June 6, 2023 • 25 mins
I've decided that I will never recover any free time so I will just have to get these in when I can... This is kind of a therapy session for me, but it might help you too... and I seriously CAN NOT with insurance...
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So it's three oh five in themorning right now, and I literally just
talked to myself for the entire rideto work, which is about thirty five
minutes. And I should have beenrecording that because it's all the stuff that
I'm gonna say now. But Iknow, I just know I'm gonna leave
something out of it. I know, I am. I should have just
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hit record, but then you wouldhave heard, like all the carnalism.
This is a podcast, just abit of the contrast from what I'm used
to. I usually have to talkfast because there's people sharing the mic,
but this is just me, soI say whatever i'd like. It might
be serious, sometimes it might befunny. Sometimes describe your head and say,
Brian, it's such a duffy bud. It's just me. I ain't
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got no help. This is BrianBrins and I'm talking to myself. It
is Brian Grimes. It is mypodcast. I am talking to myself,
which I did the entire way towork. This wasn't recording it. It's
kind of like a therapy session.I thought to myself as I was driving.
I was like, Okay, thisis what I would say if I
were sitting on a couch with atherapist on the other end. The only
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difference is there was nobody sitting inthe other ends, so there was no
one to judge me and no oneto give me a bill at the end,
which I guess is a good thing. So I let's consider this like
my free therapy session. I'm onthe couch and you, guys, unfortunately
for you, are the therapists.So you just get to listen to me
ramble and ramble and ramble. Butmaybe you could take something out of it
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that helps you as well, right, so maybe it can help both of
us. It can be mutually beneficial, if you will. I've been extremely
extremely frustrated lately, off the chartsfrustrated lately. First of all, I
know I always say I'm going toget to do in this more often,
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and I think I finally have acceptedthat there will be no more time put
back into my schedule. I wastrying so hard to get some extra time
put back into my schedule. That'snot going to happen. So what I'm
gonna have to do now is justfine away to carve out time to do
this every now and then if Ireally want to do it, which I
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really do. So I tried.I tried to create a hole in my
schedule, but that didn't happen.In fact, if anything, I added
a little bit of extra time tomy schedule. So whatever is what it
is. Some my minor changes.I don't know if you don't listen to
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me on my throwback channel. SoI do old school hip hop and R
and B show six days a week, and I used to do overnights,
but about a month ago, maybea little over a month ago, they
kind of hit me up out ofnowhere and said, hey, we're moving
you from overnights to mid days,which is cool. So I's like,
wow, that means you're getting ahuge rays. No no, no,
no, no. They didn't increasethe money. They just moved me from
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overnights to mid days, which iscool because obviously more people listen to you
in the mid days than the overnights. Although I had a pretty solid group
of people that work the third shiftthat listened to me when it did the
overnight throwback show, and I knowbecause they would hit me up on social
media or we have to talk backfeature on the iHeartRadio app, which,
by the way, I think youcould do on this podcast, and it'll
go directly to me. If youwhile you're listening to this, there should
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be a little red microphone on theiHeartRadio app. If you're listening on the
iHeart app. If you're not,bounce over the I Heart app, and
you should be able to leave melike a voicemail, which if you do
like, it's like a thirty secondlike open mic. If you do,
i'd be cool. I'll get itand perhaps I'll throw some back into future
podcast episodes. But anyway, theymoved me up to middays, which is
awesome, but a couple of things. Now I feel like I'm more on
the radar. So now not thatI ever threw away breaks before, but
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now I feel like everything's got tobe elevated a little bit, which means
I gotta put a little bit morework into it, so that takes a
little bit more time. So whileI did remove some weekend stuff locally,
I still have my other cities onthe weekends. And now I put a
little more time into this midday thingthat I do, which is pretty cool.
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By the way, if you likeold school hipp R and B and
you want to check it out,you could do it anywhere on the iHeartRadio
app just search throwbacks. It's thePurple Logo Throwbacks channel, and I'm on
noon to six pm. I mean, depending on where you are in the
world. At my very just alittle bit. And then in random markets,
I mean like random markets like WestPalm, New Orleans. There's a
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city in Hawaii like I don't havethe whole list in front of me,
so if you want to check thatout, like old school hip hop and
R and B boom, it's it'sa fun show to do. I enjoy
it. I enjoy listening to itwhen I am hanging out of the pool
and everything because it's a pretty solidplaylist anyway. So I'm not getting any
more time back in my schedule.I'm gonna have to carve out some time
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to do this, which is whatI'm doing right now. I could be
working on something else, but thisis my therapy session. So, like
I said, I'm probably more frustratednow in life in general than I've ever
been in my life. And obviouslythere's a whole bunch of different factors,
and I feel like a lot ofpeople are probably in that spot right now
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where you're just I'm first of all, I'm wound real tight anyway, right,
I've got anxiety problems and I'm paranoidall the time, and I have
an inferiority complex, like I feellike I don't get enough credit or respect
or acknowledgement, and not just formy work, but for what I am
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and who I am and what Ibring to the table, not just at
work but in life. And thatmight be all on me. That I
mean, First of all, I'mself aware enough to know that that may
be just something that I am puttingout there in my own head. I
might not be able to get outof my own head. It may not
be one hundred percent real, ButI also feel like there's no way it's
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also one hundred percent in my head. So and it probably if I were
sitting on the couch with a therapist. This probably goes way back to my
dad Leaven, when I was fiveand adopting another woman's kids who all ended
up in prison, not just thirtythird but actual prison, and taking care
of them but not want to takecare of me. Hello, I'm like
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a gem over here. So maybethat's where it all stems from. I
don't know. Possibly, I'm surethat's what some therapists would say, but
I've got this in fiority complex inmyself. But it makes me feel like
no one's listening to me, orno one's giving me credit, no one's
giving me respect. I gotta telleverybody how smart I am, how hard
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I work, how much I doall of it. I feel like I
have to do that, which Ithink just builds the frustration, right,
because then you get frustrated because youfeel like you shouldn't have to do that,
Like I shouldn't have to walk arounddoing that, but I do,
or at least in my head Ido, and some in real life.
