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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I noticed something yesterday, and I want to get the
opinion of everybody listening to the Spencer Grave show of
how do you manage and keep track of your day?
I went to the barber shop. It's going to see
my buddy Joey and get my ears lowered. There was
a guy sitting next to me, and I casually looked
over and I noticed that he had a bunch of
flash cards. And I hadn't seen flash cards since I
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was studying for tests in college and high school and
all that kind of stuff. So I said, hey, I
don't mean to pry or be a bother bud, why
do you have the flash cards? He writes down everything
about his day. His wife has him rearranging the house
with furniture. He had diagrams drawn up of what he
was trying to do based on her suggestions. He had
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things that he had to get done, phone numbers that
he needed for the day. Everything. It's almost like what
I would do in the note section of my phone,
but he does it old school. I asked him where
it came from, Megan. He brought up the military. He
says he did this when he was active duty. Desert storm.
Is that something that was pretty common.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
It's just part of the training is you have to
write down everything.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
You always have to have.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Like there's a green book that you'll see all NCOs have.
It's this green hard cover notebook, and you're supposed to
write down everything in there.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
You're never supposed to just put stuff in your phone.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I mean I do, but it's just like a thing
that they beat into your head and.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Is an NCO and non commission officer.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, got it.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
And so like for me, I notice myself sometimes, I
mean like I've got all these little sticky notes and
stuff all over the desk here.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
It's kind of the same thing. I think you're just taught.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
And but what are those notes say? I thought you
just scribbled on things.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I do sometimes that I probably got that from the
army to look like I'm busy.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But like on here, I've just got.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Notes about timing, reminders of things I want to put
on our page and social media, and I've got different
checklists from oh this is from I think probably six
months ago.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
So that Blair, being somebody who's extremely type A high,
you manage your day.
Speaker 4 (02:01):
So I have a paper calendar and.
Speaker 5 (02:04):
My digital calendar that I keep both of those up
to date.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
But in addition to that, I also have this, like
it's a notepad, but it's very detail oriented. It says
this week at the top, I literally write the week
of and the Monday date, you know, week of March seventeenth,
you know, whatever it might be. Then each day has
its own little section of things that I need to
put on there, of like I know I need to
do these things every day. Then it has a section
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for top priorities, the things that I need to obviously prioritize.
Then notes for things like Okay, I need to get
to these if I have time this week, but still
have a little bit of time.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Then I have a reminder.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
Section on the sheet as well of just like hey
remember this, and that could be like work related, it
could be personal. It could be, hey, you need to
call and cancel your did disappointment you're never going.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
To go to.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
And then on the Saturday and Sunday, obviously anything going
on on mine and Steve's calendar, but things that I
need to make sure to put on my next week
this week.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Do you consider your day done when it's all scratched off?
Or do you feel anxiety when you haven't crossed everything
off the list for the day.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
So every day before I go to bed, everything for
that day has to be highlighted. Crossed off would be
too chaotic for me. Then I check my calendar from
that day as well, digital and paper, and make sure
that I did everything. But then in addition to that,
I can't go to bed at night with an unread
email or an unread text or unresolved like phone call, voicemail,
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anything like that. And I have to do that for
my personal and work emails. So it's like, y'all wonder
why yeah, no, we got down at night.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Can't even stand to hear this.
Speaker 5 (03:34):
I really can't just stand here.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You would not want to look at my phone where
it says emails. I turned the notifications off on all
this stuff because the numbers got too hot. I don't
have any storage left on any of my email accounts,
so I just keep making new ones.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
If anybody is asking me to be somewhere, I just
asked them to send me a calendar invite. That way
I can put it on my calendar, and that's open
to everybody that we work with, so you guys can
see where we're going. This is how we all try
to process and manage our day. Bring us into your
world and let us know how you do it. Eight
five to five Grave zero. I've given you all the
warm fuzzies and whatnot. It's the good good on the
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Spencer Grave Show. Congratulations going out to Brooklyn and Alan.
They're engaged after nearly five years together. But you're wondering
who's Brooklyn and Alan? I mean, congratulations. Well, five years ago,
Brooklyn jumped into a pool, hit her head and left
her paralyzed. Alan was the lifeguard that was on duty.
