February 21, 2025 • 38 mins
How do you define "Life Success?" We talk about the personal and subjective aspects of our successes, failures and how we define life success.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
This could give me fire podcast? What up on? Just
that is John Magic? And we are back this one.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I mean, I'm hoping this should be a good episode
because I feel like we said this when we first started.
We were remember we were researching, like how this wasn't
the beginning.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
The beginning of our podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Yeah, when we first started talking about doing a.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Podcast where we were googling like what makes a successful podcast?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
And one of the big you know, it's just like
good storytelling, and then the other thing is like teaching
the listener something. And I feel like it this has
the topic of the listener can get something out of this.
You know, it's almost like a recipe for our success.
(01:05):
And not to say this is what others have to do,
but if I got some of this information in my
younger days, I think it would have been helpful. You know.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So do you listen to those type of podcasts I
do where they're like, what would you call it, like
self help, life coach?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
That?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
I didn't even move my mic. It's probably gonna make
some noise on the podcast. That's how good nerds.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Well, let me just kind of preface why we even
thought of this topic to do for this episode. I
have a good friend who works for the county, one
of my really good friends, and he was telling me
how much, you know, he was getting paid. And when
he told me, my eyes were just like, am I
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in the wrong business? Like it's it's almost I make
a quarter of what this guy's making. But the thing
that kind of hit me was he we have conversation
often how unhappy he is with.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
His job, but he's banking.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
He's banking, but he's unhappy, And it kind of makes
me think of our situation or just or I could
even just say my situation speaking for myself, of how
fortunate we are to be in this industry. We're doing
what we love to do and life is good. So
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to me, in my mental it evens it out him
getting paid X amount of money but being unhappy, but
me getting paid less but being happy.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And I'm in an even playing field.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
And I know we're obviously going to get deeper into it,
but I think that's that's really where it's sad, the
balance of how you're living, your means and your happiness,
Like are those balanced enough?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
And I really think that's the key over all to success.
We're going to dive into some things on our personal
success and how we see it, but I think that's
the overall. The overall thing of this conversation is the
balance of your means, how you're living and are you happy? Yeah,
I think I think we can go from there.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I mean I wanted to see if you had a definition,
what your definition is for life success?
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Like what I tell people, I always just say, live
life to its fullest and be happy. And if whatever
that is for you, it may not be the same
for me or for you or for somebody else, but
if that's if that's where you feel you're at, like
you can. Obviously we're never going to be a one
hundred percent happy right Like, I don't think we're just
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meant to be like that. We're always going to want
more or we're always going to want to be happier.
There's always going to be bad times. But if you
can honestly sit there and say, like I'm good where
I'm at in life and I'm happy and I'm living it,
I think that's success. Now, that doesn't necessarily mean like
it's you have to make a certain amount of money
or or you have to live in a certain place
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or drive a certain car. I just think if that's
it's like, if that's the answer to your question, like
you ask yourself that question and you have an answer
of like yes, then I think that's success.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Are you?
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Are you the kind of person that thinks life is
short or life is long?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I don't know that I could go either or sometimes
I do feel like, damn, life is short in a
sense of like you could die at anytime and there
is an expiration date on all of us. Yeah, but
then life is long if you like really look back
at it, like damn, Like I've been living for a
good time and there's been a hell of things that's
been in my life and that's happened in this world.
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And I'm still young, I feel so. I don't know.
Maybe when it gets towards the end, I'll have a
better answer.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Okay, So I agree with that.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I agree with everything you said, in particular with the
life is life long or life short?
Speaker 3 (05:06):
How you see it?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
I think we've always said this that what do we
always say to each other?
Speaker 3 (05:13):
It's been a great.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Run, Like we've done so much in our lives, the
things we've accomplished, the things we've experienced, it's.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Been a long life. But the part where.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
You know, where now I'm in the mindset of life
is short is maybe because my dad passing away and
I'm like twenty five years from there.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yeah, so it doesn't feel that long, right.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yes, So to me, I've lately been my mindset is
life is short.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
I'm living it.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah. I think life is short in a sense of
like it feels like you're never going to do everything
you want to do or achieve everything that you want
to do, and that make life feels short, I think.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
But back to the life success definition, I agree with
everything you said. Well, I'll just shorten because you had
you had specifics, which was great. Yeah, life success is
different for different people. It's subjective, so it's what it's
kind of like what you said, it's what you Yeah,
So I actually, you know, I love Lately the big
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thing is we've been using AI a lot, and I
kind of just put you know, life success on an
AI and it kind of breaks things down in different subjects,
and I think we could just go down and kind of.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Let's subject let's see what we talk about.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
You know, we didn't really plan this out, so I'll
give you the subject that AI said, and let's kind
of go from there.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
By the way, because we spoke a little bit about
this before we jumped on the pod. This is not
all going to be monetary, right like life success is
just everything about life is yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Right, yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
I think that's why we're not doing a get rich
scheme or we're not giving you the keys to make
more money. I think we're just talking about an overall
life with like relationships, money, how you're living, career, all that.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
So generally, generally life success can be broken down in
these following common aspects. We could start with career, our
career achievement. And we've always said how we feel like
we are successful in what we do, and I wanted
to talk about how we got there, Like how about you?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Like, what do you like how I started in this industry?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
How do you feel like you succeeded? What did you what?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I'll give you an example for me when I when
I remember as a kid's when I say a kid,
like high school, college, when radio started becoming a reality
of something possibly I could do. I didn't have a
plan B so that's something that I had. I don't
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know if it was by act yeah or I or
if in my head I said there's.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
No plan B.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, but I didn't have a plan B. I was
going to succeed in this no matter what. So that's
something I did in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
I I will say this, I'm thankful enough that I
have a career and not a job. I grew up
with my dad having a job, my mom having a job.
They didn't really they weren't really career people. And that's
no knock on them. Obviously they did good for themselves
and they raised me right. But I'm happy to say
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that I've gotten into a career, and I've gotten into
a career that I've loved and that I'm happy with,
and I've been in it for this long. We were
just talking about my celebrated my twenty twentieth in this industry.
But what's crazy about this is this is something that
I never thought that I would do until I got
into college. I always thought that I was just going
to be like something in business. I mean, I took
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business management in school, didn't really like it was kind
of going through the motion, was like even felling classes
because I just wasn't there. And during that time is
when I was doing my internship here at the radio station,
and that's when I started to realize that that radio
was something that I wanted to do because I've always
loved music growing up and to be just a small
piece in the music industry, so to speak, because there's
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so many aspects to the music industry and radio was
just like one piece. And once I got here, it
was something that I fell in love with so much
that I just kind of, like what you said, no
plan B. I just decided that all chips in like this,
this is what I was going to pursue. Mind you,
When I was doing my internship here, like we didn't
get paid and I didn't have a side job. I
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was a full time student going to Fresno State, and
I was doing this on the side. I was luckily
to like still live at home with my family because
I was doing the full time thing at school, which
by the way, was paying for itself because I had
grants and stuff like that. So I was doing everything
the right way, so to speak. But once I got
into this and I knew that I could be good
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at this, and I knew that it was something that
I loved and it could be a career and there
could be longevity into it. I just went all in
like I was. I wanted to know as much about
the business. I wanted to learn as much as about the business.
