February 12, 2025 • 25 mins
You can't please everyone... don't I know it! A look into what happens when I say something that pushes someone's buttons.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Now, I know you can't please everybody all of the time,
but seriously, you guys don't understand some of the stuff
that said to me pretty much on a daily basis.
About some of the stuff that I said, it's actually
a little ridiculous. Here's the podcast, just a bit of
the contrasts from what I'm used to. I usually have
to talk mast because there's people sharing the mic. But
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this is just me, So I say whatever i'd like.
It might be serious, sometimes it might be funny. Sometimes
to scratch your head and say, Brian is such a
dummy bud. It just me. I ain't got no help.
This is Brian Grimes, and I'm talking to my sound
what's up? It is Brian Grimes. It is my podcast.
I am talking to myself. So I had a crazy
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couple of days, and I had a crazy day yesterday.
So you guys have heard me at length tell you
about all the stuff that I do. But I had
some shows to do yesterday, and for whatever reason, the
words just not wording. I couldn't get the word to
come out the way that I wanted them to come out.
They weren't meshing together. My thoughts weren't all right, and
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it's hard to do radio shows when like the vibe
ain't right, Like you're not feeling it, You're not in
the right mood, you don't feel good. How am I
supposed to make other people feel good? I don't feel good.
And so I decided, since this wasn't a live situation,
I was recording it for another city, I was like,
you know what, let me get up out of here.
And I went home and I put in my headphones
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and I just put on random music from my account,
and I told my wife, I'm gonna be in the
garage and I'll be cleaning out the garage because the
garage has been getting a little hectic. I mean, life's
just been really crazy busy, so like it just starts
to pile up, just random stuff. And so I tore
everything out of the garage, all the weights that we
have because we have like a little gym we built
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in the garage. I took everything out of the garage,
swept the whole thing, emptied out our cold plunge, and
then scrubbed it down and then refilled the cold plunge. Like,
just organize everything, sweat a little bit, listen to some
music for a few hours. It was actually nice, got
myself back right, which was good because I was having
a bad day too often lately, and I'm actually working
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on this. Too often lately, I have left this building
with the feelings of frustration and underappreciation, and I got
to do something about that because I've worked way too
hard and way too long to get to where I'm
at to watch other people leave with smiles on their
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faces hours before me, and then me leave go home
and have the frustration and the lack of appreciation that
I feel like manifest itself into negativity in my house
and now I'm arguing with my wife over stuff and
it's ridiculous. So I got to fix that, which I'm
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working on. But anyway, maybe because of all of that,
I came in today in a pretty solid mood, which
is good. And usually no matter what mood you're in,
like you know, the rule is you're in radio like
none of that stuff really matters, you know, flip the
switch and entertain people and you know, be funny, do
your things. So but it was easy. It's easier to
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do when you're in a good mood, obviously, So I
came in today in a pretty good mood. And we
were just talking like we usually do about stuff, and
we got into a celebrity news segment where Ray was
talking about Grimes. The She's not super popular as far
as like music goes. I feel like she got more
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popular mainstream wise when she ended up with Elon Musk.
Hats and kids with Elon Muskin. There's a celebrity story about,
you know, child support and Elon Musk and her not
being able to see her kids and all that stuff.
True story. A lot of times when I'm not the
one that's doing the segment, there are times that I'm
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doing other things. I'm hearing it. I've got my headphones on,
but I'm also half my mind is working on something else.
Maybe I'm typing out something else. So I'm hearing the
story that Ray's telling, but I'm not like like digesting
it fully to the point where I'm like, all right,
you know, I fully get exactly everything that Ray's talking about.
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This Johnny starts chiming in about child support and how
you know, Elon Musk is a gozillionaire and the richest
man in the world, and he, you know, he should
be paying ten million dollars a month in child support
which I don't think Johnny actually believes he was just
saying that. I jump back into this conversation and say, please,
you don't get ten million dollars a month just because
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you know, you ended up hooking up with Elon Musk.
That's not how it works. And so that's what I
started saying. And now I didn't say anything to do with,
you know, her not seeing her kids, or she shouldn't
be able to see her kids or any of that stuff.
That's a whole different conversation. That's not remotely related to
how much money she should get in child support by
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any means. So I didn't say that at all. But
I did say she shouldn't get no ten million dollars
a month in child support. You ain't earn that because
you didn't earn that. You didn't earn ten million dollars
a month because you hooked up with Elon Musk. I
mean that's wild. Now, obviously there is moving parts to this,
there is nuances to everything. So but we're in a
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celebrity news segment, right, So it ain't like we are
going to sit here for the next three hours and
analyze the paperwork and the court filings and the inner
workings of the Elon Musk Grimes relationship. So said what
we said, We moved on, got a text to the
EXL Mobile, which I love the fact that you guys
have a direct line to us, I really do. I
like that we can have you guys respond to stuff
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we say so quickly. But I think sometimes it's lost
on the fact that it literally is instantly right in
front of our face and we see it right. So
I know exactly what you said, I know what you're
with SO and sent you text it to me. I
can read it. So here's what they texted me about
what I said about she doesn't deserve ten million dollars
a month. This is from the EXL Mobile. I've never
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had any strong emotional reaction to anything you guys have
said on the air until this conversation about Elon and
Grimes and child support right now. Okay, that's crazy. All
the things that we've talked about, including family members being lost,
marriages falling apart, Like, personally, you've never had a strong
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emotional reaction to any of that, but Elon Musk and Grimes,
that's got you fired up. As a mom of four,
I cannot imagine what it would feel like to be
separated from my kids against my will for five months
and to be drained financially fighting to have access to them,
only for people to say shit like Brian just said,
I should only get what I earned. If you wanted
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to have three babies with me, I earned financial stability
until those babies are eighteen. If you're the richest man
in the world, let me stop you. Okay, first part,
it would be bad to be separated from your kids
for five months. I was separated from my wife. She
had custody of our son. Now, she didn't hold him
from me or anything like that, but being separated from
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a day from him for a day was a kick
to the gut because I wasn't something I was used
to or wanted. So yes, that's bad, And I never
said she should be separated from her kids. Again, we
don't know the inner workings and the legal you know,
wranglings that are going on. Should she have to financially
pay to fight to see her kids. Absolutely not. I
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don't think any parents should have to do that, should
have to do that at all. And again we don't
know the legal inner workings. But I didn't say that.
