August 23, 2024 • 10 mins
Alabama and Steak Daddy talk about red flags that dating experts say couples should look for (and see if they have any of the red flags). Also Alabama shares a story about the crazy thing her mom did when she caught her boyfriend cheating on her with the babysitter.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hey, I'm Alabama, the girl that drives my boyfriend crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
And I'm almost crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
It's not that bad. That's my boyfriend's steak Dad, also
known as Blake. If you like real conversations with a
not so perfect couple, get ready for a fun ride.
Buckle up. It's the She Drives Me Crazy podcast. I
found an article and I want your opinion on these
love things.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Well, you know that's what I'm here for. The reactions.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
No, this is the man's point of view. By the way,
welcome to our podcast, She Drives Me Crazy. I'm Alabama,
the girl that drives my boyfriend crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
And I'm the one that's going crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Okay, So here's the article, Red Flag's top experts wish
people actually paid attention to in relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Who is bad credit one of them?
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Maybe I don't know. I haven't read the whole article
yet yet going through it in real time. Okay. Number one.
If they are overly critical or negative. Okay, I mean,
I'm so freaking lately and we are both so guilty
of this.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I'm a perfectionist and a neat freak.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
So you're the one that's overally critical. Oh, you're not
anate freak. I clean up, baby, I find I'm.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Under the bus.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
That's okay, I'm messy. I know I'm messy. I don't care. Okay.
Here's the next red flag. They cannot seem to be honest.
Regardless of whether you're meeting someone new or have been
in a relationship for years, the lack of ability to
be radically honest will always lead to eventual demise.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
That's true. I agree with that. And that's you know,
either side of the relationship, male or female.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Oh, here's one. Here's a red flag. They have wondering eyes.
If a man checks out other women when he's speaking
with you, please dump him now.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
That's probably true.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
I don't think you know here. Okay, I have to
compliment you on this because I you so steak daddy.
My boyfriend owns a business where you cut down trees,
McDaniel Tree Services. There's your plug.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
You what's your sponsor of the podcast?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You went to a like a job where you were
cutting down trees for It was at a nursing home.
Do you know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Yeah, it was I assisted living.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I guess the girl who booked you when you went there,
she listens to the radio show that I.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Didn't realize that I was who I was when I
got there. She messaged until I got there.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
She messaged me on Facebook and said, oh my god,
Steak Daddy's here. And then she sent me another message
after you left, and she said, I have to say,
from women to woman, when he was standing in the room,
I brought you up and was talking about you like
she was talking to you about me. Yeah, And she
said he was in a room full of other women,
and when he talked about you, he lit up and
(03:06):
smiled so big, and not once ever looked at any
of the other women. And she said, it made me
so happy for you, so thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
I only have eyes for you.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
They don't accept responsibility. That's another red flag. All sociopaths lie. Okay,
whoever makes this list, because I feel like everybody does
a little bit of Like we all make mistakes and
do this every so often. I think these red flags
are if it's an habitual habit, because there's sometimes ran.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Through like two or three of them. I don't know,
it's the no it.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
So this is the red flag. If they do not
accept responsibility, okay, like if they blame stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
It's always somebody else's fault, or this happened so I
did or I was late, or this happened so I
did this. I don't somebody else did this, So that's
a sociopath.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
We know some of those, we know some we know.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
We know.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
We ain't gonna say, but you know you've gotten mad
at me in an argument before because I wouldn't apologize,
and you're like, you just act like nothing ever happened
the next day. But also you do that too, But
we never blame other things.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
We just refuse.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
No, you don't. We we both refuse to admit we're wrong. Yeah,
I see you make yourself sound bad in the podcast,
But you really don't say stuff like this at home,
like it's steak. Daddy does not say stuff like this
at home. You really don't say you're perfect, you're actually
very humble, You're okay. They are inconsistent bregs for me,
(04:40):
I don't have to are either of us inconsistent?
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
No, you're pretty consistently the same, So I'm pretty I'm
pretty consistent.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Consistently sporadic.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I love you.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
That might have something to do with a stroke, So
I mean, I can't put too much weight on it, but.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Had to stroke five years ago. I no, no, no, no.