I wanted to, you know, freshen up my skills so
much so that I did the Kanye. I was a
college dropout. I dropped out, and what's crazy is I
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was so close. I had not that many units to go,
but I was just like, I'm over it was I
was not happy. Put it that way. I could have
probably went through it, took some more classes, but I
was just I was not happy. I didn't want to.
My mind wasn't on it. My mind was just one
hundred percent here. And there has been times where you know,
my parents would ask me like, hey, you're not paying
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no bills, you don't have a job that's giving you money,
Like maybe you need like maybe this isn't it. Maybe
you just need to get a job so you can
get money. And I was just like no, like no,
Like every answer was no. I was not going to
sacrifice what I wanted to do, which was this job,
this industry, and I just went full force in it,
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and it's gotten me to where I'm at now twenty
years later.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
So this whole no Plan B thing that we're kind
of talking about, do you have an opinion on? You
kind of have to be real with yourself. Ah See,
I don't want to be negative about it. Meaning what
if there's someone that says, I want to be an
NBA basketball player. But it's almost like there has to
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be a reality check, don't you think?
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Yeah, I mean there's obviously because that whole thing of like, oh,
you could be whatever you want to be, put your
mind to it. That's great in all and there is
positivity in that, but you also got to be realistic
about the situation. And I think that's where it's at. Like,
for radio, that was something that I realistically could do.
Being an NBA is something I realistically wasn't going to do.
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So you have to be real with yourself and not
only find something that you want to do and you
love to do, but also figure out if you are
good at it.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Yeah, and also I'll piggyback to that.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
I think the work ethic is a big component to
this because if someone is unsure about let's let's go
back to the whole being an NBA player and they're
all they're gonna put all their chips into it. With
that particular skill set, the work ethic.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Has to be worldly.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, you have to follow some certain steps to get there,
and so I guess there's your possibility.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Yeah, like the movie Rudy.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
It is possible, but please know that you got to
put in a worldly amount of work ethic and work
to get to that goal.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
So go get it.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Then, you know, there's some people out there that are
naturally gifted with certain skills that kind of help them
get to where they want to be, which could be
like an NBA player, Like maybe you were born just
tall and so you have like a pretty good start,
right good yea. For me, I felt like I didn't
have the natural skills, especially for this job, being that
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you know, I'm an introvert. I didn't really like to talk.
I wasn't out going. I'm actually still that way. But
it was a skill that I was willing to work
hard at and to build. So my skills is what
got me here, and my skills was through my work ethic.
So I wasn't naturally like a funny person or just
like a good talker, but it was a skill that
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I built through my internship. You know, maybe from you
or other people that I talked to, listening to other people,
and now I've gained this skill that's gotten me through
my career. But it was something that I had to
work with or work through, which was my work ethic.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
My work ethic was built as well too, meaning there
was a means you know there was an end.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Goal and you just did what.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
How I define my work ethic is doing whatever it
takes to get there. So obviously radio has a tie
to me being a DJ first when I was younger,
of all of just sacrificing carrying equipment, but with not
getting paid. So it's equivalent to like being an insern
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with my mentors and just going to gigs with them
and just sitting there and watching them to finally doing
gigs but not getting paid, so doing a bunch of
free gigs. But it's because you know there's an end
goal to it, so you put in all these hours.
I think that's a big thing, is putting in hours,
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So it's equivalent to work. That's how you build your
work ethic is the hours and hours you put into
that specific thing that you want to do. And I
think you and I have built such good work ethic
no matter what we do, if it's not radio, we
will still have that work ethic. And I actually have
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an example for that, and it happened during the pandemic
when I lost my radio job. The world shut down,
and a year later I got my friend was like, hey,
we're taking these paid volunteers to for the COVID vaccine.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
I remember you were the vaccinations I was.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
I was. I was an administrator.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
So basically anything from organizing the crowd line because thousands
of people showed up to the computer of getting all
the information in and then the nurses would do the vaccine.
But I bring this up because you know we were
I wasn't doing anything for a year. There was everything
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was closed. So I was like, yes, I will take
this job because I just want to go do something,
whatever it is.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Anything. So I ended up taking this job and I
embraced it.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
I mean, like, you're gonna work hard at a record.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Not to like too of my own horn.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
But the managers there that put together this thing, they
were like, can you be After like one week, they
were like, you're gonna be a lead. You're gonna lead
this group. And they made me a lead because of
my work ethic of me showing up on time, all
that I was there before anyone else and thinking of
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strategies of making the workflow better, of the line better
and stuff like that. And I would just come up
with all these things, and I bring this up. It's
not my passion, it's not radio. It was boring work.
It was it was five six hours of just boring work.
But my work ethic is what got I mean, the
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lead position and all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
So I feel like, you got to build great work ethic.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
I think I'm somebody that what keeps me never like
really worried is I just super believe in myself. Like
I feel like at the end of the day, no
matter what the situation is or what I'm put into,
I'm going to figure it out. And that confidence, I
think is because of the work ethic that I'm never
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like worried about what's going to happen to me because
I just know I'll figure it out some way.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
To switch things up to the next thing.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
It kind of, you know, transitions to that I thought
I've had recently in the past year, is was I
married to my job? Because I've been doing this for
twenty five years the same industry, and it kind of
I feel like for myself, it hurt my relationship goal
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of sharing my life with a partner, and so that's
also on the list of life success is relationships, but
not only with a partner but with friends too. I
wonder if I was so married to my career that
is that why I'm lacking in that in that aspect
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of my life that I haven't achieved yet. So I'm
still searching for relationship success. I've been in relationships. I
have ex girlfriends, but they were all unsuccessful. But I
think for me, what I did was go to therapy
and learning more about myself. So I'm hoping that that
are those are my steps to achieve relationship success.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Well, I think in that situation because for the same
for me is I think that was what was important
to us. So, you know, you can't really you can
balance things, but if you want to be good at
something or great at something, you have to go in
all in on one thing.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
And I think, you know, you hear about it all
the time with these famous people, and I watched these
documentaries and they almost all have the same thing where
you know, maybe they weren't there when their kids were born,
or they didn't where they weren't really in their kids'
lives as much. And they're just like, because of my job,
like I love doing I doing, and I just went
one hundred percent on being an actor or a musician,
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and I just really wasn't there for my kids. And
obviously they feel bad about it. And you hear about
these stories about these kids and their famous parents, and
it's just like they just went all in and they
sacrificed a family because of their passion of whatever industry
they're in. And I felt like that was what I did,
which is why I never had kids and you know,
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didn't have girlfriends because I was one hundred percent invested
in this. So I think that was the same for you,
which I don't think was necessarily bad, because look where
it's gotten you. Now. Maybe you're at the point in
your life where you'd like to have a little bit
more balance, and maybe since you're so you know, you're
in this industry so deep that you can balance it
all a little bit. But I just think that's where
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it's at. It's it's hard to do everything one hundred percent,
meaning it's hard to be one hundred percent the best
husband or one hundred percent the best father, and also
be one hundred percent the best in your career because
something has to get sacrificed a little bit.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Here's something that I'm recently going through and it has
something to do with relationships, but with your friends.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Okay, So.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
I feel like I feel like you do hold yourself
back from success from that aspect in relationships with friends.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
If you keep.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
How can I put this, like if you're surround if
you keep surrounding yourself with people that don't progress your life.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
And surround yourself with like minded people.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Well that and also I had to not be friends
with some friends. I don't want to say I drop them,
but the relationship has to chane because they they were
stressing you out more than moving you forward and making
you happy in life. So I think that's important. And
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to have a successful relationship with friends is keep the
ones that keep you happy and keep you moving forward
in your life. If that whole thing, I think it's
real when people say.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
Like, yo, you're holding you back.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Yeah, Like if you have a friend that's holding you back,
you really have to think about that friendship.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Yeah, I mean I did that. I think We even
talked about this on a podcast where you know, where
we wanted to kind of switch up and be more
positive and positive energy and only give that to the
people they were giving it to you. And I think
I've made that move over the years of you know,
call it what you want of quote unquote, you know,
cutting people out of your life. Yeah, but it was
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more or less just like, no, I'm not going to
invest in those friendships if like I feel like they're
not investing back or they're not really doing anything for
my life. And I don't mean that as in like
a come up way, but like what are you, like,
how are you as a person and is that like
is that doing anything for me as a friend? Like
if you're if I'm going so hard in my career
and I'm you know, doing all these positive things and
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you're like kind of a lazy friend, I don't know
if I want to be hanging out with someone like that.
