September 26, 2024 • 9 mins
Alabama found a husband who told his wife she could sleep with other people since he was disabled and it opens up a WHOLE debate over whether or not this is a good thing with her boyfriend. Listen HERE!
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hey, I'm Alabama, the girl that drives my boyfriend crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
And I'm almost crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
It's not that bad. That's my boyfriend's steak Dad, also
known as Blake. If you like real conversations with a
not so perfect couple, get ready for a fun ride.
Buckle up, It's the She Drives Me Crazy podcast? Does
that mean you're not ready yet?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
I'm not ready.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I'm recording.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Oh you are?
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Yeah, I literally just got that sigh of I hate
my life.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
That wasn't for you. That was just that's work stuff.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Okay. So I found today instead of an article, there
is a scenario on Reddit that I was like, this
is very No, we're not well. I don't know how
you No, I don't know how you're going to feel
about this. And I thought, this is a very interesting situation.
And I can't talk about it on the radio because
(01:05):
my radio show is more PG thirteen and the time
I would normally air this would be at seven am,
when parents are driving their kids to school, and I
don't think kids need to hear this topic. But I
was like, I really want to hear that.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I want to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yeah, I want to hear my boyfriend Blake aka Sake
Daddy's take on this. Good Morning, Olivi. You thanks for
being also, thanks for listening to this She Drives Me
Crazy podcast. Go follow us on Instagram She Drives Me Crazy.
We need all the help we can get. Are you
ready for the scenario?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
As as ready as I'm going to get.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It's on Reddit and it's called It's the.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
You went to the end of the Internet for this?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, it's the Am I the asshole? Actually?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yes I am.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
It's relationship advice. It's a wrong category. My disabled husband
wants me to have an open pass in our marriage.
My husband and I have been together for a decade.
Shortly before we got married, seven years ago, he was
diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. In the years since, there has
been a slow decline in his fine motor skills, vision,
(02:10):
and strength in his legs. In the last two years,
these have made our sex life decline. This does not
bother me, as I know something neither of us can control.
I didn't realize how much it was starting to bother
him until this past weekend, when he told me he
wants me to date and sleep with whoever I wish
as long as I am in our bed at night.
(02:32):
And I'm honest with him and protect myself. He is
okay with it. I'm shocked. I never thought about this situation,
and I don't know what to do or think. I
want him to know. I want him, not some stranger.
I adjust meant, And I don't know what to do
with this information. Does anybody have any ideas?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Pass?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Pass what? Pass on this topic?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Or pass on this Not talking about this is so hmmm.
As a guy, I can tell you that at any
point in any man, gay, straight, other doesn't matter that
you feel like you cannot perform and there's a medical
(03:23):
reason and something that you can't control, and you're with
someone that you love, you want that person to be
fulfilled just like you want to be fulfilled. And that
is him showing that he absolutely loves her enough to
give her.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
The option.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
To be fulfilled in a way that he physically cannot.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
So I'll tell you as a girl like to us,
like when I'm in love with you, intimacy, sex is
like the last priority on the total pole. It's really
not the highest. What's your face? Why are you making
a face? Because because I'm dating you and that is
not the truth, It's still not a priority. I'm just
(04:09):
I'm know we're getting older, so I'm trying to get
it in while i can. Sorry for the pun.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
But it's that's my life.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
It's not but it's not why I'm with you like
I love you because I am with you, And and
for women like I think for guys, the difference with
getting intimate is a physical like need or release or whatever,
and for us it's a very mental thing. Like if
you notice, like any private probably any girl, or you've
been married, so you know, like any person that you're
(04:39):
intimate with that's a female, the.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
First person I've ever been with. I don't know what
you're wanting me to compare this to thank you.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I appreciate that that will be the same story in
my mind for the rest of my life. But if
you like, if if a female like for us, if
if like if we're if we're stressed, or if we're
thinking about stuff, or if we like aren't fully like,
it's very much a mental thing. Like for me, sex
is a mental thing.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
I can't have sex if your mind isn't there. Yes,
guys can have sex, and we could be thinking about
everything else we don't care.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Right, and women like I can't remember I think it
was Lady Gaga or some celebrity that was like, I
can reach orgasm just by like having a thought, well
using my mind and never even even touching myself, and
that's a real thing for women, Like I mean, I
don't know if I would go that far, but it is.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Very much like I want that super powerful kind of.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Hope your mom's not listening to this episode, I'm.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Sorry I did this. This is your fault.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
I'm sorry, my mistake, daddy, if you are. But yeah,
I just really thought that was interesting that he did
that because I see the woman like how she's in
shock and she's like I don't want to and so
I wanted to hear your take, Like, but see, here's
my thought, because we talk about this. I had a
stroke five years ago, and I have a heart condition,
(06:02):
and there's a very real no it was five years ago,
it was in twenty nineteen. There's a very real possibility
that I could have a stroke again and be disabled
because when you have a stroke, it can you can
be paralyzed. And I have thought about this, like if
we get married and spend the rest of our lives together,
(06:22):
I've told you a few times are you ready to
deal with that. You may have to take care of
me when I'm older, But that also means you may
not ever be able to hook up with me if
that happened. So then what do I do? Like, I couldn't.