I didn't say she should have to pay to fight
for her kids. I said you in life, do get
what you earn, and nobody needs ten million dollars a
month to raise anybody's kid period. Now onto the if
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I had babies with you, I earned financial stability even
though you absolutely did not, absolutely did not. That's like saying,
if something negative happens because you hook up with a
negative person, you earned whatever negative happens to you because
you hooked up with that person. You didn't earn financial
stability because you had kids with somebody. That's not how
it works. You decided the two of you to have kids. Now,
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he has a financial responsibility to those kids, Absolutely one.
He has a financial responsibility to those kids. He doesn't
have a financial responsibility to you to give you any
sort of life those kids. Yes, let me continue. I
earned the right to spend time with my babies. Yes
that you have by having the babies and not being
a degenerate crackhead. Yes, you've earned the right. She birthed
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those effing babies. I cleaned it up. And let's not
forget she had her own musical career before all of this,
and she earned money, money that she now has wasted
to fight to the richest man on earth to try
to get access to her kids. All right, again, I
don't know the legal ramifications. She did have a career
before him. I wouldn't say she was a high earning artist,
like to the point where she's a gozillionaire or whatever.
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And but again that neither here nor there. I never
said that she shouldn't have access to her kids or
she should have to drain her bank account to get
access to her kids. The casualness and the i'll say it,
fucking audacity in that comment from Brian is infuriating and
I have completely lost faith in you as a listener today, Brian.
I even listen to you when I'm regularly down in
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New Orleans. Oh, I'm on a New Orleans and they're
disappointed and disgusted. Well, you know that's unfortunate. I don't
know how less casual and more casual I can say.
Having babies with somebody rich doesn't mean you should be rich.
That's not how it works. That's why we make fun
of NBA wives. That's just not that's not how it works.
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You don't get to be rich because you chose to
have kids with somebody rich, those kids need to be
taken care of. She should have access to them. But
let's be honest, Elon or anybody with means like that
could easily probably go in and get full custody of
the kids and give you visitation and then charge you
child support because they've got the means to do it.
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So I don't know what's going on in that sense,
but all I said is nobody deserves ten million dollars
a month for child support. Peerie ud for you to
jump to the next thing and say I have audacity
and now you're never gonna listen to me again. Oh,
I mean I've heard that before, and that's fine. I mean,
listen to what you want. But to say that because
I said nobody deserves ten million dollars is crazy. So
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I replied back to them on the EXL mobile, which
I frequently do, and say, hey, I didn't say she
shouldn't see her kids. All I said is nobody deserves
ten million dollars a year or needs ten or a month,
not even a year, ten million dollars a month to
raise babies. They just don't. And I threw in there
the fact that my dad left when I was very
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young and bounced thirty seven dollars child support checks on
the regular. So I do know what the struggle of
a mom is. Who needs to support her kids more
so than anyone famous does by for that matter. But
I do understand that, so again, and that doesn't give
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me the badge to be able to say whatever I
want to say, but it does at least illustrate that
I've got experience with the idea of having to struggle
because your significant others not pitching in their share to
raise the kids. And I don't even know if that's
what's happening here. Nobody does. All I said was nobody
needs ten million dollars a month. So they replied again,
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not to drag this out all day, but I was driving.
Sorry for the la I agree, no one needs ten
million dollars a month, thank you. But she was a
millionaire in her own right prior to the relationship. I
don't know that to be a fact. I know she
made some good money because she was an artist, and
if she had to spend all that fighting for access
to her kids, she does deserve that lump sum back. Okay,
I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I didn't.
We didn't discuss that, So that wasn't like I said,
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she doesn't deserve that. So but I'll I'll give you
that for sure. Also, the same gossip articles talking about
this battle point out she wasn't accepting child support from
him prior to the custody battle. Okay, well, if she
wasn't accepting child support, and again I don't know that
to be true. I don't, you know, delve into the
inner workings of the Grimes elond Musk relationship. But if
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she wasn't accepting it, then I can't hit him for that.
So the argument doesn't apply to their situation. It was
misleading in the way it was debated. It wasn't misleading.