And so I've made that changes. I've made that change,
and luckily enough, a lot of our friends are kind
of the people that we work with and kind of
have those same goals that we do, so that's helped.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Yeah, I think that's what I like about our circle
is like like minded individuals.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Also we share a lot of the same values and
what's the word I'm looking for, like things to do
and stuff hobbies? Yeah so yeah, So choose your friends wisely.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
I guess surround yourself with like minded people and people
that are not going to hold you back or people
that you constantly have to be therefore because they're making
bad decisions, And it's like, why is your dumb decisions
shouldn't be affecting my life? Because if I'm because now
you're like bullshit, is starting to become like my bullshit
and it shouldn't be that way.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Another aspect to life success that people kind of define
is financial stability. And this is a topic we've talked
about before. How you and I are savers've I got
it from my mom. My mom is who raised me
to like save money. I don't know if that's toxic
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or not, but I mean, I'm reaping the benefits of
living that way. To the point, the joke I always
make is throughout my adult life, majority of my adult
life credit cards. I thought, once you use a credit
card to me, it was normal to pay it in
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full because that's how my mom taught me. It was
It was late later in life when I found out
people paid like just the minimum and I was like, oh, way,
you can do that.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
I didn't know you could do that.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I mean, I wouldn't recommend it.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
Well it's too late. I don't live that way.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, so I have less stress from it. I guess
since we're in this subject, are you? Are you a
believer of what's the saying?
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Money?
Speaker 2 (24:16):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (24:16):
Money doesn't make you? What's that?
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Money makes you happy? Money buy you happiness? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah? Does money buy me happiness to an extent? Yeah?
Because I think I'm more happy now than if I
was broke, and having money gives me the security of
things that I want, or it gives me the security
things that I need. So I am a believer of,
like happy, money does buy you happiness to an extent.
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And if anybody doesn't say that, then it's just like, well,
I mean, are broke people happy? I mean, you know,
I mean to struggle is not fun.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Here's what I'll say about that. I don't want to
buy into the whole. Money can buy you happiness. Money
makes money makes you less stress? Maybe less not not? Wait,
stress is not the way I was looking for you
worry less. It's something you're not worried about, gotcha. Yeah,
So it takes that out that in return makes you happy. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Now I think when people say that, they think, like, oh,
you know, you bought a new shiny toy or whatever.
That's like makes you happy. And it's like, that's not
what I mean. When I say money makes me happy.
I mean more of like how you put it, having
the money and the means makes me happy that I
don't have to stress living paycheck to paycheck or when
am I going to get my next you know what meal,
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or whatever the case may be. So that's what I
mean by money makes me happy. And obviously buying the
little things is like little happy things on the way.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
But there's the other side of it, because again this
is subjective. There's people that are happy when they use
their money for things they want in their lives to
make them happy to maybe their personalities are different where
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living paycheck to paycheck doesn't stress them out. So if
that doesn't stress them out, they're happy because they're using
their money for what they want.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Yeah, and if that works for them, if fine, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
For sure, So that's they're successful in that.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yeah, so then that would be their story essentially. For me,
I can't live that way. I you know my mom too,
she taught me how to save. I saved growing all
the way up, and when I got to an adult,
I felt like I had a nice start with the
money that I had saved. And now I can kind
of live happy with the money that I've saved and
balanced the things that I buy and feel comfortable. But
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if you're someone that is not like that, but you're
still happy, then that's fine.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Another aspect into life success that people define life success
is their health and well being. You know, I'm recently,
just this passing months, I've been in therapy.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
For me.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
That's been a game changer for me. I'm not trying
to say for everyone to do that. I've only heard
positive things about people going to therapy, so I can
say from my experience it's been a game changer for me.
But not only that physically. And we've talked about this
in past podcasts. We always say that where I've lost,
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you know, so much weight, and it's wild because I've
been pretty much my adult life, I've been a big
guy and life has been like what we said, life
is good.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
My career was good.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
I was getting girls when it comes to that aspect,
I had girlfriends throughout my life when I was bigger.
But feeling now, feeling how it feels to lose all
this weight and I'm continuing that, man, there you do
feel mentally and physically you feel better.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
The one that that really tripped me out because I
started my journey of being healthier. Probably this is years
back now at this point, I've always been someone that's
been pretty active. I grew up playing sports. I've always
liked working out. My dad was like a gym person,
so he got me into it. So but again, we
as we talked about before, working out into the gym
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is just like a small percentage of it. It's really
like what you consume. And you know, I was a
big like McDonald's person, Taco bell. I was a fast
food kid. It's just I was how I was being raised.
And I just had to tell myself I need to
stop like it was. It was bad. So I committed
to myself that I was like, I'm just not going
to do fast food anymore. It's just not gonna be
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my I'm cutting out McDonald's, I'm cutting out taco bell
and I've maintained that, and then every so often I'll
cut a little bit something out of my life. You know,
I don't want to eat that anymore. I'm cutting back
on sugar, or I'm not eating past a certain time,
or whatever the case may be. And I've seen the results.
And to your point, you feel better. Not only does
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it do you feel like you look better looking at yourself,
but just there's something about how you feel better, You
sleep better, you walk around better. Yeah, the biggest one
that I've seen, because I was somebody that was complete opposite.
I don't get sick anymore, and I was somebody that
got sick all the time. But I mean, it's proven
(29:27):
if you feed yourself right, you boost your immune system better,
you fight off those viruses more. Bro I hardly get sick.
