February 25, 2025 • 34 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Jenny, would you like to do the honors?
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Yes, Welcome to the I'm Still Fun Podcast. When I
walked into the studio this morning and I found Fallon
Lane flat on her back on the floor, and I
thought she was dead, and I was like, what are
you doing?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
You should like get out of the way. Oh my god. Oh.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I slammed open the door because I thought maybe i'd
scare you did and then I realize you're on the ground,
and I felt like I was about to hate you.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I got here so early, Can I be honest? I'm
avoiding my dog and which one rank? He's so annoying.
He's so he's in this like puppy phase that is
driving me crazy. He eats shit constantly, like your things,
like oh poop, yeah, stuff, And I got the little
pills to try to break him of eating poop. It
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is so disgusting the guy it's and you it can
cause like real health issues. He is in the yard,
he's excavating shit, and he comes in the house and
he's like, oh, let's go to the cat litter box.
He'll poop eat his own poop. And I'm constantly watching him.
I'm screaming like stop and then Edith the cat. I
told Jaco's like it was endless yesterday, which shows how
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much work Jake does. Edith pukes on the carpet. I
run to get cleaning stuff. I clean it up, and
He's just like, oh, yeah, one taste, and I'm like,
get the hell. It's so gross it makes it's making
me not want to cuddle him at all, like well, yeah,
grossing me out, poopy breath, mouth and and he's just
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and he's I can't relax. I cannot relax because I'm like,
what is he chewing? What is he eating? And yeah,
and you know, so that's where I'm at. I'm avoiding
my dog. So I came in early. Yeah, I had
some emails just in too that I've been putting off there,
like the kind that takes mental thought of do I
want to say yes to this commitment or no? So
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that's where I'm at.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
How are you?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
How is your weekend going?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
My weekend's going good. I haven't done barely anything. I've
been hiding in the shadows of my house because I
got a like laser treatment in my face and so, yeah,
I have this one sunspot and I I think you
might have still been the show on the part of
the morning show when it started appearing, because I thought
maybe it was skin cancerous and I was like, what
the heck is this And my esthetition was like, no,
(02:10):
that's like some sun damage starting to come in. And
basically this laser treatment just pulls the pigment right out
and it goes away. And I know you have to
like probably consistently be doing these, and I don't like
to think about that, but I've done one before. So anyways,
my face has been puffy and now it's like sandpaper
texture right now. And so I told Pan and I
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was like, get ready, you're gonna get to see my
big old puffy face.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
You can't tell the texture right now. Yeah, it only
looks puffy around like your upper cheek eye area. Uh huh.
But I because I got the same thing as you,
and I remember it did stay sandpipery the full ten days,
like they said.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, which I'm like, great. I'm looking at my week ahead.
I don't have anything too crazy. But this coming weekend
I'm going to Wisconsin where we got tickets for a
concert to take my mom too, so I'll be back
home with them. So it's like whatever. But I'm doing
this pickupball events on Tuesday, where I'm going to be sweating,
I think, and I am like, great because I'm probably
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gonna be in prime peeling and i have to it's
like for charity whatever. I'm like, well, it's hard to
do these treatments and plan around your life, is what
it came to. Because I was going to do it
last weekend, but we had a three day weekend, so
I kind of wanted that to be free to go
do something over the weekend. So anyways, that's that. That
was pretty much my entire weekend. Andrew and I did
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very basic necessities we needed to do around the house,
and I just dropped him off at the airport. He'll
be gone in Europe for the next week and can
I know this. So he's going to go see his
friend who's originally from Macedonia, and they were supposed to
do this ski trip.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Where is Macedonia.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
It's close to Greece, okay, and so they're supposed to
do this ski trip, but they're not getting as much
snow anymore and whatever, things are up in the air
now and his friend is this fantastic like chef baker
whatever So Andrew's going to Europe to like almost go
work with him. Like I think he has his own
shop now, I don't really know. He does all kinds
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of random business ventures, and so he's gonna go work.
They're playing on hiking, They're gonna hopefully still go snowboarding
one a couple of days. They have to like drive
out of the way. It just depends on like the
weather and stuff. But as I was taking him to
the airport, I'm like, man, I can't believe you're going
to Europe before I am.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Like, really, how did I not know? You haven't been?
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, I mean I've only been out of the country
to Mexico a couple of times, and then Thailand and Tahiti,
so well never Thailand.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
But still you're right, Europe is like Europe is usually
the first place people go.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I know in Mexico. I know the first place mine
was was Mexico, but then Thailand was like the first thing.
Yeah you really just bab went crazy, I know. So
he's like, yeah, but I'm not going to like the
good part of Europe, and I was like, Babe, You're
still going to Europe though it's still a different landscape
and whatever. But he's like, yeah, but it's not like
I'm going to Italy and doing a bunch of things
there without you. And I'm like, I know, but I'm jealous.
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And I told him yesterday that I will be planning
the next trip for us while he's on this trip,
because I want to go somewhere in like the summertime.
And I don't give a shit that he's like, oh,
they're spending a ton of money and doing that, Like
Mama still wants to get out and travel the world too.
So but I want to ask you this because I
feel like it's a pretty normal thing in relationships, or
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maybe I'm just a little crazy. So yesterday we're sitting
on the couch and I don't know what my deal was.
I was just like irritated because I got up a
little earlier and I wanted just some me time. Well
ten minutes later, I hear him clonking down the stairs, just.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Kind of abnormal. Won't He usually kind of lay in
and rest a little bit in the morning.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I mean, it's it's up in the air sometimes with him.
But yeah, so I think he started to get up
earlier again, but for a little while he kind of
started to sleep in after we had put Mickey down
because like he didn't have that responsibility of taking care
of her anymore. So I hear him clonking and I'm like, oh,
I just like wanted to sit around and enjoy like
a peaceful, quiet morning. Yeah, and he is just chatty
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chatty chatty all the time, and five days a week
I have to come in and do that for work.
So I like to just sit and like enjoy some peace.
And he sits down and everything he does is bugging
the hell out of me. Okay, everything like a voice
to text he was doing, or talk to text whatever
it's called. And then he goes and gets raspberries and
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he's eating raspberries next to me, which isn't that a
lot of a food, But you know me, I don't
like chewing noises, and I'm like, oh my god, I
can't focus on anything, like any little noise he made.
It was like oh yeah, you know. And so I
was irritated with him like half the day yesterday for
no reason, like he wasn't doing anything that I should
be irritated with. But then as I go to take
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him to the airport this morning, I'm almost crying because
I'm so saddy, okay, like and like, what who is
this person?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Isn't possible even though you have an implant, your period
would be arriving.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yes, it is very possible, but I'm like, this is
such a drastic change of emotion from one day to
the next. But yeah, I were like, just for the racket.
I am you are crazy, but I am too. So
there was never a point where like I snapped at
him about anything yesterday. But I definitely wasn't like super
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like happy, go lucky when we were doing things, Like
I was pretty quiet and just like kept to myself
most of the day, and like when he'd want to talk,
I just like give him the bare minimum he needed
to have a conversation. But I didn't really like talk
a ton. So anyways, Yeah, I just like was laughing
at myself as I waved goodbye to him, and I
was taking a bunch of pictures of him like leaving,
and I'm like, god, you crazy lady. He probably thought
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the same thing. He's like, gone, got him.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Get away for a week from this lunatic.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
No.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I'm sure that if Jake and Andrew sat down and
shared stories, they probably like, shoot, them and they'd be
I mean, because we did that about them anyway. But
Jake has also gone. They he took the kids to
call it they're skiing, So I'm solo too, but I didn't.
I like, I don't know what to do solo anymore.
(08:10):
I have felt very stir crazy. Yesterday we had pre
planned because I knew they were going to be gone.
