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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Emma is on the phone today for our first Day
follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Kyle.
So in a few minutes we'll call him and see
if it tells why he's ghosting her and maybe get
her another date. But first, Emma, how long has it
been since you heard from Kyle?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Gosh? I want to say it's been about like three weeks,
three or four weeks?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Oh oh, and been that long? Why do you want
to get a hold of him?
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Okay, I mean, if I can be totally honest, it's
because I know it's kind of cheesy to say because
it was just one day, but I really felt like
there was a connection, Like I really feel like there
was something there. Yeah yeah, I mean the date went
so well, and you know, we did like a whole
escape room thing, which I thought would be pretty fun fun.
(00:51):
Yeah yeah, I mean I love solving puzzles, and you know,
it seemed like we were both really working well together.
You know, I was kind of the brains, he was
kind of like the muscle moving stuff around, helping them,
you know, tall clues, and it just felt like, I
don't know, it almost didn't even feel like it was
a first date. We you know, even let so much
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time pass that it was like past dinner time and
we hadn't ate anything yet, so then we decided to
like stop and get somebody to eat. It was so casual.
I am. I'm very much a person who kind of
overthinks on the first date, and I get very nervous usually,
but I didn't feel anything like that with Kyle. I
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feel like he was also kind of feeling the vibe too,
and the way he was looking at me and talking
to me and telling me things. Yeah, I just I
felt so safe and comfortable.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
And it's always so hard to know that you feel
that way, and it's kind of like it's impossible that
the other person didn't feel something right, Like, don't you
always feel.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
That way exactly?
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Yeah, what could have been the reason why he's disappeared now?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
If it was that intense.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
I've really been trying to pin this down, and I mean,
I'm not totally sure, but the only thing that I
can kind of think of is that I can sometimes
get a little bit into the games, like I do
get competitive to a certain point. But I did tell
him this in advance, and I tried to kind of
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just brush it off in more of like a flirtatious way,
Like there was one puzzle that he just wasn't getting,
Like it was, you know, like a word clue thing,
and it was so obvious to me, and he just
wasn't getting it, and I just joked with him. I
was like, well, you're lucky, you're so pretty, you know, Like, well, okay,
(02:54):
I didn't say that, but and it's my own fault,
like I know, I probably could have done better about
but that's the only thing that I can think of.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Okay, Well, how did it end with him?
Speaker 3 (03:05):
I mean I thought it ended so well. We didn't
like fully confirm going on a second day, but we
both said the whole like, oh, you know, like I
had a great time. I'd like to do it again sometime.
And we both said that at the end, and we
exchanged you know, like we still had, you know, our
phone numbers and stuff. And then I tried to text
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him the next day and I didn't hear anything. And
then I tried again, you know, a couple of days later,
and then nothing, and I did try again you know
a few more times, but I haven't. Yeah, I will say.
Speaker 5 (03:43):
If there's one thing I normally hear on all these
it said after every single time they go on a
first day they everyone says like, oh, mars, like we
should this again some.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Time, or like, yeah, that's polite.
Speaker 5 (03:53):
I think it's honestly just a polite thing people say,
because I've said it before, knowing that I was like, huh, so,
I don't know. It sucks because you, like you thought
it was a really great date, and you in your
head is like, oh, he wants to go see me again.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
But at the same time, he could just be doing
it to be polite. Well, that's heartbreaking. That's what's sounds.
Speaker 6 (04:12):
I know.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
That's like pure em We'll see if we can figure
it out for you. We'll play a song, come back,
and then call him and see if he'll tell us
why he's ghosting you and maybe get to another date.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Okay, all right, I appreciate it, guys.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
All right, thank you? Yeah, first thing follow.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
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Speaker 2 (04:34):
Right in the middle of today's first day follow up
and if you're just joining us. Emma is on the
phone and she's getting ghosted by Kyle. So we're about
to call him and see if he'll tell us why
he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Emma,
why don't you break down your date for us one
more time?
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Yeah, Kyle and I went out a few weeks ago.
We had a great first date. We did an escape room,
we had you know, dinner afterwards. It felt like we
were both on the same page. We were vibing, we
were laughing, we were having fun, and we both said
that we were wanting to see each other again. But
then I never heard back from him.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
All right, Well he did kind of imply that he
wasn't the smartest, so yeah, there was that.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
All right, Well, you're ready for us to see if
we can figure it out?
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Yeah, I'm ready.
Speaker 7 (05:20):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Hey is Kyle, Kyle?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
How are you? This is a radio show. It's called
The Jebel Show.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Hi Kyle.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
My name is Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and I'm Jebel.
How's it going, Hey, guys, it's going, it's going.
Speaker 6 (05:43):
It's going pretty good.
Speaker 7 (05:44):
How's it going right?
Speaker 6 (05:45):
Good?
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Thanks for asking? Have you ever listened to the show before, Yeah,
a little bit. Well, we do a segment on the
show called the First eight follow Up. I swear if
you go out on a date with somebody and you
ghost them, they can email us to call you and
figure out why you're ghosting them. So we had an
email about you from somebody, Kyle, that's why we're calling.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Uh huh yeah, yeah for sure.
Speaker 8 (06:05):
I think I uh, I think I've been familiar with it.
Let me guess she's been texting me a ton Uh,
no surprises.
Speaker 6 (06:14):
On this Is it?