And I was somebody that would get sick all the time,
like multiple times in a month, and it was so
annoying and I didn't want to believe it. And my
friend told me. And as soon as I started making
these healthier lifestyle changes and incorporating more fruits and vegetables
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and cutting out all the bad shit, it really did
boost my immune system. Because I hardly ever get sick anymore.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
It's crazy when flu season comes around and we see
than the building where it goes around the building.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
I don't even get a flu shot.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Well, you and I are always by ourselves in the building,
like we're the two that are not sick. Why is
everyone off because everyone called in sick.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
Yeah, we're the to that hurt in here.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah. Man, I've gotten to the point because I used
to be I used to get sick so much to
like I was kind of I had just an attitude
about it. I was like, I'm probably gonna get sick whatever.
I just kind of felt it. That's just how I
was because I was always sick as a baby and
as a kid growing up, So I just kind of
accepted being sick. But when I made this health lifestyle
change and I don't get sick anymore, I'm so cautious
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of it now, Like I don't ever want to be
around sick people. I'm so, what is it called like
a germophobe? Yeah, so, I you know, that's like a
big thing that I've seen with this healthy journey.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
By the way, I'm I'm still I'm again we're talking
about there's an end goal. I'm still trying to reach
this success so I'm still on this journey of the
health and well being, life's success goal. What I wanted, Well,
I had something that I was going to bring up
about about health. Yeah about man, I just had it
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into my head. But was it the mental I don't
remember now.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
The mental side is also a big thing that I
think I struggled with with like a lot, a lot
of negative energy.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
By the way, I remember, because now, yeah, you just
saying that, I remember, Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Okay, yeah, And that was something that I needed to
cut out my life. Is stop with the negative thoughts,
stop with the negative energy that I was getting, stop
complaining about something. And as soon as I decided to
make that change and see the positive in a lot
of things and not be so down of you know,
when life starts life and don't you know, don't go
into a hole and be sad about it. You gotta
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find the positive and everything. Man. That has been a
game changing for me too, because I feel so much
better mentally, not stressing so much about things in life,
because I would I would be depressed. Man, I would
come I'm sure you remember when I'd come into work
and I would just complain about things, and then you
would complain, and then we're just both complaining and just
to have that around you. The gossiping even is just
(32:12):
all it's just not good. And once you can cut
that out or at least limited again, you see the difference.
It's crazy. I was never a believer of any of
these things. I just thought people were bullshit, and you
really start to feel things once you start getting your
mental right and your health right. It's crazy.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
So the thing I remembered it kind of goes with
that is the mental stuff is being in therapy. I learned,
you know how I would say in my bigger years
that life is good, like I'm fine, But no, I've
learned that I was unhappy. I was unhappy inside, like
if I really looked into my soul, into my heart,
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I was an unhappy person. And it's again when you
experience it and feel the difference, diference of being in
a healthier state. It's mentally and physically, there's a difference.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
You realize, like, damn, there was times where I thought
I was happy then and maybe that was just like masked.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Another aspect people want to define life success is personal growth,
I think. Yeah, always learning something new I think is
an example for that. I think for me learning how
to play golf recently, so trying new hobbies. Also growing
as a person of you know, I won't go into detail,
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but we have conversations about me going on dates now
and trying new ways of being a new person instead
of being more shy and holding things back, not wanting
to be assertive with making plans.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Just little little changes I'm.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Making is making such a difference because personal growth, I'm
trying to be a better me.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
Basically, sometimes you got to get out of your comfort
zone too. That's one thing that I struggle with and yeah,
it's tough for me, and I have to force myself
to get uncomfortable essentially because when you can get uncomfortable
and just get yourself through it, you realize it wasn't
so bad and you could you can attack things a
little bit better.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
Yeah, So continuously learning, growing and improving yourself, I think
that's huge.
Speaker 3 (34:26):
Keep doing that.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
The last thing is like personal fulfillment, contribution to society.
This one I would like have to think about, like, wait,
am I contributing to society? Yeah? And it makes me
realize that us doing this podcast, being on the radio
for all these years, all the things that we've done
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in the community, because of the industry we're in, is
I think that's part of.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
It, right, Yeah. I mean it almost sounds like a
little bit of a hop out, like we're using our
job as like, oh, this contributes to society. But I
mean that there is something to that, you know, especially
being somebody on my end with my particular style of
of radio, I never like to bring negative stuff onto
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my show in regards to politics or anything like that,
anything that could maybe get people annoyed. I like to
be the the what do you go to, Like when
when people are filling down and they could just kind
of they can go to something to feel better about it,
like not like the comedic relief, but just something more.
I like to be more positive, Like so if you're
(35:38):
having a bad day, you know, I don't like to
make that worse. So I feel like what I do
with even this podcast or even the radio side of
it is to be shed light on things that are
more positive, more fun, more entertaining. The entertainment value is
like what I like to bring. I don't like to
I don't like to feed into negativity, even on social media,
(35:58):
because I know a lot of the clickbaity stuff is
always like a negative story, right, posting something negative to
get people to click on it, selling something negative to
want to want people to tune in. I just don't
like that. I don't like feeding into it. I never
victimized myself because I feel like even that could be
negative energy. I always like to just be more positive
(36:20):
in what I talk about and more entertaining, are more funny,
because that's just how I like to live my life now,
more so of having more positive energy, and so that's
what I like to bring over the airwaves. So I
don't know if that's helped. There's been situations where I've
talked at high schools. Used to go to high schools
and entertain high schools all the time. We did this,
and some of those people I've grown up and have
(36:42):
seen me out and like, I remember when you came
to my school, it was like such a good time.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
The anti bullying campaign.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Just something that I started. So I guess to your point, like, yeah,
I guess you could say that our job, we have
done those things I've read at schools before.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
So yeah, man, I mean just to wrap it up
and to recap. So basically personal fulfillment, feeling content and
satisfied with your life choices and achievements.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
There's not a monetary value today. It's just like what
I mean, are you happy?
Speaker 3 (37:15):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (37:16):
Life success, So be successful in all those from relationships,
career achievement, financial stability, health and wellbeing, personal growth and
contribution to society.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Man.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
So hopefully you guys got something out of that. Like
we said, people have their thoughts on how they're successful successful,
and that's great. That's I think that's what we're trying
to say.
Speaker 1 (37:43):
Yeah, don't compare yourself to somebody, because especially on social media,
because you know, a lot of that shit is just fake.
Everyone's you know, doing something for the gram, and you know,
don't compare yourself to those people. Compare yourself to your
own life. Like what you're doing, the job you're in,
the relationships that you have, the money that you're making.
Is that is that happiness for you? Can you sit
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there and be like, yes, I would like more. Obviously
we would all like more, even the richest of the
rich would like more. But if you like, you know,
if it's just all ended for you today, could you
look back and be like, yeah, that was. That was
a pretty good run. That was That was happiness for me.
I can see I can sit here and say yeah
it was
This could give me fire podcast? What up on? Just
that is John Magic? And we are back this one.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I mean, I'm hoping this should be a good episode
because I feel like we said this when we first started.
We were remember we were researching, like how this wasn't
the beginning.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
The beginning of our podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
Yeah, when we first started talking about doing a.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Podcast where we were googling like what makes a successful podcast?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
And one of the big you know, it's just like
good storytelling, and then the other thing is like teaching
the listener something. And I feel like it this has
the topic of the listener can get something out of this.