I'm not getting put this all onme, Ricky Bobby. Some of it
is on you people and not Idon't mean you, particularly if you're listening,
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but you know what I mean,the masses. So some of it
is that. There's definitely a frustrationthat lies with that. But I'm also
just frustrated because I feel like Idon't know. I'm at a place we'll
talk about work for a second.I'm at a place where I know what
I've done, right, I knowwhat I've done to get to where I'm
at. Him. I'm twenty twoyears here, not by mistake, twenty
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two years in the same industry,you know, working in the same place,
and radio is not that kind ofindustry you bounce around, and I
haven't had to. This is notreal wood. But I'm a knock on
it anyway because I don't want tobounce around. I love it here.
I love Orlando, I love iHeartMedia, I love XL one O six seven.
And even if they were to walkin today and punch me in the
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face to tell me get out,I'd be hurt, but I would still
love all of that stuff. Sobut I feel like the only person that's
still here that knows my struggle isJohnny Magic. He's the only one because
he's the only one that's been herelonger than me at this point. And
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I again, maybe they always sayyou shouldn't hold people to your expectations,
but I feel like anytime you walkinto a situation, you should. You
should get a as much knowledge ofthat situation and how that situation came to
be as you can. But youknow, like we're dealing with a whole
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turnover. Like I said, overthe course of twenty two years, I
think there's two people that have beenhere the entire time, and then one
that's been here for just over halfof it. So I mean, I
get it, like, you know, nobody cares that I, you know,
worked for free for years and thatI, you know, literally have
done every I've written, every possiblewave that you can ride around here from,
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you know, jumping in with bothfeet super excited because I have decided
this is what I'm gonna you know, latch onto and that's pre Excel days.
That's what I was an intern withClear Channel at the time. And
this radio station XL one to sixseven, the one that I work on,
wasn't even in the building yet,And I followed around a bunch of
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talented people that I looked up toand absorbed as much as I could from
the way that they did things andthe way that they carried themselves and the
way that they handled issues when theyarose. And I took as much as
I could from each person and kindof turned it into what the way I
do things. And I'll give ashout out to Daniel Dennis because that's my
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dude. Used to be on TheMonsters. Well, I used to be
on the Drew Show back when Iwas just a listener. And then the
monsters in the midday and then themonsters in the morning. And when I
first started here in back in Ithink it was ninety nine. It might
have been ninety nine, if notvery early two thousand as an intern,
He's the one of the dudes Igravitated towards to learn how to do everything,
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because that's one of the most intelligent, creative, talented dudes in the
world. But I think also hehas a lot of the same internal things
I got going on, which ismaybe why I was drawn to them.
But anyway, so but nope,but no one knows that. No one
knows that I, uh, youknow, did all of that stuff and
just grinded everything out and absorbed asmuch as I could and threw myself into
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everything that popped up, whether itbe my first time ever pushing buttons on
a live radio show, was atthe oldiest station for a guy named Bob
Barry, who's a kick ass dude, and that station doesn't even exist anymore.
It's now Rumba so like. Butnobody knows that. No one knows
that I did fourteen hours shifts runningthe board for my first few Red Hot
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and Booms. So I didn't getto go out and be part of it
because that's just the way that itwas. Like, no one knows that
anymore. So, like I that'swhere I think some of my frustration lines,
because I feel like everyone needs toknow that. Because I feel like
everyone knows that, then they kindof god have a better idea of what
I what I am, why I'mthe way I am, and why I
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conduct everything the way that I do. But like I get frustrated because they
don't know that, and I can'twalk around handing out my resume to everybody.
Um But anyway, that's that's mypersonal frustration, and I'm sure it's
not just here. I'm sure alot of you guys are dealing with that,
you know, at your job oreven at your your you know,
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with your home life. Because Imean, again, I love my wife
to death, love my son todeath, but I carry that in inferiority
thing to the house too. Ifeel like they don't. They don't pound
the drum enough for how awesome ofa dad and a husband and a you
know, keep everything together person thatI am. And maybe they do.
Maybe I'm just the jack hole thatcan't see it. I don't know,
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like I said, some of itis probably that, but there's probably a
little bit of truth to some ofit, because I feel like in life,
by nature, you take things forgranted. I mean, this is
what you do. After a while. Things are the way they are,
and they're just the way they are, and well, you know that's the
way they're supposed to be, andyou take things for granted, You take
for granted that what goes into gettingit that way, and look to be
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a one hundred percent fair hang onThursday, I'll take a drink of my
Celsius because I've been up all nightdelicious to be one hundred percent fair.
There's also a self awareness that Iknow that I need to have that other
people are also feelings very similar,going through the same thing, and I
need to remind myself to take astep back and then do the same things
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I'm asking everybody else to do,you know what I mean, take into
consideration the way they see a situationor the way they handle themselves because of
whatever it is that they've been throughto get where they are. I fully
understand that. I also can admitI'm not the best at it. I'm
working on it, I'm trying becauseI know that needs to be done,
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but I'm not the best out ofit. But I can say that's fact.