Speaker 3 (06:15):
Is it? Emma?
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Yes, it is Emma. Do you have time to tell
us why you're ghostinger?
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Uh? Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 6 (06:25):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Look, I mean look, I mean I don't know. I mean,
the day was really fun.
Speaker 8 (06:30):
I thought it was. I thought it was a good time.
I mean she was really really gorgeous, and I mean
I think she means, well, I'm just kind of uh,
I don't know, I'm bum because I mean I was
pretty attracted to her. I was like really feeling something
with her, and uh, it turns out I don't know,
it's kind of crazy, but she's like as a pretty
specific kind of girl, and it just kind of rubs
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me the wrong way.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Sort of right.
Speaker 8 (06:52):
So after our day, she she sends me, she sends
me a Venmo request for half of our Uber ride.
People to send like Venmo requests without like a heads up,
that's like a different kind of passive aggressive. And this
is an uber ride that was like twenty five bucks,
So like I paid it and I just kind of
checked out with her. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
Wait, wait a minute, sorry, that's the reason why you
ghosted me.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Hey, Kyle, that's much. She's on the phone and wants
to talk to you.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
By the way, Yeah, I could jump in like it
was your you're you ghosted me over twelve dollars and
fifty cents?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Did you send them? I mean I did.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
It's like, ye, I didn't.
Speaker 8 (07:33):
Sorry, I didn't even make it. I don't even make
like a big thing or anything like that. Yeah, it
just it's just it's so kind of weird, dude, I
don't know, but you made it.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
A big thing like it's it was a twenty five
dollars ride, like I was. I just supposed to just
not like just deal with it like it was a
first date. I feel like that's just a very common
expense expectancy to like split things.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Did you guys split everything else on the day?
Speaker 6 (08:00):
It?
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (08:01):
My thing is?
Speaker 3 (08:02):
This is my thing?
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Though?
Speaker 4 (08:03):
Is that?
Speaker 3 (08:04):
So to me this has.
Speaker 8 (08:05):
Like nothing to do with the money, Like I don't
care about this split in the money, the fees, the
twenty five dollars, but I don't even care about that.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
To me is like this is a communication thing. You
kind of know what I mean by that.
Speaker 8 (08:17):
So it's like we hadn't even had our first post
first date conversation before You're like sending me these Venmo
requests without like hitting me up about like or even
just texting me or even just like talking to me.
It felt like, I don't know that could be like
our future, right it's just passive aggressive comment actions and
stuff like that. I really, I just I can't really
(08:38):
handle that. I'm kind of good. I'm an adult and
I appreciate straightforward communications, just to be honest about it.
Speaker 5 (08:45):
So would you have rather her text you and be like, hey,
do you mind if I send you a Venmo request for.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
The uber ride? Like would that have solved issue for you?
Speaker 8 (08:54):
I don't know, because like I would have rather heard
I guess in my head I kind of want her
to just drive at least in two We're having like
regular conversations for a little while, and then it's like, hey,
you want to send me some money for that uber?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Right, you just.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Said that the money. You just said the money wasn't
an issue, but now you're saying it is an issue
because I mean, I haint fo and like everything all
I did was sent a request. I didn't demand it
from you. I was and you could have just texted
me and said, hey, what's up with the Venmo request?
You didn't respond to me at all? How is that
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an adult mature thing?
Speaker 8 (09:33):
I mean, even if you would have demanded it from me,
that would.
Speaker 6 (09:36):
Have been more straightforward communications. So I feel like I
would have preferred that even over, Like, I just don't
like the passive aggressive Venmo thing, dude, Like this is
it's like a type of person that communicates and operates
through the Venmo transactions like that, And it's not me.
Speaker 8 (09:51):
I'm just not I'm not into it.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
It was a turn off.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
But do you think you're a passive aggressive person in general?
Speaker 3 (09:58):
No? No, I'm definitely not. I don't know what kind
of specific person you're like looking for in terms of
wanting something like that, but you could have also just
communicated that that was an issue, Like you're boasting about
being a mature adult and communication is important to you.
But you did the exact opposite of what you just said.
(10:19):
So I'm looking for somebody who can actually follow through
with their own principles. I needed to.
Speaker 8 (10:25):
Send a them request, like to someone after a date
all out of the move.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
I just think it's kind of weird in this economy.
How is that weird?
Speaker 8 (10:34):
If you're if you're if you need the money or whatever.
I guess I get that or whatever, but it's for me,
it's to turn off.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
I'm sorry about it.
Speaker 8 (10:40):
It is what it is.
Speaker 5 (10:42):
You said that you would have rather bring it up later,
but I feel like it'd been more awkward if she
would have brought it up later and randomly.
Speaker 8 (10:49):
Well, okay, how about we try this right, Like, why
don't you tell me how much your time was worth
for the date and I'll reimburse you for it?
Speaker 3 (10:59):
Wow? No, you know, I don't know money, you know,
I just I mean, if you want to pay me, like,
you know, give me one hundred and fifty bucks, But
be honest, I don't think you can even afford that.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
Oh, Okay, all right, I'm going an you will use
three hundred right now, just to show you I can
afford it.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Hey, Kyle, would you like to go on another date
with Emma? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
I'm thinking about it. I think I'm good, don't fam.
I think we're business.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Emma, you didn't get a second date, but hey, you
got three hundred bus when In my book, Jubile's first
day call up