So Tina and I went because she had reached out
to me kind of over Christmas break and she's like,
I want to do Plate's class with you, and I
said okay, and then I never like set one up
with her, so I was like, hey, would you want
to do it? She's like yes, and she was. I
felt like she seemed naturally very good at it. And
(08:31):
when we left, she said that she thinks like her
dance history really because it's really like it's it's a
very dancery kind of but not like I think it's
made for kind of dancer people, if you will. So
I was like, she goes, was that like an easier
class or a harder class? And I was like for me,
you know how like you rate instructors, you know, it's
(08:52):
just like peloton. If I don't want my ass kicked.
I'm not going to take a certain instructor. Yeah, so
I in my mind have my list in order of
hard to less hard instructors, and I did this one
is like lower on my list.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
However, when I said to Tina though, I was like,
cause she's like, I remember you said like you wanted
to cry your first one. I was like, Tina, I
was far more out of shape than you are right
now when I did my first one. I go. My
first one though, was with what I consider the hardest instructor,
and but I still think I would have thought that
one was hard on my first one. But it really
does make me really proud because, like, especially with AB stuff,
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how much I can tell my AB area has strengthen
your core strength. It's very good. Now.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
See, I would die, I think if I went to pilates,
because that is probably my weakest part of my body
is my core, and I use it's so weird because
that used to be really I used to have a
strong core when I played sports in high school and stuff.
But I just don't work out that area. So when
I see like plates classes, I'm like, I think I
would not be able to do it.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, the things like you know, like just an example,
like where you're sitting on your butt and your legs
are out straight, yeah, and you're you're kind of gonna
be and you're just sitting there doing like up and
down stuff. That stuff would have just gassed me. I
would have died. Now I could do it for a
very very long time. Like pretty good ab strength now,
(10:15):
which is good because she was non existent there for
a while. But then we went Tina got a flight
of Mimosa's. Everyone thought we were sharing am I posted
a picture and I'm like, no, all three were Tina's.
I got a coffee. She's out of contrucderance it. But
she's already started like kind of actually laying out wedding stuff.
(10:36):
So we're gonna have to have her back on the
podcast when she gets to that point. Yeah, we should,
or at least after the wedding or something, which she's thinking,
like a lot of the I'm supposed talk about it.
But my friend Abby from.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
College, Yes, she picked out her dress this week and
the hotel so I got to see that very beautiful.
I'm going to found friend who was like habitually not
habitually single, just dating a lot, and then it was
never working out with them.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Yes, she's you know, forty years old. She's never been
engaged or anything. And she the last long, long term
relationship was like when I still lived in Indiana and
then I moved away and she was still with him
for a few years after that, and then they broke up.
And since then, I don't think she's really had She's
had some that last maybe six months, but not like
long term. So I'm really happy for her. Are you
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guys been a bachelot party for her? Yeah? So I
actually texted her about that. I'm like, hey, what's the vibe.
Are you thinking you want to like kind of go
somewhere close to Indiana like driveable or are we going
to go destination? She's like, no, I want to do
something closerh like drive away. She just wants a cute
airbnb she wants She's like, I don't care about bar scenes.
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I don't want to do that really, I want to
go somewhere like maybe they have like a like a
river you can float down, or a hike or something.
I was like, cool, like yeah that was music to
my ears.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yeah sounds lovely.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
Yeah me too, And she said She's going to pick
some kind of like dark like maybe like a wine
color kind of dressed for our pridesmade dresses. And I
was like, yep, like that. I lean into something and
things that I like, you know, it's about me obviously
for her big well.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Of course, is she having a big wedding.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I don't know how many people. The place looks like
I could hold a decent amount of people. She has
a big family. I don't know about her husband to be.
I've never met him, which is super bizarre. But I mean,
I'm not in the same state dessert. I don't know
if I'll meet him before like the wedding weekend because
if I depending on where the bachelorette party is, I
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may not go to Indiana or that right, So I'm like,
I may not meet him until the weekend of the wedding,
which is crazy. It's not like I'm gonna be like, oh,
I don't approve or something, but I don't know. It's
it's bizarre. I haven't told you this. I was going
back and forth. I'd shared on the podcast. I got
into a fight with my sister.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Yeah, really, your sister that lives in Florida that you're
decently close with.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Yeah, So I won't go on into too many details
because something's got to remain private. But I've felt a
very weird distance between us for like a while. Okay,
but I think, you know, I I've listened to that
book that a lot of people have talked about, you
like let the Robbins let them, And one of the
things she talks about is just your friendships really really
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depend on proximity.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Right.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
So she's my sister, so she'll always be part of
my life, but we're not as close as and now
we are in very different phases of life. I mean,
her kids are grown out of the house, she's like retired,
she's now by the way, trying to get her real
estate license, which she's like it's so hard. And then
she you know, she's like fifty years old, going to
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be in October, and I'm raising a toddler. I mean,
we're just in very different places, and I'm like working
two jobs. It's very different. So I have felt some
weird vibes for a while. And I can't remember if
I shared stuff on the podcast about my fortieth birthday
or not with her. I don't remember I did on
the radio show because I was being a little petty
(14:13):
at the time. Yeah, But basically, I for Kara's fortieth birthday,
I threw her a very large, lavish party. I rented
a venue, I catered it. I like it was a
surprise party. I spent a lot of money on everything.
I bought her a very expensive birthday present. And for
my fortieth birthday, she venmoed me one hundred dollars. Now, okay,
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you might have shared that, yet I do not care
about the amount. I do not need care I have.
I'm fine, I don't need things right. My feelings were
hurt because she venmoed me cash like every other birthday. Sure,
venmo me cash, if that's what you want to do,
I venmo her cat. I don't care. But my feelings
were hurt, and I was like, she couldn't even send
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me a card, she couldn't pick out a single like
ho actual physical gift, like it just my It was
like that. And but I went back and forth if
I was going to say something to her, and then
I decided it was just unnecessary. It would just make
her feel bad, and I just decided to not. But
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I still felt like the little ping of resentment in
my body because of it. Right, so fast forward, I
was like, hey, we had talked about maybe one day
going to Hawaii, maybe we do.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
It over Christmas.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Blah blah blah. I said, hey, I'm going to do
Hawaii over spring break. We're going to take mom, love
for you to come. And then this is where things
got really awkward and bad. So she was upset. She
wanted to go for her fiftieth in October, okay, And
I'm like, okay, well, too bad. I can't take the
kids out of school for a week in October. We're
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doing it over spring break because that's when we have off.
And she was like, well, let me look at dates
and stuff. Then she's like the resort you're staying at
is too expensive. I said, okay, well we could look
at other places if that, if you can go, Nope,
I can't afford to go. You guys have fun. But
I could feel the passive aggressive anger there, and I
was like, you know what, let her be passive aggressive angry.
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My sister is known quoted as saying she doesn't plan
vacations until either one month or one week before the
vacation because something big always happens that they have to
cancel their vacation. We work very differently. Yeah, I book
nine to twelve months in advance. She can't book so I.
And she also changes her mind a lot. I'm not
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booking a big, expensive vacation a month out and based
on the like the possibility that something quote unquote big
is going to happen to cancel the vacation and.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
It's going to be twice the amount. Yes, especially to
a place like Hawaii.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
I know so I, but I'm in a place where
I can cancel, like the hotel. I booked it for
that reason in case for some reason she could figure
it out. Anyway. Finally came to a head on like
Friday over something involving my grandma, and we were just
texting back and forth. I'm like, screw this, I call her.
I'm like, Kara, We're never going to like have a
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decent conversation over text. So it just turned into all
of that coming out on her side. She feels like
I don't want I don't want her her family to
be a part of my life. She wanted to do
something big for my fortieth and I said no, She's
like I wanted to go on vacation with you and Jake.
(17:30):
But you said no, you just wanted to go with
your husband and I go. You never once said you
want to go, I go. And you're right, I wouldn't
want to go on a family vacation. She's like, no,
me and my husband and you and Jake. I go, Yeah,
no offense, Kara, But for my big birthday I did not.