Everyone was just talking out what they said. Johnny said
she should get ten million dollars a month. I said,
nobody deserves ten million dollars in a month. There's nothing
misleading about that. And I apologize if I said anything,
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if you said anything to clarify, I didn't clarify on
the air because we moved on. This is the only
negative thing that was said to me about it. So
I didn't want to stop down the show. I don't
know how to listen back. But I don't recall hearing
you say anything other than she didn't deserve ten million
dollars and you get what you were, or nothing about
what she does deserve. She doesn't deserve anything from Elon
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Musk other than him taking responsibility for those kids financially
at the very least, because I mean, obviously, but also
as a good dad. He should, you know, on a
personal level, also be involved. But I mean that's all
she deserves. I don't know how else to put that.
She doesn't deserve ten million dollars and you do get
what you earned in life. She said, you make it sour.
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Sheery make it sound like you said too bad, so
sad go get a job. Oh, it is a she
because she said she's a mom in the first text.
There was just so many words. I forgot that. Yes,
she said she was a mom in the first text. Okay,
so it's not too bad, so sad go get a job.
Although it is at the same time too bad, So
sad go get a job. Your relationship didn't work out,
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so now the kids need to be taken care of,
both financially and obviously emotionally. I can't force the emotional part.
The law can force the financial part, but that doesn't
mean it should be ten million dollars a month. That's
all I said. The bigger picture here is this is
the kind of shit I get all the time for
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saying what I want to say. At the same time,
I think that's what I'm here for. I think I'm
here to say the things to make people go huh
and then have a debate. But that's not what this was.
This was a I'm infuriated. I can't believe you said that.
How dare you say that? That's not how debates work.
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I mean, it's not a crazy thing to say. Someone
doesn't need ten million dollars a month to raise kids.
I know my dad used to bounce thirty seven dollars
a month and I still ended up being raised. My
mom had a couple of jobs. But I joke all
the time that my mom chose a bad choice to
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make me. I mean, I don't know what else to say.
I make I say it all the time. My mom
used to say this is why we can't have nice
things whenever something would break, because me and my brother
would mess with it, and I would say, no, your
poor life choices is why we can't have nice things
because we can't afford them, so you do end up
with what you end up with. And ten million dollars
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a month is way too much for anybody to need
to raise any kids. Ten million dollars a month. And
I know Elon Musk is worth a hundred billion dollars
in all that's well and good. Ten million dollars a
month is in saying to raise some babies. That said,
if I had a billionaire wife and she left me,
I wouldn't mine if she break me off a couple
million dollars a month. But at the same time, if
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someone told me I didn't need ten million dollars a month,
or deserve or earn ten million dollars a month, I
wouldn't be able to argue that. I'd be like, eh, okay,
nice if I got it, though, But I get shit
like this all the time. I get messages DMS from
people saying that I'm mean. I get that a lot.
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I get DMS and messages from people saying that I'm
sexist because of the way that I talk to certain people,
that I'm racist because of the way that I talk
to certain people, And I talk to everyone the same
that's what's so crazy. You get out of me, basically
what you put out that that's what I give back.
I'm never short with anyone who is not doing something
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that is bringing that shortness out of me. I'm not
mean to someone. I'm not. I'm very matter of fact.
I got no problem to be a matter of fact.
I've got very high expectations of people, and I got
no problem saying that. But I like this every day.
It's every day. And then people look at me like
I'm crazy when I get frustrated. But they don't understand.
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They don't see a lot of people don't see the
back end of things, you know what I mean. You
don't see the back end of conversations or things that
push me to say and do the things that I
do instead, and this is this is where I'm learning
how to address this. Instead, you just see the reaction
like it's like you see a firecracker go off. You
didn't see the person like the firecracker. You just saw
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the firecracker go off. I'm a firecracker. So that that's
the problem. It's it's just wild. I get. I get
this stuff all the time, and then it makes me question,
like what am I, What am I doing? What am
I like? I mean, I know I'm I'm here a
lot of it for the technical side of things and
and my ability to do and manage a lot of
different things behind the scenes. But a lot of what
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I'm here for is my personality. I mean a lot
of it, my sense of humor, my quick wittedness. That
is how you say it, quick wittedness. Does I know
they say sometimes you're very witty or you're quick witted.
So yeah, we'll go with my quick wittedness. We'll go
with that. And even though we just had that little aside,
because I'm smart and so those things all bundled up
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lead to some of the things that I say. But
that's what I'm here for. And I know not everybody
dings me for it, but you could hear a million
people tell you that you're pretty, and the one person
that tells you you're ugly that's what sticks with you.
And so it's crazy to me when I have to
get that, and I feel like not everyone has to
deal with that burden, and it makes me even more mad.
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I'm like, wait a second, what the hell, Like, why
am I the one being picked on? Why? Like it's
crazy talk, but I don't know. I guess it just
comes with the territory. And I'm gonna forget about this
as soon as I hit hit stop on this and
upload this. So it's not that I'm going to carry
this on, but it was an interesting aside to have
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a conversation about about it. And because lately, and when
I say lately, I mean in the past couple of months,
I've gotten a few messages saying, hey, I can't believe
you did this. I can't believe he said this, and
I'm like, really really, because I'm actually pretty I mean
even keel on a lot of things for a multitude
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of reasons. I work on XL one, O six seven
and a bunch of other mainstream stations, and so I'm
not gonna go crazy sideways and any direction even if
I really, really really believed it, and I don't. I
don't really hold back. I think everyone kind of knows
where I'm at on things. I mean, if we're talking politically,
I'm fiercely independent. I think being far either way is
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not a good thing. You don't want to be riding
on the shoulder of either side of the road, the
left side of the right side. You want to be
in your laying right. So I'm fiercely independent when it
comes to that. So it's not that I want to
say all of these things, and I can, but I mean,
I'm a pretty straightforward, mainstream person. I'm not going to
get to any direction, and so it's just weird to
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me that it gets on people's nerves so bad sometimes,
and some of the things that are buttons that are pushed.