You know, it's almost like a recipe for our success.
(01:05):
And not to say this is what others have to do,
but if I got some of this information in my
younger days, I think it would have been helpful. You know.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So do you listen to those type of podcasts I
do where they're like, what would you call it, like
self help, life coach?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
That?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
I didn't even move my mic. It's probably gonna make
some noise on the podcast. That's how good nerds.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Well, let me just kind of preface why we even
thought of this topic to do for this episode. I
have a good friend who works for the county, one
of my really good friends, and he was telling me
how much, you know, he was getting paid. And when
he told me, my eyes were just like, am I
(01:50):
in the wrong business? Like it's it's almost I make
a quarter of what this guy's making. But the thing
that kind of hit me was he we have conversation
often how unhappy he is with.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
His job, but he's banking.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
He's banking, but he's unhappy, And it kind of makes
me think of our situation or just or I could
even just say my situation speaking for myself, of how
fortunate we are to be in this industry. We're doing
what we love to do and life is good. So
(02:31):
to me, in my mental it evens it out him
getting paid X amount of money but being unhappy, but
me getting paid less but being happy.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And I'm in an even playing field.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
And I know we're obviously going to get deeper into it,
but I think that's that's really where it's sad, the
balance of how you're living, your means and your happiness,
Like are those balanced enough?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
And I really think that's the key over all to success.
We're going to dive into some things on our personal
success and how we see it, but I think that's
the overall. The overall thing of this conversation is the
balance of your means, how you're living and are you happy? Yeah,
I think I think we can go from there.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I mean I wanted to see if you had a definition,
what your definition is for life success?
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Like what I tell people, I always just say, live
life to its fullest and be happy. And if whatever
that is for you, it may not be the same
for me or for you or for somebody else, but
if that's if that's where you feel you're at, like
you can. Obviously we're never going to be a one
hundred percent happy right Like, I don't think we're just
(03:48):
meant to be like that. We're always going to want
more or we're always going to want to be happier.
There's always going to be bad times. But if you
can honestly sit there and say, like I'm good where
I'm at in life and I'm happy and I'm living it,
I think that's success. Now, that doesn't necessarily mean like
it's you have to make a certain amount of money
or or you have to live in a certain place
(04:10):
or drive a certain car. I just think if that's
it's like, if that's the answer to your question, like
you ask yourself that question and you have an answer
of like yes, then I think that's success.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Are you?
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Are you the kind of person that thinks life is
short or life is long?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
I don't know that I could go either or sometimes
I do feel like, damn, life is short in a
sense of like you could die at anytime and there
is an expiration date on all of us. Yeah, but
then life is long if you like really look back
at it, like damn, Like I've been living for a
good time and there's been a hell of things that's
been in my life and that's happened in this world.
(04:51):
And I'm still young, I feel so. I don't know.
Maybe when it gets towards the end, I'll have a
better answer.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Okay, So I agree with that.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
I agree with everything you said, in particular with the
life is life long or life short?
Speaker 3 (05:06):
How you see it?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
I think we've always said this that what do we
always say to each other?
Speaker 3 (05:13):
It's been a great.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Run, Like we've done so much in our lives, the
things we've accomplished, the things we've experienced, it's.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Been a long life. But the part where.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
You know, where now I'm in the mindset of life
is short is maybe because my dad passing away and
I'm like twenty five years from there.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Yeah, so it doesn't feel that long, right.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yes, So to me, I've lately been my mindset is
life is short.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
I'm living it.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
Yeah. I think life is short in a sense of
like it feels like you're never going to do everything
you want to do or achieve everything that you want
to do, and that make life feels short, I think.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
But back to the life success definition, I agree with
everything you said. Well, I'll just shorten because you had
you had specifics, which was great. Yeah, life success is
different for different people. It's subjective, so it's what it's
kind of like what you said, it's what you Yeah,
So I actually, you know, I love Lately the big
(06:25):
thing is we've been using AI a lot, and I
kind of just put you know, life success on an
AI and it kind of breaks things down in different subjects,
and I think we could just go down and kind of.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Let's subject let's see what we talk about.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
You know, we didn't really plan this out, so I'll
give you the subject that AI said, and let's kind
of go from there.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
By the way, because we spoke a little bit about
this before we jumped on the pod. This is not
all going to be monetary, right like life success is
just everything about life is yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Right, yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
I think that's why we're not doing a get rich
scheme or we're not giving you the keys to make
more money. I think we're just talking about an overall
life with like relationships, money, how you're living, career, all that.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
So generally, generally life success can be broken down in
these following common aspects. We could start with career, our
career achievement. And we've always said how we feel like
we are successful in what we do, and I wanted
to talk about how we got there, Like how about you?
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Like, what do you like how I started in this industry?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
How do you feel like you succeeded? What did you what?
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I'll give you an example for me when I when
I remember as a kid's when I say a kid,
like high school, college, when radio started becoming a reality
of something possibly I could do. I didn't have a
plan B so that's something that I had. I don't
(07:59):
know if it was by act yeah or I or
if in my head I said there's.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
No plan B.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, but I didn't have a plan B. I was
going to succeed in this no matter what. So that's
something I did in my life.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
I I will say this, I'm thankful enough that I
have a career and not a job. I grew up
with my dad having a job, my mom having a job.
They didn't really they weren't really career people. And that's
no knock on them. Obviously they did good for themselves
and they raised me right. But I'm happy to say
(08:34):
that I've gotten into a career, and I've gotten into
a career that I've loved and that I'm happy with,
and I've been in it for this long. We were
just talking about my celebrated my twenty twentieth in this industry.
But what's crazy about this is this is something that
I never thought that I would do until I got
into college. I always thought that I was just going
to be like something in business. I mean, I took
(08:55):
business management in school, didn't really like it was kind
of going through the motion, was like even felling classes
because I just wasn't there. And during that time is
when I was doing my internship here at the radio station,
and that's when I started to realize that that radio
was something that I wanted to do because I've always
loved music growing up and to be just a small
piece in the music industry, so to speak, because there's
(09:18):
so many aspects to the music industry and radio was
just like one piece. And once I got here, it
was something that I fell in love with so much
that I just kind of, like what you said, no
plan B. I just decided that all chips in like this,
this is what I was going to pursue. Mind you,
When I was doing my internship here, like we didn't
get paid and I didn't have a side job. I
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was a full time student going to Fresno State, and
I was doing this on the side. I was luckily
to like still live at home with my family because
I was doing the full time thing at school, which
by the way, was paying for itself because I had
grants and stuff like that. So I was doing everything
the right way, so to speak. But once I got
into this and I knew that I could be good
(09:59):
at this, and I knew that it was something that
I loved and it could be a career and there
could be longevity into it. I just went all in
like I was. I wanted to know as much about
the business. I wanted to learn as much as about the business.