I don't remember you saying that to me, but I
still in this moment, would not want to go on
vacation with you and Brian. I wanted to go on
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a fancy ass overpriced, like quick vacation with just Jake,
and I don't feel bad about that.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
No, and you shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
I was like, I didn't want a party like I
threw you. That's my nightmare. I don't like parties like
that because I always feel like I have to be
the host, even if it's for me, and then it
feels exhausting. I don't like parties like that. And so
I was like, you're right, I told you not to
throw me one. And then she was like, I feel
like you don't want to be a part of my life.
You don't involve me. You like never call me and
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I was like, actually, I'm the only one that calls,
but I didn't say that. I just held it out
back because I'm like, I'm gonna let her have her moment.
And then she feels like she's not a part of
my daughter's life. And I'm like, well, we FaceTime you.
She's like not enough, and I was like, why can't
you call me? She's like, you guys are too busy,
and I just let it go because I'm like, dude,
when she was younger and had two kids and their
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schedules were crazy, she was never calling me and FaceTime didn't.
I don't think it even exists when they were young,
but they I had to just call and know that
I was probably gonna get a voicemail and they'd call
me back when they could. So it's crazy to me
that she's retired and she knows I'm working two jobs
and has a kid, but it's on me to do
all the calls because she says she can never call
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at the right time. And I was like, but I
didn't say anything back. I was just like, Okay, I
can work harder on finding time. Maybe we do a
once a week thing where all of face times you
but man, it's so crazy to me to still have
random arguments with my sister this late and late in life.
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But I also think that it's like it's because we
don't talk, we don't know what's going on. We both
want to not cause is shoes, so instead we just
probably bitch to our husbands about the other one until
it finally comes to a head. I guess, but I
hope moving forward things will be fine. Because she said
that she this one thing. She said that she was
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mad because I booked Hawaii for my birthday when she
wanted it for hers, and I go, Kiara, I cannot
help that my birthday falls near Dylan's spring break. That's
just how the calendar year works. I did not book
Hawaii for my birthday. And she's like, Okay, well, it's
like once again, your kids are out of high school. Yeah,
I cannot take Dylan his senior year of high school
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out of school for a week. I'm sorry, I'm not
doing it.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Yeah. So I feel like, yes, I see what you're saying.
With like your surprise, you're still having like arguments and
fights with your sibling this at this point in life.
I just think that that's how family works. Though it's
true because I mean I have to I am Switzerland
with my sisters, where I have to control the fights
that happen between them, because it's usually I know, but
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like I've had somewhere. I've been frustrated with my sisters. Yes, absolutely,
but usually it's the two of them going at each
other and me having to jump in and be like, hey,
this point of view makes sense, and this point of
view makes sense, so let's like see each others and
let's come together, you know. But usually, yes, I don't
fight with them, but I am like not living with
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them and so and I know that they're really excited
usually when I come home because they don't get to
see me as much and I'm obviously the fond one, the.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Life of the party.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Yeah, but I still get shocked because I mean there's
still things that irritate the shit out of me with
both my sisters that I want to argue with them
and be like, hey, you realize this and this that
and one thing I will back you up on with
the thing of face timing and like her being upset
that like she feels like you don't want her in
your life. I am the one who facetimes my sister
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to see the kids. And yes, it's a fifty to
fifty that I get an answer from them. But then
she does always call me back, like usually that same
day as she can. But it's pretty rare that she
facetimes me, and I am not upset about that whatsoever.
She has two little kids. One that's like probably like
having three kids, because my nephew is a handful. Yeah,
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so I don't care that I have to like call
and I understand that, and I think I think so
many people get frustrated when a person has little kids
and their life revolves around that kid in their schedule,
and then you feel like, oh, you don't care about
my life at all because it's always about you and
your kid's schedule. And I'm like, well, yeah, they have
an added factor in their life that I like. For me,
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I don't have a kid to like work around and stuff.
But yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
I actually have to make like a mental note sometimes
to be like or like even in my notes app like, hey,
make like text this person this week, check in with
this person this week kind of things like that, because
I my days are very, very full. Yeah, and I'm
a super crazy schedule, and so I don't want people
to feel like I'm so self involved. It's I mean,
(22:40):
I am to a degree, but I also am just
like exhausted. So I now try to like I'll try
to call people on my ride home after work, but
I usually like, I don't want to even talk because
I've talked all day long. But I'm like, that might
be the only time I talk to people, so I've
been Yeah, I try really hard to like, remember, Okay,
(23:02):
my sister's taking this test, let me check in with
her and see if she passed. Like, I'll put notes
in my calendar to try to check in with people,
but I still am gonna miss stuff and.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
We'll get I want you to know that I don't
give a shit if you don't check in on me
about things, like it's okay, you are very good at
checking in, so like ends on the week, No, I
feel like you are, especially if I'm ever dealing with anything.
You are super good at checking in. But I that's
like one thing I've gotten frustrated with friendships is like
them thinking that you should always be checking in on them,
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but then they don't reciprocate. Yeah, and it's like okay,
but I have a life too, and it's not that
I'm not checking in on you because I don't want to.
It's because I have a life and I got busy,
you know what I mean. Yeah, so yeah, I will.
Can I tell you since you brought up having that
note in your phone? Yeah, a note that I started
in my phone as of last week.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Oh god.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Yes, It's titled things my tummy doesn't like.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
Okay, so I am good to take. It's good track
that Jenny.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Yeah. So I decided because after we had gotten back
from going up to mom Bohemia last week, there was
not a lot of food in the house, and I
ate this bowl of spicy ramen. Absolute worst thing I
could have done, I know, but the thing icy rock. Okay,
So Andrew always eats it and I'll have like a
bite of it here and there, but I never make
it for myself. But there was just nothing that appealed
(24:22):
to me of what we had, and so I'm like, whatever,
I'm gonna make this, so I ate it. Thirty minutes later,
things just hit the fan, you know. So I'm like, okay,
I really have got you. Like I have ideas in
my head of things that don't work with my system.
But I really got a hone in and stop eating
things I know are going to make me miserable because
it is a domino effect. When something hurts my stomach,
(24:44):
it then lingers for days. It fucks with my serotonin,
it doesn't let me sleep well, and then it infiltrates
into my work life. And so like that whole week,
I just felt like garbage. And so that anyways, so
I added this into my phone as a reminder to
me myself when I go to Costco or Target or wherever,
like you do not buy these things. And so so
(25:06):
far is just spicy ramen and peanut butter. But like
peanut butter, that's one of your top food groups, I know.
But so I can eat peanut butter as like you know,
if we went on a ski trip and we had
peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch, that's not bad.
But the problem is your girl can't be left alone
in a house the jar of peanut butter or else
she gets a spoon out and she starts spoon feeding
(25:27):
her mouth with it. I cannot be controlled. So the
other day I made this like protein puppy chow, just
to start getting the peanut butter out of the house
because I needed it for a different recipe I recently made.
So that's the update on my life and my notes
app and the things that I just laugh at when
I look at my notes app.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Sometimes I'm like, where is this the weird stuff you
keep in your notes? But I am excited to hear
if they're updates, you can let us know what you're
adding to the list.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Yeah, can I tell you one other thing? So, when
we went to my Bohemia last weekend, I I just
you know, I'm tired, I'm drained, whatever. So I go
to chat GPT for a little help because I'm like,
I want to do this Instagram post, but I can't
think of anything quirky to put in the caption. So
I write, give me five funny Instagram captions about spending
a ski weekend with my boyfriend, and I'm going to
(26:15):
read you some of them. It says he thinks he's
my ski instructor. I think he's my crash test dummy. Okay,
nothing says romance like fighting over who forgot the boot
warmers he shreds. I survive true love on the slopes
If we can make it through an icy black diamond. Together,
we can make it through anything. Let me find like
(26:36):
one or two more old mine. He's fast, I'm quote
cautiously adventurous, true ski trip combatibility. Nothing says romantic getaway
like me wiping out in front of my boyfriend. So
after you heard all these captions, do you see what
I'm getting at here?