I could not be that husband. I couldn't say, sure,
go hook up with the nurse. I'll be okay with it.
That's a freaking letally not I need you to be
(06:43):
celibate for the rest of your life just because you're selfish.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
This guy is very generous and loving.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Oh okay, So would you be able if you couldn't
do it? Would you be able to tell me?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I would?
Speaker 3 (06:54):
But I mean that's long away from now, and by
the time that I get to that point, you're not
going to want to anyway.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You're just saying that. Well, then you got to say
you wouldn't want that anyway either, Huh, you wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
I'd have to say that if you if you give
me the option or the past, I have to tell you, like.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
No, maybe it's okay, I don't want anybody with you.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yes, that's how you because both of them you can forever,
you can tell them that they love each other. Because
he wants her to be happy, and he's like do
this and she's like, but no, I love you so much.
I would never They're both showing their love in two
different ways. So you're telling me you would tell me that,
but you know I'm gonna say, but no, I don't
want this, but you want me to tell you it,
(07:36):
and then you're gonna go screw somebody.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Well I didn't say that. I would.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Well, that's what I need, But I.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Have no idea.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I mean I could say no when you first tell
me that, and you know, like five years later, I'll
be like, look.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
I'm gonna need to go do something.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
No, that is not okay, Okay, No, I'm never giving
you that option.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Okay, Well, if you have a stroke, you're not going
to another difference.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
So this will be the last episode of that she
drives me crazy podcasts. We will never be back again.
I will know better, now, let me I will. I'm
not really done. I'm just making a joke. Yeah, you
want to get out of this so bad.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I tried to pass. I would know.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Better if I had a stroke, because here's the thing
about a stroke and the conversation. Yes, like when you
have a stroke, your brain and your body are disconnected,
but you are still in there and trying to tell
your brain to make your body do the thing you
want it to do, and you can't. So you're in
here going, oh my god, your brain is not who
you are. So if I have a stroke, I'm just
saying this publicly for anybody who listens, even if me
(08:39):
and you were broken up and somebody else is in
charge of my life. If I have a stroke and
I cannot speak, I in my head am trying to
tell myself to speak, and I know what's going on,
and I'm very cognizant and aware of what's going on.
Don't put me in a nursing home. Don't you dare
ever put me in a nursing home. I will make
enough money by then I'll be rich enough. You pay
some hot young nurse to wipe my butt.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I get to pick the hot young nurse is.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
They'll be multiple.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Okay, give me some.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Guys and girls.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Sure, sure, wipe in my butt. Now we're done with
this episode.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Okay,
Hey, I'm Alabama, the girl that drives my boyfriend crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
And I'm almost crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
It's not that bad. That's my boyfriend's steak Dad, also
known as Blake. If you like real conversations with a
not so perfect couple, get ready for a fun ride.
Buckle up, It's the She Drives Me Crazy podcast? Does
that mean you're not ready yet?
Speaker 2 (00:33):
I'm not ready.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
I'm recording.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Oh you are?
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Yeah, I literally just got that sigh of I hate
my life.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
That wasn't for you. That was just that's work stuff.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Okay. So I found today instead of an article, there
is a scenario on Reddit that I was like, this
is very No, we're not well. I don't know how
you No, I don't know how you're going to feel
about this. And I thought, this is a very interesting situation.
And I can't talk about it on the radio because
(01:05):
my radio show is more PG thirteen and the time
I would normally air this would be at seven am,
when parents are driving their kids to school, and I
don't think kids need to hear this topic. But I
was like, I really want to hear that.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I want to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yeah, I want to hear my boyfriend Blake aka Sake
Daddy's take on this. Good Morning, Olivi. You thanks for
being also, thanks for listening to this She Drives Me
Crazy podcast. Go follow us on Instagram She Drives Me Crazy.
We need all the help we can get. Are you
ready for the scenario?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
As as ready as I'm going to get.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It's on Reddit and it's called It's the.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
You went to the end of the Internet for this?
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, it's the Am I the asshole? Actually?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yes I am.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
It's relationship advice. It's a wrong category. My disabled husband
wants me to have an open pass in our marriage.
My husband and I have been together for a decade.
Shortly before we got married, seven years ago, he was
diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. In the years since, there has
been a slow decline in his fine motor skills, vision,
(02:10):
and strength in his legs. In the last two years,
these have made our sex life decline. This does not
bother me, as I know something neither of us can control.
I didn't realize how much it was starting to bother
him until this past weekend, when he told me he
wants me to date and sleep with whoever I wish
as long as I am in our bed at night.
(02:32):
And I'm honest with him and protect myself. He is
okay with it. I'm shocked. I never thought about this situation,
and I don't know what to do or think. I
want him to know. I want him, not some stranger.
I adjust meant, And I don't know what to do
with this information. Does anybody have any ideas?
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Pass?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Pass what? Pass on this topic?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Or pass on this Not talking about this is so hmmm.