I think I was explaining to producer Blake. We were
talking about you and I earlier this week, and I said,
you know, I think steak Daddy and I work because
you are very like You're a former military, you're a
former marine, and you're very like you have your hair cut. Yeah,
(05:21):
you're very regimented. You make up the bed, you keep
your hair cut high and tight, like take your shirt hot.
Quit messing up my point, you know what I mean.
Like you're very regimented. You do the thing. I am
very much like wild child, free for all. Woo, let's
go get the let's go buy some baby birds. I
found a dog, let's go hike in the middle of nowhere.
(05:42):
Like last weekend, I had you laying on the back
porch and we were staring at the stars, watching for.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
The You were staring at the stars. I was trying
to stay awake.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah, we were watching the meteor showers. So we are
very opposite, but I think that we help each other out.
Sometimes you center me when I need to be centered,
and sometimes.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
To help me, you know, get outside of the very
strict Yeah, lifestyle that I try and lead.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I make you have fun.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I have fun.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Here's this is another red flag if they treat servers,
If they're rude to their servers and treat them.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Back as a red flag?
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I guess what do you hate about it? Well, if
somebody is just constantly like, oh my god, like treats
them like, you know, the help and it just talks
down to people because they're there to you know, take
their order, bring them or whatever, or you know, wait
staff and hospitality and just general service industry as a whole.
(06:37):
People that are.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Have you ever been on a date with somebody that
treated the service? A girl did that? What did she do?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Of course a girl did that. I w wasn't on
a date with a guy.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Well, I know, but what did she do?
Speaker 2 (06:49):
It's just rude.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like I'm curious. Now, this is the only time I'll
ever get take Daddy to talk about his exes to me.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Yeah. Uh them they're horrible at their job because they
the food came out wrong when it's yeah, and when
it's not, the server's fault at the kitchen prepared in
a certain way. I'm like, is this like.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
A one time date that you went on a d
and an.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Only date that I ever went on with this individual.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Yeah, that was the first date. So I was like, oh,
I don't think this is going to work out.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Here's the other red flag. They are too possessive. In
the beginning of possessive love interest may feel erotic and entrancing,
and can even mimic love and devotion. Ultimately, it will
reveal itself as control and manipulation. Oh that's so funny.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Just be one and not both, and I could just
be controlling and not necessarily manipulative.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
I love you.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Mine, let's get married. So apparently I passed the red
flag's test.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
They they, yeah, well, the you do hit the possessive one.
But I'm possessive of you two.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
You're yeah, we'll stay possessive.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Oh I'm super I get jealous.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
You threatened to cut people.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Yeah, but I'm joking when I do that.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
You do know that you know me. I would not
hurt a fly, Like, I've never been in a fight
in my whole life.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
But I watched you kill flies with electric bug zappers
all the time.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Whatever. I did grow up watching my mom because My
mom was very ratchet. My mom literally went to prison
and I my mom. This was how I learned how
to deal with relationship problems. At an early age, when
I was like six or seven, my mom caught her
boyfriend cheating on her with the babysitter. We drove by
the apartment because she was hunting them down, and his
(08:44):
car was parked outside of the babysitter apartment. His apartment, no,
he lived with my mom, but he was gone. They
were fighting, and his car was parked at the babysitters apartment.
So we drove by there and she saw the car
and she flipped her lids. So we pull out and
there's tires.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
This is over with.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
There were two guys walking down the road when we
pull out of the apartment complex, and my mom gave
them ten dollars in a box cutter and said, hey,
take this and go slash the tires on that red
car up there. And they looked at her like she
was crazy, and she goes, you're not getting you in trouble.
My boyfriend's cheating on me with the babysitter. If we
please go slash his tires.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
She's very like, you know, let me explain the situation
to you. It'll be fine.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
And they did. They did it, they did it. That's
how I learned how to deal with problem.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
My mom's Mary Poppins, and that's how I learned how
to deal with problem.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Well, that's where we meet in the middle.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
There is that. The middle is a long way away
from either one of those ends of the spectrum illud.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Never slash your tires. You've been through enough. I won't
break any of your things. I love you. Yeah, yeah, okay,
are we done? We made it. That's that's the red flags.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Think we made it. I think no red flags.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I think you and I separately are not red flags.