I'm like, and then like to the point where you
stop what you're doing and you either send me a
text or you send me a DM or you send
me an email. So it like a lot of times
I hear something and I in my head say something
or I roll my eyes and then I move on
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to the next thing. But to stop what you're doing
and to send it, it really did push you for some reason.
And I don't know, I'm unfairly persecuted sometimes I'm a
person anyway. So yeah, there's that, but it's it's why
I I well, it's one of the reasons I pulled
back from stand up comedy. I did stand up comedy
for stretch of about a year, and two reasons I stopped, well,
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three reasons one the up and coming, like the stand
up comedy scene here in Orlando, and if any of
the committee comedians come across this or or are listening
to this, or you know them or whatever, it's not
a nice place. It's very it's very like crabs in
a barrel where you pull people down to pull yourself up.
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It's very snarky. It's very and maybe that's everywhere. I
don't know. I'm only here, so maybe that's everywhere. I
don't know, and it's not everybody, but I mean, it
is a thing, and so I couldn't deal with that.
The second part is I could. I can't go chase
open mics because of my my schedule in my hours.
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Like it's fun, I actually enjoy sitting around comedy clubs
and hearing other sets and then getting up and doing
a couple of minutes. But I just can't do that
on Monday night, Tuesday night, Wednesday, Thursday night, Friday. I
just can't because I get up at two thirty in
the morning to do radio shows in other cities. And
my argument was always because I've had that said to
me by some stand up comedians that are you know,
we're working their way up around here that I don't
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put in the work everybody else does, and I'm like, bitch,
I do open mic five days a week, four hours
a day, Like none of this is scripted. I don't
know what anyone's gonna say, and I riff off of
everything and this is all of this is open mic.
I do five days a week, four hours a day,
open mic and ps. What what I've worked my way
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into is what a lot of people are working these,
you know, open mics, to get to to get on
a show, to get a successful podcast. I mean, to
get a TV show would be the ultimate, obviously, but
I mean so it's kind of card before the horse
thing with the podcast in the radio or the open
mic in the radio show, because I already have the
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radio show and I do open mic on it five
days a week, four hours a day. And then the
other thing is the sensitivity. I gotta be careful what
I say, especially now that everything's videoed. If I get
on stage and say something that's ridiculously outlandish trying to
get a laugh or whatever, that could easily come back
to bite me, that could easily be shared with potential
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clients and spun in a way that makes me look bad,
and then I've lost livelihood here at the radio station
because I have a responsibility to the radio station and
to my family obviously to keep the job at the
radio station, and to clients that I work with here
to not come across that way in any light. And
I'm not big enough financially to I don't have like
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fucket money. I could do whatever the hell I want,
say whatever I want, because they can't come at me.
I don't have that, so there's just no reason for
me get on stage and risk taking those bullets. Look,
I made a joke about a K pop group and
damn near got fired for it. So like I'm I can't.
I just can't take those bullets, which is crazy. I
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always say someday, when it's all over, I'll throw it
behind a paywall and it'll be a fun conversation, and
I will, But in the meantime I can't. Anyway, all
of that to say, first of all, nobody deserves ten
million dollars a month for raising kids. And then to say,
y'all seriously, like part of this whole Johnny's House experiment
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that we got going on every day is different personalities,
different perspectives, different ideas and hopefully different all of that
from what you have. And the idea is that we're
gonna throw them around, We're gonna have a conversation and
hopefully it's gonna make you have a conversation. And I
like the fact that it gets you to think, Man,
f that guy, I can't believe he said that. But
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also hopefully while you're thinking that, you also think to yourself,
I get it, like I get it, and I don't know.
That's that's kind of the hope. I don't know. I
don't know. But now I've got a meeting I had
to run too, So make sure you follow me on
all my socials at v Brian Grimes. Of course, you
can check out previous podcast episodes of Talking to Myself
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New rum stuff coming up soon for Yoho Rum, and
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we're gonna get back into that hopefully. I got a
meeting this week that should turn out pretty cool, so
we'll get back on the Yoho tip. So thank you guys,
and to the person that texts, no hard feelings, at
least not for me.
Now, I know you can't please everybody all of the time,
but seriously, you guys don't understand some of the stuff
that said to me pretty much on a daily basis.
About some of the stuff that I said, it's actually
a little ridiculous. Here's the podcast, just a bit of
the contrasts from what I'm used to. I usually have
to talk mast because there's people sharing the mic. But
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this is just me, So I say whatever i'd like.
It might be serious, sometimes it might be funny. Sometimes
to scratch your head and say, Brian is such a
dummy bud. It just me. I ain't got no help.
