May 2, 2023 • 9 mins
That was a LIE. Found out why he does not want to see her EVER again. Ck and Carmen 2nd Date Update
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(00:00):
C K and Carmen. It's beingninety five friends knows home for hip hop
and hits. You know, whensomebody ghost on you, we do our
job to figure out why they ghostdated and hopefully make a second date happen.
Being ninety five. What's up?Hey? How are you guys doing
all right? So second date update? You kind of want to hang
out with Chris? What's going on? Yeah? So exactly, I kind
(00:21):
of want to hang out Chris andhe's not getting back to me and I'm
just hella confused. So so tellus a little bit about Chris, what's
going on and why you're a littlebit confused. Sure. So it's super
random, but we actually met ata speed dating pussion. Oh wow,
I've just been trying a bunch ofdifferent things and was like why not and
(00:46):
was super surprised when it actually worked. Okay, it's really chill and cool,
and we decided going up like anofficial first date. I do want
to say though, that, likeI've been single for a bit now,
everything I broke up with my exand this like stretch of being single has
been driving me crazy. Chris seemsreally cool and I don't know, I
(01:08):
just I also want to say,we were like two seconds away from having
sex at one point, and hedidn't have a condom. So wait,
wait, wait, wait, youguys had a good first date, obviously
so good that you guys ended upgoing back to your place or his place
and then you know you was aboutready to get it in. Yeah.
(01:30):
Sorry, that just sound like anescalator quickly. It was a long date,
yes, yes, but so that'sthe only thing is like, it
was obviously good enough, right,But that's the one thing that I keep
getting caught up on. It islike maybe because we weren't able to have
sex, but that's not cool.So I don't know. Okay, I
(01:52):
see what you're saying, Like ifthat was the end all, be all.
I mean, it's kind of likeit takes two to tango. You
didn't have a condom, he didn'thave a condom. He shouldn't be so
upset with that. I wouldn't,hope not. I mean, you're both
doing the right things first time,y'all hooking up. You guys are having
a great first date. You wantto make sure that it's protected all that
good stuff exactly exactly, And sothe fact that I mean, I think
(02:15):
at the end of the date,it was like, well, we definitely
want to get together again so thatwe can finish where we started, and
I just haven't heard anything. Okay, Okay, Well here's what we're gonna
do. We're gonna get Chris onthe phone. We're gonna see if we
can make a second date of realityand see what happened and why he just
kind of abruptly cut you off,because I mean it seemed like everything was
(02:38):
going extremely well and then out ofnowhere, Chris just disappeared on you exactly.
Yeah, so what is Chris gonnasay? You're gonna find out next.
Here we are inside a second dateupdate, CK and Carmen. It's
Being ninety five, So we wereable to track down Chris. Second date
Update CK and Carmen be ninety five, got to figure out why he ghosted.
(02:58):
I mean, things went so wellthey almost got it in on the
first date, just saying I believehe's on the phone. Hey, what's
up, Chris? How you doing? It's c K and Carmen from Being
ninety five. Good morning, what'sup guys? How you doing? What's
up? Man? All right,So we're calling because we do this thing
called a second date, updating.Before we go any further, I have
to have your permission to continue thisconversation on the radio. Are you good
(03:22):
with that? Yes? Good?You mind? Permission? I love it
all right? So, Chris,you recently went on a date with someone,
had a good time, you know, so good of a time you
guys almost you know, did alittle something something, but didn't have a
condom. Do you have any ideaof who I might be calling about.
Yeah, you're probably calling about Carmela, aren't you. Yes, yes,
(03:43):
yes. So with that being said, I'm curious to know what you thought
of Carmela and how that first datewent from your perspective. Yeah, this
check has rect boyfriend's name on herlike when you say on her like,
I mean, she's got a tattooof her ex boyfriend's name on her body.
(04:05):
And so when you saw that,that was kind of like the ant
can't do this, can't do this? Yeah, yeah, pretty much right
away. I you know, I'min of excuse. I was like,
oh, I don't have a condom, but yeah, when I saw that
right away, that was a bigturn off, and I'm like, I'm
out of here. She needs tobe with whoever's name is written on her.