I can look back and say thatthat's true, and I can understand
that I'm working on it, andI think that's important. You got to
do that another thing I'm working on. So when I get frustrated, it's
basically like a stick of dynamite.Once the frustration starts, the fuse is
lit, right, and the longerthe fuse, the bigger the explosion is
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gonna be. I've got to andagain this goes back to the self awareness
thing. I've got to find away to learn how to cut the fuse
while at the same time and disarmingthe explosive. You know what I mean.
You can't just cut the fuse andlet the explosive sit there because it's
still ready to explode, right,So I've got to find a way to
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either allow the fuse to get tothe explosion and the explosion happened with no
collateral damage, similar to taking astick of dynamite and like throwing it down
a canyon, or I've got tofind a way to cut the fuse and
disarm the explosive and That is whatI'm working on now. That is my
new mission in life to find away to do that. And that's not
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going to be easy, and that'snot going to be a short term thing,
but something that I'm working on,and I think that's something that everybody
probably needs to work on. Andthat's part of self awareness. You have
to be able to look yourself andrealize that this person over here might be
on an island with the way thatthey see it, could be any situation
or life in general. You mightbe able on this island with the way
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that you see it, and there'sprobably somewhere in the middle to where you
could, you know, take alittle bit of this and a little bit
of that and come up with somethingpretty solid. But collaboration is key,
right, We've got to be collaborative. I've always been pretty collaborative. Now
arrogantly, I probably will always thinkthat my idea is the best one,
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and I don't know that there's anythingnecessarily wrong with that, as long as
you're willing to accept that maybe youridea always won't be the one that's used.
Still always might be the best onein your opinion, but it still
might not be the one that choose. But you know, when it's saying
collaboration, you could take a littlebit of your idea that you think is
the best and maybe tweak it alittle bit and then it become something better,
right, which I think is maybethe one of the problems with the
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bigger picture, Like you know,just the United States in general, the
collaboration has gone, We're not we'renot collaborative anymore, like at all.
You're either all of this and you'reall of this, and you can't possibly
be a little bit of this anda little bit of that because if you
do, you get labeled and youget called something, and you get canceled,
and it's bad. So collaboration orlack thereof, is probably an issue
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on a much bigger scale than justyou know, my little tiny speck of
sand on the beach that is theuniverse. Collaborations is something that I think
all of us need to probably workon. The issue is the people that
need to work on it the mosthave literally no intentions and I don't think
they see any sort of gain forthemselves and being collaborative. Because people with
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power will do anything anything to holdonto power. People with money will do
anything to hold on to money,and they may not mind if you get
a little bit of money or alittle bit of juice. But the second
you're a little bit of juice oryou're a little bit of money affects their
ability to pull in money and exertpower or juice, then whack they cut
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you off. They don't care.I don't care, and I don't and
I don't care what they say.They may seem like they are like,
you know, all about the people, or all about helping others, or
you know, I'm super unselfish,and you know, you see a lot
of these go zillionaires. I'm notgiving my kids anything. I'm donating everything
to everything. We need to dothis. There's a reason behind that.
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It's not like they're just doing that. And the second, the second they
thought that perhaps they would get strippedof the power that they've accumulated and the
money that they've stacked up. Ifthey thought for one second that there was
a chance that going down the roadthey're going now would would cost them that
power or money, they would switchup in a second, because at the
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end of the day, their goalis to hold on to all the money
and all the power, right,not necessarily help you to where you need
to get when we all should be, you know, collaboratively helping everyone as
a collective be the best they couldpossibly be. Anyway, that's my my,
my little utopia in my head.Anyhow, So anyway, I don't
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know, I appreciate the therapy session. Thanks for listening. Sitting on the
couch. It's time. I thinkour I think our session is. I
think our time's up. So youguys can build me for this. I
have insurance. I don't not surewhat the copay is, and the insurance
is another thing, don't get mestarted on. I guess we could make
this kind of like a double Ranteepisode. Uh yeah, since I brought
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up insurance, let me just tellyou this story real fast. And then
I got work to do. SoI get a text from my insurance company
and it says hey, and I'vehad my insurance company for a long time,
and I got them because my lastinsurance company, randomly out of nowhere
after almost twenty years, hit meup and said we're gonna double your rates.
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I'm like, what, blah blah, why though, And they said,
oh, that's just the industry,and I'm like, no, it's
not, and so I found anotherinsurance company that didn't double my rates,
and I switched. That was probably, I want to say, almost ten
years ago. And I have mycar insurance, my wife's car insurance,
my life insurance. I have alot of policies through the same people.
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So anyway, I get a textand they say, hey, we're gonna
increase your rates. Here's a linkto understand why, and so I click
on the link. And cost ofdoing business, which I think is just
like a broad general term that keepsanyone from having to really explain why they're
doing something financially that they're doing.Well, it's the cost of doing business,
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Okay, then well, and ifthe cost of doing business means because
I got to pay for that newfancy office you guys just moved into,
and that's not my problem, that'syour problem. The previous office was just
fine. In fact, I neverstepped foot into the office. So if
you actually added any sort of moneyto my rate for your fancy new office,
then I need my money back becauseI don't even go in your office.