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Yeah? The theme is that he's great at skiing, but because
you're a girl, you're not. What the fuck?
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I know? Literally was like, our are you serious? Like
this is the first time I think I've ever used
Chad GPT and felt it was extremely sexist. Yeah, I'm like,
and to be fair, yes, he is a better snowboarder
than me, but I'm also good. Yeah, So like, no,
he's not my crash test dummy, Like are you serious?
So i sat there and I'm reading up to Andrew
and I'm like, this is ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Chat GPT dick God, just like that myself being like
why from the very first one, I'm like, wait, why
is she He's shredding and wheah is she not?
Speaker 2 (27:31):
So I was like cause I'm like, okay, I looked
back at my prompt to see if I like put
something in there, and I always said was funny Instagram
caption about spending a ski weekend with my boyfriend. Yeah,
so that should not have to do with the fact,
like there should not have been a theme of he
was great and I am clearly awful at snowboarding.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
That's weird. Yeah. By the way, we only have like
a couple of minutes left, and I do want to
jump into Love is Blind, but maybe you need to, like,
if you tell chat GPT once like, don't do that,
it probably won't ever do it again.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Oh interesting, Okay, it does should I have gotten in
an argument with no.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
I don't don't make that. Don't do that, but like
be like, hey, this hurt my feelings and maybe just
like you know, manipulate it a little bit. But it's
like it does learn get to know you. It's creepy,
but it's whatever. At this point, this is what life is.
I do want to talk about Love is Blind basically
because we're caught up. We both watch the new three episodes.
I agree with everyone it is one of two most
(28:30):
boring seasons of all time. I just feel like everyone is.
It's not that I don't want people to be happy.
I just feel like there's a little bit of almost
fake nice happy.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
Well it's the Minnesota passive aggressiveness.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Right, So here's what I'll break down. Because now I'm
on Minneapolis TikTok. Yes, I don't know if you saw
this video, but this guy made me laugh. And he's like,
it's not because we're humble, it's because they actively producers
have to search really hard to find people who don't
know each other. He's like, and I'm going to show
you how impossible that is. He pops up a picture
of him and Sarah. He's like, I want to problem
with Sarah picks up a picture I think, post a
(29:05):
picture of like Molly or someone that's my cousin.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Posted another.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
What He's like, I don't even live in Minnesota, and
I know every single person basically on the show. He's like,
it's impossible for in Minnesota to find people who don't
know people. So he's like, and I was like, that's
a really good point. Secondly, the guy Davey a lot
of people. I actually know people who know Dave, but
I don't know Dave. He got some people say a
(29:29):
bad edit in the beginning, right because he was the
guy doing the why you single, ye, what's wrong with you?
What goes wrong with you? That thing? I thought it
was annoying, but I was also like whatever. I also
truly thought he would pick Molly based solely on the
sexual aspect of things. So when he picked the other girl,
I was like, Oh my gosh, maybe he really is
(29:51):
trying to change, right, So now this whole narrative that
he cannot quote unquote get past someone she hooked up with. Fake,
He's trying to be the nice guy. This girl made
the perfect TikTok. As soon as he got his phone back,
he went and looked up Mollie. And he is now
trying to find a way to not be the bad
guy to America and end it with Lauren without being
(30:15):
the bad guy. And because this is ridiculous. To think
that these people did not have sex lives and partners
before this show is insane and I just feel so
bad looking at this girl, Lauren or whatever her name is.
First of all, Lauren skin, hair, eyes, perfection, okay, and
just everyone's comparing it by the way, those two they're
(30:39):
saying she looks in actions like Pam from the office,
and he looks and acts like Roy, her shitty first
boyfriend who worked downstairs, and it is killing me.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
I'm like, yes, oh, so I also have mutual friends
with like lots of people who are friends with Dave
and then also someone who's really good friends with Lauren,
and so they know a lot about stuff. But we
haven't asked like Andrew and I haven't been asking people
for that because we do want to watch it in
real time and then like discuss after the season's done.
And yeah, I feel Andrew said that he feels like
(31:13):
they would not be acting the way he's acting if
they would just have sex. He's like, if they would
have had sex in the Baha or wherever they were
hunder us, He's like, I bet you a million bucks
that he'd be like whatever.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
He is, that's all he wanted to talk about, Like
you guys fuck yet Yeah, it's all her though, you know,
I just want to go, oh, you get to see
it just stressing out. He just wants to have sex
so bad.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
And I also feel like I have so many opinions
about these people, but it's also weird for me to
even say it because I have people who I'm actually
friends with that on the show and then really like
very close connections, not like a friend of a friend
of a friend that knows this person, like pretty close connections.
And so I don't want to be a dick because
I also know that production plays a huge role in
(31:57):
building how the show shows a person on there, and
so I feel like some people are going to be
really salty, being like I got the worst at it
ever and this is why you think this of me,
But this is who I really am. And it's just
it does suck for them, But at the same time,
you can't feel bad because they sign up for that,
you know.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
The other thing with Dave is on TikTok I'm getting
is that he can't commit to Lauren because he's actually
in love with his sister. Because yes, I've seen that
has ever been more like there's a moment it has
made me so uncomfortable where like they're like, this is
the moment Dave realized he's in love with his sister. Yeah,
And it plays a clip of them like on a
(32:36):
couch talking and he's talking about his sister and he
like says something super complimentary and his cheeks flush.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
He like has this like look.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Back in his head and everyone's like, oh, like, and
I'm like, I'm.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Not gonna do that to him.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
Okay, I'm not gonna be laugh because especially since are
you watching this season A White Lotus yet?
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Did we talk about this?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
No?
Speaker 1 (32:57):
Oh okay, Yeah. So I'm getting super super super incest
vibes from Patrick Schwarzenegger, the sister, and the brother.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
It's so weird.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Yeah, it's super creepy, all three of them. I'm getting it.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
So it's just on the top of my mind. I
think too that it's making me laugh.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Yeah, And once again going back to the like everyone
in Minnesota knows each other, I like, for a brief moment,
was like, Man, if I would have been single when
this was going on, I absolutely would have tried to
go on the show, I think, Yeah, But I also
would have known for a fact that I would have
known so many people, because there was a point in
my life where I walked into the loop and I
(33:34):
knew five different groups of people, all of which I
slept with one person in each different group. So it's like,
it really is hard to like unless you live really
far out of the metro area and you don't come
into the city at all and you stick to like
your one city you live in. I just feel like
this season was hard to find people who don't know
(33:54):
each other, and maybe that is how it's been in
other seasons and we just don't know it. But I
just I don't know. I feel like I've never seen
people seem to have mutual connection rights. But I haven't
watched all the Lovesplining seasons. I think I've only watched
like three of them.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
I've watched most. I think it was DC or one
other one that was also super boring that I fast
forwarded through a lot. There's usually one super toxic couple
that keeps me in so right now it's like a
play between a couple of them that are decent, but
I'm still fast forwarding through the others because they're boring
to me.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Yeah, I mean, I hope they found love, but whatever,
I know. And so Andrew's gone this week and we've
been watching it together, and I go, Babe, I'm not
waiting for you. I'm sorry, like I for my job
because we talk about it on the show obviously, and
you do two. It's like, I need to watch these.
I'm going to watch them because he's not back till
next Monday, and he's like that's fine, Like, just don't
tell me anything.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Though, I tell that about White Lotus. I'm like, I
will be watching this without you. He's like that's fine,
I'll watch it okay. So anyway, that's our time. Thanks
for listening, yep love yeah bye
Jenny, would you like to do the honors?
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Yes, Welcome to the I'm Still Fun Podcast. When I
walked into the studio this morning and I found Fallon
Lane flat on her back on the floor, and I
thought she was dead, and I was like, what are
you doing?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
You should like get out of the way. Oh my god. Oh.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I slammed open the door because I thought maybe i'd
scare you did and then I realize you're on the ground,
and I felt like I was about to hate you.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
I got here so early, Can I be honest? I'm
avoiding my dog and which one rank? He's so annoying.
