February 1, 2024 • 24 mins
On a Very Special Episode of Talking To My Self... It wasn't planned but I had a Sitcom Dad Talk with my now adult Son this week. And it might sound like I was on the weed and going all philosophy on him... But that part came later... when the insomnia set in...
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I had my first I guess kindof grown up one on one conversation with
my adult son yesterday and it waskind of weird cool. Here's the podcast,
just a bit of the contrasts fromwhat I'm used to. I usually
have to talk past because there's farpeople sharing the mic. But this is
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just me, so I say whateveri'd like. It might be serious,
sometimes it might be funny. Sometimesto scratch your head and said, Ryan
is such a dummy bud. Itjust me. I ain't got no help.
This is Brian grin Hannah talking tomyself. It is Brian Grimes.
It is my podcast, and Iam talking to myself before we jump in.
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All the way might sound a littledifferent. I am actually recording this
at two am on my way towork in the truck and saw me as
a bitch. I haven't been sleepingat all lately. In fact, this
morning sleeping until one point fifty wassleeping in for me. So I've been
getting up and just going to workearly, knocking my workout. But it's
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messing my whole day up. Idon't know what's going on with me,
but I was thinking while I waslaying in bed, not sleeping about this
conversation I had with my son,and then I get in the truck to
go to work, and I'm thinkingto myself, well, this is a
kind of a good time to getit all out. Maybe this is the
way to make sure I regularly domy podcast if the sound quality is okay,
just to do it on the wayto work. That's the time I'm
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alone, really doing nothing anyway,but literally talking to myself in the truck.
So maybe we'll go this route.So I had like my first full
on, kind of like adult toadult father son conversation with my son this
week, and it was kind oflike a dad sitcom moment, which was
really really cool and weird at thesame time. Yeah, I mean,
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first of all, he's about tobe nineteen, so he's going through like
a pretty big transition in life fromhigh school, you know, to where
you know at the time. Inhigh school, he was very structured,
went to school with a lot ofthe same kids for a very long time.
Then he played organized sports, Imean pretty much his whole life since
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he was a playing football, andso he's run with the same group of
dudes, with that same group ofcoaches, with that and you know,
when you don't go on and continueto play sports, which most kids don't
from high school, that kind ofjust goes away, right, So he's
transitioning from something that he's known foreverto kind of an unknown type thing.
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You're an adult, you got responsibilities, but let's be honest to it.
The way the economy works right now, many kids just venturing out and living
by themselves. So you still liveat home, but you're trying to be
independent. He's got a job,so he you know, he works,
goes to school. He had thesame girlfriend all through high school, and
he saw her on the regular basis, you know, still there, but
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not seeing her as much as hewas before. It wasn't like an after
class every class type situation. Sogoing through you know a lot of just
transition. And it made me thinkback to when I did the same thing,
and I mean it wasn't easy thenfor me either, same thing.
I played organized sports my whole life. I went to school with the same
kids from kindergarten all the way upto graduation, and then I stayed at
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community college at first and that's likethirteenth grade, so a lot of the
same kids go there. But youkind of splinter off and you don't really
hang the same people anymore. AndI was explaining to him that, you
know, it might seem weird,but there's gonna be people throughout your life
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that come into your life, andsome are there forever, like they're there
for the rest of your life,and some are there for you know,
a short time. And either way, they're all there kind of as a
vehicle to get you where you're going, you know what I mean. Like
I'm not a super religious guy,and I'm not a super spiritual guy,
and I don't necessarily believe in karmaor any of that stuff. But I
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was as I was talking to him, I was applying it to me,
and he was probably like after awhile, Dad, shut up, because
like you turned into this like weirdphilosopher dude. Like I ain't smoking weed
or anything. I don't smoke weed, so I hih. But I was
thinking to myself, it's weird howeveryone that does come into your life for
whatever reason really does come into yourlife for a purpose, whatever that purpose
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might be. And it might besomething small, might be something large,
and sometimes they stick and sometimes theymove on, and that's just kind of
like the way life works. Andso I was finished of the conversation with
him, and you know, I'mtrying to get him into, you know,
understanding how life kind of works alittle bit, but I don't want
to, you know, force iton him. But you know, he's
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like trying to find his way ofwork. And he's like, you know,
why do I work so hard?But I don't feel like it's you
know, getting me where it shouldget me. And there's people that are
there that are making just the sameas me, and I work harder than
they do. And and I'm I'mlike, whoa right at my alley,
dude? And I was explained tohim, like, you know, you
might not see the fruits from whatyou're doing right away, and you might
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not see the fruits of what you'redoing for a week, a month,
a year, ten years. Butwe do it because that's a in our
DNA. We hustle. That's whatwe do. Kid. Your mom does
it, I do it, yourgrandmother did it, And I'll be dand
if I'm must sit around and notat least expect you to do it,
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but trust me, it works,and will it always pay off the way
you think it should? Absolutely not? And will you get everything you think
you deserve because of it. Absolutelynot and will you always want more,
absolutely But that's why we do it. But back to the people coming into
your life, the coming in andgoing of people. I was explaining to
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him about it, and then asI was laying in bed not being able
to sleep, I started thinking aboutit and how it was true in my
life. And I mean obviously allthe way back to even like preschool,
when my best friend was James Bradwellhead Start in Bookertown and Stanford, and
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his mom was our preschool teacher,and I used to always go over to
James's house after school because my momworked and my dad wasn't around, and
so you know, I got alittle taste of the family unit and a
little taste of what it's like tojust you know, I have a structure
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and you know, all of thatstuff that I wouldn't have had otherwise,
which was cool. And James andI stayed friends, you know, when
we were younger, and I stillam friends with them on you know,
social media, and if we saweach other we would laugh and joke.
