July 12, 2023 • 9 mins
What did David hear that made him get up and go? Find out inside a 2nd Date Update w CK and Carmen!
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:00):
So you went on the first datewith David Goud ghosted on. That's where
we step in hopefully make a seconddate happen. C K Carmen being outy
five talk to us. Yeah,I did, and it was pretty It
was great. Actually, Okay,he worked with my sister, and my
sister kind of set us up becauseshe thought we would hit it off and
nice and we did, so thatwas awesome. Yeah, we had a
(00:23):
really great time. Um. Wehad some sushi, which is like my
favorite food, and and then wejust chilled. We had some drinks back
at my place and um, andyou know, we really hit it off.
Well, I mean it sounds likeyou hit off. When you tell
me you went from sushi to havingdrinks back at your place, that's a
(00:44):
sign. Like once you tell medrinks at your place, come on,
now, I already know where thisis going. Uh huh. So how
did you guys wrap up the night? Yes, we went to my room
and um and wrapped it up.Oh um and um. But you know
he left kind of fast. Okay. You know, one of my kids
(01:06):
woke up and you know it's it'sreally gonna big deal, you know,
seeing a mom with kids and Idid think they were sleeping, but um,
you know, it's not a bigdeal. And I mean, well,
how loud were y'all? Well,I didn't think we were that loud.
Well, I mean, you know, you got kids in the house,
you're doing your thing. Did heknow that you had kids? Oh?
I don't think so. Um,he didn't know that there I had
(01:30):
kids at the house. No,because I thought they were asleep, you
know, but I didn't think itwould you know, a big, big
deal. And I thought him,Okay, that could be it right there.
So here's what we're gonna do,Laura. We're gonna call David.
We're gonna get him on the phone. We're gonna see if we can make
a second date happen and see wherewe go from here. Okay, okay,
(01:52):
okay, cool. What's David gonnasay? You're gonna find out next
HEK and Carmen. It's being ninetyfive. They were in the middle of
a second date update please, Sowe were able to track down David,
c kN Carmen. Second date updateis B ninety five. Hello, Hey,
David, how you're doing a cK and Carmen from B ninety five?
Good morning Punch up, guys.I mean I already know. I
(02:15):
think I know what's going on here. Okay, you think you know what's
going on here? Yeah? Iknow the show. So I go,
are we going with the War ofthe Roses? We're going with a second
date update? What do you thinkis going on here? You're calling about
Laura? Right? Okay, well, you know what, I'm happy that
(02:36):
you listen to the show so closelyand understand what's happening. I have to
ask this next part, then,which do you give us the permission to
continue his phone call use your voiceon the radio. Yeah? Yeah,
all right, all right, Sowith that being said, tell us a
little bit about how your day went. Okay, So, I mean everything
was good. I mean, sushiwas the bomb. I was feeling her
(02:57):
big time. So you know,we went back to her place, drink
one thing to another. Still,we went into a room or kind of
getting into it, and then um, one of her kids woke up.
Things, that is daddy in therewith you and she has kids and the
(03:17):
kid just saw me having text withher mom. So not good. So
that's when I dipped. Yeah that'sthat's weird. Like, yeah, I
mean not your daddy, but herdaddy for the night. Yeah, but
the thing is like that has tobe weird, like inside, Okay,
I have to word it differently.Yeah, yeah, but to be in
the house and then they have someoneI don't remember, but I'm not ready
(03:43):
to jump into like a real relationshipwith some of you as a kid,
and especially if someone says, isdaddy in there with you? I had
to dip at that point. II just I couldn't. I left fast.
I mean, there's nothing else Icould think of to do. Okay,
all right, you didn't explain yoursab You were like, uh,
you got kids. He may havejust been shocked, like what the heck
just happened? You know, youlike you caught with your pants down,
(04:04):
like what what just happened? Andthen I don't know, I don't know
how old the kids are, butI mean depending on maybe the age of
a child. Yeah, it's likeimagine if I mean again, you know
the way the second date update works. Laura's on the phone right now,
she's listening. But imagine, like, especially if it's a slightly older child,
like you may be able to excuse, like a young kid that says,
(04:27):
is that daddy in there with you. But let's say it's like a
twelve or thirteen year older. Yeah, they daddy, I've been there with
you. Yeah, just I meanit's a second way to start off,
Yeah, getting to know each other. So Laura, Yeah, now that
you kind of have an understanding andyou heard him say what happened, I
mean, in my opinion, itmakes sense why he would get up and
(04:48):
say, you know what, it'stime for me to go ready for that?