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He jumped in and he rescued her from possibly drowning.
They recently got engaged after dating for five years at
a romantic dinner, and now they're going to spend the
rest of their lives together.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
You would think it would not take five years after
you saved someone's life like that to get engaged.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Wow, Like you would think that they would have just
gotten married right then and there. It's like a movie scene.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Megan has one thing on her mind and it's getting
engaged too.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
It's never happening for me.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
She's like, why did it take so long? Blair? What
did you think was going to happen when Meghan came
back from Savannah.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
There was a small part of me that was, like,
is Megan going to come back from her trip with
Gi Joe engaged? I wish really, yeah, why not?
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Can I bring you back to something? And I mean
this in the nicest way possible. You wanted to get
engaged really badly last year. Imagine you got engaged to
the guy who ended up breaking your heart.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Well, it wasn't meant to be.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I really believe in the universe and that what's meant
to be is going to happen.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
So don't you just want to take your time and
build it with Gi Joe and really get to know
each other.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
That's the thing.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
That's the thing, Tom is legitimately something that society has
told us.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
You have to put a certain.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
Amount of quote unquote time in before you're allowed to
get engaged. I know plenty of people. I mean, like
my parents, they were married for thirty something years. Some
people would say, because they're divorced today that oh, that's
considered failure. But they had us, three kids, hold nine yards.
They knew each other six weeks.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
I think it's supposed to be like that, Like you know,
you know that you know, how did you.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Date Steve before you guys got married?
Speaker 4 (06:17):
That was I don't think you can compare our relationship
because of the fact that the age gap, the kids,
the grandkids. I don't think that's an even comparison.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
My parents stated for seven years and then they got
married after that and they've been married the whole time.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Okay, but look for me here, here's how it is like.
I feel like I'm somebody who truly I live.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
My life to the fullest, and if.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
It feels right and that comes comes up, then.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Then it feels right.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And along the way you learn things in life, and
if it ends up not working out, then it doesn't
work out.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
But if it feels good, it feels good.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
And you know, I just I really believe in what
is meant for you is gonna come.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I know that we've had a lot of people who
have called The Spencer Grave Show before and said, hey,
we got engaged after a couple weeks of dating and
they're still married. We know a lot of people that
waited a long time, got married and then ended up
getting divorced. And there's always the flip of that, where
do you stand on how much time you should spend
with somebody before you get engaged. Eight five five grave
zero Ashley, the conversation that we were having this morning
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is should Megan be engaged after four months of dating
Gi Joe?
Speaker 6 (07:30):
Well, that's alter than what I've been before.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
We got hang out. We're gonna have to fix this
phone line. Where are you in a in a safe
house somewhere?
Speaker 6 (07:39):
No, I'm in my car, but I've turned I've turned
my car play off.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
So going to happen to everybody. We have one little,
one little part of your commute. Everybody has one where
you lose service, even for a split second. So go ahead,
Ashley tell us the story.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
When we got engaged. I was nineteen and he was
twenty six. We did not know each other. We were strangers,
and from our first date till the day we got
engaged was I don't know if it was twenty one
days or twenty three days, it was like three weeks.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Why did you decide in three weeks that you wanted
to spend the rest of your life with this guy
at nineteen.
Speaker 6 (08:16):
Well, I had been in a relationship before our first
date the week before.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
With what what kind of relationship were you?
Speaker 6 (08:29):
I had dated this guy for like eight or nine months,
and he was actually younger than me, so I kind of,
you know, flipped and went the.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Offices older man just seven years Yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:39):
Yeah, and he it just didn't work out. I don't know,
Like I went from that to him, and the difference
was daylight and dark and like like she said, when
you know, you just know, we've been married this year
we had our twelfth anniversary, all.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Right, gradulation.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
I think it just proves that if you know, you know,
and when you know you.
Speaker 6 (08:59):
Knew, Yeah, anybody else would you recommend that to?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Megan? Would g I Joe?
Speaker 6 (09:06):
If it feels rot rot you know, like she said,
you just know.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Well, and you know we've talked about this before. But
I also am someone who really when it comes to
the technicalities of getting married, like I would totally have
a wedding and I would sign the marriage license and
not submit it like just because the principle. Huh.