But you know, he was mybest friend at the time, and you
know that was for a purpose inlife, and then you know, you
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could probably find that all along theway. But it really started to stick
out for me when I got toohigh school. And when I got to
high school, I played soccer.And I had taken a break from playing
soccer through middle school because I wasjust probably too cool for it, I
guess. But then I, youknow, started playing soccer again in high
school and I became really good friendswith this guy Scott. Now I didn't
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go to middle school with Scott becausewe went to separate middle schools and he
moved down from Chicago anyway with hisfamily I think in middle school. But
in high school we played soccer andI played soccer, and we just hit
it off and we became really goodfriends. And it started out we just
hung out a lot. But bythe end of my senior year of high
school, I basically lived at Scott'sAnd it wasn't because I had like this
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terrible, abusive home life or anything. I mean, we ain't have much,
so it's not like it was like, you know, we lived in
a box on the side of thestreet. But you know, Scott's house
was cool. Scott's house was youknow, the upper middle class got had
you know, brothers and mom anddad and time at the table and always
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has snacks in the pantry and aircondition that worked and cable TV, and
I mean it was nice. SoI hung out at Scott's all the time.
And then you know, it didn'thurt obviously that me and Scott were
like brothers. So we had sucha great time hanging out together. So
it was like, if I didn'tgo back to playing soccer and I didn't
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forge that relationship with Scott Bisse,my high school years would have been totally
different than what they were. AndI mean even down to the clothes I
wore. I wore Scott's clothes allthe time because we didn't have a whole
lot of new clothes. So likemy senior year, his family was probably
like, get this kid out ofhere. Like I probably drove them crazy,
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but they were cool to me andthey let me, you know,
basically become one of their kids,which was awesome. And I still had
a great relationship with my mom,Like I think my mom got it.
You know, Scott's house is awesome. Go to Scott's house and funny years
later, Scott's mom and my momafter you know, the passing of my
mom's husband, and you know,Scott's mom getting a divorce, became best
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friends. So that's that's even awhole other thing that if that relationship between
Scott and myself doesn't happen, thatrelationship between his mom and my mom might
not happen. So, you know, Scott came into my life for a
purpose. Now Scott's still in mylife. I still roll with Scott.
Now we might not see each otherfor a month, six months, whatever
it is, but when we do, we just snap right back into it
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and hang out and joke and youknow, have a good time. So
but again, life transitions. Youknow, Scott started to go we started
you know, thirteenth grade at theyou know, community college together, but
he started to go to the workfull time thing and I stayed in the
school thing, and so we kindof splintered off a little bit. And
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you know, that's just the wayit was. And it was kind of
weird at the time think much ofit, but looking back on it now,
like Scott was part a big partof that part of my life,
and it was for a purpose,you know what I mean. And again
I promise I am high and beingall you know, philosophical and stuff.
I was just having a conversation withmy kid, trying to explain stuff to
him, you know, and thenyou know, you get to the point
where you are separated from that life, which is kind of where my son's
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at now with his high school situation. And I needed to get a job,
and so another friend of mine wasapplying for a job at Circuit City
and he's like, why don't yougo apply for a job at Circuit City
with me. I'm like, allright, So I did, literally thinking
nothing of it. He didn't getthe job, and I did get the
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job, which was, you know, weird, but it wasn't like it
was like a career type job.I just said, well, it's a
job. Cool. So I getthis job at Circuit City. I'm going
through my orientation and a guy thatgot hired with me that I didn't know,
who went to a high school acrosstown from high school I went to,
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got hired at the same time,and he's in the same orientation as
to me. So we just start, you know, joking around and stuff,
and we become friends and we hitit off. And his name's Jason,
and so now I've kind of gotthe same thing I had when I
first started hanging out with Scott.You know, hey, this is just
really cool. We're boys. Andso now me and Jason are like fortune
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this friendship and we become, youknow, best friends, and we hang
out all the time and we're bullshittingall the time, and he is a
DJ, like a Spins Records andare you know, he's getting into it,
and so I'm like, oh,I want to do that too,
So we start doing that together,which coincidentally later helps me with the radio
thing down the road, but atthe time, obviously I didn't think anything
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of that. And so we're bothworking at Circuit City and uh, you
know, hanging out all the timeand DJ and then just having fun and
that's like, you know, mybest friend, and you know, we
start taking classes together in college aswell, and everything's going along just fine.