He's so he's in this like puppy phase that is
driving me crazy. He eats shit constantly, like your things,
like oh poop, yeah, stuff, And I got the little
pills to try to break him of eating poop. It
(00:40):
is so disgusting the guy it's and you it can
cause like real health issues. He is in the yard,
he's excavating shit, and he comes in the house and
he's like, oh, let's go to the cat litter box.
He'll poop eat his own poop. And I'm constantly watching him.
I'm screaming like stop and then Edith the cat. I
told Jaco's like it was endless yesterday, which shows how
(01:03):
much work Jake does. Edith pukes on the carpet. I
run to get cleaning stuff. I clean it up, and
He's just like, oh, yeah, one taste, and I'm like,
get the hell. It's so gross it makes it's making
me not want to cuddle him at all, like well, yeah,
grossing me out, poopy breath, mouth and and he's just
(01:24):
and he's I can't relax. I cannot relax because I'm like,
what is he chewing? What is he eating? And yeah,
and you know, so that's where I'm at. I'm avoiding
my dog. So I came in early. Yeah, I had
some emails just in too that I've been putting off there,
like the kind that takes mental thought of do I
want to say yes to this commitment or no? So
(01:44):
that's where I'm at.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
How are you?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
How is your weekend going?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
My weekend's going good. I haven't done barely anything. I've
been hiding in the shadows of my house because I
got a like laser treatment in my face and so, yeah,
I have this one sunspot and I I think you
might have still been the show on the part of
the morning show when it started appearing, because I thought
maybe it was skin cancerous and I was like, what
the heck is this And my esthetition was like, no,
(02:10):
that's like some sun damage starting to come in. And
basically this laser treatment just pulls the pigment right out
and it goes away. And I know you have to
like probably consistently be doing these, and I don't like
to think about that, but I've done one before. So anyways,
my face has been puffy and now it's like sandpaper
texture right now. And so I told Pan and I
(02:31):
was like, get ready, you're gonna get to see my
big old puffy face.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
You can't tell the texture right now. Yeah, it only
looks puffy around like your upper cheek eye area. Uh huh.
But I because I got the same thing as you,
and I remember it did stay sandpipery the full ten days,
like they said.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, which I'm like, great. I'm looking at my week ahead.
I don't have anything too crazy. But this coming weekend
I'm going to Wisconsin where we got tickets for a
concert to take my mom too, so I'll be back
home with them. So it's like whatever. But I'm doing
this pickupball events on Tuesday, where I'm going to be sweating,
I think, and I am like, great because I'm probably
(03:11):
gonna be in prime peeling and i have to it's
like for charity whatever. I'm like, well, it's hard to
do these treatments and plan around your life, is what
it came to. Because I was going to do it
last weekend, but we had a three day weekend, so
I kind of wanted that to be free to go
do something over the weekend. So anyways, that's that. That
was pretty much my entire weekend. Andrew and I did
(03:34):
very basic necessities we needed to do around the house,
and I just dropped him off at the airport. He'll
be gone in Europe for the next week and can
I know this. So he's going to go see his
friend who's originally from Macedonia, and they were supposed to
do this ski trip.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Where is Macedonia.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
It's close to Greece, okay, and so they're supposed to
do this ski trip, but they're not getting as much
snow anymore and whatever, things are up in the air
now and his friend is this fantastic like chef baker
whatever So Andrew's going to Europe to like almost go
work with him. Like I think he has his own
shop now, I don't really know. He does all kinds
(04:11):
of random business ventures, and so he's gonna go work.
They're playing on hiking, They're gonna hopefully still go snowboarding
one a couple of days. They have to like drive
out of the way. It just depends on like the
weather and stuff. But as I was taking him to
the airport, I'm like, man, I can't believe you're going
to Europe before I am.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Like, really, how did I not know? You haven't been?
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, I mean I've only been out of the country
to Mexico a couple of times, and then Thailand and Tahiti,
so well never Thailand.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
But still you're right, Europe is like Europe is usually
the first place people go.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I know in Mexico. I know the first place mine
was was Mexico, but then Thailand was like the first thing.
Yeah you really just bab went crazy, I know. So
he's like, yeah, but I'm not going to like the
good part of Europe, and I was like, Babe, You're
still going to Europe though it's still a different landscape
and whatever. But he's like, yeah, but it's not like
I'm going to Italy and doing a bunch of things
there without you. And I'm like, I know, but I'm jealous.
(05:04):
And I told him yesterday that I will be planning
the next trip for us while he's on this trip,
because I want to go somewhere in like the summertime.
And I don't give a shit that he's like, oh,
they're spending a ton of money and doing that, Like
Mama still wants to get out and travel the world too.
So but I want to ask you this because I
feel like it's a pretty normal thing in relationships, or
(05:25):
maybe I'm just a little crazy. So yesterday we're sitting
on the couch and I don't know what my deal was.
I was just like irritated because I got up a
little earlier and I wanted just some me time. Well
ten minutes later, I hear him clonking down the stairs, just.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Kind of abnormal. Won't He usually kind of lay in
and rest a little bit in the morning.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I mean, it's it's up in the air sometimes with him.
But yeah, so I think he started to get up
earlier again, but for a little while he kind of
started to sleep in after we had put Mickey down
because like he didn't have that responsibility of taking care
of her anymore. So I hear him clonking and I'm like, oh,
I just like wanted to sit around and enjoy like
a peaceful, quiet morning. Yeah, and he is just chatty
(06:03):
chatty chatty all the time, and five days a week
I have to come in and do that for work.
So I like to just sit and like enjoy some peace.
And he sits down and everything he does is bugging
the hell out of me. Okay, everything like a voice
to text he was doing, or talk to text whatever
it's called. And then he goes and gets raspberries and
(06:24):
he's eating raspberries next to me, which isn't that a
lot of a food, But you know me, I don't
like chewing noises, and I'm like, oh my god, I
can't focus on anything, like any little noise he made.
It was like oh yeah, you know. And so I
was irritated with him like half the day yesterday for
no reason, like he wasn't doing anything that I should
be irritated with. But then as I go to take
(06:45):
him to the airport this morning, I'm almost crying because
I'm so saddy, okay, like and like, what who is
this person?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Isn't possible even though you have an implant, your period
would be arriving.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Yes, it is very possible, but I'm like, this is
such a drastic change of emotion from one day to
the next. But yeah, I were like, just for the racket.
I am you are crazy, but I am too. So
there was never a point where like I snapped at
him about anything yesterday. But I definitely wasn't like super
(07:20):
like happy, go lucky when we were doing things, Like
I was pretty quiet and just like kept to myself
most of the day, and like when he'd want to talk,
I just like give him the bare minimum he needed
to have a conversation. But I didn't really like talk
a ton. So anyways, Yeah, I just like was laughing
at myself as I waved goodbye to him, and I
was taking a bunch of pictures of him like leaving,
and I'm like, god, you crazy lady. He probably thought
(07:42):
the same thing. He's like, gone, got him.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Get away for a week from this lunatic.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
No.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
I'm sure that if Jake and Andrew sat down and
shared stories, they probably like, shoot, them and they'd be
I mean, because we did that about them anyway. But
Jake has also gone. They he took the kids to
call it they're skiing, So I'm solo too, but I didn't.
I like, I don't know what to do solo anymore.
(08:10):
I have felt very stir crazy. Yesterday we had pre
planned because I knew they were going to be gone.
So Tina and I went because she had reached out
to me kind of over Christmas break and she's like,
I want to do Plate's class with you, and I
said okay, and then I never like set one up
with her, so I was like, hey, would you want
to do it? She's like yes, and she was. I
felt like she seemed naturally very good at it. And
(08:31):
when we left, she said that she thinks like her
dance history really because it's really like it's it's a
very dancery kind of but not like I think it's
made for kind of dancer people, if you will. So
I was like, she goes, was that like an easier
class or a harder class? And I was like for me,
you know how like you rate instructors, you know, it's
(08:52):
just like peloton. If I don't want my ass kicked.