I wanted to, you know, freshen up my skills so
much so that I did the Kanye. I was a
college dropout. I dropped out, and what's crazy is I
(10:21):
was so close. I had not that many units to go,
but I was just like, I'm over it was I
was not happy. Put it that way. I could have
probably went through it, took some more classes, but I
was just I was not happy. I didn't want to.
My mind wasn't on it. My mind was just one
hundred percent here. And there has been times where you know,
my parents would ask me like, hey, you're not paying
(10:44):
no bills, you don't have a job that's giving you money,
Like maybe you need like maybe this isn't it. Maybe
you just need to get a job so you can
get money. And I was just like no, like no,
Like every answer was no. I was not going to
sacrifice what I wanted to do, which was this job,
this industry, and I just went full force in it,
(11:05):
and it's gotten me to where I'm at now twenty
years later.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
So this whole no Plan B thing that we're kind
of talking about, do you have an opinion on? You
kind of have to be real with yourself. Ah See,
I don't want to be negative about it. Meaning what
if there's someone that says, I want to be an
NBA basketball player. But it's almost like there has to
(11:32):
be a reality check, don't you think?
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Yeah, I mean there's obviously because that whole thing of like, oh,
you could be whatever you want to be, put your
mind to it. That's great in all and there is
positivity in that, but you also got to be realistic
about the situation. And I think that's where it's at. Like,
for radio, that was something that I realistically could do.
Being an NBA is something I realistically wasn't going to do.
(11:56):
So you have to be real with yourself and not
only find something that you want to do and you
love to do, but also figure out if you are
good at it.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Yeah, and also I'll piggyback to that.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
I think the work ethic is a big component to
this because if someone is unsure about let's let's go
back to the whole being an NBA player and they're
all they're gonna put all their chips into it. With
that particular skill set, the work ethic.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Has to be worldly.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Yeah, you have to follow some certain steps to get there,
and so I guess there's your possibility.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Yeah, like the movie Rudy.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
It is possible, but please know that you got to
put in a worldly amount of work ethic and work
to get to that goal.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
So go get it.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Then, you know, there's some people out there that are
naturally gifted with certain skills that kind of help them
get to where they want to be, which could be
like an NBA player, Like maybe you were born just
tall and so you have like a pretty good start,
right good yea. For me, I felt like I didn't
have the natural skills, especially for this job, being that
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you know, I'm an introvert. I didn't really like to talk.
I wasn't out going. I'm actually still that way. But
it was a skill that I was willing to work
hard at and to build. So my skills is what
got me here, and my skills was through my work ethic.
So I wasn't naturally like a funny person or just
like a good talker, but it was a skill that
(13:38):
I built through my internship. You know, maybe from you
or other people that I talked to, listening to other people,
and now I've gained this skill that's gotten me through
my career. But it was something that I had to
work with or work through, which was my work ethic.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
My work ethic was built as well too, meaning there
was a means you know there was an end.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Goal and you just did what.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
How I define my work ethic is doing whatever it
takes to get there. So obviously radio has a tie
to me being a DJ first when I was younger,
of all of just sacrificing carrying equipment, but with not
getting paid. So it's equivalent to like being an insern
(14:24):
with my mentors and just going to gigs with them
and just sitting there and watching them to finally doing
gigs but not getting paid, so doing a bunch of
free gigs. But it's because you know there's an end
goal to it, so you put in all these hours.
I think that's a big thing, is putting in hours,
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So it's equivalent to work. That's how you build your
work ethic is the hours and hours you put into
that specific thing that you want to do. And I
think you and I have built such good work ethic
no matter what we do, if it's not radio, we
will still have that work ethic. And I actually have
(15:06):
an example for that, and it happened during the pandemic
when I lost my radio job. The world shut down,
and a year later I got my friend was like, hey,
we're taking these paid volunteers to for the COVID vaccine.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
I remember you were the vaccinations I was.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
I was. I was an administrator.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
So basically anything from organizing the crowd line because thousands
of people showed up to the computer of getting all
the information in and then the nurses would do the vaccine.
But I bring this up because you know we were
I wasn't doing anything for a year. There was everything
(15:55):
was closed. So I was like, yes, I will take
this job because I just want to go do something,
whatever it is.
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Anything. So I ended up taking this job and I
embraced it.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
I mean, like, you're gonna work hard at a record.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Not to like too of my own horn.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
But the managers there that put together this thing, they
were like, can you be After like one week, they
were like, you're gonna be a lead. You're gonna lead
this group. And they made me a lead because of
my work ethic of me showing up on time, all
that I was there before anyone else and thinking of
(16:37):
strategies of making the workflow better, of the line better
and stuff like that. And I would just come up
with all these things, and I bring this up. It's
not my passion, it's not radio. It was boring work.
It was it was five six hours of just boring work.
But my work ethic is what got I mean, the
(17:00):
lead position and all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
So I feel like, you got to build great work ethic.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
I think I'm somebody that what keeps me never like
really worried is I just super believe in myself. Like
I feel like at the end of the day, no
matter what the situation is or what I'm put into,
I'm going to figure it out. And that confidence, I
think is because of the work ethic that I'm never
(17:26):
like worried about what's going to happen to me because
I just know I'll figure it out some way.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
To switch things up to the next thing.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
It kind of, you know, transitions to that I thought
I've had recently in the past year, is was I
married to my job? Because I've been doing this for
twenty five years the same industry, and it kind of
I feel like for myself, it hurt my relationship goal
(17:57):
of sharing my life with a partner, and so that's
also on the list of life success is relationships, but
not only with a partner but with friends too. I
wonder if I was so married to my career that
is that why I'm lacking in that in that aspect
(18:18):
of my life that I haven't achieved yet. So I'm
still searching for relationship success. I've been in relationships. I
have ex girlfriends, but they were all unsuccessful. But I
think for me, what I did was go to therapy
and learning more about myself. So I'm hoping that that
are those are my steps to achieve relationship success.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Well, I think in that situation because for the same
for me is I think that was what was important
to us. So, you know, you can't really you can
balance things, but if you want to be good at
something or great at something, you have to go in
all in on one thing.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
Damn.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
And I think, you know, you hear about it all
the time with these famous people, and I watched these
documentaries and they almost all have the same thing where
you know, maybe they weren't there when their kids were born,
or they didn't where they weren't really in their kids'
lives as much. And they're just like, because of my job,
like I love doing I doing, and I just went
one hundred percent on being an actor or a musician,
(19:19):
and I just really wasn't there for my kids. And
obviously they feel bad about it. And you hear about
these stories about these kids and their famous parents, and
it's just like they just went all in and they
sacrificed a family because of their passion of whatever industry
they're in. And I felt like that was what I did,
which is why I never had kids and you know,
(19:40):
didn't have girlfriends because I was one hundred percent invested
in this. So I think that was the same for you,
which I don't think was necessarily bad, because look where
it's gotten you. Now. Maybe you're at the point in
your life where you'd like to have a little bit
more balance, and maybe since you're so you know, you're
in this industry so deep that you can balance it
all a little bit. But I just think that's where
(20:02):
it's at. It's it's hard to do everything one hundred percent,
meaning it's hard to be one hundred percent the best
husband or one hundred percent the best father, and also
be one hundred percent the best in your career because
something has to get sacrificed a little bit.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Here's something that I'm recently going through and it has
something to do with relationships, but with your friends.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Okay, So.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
I feel like I feel like you do hold yourself
back from success from that aspect in relationships with friends.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
If you keep.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
How can I put this, like if you're surround if
you keep surrounding yourself with people that don't progress your life.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
And surround yourself with like minded people.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Well that and also I had to not be friends
with some friends. I don't want to say I drop them,
but the relationship has to chane because they they were
stressing you out more than moving you forward and making
you happy in life. So I think that's important. And
(21:10):
to have a successful relationship with friends is keep the
ones that keep you happy and keep you moving forward
in your life. If that whole thing, I think it's
real when people say.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
Like, yo, you're holding you back.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Yeah, Like if you have a friend that's holding you back,
you really have to think about that friendship.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Yeah, I mean I did that. I think We even
talked about this on a podcast where you know, where
we wanted to kind of switch up and be more
positive and positive energy and only give that to the
people they were giving it to you. And I think
I've made that move over the years of you know,
call it what you want of quote unquote, you know,
cutting people out of your life. Yeah, but it was
(21:51):
more or less just like, no, I'm not going to
invest in those friendships if like I feel like they're
not investing back or they're not really doing anything for
my life. And I don't mean that as in like
a come up way, but like what are you, like,
how are you as a person and is that like
is that doing anything for me as a friend? Like
if you're if I'm going so hard in my career
and I'm you know, doing all these positive things and
(22:12):
you're like kind of a lazy friend, I don't know
if I want to be hanging out with someone like that.