Speaker 5 (09:28):
I totally would. Yeah, you would.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
You would fake getting married, but you wouldn't want to
be on the books with Uncle Sam.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
It wouldn't be like a fake marriage, would be real
civil union, I mean kind of partnership.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
I would change my last name.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
I just want to know what color bridesmaids here we're
got to be in?
Speaker 5 (09:46):
Oh okay, what kind of biber are we going in this.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
In this non real wedding that she's going to end
up having.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Well, I mean I got to get to plant.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I think the plan.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
I've got a bridal shower, I've got a bread party
to play.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Actually, have a great day.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Thank you, you see, thank you.
Speaker 7 (10:02):
My parents met on May twenty fifth, and of the
same year.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
They were married August twenty eighth, three months and three days.
Speaker 8 (10:09):
Wow. I want them together sixty years?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Beard, whoa, I'm just saying, g I, Joe, you and
I can make a quick little trip to.
Speaker 5 (10:18):
Say you friends over happens?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Yeah, what's going to the port?
Speaker 1 (10:22):
And right?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
They met on a blind date.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Oh that's even cooler. I love the success which.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
One of them is blind.
Speaker 8 (10:32):
They both are now.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
So good. But Amanda, you would agree, though, even though
your parents man got married after three months, that that's
not the norm.
Speaker 7 (10:47):
No, it's not, and I wouldn't recommend it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Why wouldn't you recommend it?
Speaker 7 (10:52):
Weird? I've been married for nineteen years.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Tuesday or April third eight, Let me get the right date.
Speaker 7 (10:58):
April eighth. I'll be married for nineteen years, and we
stated for about two years.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
A woman that can't remember her wedding date, you know,
she's been married for over nineteen years. I mean, I happy,
Thank you, Amanda, have an awesome day, all right? Thank you?
What's going on?
Speaker 4 (11:11):
Rudder?
Speaker 8 (11:12):
I think making should go ahead and do the G
I joe thing, because.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
You should just go ahead and do that G I
joe thing, if you don't mind.
Speaker 8 (11:23):
When I was in high school, my senior year, I
got set up on a blind date with from my
best friend with this guy, and we went to the prom,
my senior prom, on a blind date. When we walked in,
we turned heads because we walked in on the arm
of two marines. That was on April fourteenth, and then
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the following month, on Mother's Day weekend, he proposed to
me and I accepted, and then we were married three
months later.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Just sounds a lot like my grammy, because my Grammy
was the same way she was in high school, and
she always says, she's like, yep, I met your grandfather
and I was engaged to a ring because he was
gone in the Marine Corps.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
So you got engaged in high school.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
It used to be.
Speaker 8 (12:09):
Now I hadn't because that was an April. I didn't
graduate until the end of May. So he was. I
was engaged while I was in high school.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yes, and then you got married just a couple of
months after high school.
Speaker 8 (12:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
And how long were you guys married?
Speaker 8 (12:23):
This year will be forty one years?
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (12:28):
How many kids together? There?
Speaker 8 (12:30):
We have two kids, three grand kids.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
What's the one thing that you guys fuss at each
other about? Is it how he falls towels?
Speaker 5 (12:42):
No?
Speaker 4 (12:43):
No?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Is it your O C. D with how you put
plates and utensils away and he doesn't do it.
Speaker 8 (12:51):
The same way?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Is it that?
Speaker 8 (12:52):
No? No, honestly, there's not. We really don't fuss if
he If we get upset with each other, we just
walk away. We never say a harsh word to each other.
Speaker 5 (13:02):
I wish I could walk away, Steve.
Speaker 8 (13:07):
It hard for me to walk away because I'm hot headed.
He's very cool and collected. He's very alright, and I'm not.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
Am I talking to my word?
Speaker 8 (13:18):
Yeah? And so would I do it again? You better? Yeah?
I would.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
We heard you get married eighty four.
Speaker 8 (13:24):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (13:24):
You really see me as my parents? Kind of?
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (13:27):
I'm old. I'm old.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
You're old your season.
Speaker 8 (13:31):
Well, there you go, I'm very well seasoned. My brother
I have a twin brother and we just had a birthday.