I'm not going to take a certain instructor. Yeah, so
I in my mind have my list in order of
hard to less hard instructors, and I did this one
is like lower on my list.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
However, when I said to Tina though, I was like,
cause she's like, I remember you said like you wanted
to cry your first one. I was like, Tina, I
was far more out of shape than you are right
now when I did my first one. I go. My
first one though, was with what I consider the hardest instructor,
and but I still think I would have thought that
one was hard on my first one. But it really
does make me really proud because, like, especially with AB stuff,
(09:31):
how much I can tell my AB area has strengthen
your core strength. It's very good. Now.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
See, I would die, I think if I went to pilates,
because that is probably my weakest part of my body
is my core, and I use it's so weird because
that used to be really I used to have a
strong core when I played sports in high school and stuff.
But I just don't work out that area. So when
I see like plates classes, I'm like, I think I
would not be able to do it.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yeah, the things like you know, like just an example,
like where you're sitting on your butt and your legs
are out straight, yeah, and you're you're kind of gonna
be and you're just sitting there doing like up and
down stuff. That stuff would have just gassed me. I
would have died. Now I could do it for a
very very long time. Like pretty good ab strength now,
(10:15):
which is good because she was non existent there for
a while. But then we went Tina got a flight
of Mimosa's. Everyone thought we were sharing am I posted
a picture and I'm like, no, all three were Tina's.
I got a coffee. She's out of contrucderance it. But
she's already started like kind of actually laying out wedding stuff.
(10:36):
So we're gonna have to have her back on the
podcast when she gets to that point. Yeah, we should,
or at least after the wedding or something, which she's thinking,
like a lot of the I'm supposed talk about it.
But my friend Abby from.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
College, Yes, she picked out her dress this week and
the hotel so I got to see that very beautiful.
I'm going to found friend who was like habitually not
habitually single, just dating a lot, and then it was
never working out with them.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Yes, she's you know, forty years old. She's never been
engaged or anything. And she the last long, long term
relationship was like when I still lived in Indiana and
then I moved away and she was still with him
for a few years after that, and then they broke up.
And since then, I don't think she's really had She's
had some that last maybe six months, but not like
long term. So I'm really happy for her. Are you
(11:28):
guys been a bachelot party for her? Yeah? So I
actually texted her about that. I'm like, hey, what's the vibe.
Are you thinking you want to like kind of go
somewhere close to Indiana like driveable or are we going
to go destination? She's like, no, I want to do
something closerh like drive away. She just wants a cute
airbnb she wants She's like, I don't care about bar scenes.
(11:49):
I don't want to do that really, I want to
go somewhere like maybe they have like a like a
river you can float down, or a hike or something.
I was like, cool, like yeah that was music to
my ears.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Yeah sounds lovely.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
Yeah me too, And she said She's going to pick
some kind of like dark like maybe like a wine
color kind of dressed for our pridesmade dresses. And I
was like, yep, like that. I lean into something and
things that I like, you know, it's about me obviously
for her big well.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Of course, is she having a big wedding.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I don't know how many people. The place looks like
I could hold a decent amount of people. She has
a big family. I don't know about her husband to be.
I've never met him, which is super bizarre. But I mean,
I'm not in the same state dessert. I don't know
if I'll meet him before like the wedding weekend because
if I depending on where the bachelorette party is, I
(12:39):
may not go to Indiana or that right, So I'm like,
I may not meet him until the weekend of the wedding,
which is crazy. It's not like I'm gonna be like, oh,
I don't approve or something, but I don't know. It's
it's bizarre. I haven't told you this. I was going
back and forth. I'd shared on the podcast. I got
into a fight with my sister.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Yeah, really, your sister that lives in Florida that you're
decently close with.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Yeah, So I won't go on into too many details
because something's got to remain private. But I've felt a
very weird distance between us for like a while. Okay,
but I think, you know, I I've listened to that
book that a lot of people have talked about, you
like let the Robbins let them, And one of the
things she talks about is just your friendships really really
(13:28):
depend on proximity.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Right.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
So she's my sister, so she'll always be part of
my life, but we're not as close as and now
we are in very different phases of life. I mean,
her kids are grown out of the house, she's like retired,
she's now by the way, trying to get her real
estate license, which she's like it's so hard. And then
she you know, she's like fifty years old, going to
(13:50):
be in October, and I'm raising a toddler. I mean,
we're just in very different places, and I'm like working
two jobs. It's very different. So I have felt some
weird vibes for a while. And I can't remember if
I shared stuff on the podcast about my fortieth birthday
or not with her. I don't remember I did on
the radio show because I was being a little petty
(14:13):
at the time. Yeah, But basically, I for Kara's fortieth birthday,
I threw her a very large, lavish party. I rented
a venue, I catered it. I like it was a
surprise party. I spent a lot of money on everything.
I bought her a very expensive birthday present. And for
my fortieth birthday, she venmoed me one hundred dollars. Now, okay,
(14:36):
you might have shared that, yet I do not care
about the amount. I do not need care I have.
I'm fine, I don't need things right. My feelings were
hurt because she venmoed me cash like every other birthday. Sure,
venmo me cash, if that's what you want to do,
I venmo her cat. I don't care. But my feelings
were hurt, and I was like, she couldn't even send
(14:57):
me a card, she couldn't pick out a single like
ho actual physical gift, like it just my It was
like that. And but I went back and forth if
I was going to say something to her, and then
I decided it was just unnecessary. It would just make
her feel bad, and I just decided to not. But
(15:18):
I still felt like the little ping of resentment in
my body because of it. Right, so fast forward, I
was like, hey, we had talked about maybe one day
going to Hawaii, maybe we do.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
It over Christmas.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Blah blah blah. I said, hey, I'm going to do
Hawaii over spring break. We're going to take mom, love
for you to come. And then this is where things
got really awkward and bad. So she was upset. She
wanted to go for her fiftieth in October, okay, And
I'm like, okay, well, too bad. I can't take the
kids out of school for a week in October. We're
(15:50):
doing it over spring break because that's when we have off.
And she was like, well, let me look at dates
and stuff. Then she's like the resort you're staying at
is too expensive. I said, okay, well we could look
at other places if that, if you can go, Nope,
I can't afford to go. You guys have fun. But
I could feel the passive aggressive anger there, and I
was like, you know what, let her be passive aggressive angry.
(16:12):
My sister is known quoted as saying she doesn't plan
vacations until either one month or one week before the
vacation because something big always happens that they have to
cancel their vacation. We work very differently. Yeah, I book
nine to twelve months in advance. She can't book so I.
And she also changes her mind a lot. I'm not
(16:32):
booking a big, expensive vacation a month out and based
on the like the possibility that something quote unquote big
is going to happen to cancel the vacation and.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
It's going to be twice the amount. Yes, especially to
a place like Hawaii.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
I know so I, but I'm in a place where
I can cancel, like the hotel. I booked it for
that reason in case for some reason she could figure
it out. Anyway. Finally came to a head on like
Friday over something involving my grandma, and we were just
texting back and forth. I'm like, screw this, I call her.
I'm like, Kara, We're never going to like have a
(17:09):
decent conversation over text. So it just turned into all
of that coming out on her side. She feels like
I don't want I don't want her her family to
be a part of my life. She wanted to do
something big for my fortieth and I said no, She's
like I wanted to go on vacation with you and Jake.
(17:30):
But you said no, you just wanted to go with
your husband and I go. You never once said you
want to go, I go. And you're right, I wouldn't
want to go on a family vacation. She's like, no,
me and my husband and you and Jake. I go, Yeah,
no offense, Kara, But for my big birthday I did not.