This is Brian Grimes, and I'm talking to my sound
what's up? It is Brian Grimes. It is my podcast.
I am talking to myself. So I had a crazy
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couple of days, and I had a crazy day yesterday.
So you guys have heard me at length tell you
about all the stuff that I do. But I had
some shows to do yesterday, and for whatever reason, the
words just not wording. I couldn't get the word to
come out the way that I wanted them to come out.
They weren't meshing together. My thoughts weren't all right, and
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it's hard to do radio shows when like the vibe
ain't right, Like you're not feeling it, You're not in
the right mood, you don't feel good. How am I
supposed to make other people feel good? I don't feel good.
And so I decided, since this wasn't a live situation,
I was recording it for another city, I was like,
you know what, let me get up out of here.
And I went home and I put in my headphones
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and I just put on random music from my account,
and I told my wife, I'm gonna be in the
garage and I'll be cleaning out the garage because the
garage has been getting a little hectic. I mean, life's
just been really crazy busy, so like it just starts
to pile up, just random stuff. And so I tore
everything out of the garage, all the weights that we
have because we have like a little gym we built
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in the garage. I took everything out of the garage,
swept the whole thing, emptied out our cold plunge, and
then scrubbed it down and then refilled the cold plunge. Like,
just organize everything, sweat a little bit, listen to some
music for a few hours. It was actually nice, got
myself back right, which was good because I was having
a bad day too often lately, and I'm actually working
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on this. Too often lately, I have left this building
with the feelings of frustration and underappreciation, and I got
to do something about that because I've worked way too
hard and way too long to get to where I'm
at to watch other people leave with smiles on their
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faces hours before me, and then me leave go home
and have the frustration and the lack of appreciation that
I feel like manifest itself into negativity in my house
and now I'm arguing with my wife over stuff and
it's ridiculous. So I got to fix that, which I'm
(02:53):
working on. But anyway, maybe because of all of that,
I came in today in a pretty solid mood, which
is good. And usually no matter what mood you're in,
like you know, the rule is you're in radio like
none of that stuff really matters, you know, flip the
switch and entertain people and you know, be funny, do
your things. So but it was easy. It's easier to
(03:14):
do when you're in a good mood, obviously, So I
came in today in a pretty good mood. And we
were just talking like we usually do about stuff, and
we got into a celebrity news segment where Ray was
talking about Grimes. The She's not super popular as far
as like music goes. I feel like she got more
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popular mainstream wise when she ended up with Elon Musk.
Hats and kids with Elon Muskin. There's a celebrity story about,
you know, child support and Elon Musk and her not
being able to see her kids and all that stuff.
True story. A lot of times when I'm not the
one that's doing the segment, there are times that I'm
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doing other things. I'm hearing it. I've got my headphones on,
but I'm also half my mind is working on something else.
Maybe I'm typing out something else. So I'm hearing the
story that Ray's telling, but I'm not like like digesting
it fully to the point where I'm like, all right,
you know, I fully get exactly everything that Ray's talking about.
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This Johnny starts chiming in about child support and how
you know, Elon Musk is a gozillionaire and the richest
man in the world, and he, you know, he should
be paying ten million dollars a month in child support
which I don't think Johnny actually believes he was just
saying that. I jump back into this conversation and say, please,
you don't get ten million dollars a month just because
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you know, you ended up hooking up with Elon Musk.
That's not how it works. And so that's what I
started saying. And now I didn't say anything to do with,
you know, her not seeing her kids, or she shouldn't
be able to see her kids or any of that stuff.
That's a whole different conversation. That's not remotely related to
how much money she should get in child support by
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any means. So I didn't say that at all. But
I did say she shouldn't get no ten million dollars
a month in child support. You ain't earn that because
you didn't earn that. You didn't earn ten million dollars
a month because you hooked up with Elon Musk. I
mean that's wild. Now, obviously there is moving parts to this,
there is nuances to everything. So but we're in a
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celebrity news segment, right, So it ain't like we are
going to sit here for the next three hours and
analyze the paperwork and the court filings and the inner
workings of the Elon Musk Grimes relationship. So said what
we said, We moved on, got a text to the
EXL Mobile, which I love the fact that you guys
have a direct line to us, I really do. I
like that we can have you guys respond to stuff
(05:48):
we say so quickly. But I think sometimes it's lost
on the fact that it literally is instantly right in
front of our face and we see it right. So
I know exactly what you said, I know what you're
with SO and sent you text it to me. I
can read it. So here's what they texted me about
what I said about she doesn't deserve ten million dollars
a month. This is from the EXL Mobile. I've never
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had any strong emotional reaction to anything you guys have
said on the air until this conversation about Elon and
Grimes and child support right now. Okay, that's crazy. All
the things that we've talked about, including family members being lost,
marriages falling apart, Like, personally, you've never had a strong
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emotional reaction to any of that, but Elon Musk and Grimes,
that's got you fired up. As a mom of four,
I cannot imagine what it would feel like to be
separated from my kids against my will for five months
and to be drained financially fighting to have access to them,
only for people to say shit like Brian just said,
I should only get what I earned. If you wanted
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to have three babies with me, I earned financial stability
until those babies are eighteen. If you're the richest man
in the world, let me stop you. Okay, first part,
it would be bad to be separated from your kids
for five months. I was separated from my wife. She
had custody of our son. Now, she didn't hold him
from me or anything like that, but being separated from
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a day from him for a day was a kick
to the gut because I wasn't something I was used
to or wanted. So yes, that's bad, And I never
said she should be separated from her kids. Again, we
don't know the inner workings and the legal you know,
wranglings that are going on. Should she have to financially
pay to fight to see her kids. Absolutely not. I
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don't think any parents should have to do that, should
have to do that at all. And again we don't
know the legal inner workings. But I didn't say that.