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We handle everything online. It's kindof like the bank, Like I
don't go into the bank. Ineed to go into the bank that we
can all do this online, saveeverybody a lot of money, do it
from home. Then I ain't gotto worry about paying for your fancy office
anyway. So cost of doing business. And then I'm reading down further and
says, you know, price offixing cars has gone up. All right,
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I do know that's fact. Ihad to pay to get my son's
car fixed. That was a hustle. I'm not going to get into.
So I get that part. Andthen it said distracted driving is causing more
accidents. Well, that's not myproblem. It's only my problem if I
get in set accident and I wasto blame for a you know, distracted
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driving ac sent single car, justme. Only my truck has got jacked
up in this situation. You guysmay have heard a few at this point.
I want to say it was almostfive years ago. Wow, yeah,
maybe, well, maybe maybe fouryears ago. I was dropping my
son off at the movie theater.I was mad about a situation, a
parenting situation. I pulled up tothe curb to let my son out.
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I drive a pretty big truck.I'm a pretty small guy. My wife
always makes fun of me because Ilean back when I when I drive,
but I always have. It's comfortableto me anyway. So I'm skirt pull
up to the side I let myson out. Now, this movie theater
parking lot is kind of fancy andartsy, so they don't have like curbs
anywhere. They have these giant landscapingboulders that are cut into like cubes.
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Well, I drive up to letmy son out. I'm annoyed, right,
I'm half tired because I just gothome from work and I've been working
all day. My son says somethingsarcastic as it gets out of the car.
Now I'm really pissed. That's thefuse I was talking about before.
Now the dynamite's got to explode,right, It's got to explode. So
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my son gets out of the car. I go to skirt out of the
parking lot. I didn't realize howclose I was to this giant landscaping boulder
because I couldn't see it because I'mshort and I'm in a big truck and
a g ride lay back, andI hit it with the running board on
my truck. Now I think thatit's just a curb because I don't pay
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attention. That's my fault again,destructed driving. So I hit this landscape
boarder with the running board on mytruck and it starts to move the boulder.
This is a pretty big boulder.I guess my truck is built Ford
tough, and so it moves itas most as it can. And then
it snaps my running board off andit sounds like a gunshot apparently outside I
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didn't hear it. Inside. Again, my truck's built real nice. I
didn't hear all that noise. Ijust drove away, thought well, went
up over the curb. Price scratchedby rand, son of a bitch.
But I found out that my runningboard got ripped off the manager of the
movie theater. I went outside andgot it and took it inside. I
had to go pick it up anyway. I had to get my truck fixed.
I had to pay a giant deductiblefor that. It was a no
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fault accident. The boulder and questiondidn't have any damages. They just had
a scooted back and we know nowfor trucks will move it, so not
that hard. But again it wasa distracted driving accident. I had to
pay the deductible. My insurance premiumwent up and it's still up. I
think it's gonna be up for anotherlike there's a time limit on how long
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it's going to be up because ofthat accident. So all of that to
say, don't tell me distracted drivingis causing more accidents, which cost more
money. And that's why my premiumswent up. Because nobody else's premium should
go up because of mine accident.Mine went up, and it did.
It went up. I'm paying morebecause of my single car versus Boulder accident.
So don't use distracted driving as anexcuse for a across the board increase
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because I paid for my own increase. If that was the case, I
should have never paid for my ownincrease. You pay for your own increase
when you screw up. I screwedup. I packed my own increase.
Anyway. I hit him up.I say, hey, just not for
nothing, because I said, ifyou have any questions or concerns, I
do have a question or concern Ihit the Momenta not for nothing. But
I'm currently driving around with a crackin my windshield. Thanks a lot construction
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on four twenty nine and Expressway Authorityfor totally ignoring my requests for compensation.
I'm currently driving around with a crackin my windshield because I'm afraid to make
a claim because last time I gotmy windshield fix, you guys tried to
drop me because you said I hadtoo many claims. Meanwhile, you're gonna
raise my insurance because other people aredistracted driving. Please make it make sense.
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And they hit me back and said, well, you've only you haven't
had a claim in three years.You can go ahead and get your windshield
fix. Well, thanks, uhman, please have another Oh I've been
paying you four hundred dollars a monthin insurance premiums for the last ten years,
but I could get my windshield fix. Thanks. That's swell. And
don't even get me started health insurance. That's a whole other thing. I
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ain't got time for right now.Anyway, I got work to do.
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to check that out. And Ido feel better. So the therapy did
work. Appreciate it
So it's three oh five in themorning right now, and I literally just
talked to myself for the entire rideto work, which is about thirty five
minutes. And I should have beenrecording that because it's all the stuff that
I'm gonna say now. But Iknow, I just know I'm gonna leave
something out of it. I know, I am. I should have just
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hit record, but then you wouldhave heard, like all the carnalism.
This is a podcast, just abit of the contrast from what I'm used
to. I usually have to talkfast because there's people sharing the mic,
but this is just me, soI say whatever i'd like. It might
be serious, sometimes it might befunny. Sometimes describe your head and say,
Brian, it's such a duffy bud. It's just me. I ain't
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got no help. This is BrianBrins and I'm talking to myself. It
is Brian Grimes. It is mypodcast. I am talking to myself,
which I did the entire way towork. This wasn't recording it. It's
kind of like a therapy session.I thought to myself as I was driving.