I don't remember you saying that to me, but I
still in this moment, would not want to go on
vacation with you and Brian. I wanted to go on
(17:52):
a fancy ass overpriced, like quick vacation with just Jake,
and I don't feel bad about that.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
No, and you shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
I was like, I didn't want a party like I
threw you. That's my nightmare. I don't like parties like
that because I always feel like I have to be
the host, even if it's for me, and then it
feels exhausting. I don't like parties like that. And so
I was like, you're right, I told you not to
throw me one. And then she was like, I feel
like you don't want to be a part of my life.
You don't involve me. You like never call me and
(18:21):
I was like, actually, I'm the only one that calls,
but I didn't say that. I just held it out
back because I'm like, I'm gonna let her have her moment.
And then she feels like she's not a part of
my daughter's life. And I'm like, well, we FaceTime you.
She's like not enough, and I was like, why can't
you call me? She's like, you guys are too busy,
and I just let it go because I'm like, dude,
when she was younger and had two kids and their
(18:45):
schedules were crazy, she was never calling me and FaceTime didn't.
I don't think it even exists when they were young,
but they I had to just call and know that
I was probably gonna get a voicemail and they'd call
me back when they could. So it's crazy to me
that she's retired and she knows I'm working two jobs
and has a kid, but it's on me to do
all the calls because she says she can never call
(19:08):
at the right time. And I was like, but I
didn't say anything back. I was just like, Okay, I
can work harder on finding time. Maybe we do a
once a week thing where all of face times you
but man, it's so crazy to me to still have
random arguments with my sister this late and late in life.
(19:28):
But I also think that it's like it's because we
don't talk, we don't know what's going on. We both
want to not cause is shoes, so instead we just
probably bitch to our husbands about the other one until
it finally comes to a head. I guess, but I
hope moving forward things will be fine. Because she said
that she this one thing. She said that she was
(19:50):
mad because I booked Hawaii for my birthday when she
wanted it for hers, and I go, Kiara, I cannot
help that my birthday falls near Dylan's spring break. That's
just how the calendar year works. I did not book
Hawaii for my birthday. And she's like, Okay, well, it's
like once again, your kids are out of high school. Yeah,
I cannot take Dylan his senior year of high school
(20:13):
out of school for a week. I'm sorry, I'm not
doing it.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Yeah. So I feel like, yes, I see what you're saying.
With like your surprise, you're still having like arguments and
fights with your sibling this at this point in life.
I just think that that's how family works. Though it's
true because I mean I have to I am Switzerland
with my sisters, where I have to control the fights
that happen between them, because it's usually I know, but
(20:39):
like I've had somewhere. I've been frustrated with my sisters. Yes, absolutely,
but usually it's the two of them going at each
other and me having to jump in and be like, hey,
this point of view makes sense, and this point of
view makes sense, so let's like see each others and
let's come together, you know. But usually, yes, I don't
fight with them, but I am like not living with
(20:59):
them and so and I know that they're really excited
usually when I come home because they don't get to
see me as much and I'm obviously the fond one, the.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
Life of the party.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Yeah, but I still get shocked because I mean there's
still things that irritate the shit out of me with
both my sisters that I want to argue with them
and be like, hey, you realize this and this that
and one thing I will back you up on with
the thing of face timing and like her being upset
that like she feels like you don't want her in
your life. I am the one who facetimes my sister
(21:30):
to see the kids. And yes, it's a fifty to
fifty that I get an answer from them. But then
she does always call me back, like usually that same
day as she can. But it's pretty rare that she
facetimes me, and I am not upset about that whatsoever.
She has two little kids. One that's like probably like
having three kids, because my nephew is a handful. Yeah,
(21:51):
so I don't care that I have to like call
and I understand that, and I think I think so
many people get frustrated when a person has little kids
and their life revolves around that kid in their schedule,
and then you feel like, oh, you don't care about
my life at all because it's always about you and
your kid's schedule. And I'm like, well, yeah, they have
an added factor in their life that I like. For me,
(22:13):
I don't have a kid to like work around and stuff.
But yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
I actually have to make like a mental note sometimes
to be like or like even in my notes app like, hey,
make like text this person this week, check in with
this person this week kind of things like that, because
I my days are very, very full. Yeah, and I'm
a super crazy schedule, and so I don't want people
to feel like I'm so self involved. It's I mean,
(22:40):
I am to a degree, but I also am just
like exhausted. So I now try to like I'll try
to call people on my ride home after work, but
I usually like, I don't want to even talk because
I've talked all day long. But I'm like, that might
be the only time I talk to people, so I've
been Yeah, I try really hard to like, remember, Okay,
(23:02):
my sister's taking this test, let me check in with
her and see if she passed. Like, I'll put notes
in my calendar to try to check in with people,
but I still am gonna miss stuff and.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
We'll get I want you to know that I don't
give a shit if you don't check in on me
about things, like it's okay, you are very good at
checking in, so like ends on the week, No, I
feel like you are, especially if I'm ever dealing with anything.
You are super good at checking in. But I that's
like one thing I've gotten frustrated with friendships is like
them thinking that you should always be checking in on them,
(23:34):
but then they don't reciprocate. Yeah, and it's like okay,
but I have a life too, and it's not that
I'm not checking in on you because I don't want to.
It's because I have a life and I got busy,
you know what I mean. Yeah, so yeah, I will.
Can I tell you since you brought up having that
note in your phone? Yeah, a note that I started
in my phone as of last week.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Oh god.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Yes, It's titled things my tummy doesn't like.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
Okay, so I am good to take. It's good track
that Jenny.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Yeah. So I decided because after we had gotten back
from going up to mom Bohemia last week, there was
not a lot of food in the house, and I
ate this bowl of spicy ramen. Absolute worst thing I
could have done, I know, but the thing icy rock. Okay,
So Andrew always eats it and I'll have like a
bite of it here and there, but I never make
it for myself. But there was just nothing that appealed
(24:22):
to me of what we had, and so I'm like, whatever,
I'm gonna make this, so I ate it. Thirty minutes later,
things just hit the fan, you know. So I'm like, okay,
I really have got you. Like I have ideas in
my head of things that don't work with my system.
But I really got a hone in and stop eating
things I know are going to make me miserable because
it is a domino effect. When something hurts my stomach,
(24:44):
it then lingers for days. It fucks with my serotonin,
it doesn't let me sleep well, and then it infiltrates
into my work life. And so like that whole week,
I just felt like garbage. And so that anyways, so
I added this into my phone as a reminder to
me myself when I go to Costco or Target or wherever,
like you do not buy these things. And so so
(25:06):
far is just spicy ramen and peanut butter. But like
peanut butter, that's one of your top food groups, I know.
But so I can eat peanut butter as like you know,
if we went on a ski trip and we had
peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch, that's not bad.
But the problem is your girl can't be left alone
in a house the jar of peanut butter or else
she gets a spoon out and she starts spoon feeding
(25:27):
her mouth with it. I cannot be controlled. So the
other day I made this like protein puppy chow, just
to start getting the peanut butter out of the house
because I needed it for a different recipe I recently made.
So that's the update on my life and my notes
app and the things that I just laugh at when
I look at my notes app.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Sometimes I'm like, where is this the weird stuff you
keep in your notes? But I am excited to hear
if they're updates, you can let us know what you're
adding to the list.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Yeah, can I tell you one other thing? So, when
we went to my Bohemia last weekend, I I just
you know, I'm tired, I'm drained, whatever. So I go
to chat GPT for a little help because I'm like,
I want to do this Instagram post, but I can't
think of anything quirky to put in the caption. So
I write, give me five funny Instagram captions about spending
a ski weekend with my boyfriend, and I'm going to
(26:15):
read you some of them. It says he thinks he's
my ski instructor. I think he's my crash test dummy. Okay,
nothing says romance like fighting over who forgot the boot
warmers he shreds. I survive true love on the slopes
If we can make it through an icy black diamond. Together,
we can make it through anything. Let me find like
(26:36):
one or two more old mine. He's fast, I'm quote
cautiously adventurous, true ski trip combatibility. Nothing says romantic getaway
like me wiping out in front of my boyfriend. So
after you heard all these captions, do you see what
I'm getting at here?