I didn't say she should have to pay to fight
for her kids. I said you in life, do get
what you earn, and nobody needs ten million dollars a
month to raise anybody's kid period. Now onto the if
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I had babies with you, I earned financial stability even
though you absolutely did not, absolutely did not. That's like saying,
if something negative happens because you hook up with a
negative person, you earned whatever negative happens to you because
you hooked up with that person. You didn't earn financial
stability because you had kids with somebody. That's not how
it works. You decided the two of you to have kids. Now,
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he has a financial responsibility to those kids, Absolutely one.
He has a financial responsibility to those kids. He doesn't
have a financial responsibility to you to give you any
sort of life those kids. Yes, let me continue. I
earned the right to spend time with my babies. Yes
that you have by having the babies and not being
a degenerate crackhead. Yes, you've earned the right. She birthed
(08:41):
those effing babies. I cleaned it up. And let's not
forget she had her own musical career before all of this,
and she earned money, money that she now has wasted
to fight to the richest man on earth to try
to get access to her kids. All right, again, I
don't know the legal ramifications. She did have a career
before him. I wouldn't say she was a high earning artist,
like to the point where she's a gozillionaire or whatever.
(09:02):
And but again that neither here nor there. I never
said that she shouldn't have access to her kids or
she should have to drain her bank account to get
access to her kids. The casualness and the i'll say it,
fucking audacity in that comment from Brian is infuriating and
I have completely lost faith in you as a listener today, Brian.
I even listen to you when I'm regularly down in
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New Orleans. Oh, I'm on a New Orleans and they're
disappointed and disgusted. Well, you know that's unfortunate. I don't
know how less casual and more casual I can say.
Having babies with somebody rich doesn't mean you should be rich.
That's not how it works. That's why we make fun
of NBA wives. That's just not that's not how it works.
(09:50):
You don't get to be rich because you chose to
have kids with somebody rich, those kids need to be
taken care of. She should have access to them. But
let's be honest, Elon or anybody with means like that
could easily probably go in and get full custody of
the kids and give you visitation and then charge you
child support because they've got the means to do it.
(10:12):
So I don't know what's going on in that sense,
but all I said is nobody deserves ten million dollars
a month for child support. Peerie ud for you to
jump to the next thing and say I have audacity
and now you're never gonna listen to me again. Oh,
I mean I've heard that before, and that's fine. I mean,
listen to what you want. But to say that because
I said nobody deserves ten million dollars is crazy. So
(10:35):
I replied back to them on the EXL mobile, which
I frequently do, and say, hey, I didn't say she
shouldn't see her kids. All I said is nobody deserves
ten million dollars a year or needs ten or a month,
not even a year, ten million dollars a month to
raise babies. They just don't. And I threw in there
the fact that my dad left when I was very
(10:56):
young and bounced thirty seven dollars child support checks on
the regular. So I do know what the struggle of
a mom is. Who needs to support her kids more
so than anyone famous does by for that matter. But
I do understand that, so again, and that doesn't give
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me the badge to be able to say whatever I
want to say, but it does at least illustrate that
I've got experience with the idea of having to struggle
because your significant others not pitching in their share to
raise the kids. And I don't even know if that's
what's happening here. Nobody does. All I said was nobody
needs ten million dollars a month. So they replied again,
(11:39):
not to drag this out all day, but I was driving.
Sorry for the la I agree, no one needs ten
million dollars a month, thank you. But she was a
millionaire in her own right prior to the relationship. I
don't know that to be a fact. I know she
made some good money because she was an artist, and
if she had to spend all that fighting for access
to her kids, she does deserve that lump sum back. Okay,
I'll give you that. I'll give you that. I didn't.
We didn't discuss that, So that wasn't like I said,
(11:59):
she doesn't deserve that. So but I'll I'll give you
that for sure. Also, the same gossip articles talking about
this battle point out she wasn't accepting child support from
him prior to the custody battle. Okay, well, if she
wasn't accepting child support, and again I don't know that
to be true. I don't, you know, delve into the
inner workings of the Grimes elond Musk relationship. But if
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she wasn't accepting it, then I can't hit him for that.
So the argument doesn't apply to their situation. It was
misleading in the way it was debated. It wasn't misleading.
Everyone was just talking out what they said. Johnny said
she should get ten million dollars a month. I said,
nobody deserves ten million dollars in a month. There's nothing
misleading about that. And I apologize if I said anything,
(12:41):
if you said anything to clarify, I didn't clarify on
the air because we moved on. This is the only
negative thing that was said to me about it. So
I didn't want to stop down the show. I don't
know how to listen back. But I don't recall hearing
you say anything other than she didn't deserve ten million
dollars and you get what you were, or nothing about
what she does deserve. She doesn't deserve anything from Elon
(13:02):
Musk other than him taking responsibility for those kids financially
at the very least, because I mean, obviously, but also
as a good dad. He should, you know, on a
personal level, also be involved. But I mean that's all
she deserves. I don't know how else to put that.
