I know Mikel and I did
it the other night and I waslike, okay, but I still feel
like there was like apple watches andstuffasically kind of for just like we're the
kids in bed and bed yeah,okay, okay, So, like how
(34:05):
many hours is this supposed to last? I didn't just until you finish your
bottle? Oh my gosh, wellwe can. I've got a low tolerance
these days. Finish ours in liketwenty minutes. I think that's great.
Did you guys like learn anything newabout each other or asking me honestly yes
and no, Like I'm it.What it does is it basically it opens
(34:30):
up that communication that you're like supposedto have in a relationship. And I
find that like if Michael and Iwill go too long without conversing of random
stuff than any little thing that hedoes, I'll start just kind of like
holding in and then I'll eventually explodedue to the resentment of whatever reason,
(34:52):
whatever it may be may be.And it's all because like we just haven't
talked or communicated and sometimes our lifeis so busy, so busy, and
sometimes days will go by and I'mjust like, oh, I'm coming from
here to here, and then ihave a work event, and then I
have a work dinner, and thenI'll see you tonight. Okay, lovey.
Then my time I go home,he's asleep, and et cetera,
et cetera. You haven't even liketouched base exactly. So I think it's
(35:15):
just like important in that sense.I like that. I guess what I'm
trying to say is like the thingswe learned I probably shouldn't discuss on this
podcast. Okay, that's great,but like it was good for your communication
as a couple. Yes, itactually really was, and I want to
like continue to do it like oncea month, once a week maybe,
(35:37):
yeah, yeah, I think so. I will say since starting to date
Nate, I am on my phonea lot less. I think I just
used to be so sad alone everynight. I just used to sit on
my couch and text NonStop. AndI've just realized, like, if someone
(35:57):
needs me, my phone's around.But I'm not constantly texting and catching up
with friends on text, and I'mnot scrolling and scrolling, and it's really
refreshing. I'm sure we're only sixmonths in, you know, Like,
I'm sure in time, some ofthat'll come back. No, yes and
no. But also you might justbe busier. Maybe known feels you're engaged,
and then you're gonna start planning,like your wedding, and then you're
(36:21):
gonna get pregnant, and then yourlife's gonna rove learning the kids, and
you're just like good friend less andless time. Like I even like some
you know, some people were like, oh, did you see that on
Instagram or did you see that?I'm like, no, I haven't been
on Instagram for like two days,Like I don't like what. I actually
like liked one of my Instagram videosfrom last week the other day, and
I was like, this is sorandom. I feel like you never see
(36:44):
my stuff anyway, which is totallyfine, but I did take note of
it because I notice you're not onlike that much anymore. I know,
Wow, what video was that wewere talking about the proposal trend? Yeah
that was old. I was fromlast week. Yeah, that literally popped
up in my algorithm like whenever thatday I liked it. Yes it was
your sisterday. Yeah. Wow,you're just not scrolling much. That's great,
(37:07):
That's what I'm saying. I Now, sometimes I look at stuff and
I'll be like, and actually Ikind of like miss something kind of important
with a coworker, and I don'tknow. I'm like, guy, does
I have a homminstream? Right?Gosh, It's like you need a bottle
night and then you also need aphone night to catch up. Literally,
like I needed like the cliff notesof just the current events that are happening.
(37:29):
Maybe that's what this podcast is foryou. Probably, Oh, it
is what I was gonna say,though, kind of read Bottle Night and
you and Michael's relationship, I thinklike you changing to care less about the
like superficial stuff is really healthy fora relationship. And like you guys have
been married ten years now, andI think your part of that is why,
(37:49):
because you're not so worried about whatit looks like taking the cutest,
most perfect photos together and making sureyou post with him once a week or
anything like that. You're just worriedabout having a good relationship and being good
parents. I feel like, onehundred percent, like I don't want my
kids to grow up and not havea relationship with my husband. You know
and look back and be like,what, you're like a stranger because all
(38:14):
we've been doing is like raising thekids and working our asses off, and
so I really find it important tomake that time with him, even if
we get into these like ebbs andflows where ye are fighting over the way
he put the stroller into the backof the car and I'm like losing my
shit and he's like, why areyou so mad about this? And I
(38:35):
was like, well, I don'tknow, but it's probably because of these
other six reasons. Yes, that'slike you're not supposed to let it get
to that point. You're supposed tolike talk about it like before. But
you know, basically it's like,don't make of this. Don't make the
excuse that there's no time, becausethere's always time. You can find the
time. Wow. What a therapeuticepisode today. I'm glad that hopefully it
(38:55):
helps and someone listening as well.So I'm happy. Oh, thank you.
I was going to wish you happybirthday. I was going to tell
you that I have these big hopesand dreams of compiling audio messages from all
these people in your life and playingback for you, And then I woke
up yesterday morning, and I waslike, well, that didn't happen.
(39:17):
So the thought was there to beautiful. I love it and that's all that
Matterson was not. But oh well, it makes you feel any better.
You mentioned that your birthday was onFriday. I was like, holy shit,
your birthday is. I forgot aboutmy birthday because I'm going to be
(39:38):
at this wedding and that's okay.Thirty one is like a whatever age,
like it totally is gonna be agreat year and it's whatever. So yeah,
I hope thatst weekend in Vegas.Thank you. I'm so bummed you're
not going to be there. No, but we'll have a recap here in
a week. Yes, if Imake it back alive, I will.
You will. But it's Easter Sunday. There's gonna be a heck or somewhere
(40:00):
at some point there. It willsuck for a few hours. All right,
Have a wonderful rest of your week, Happy Easter to everyone who celebrates,
and we'll talk next week.
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