(04:27):
Okay, but you understand that peopledo have x's, and people you
know, may have done some crazythings with that X and including getting a
tattoo of the name on them atsome point. Is that really a deal
breaker? I mean, maybe likeget like a tattoo removal. I don't
know. Yeah, I know,but it's it's always gonna be there.
(04:49):
It's it's like she's the kind ofperson who's gonna tattoo someone's name on it,
who it might not work out with. It just was a big turn
off. It's just a it's justa note. Well, here's the thing.
We have Carmela on the phone rightnow. I'm not sure if you
know how the second date update works, but Carmela's on the phone, and
I mean I gotta let Carmela.I mean, you heard him. Carmela.
(05:11):
First of all, I don't understandif you had an issue, you
could have said something right then andthere, like why are you now just
saying like that's the deal breaker?And you literally lied to my faith,
like tell me you have an issue. Well, I mean I was just
I was just being polite. Youknow, I don't really know how to
how to deal with it, Like, I mean, am I wrong?
(05:34):
Am I wrong? Is this?Is this a you know? Is that
just it's just a word now onyour body? Is here? Is this?
Here's a guy you still like,you still like or still have feelings
for. Yes, I was ina ten year relationship with that dude,
okay, and so that was abig part of my life. And we
(05:56):
do still talk some time to time, but I'm not interested in being with
him. And you know what,like I said, when you're in a
relationship, things happen. Sometimes youdo things when you're young that you regret
when you're older, and I'm surethat this is probably one of those things.
And I know I kind of mentionedthis earlier. You never know,
she could be in the process ofgetting that tattoo removed, because, like
(06:17):
I said, when you're young,sometimes you do silly things, especially when
you're in love. Yeah, butwait, didn't you just say that she's
still talking of a guy I meanher civil Yeah, I mean this this
person was a big part of mylife. Ten years is a long time.
It'd be one thing if there wassome dude I gated for a couple
(06:38):
of dates, you know, Yeah, I mean you see what I'm saying.
It's it's enough for me. Well, it's enough for me too,
because you're honestly rude. I mean, this is kind of an interesting one.
You know, maybe if you werelike, nah, we have no
communication anymore, we don't talk.I get to see how Chris may say,
(07:00):
you know what. She's in theprocess of getting the tattoo removed.
She doesn't talk to the guy.Everything's all good. I'm down to see
where this may go. But Imean, I know that you said that
it was ten years and he's stillkind of a part of your life.
Do you see him always being apart of your life? Is that something
that you're probably never gonna get ridof and you always, at the very
least remain friends. I mean,I can't predict the future. I don't
(07:23):
know, and I'm not gonna geta tattoo rooo. It's in a sensitive
area, and so I'm just notgoing to go through with the removal.
That's stupid. Well where is thistattoo? It's right next to her.
For real, you're gonna say thaton the radio. What the hell if
(07:47):
you gonna say that, I'm rude. I'm gonna tell Pete, tell the
listeners, what's what? Well,that wasn't information for you to reveal.
It's my body. If I wantedto say that, I could have.
I mean, yeah, she's right, I mean, but we kind of
know where the tattoo is now.And yes, that's kind of a sensitive
area, in a very personal areain the sense that I mean maybe as
(08:11):
a guy, if you're like I'mabout to you know, possibly, you
know, make love to this person, that's probably not the last thing you
want to see before you get intoit. Maybe that sounds like insecurity to
me. If you're cold, securein yourself and you can't deal with that
then right, Or you can alsolook at it like, well, his
(08:31):
loss my game. Yeah, Iguess I need to find good, but
I don't want to be reminded ofit every time. It's like, you're
going to keep a picture of nothingissue. This all sounds like you is
you issue. So I'm going tofind someone who's secure and doesn't lie to
me. Not good I understand.I can see quickly that this is not
(08:54):
going to go in the direction ofa possible second date. So I mean,
I appreciate you coming on and beinghonest, Carmela. I'm sorry that
we couldn't make a second date happento day and hopefully you got the answers
that you need and you feel like, man, it's time to move on
and find someone other than Chris.Yeah, this is a blessing, so
thank you. So there you gothis morning. Second date updates. CK
(09:16):
and Carmen is being any five Fresnel'sHome for hip hop and its
C K and Carmen. It's beingninety five friends knows home for hip hop
and hits. You know, whensomebody ghost on you, we do our
job to figure out why they ghostdated and hopefully make a second date happen.