She doesn't deserve ten million dollars and you do get
what you earned in life. She said, you make it sour.
(13:24):
Sheery make it sound like you said too bad, so
sad go get a job. Oh, it is a she
because she said she's a mom in the first text.
There was just so many words. I forgot that. Yes,
she said she was a mom in the first text. Okay,
so it's not too bad, so sad go get a job.
Although it is at the same time too bad, So
sad go get a job. Your relationship didn't work out,
(13:45):
so now the kids need to be taken care of,
both financially and obviously emotionally. I can't force the emotional part.
The law can force the financial part, but that doesn't
mean it should be ten million dollars a month. That's
all I said. The bigger picture here is this is
the kind of shit I get all the time for
(14:06):
saying what I want to say. At the same time,
I think that's what I'm here for. I think I'm
here to say the things to make people go huh
and then have a debate. But that's not what this was.
This was a I'm infuriated. I can't believe you said that.
How dare you say that? That's not how debates work.
(14:26):
I mean, it's not a crazy thing to say. Someone
doesn't need ten million dollars a month to raise kids.
I know my dad used to bounce thirty seven dollars
a month and I still ended up being raised. My
mom had a couple of jobs. But I joke all
the time that my mom chose a bad choice to
(14:47):
make me. I mean, I don't know what else to say.
I make I say it all the time. My mom
used to say this is why we can't have nice
things whenever something would break, because me and my brother
would mess with it, and I would say, no, your
poor life choices is why we can't have nice things
because we can't afford them, so you do end up
with what you end up with. And ten million dollars
(15:08):
a month is way too much for anybody to need
to raise any kids. Ten million dollars a month. And
I know Elon Musk is worth a hundred billion dollars
in all that's well and good. Ten million dollars a
month is in saying to raise some babies. That said,
if I had a billionaire wife and she left me,
I wouldn't mine if she break me off a couple
million dollars a month. But at the same time, if
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someone told me I didn't need ten million dollars a month,
or deserve or earn ten million dollars a month, I
wouldn't be able to argue that. I'd be like, eh, okay,
nice if I got it, though, But I get shit
like this all the time. I get messages DMS from
people saying that I'm mean. I get that a lot.
(15:49):
I get DMS and messages from people saying that I'm
sexist because of the way that I talk to certain people,
that I'm racist because of the way that I talk
to certain people, And I talk to everyone the same
that's what's so crazy. You get out of me, basically
what you put out that that's what I give back.
I'm never short with anyone who is not doing something
(16:15):
that is bringing that shortness out of me. I'm not
mean to someone. I'm not. I'm very matter of fact.
I got no problem to be a matter of fact.
I've got very high expectations of people, and I got
no problem saying that. But I like this every day.
It's every day. And then people look at me like
I'm crazy when I get frustrated. But they don't understand.
(16:38):
They don't see a lot of people don't see the
back end of things, you know what I mean. You
don't see the back end of conversations or things that
push me to say and do the things that I
do instead, and this is this is where I'm learning
how to address this. Instead, you just see the reaction
like it's like you see a firecracker go off. You
didn't see the person like the firecracker. You just saw
(16:59):
the firecracker go off. I'm a firecracker. So that that's
the problem. It's it's just wild. I get. I get
this stuff all the time, and then it makes me question,
like what am I, What am I doing? What am
I like? I mean, I know I'm I'm here a
lot of it for the technical side of things and
and my ability to do and manage a lot of
different things behind the scenes. But a lot of what
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I'm here for is my personality. I mean a lot
of it, my sense of humor, my quick wittedness. That
is how you say it, quick wittedness. Does I know
they say sometimes you're very witty or you're quick witted.
So yeah, we'll go with my quick wittedness. We'll go
with that. And even though we just had that little aside,
because I'm smart and so those things all bundled up
(17:47):
lead to some of the things that I say. But
that's what I'm here for. And I know not everybody
dings me for it, but you could hear a million
people tell you that you're pretty, and the one person
that tells you you're ugly that's what sticks with you.
And so it's crazy to me when I have to
get that, and I feel like not everyone has to
deal with that burden, and it makes me even more mad.
(18:07):
I'm like, wait a second, what the hell, Like, why
am I the one being picked on? Why? Like it's
crazy talk, but I don't know. I guess it just
comes with the territory. And I'm gonna forget about this
as soon as I hit hit stop on this and
upload this. So it's not that I'm going to carry
this on, but it was an interesting aside to have
(18:29):
a conversation about about it. And because lately, and when
I say lately, I mean in the past couple of months,
I've gotten a few messages saying, hey, I can't believe
you did this. I can't believe he said this, and
I'm like, really really, because I'm actually pretty I mean
even keel on a lot of things for a multitude
(18:51):
of reasons. I work on XL one, O six seven
and a bunch of other mainstream stations, and so I'm
not gonna go crazy sideways and any direction even if
I really, really really believed it, and I don't. I
don't really hold back. I think everyone kind of knows
where I'm at on things. I mean, if we're talking politically,
I'm fiercely independent. I think being far either way is
(19:16):
not a good thing. You don't want to be riding
on the shoulder of either side of the road, the
left side of the right side. You want to be
in your laying right. So I'm fiercely independent when it
comes to that. So it's not that I want to
say all of these things, and I can, but I mean,
I'm a pretty straightforward, mainstream person. I'm not going to
get to any direction, and so it's just weird to
(19:40):
me that it gets on people's nerves so bad sometimes,
and some of the things that are buttons that are pushed.