And so I've made that changes. I've made that change,
and luckily enough, a lot of our friends are kind
of the people that we work with and kind of
have those same goals that we do, so that's helped.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Yeah, I think that's what I like about our circle
is like like minded individuals.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Also we share a lot of the same values and
what's the word I'm looking for, like things to do
and stuff hobbies? Yeah so yeah, So choose your friends wisely.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
I guess surround yourself with like minded people and people
that are not going to hold you back or people
that you constantly have to be therefore because they're making
bad decisions, And it's like, why is your dumb decisions
shouldn't be affecting my life? Because if I'm because now
you're like bullshit, is starting to become like my bullshit
and it shouldn't be that way.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Another aspect to life success that people kind of define
is financial stability. And this is a topic we've talked
about before. How you and I are savers've I got
it from my mom. My mom is who raised me
to like save money. I don't know if that's toxic
(23:28):
or not, but I mean, I'm reaping the benefits of
living that way. To the point, the joke I always
make is throughout my adult life, majority of my adult
life credit cards. I thought, once you use a credit
card to me, it was normal to pay it in
(23:48):
full because that's how my mom taught me. It was
It was late later in life when I found out
people paid like just the minimum and I was like, oh, way,
you can do that.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
I didn't know you could do that.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I mean, I wouldn't recommend it.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
Well it's too late. I don't live that way.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, so I have less stress from it. I guess
since we're in this subject, are you? Are you a
believer of what's the saying?
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Money?
Speaker 2 (24:16):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (24:16):
Money doesn't make you? What's that?
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Money makes you happy? Money buy you happiness? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (24:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah? Does money buy me happiness to an extent? Yeah?
Because I think I'm more happy now than if I
was broke, and having money gives me the security of
things that I want, or it gives me the security
things that I need. So I am a believer of,
like happy, money does buy you happiness to an extent.
(24:43):
And if anybody doesn't say that, then it's just like, well,
I mean, are broke people happy? I mean, you know,
I mean to struggle is not fun.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Here's what I'll say about that. I don't want to
buy into the whole. Money can buy you happiness. Money
makes money makes you less stress? Maybe less not not? Wait,
stress is not the way I was looking for you
worry less. It's something you're not worried about, gotcha. Yeah,
So it takes that out that in return makes you happy. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
Now I think when people say that, they think, like, oh,
you know, you bought a new shiny toy or whatever.
That's like makes you happy. And it's like, that's not
what I mean. When I say money makes me happy.
I mean more of like how you put it, having
the money and the means makes me happy that I
don't have to stress living paycheck to paycheck or when
am I going to get my next you know what meal,
(25:33):
or whatever the case may be. So that's what I
mean by money makes me happy. And obviously buying the
little things is like little happy things on the way.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
But there's the other side of it, because again this
is subjective. There's people that are happy when they use
their money for things they want in their lives to
make them happy to maybe their personalities are different where
(26:02):
living paycheck to paycheck doesn't stress them out. So if
that doesn't stress them out, they're happy because they're using
their money for what they want.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Yeah, and if that works for them, if fine, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
For sure, So that's they're successful in that.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yeah, so then that would be their story essentially. For me,
I can't live that way. I you know my mom too,
she taught me how to save. I saved growing all
the way up, and when I got to an adult,
I felt like I had a nice start with the
money that I had saved. And now I can kind
of live happy with the money that I've saved and
balanced the things that I buy and feel comfortable. But
(26:41):
if you're someone that is not like that, but you're
still happy, then that's fine.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Another aspect into life success that people define life success
is their health and well being. You know, I'm recently,
just this passing months, I've been in therapy.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
For me.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
That's been a game changer for me. I'm not trying
to say for everyone to do that. I've only heard
positive things about people going to therapy, so I can
say from my experience it's been a game changer for me.
But not only that physically. And we've talked about this
in past podcasts. We always say that where I've lost,
(27:23):
you know, so much weight, and it's wild because I've
been pretty much my adult life, I've been a big
guy and life has been like what we said, life
is good.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
My career was good.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
I was getting girls when it comes to that aspect,
I had girlfriends throughout my life when I was bigger.
But feeling now, feeling how it feels to lose all
this weight and I'm continuing that, man, there you do
feel mentally and physically you feel better.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
The one that that really tripped me out because I
started my journey of being healthier. Probably this is years
back now at this point, I've always been someone that's
been pretty active. I grew up playing sports. I've always
liked working out. My dad was like a gym person,
so he got me into it. So but again, we
as we talked about before, working out into the gym
(28:22):
is just like a small percentage of it. It's really
like what you consume. And you know, I was a
big like McDonald's person, Taco bell. I was a fast
food kid. It's just I was how I was being raised.
And I just had to tell myself I need to
stop like it was. It was bad. So I committed
to myself that I was like, I'm just not going
to do fast food anymore. It's just not gonna be
(28:44):
my I'm cutting out McDonald's, I'm cutting out taco bell
and I've maintained that, and then every so often I'll
cut a little bit something out of my life. You know,
I don't want to eat that anymore. I'm cutting back
on sugar, or I'm not eating past a certain time,
or whatever the case may be. And I've seen the results.
And to your point, you feel better. Not only does
(29:07):
it do you feel like you look better looking at yourself,
but just there's something about how you feel better, You
sleep better, you walk around better. Yeah, the biggest one
that I've seen, because I was somebody that was complete opposite.
I don't get sick anymore, and I was somebody that
got sick all the time. But I mean, it's proven
(29:27):
if you feed yourself right, you boost your immune system better,
you fight off those viruses more. Bro I hardly get sick.