Yeah? Well, I mean youcould. You could have said that
this ghost to me like you've beendoing. I mean, you know,
just tell me. I agree.And I didn't. I didn't think the
kid was a big deal. Ididn't you know, if you know what
you know, like you should.Those are the type of things that,
especially when you're out there dating andI understand that maybe you're like, hey,
(05:11):
I'm just going out and having agood time, and maybe I don't
feel it's important to say anything atthis point. I think it seems like
that should have been a conversation fromthe from the jump at least to let
them know, like like to lethim know that their whole Yeah, well
he didn't ask, so I know, but I mean, don't you think
that maybe like if your kids arethere and you know about to hit that,
(05:33):
like just so you know, wegotta be a little quiet. My
kids are in the next room.I don't I don't know. Did you
feel weird about telling him about itis? Is that why? Well?
I didn't think it was a bigdeal. So and I just I knew
they were asleep, and you knowthey they they usually sleep pretty good and
(05:53):
they usually sleep through it. Letme just say she was not quiet,
so oh okay, well obviously theyhad drinks and stuff, so I'm sure.
Yeah, so now now you understand. So obviously she's not trying to
make you no step daddy. Clearlyshe's like, hey, listen, I
was just there for the moment,having fun and join the moment knowing that.
(06:15):
Does that still make you feel sometype of way or does it make
you feel like, okay, wellmaybe there is a connection here. I
mean, because clearly you connected.The connection was there, it was I'm
not I don't want to be ina relationship with somebody Whu's kids at this
point. I understand that Laura's likeprobably taken back a bit, but some
(06:35):
people aren't built to be in arelationship with other people's children, and I
think that what we have to startdoing as adults is being honest and being
able to accept situations like this.Some people can step in and be like,
man, I have no problem helpingyou raise your kids. I like
you, I love you. We'regonna do this. For some they're like,
nah, that's not really my thing. Yeah, and that's okay,
(06:55):
like you said, however, yeah, it definitely is one of those things
where if I'm dating, I'm lettingyou know I yeah, And that's another
place, you know, another conversationI have to say, like, hey,
I have kids, but I'm notlooking for a stepdad right now.
I just want to have fun andenjoy myself. Or Hey, I have
kids and in the future I wantto be able to give my kids a
(07:15):
Vault figure or even one of thosethings like this. Look, I'm trying
to go ahead and hit this realquick. I have kids here. We
gotta keep it down. Some dudesare gonna be like, cool, I'm
with it. I'm with it.Yeah, and I would have been,
but you just wanted the heads up. Well, look obviously we know here
are you guys are on two differentpages? It is mad right now,
I can sense it. But Laura, don't be mad, don't be frustrated.
(07:40):
I understand your frustration, but Ireally think a lot of this could
have been solved if you would havetold them from the jump, I have
children. We're going back to myplace where my children are sleeping. Yeah,
we went back to my place.See, I mean, not anymore,
right, or unless you're still downto have fun, just for the
(08:01):
fun fun? Yeah you there,You've offended, aren't you a little bit?
Yeah? All right, but youhave to admit this, Laura,
do you think that you should havetold him from the very beginning that you
have children and that you go backto your place your children may be sleeping.
(08:22):
Now understand Now, now I'm startingto decipher this. I realized one
thing. You didn't have a babysitterthere. That tells me your children are
older. So knowing that your kidsare older, they may have heard some
things. And I mean, Idon't know. Well, now I know
I should have. I didn't thinkit would be a big deal, but
(08:45):
now I know. So moving forward, do you guys want to kid get
again? Yeah? I'm fine withthat. I don't. This isn't cool.
It just it was weird, right, I mean, it was weird,
weird, it's weird all the wayaround, all the way around,
it's weird. But I could respectit, and I get it, and
(09:05):
I understand your frustration. Is whatit was. Yep, it was that
it happened and that it got awkwardfast, and that's it. So I
guess there's no second date. No, no, So there you go.
Second date update Skin Carmen's being eetyfive that did not work out.
So you went on the first datewith David Goud ghosted on. That's where
we step in hopefully make a seconddate happen. C K Carmen being outy
five talk to us. Yeah,I did, and it was pretty It
was great. Actually, Okay,he worked with my sister, and my
sister kind of set us up becauseshe thought we would hit it off and
nice and we did, so thatwas awesome. Yeah, we had a
(00:23):
really great time. Um. Wehad some sushi, which is like my
favorite food, and and then wejust chilled. We had some drinks back
at my place and um, andyou know, we really hit it off.