He turned fifty fifty nine on our birthday and I
turned thirty eight.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
There you go, I like, well, thank you very much
for spending some time with us.
Speaker 7 (13:45):
Well, thank you.
Speaker 8 (13:45):
I appreciate you. Guys.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
It's How Country are You? On the Spencer Grave Show,
FATA Where are you from?
Speaker 7 (13:53):
I'm from Silicago.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Welcome to How Country are You? On a scale of
one to country? How country are you?
Speaker 8 (13:58):
Theta?
Speaker 7 (14:00):
My children call me a city girl, but I'm not.
I'm gonna say about a snake.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Well, let's prove them wrong. You're going to get a
real score at the end of How Country are You?
Megan's got three questions.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
First, okay, tell us which country artist used her fake
nails as an instrument?
Speaker 7 (14:19):
What country artist she took fake nails as an instrument?
I truly have no idea answers.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Dolly, pardon, she's such a nicon. Oh Dolly, she played
Mike on a washboard and then she plays spoon. She
did all this stuff?
Speaker 7 (14:37):
True. I remember now that you say.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
That we want to know how you cut costs as
a country person.
Speaker 7 (14:46):
Well, we My husband is a hunter and so am I.
So we hunt, we fish, We try to kill or
catch most of our own meats and garden when we can.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
You never buy regular tupperware. You all always get the
country crock butter tubs. You always get those, and that's
what you put stuff in.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Yeah, correctly, those dollar General coupons in the app those
will go far.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
I love those.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Okay, last question here, tell us why your generation grew
up right in the country.
Speaker 7 (15:19):
Uh, Well, because I was waist by parents that taught
us to work hard. We got up. We were not
fed cereal. We were fed a big, full breakfast every day.
We had chores to do. You know, we went to church,
we were we were raised to be independent and to
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work and to help others.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Lord uh fada, do you want to tell us what
was a part of that southern breakfast that your parents
fed you every day?
Speaker 7 (15:48):
Oh? My word. We were given it varied, but most
days it was grits, eggs, sausage, or bacon, homemade buttermilk, biscuits, gravy.
Gravy could vary from regular gray tonight a gravy whatever
my mama decided to cook.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yeah, what about sausage gravy?
Speaker 4 (16:05):
You do?
Speaker 1 (16:06):
That's some of my.
Speaker 7 (16:06):
Favorite Oh yeah, well we would have sausage and in
the white gravy to go with it. You didn't actually
put the two together.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
That's pretty good.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I'm gonna need to reach out to my stepmom grand
hand after hearing you talk about that.
Speaker 5 (16:17):
I'm gonna need her to fix me some breakfast this weekend.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
And you're gonna need to reach out to your family,
Theda and tell your kids that they're absolutely crazy. You're
not a six, you're an eight point four.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Whoa.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Oh thank you. If you'd gotten the Dolly Parton thing,
I mean pretty much a perfect score. Oh man, Aaron
Lewis is coming to Avondale, so we're going to get
you in for that.
Speaker 7 (16:39):
Oh awesome.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
So it's been a couple of weeks since Dolly Parton
lost her husband, Carl Dean of nearly sixty years, and
somebody asked her the question I think all of us
want to know the answer to, which is how you doing?
And she said that she's doing better than she thought,
but that doesn't keep her from missing and loving them.
They had such a beautiful relationship, didn't they.
Speaker 5 (16:59):
Yeah, they did.
Speaker 4 (17:00):
I loved that she was able to kind of share
their relationship with us, and he still got his privacy
that he clearly wanted throughout all this.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
I think they handled it so well.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I mean, I'm truly inspired by their relationship. That's why
I'm so committed to keeping Gi Josie, because I'll be serious, like,
I love what she did with that. I love the
concept of the life that you have. You know, even
though she lived a public life, she still was able
to keep some kind of privacy to be able to
cherish in those moments they had together.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I wonder who that was more of. If that was
her saying, hey, I want to keep you out of
the spotlight, or if that was him saying I don't
want to be a part of it. It all kind
of points to he just didn't really want to be
a part of it. He wanted her to have her
own world.
I noticed something yesterday, and I want to get the
opinion of everybody listening to the Spencer Grave show of
how do you manage and keep track of your day?