I was like, Okay, thisis what I would say if I
were sitting on a couch with atherapist on the other end. The only
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difference is there was nobody sitting inthe other ends, so there was no
one to judge me and no oneto give me a bill at the end,
which I guess is a good thing. So I let's consider this like
my free therapy session. I'm onthe couch and you, guys, unfortunately
for you, are the therapists.So you just get to listen to me
ramble and ramble and ramble. Butmaybe you could take something out of it
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that helps you as well, right, so maybe it can help both of
us. It can be mutually beneficial, if you will. I've been extremely
extremely frustrated lately, off the chartsfrustrated lately. First of all, I
know I always say I'm going toget to do in this more often,
(01:44):
and I think I finally have acceptedthat there will be no more time put
back into my schedule. I wastrying so hard to get some extra time
put back into my schedule. That'snot going to happen. So what I'm
gonna have to do now is justfine away to carve out time to do
this every now and then if Ireally want to do it, which I
(02:05):
really do. So I tried.I tried to create a hole in my
schedule, but that didn't happen.In fact, if anything, I added
a little bit of extra time tomy schedule. So whatever is what it
is. Some my minor changes.I don't know if you don't listen to
(02:28):
me on my throwback channel. SoI do old school hip hop and R
and B show six days a week, and I used to do overnights,
but about a month ago, maybea little over a month ago, they
kind of hit me up out ofnowhere and said, hey, we're moving
you from overnights to mid days,which is cool. So I's like,
wow, that means you're getting ahuge rays. No no, no,
no, no. They didn't increasethe money. They just moved me from
(02:50):
overnights to mid days, which iscool because obviously more people listen to you
in the mid days than the overnights. Although I had a pretty solid group
of people that work the third shiftthat listened to me when it did the
overnight throwback show, and I knowbecause they would hit me up on social
media or we have to talk backfeature on the iHeartRadio app, which,
by the way, I think youcould do on this podcast, and it'll
go directly to me. If youwhile you're listening to this, there should
(03:12):
be a little red microphone on theiHeartRadio app. If you're listening on the
iHeart app. If you're not,bounce over the I Heart app, and
you should be able to leave melike a voicemail, which if you do
like, it's like a thirty secondlike open mic. If you do,
i'd be cool. I'll get itand perhaps I'll throw some back into future
podcast episodes. But anyway, theymoved me up to middays, which is
awesome, but a couple of things. Now I feel like I'm more on
the radar. So now not thatI ever threw away breaks before, but
(03:37):
now I feel like everything's got tobe elevated a little bit, which means
I gotta put a little bit morework into it, so that takes a
little bit more time. So whileI did remove some weekend stuff locally,
I still have my other cities onthe weekends. And now I put a
little more time into this midday thingthat I do, which is pretty cool.
(03:58):
By the way, if you likeold school hipp R and B and
you want to check it out,you could do it anywhere on the iHeartRadio
app just search throwbacks. It's thePurple Logo Throwbacks channel, and I'm on
noon to six pm. I mean, depending on where you are in the
world. At my very just alittle bit. And then in random markets,
I mean like random markets like WestPalm, New Orleans. There's a
(04:19):
city in Hawaii like I don't havethe whole list in front of me,
so if you want to check thatout, like old school hip hop and
R and B boom, it's it'sa fun show to do. I enjoy
it. I enjoy listening to itwhen I am hanging out of the pool
and everything because it's a pretty solidplaylist anyway. So I'm not getting any
more time back in my schedule.I'm gonna have to carve out some time
(04:40):
to do this, which is whatI'm doing right now. I could be
working on something else, but thisis my therapy session. So, like
I said, I'm probably more frustratednow in life in general than I've ever
been in my life. And obviouslythere's a whole bunch of different factors,
and I feel like a lot ofpeople are probably in that spot right now
(05:00):
where you're just I'm first of all, I'm wound real tight anyway, right,
I've got anxiety problems and I'm paranoidall the time, and I have
an inferiority complex, like I feellike I don't get enough credit or respect
or acknowledgement, and not just formy work, but for what I am
(05:23):
and who I am and what Ibring to the table, not just at
work but in life. And thatmight be all on me. That I
mean, First of all, I'mself aware enough to know that that may
be just something that I am puttingout there in my own head. I
might not be able to get outof my own head. It may not
be one hundred percent real, ButI also feel like there's no way it's
(05:43):
also one hundred percent in my head. So and it probably if I were
sitting on the couch with a therapist. This probably goes way back to my
dad Leaven, when I was fiveand adopting another woman's kids who all ended
up in prison, not just thirtythird but actual prison, and taking care
of them but not want to takecare of me. Hello, I'm like
(06:05):
a gem over here. So maybethat's where it all stems from. I
don't know. Possibly, I'm surethat's what some therapists would say, but
I've got this in fiority complex inmyself. But it makes me feel like
no one's listening to me, orno one's giving me credit, no one's
giving me respect. I gotta telleverybody how smart I am, how hard
(06:28):
I work, how much I doall of it. I feel like I
have to do that, which Ithink just builds the frustration, right,
because then you get frustrated because youfeel like you shouldn't have to do that,
Like I shouldn't have to walk arounddoing that, but I do,
or at least in my head Ido, and some in real life.
I'm not getting put this all onme, Ricky Bobby. Some of it
is on you people and not Idon't mean you, particularly if you're listening,
(06:51):
but you know what I mean,the masses. So some of it
is that. There's definitely a frustrationthat lies with that. But I'm also
just frustrated because I feel like Idon't know. I'm at a place we'll
talk about work for a second.I'm at a place where I know what
I've done, right, I knowwhat I've done to get to where I'm
at. Him. I'm twenty twoyears here, not by mistake, twenty
(07:15):
two years in the same industry,you know, working in the same place,
and radio is not that kind ofindustry you bounce around, and I
haven't had to. This is notreal wood. But I'm a knock on
it anyway because I don't want tobounce around. I love it here.