Well, I mean it sounds likeyou hit off. When you tell
me you went from sushi to havingdrinks back at your place, that's a
(00:44):
sign. Like once you tell medrinks at your place, come on,
now, I already know where thisis going. Uh huh. So how
did you guys wrap up the night? Yes, we went to my room
and um and wrapped it up.Oh um and um. But you know
he left kind of fast. Okay. You know, one of my kids
(01:06):
woke up and you know it's it'sreally gonna big deal, you know,
seeing a mom with kids and Idid think they were sleeping, but um,
you know, it's not a bigdeal. And I mean, well,
how loud were y'all? Well,I didn't think we were that loud.
Well, I mean, you know, you got kids in the house,
you're doing your thing. Did heknow that you had kids? Oh?
I don't think so. Um,he didn't know that there I had
(01:30):
kids at the house. No,because I thought they were asleep, you
know, but I didn't think itwould you know, a big, big
deal. And I thought him,Okay, that could be it right there.
So here's what we're gonna do,Laura. We're gonna call David.
We're gonna get him on the phone. We're gonna see if we can make
a second date happen and see wherewe go from here. Okay, okay,
(01:52):
okay, cool. What's David gonnasay? You're gonna find out next
HEK and Carmen. It's being ninetyfive. They were in the middle of
a second date update please, Sowe were able to track down David,
c kN Carmen. Second date updateis B ninety five. Hello, Hey,
David, how you're doing a cK and Carmen from B ninety five?
Good morning Punch up, guys.I mean I already know. I
(02:15):
think I know what's going on here. Okay, you think you know what's
going on here? Yeah? Iknow the show. So I go,
are we going with the War ofthe Roses? We're going with a second
date update? What do you thinkis going on here? You're calling about
Laura? Right? Okay, well, you know what, I'm happy that
(02:36):
you listen to the show so closelyand understand what's happening. I have to
ask this next part, then,which do you give us the permission to
continue his phone call use your voiceon the radio. Yeah? Yeah,
all right, all right, Sowith that being said, tell us a
little bit about how your day went. Okay, So, I mean everything
was good. I mean, sushiwas the bomb. I was feeling her
(02:57):
big time. So you know,we went back to her place, drink
one thing to another. Still,we went into a room or kind of
getting into it, and then um, one of her kids woke up.
Things, that is daddy in therewith you and she has kids and the
(03:17):
kid just saw me having text withher mom. So not good. So
that's when I dipped. Yeah that'sthat's weird. Like, yeah, I
mean not your daddy, but herdaddy for the night. Yeah, but
the thing is like that has tobe weird, like inside, Okay,
I have to word it differently.Yeah, yeah, but to be in
the house and then they have someoneI don't remember, but I'm not ready
(03:43):
to jump into like a real relationshipwith some of you as a kid,
and especially if someone says, isdaddy in there with you? I had
to dip at that point. II just I couldn't. I left fast.
I mean, there's nothing else Icould think of to do. Okay,
all right, you didn't explain yoursab You were like, uh,
you got kids. He may havejust been shocked, like what the heck
just happened? You know, youlike you caught with your pants down,
(04:04):
like what what just happened? Andthen I don't know, I don't know
how old the kids are, butI mean depending on maybe the age of
a child. Yeah, it's likeimagine if I mean again, you know
the way the second date update works. Laura's on the phone right now,
she's listening. But imagine, like, especially if it's a slightly older child,
like you may be able to excuse, like a young kid that says,
(04:27):
is that daddy in there with you. But let's say it's like a
twelve or thirteen year older. Yeah, they daddy, I've been there with
you. Yeah, just I meanit's a second way to start off,
Yeah, getting to know each other. So Laura, Yeah, now that
you kind of have an understanding andyou heard him say what happened, I
mean, in my opinion, itmakes sense why he would get up and
(04:48):
say, you know what, it'stime for me to go ready for that?