I went to the barber shop. It's going to see
my buddy Joey and get my ears lowered. There was
a guy sitting next to me, and I casually looked
over and I noticed that he had a bunch of
flash cards. And I hadn't seen flash cards since I
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was studying for tests in college and high school and
all that kind of stuff. So I said, hey, I
don't mean to pry or be a bother bud, why
do you have the flash cards? He writes down everything
about his day. His wife has him rearranging the house
with furniture. He had diagrams drawn up of what he
was trying to do based on her suggestions. He had
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things that he had to get done, phone numbers that
he needed for the day. Everything. It's almost like what
I would do in the note section of my phone,
but he does it old school. I asked him where
it came from, Megan. He brought up the military. He
says he did this when he was active duty. Desert storm.
Is that something that was pretty common.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
It's just part of the training is you have to
write down everything.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
You always have to have.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Like there's a green book that you'll see all NCOs have.
It's this green hard cover notebook, and you're supposed to
write down everything in there.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
You're never supposed to just put stuff in your phone.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
I mean I do, but it's just like a thing
that they beat into your head and.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Is an NCO and non commission officer.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, got it.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
And so like for me, I notice myself sometimes, I
mean like I've got all these little sticky notes and
stuff all over the desk here.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
It's kind of the same thing. I think you're just taught.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
And but what are those notes say? I thought you
just scribbled on things.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I do sometimes that I probably got that from the
army to look like I'm busy.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But like on here, I've just got.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Notes about timing, reminders of things I want to put
on our page and social media, and I've got different
checklists from oh this is from I think probably six
months ago.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
So that Blair, being somebody who's extremely type A high,
you manage your day.
Speaker 4 (02:01):
So I have a paper calendar and.
Speaker 5 (02:04):
My digital calendar that I keep both of those up
to date.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
But in addition to that, I also have this, like
it's a notepad, but it's very detail oriented. It says
this week at the top, I literally write the week
of and the Monday date, you know, week of March seventeenth,
you know, whatever it might be. Then each day has
its own little section of things that I need to
put on there, of like I know I need to
do these things every day. Then it has a section
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for top priorities, the things that I need to obviously prioritize.
Then notes for things like Okay, I need to get
to these if I have time this week, but still
have a little bit of time.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Then I have a reminder.
Speaker 4 (02:39):
Section on the sheet as well of just like hey
remember this, and that could be like work related, it
could be personal. It could be, hey, you need to
call and cancel your did disappointment you're never going.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
To go to.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
And then on the Saturday and Sunday, obviously anything going
on on mine and Steve's calendar, but things that I
need to make sure to put on my next week
this week.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Do you consider your day done when it's all scratched off?
Or do you feel anxiety when you haven't crossed everything
off the list for the day.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
So every day before I go to bed, everything for
that day has to be highlighted. Crossed off would be
too chaotic for me. Then I check my calendar from
that day as well, digital and paper, and make sure
that I did everything. But then in addition to that,
I can't go to bed at night with an unread
email or an unread text or unresolved like phone call, voicemail,
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anything like that. And I have to do that for
my personal and work emails. So it's like, y'all wonder
why yeah, no, we got down at night.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Can't even stand to hear this.
Speaker 5 (03:34):
I really can't just stand here.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You would not want to look at my phone where
it says emails. I turned the notifications off on all
this stuff because the numbers got too hot. I don't
have any storage left on any of my email accounts,
so I just keep making new ones.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
If anybody is asking me to be somewhere, I just
asked them to send me a calendar invite. That way
I can put it on my calendar, and that's open
to everybody that we work with, so you guys can
see where we're going. This is how we all try
to process and manage our day. Bring us into your
world and let us know how you do it. Eight
five to five Grave zero. I've given you all the
warm fuzzies and whatnot. It's the good good on the
(04:11):
Spencer Grave Show. Congratulations going out to Brooklyn and Alan.
They're engaged after nearly five years together. But you're wondering
who's Brooklyn and Alan? I mean, congratulations. Well, five years ago,
Brooklyn jumped into a pool, hit her head and left
her paralyzed. Alan was the lifeguard that was on duty.