I love Orlando, I love iHeartMedia, I love XL one O six seven.
And even if they were to walkin today and punch me in the
(07:35):
face to tell me get out,I'd be hurt, but I would still
love all of that stuff. Sobut I feel like the only person that's
still here that knows my struggle isJohnny Magic. He's the only one because
he's the only one that's been herelonger than me at this point. And
(07:58):
I again, maybe they always sayyou shouldn't hold people to your expectations,
but I feel like anytime you walkinto a situation, you should. You
should get a as much knowledge ofthat situation and how that situation came to
be as you can. But youknow, like we're dealing with a whole
(08:22):
turnover. Like I said, overthe course of twenty two years, I
think there's two people that have beenhere the entire time, and then one
that's been here for just over halfof it. So I mean, I
get it, like, you know, nobody cares that I, you know,
worked for free for years and thatI, you know, literally have
done every I've written, every possiblewave that you can ride around here from,
(08:48):
you know, jumping in with bothfeet super excited because I have decided
this is what I'm gonna you know, latch onto and that's pre Excel days.
That's what I was an intern withClear Channel at the time. And
this radio station XL one to sixseven, the one that I work on,
wasn't even in the building yet,And I followed around a bunch of
(09:09):
talented people that I looked up toand absorbed as much as I could from
the way that they did things andthe way that they carried themselves and the
way that they handled issues when theyarose. And I took as much as
I could from each person and kindof turned it into what the way I
do things. And I'll give ashout out to Daniel Dennis because that's my
(09:31):
dude. Used to be on TheMonsters. Well, I used to be
on the Drew Show back when Iwas just a listener. And then the
monsters in the midday and then themonsters in the morning. And when I
first started here in back in Ithink it was ninety nine. It might
have been ninety nine, if notvery early two thousand as an intern,
He's the one of the dudes Igravitated towards to learn how to do everything,
(09:52):
because that's one of the most intelligent, creative, talented dudes in the
world. But I think also hehas a lot of the same internal things
I got going on, which ismaybe why I was drawn to them.
But anyway, so but nope,but no one knows that. No one
knows that I, uh, youknow, did all of that stuff and
just grinded everything out and absorbed asmuch as I could and threw myself into
(10:15):
everything that popped up, whether itbe my first time ever pushing buttons on
a live radio show, was atthe oldiest station for a guy named Bob
Barry, who's a kick ass dude, and that station doesn't even exist anymore.
It's now Rumba so like. Butnobody knows that. No one knows
that I did fourteen hours shifts runningthe board for my first few Red Hot
(10:37):
and Booms. So I didn't getto go out and be part of it
because that's just the way that itwas. Like, no one knows that
anymore. So, like I that'swhere I think some of my frustration lines,
because I feel like everyone needs toknow that. Because I feel like
everyone knows that, then they kindof god have a better idea of what
I what I am, why I'mthe way I am, and why I
(10:58):
conduct everything the way that I do. But like I get frustrated because they
don't know that, and I can'twalk around handing out my resume to everybody.
Um But anyway, that's that's mypersonal frustration, and I'm sure it's
not just here. I'm sure alot of you guys are dealing with that,
you know, at your job oreven at your your you know,
(11:18):
with your home life. Because Imean, again, I love my wife
to death, love my son todeath, but I carry that in inferiority
thing to the house too. Ifeel like they don't. They don't pound
the drum enough for how awesome ofa dad and a husband and a you
know, keep everything together person thatI am. And maybe they do.
Maybe I'm just the jack hole thatcan't see it. I don't know,
(11:39):
like I said, some of itis probably that, but there's probably a
little bit of truth to some ofit, because I feel like in life,
by nature, you take things forgranted. I mean, this is
what you do. After a while. Things are the way they are,
and they're just the way they are, and well, you know that's the
way they're supposed to be, andyou take things for granted, You take
for granted that what goes into gettingit that way, and look to be
(12:00):
a one hundred percent fair hang onThursday, I'll take a drink of my
Celsius because I've been up all nightdelicious to be one hundred percent fair.
There's also a self awareness that Iknow that I need to have that other
people are also feelings very similar,going through the same thing, and I
need to remind myself to take astep back and then do the same things
(12:24):
I'm asking everybody else to do,you know what I mean, take into
consideration the way they see a situationor the way they handle themselves because of
whatever it is that they've been throughto get where they are. I fully
understand that. I also can admitI'm not the best at it. I'm
working on it, I'm trying becauseI know that needs to be done,
(12:46):
but I'm not the best out ofit. But I can say that's fact.
I can look back and say thatthat's true, and I can understand
that I'm working on it, andI think that's important. You got to
do that another thing I'm working on. So when I get frustrated, it's
basically like a stick of dynamite.Once the frustration starts, the fuse is
lit, right, and the longerthe fuse, the bigger the explosion is
(13:13):
gonna be. I've got to andagain this goes back to the self awareness
thing. I've got to find away to learn how to cut the fuse
while at the same time and disarmingthe explosive. You know what I mean.