Yeah? Well, I mean youcould. You could have said that
this ghost to me like you've beendoing. I mean, you know,
just tell me. I agree.And I didn't. I didn't think the
kid was a big deal. Ididn't you know, if you know what
you know, like you should.Those are the type of things that,
especially when you're out there dating andI understand that maybe you're like, hey,
(05:11):
I'm just going out and having agood time, and maybe I don't
feel it's important to say anything atthis point. I think it seems like
that should have been a conversation fromthe from the jump at least to let
them know, like like to lethim know that their whole Yeah, well
he didn't ask, so I know, but I mean, don't you think
that maybe like if your kids arethere and you know about to hit that,
(05:33):
like just so you know, wegotta be a little quiet. My
kids are in the next room.I don't I don't know. Did you
feel weird about telling him about itis? Is that why? Well?
I didn't think it was a bigdeal. So and I just I knew
they were asleep, and you knowthey they they usually sleep pretty good and
(05:53):
they usually sleep through it. Letme just say she was not quiet,
so oh okay, well obviously theyhad drinks and stuff, so I'm sure.
Yeah, so now now you understand. So obviously she's not trying to
make you no step daddy. Clearlyshe's like, hey, listen, I
was just there for the moment,having fun and join the moment knowing that.
(06:15):
Does that still make you feel sometype of way or does it make
you feel like, okay, wellmaybe there is a connection here. I
mean, because clearly you connected.The connection was there, it was I'm
not I don't want to be ina relationship with somebody Whu's kids at this
point. I understand that Laura's likeprobably taken back a bit, but some
(06:35):
people aren't built to be in arelationship with other people's children, and I
think that what we have to startdoing as adults is being honest and being
able to accept situations like this.Some people can step in and be like,
man, I have no problem helpingyou raise your kids. I like
you, I love you. We'regonna do this. For some they're like,
nah, that's not really my thing. Yeah, and that's okay,
(06:55):
like you said, however, yeah, it definitely is one of those things
where if I'm dating, I'm lettingyou know I yeah, And that's another
place, you know, another conversationI have to say, like, hey,
I have kids, but I'm notlooking for a stepdad right now.
I just want to have fun andenjoy myself. Or Hey, I have
kids and in the future I wantto be able to give my kids a
(07:15):
Vault figure or even one of thosethings like this. Look, I'm trying
to go ahead and hit this realquick. I have kids here. We
gotta keep it down. Some dudesare gonna be like, cool, I'm
with it. I'm with it.Yeah, and I would have been,
but you just wanted the heads up. Well, look obviously we know here
are you guys are on two differentpages? It is mad right now,
I can sense it. But Laura, don't be mad, don't be frustrated.
(07:40):
I understand your frustration, but Ireally think a lot of this could
have been solved if you would havetold them from the jump, I have
children. We're going back to myplace where my children are sleeping. Yeah,
we went back to my place.See, I mean, not anymore,
right, or unless you're still downto have fun, just for the
(08:01):
fun fun? Yeah you there,You've offended, aren't you a little bit?
Yeah? All right, but youhave to admit this, Laura,
do you think that you should havetold him from the very beginning that you
have children and that you go backto your place your children may be sleeping.
(08:22):
Now understand Now, now I'm startingto decipher this. I realized one
thing. You didn't have a babysitterthere. That tells me your children are
older. So knowing that your kidsare older, they may have heard some
things. And I mean, Idon't know. Well, now I know
I should have. I didn't thinkit would be a big deal, but
(08:45):
now I know. So moving forward, do you guys want to kid get
again? Yeah? I'm fine withthat. I don't. This isn't cool.
It just it was weird, right, I mean, it was weird,
weird, it's weird all the wayaround, all the way around,
it's weird. But I could respectit, and I get it, and
(09:05):
I understand your frustration. Is whatit was. Yep, it was that
it happened and that it got awkwardfast, and that's it. So I
guess there's no second date. No, no, So there you go.
Second date update Skin Carmen's being eetyfive that did not work out.
Popular Podcasts
The Breakfast Club
The World's Most Dangerous Morning Show, The Breakfast Club, With DJ Envy And Charlamagne Tha God!
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
Decisions, Decisions
Welcome to "Decisions, Decisions," the podcast where boundaries are pushed, and conversations get candid! Join your favorite hosts, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, as they dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often-taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. Every Monday, Mandii and Weezy invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, they share their personal journeys navigating their 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engaging in thought-provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories that resonate with your experiences, "Decisions, Decisions" is your go-to source for open dialogue about what it truly means to love and connect in today's world. Get ready to reshape your understanding of relationships and embrace the freedom of authentic connections—tune in and join the conversation!