(04:32):
He jumped in and he rescued her from possibly drowning.
They recently got engaged after dating for five years at
a romantic dinner, and now they're going to spend the
rest of their lives together.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
You would think it would not take five years after
you saved someone's life like that to get engaged.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Wow, Like you would think that they would have just
gotten married right then and there. It's like a movie scene.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Megan has one thing on her mind and it's getting
engaged too.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
It's never happening for me.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
She's like, why did it take so long? Blair? What
did you think was going to happen when Meghan came
back from Savannah.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
There was a small part of me that was, like,
is Megan going to come back from her trip with
Gi Joe engaged? I wish really, yeah, why not?
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Can I bring you back to something? And I mean
this in the nicest way possible. You wanted to get
engaged really badly last year. Imagine you got engaged to
the guy who ended up breaking your heart.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Well, it wasn't meant to be.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I really believe in the universe and that what's meant
to be is going to happen.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
So don't you just want to take your time and
build it with Gi Joe and really get to know
each other.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
That's the thing.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
That's the thing, Tom is legitimately something that society has
told us.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
You have to put a certain.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
Amount of quote unquote time in before you're allowed to
get engaged. I know plenty of people. I mean, like
my parents, they were married for thirty something years. Some
people would say, because they're divorced today that oh, that's
considered failure. But they had us, three kids, hold nine yards.
They knew each other six weeks.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
I think it's supposed to be like that, Like you know,
you know that you know, how did you.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Date Steve before you guys got married?
Speaker 4 (06:17):
That was I don't think you can compare our relationship
because of the fact that the age gap, the kids,
the grandkids. I don't think that's an even comparison.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
My parents stated for seven years and then they got
married after that and they've been married the whole time.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Okay, but look for me here, here's how it is like.
I feel like I'm somebody who truly I live.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
My life to the fullest, and if.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
It feels right and that comes comes up, then.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Then it feels right.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And along the way you learn things in life, and
if it ends up not working out, then it doesn't
work out.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
But if it feels good, it feels good.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
And you know, I just I really believe in what
is meant for you is gonna come.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I know that we've had a lot of people who
have called The Spencer Grave Show before and said, hey,
we got engaged after a couple weeks of dating and
they're still married. We know a lot of people that
waited a long time, got married and then ended up
getting divorced. And there's always the flip of that, where
do you stand on how much time you should spend
with somebody before you get engaged. Eight five five grave
zero Ashley, the conversation that we were having this morning
(07:25):
is should Megan be engaged after four months of dating
Gi Joe?
Speaker 6 (07:30):
Well, that's alter than what I've been before.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
We got hang out. We're gonna have to fix this
phone line. Where are you in a in a safe
house somewhere?
Speaker 6 (07:39):
No, I'm in my car, but I've turned I've turned
my car play off.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
So going to happen to everybody. We have one little,
one little part of your commute. Everybody has one where
you lose service, even for a split second. So go ahead,
Ashley tell us the story.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
When we got engaged. I was nineteen and he was
twenty six. We did not know each other. We were strangers,
and from our first date till the day we got
engaged was I don't know if it was twenty one
days or twenty three days, it was like three weeks.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Why did you decide in three weeks that you wanted
to spend the rest of your life with this guy
at nineteen.
Speaker 6 (08:16):
Well, I had been in a relationship before our first
date the week before.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
With what what kind of relationship were you?
Speaker 6 (08:29):
I had dated this guy for like eight or nine months,
and he was actually younger than me, so I kind of,
you know, flipped and went the.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Offices older man just seven years Yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:39):
Yeah, and he it just didn't work out. I don't know,
Like I went from that to him, and the difference
was daylight and dark and like like she said, when
you know, you just know, we've been married this year
we had our twelfth anniversary, all.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Right, gradulation.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
I think it just proves that if you know, you know,
and when you know you.
Speaker 6 (08:59):
Knew, Yeah, anybody else would you recommend that to?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Megan? Would g I Joe?
Speaker 6 (09:06):
If it feels rot rot you know, like she said,
you just know.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Well, and you know we've talked about this before. But
I also am someone who really when it comes to
the technicalities of getting married, like I would totally have
a wedding and I would sign the marriage license and
not submit it like just because the principle. Huh.