Being ninety five. What's up?Hey? How are you guys doing
all right? So second date update? You kind of want to hang
out with Chris? What's going on? Yeah? So exactly, I kind
(00:21):
of want to hang out Chris andhe's not getting back to me and I'm
just hella confused. So so tellus a little bit about Chris, what's
going on and why you're a littlebit confused. Sure. So it's super
random, but we actually met ata speed dating pussion. Oh wow,
I've just been trying a bunch ofdifferent things and was like why not and
(00:46):
was super surprised when it actually worked. Okay, it's really chill and cool,
and we decided going up like anofficial first date. I do want
to say though, that, likeI've been single for a bit now,
everything I broke up with my exand this like stretch of being single has
been driving me crazy. Chris seemsreally cool and I don't know, I
(01:08):
just I also want to say,we were like two seconds away from having
sex at one point, and hedidn't have a condom. So wait,
wait, wait, wait, youguys had a good first date, obviously
so good that you guys ended upgoing back to your place or his place
and then you know you was aboutready to get it in. Yeah.
(01:30):
Sorry, that just sound like anescalator quickly. It was a long date,
yes, yes, but so that'sthe only thing is like, it
was obviously good enough, right,But that's the one thing that I keep
getting caught up on. It islike maybe because we weren't able to have
sex, but that's not cool.So I don't know. Okay, I
(01:52):
see what you're saying, Like ifthat was the end all, be all.
I mean, it's kind of likeit takes two to tango. You
didn't have a condom, he didn'thave a condom. He shouldn't be so
upset with that. I wouldn't,hope not. I mean, you're both
doing the right things first time,y'all hooking up. You guys are having
a great first date. You wantto make sure that it's protected all that
good stuff exactly exactly, And sothe fact that I mean, I think
(02:15):
at the end of the date,it was like, well, we definitely
want to get together again so thatwe can finish where we started, and
I just haven't heard anything. Okay, Okay, Well here's what we're gonna
do. We're gonna get Chris onthe phone. We're gonna see if we
can make a second date of realityand see what happened and why he just
kind of abruptly cut you off,because I mean it seemed like everything was
(02:38):
going extremely well and then out ofnowhere, Chris just disappeared on you exactly.
Yeah, so what is Chris gonnasay? You're gonna find out next.
Here we are inside a second dateupdate, CK and Carmen. It's
Being ninety five, So we wereable to track down Chris. Second date
Update CK and Carmen be ninety five, got to figure out why he ghosted.
(02:58):
I mean, things went so wellthey almost got it in on the
first date, just saying I believehe's on the phone. Hey, what's
up, Chris? How you doing? It's c K and Carmen from Being
ninety five. Good morning, what'sup guys? How you doing? What's
up? Man? All right,So we're calling because we do this thing
called a second date, updating.Before we go any further, I have
to have your permission to continue thisconversation on the radio. Are you good
(03:22):
with that? Yes? Good?You mind? Permission? I love it
all right? So, Chris,you recently went on a date with someone,
had a good time, you know, so good of a time you
guys almost you know, did alittle something something, but didn't have a
condom. Do you have any ideaof who I might be calling about.
Yeah, you're probably calling about Carmela, aren't you. Yes, yes,
(03:43):
yes. So with that being said, I'm curious to know what you thought
of Carmela and how that first datewent from your perspective. Yeah, this
check has rect boyfriend's name on herlike when you say on her like,
I mean, she's got a tattooof her ex boyfriend's name on her body.
(04:05):
And so when you saw that,that was kind of like the ant
can't do this, can't do this? Yeah, yeah, pretty much right
away. I you know, I'min of excuse. I was like,
oh, I don't have a condom, but yeah, when I saw that
right away, that was a bigturn off, and I'm like, I'm
out of here. She needs tobe with whoever's name is written on her.