Together we're just a giant red flag. But we make
it work. I love you.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I love you.
Hey, I'm Alabama, the girl that drives my boyfriend crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
And I'm almost crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
It's not that bad. That's my boyfriend's steak Dad, also
known as Blake. If you like real conversations with a
not so perfect couple, get ready for a fun ride.
Buckle up. It's the She Drives Me Crazy podcast. I
found an article and I want your opinion on these
love things.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Well, you know that's what I'm here for. The reactions.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
No, this is the man's point of view. By the way,
welcome to our podcast, She Drives Me Crazy. I'm Alabama,
the girl that drives my boyfriend crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
And I'm the one that's going crazy.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Okay, So here's the article, Red Flag's top experts wish
people actually paid attention to in relationships.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Who is bad credit one of them?
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Maybe I don't know. I haven't read the whole article
yet yet going through it in real time. Okay. Number one.
If they are overly critical or negative. Okay, I mean,
I'm so freaking lately and we are both so guilty
of this.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I'm a perfectionist and a neat freak.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
So you're the one that's overally critical. Oh, you're not
anate freak. I clean up, baby, I find I'm.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Under the bus.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
That's okay, I'm messy. I know I'm messy. I don't care. Okay.
Here's the next red flag. They cannot seem to be honest.
Regardless of whether you're meeting someone new or have been
in a relationship for years, the lack of ability to
be radically honest will always lead to eventual demise.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
That's true. I agree with that. And that's you know,
either side of the relationship, male or female.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Oh, here's one. Here's a red flag. They have wondering eyes.
If a man checks out other women when he's speaking
with you, please dump him now.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
That's probably true.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
I don't think you know here. Okay, I have to
compliment you on this because I you so steak daddy.
My boyfriend owns a business where you cut down trees,
McDaniel Tree Services. There's your plug.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
You what's your sponsor of the podcast?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You went to a like a job where you were
cutting down trees for It was at a nursing home.
Do you know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Yeah, it was I assisted living.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I guess the girl who booked you when you went there,
she listens to the radio show that I.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
Didn't realize that I was who I was when I
got there. She messaged until I got there.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
She messaged me on Facebook and said, oh my god,
Steak Daddy's here. And then she sent me another message
after you left, and she said, I have to say,
from women to woman, when he was standing in the room,
I brought you up and was talking about you like
she was talking to you about me. Yeah, And she
said he was in a room full of other women,
and when he talked about you, he lit up and
(03:06):
smiled so big, and not once ever looked at any
of the other women. And she said, it made me
so happy for you, so thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
I only have eyes for you.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
They don't accept responsibility. That's another red flag. All sociopaths lie. Okay,
whoever makes this list, because I feel like everybody does
a little bit of Like we all make mistakes and
do this every so often. I think these red flags
are if it's an habitual habit, because there's sometimes ran.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Through like two or three of them. I don't know,
it's the no it.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
So this is the red flag. If they do not
accept responsibility, okay, like if they blame stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
It's always somebody else's fault, or this happened so I
did or I was late, or this happened so I
did this. I don't somebody else did this, So that's
a sociopath.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
We know some of those, we know some we know.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
We know.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
We ain't gonna say, but you know you've gotten mad
at me in an argument before because I wouldn't apologize,
and you're like, you just act like nothing ever happened
the next day. But also you do that too, But
we never blame other things.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
We just refuse.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
No, you don't. We we both refuse to admit we're wrong. Yeah,
I see you make yourself sound bad in the podcast,
But you really don't say stuff like this at home,
like it's steak. Daddy does not say stuff like this
at home. You really don't say you're perfect, you're actually
very humble, You're okay. They are inconsistent bregs for me,
(04:40):
I don't have to are either of us inconsistent?
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
No, you're pretty consistently the same, So I'm pretty I'm
pretty consistent.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Consistently sporadic.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
I love you.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
That might have something to do with a stroke, So
I mean, I can't put too much weight on it, but.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Had to stroke five years ago. I no, no, no, no.