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And then I'm at another friend ofmine's house with Scott, ironically,
because I hadn't seen them in awhile, so I, you know,
I'm going to hang out with them, and you know, his name's Ben
and we're just hanging out and he'stelling us that his friend from Texas,
she is on her way road trippingto Florida for spring break and she's bringing
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one of her best friends with herand they're just gonna hang for the week,
and I mean it's got like okay, cool, whatever. So we're
just hanging around with Ben at Ben'shouse and Scott and I are going to
go home and you know, hangbecause we haven't hung out in a while.
And his friend calls and she's gotsome car trouble about, you know,
seventy five miles away from Ben's house. And we're like, well,
we'll go get them, you knowwhatever, and he's like, now,
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just hang tight. I think theygot a tow truck and they're gonna ride
with a tow truck guy. Sowe with Ben until they get there.
Well, the girl that comes inthe door with his good friend is a
girl named Jenny, who I hitit off with. We spend that whole
spring break week hanging out together,and I won't get into to the you
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know, long distance relationship part ofit after she goes back home. But
six months later, I'm moving toTexas away from Florida for the first time
in my life because of the girlthat I met. Because I hadn't seen
Scott in a while, and wehaven't seen Ben in a while, and
his friend from Texas's Road Tripp intohis house for spring break. So again
it's back one of those things likepeople just come into your life at random
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times for random things, and youknow, maybe it's forever and maybe it's
not, but it's a vehicle toget you to the next thing. So
I moved to Texas. Me andJason are still friends. We just you
know, there's no social media backthen, by the way, Emails not
even like a big thing, andreally texting's not even really a big thing
either, so you know, butwe're still friends. And my mom's still
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here obviously, so you know,I come home for the holidays and I
hang with Jason and everything like that. But you know, I'm living in
Texas, and you know, nowI'm living with this girl and her family,
which is another culture shock. Ithink this is like the third family
I've lived with now, while weyou know, wait to transfer to the
University of North Texas and Denton,and then her and I get our first
apartment, my first time ever livingby myself, you know, get our
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first apartment together and everything like that. I at first, I'm just like
kind of a tag along. Youknow, I'm not from there she is,
and I don't really make friends easilyback then, so I don't know
what I want to do. I'vechanged my major three times now. I'm
now in education as a major,mostly because that's what she was doing and
my mom was a teacher. Sobut I was looking for a job and
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it took a job in the studentunion at what they call the Arts Center,
which was like a graphic design centerfor the school. It was kind
of cool, like they did allof the graphics any sort of artwork for
the school, but they also didit for local businesses, kind of like
as as a for profit thing.And all of the kids that worked in
there were like advertising, communication design, major stuff like that. So I
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hit it off with them, andit's like a small group. There's only
like eight people that work in there, and so I changed my major to
communication design because I really enjoyed it. I'm like, well, you know
what, this is something I like. So I did that and I became
friends with those guys in the ArtCenter and I worked in the student union,
so I played intermural sports, soit's cool. I'm kind of starting
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to flourish in Texas, which iskind of cool. Then, of course
life goes sideways because it always does. The girl that I moved to Texas
for and I aren't gonna make it. So now I'm at a crossroads.
Do I stay in Texas and kindof like do my thing, although I
don't really know anybody to stay inTexas with. Like we shared an apartment.
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I didn't make enough money to justget my own apartment. Student union
paid, but it didn't pay likethat. But everything I know is in
Florida. So I made the snapdecision between semesters. You know what,
I'm gonna get a U haul.I'm gonna load that thing up, and
I'm going back. So I literallydrove straight through, spent the night at
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my brother's in Pensacola for one night, and came back to Florida. Ended
up back at my mom's house.Because where you're gonna go? Needed a
job, so I hit up Jason. I staid, hey, man,
what's going on? How you gotyou know what what you got going on?
And he's like, well, Idon't work at Circuit City anymore.
I work at Best Buy. NowI'm like all right, He's like I
can get you a job here.So they liked him a lot there,
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the customer service people, so hesent up an interview and I got hired
like on the spot because you know, it's Jason's friend. And so again,
you know, someone came into mylife at Circuit City because we got
hired on the same day and wentthrough orientation together, and you know,
fast forward, that's how I gotmy job at best Buy. And within
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the first month, that's when mynow wife at the time, I didn't
even know who she was, walkedby and I told Jason at the time,
man, I'm gonna hit that becauseit was at a team meeting.