(04:27):
Okay, but you understand that peopledo have x's, and people you
know, may have done some crazythings with that X and including getting a
tattoo of the name on them atsome point. Is that really a deal
breaker? I mean, maybe likeget like a tattoo removal. I don't
know. Yeah, I know,but it's it's always gonna be there.
(04:49):
It's it's like she's the kind ofperson who's gonna tattoo someone's name on it,
who it might not work out with. It just was a big turn
off. It's just a it's justa note. Well, here's the thing.
We have Carmela on the phone rightnow. I'm not sure if you
know how the second date update works, but Carmela's on the phone, and
I mean I gotta let Carmela.I mean, you heard him. Carmela.
(05:11):
First of all, I don't understandif you had an issue, you
could have said something right then andthere, like why are you now just
saying like that's the deal breaker?And you literally lied to my faith,
like tell me you have an issue. Well, I mean I was just
I was just being polite. Youknow, I don't really know how to
how to deal with it, Like, I mean, am I wrong?
(05:34):
Am I wrong? Is this?Is this a you know? Is that
just it's just a word now onyour body? Is here? Is this?
Here's a guy you still like,you still like or still have feelings
for. Yes, I was ina ten year relationship with that dude,
okay, and so that was abig part of my life. And we
(05:56):
do still talk some time to time, but I'm not interested in being with
him. And you know what,like I said, when you're in a
relationship, things happen. Sometimes youdo things when you're young that you regret
when you're older, and I'm surethat this is probably one of those things.
And I know I kind of mentionedthis earlier. You never know,
she could be in the process ofgetting that tattoo removed, because, like
(06:17):
I said, when you're young,sometimes you do silly things, especially when
you're in love. Yeah, butwait, didn't you just say that she's
still talking of a guy I meanher civil Yeah, I mean this this
person was a big part of mylife. Ten years is a long time.
It'd be one thing if there wassome dude I gated for a couple
(06:38):
of dates, you know, Yeah, I mean you see what I'm saying.
It's it's enough for me. Well, it's enough for me too,
because you're honestly rude. I mean, this is kind of an interesting one.
You know, maybe if you werelike, nah, we have no
communication anymore, we don't talk.I get to see how Chris may say,
(07:00):
you know what. She's in theprocess of getting the tattoo removed.
She doesn't talk to the guy.Everything's all good. I'm down to see
where this may go. But Imean, I know that you said that
it was ten years and he's stillkind of a part of your life.
Do you see him always being apart of your life? Is that something
that you're probably never gonna get ridof and you always, at the very
least remain friends. I mean,I can't predict the future. I don't
(07:23):
know, and I'm not gonna geta tattoo rooo. It's in a sensitive
area, and so I'm just notgoing to go through with the removal.
That's stupid. Well where is thistattoo? It's right next to her.
For real, you're gonna say thaton the radio. What the hell if
(07:47):
you gonna say that, I'm rude. I'm gonna tell Pete, tell the
listeners, what's what? Well,that wasn't information for you to reveal.
It's my body. If I wantedto say that, I could have.
I mean, yeah, she's right, I mean, but we kind of
know where the tattoo is now.And yes, that's kind of a sensitive
area, in a very personal areain the sense that I mean maybe as
(08:11):
a guy, if you're like I'mabout to you know, possibly, you
know, make love to this person, that's probably not the last thing you
want to see before you get intoit. Maybe that sounds like insecurity to
me. If you're cold, securein yourself and you can't deal with that
then right, Or you can alsolook at it like, well, his
(08:31):
loss my game. Yeah, Iguess I need to find good, but
I don't want to be reminded ofit every time. It's like, you're
going to keep a picture of nothingissue. This all sounds like you is
you issue. So I'm going tofind someone who's secure and doesn't lie to
me. Not good I understand.I can see quickly that this is not
(08:54):
going to go in the direction ofa possible second date. So I mean,
I appreciate you coming on and beinghonest, Carmela. I'm sorry that
we couldn't make a second date happento day and hopefully you got the answers
that you need and you feel like, man, it's time to move on
and find someone other than Chris.Yeah, this is a blessing, so
thank you. So there you gothis morning. Second date updates. CK
(09:16):
and Carmen is being any five Fresnel'sHome for hip hop and its
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