You can't just cut the fuse andlet the explosive sit there because it's
still ready to explode, right,So I've got to find a way to
(13:35):
either allow the fuse to get tothe explosion and the explosion happened with no
collateral damage, similar to taking astick of dynamite and like throwing it down
a canyon, or I've got tofind a way to cut the fuse and
disarm the explosive and That is whatI'm working on now. That is my
new mission in life to find away to do that. And that's not
(13:58):
going to be easy, and that'snot going to be a short term thing,
but something that I'm working on,and I think that's something that everybody
probably needs to work on. Andthat's part of self awareness. You have
to be able to look yourself andrealize that this person over here might be
on an island with the way thatthey see it, could be any situation
or life in general. You mightbe able on this island with the way
(14:20):
that you see it, and there'sprobably somewhere in the middle to where you
could, you know, take alittle bit of this and a little bit
of that and come up with somethingpretty solid. But collaboration is key,
right, We've got to be collaborative. I've always been pretty collaborative. Now
arrogantly, I probably will always thinkthat my idea is the best one,
(14:41):
and I don't know that there's anythingnecessarily wrong with that, as long as
you're willing to accept that maybe youridea always won't be the one that's used.
Still always might be the best onein your opinion, but it still
might not be the one that choose. But you know, when it's saying
collaboration, you could take a littlebit of your idea that you think is
the best and maybe tweak it alittle bit and then it become something better,
right, which I think is maybethe one of the problems with the
(15:05):
bigger picture, Like you know,just the United States in general, the
collaboration has gone, We're not we'renot collaborative anymore, like at all.
You're either all of this and you'reall of this, and you can't possibly
be a little bit of this anda little bit of that because if you
do, you get labeled and youget called something, and you get canceled,
and it's bad. So collaboration orlack thereof, is probably an issue
(15:30):
on a much bigger scale than justyou know, my little tiny speck of
sand on the beach that is theuniverse. Collaborations is something that I think
all of us need to probably workon. The issue is the people that
need to work on it the mosthave literally no intentions and I don't think
they see any sort of gain forthemselves and being collaborative. Because people with
(15:54):
power will do anything anything to holdonto power. People with money will do
anything to hold on to money,and they may not mind if you get
a little bit of money or alittle bit of juice. But the second
you're a little bit of juice oryou're a little bit of money affects their
ability to pull in money and exertpower or juice, then whack they cut
(16:17):
you off. They don't care.I don't care, and I don't and
I don't care what they say.They may seem like they are like,
you know, all about the people, or all about helping others, or
you know, I'm super unselfish,and you know, you see a lot
of these go zillionaires. I'm notgiving my kids anything. I'm donating everything
to everything. We need to dothis. There's a reason behind that.
(16:38):
It's not like they're just doing that. And the second, the second they
thought that perhaps they would get strippedof the power that they've accumulated and the
money that they've stacked up. Ifthey thought for one second that there was
a chance that going down the roadthey're going now would would cost them that
power or money, they would switchup in a second, because at the
(16:59):
end of the day, their goalis to hold on to all the money
and all the power, right,not necessarily help you to where you need
to get when we all should be, you know, collaboratively helping everyone as
a collective be the best they couldpossibly be. Anyway, that's my my,
my little utopia in my head.Anyhow, So anyway, I don't
(17:22):
know, I appreciate the therapy session. Thanks for listening. Sitting on the
couch. It's time. I thinkour I think our session is. I
think our time's up. So youguys can build me for this. I
have insurance. I don't not surewhat the copay is, and the insurance
is another thing, don't get mestarted on. I guess we could make
this kind of like a double Ranteepisode. Uh yeah, since I brought
(17:45):
up insurance, let me just tellyou this story real fast. And then
I got work to do. SoI get a text from my insurance company
and it says hey, and I'vehad my insurance company for a long time,
and I got them because my lastinsurance company, randomly out of nowhere
after almost twenty years, hit meup and said we're gonna double your rates.
(18:08):
I'm like, what, blah blah, why though, And they said,
oh, that's just the industry,and I'm like, no, it's
not, and so I found anotherinsurance company that didn't double my rates,
and I switched. That was probably, I want to say, almost ten
years ago. And I have mycar insurance, my wife's car insurance,
my life insurance. I have alot of policies through the same people.
(18:30):
So anyway, I get a textand they say, hey, we're gonna
increase your rates. Here's a linkto understand why, and so I click
on the link. And cost ofdoing business, which I think is just
like a broad general term that keepsanyone from having to really explain why they're
doing something financially that they're doing.Well, it's the cost of doing business,
(18:51):
Okay, then well, and ifthe cost of doing business means because
I got to pay for that newfancy office you guys just moved into,
and that's not my problem, that'syour problem. The previous office was just
fine. In fact, I neverstepped foot into the office. So if
you actually added any sort of moneyto my rate for your fancy new office,
then I need my money back becauseI don't even go in your office.
(19:12):
We handle everything online. It's kindof like the bank, Like I
don't go into the bank. Ineed to go into the bank that we
can all do this online, saveeverybody a lot of money, do it
from home. Then I ain't gotto worry about paying for your fancy office
anyway. So cost of doing business. And then I'm reading down further and
says, you know, price offixing cars has gone up. All right,
(19:32):
I do know that's fact. Ihad to pay to get my son's
car fixed. That was a hustle. I'm not going to get into.
So I get that part. Andthen it said distracted driving is causing more
accidents. Well, that's not myproblem. It's only my problem if I
get in set accident and I wasto blame for a you know, distracted
(19:59):
driving ac sent single car, justme. Only my truck has got jacked
up in this situation. You guysmay have heard a few at this point.
I want to say it was almostfive years ago. Wow, yeah,
maybe, well, maybe maybe fouryears ago. I was dropping my
son off at the movie theater.I was mad about a situation, a
parenting situation. I pulled up tothe curb to let my son out.