Speaker 5 (09:28):
I totally would. Yeah, you would.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
You would fake getting married, but you wouldn't want to
be on the books with Uncle Sam.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
It wouldn't be like a fake marriage, would be real
civil union, I mean kind of partnership.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
I would change my last name.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
I just want to know what color bridesmaids here we're
got to be in?
Speaker 5 (09:46):
Oh okay, what kind of biber are we going in this.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
In this non real wedding that she's going to end
up having.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Well, I mean I got to get to plant.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
I think the plan.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
I've got a bridal shower, I've got a bread party
to play.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Actually, have a great day.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Thank you, you see, thank you.
Speaker 7 (10:02):
My parents met on May twenty fifth, and of the
same year.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
They were married August twenty eighth, three months and three days.
Speaker 8 (10:09):
Wow. I want them together sixty years?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Wow?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Beard, whoa, I'm just saying, g I, Joe, you and
I can make a quick little trip to.
Speaker 5 (10:18):
Say you friends over happens?
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Yeah, what's going to the port?
Speaker 1 (10:22):
And right?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
They met on a blind date.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
Oh that's even cooler. I love the success which.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
One of them is blind.
Speaker 8 (10:32):
They both are now.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
So good. But Amanda, you would agree, though, even though
your parents man got married after three months, that that's
not the norm.
Speaker 7 (10:47):
No, it's not, and I wouldn't recommend it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Why wouldn't you recommend it?
Speaker 7 (10:52):
Weird? I've been married for nineteen years.
Speaker 6 (10:54):
Tuesday or April third eight, Let me get the right date.
Speaker 7 (10:58):
April eighth. I'll be married for nineteen years, and we
stated for about two years.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
A woman that can't remember her wedding date, you know,
she's been married for over nineteen years. I mean, I happy,
Thank you, Amanda, have an awesome day, all right? Thank you?
What's going on?
Speaker 4 (11:11):
Rudder?
Speaker 8 (11:12):
I think making should go ahead and do the G
I joe thing, because.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
You should just go ahead and do that G I
joe thing, if you don't mind.
Speaker 8 (11:23):
When I was in high school, my senior year, I
got set up on a blind date with from my
best friend with this guy, and we went to the prom,
my senior prom, on a blind date. When we walked in,
we turned heads because we walked in on the arm
of two marines. That was on April fourteenth, and then
(11:43):
the following month, on Mother's Day weekend, he proposed to
me and I accepted, and then we were married three
months later.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Just sounds a lot like my grammy, because my Grammy
was the same way she was in high school, and
she always says, she's like, yep, I met your grandfather
and I was engaged to a ring because he was
gone in the Marine Corps.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
So you got engaged in high school.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
It used to be.
Speaker 8 (12:09):
Now I hadn't because that was an April. I didn't
graduate until the end of May. So he was. I
was engaged while I was in high school.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yes, and then you got married just a couple of
months after high school.
Speaker 8 (12:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
And how long were you guys married?
Speaker 8 (12:23):
This year will be forty one years?
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (12:28):
How many kids together? There?
Speaker 8 (12:30):
We have two kids, three grand kids.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
What's the one thing that you guys fuss at each
other about? Is it how he falls towels?
Speaker 5 (12:42):
No?
Speaker 4 (12:43):
No?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Is it your O C. D with how you put
plates and utensils away and he doesn't do it.
Speaker 8 (12:51):
The same way?
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Is it that?
Speaker 8 (12:52):
No? No, honestly, there's not. We really don't fuss if
he If we get upset with each other, we just
walk away. We never say a harsh word to each other.
Speaker 5 (13:02):
I wish I could walk away, Steve.
Speaker 8 (13:07):
It hard for me to walk away because I'm hot headed.
He's very cool and collected. He's very alright, and I'm not.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
Am I talking to my word?
Speaker 8 (13:18):
Yeah? And so would I do it again? You better? Yeah?
I would.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
We heard you get married eighty four.
Speaker 8 (13:24):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (13:24):
You really see me as my parents? Kind of?
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (13:27):
I'm old. I'm old.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
You're old your season.
Speaker 8 (13:31):
Well, there you go, I'm very well seasoned. My brother
I have a twin brother and we just had a birthday.