So best Buy had these Saturday meetingsand I always worked Saturday morning, but
she did not, So she wasin her street clothes and I was in
my best Buy blues and she walkedby for the meeting and I didn't know
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who she was. But I waslike, I can remember like it yesterday,
and I'm sure we'll tell this storyon our podcast once we get it
started. My wife and I butI told my friend Jason, man,
we hit that, and he's likeplease because he already knew her. And
my wife was the hot girl atBest Buy, and he's like, man,
please, first of all, noyou ain't. Second of all,
you ain't got no game, Soplease, Because him and I knew each
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other like nothing about me said Iwas actually gonna end up hitting that,
honestly, and then look at thatended up marrying that. But if it
wasn't for Jason at Circuit City,at Orientation and I, I wouldn't have
got my job at Best Buy whenI came back from text and would never
have met my wife. So againI was telling my sons, see the
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people come and go in your life. And Jason and I again somebody that
I might not see for years ata time. Every now and then on
social we hit each other. Butwhen I do, you know, it's
like, that's my dude from backin the day. And ironically, to
build on this, we road trippedto New Orleans for Marty Gras during one
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of the times that Jen and I, who were dated at the time,
were kind of on the rocks,and he met the girl that he ended
up marrying at Marty Graus and nowthey live with a family up north and
everything. So, like I said, everything, everything kind of just intersects
and people will walk into your lifefor whatever reason. And like I said,
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sometimes it's forever and sometimes for aminute, but it's a vehicle to
get you to the next place.And honestly, I wouldn't even be here
if none of this happens because II while working at Best Buy worked in
the back office and I used tolisten to the radio all the time.
And I used to listen to ashow called The Monsters of the Midday at
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the time, and I was like, Man, these guys are funny,
but I could do what they do, Like this is what we used to
do in the art center. Therewas pre podcasts, but if we would
have had a podcast in the artcenter, there was just a bunch of
us all day long listening to musictrying to make each other laugh, you
know, joke while we did artstuff. And I was like, God,
that's what I used to do.I could totally do that. So
I got this idea that I wantedto be in radio. Well, I
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was going to UCF because I hadtransferred back here. I didn't really love
UCF and the program they had thatI was in for communication design didn't really
match what I had at UNT,and I just wasn't loving it. So
I did an audit of this broadcastingschool that I heard a commercial for and
while there same night, a guythat I met named Chris, who is
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from Iowa, graduated Commuter University ofi was the same thing. He wants
to get in radio. He's alreadygone the college thing, and he's you
know, I'm just trying to getin. So he's auditing the class and
both of us at the same time, just like I did with Jason,
just like I did with Scott,we started cracking jokes and hitting it off,
and he becomes one of my bestfriends and becomes the first person that
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I actually did any sort of radiowith. And it was streaming internet radio,
and this is pre streaming internet radio. Like we were like the pioneers.
We have nothing to show for it, although we did get some experience
from it, but we were waytoo early in the game. There was
no way to monetize it. Sothe company that was backing it eventually after
about eighteen months, decided, yeah, we can't really do this anymore.
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But it was my first experience inradio, and if I hadn't met Chris,
I probably wouldn't have done that atall. And so that's odd because
that also intersects with how I gotmy job at X one oh sixty seven.
So after the internet radio thing fallsapart with Chris, I'm back at
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best Buy because that's where I goback to. And I'm dating my wife
now at the time, because I'vemet her through Best Buy and she knew
I was trying to do the radiothing. And she comes in the house
one day and she goes, hey, on the radio, I heard a
commercial that Exit one oh sixty sevenis hiring in the fun and Games department.
I didn't know what the hell thefun and Games department was, but
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I reached out to X one ofsix seven Fun and Games department and I
asked for a job, and Igot an interview, and I go into
the interview and the person doing theinterview, her name is Glory. Well
turns out that Glory's cousin worked fora company called the Broadcast Team, which
was the company that was financing myinternet radio venture, and her cousin knew
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of me, and she hired mebasically because of that. So, because
I met Chris and did this internetradio thing, I met Glory's cousin,
who then later got me the jobat XL one to six seven, who
I heard about because my wife,who I met through Jason, heard it
on the radio on her way homefrom work. And again, like I
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said, people come and go,people cross through your life, but sometimes
it's forever, and sometimes it's justfor a vehicle to get you to the
next spot. Obviously, fast forwardall these years later, I'm still here
at XL one O sixty seven.But again, none of these things happen
if certain people don't intersect into yourlife at certain times. And I was
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trying to explain to my son thatsometimes they're gonna they're gonna be there forever,
and sometimes they're gonna be there fora week, a month, a
year, and sometimes you'll see themafter years later and it'll be just like
you hadn't not seen them at all. And sometimes it'll be just high and
passing. And that's kind of theweird way the universe works. And again
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I'm not high. I'm not beinglike, oh man, this is trippy.