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Yeah? The theme is that he's great at skiing, but because
you're a girl, you're not. What the fuck?
Speaker 2 (26:58):
I know? Literally was like, our are you serious? Like
this is the first time I think I've ever used
Chad GPT and felt it was extremely sexist. Yeah, I'm like,
and to be fair, yes, he is a better snowboarder
than me, but I'm also good. Yeah, So like, no,
he's not my crash test dummy, Like are you serious?
So i sat there and I'm reading up to Andrew
and I'm like, this is ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Chat GPT dick God, just like that myself being like
why from the very first one, I'm like, wait, why
is she He's shredding and wheah is she not?
Speaker 2 (27:31):
So I was like cause I'm like, okay, I looked
back at my prompt to see if I like put
something in there, and I always said was funny Instagram
caption about spending a ski weekend with my boyfriend. Yeah,
so that should not have to do with the fact,
like there should not have been a theme of he
was great and I am clearly awful at snowboarding.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
That's weird. Yeah. By the way, we only have like
a couple of minutes left, and I do want to
jump into Love is Blind, but maybe you need to, like,
if you tell chat GPT once like, don't do that,
it probably won't ever do it again.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Oh interesting, Okay, it does should I have gotten in
an argument with no.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
I don't don't make that. Don't do that, but like
be like, hey, this hurt my feelings and maybe just
like you know, manipulate it a little bit. But it's
like it does learn get to know you. It's creepy,
but it's whatever. At this point, this is what life is.
I do want to talk about Love is Blind basically
because we're caught up. We both watch the new three episodes.
I agree with everyone it is one of two most
(28:30):
boring seasons of all time. I just feel like everyone is.
It's not that I don't want people to be happy.
I just feel like there's a little bit of almost
fake nice happy.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
Well it's the Minnesota passive aggressiveness.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Right, So here's what I'll break down. Because now I'm
on Minneapolis TikTok. Yes, I don't know if you saw
this video, but this guy made me laugh. And he's like,
it's not because we're humble, it's because they actively producers
have to search really hard to find people who don't
know each other. He's like, and I'm going to show
you how impossible that is. He pops up a picture
of him and Sarah. He's like, I want to problem
with Sarah picks up a picture I think, post a
(29:05):
picture of like Molly or someone that's my cousin.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Posted another.
Speaker 1 (29:08):
What He's like, I don't even live in Minnesota, and
I know every single person basically on the show. He's like,
it's impossible for in Minnesota to find people who don't
know people. So he's like, and I was like, that's
a really good point. Secondly, the guy Davey a lot
of people. I actually know people who know Dave, but
I don't know Dave. He got some people say a
(29:29):
bad edit in the beginning, right because he was the
guy doing the why you single, ye, what's wrong with you?
What goes wrong with you? That thing? I thought it
was annoying, but I was also like whatever. I also
truly thought he would pick Molly based solely on the
sexual aspect of things. So when he picked the other girl,
I was like, Oh my gosh, maybe he really is
(29:51):
trying to change, right, So now this whole narrative that
he cannot quote unquote get past someone she hooked up with. Fake,
He's trying to be the nice guy. This girl made
the perfect TikTok. As soon as he got his phone back,
he went and looked up Mollie. And he is now
trying to find a way to not be the bad
guy to America and end it with Lauren without being
(30:15):
the bad guy. And because this is ridiculous. To think
that these people did not have sex lives and partners
before this show is insane and I just feel so
bad looking at this girl, Lauren or whatever her name is.
First of all, Lauren skin, hair, eyes, perfection, okay, and
just everyone's comparing it by the way, those two they're
(30:39):
saying she looks in actions like Pam from the office,
and he looks and acts like Roy, her shitty first
boyfriend who worked downstairs, and it is killing me.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
I'm like, yes, oh, so I also have mutual friends
with like lots of people who are friends with Dave
and then also someone who's really good friends with Lauren,
and so they know a lot about stuff. But we
haven't asked like Andrew and I haven't been asking people
for that because we do want to watch it in
real time and then like discuss after the season's done.
And yeah, I feel Andrew said that he feels like
(31:13):
they would not be acting the way he's acting if
they would just have sex. He's like, if they would
have had sex in the Baha or wherever they were
hunder us, He's like, I bet you a million bucks
that he'd be like whatever.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
He is, that's all he wanted to talk about, Like
you guys fuck yet Yeah, it's all her though, you know,
I just want to go, oh, you get to see
it just stressing out. He just wants to have sex
so bad.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
And I also feel like I have so many opinions
about these people, but it's also weird for me to
even say it because I have people who I'm actually
friends with that on the show and then really like
very close connections, not like a friend of a friend
of a friend that knows this person, like pretty close connections.
And so I don't want to be a dick because
I also know that production plays a huge role in
(31:57):
building how the show shows a person on there, and
so I feel like some people are going to be
really salty, being like I got the worst at it
ever and this is why you think this of me,
But this is who I really am. And it's just
it does suck for them, But at the same time,
you can't feel bad because they sign up for that,
you know.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
The other thing with Dave is on TikTok I'm getting
is that he can't commit to Lauren because he's actually
in love with his sister. Because yes, I've seen that
has ever been more like there's a moment it has
made me so uncomfortable where like they're like, this is
the moment Dave realized he's in love with his sister. Yeah,
And it plays a clip of them like on a
(32:36):
couch talking and he's talking about his sister and he
like says something super complimentary and his cheeks flush.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
He like has this like look.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Back in his head and everyone's like, oh, like, and
I'm like, I'm.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Not gonna do that to him.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
Okay, I'm not gonna be laugh because especially since are
you watching this season A White Lotus yet?
Speaker 2 (32:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Did we talk about this?
Speaker 2 (32:57):
No?
Speaker 1 (32:57):
Oh okay, Yeah. So I'm getting super super super incest
vibes from Patrick Schwarzenegger, the sister, and the brother.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
It's so weird.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Yeah, it's super creepy, all three of them. I'm getting it.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
So it's just on the top of my mind. I
think too that it's making me laugh.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Yeah, And once again going back to the like everyone
in Minnesota knows each other, I like, for a brief moment,
was like, Man, if I would have been single when
this was going on, I absolutely would have tried to
go on the show, I think, Yeah, But I also
would have known for a fact that I would have
known so many people, because there was a point in
my life where I walked into the loop and I
(33:34):
knew five different groups of people, all of which I
slept with one person in each different group. So it's like,
it really is hard to like unless you live really
far out of the metro area and you don't come
into the city at all and you stick to like
your one city you live in. I just feel like
this season was hard to find people who don't know
(33:54):
each other, and maybe that is how it's been in
other seasons and we just don't know it. But I
just I don't know. I feel like I've never seen
people seem to have mutual connection rights. But I haven't
watched all the Lovesplining seasons. I think I've only watched
like three of them.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
I've watched most. I think it was DC or one
other one that was also super boring that I fast
forwarded through a lot. There's usually one super toxic couple
that keeps me in so right now it's like a
play between a couple of them that are decent, but
I'm still fast forwarding through the others because they're boring
to me.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Yeah, I mean, I hope they found love, but whatever,
I know. And so Andrew's gone this week and we've
been watching it together, and I go, Babe, I'm not
waiting for you. I'm sorry, like I for my job
because we talk about it on the show obviously, and
you do two. It's like, I need to watch these.
I'm going to watch them because he's not back till
next Monday, and he's like that's fine, Like, just don't
tell me anything.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
Though, I tell that about White Lotus. I'm like, I
will be watching this without you. He's like that's fine,
I'll watch it okay. So anyway, that's our time. Thanks
for listening, yep love yeah bye
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