(20:22):
I drive a pretty big truck.I'm a pretty small guy. My wife
always makes fun of me because Ilean back when I when I drive,
but I always have. It's comfortableto me anyway. So I'm skirt pull
up to the side I let myson out. Now, this movie theater
parking lot is kind of fancy andartsy, so they don't have like curbs
anywhere. They have these giant landscapingboulders that are cut into like cubes.
(20:45):
Well, I drive up to letmy son out. I'm annoyed, right,
I'm half tired because I just gothome from work and I've been working
all day. My son says somethingsarcastic as it gets out of the car.
Now I'm really pissed. That's thefuse I was talking about before.
Now the dynamite's got to explode,right, It's got to explode. So
(21:06):
my son gets out of the car. I go to skirt out of the
parking lot. I didn't realize howclose I was to this giant landscaping boulder
because I couldn't see it because I'mshort and I'm in a big truck and
a g ride lay back, andI hit it with the running board on
my truck. Now I think thatit's just a curb because I don't pay
(21:27):
attention. That's my fault again,destructed driving. So I hit this landscape
boarder with the running board on mytruck and it starts to move the boulder.
This is a pretty big boulder.I guess my truck is built Ford
tough, and so it moves itas most as it can. And then
it snaps my running board off andit sounds like a gunshot apparently outside I
(21:47):
didn't hear it. Inside. Again, my truck's built real nice. I
didn't hear all that noise. Ijust drove away, thought well, went
up over the curb. Price scratchedby rand, son of a bitch.
But I found out that my runningboard got ripped off the manager of the
movie theater. I went outside andgot it and took it inside. I
had to go pick it up anyway. I had to get my truck fixed.
I had to pay a giant deductiblefor that. It was a no
(22:08):
fault accident. The boulder and questiondidn't have any damages. They just had
a scooted back and we know nowfor trucks will move it, so not
that hard. But again it wasa distracted driving accident. I had to
pay the deductible. My insurance premiumwent up and it's still up. I
think it's gonna be up for anotherlike there's a time limit on how long
(22:30):
it's going to be up because ofthat accident. So all of that to
say, don't tell me distracted drivingis causing more accidents, which cost more
money. And that's why my premiumswent up. Because nobody else's premium should
go up because of mine accident.Mine went up, and it did.
It went up. I'm paying morebecause of my single car versus Boulder accident.
So don't use distracted driving as anexcuse for a across the board increase
(22:53):
because I paid for my own increase. If that was the case, I
should have never paid for my ownincrease. You pay for your own increase
when you screw up. I screwedup. I packed my own increase.
Anyway. I hit him up.I say, hey, just not for
nothing, because I said, ifyou have any questions or concerns, I
do have a question or concern Ihit the Momenta not for nothing. But
I'm currently driving around with a crackin my windshield. Thanks a lot construction
(23:15):
on four twenty nine and Expressway Authorityfor totally ignoring my requests for compensation.
I'm currently driving around with a crackin my windshield because I'm afraid to make
a claim because last time I gotmy windshield fix, you guys tried to
drop me because you said I hadtoo many claims. Meanwhile, you're gonna
raise my insurance because other people aredistracted driving. Please make it make sense.
(23:38):
And they hit me back and said, well, you've only you haven't
had a claim in three years.You can go ahead and get your windshield
fix. Well, thanks, uhman, please have another Oh I've been
paying you four hundred dollars a monthin insurance premiums for the last ten years,
but I could get my windshield fix. Thanks. That's swell. And
don't even get me started health insurance. That's a whole other thing. I
(24:00):
ain't got time for right now.Anyway, I got work to do.
Make sure you check me out ofcourse. Johnny's House XL one O six
seven Monday through Friday, six am. Well actually we started five fifteen now
five fifteen am till ten am.Of course, you can always catch Johnny's
House on the podcast. Make sureyou subscribe so you get a little update
on alert when a new one popsup. You can check that out anywhere
(24:22):
you go, always free on theiHeart Radio app. I got Afternoons down
the Hall of Magic when I wasseven seven. If you're into the eighties,
nineties and two thousands, I gotmid Days on old school hip hop
at R and B pretty much anywherein the world and always of course on
the iHeartRadio apps. You could checkthat out as well, random cities on
the weekends, Sacramento, San Antonio, Las Vegas. So yeah, I'm
(24:44):
somewhere all the time. If youever feel like, man, I really
need to hear that guy Bryan talka little bit, you can find me
on the iHeartRadio app. Make sureyou're following me at d Brian Grimes all
my social media Instagram, Facebook andthe Twitter. Tell all your friends about
this podcast please so people can listento it and they think people will like
me, and then I ain't gonnadeal with headaches down the Hall. And
of course I would be remiss ifI did not say check out the Yoho
(25:07):
Spice Rum. It's in a fewnew locations. You can now get it
at the Pub on I Drive whichis cool Tiki West over into Varies and
the Pub by the Way. Ithink the first Sunday of every month,
can do some Sunday Funday stuff overthe summer kid friendly. They'll have the
whole like yard out front of thepub ready to go with like games and
stuff like that. Giant TV sowhen sports is on, you can watch
(25:30):
the sports and hang out and youknow, some Sunday sample the Yoho.
Other Sunday it's just buy drinks tohave Yoho in it. That's cool with
me. At Yoho Spice Rum onInstagram and Facebook, Yoho rum dot com
to check that out. And Ido feel better. So the therapy did
work. Appreciate it
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