I'm like, and then like to the point where you
stop what you're doing and you either send me a
text or you send me a DM or you send
me an email. So it like a lot of times
I hear something and I in my head say something
or I roll my eyes and then I move on
(20:01):
to the next thing. But to stop what you're doing
and to send it, it really did push you for some reason.
And I don't know, I'm unfairly persecuted sometimes I'm a
person anyway. So yeah, there's that, but it's it's why
I I well, it's one of the reasons I pulled
back from stand up comedy. I did stand up comedy
for stretch of about a year, and two reasons I stopped, well,
(20:24):
three reasons one the up and coming, like the stand
up comedy scene here in Orlando, and if any of
the committee comedians come across this or or are listening
to this, or you know them or whatever, it's not
a nice place. It's very it's very like crabs in
a barrel where you pull people down to pull yourself up.
(20:47):
It's very snarky. It's very and maybe that's everywhere. I
don't know. I'm only here, so maybe that's everywhere. I
don't know, and it's not everybody, but I mean, it
is a thing, and so I couldn't deal with that.
The second part is I could. I can't go chase
open mics because of my my schedule in my hours.
(21:10):
Like it's fun, I actually enjoy sitting around comedy clubs
and hearing other sets and then getting up and doing
a couple of minutes. But I just can't do that
on Monday night, Tuesday night, Wednesday, Thursday night, Friday. I
just can't because I get up at two thirty in
the morning to do radio shows in other cities. And
my argument was always because I've had that said to
me by some stand up comedians that are you know,
we're working their way up around here that I don't
(21:33):
put in the work everybody else does, and I'm like, bitch,
I do open mic five days a week, four hours
a day, Like none of this is scripted. I don't
know what anyone's gonna say, and I riff off of
everything and this is all of this is open mic.
I do five days a week, four hours a day,
open mic and ps. What what I've worked my way
(21:54):
into is what a lot of people are working these,
you know, open mics, to get to to get on
a show, to get a successful podcast. I mean, to
get a TV show would be the ultimate, obviously, but
I mean so it's kind of card before the horse
thing with the podcast in the radio or the open
mic in the radio show, because I already have the
(22:15):
radio show and I do open mic on it five
days a week, four hours a day. And then the
other thing is the sensitivity. I gotta be careful what
I say, especially now that everything's videoed. If I get
on stage and say something that's ridiculously outlandish trying to
get a laugh or whatever, that could easily come back
to bite me, that could easily be shared with potential
(22:38):
clients and spun in a way that makes me look bad,
and then I've lost livelihood here at the radio station
because I have a responsibility to the radio station and
to my family obviously to keep the job at the
radio station, and to clients that I work with here
to not come across that way in any light. And
I'm not big enough financially to I don't have like
(23:02):
fucket money. I could do whatever the hell I want,
say whatever I want, because they can't come at me.
I don't have that, so there's just no reason for
me get on stage and risk taking those bullets. Look,
I made a joke about a K pop group and
damn near got fired for it. So like I'm I can't.
I just can't take those bullets, which is crazy. I
(23:22):
always say someday, when it's all over, I'll throw it
behind a paywall and it'll be a fun conversation, and
I will, But in the meantime I can't. Anyway, all
of that to say, first of all, nobody deserves ten
million dollars a month for raising kids. And then to say,
y'all seriously, like part of this whole Johnny's House experiment
(23:44):
that we got going on every day is different personalities,
different perspectives, different ideas and hopefully different all of that
from what you have. And the idea is that we're
gonna throw them around, We're gonna have a conversation and
hopefully it's gonna make you have a conversation. And I
like the fact that it gets you to think, Man,
f that guy, I can't believe he said that. But
(24:06):
also hopefully while you're thinking that, you also think to yourself,
I get it, like I get it, and I don't know.
That's that's kind of the hope. I don't know. I
don't know. But now I've got a meeting I had
to run too, So make sure you follow me on
all my socials at v Brian Grimes. Of course, you
can check out previous podcast episodes of Talking to Myself
(24:28):
Johnny's House. Each show weekday morning on XL one O
six seven, afternoons on Magic one O seven seven. And
then if you're in various areas across the country including
New Orleans, old school hip hop and R and BM
on the Throwbacks channel, and you can check that out
on the iHeartRadio app anywhere the Throwbacks channel, just search
that make us presets. We got presets on the app now,
so I could be your number one pre set. I mean,
(24:49):
I could be a lot of your presets. XL Johnny's
House Magic, one of seven seven Throwbacks channel, talking to myself,
and then I'll just throw in my Sun's podcast Dude Problems,
which is also on the iHeartRadio app. You can make
that a preset as well. So yeah, make us your presets.
New rum stuff coming up soon for Yoho Rum, and
(25:11):
we're gonna get back into that hopefully. I got a
meeting this week that should turn out pretty cool, so
we'll get back on the Yoho tip. So thank you guys,
and to the person that texts, no hard feelings, at
least not for me.
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