It's just it all sparked from asitcom father adult son moment. And
I'm not even sure if my sonrealized that all this stuff was going through
my head, but that's what happenswhen you lay in bed and you can't
sleep. At one am, Well, just like that, I'm pulling into
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I had my first I guess kindof grown up one on one conversation with
my adult son yesterday and it waskind of weird cool. Here's the podcast,
just a bit of the contrasts fromwhat I'm used to. I usually
have to talk past because there's farpeople sharing the mic. But this is
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just me, so I say whateveri'd like. It might be serious,
sometimes it might be funny. Sometimesto scratch your head and said, Ryan
is such a dummy bud. Itjust me. I ain't got no help.
This is Brian grin Hannah talking tomyself. It is Brian Grimes.
It is my podcast, and Iam talking to myself before we jump in.
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All the way might sound a littledifferent. I am actually recording this
at two am on my way towork in the truck and saw me as
a bitch. I haven't been sleepingat all lately. In fact, this
morning sleeping until one point fifty wassleeping in for me. So I've been
getting up and just going to workearly, knocking my workout. But it's
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messing my whole day up. Idon't know what's going on with me,
but I was thinking while I waslaying in bed, not sleeping about this
conversation I had with my son,and then I get in the truck to
go to work, and I'm thinkingto myself, well, this is a
kind of a good time to getit all out. Maybe this is the
way to make sure I regularly domy podcast if the sound quality is okay,
just to do it on the wayto work. That's the time I'm
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alone, really doing nothing anyway,but literally talking to myself in the truck.
So maybe we'll go this route.So I had like my first full
on, kind of like adult toadult father son conversation with my son this
week, and it was kind oflike a dad sitcom moment, which was
really really cool and weird at thesame time. Yeah, I mean,
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first of all, he's about tobe nineteen, so he's going through like
a pretty big transition in life fromhigh school, you know, to where
you know at the time. Inhigh school, he was very structured,
went to school with a lot ofthe same kids for a very long time.
Then he played organized sports, Imean pretty much his whole life since
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he was a playing football, andso he's run with the same group of
dudes, with that same group ofcoaches, with that and you know,
when you don't go on and continueto play sports, which most kids don't
from high school, that kind ofjust goes away, right, So he's
transitioning from something that he's known foreverto kind of an unknown type thing.
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You're an adult, you got responsibilities, but let's be honest to it.
The way the economy works right now, many kids just venturing out and living
by themselves. So you still liveat home, but you're trying to be
independent. He's got a job,so he you know, he works,
goes to school. He had thesame girlfriend all through high school, and
he saw her on the regular basis, you know, still there, but
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not seeing her as much as hewas before. It wasn't like an after
class every class type situation. Sogoing through you know a lot of just
transition. And it made me thinkback to when I did the same thing,
and I mean it wasn't easy thenfor me either, same thing.
I played organized sports my whole life. I went to school with the same
kids from kindergarten all the way upto graduation, and then I stayed at
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community college at first and that's likethirteenth grade, so a lot of the
same kids go there. But youkind of splinter off and you don't really
hang the same people anymore. AndI was explaining to him that, you
know, it might seem weird,but there's gonna be people throughout your life
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that come into your life, andsome are there forever, like they're there
for the rest of your life,and some are there for you know,
a short time. And either way, they're all there kind of as a
vehicle to get you where you're going, you know what I mean. Like
I'm not a super religious guy,and I'm not a super spiritual guy,
and I don't necessarily believe in karmaor any of that stuff. But I
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was as I was talking to him, I was applying it to me,
and he was probably like after awhile, Dad, shut up, because
like you turned into this like weirdphilosopher dude. Like I ain't smoking weed
or anything. I don't smoke weed, so I hih. But I was
thinking to myself, it's weird howeveryone that does come into your life for
whatever reason really does come into yourlife for a purpose, whatever that purpose
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might be. And it might besomething small, might be something large,
and sometimes they stick and sometimes theymove on, and that's just kind of
like the way life works. Andso I was finished of the conversation with
him, and you know, I'mtrying to get him into, you know,
understanding how life kind of works alittle bit, but I don't want
to, you know, force iton him. But you know, he's
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like trying to find his way ofwork. And he's like, you know,
why do I work so hard?But I don't feel like it's you
know, getting me where it shouldget me. And there's people that are
there that are making just the sameas me, and I work harder than
they do. And and I'm I'mlike, whoa right at my alley,
dude? And I was explained tohim, like, you know, you
might not see the fruits from whatyou're doing right away, and you might
(05:09):
not see the fruits of what you'redoing for a week, a month,
a year, ten years. Butwe do it because that's a in our
DNA. We hustle. That's whatwe do. Kid. Your mom does
it, I do it, yourgrandmother did it, And I'll be dand
if I'm must sit around and notat least expect you to do it,
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but trust me, it works,and will it always pay off the way
you think it should? Absolutely not? And will you get everything you think
you deserve because of it. Absolutelynot and will you always want more,
absolutely But that's why we do it. But back to the people coming into
your life, the coming in andgoing of people. I was explaining to
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him about it, and then asI was laying in bed not being able
to sleep, I started thinking aboutit and how it was true in my
life. And I mean obviously allthe way back to even like preschool,
when my best friend was James Bradwellhead Start in Bookertown and Stanford, and
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his mom was our preschool teacher,and I used to always go over to
James's house after school because my momworked and my dad wasn't around, and
so you know, I got alittle taste of the family unit and a
little taste of what it's like tojust you know, I have a structure
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and you know, all of thatstuff that I wouldn't have had otherwise,
which was cool. And James andI stayed friends, you know, when
we were younger, and I stillam friends with them on you know,
social media, and if we saweach other we would laugh and joke.