He turned fifty fifty nine on our birthday and I
turned thirty eight.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
There you go, I like, well, thank you very much
for spending some time with us.
Speaker 7 (13:45):
Well, thank you.
Speaker 8 (13:45):
I appreciate you. Guys.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
It's How Country are You? On the Spencer Grave Show,
FATA Where are you from?
Speaker 7 (13:53):
I'm from Silicago.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Welcome to How Country are You? On a scale of
one to country? How country are you?
Speaker 8 (13:58):
Theta?
Speaker 7 (14:00):
My children call me a city girl, but I'm not.
I'm gonna say about a snake.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Well, let's prove them wrong. You're going to get a
real score at the end of How Country are You?
Megan's got three questions.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
First, okay, tell us which country artist used her fake
nails as an instrument?
Speaker 7 (14:19):
What country artist she took fake nails as an instrument?
I truly have no idea answers.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Dolly, pardon, she's such a nicon. Oh Dolly, she played
Mike on a washboard and then she plays spoon. She
did all this stuff?
Speaker 7 (14:37):
True. I remember now that you say.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
That we want to know how you cut costs as
a country person.
Speaker 7 (14:46):
Well, we My husband is a hunter and so am I.
So we hunt, we fish, We try to kill or
catch most of our own meats and garden when we can.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
You never buy regular tupperware. You all always get the
country crock butter tubs. You always get those, and that's
what you put stuff in.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
Yeah, correctly, those dollar General coupons in the app those
will go far.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
I love those.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Okay, last question here, tell us why your generation grew
up right in the country.
Speaker 7 (15:19):
Uh, Well, because I was waist by parents that taught
us to work hard. We got up. We were not
fed cereal. We were fed a big, full breakfast every day.
We had chores to do. You know, we went to church,
we were we were raised to be independent and to
(15:39):
work and to help others.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Lord uh fada, do you want to tell us what
was a part of that southern breakfast that your parents
fed you every day?
Speaker 7 (15:48):
Oh? My word. We were given it varied, but most
days it was grits, eggs, sausage, or bacon, homemade buttermilk, biscuits, gravy.
Gravy could vary from regular gray tonight a gravy whatever
my mama decided to cook.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Yeah, what about sausage gravy?
Speaker 4 (16:05):
You do?
Speaker 1 (16:06):
That's some of my.
Speaker 7 (16:06):
Favorite Oh yeah, well we would have sausage and in
the white gravy to go with it. You didn't actually
put the two together.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
That's pretty good.
Speaker 4 (16:13):
I'm gonna need to reach out to my stepmom grand
hand after hearing you talk about that.
Speaker 5 (16:17):
I'm gonna need her to fix me some breakfast this weekend.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
And you're gonna need to reach out to your family,
Theda and tell your kids that they're absolutely crazy. You're
not a six, you're an eight point four.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Whoa.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Oh thank you. If you'd gotten the Dolly Parton thing,
I mean pretty much a perfect score. Oh man, Aaron
Lewis is coming to Avondale, so we're going to get
you in for that.
Speaker 7 (16:39):
Oh awesome.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
So it's been a couple of weeks since Dolly Parton
lost her husband, Carl Dean of nearly sixty years, and
somebody asked her the question I think all of us
want to know the answer to, which is how you doing?
And she said that she's doing better than she thought,
but that doesn't keep her from missing and loving them.
They had such a beautiful relationship, didn't they.
Speaker 5 (16:59):
Yeah, they did.
Speaker 4 (17:00):
I loved that she was able to kind of share
their relationship with us, and he still got his privacy
that he clearly wanted throughout all this.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
I think they handled it so well.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I mean, I'm truly inspired by their relationship. That's why
I'm so committed to keeping Gi Josie, because I'll be serious, like,
I love what she did with that. I love the
concept of the life that you have. You know, even
though she lived a public life, she still was able
to keep some kind of privacy to be able to
cherish in those moments they had together.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I wonder who that was more of. If that was
her saying, hey, I want to keep you out of
the spotlight, or if that was him saying I don't
want to be a part of it. It all kind
of points to he just didn't really want to be
a part of it. He wanted her to have her
own world.
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