I think I was explaining to producer Blake. We were
talking about you and I earlier this week, and I said,
you know, I think steak Daddy and I work because
you are very like You're a former military, you're a
former marine, and you're very like you have your hair cut. Yeah,
(05:21):
you're very regimented. You make up the bed, you keep
your hair cut high and tight, like take your shirt hot.
Quit messing up my point, you know what I mean.
Like you're very regimented. You do the thing. I am
very much like wild child, free for all. Woo, let's
go get the let's go buy some baby birds. I
found a dog, let's go hike in the middle of nowhere.
(05:42):
Like last weekend, I had you laying on the back
porch and we were staring at the stars, watching for.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
The You were staring at the stars. I was trying
to stay awake.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah, we were watching the meteor showers. So we are
very opposite, but I think that we help each other out.
Sometimes you center me when I need to be centered,
and sometimes.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
To help me, you know, get outside of the very
strict Yeah, lifestyle that I try and lead.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I make you have fun.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I have fun.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Here's this is another red flag if they treat servers,
If they're rude to their servers and treat them.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Back as a red flag?
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I guess what do you hate about it? Well, if
somebody is just constantly like, oh my god, like treats
them like, you know, the help and it just talks
down to people because they're there to you know, take
their order, bring them or whatever, or you know, wait
staff and hospitality and just general service industry as a whole.
(06:37):
People that are.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Have you ever been on a date with somebody that
treated the service? A girl did that? What did she do?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Of course a girl did that. I w wasn't on
a date with a guy.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Well, I know, but what did she do?
Speaker 2 (06:49):
It's just rude.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like I'm curious. Now, this is the only time I'll
ever get take Daddy to talk about his exes to me.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Yeah. Uh them they're horrible at their job because they
the food came out wrong when it's yeah, and when
it's not, the server's fault at the kitchen prepared in
a certain way. I'm like, is this like.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
A one time date that you went on a d
and an.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Only date that I ever went on with this individual.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Yeah, that was the first date. So I was like, oh,
I don't think this is going to work out.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Here's the other red flag. They are too possessive. In
the beginning of possessive love interest may feel erotic and entrancing,
and can even mimic love and devotion. Ultimately, it will
reveal itself as control and manipulation. Oh that's so funny.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Just be one and not both, and I could just
be controlling and not necessarily manipulative.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
I love you.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Mine, let's get married. So apparently I passed the red
flag's test.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
They they, yeah, well, the you do hit the possessive one.
But I'm possessive of you two.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
You're yeah, we'll stay possessive.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Oh I'm super I get jealous.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
You threatened to cut people.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Yeah, but I'm joking when I do that.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
You do know that you know me. I would not
hurt a fly, Like, I've never been in a fight
in my whole life.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
But I watched you kill flies with electric bug zappers
all the time.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Whatever. I did grow up watching my mom because My
mom was very ratchet. My mom literally went to prison
and I my mom. This was how I learned how
to deal with relationship problems. At an early age, when
I was like six or seven, my mom caught her
boyfriend cheating on her with the babysitter. We drove by
the apartment because she was hunting them down, and his
(08:44):
car was parked outside of the babysitter apartment. His apartment, no,
he lived with my mom, but he was gone. They
were fighting, and his car was parked at the babysitters apartment.
So we drove by there and she saw the car
and she flipped her lids. So we pull out and
there's tires.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
This is over with.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
There were two guys walking down the road when we
pull out of the apartment complex, and my mom gave
them ten dollars in a box cutter and said, hey,
take this and go slash the tires on that red
car up there. And they looked at her like she
was crazy, and she goes, you're not getting you in trouble.
My boyfriend's cheating on me with the babysitter. If we
please go slash his tires.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
She's very like, you know, let me explain the situation
to you. It'll be fine.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
And they did. They did it, they did it. That's
how I learned how to deal with problem.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
My mom's Mary Poppins, and that's how I learned how
to deal with problem.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Well, that's where we meet in the middle.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
There is that. The middle is a long way away
from either one of those ends of the spectrum illud.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Never slash your tires. You've been through enough. I won't
break any of your things. I love you. Yeah, yeah, okay,
are we done? We made it. That's that's the red flags.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Think we made it. I think no red flags.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I think you and I separately are not red flags.
Together we're just a giant red flag. But we make
it work. I love you.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
I love you.
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