But you know, he was mybest friend at the time, and you
know that was for a purpose inlife, and then you know, you
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could probably find that all along theway. But it really started to stick
out for me when I got toohigh school. And when I got to
high school, I played soccer.And I had taken a break from playing
soccer through middle school because I wasjust probably too cool for it, I
guess. But then I, youknow, started playing soccer again in high
school and I became really good friendswith this guy Scott. Now I didn't
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go to middle school with Scott becausewe went to separate middle schools and he
moved down from Chicago anyway with hisfamily I think in middle school. But
in high school we played soccer andI played soccer, and we just hit
it off and we became really goodfriends. And it started out we just
hung out a lot. But bythe end of my senior year of high
school, I basically lived at Scott'sAnd it wasn't because I had like this
(07:41):
terrible, abusive home life or anything. I mean, we ain't have much,
so it's not like it was like, you know, we lived in
a box on the side of thestreet. But you know, Scott's house
was cool. Scott's house was youknow, the upper middle class got had
you know, brothers and mom anddad and time at the table and always
(08:01):
has snacks in the pantry and aircondition that worked and cable TV, and
I mean it was nice. SoI hung out at Scott's all the time.
And then you know, it didn'thurt obviously that me and Scott were
like brothers. So we had sucha great time hanging out together. So
it was like, if I didn'tgo back to playing soccer and I didn't
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forge that relationship with Scott Bisse,my high school years would have been totally
different than what they were. AndI mean even down to the clothes I
wore. I wore Scott's clothes allthe time because we didn't have a whole
lot of new clothes. So likemy senior year, his family was probably
like, get this kid out ofhere. Like I probably drove them crazy,
(08:46):
but they were cool to me andthey let me, you know,
basically become one of their kids,which was awesome. And I still had
a great relationship with my mom,Like I think my mom got it.
You know, Scott's house is awesome. Go to Scott's house and funny years
later, Scott's mom and my momafter you know, the passing of my
mom's husband, and you know,Scott's mom getting a divorce, became best
(09:11):
friends. So that's that's even awhole other thing that if that relationship between
Scott and myself doesn't happen, thatrelationship between his mom and my mom might
not happen. So, you know, Scott came into my life for a
purpose. Now Scott's still in mylife. I still roll with Scott.
Now we might not see each otherfor a month, six months, whatever
it is, but when we do, we just snap right back into it
(09:33):
and hang out and joke and youknow, have a good time. So
but again, life transitions. Youknow, Scott started to go we started
you know, thirteenth grade at theyou know, community college together, but
he started to go to the workfull time thing and I stayed in the
school thing, and so we kindof splintered off a little bit. And
(09:56):
you know, that's just the wayit was. And it was kind of
weird at the time think much ofit, but looking back on it now,
like Scott was part a big partof that part of my life,
and it was for a purpose,you know what I mean. And again
I promise I am high and beingall you know, philosophical and stuff.
I was just having a conversation withmy kid, trying to explain stuff to
him, you know, and thenyou know, you get to the point
where you are separated from that life, which is kind of where my son's
(10:20):
at now with his high school situation. And I needed to get a job,
and so another friend of mine wasapplying for a job at Circuit City
and he's like, why don't yougo apply for a job at Circuit City
with me. I'm like, allright, So I did, literally thinking
nothing of it. He didn't getthe job, and I did get the
(10:43):
job, which was, you know, weird, but it wasn't like it
was like a career type job.I just said, well, it's a
job. Cool. So I getthis job at Circuit City. I'm going
through my orientation and a guy thatgot hired with me that I didn't know,
who went to a high school acrosstown from high school I went to,
(11:05):
got hired at the same time,and he's in the same orientation as
to me. So we just start, you know, joking around and stuff,
and we become friends and we hitit off. And his name's Jason,
and so now I've kind of gotthe same thing I had when I
first started hanging out with Scott.You know, hey, this is just
really cool. We're boys. Andso now me and Jason are like fortune
(11:28):
this friendship and we become, youknow, best friends, and we hang
out all the time and we're bullshittingall the time, and he is a
DJ, like a Spins Records andare you know, he's getting into it,
and so I'm like, oh,I want to do that too,
So we start doing that together,which coincidentally later helps me with the radio
thing down the road, but atthe time, obviously I didn't think anything
(11:50):
of that. And so we're bothworking at Circuit City and uh, you
know, hanging out all the timeand DJ and then just having fun and
that's like, you know, mybest friend, and you know, we
start taking classes together in college aswell, and everything's going along just fine.