And I was somebody that would get sick all the time,
like multiple times in a month, and it was so
annoying and I didn't want to believe it. And my
friend told me. And as soon as I started making
these healthier lifestyle changes and incorporating more fruits and vegetables
(29:49):
and cutting out all the bad shit, it really did
boost my immune system. Because I hardly ever get sick anymore.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
It's crazy when flu season comes around and we see
than the building where it goes around the building.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
I don't even get a flu shot.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Well, you and I are always by ourselves in the building,
like we're the two that are not sick. Why is
everyone off because everyone called in sick.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
Yeah, we're the to that hurt in here.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Yeah. Man, I've gotten to the point because I used
to be I used to get sick so much to
like I was kind of I had just an attitude
about it. I was like, I'm probably gonna get sick whatever.
I just kind of felt it. That's just how I
was because I was always sick as a baby and
as a kid growing up, So I just kind of
accepted being sick. But when I made this health lifestyle
change and I don't get sick anymore, I'm so cautious
(30:35):
of it now, Like I don't ever want to be
around sick people. I'm so, what is it called like
a germophobe? Yeah, so, I you know, that's like a
big thing that I've seen with this healthy journey.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
By the way, I'm I'm still I'm again we're talking
about there's an end goal. I'm still trying to reach
this success so I'm still on this journey of the
health and well being, life's success goal. What I wanted, Well,
I had something that I was going to bring up
about about health. Yeah about man, I just had it
(31:12):
into my head. But was it the mental I don't
remember now.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
The mental side is also a big thing that I
think I struggled with with like a lot, a lot
of negative energy.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
By the way, I remember, because now, yeah, you just
saying that, I remember, Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Okay, yeah, And that was something that I needed to
cut out my life. Is stop with the negative thoughts,
stop with the negative energy that I was getting, stop
complaining about something. And as soon as I decided to
make that change and see the positive in a lot
of things and not be so down of you know,
when life starts life and don't you know, don't go
into a hole and be sad about it. You gotta
(31:49):
find the positive and everything. Man. That has been a
game changing for me too, because I feel so much
better mentally, not stressing so much about things in life,
because I would I would be depressed. Man, I would
come I'm sure you remember when I'd come into work
and I would just complain about things, and then you
would complain, and then we're just both complaining and just
to have that around you. The gossiping even is just
(32:12):
all it's just not good. And once you can cut
that out or at least limited again, you see the difference.
It's crazy. I was never a believer of any of
these things. I just thought people were bullshit, and you
really start to feel things once you start getting your
mental right and your health right. It's crazy.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (32:29):
So the thing I remembered it kind of goes with
that is the mental stuff is being in therapy. I learned,
you know how I would say in my bigger years
that life is good, like I'm fine, But no, I've
learned that I was unhappy. I was unhappy inside, like
if I really looked into my soul, into my heart,
(32:52):
I was an unhappy person. And it's again when you
experience it and feel the difference, diference of being in
a healthier state. It's mentally and physically, there's a difference.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
You realize, like, damn, there was times where I thought
I was happy then and maybe that was just like masked.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Another aspect people want to define life success is personal growth,
I think. Yeah, always learning something new I think is
an example for that. I think for me learning how
to play golf recently, so trying new hobbies. Also growing
as a person of you know, I won't go into detail,
(33:39):
but we have conversations about me going on dates now
and trying new ways of being a new person instead
of being more shy and holding things back, not wanting
to be assertive with making plans.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Just little little changes I'm.
Speaker 2 (33:57):
Making is making such a difference because personal growth, I'm
trying to be a better me.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
Basically, sometimes you got to get out of your comfort
zone too. That's one thing that I struggle with and yeah,
it's tough for me, and I have to force myself
to get uncomfortable essentially because when you can get uncomfortable
and just get yourself through it, you realize it wasn't
so bad and you could you can attack things a
little bit better.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
Yeah, So continuously learning, growing and improving yourself, I think
that's huge.
Speaker 3 (34:26):
Keep doing that.
Speaker 2 (34:28):
The last thing is like personal fulfillment, contribution to society.
This one I would like have to think about, like, wait,
am I contributing to society? Yeah? And it makes me
realize that us doing this podcast, being on the radio
for all these years, all the things that we've done
(34:51):
in the community, because of the industry we're in, is
I think that's part of.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
It, right, Yeah. I mean it almost sounds like a
little bit of a hop out, like we're using our
job as like, oh, this contributes to society. But I
mean that there is something to that, you know, especially
being somebody on my end with my particular style of
of radio, I never like to bring negative stuff onto
(35:17):
my show in regards to politics or anything like that,
anything that could maybe get people annoyed. I like to
be the the what do you go to, Like when
when people are filling down and they could just kind
of they can go to something to feel better about it,
like not like the comedic relief, but just something more.
I like to be more positive, Like so if you're
(35:38):
having a bad day, you know, I don't like to
make that worse. So I feel like what I do
with even this podcast or even the radio side of
it is to be shed light on things that are
more positive, more fun, more entertaining. The entertainment value is
like what I like to bring. I don't like to
I don't like to feed into negativity, even on social media,
(35:58):
because I know a lot of the clickbaity stuff is
always like a negative story, right, posting something negative to
get people to click on it, selling something negative to
want to want people to tune in. I just don't
like that. I don't like feeding into it. I never
victimized myself because I feel like even that could be
negative energy. I always like to just be more positive
(36:20):
in what I talk about and more entertaining, are more funny,
because that's just how I like to live my life now,
more so of having more positive energy, and so that's
what I like to bring over the airwaves. So I
don't know if that's helped. There's been situations where I've
talked at high schools. Used to go to high schools
and entertain high schools all the time. We did this,
and some of those people I've grown up and have
(36:42):
seen me out and like, I remember when you came
to my school, it was like such a good time.
Speaker 3 (36:46):
The anti bullying campaign.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Just something that I started. So I guess to your point, like, yeah,
I guess you could say that our job, we have
done those things I've read at schools before.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
So yeah, man, I mean just to wrap it up
and to recap. So basically personal fulfillment, feeling content and
satisfied with your life choices and achievements.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
There's not a monetary value today. It's just like what
I mean, are you happy?
Speaker 3 (37:15):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (37:16):
Life success, So be successful in all those from relationships,
career achievement, financial stability, health and wellbeing, personal growth and
contribution to society.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
Man.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
So hopefully you guys got something out of that. Like
we said, people have their thoughts on how they're successful successful,
and that's great. That's I think that's what we're trying
to say.
Speaker 1 (37:43):
Yeah, don't compare yourself to somebody, because especially on social media,
because you know, a lot of that shit is just fake.
Everyone's you know, doing something for the gram, and you know,
don't compare yourself to those people. Compare yourself to your
own life. Like what you're doing, the job you're in,
the relationships that you have, the money that you're making.
Is that is that happiness for you? Can you sit
(38:04):
there and be like, yes, I would like more. Obviously
we would all like more, even the richest of the
rich would like more. But if you like, you know,
if it's just all ended for you today, could you
look back and be like, yeah, that was. That was
a pretty good run. That was That was happiness for me.
I can see I can sit here and say yeah
it was
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