As a guy, I can tell you that at any
point in any man, gay, straight, other doesn't matter that
you feel like you cannot perform and there's a medical
(03:23):
reason and something that you can't control, and you're with
someone that you love, you want that person to be
fulfilled just like you want to be fulfilled. And that
is him showing that he absolutely loves her enough to
give her.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
The option.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
To be fulfilled in a way that he physically cannot.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
So I'll tell you as a girl like to us,
like when I'm in love with you, intimacy, sex is
like the last priority on the total pole. It's really
not the highest. What's your face? Why are you making
a face? Because because I'm dating you and that is
not the truth, It's still not a priority. I'm just
(04:09):
I'm know we're getting older, so I'm trying to get
it in while i can. Sorry for the pun.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
But it's that's my life.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
It's not but it's not why I'm with you like
I love you because I am with you, And and
for women like I think for guys, the difference with
getting intimate is a physical like need or release or whatever,
and for us it's a very mental thing. Like if
you notice, like any private probably any girl, or you've
been married, so you know, like any person that you're
(04:39):
intimate with that's a female, the.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
First person I've ever been with. I don't know what
you're wanting me to compare this to thank you.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
I appreciate that that will be the same story in
my mind for the rest of my life. But if
you like, if if a female like for us, if
if like if we're if we're stressed, or if we're
thinking about stuff, or if we like aren't fully like,
it's very much a mental thing. Like for me, sex
is a mental thing.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
I can't have sex if your mind isn't there. Yes,
guys can have sex, and we could be thinking about
everything else we don't care.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Right, and women like I can't remember I think it
was Lady Gaga or some celebrity that was like, I
can reach orgasm just by like having a thought, well
using my mind and never even even touching myself, and
that's a real thing for women, Like I mean, I
don't know if I would go that far, but it is.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Very much like I want that super powerful kind of.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Hope your mom's not listening to this episode, I'm.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Sorry I did this. This is your fault.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
I'm sorry, my mistake, daddy, if you are. But yeah,
I just really thought that was interesting that he did
that because I see the woman like how she's in
shock and she's like I don't want to and so
I wanted to hear your take, Like, but see, here's
my thought, because we talk about this. I had a
stroke five years ago, and I have a heart condition,
(06:02):
and there's a very real no it was five years ago,
it was in twenty nineteen. There's a very real possibility
that I could have a stroke again and be disabled
because when you have a stroke, it can you can
be paralyzed. And I have thought about this, like if
we get married and spend the rest of our lives together,
(06:22):
I've told you a few times are you ready to
deal with that. You may have to take care of
me when I'm older, But that also means you may
not ever be able to hook up with me if
that happened. So then what do I do? Like, I couldn't.
I could not be that husband. I couldn't say, sure,
go hook up with the nurse. I'll be okay with it.
That's a freaking letally not I need you to be
(06:43):
celibate for the rest of your life just because you're selfish.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
This guy is very generous and loving.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Oh okay, So would you be able if you couldn't
do it? Would you be able to tell me?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I would?
Speaker 3 (06:54):
But I mean that's long away from now, and by
the time that I get to that point, you're not
going to want to anyway.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You're just saying that. Well, then you got to say
you wouldn't want that anyway either, Huh, you wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
I'd have to say that if you if you give
me the option or the past, I have to tell you, like.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
No, maybe it's okay, I don't want anybody with you.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Yes, that's how you because both of them you can forever,
you can tell them that they love each other. Because
he wants her to be happy, and he's like do
this and she's like, but no, I love you so much.
I would never They're both showing their love in two
different ways. So you're telling me you would tell me that,
but you know I'm gonna say, but no, I don't
want this, but you want me to tell you it,
(07:36):
and then you're gonna go screw somebody.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Well I didn't say that. I would.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Well, that's what I need, But I.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Have no idea.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I mean I could say no when you first tell
me that, and you know, like five years later, I'll
be like, look.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
I'm gonna need to go do something.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
No, that is not okay, Okay, No, I'm never giving
you that option.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Okay, Well, if you have a stroke, you're not going
to another difference.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
So this will be the last episode of that she
drives me crazy podcasts. We will never be back again.
I will know better, now, let me I will. I'm
not really done. I'm just making a joke. Yeah, you
want to get out of this so bad.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I tried to pass. I would know.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Better if I had a stroke, because here's the thing
about a stroke and the conversation. Yes, like when you
have a stroke, your brain and your body are disconnected,
but you are still in there and trying to tell
your brain to make your body do the thing you
want it to do, and you can't. So you're in
here going, oh my god, your brain is not who
you are. So if I have a stroke, I'm just
saying this publicly for anybody who listens, even if me
(08:39):
and you were broken up and somebody else is in
charge of my life. If I have a stroke and
I cannot speak, I in my head am trying to
tell myself to speak, and I know what's going on,
and I'm very cognizant and aware of what's going on.
Don't put me in a nursing home. Don't you dare
ever put me in a nursing home. I will make
enough money by then I'll be rich enough. You pay
some hot young nurse to wipe my butt.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
I get to pick the hot young nurse is.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
They'll be multiple.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Okay, give me some.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Guys and girls.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Sure, sure, wipe in my butt. Now we're done with
this episode.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Okay,
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