(12:11):
And then I'm at another friend ofmine's house with Scott, ironically,
because I hadn't seen them in awhile, so I, you know,
I'm going to hang out with them, and you know, his name's Ben
and we're just hanging out and he'stelling us that his friend from Texas,
she is on her way road trippingto Florida for spring break and she's bringing
(12:33):
one of her best friends with herand they're just gonna hang for the week,
and I mean it's got like okay, cool, whatever. So we're
just hanging around with Ben at Ben'shouse and Scott and I are going to
go home and you know, hangbecause we haven't hung out in a while.
And his friend calls and she's gotsome car trouble about, you know,
seventy five miles away from Ben's house. And we're like, well,
we'll go get them, you knowwhatever, and he's like, now,
(12:54):
just hang tight. I think theygot a tow truck and they're gonna ride
with a tow truck guy. Sowe with Ben until they get there.
Well, the girl that comes inthe door with his good friend is a
girl named Jenny, who I hitit off with. We spend that whole
spring break week hanging out together,and I won't get into to the you
(13:18):
know, long distance relationship part ofit after she goes back home. But
six months later, I'm moving toTexas away from Florida for the first time
in my life because of the girlthat I met. Because I hadn't seen
Scott in a while, and wehaven't seen Ben in a while, and
his friend from Texas's Road Tripp intohis house for spring break. So again
it's back one of those things likepeople just come into your life at random
(13:39):
times for random things, and youknow, maybe it's forever and maybe it's
not, but it's a vehicle toget you to the next thing. So
I moved to Texas. Me andJason are still friends. We just you
know, there's no social media backthen, by the way, Emails not
even like a big thing, andreally texting's not even really a big thing
either, so you know, butwe're still friends. And my mom's still
(14:01):
here obviously, so you know,I come home for the holidays and I
hang with Jason and everything like that. But you know, I'm living in
Texas, and you know, nowI'm living with this girl and her family,
which is another culture shock. Ithink this is like the third family
I've lived with now, while weyou know, wait to transfer to the
University of North Texas and Denton,and then her and I get our first
apartment, my first time ever livingby myself, you know, get our
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first apartment together and everything like that. I at first, I'm just like
kind of a tag along. Youknow, I'm not from there she is,
and I don't really make friends easilyback then, so I don't know
what I want to do. I'vechanged my major three times now. I'm
now in education as a major,mostly because that's what she was doing and
my mom was a teacher. Sobut I was looking for a job and
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it took a job in the studentunion at what they call the Arts Center,
which was like a graphic design centerfor the school. It was kind
of cool, like they did allof the graphics any sort of artwork for
the school, but they also didit for local businesses, kind of like
as as a for profit thing.And all of the kids that worked in
there were like advertising, communication design, major stuff like that. So I
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hit it off with them, andit's like a small group. There's only
like eight people that work in there, and so I changed my major to
communication design because I really enjoyed it. I'm like, well, you know
what, this is something I like. So I did that and I became
friends with those guys in the ArtCenter and I worked in the student union,
so I played intermural sports, soit's cool. I'm kind of starting
(15:33):
to flourish in Texas, which iskind of cool. Then, of course
life goes sideways because it always does. The girl that I moved to Texas
for and I aren't gonna make it. So now I'm at a crossroads.
Do I stay in Texas and kindof like do my thing, although I
don't really know anybody to stay inTexas with. Like we shared an apartment.
(15:54):
I didn't make enough money to justget my own apartment. Student union
paid, but it didn't pay likethat. But everything I know is in
Florida. So I made the snapdecision between semesters. You know what,
I'm gonna get a U haul.I'm gonna load that thing up, and
I'm going back. So I literallydrove straight through, spent the night at
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my brother's in Pensacola for one night, and came back to Florida. Ended
up back at my mom's house.Because where you're gonna go? Needed a
job, so I hit up Jason. I staid, hey, man,
what's going on? How you gotyou know what what you got going on?
And he's like, well, Idon't work at Circuit City anymore.
I work at Best Buy. NowI'm like all right, He's like I
can get you a job here.So they liked him a lot there,
(16:38):
the customer service people, so hesent up an interview and I got hired
like on the spot because you know, it's Jason's friend. And so again,
you know, someone came into mylife at Circuit City because we got
hired on the same day and wentthrough orientation together, and you know,
fast forward, that's how I gotmy job at best Buy. And within
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the first month, that's when mynow wife at the time, I didn't
even know who she was, walkedby and I told Jason at the time,
man, I'm gonna hit that becauseit was at a team meeting.
So best Buy had these Saturday meetingsand I always worked Saturday morning, but
she did not, So she wasin her street clothes and I was in
my best Buy blues and she walkedby for the meeting and I didn't know
(17:22):
who she was. But I waslike, I can remember like it yesterday,
and I'm sure we'll tell this storyon our podcast once we get it
started. My wife and I butI told my friend Jason, man,
we hit that, and he's likeplease because he already knew her. And
my wife was the hot girl atBest Buy, and he's like, man,
please, first of all, noyou ain't. Second of all,
you ain't got no game, Soplease, Because him and I knew each
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other like nothing about me said Iwas actually gonna end up hitting that,
honestly, and then look at thatended up marrying that. But if it
wasn't for Jason at Circuit City,at Orientation and I, I wouldn't have
got my job at Best Buy whenI came back from text and would never
have met my wife. So againI was telling my sons, see the
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people come and go in your life. And Jason and I again somebody that
I might not see for years ata time. Every now and then on
social we hit each other. Butwhen I do, you know, it's
like, that's my dude from backin the day. And ironically, to
build on this, we road trippedto New Orleans for Marty Gras during one
(18:26):
of the times that Jen and I, who were dated at the time,
were kind of on the rocks,and he met the girl that he ended
up marrying at Marty Graus and nowthey live with a family up north and
everything. So, like I said, everything, everything kind of just intersects
and people will walk into your lifefor whatever reason. And like I said,
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sometimes it's forever and sometimes for aminute, but it's a vehicle to
get you to the next place.And honestly, I wouldn't even be here
if none of this happens because II while working at Best Buy worked in
the back office and I used tolisten to the radio all the time.
And I used to listen to ashow called The Monsters of the Midday at
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the time, and I was like, Man, these guys are funny,
but I could do what they do, Like this is what we used to
do in the art center. Therewas pre podcasts, but if we would
have had a podcast in the artcenter, there was just a bunch of
us all day long listening to musictrying to make each other laugh, you
know, joke while we did artstuff. And I was like, God,
that's what I used to do.I could totally do that. So
I got this idea that I wantedto be in radio. Well, I
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was going to UCF because I hadtransferred back here. I didn't really love
UCF and the program they had thatI was in for communication design didn't really
match what I had at UNT,and I just wasn't loving it. So
I did an audit of this broadcastingschool that I heard a commercial for and
while there same night, a guythat I met named Chris, who is
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from Iowa, graduated Commuter University ofi was the same thing. He wants
to get in radio. He's alreadygone the college thing, and he's you
know, I'm just trying to getin. So he's auditing the class and
both of us at the same time, just like I did with Jason,
just like I did with Scott,we started cracking jokes and hitting it off,
and he becomes one of my bestfriends and becomes the first person that
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I actually did any sort of radiowith. And it was streaming internet radio,
and this is pre streaming internet radio. Like we were like the pioneers.
We have nothing to show for it, although we did get some experience
from it, but we were waytoo early in the game. There was
no way to monetize it. Sothe company that was backing it eventually after
about eighteen months, decided, yeah, we can't really do this anymore.
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But it was my first experience inradio, and if I hadn't met Chris,
I probably wouldn't have done that atall. And so that's odd because
that also intersects with how I gotmy job at X one oh sixty seven.
So after the internet radio thing fallsapart with Chris, I'm back at
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best Buy because that's where I goback to. And I'm dating my wife
now at the time, because I'vemet her through Best Buy and she knew
I was trying to do the radiothing. And she comes in the house
one day and she goes, hey, on the radio, I heard a
commercial that Exit one oh sixty sevenis hiring in the fun and Games department.
I didn't know what the hell thefun and Games department was, but
(21:25):
I reached out to X one ofsix seven Fun and Games department and I
asked for a job, and Igot an interview, and I go into
the interview and the person doing theinterview, her name is Glory. Well
turns out that Glory's cousin worked fora company called the Broadcast Team, which
was the company that was financing myinternet radio venture, and her cousin knew
(21:52):
of me, and she hired mebasically because of that. So, because
I met Chris and did this internetradio thing, I met Glory's cousin,
who then later got me the jobat XL one to six seven, who
I heard about because my wife,who I met through Jason, heard it
on the radio on her way homefrom work. And again, like I
(22:15):
said, people come and go,people cross through your life, but sometimes
it's forever, and sometimes it's justfor a vehicle to get you to the
next spot. Obviously, fast forwardall these years later, I'm still here
at XL one O sixty seven.But again, none of these things happen
if certain people don't intersect into yourlife at certain times. And I was
(22:37):
trying to explain to my son thatsometimes they're gonna they're gonna be there forever,
and sometimes they're gonna be there fora week, a month, a
year, and sometimes you'll see themafter years later and it'll be just like
you hadn't not seen them at all. And sometimes it'll be just high and
passing. And that's kind of theweird way the universe works. And again
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I'm not high. I'm not beinglike, oh man, this is trippy.
It's just it all sparked from asitcom father adult son moment. And
I'm not even sure if my sonrealized that all this stuff was going through
my head, but that's what happenswhen you lay in bed and you can't
sleep. At one am, Well, just like that, I'm pulling into
the radio station, So make sureyou check me out Johnny's House six to
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(23:47):
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