April 16, 2025 • 10 mins
Easter is all about family, connection, and tradition—but what happens when getting there feels more like an obligation than a celebration? In this heartfelt episode, we follow one person's inner struggle as they face an 8-hour drive to join their family for the holiday. Torn between the guilt of not showing up and the exhaustion of always being the one to make the trip, they reflect on what Easter really means, and whether being present is always about being there in person.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're waking up with kids in the morning. Kiss the morning.
So I had a conversation with a colleague of mine
over zoom yesterday and she was not complaining at all,
but just kind of like about the Eastern holiday because
she has to drive four hours one direction and four
(00:21):
hours another direction to spend time with her family because
they won't accommodate her. And I was like, huh huh.
I've got my thoughts on my take on that, and
we've already got talkbacks in phone calls lined up on this.
So I have a feeling there's going to be a
lot of different sides to this. So we'll start with you.
Good morning, you're on the air.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Go to AutoZone in Newport and they will do it
for you.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Okay, Well they also like do they they put the
white person long again? Okay?
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Tell them what model your car is. Okay, I'll show
you different brands that they have at different cost points.
I literally just did mine last week.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Okay, okay, and.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Then amazing, he was the manager. It was raining, and
he was like, you needed this instant putting them on.
I said, if you have the time, I would greatly
appreciate it. And he's like, yeah, it's no problem at all.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
I'm little going out and two minutes later popped them off,
popped them on, and I was good to go. He's
to test them out, make sure they don't fly off,
you know, while you're driving down the road.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Okay, I'm literally just a growl perfect.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
I am literally.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
I really tried. I went in and out of Walmart
two or three times. Then I had to return them.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Mm hm, which is the worst returning to anything. It's
just awful.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
What was your name when neighborhod he waken. I'm a man, Lauren, Lauren.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I'm in northern Hyzecky Lauren.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I really do appreciate that we're going to talk about
Easter and family and such. Just quick update for me
plans on Easter. Do you have a mother in law
that's like you must come to whatever it is. I'm
throwing like, what's the status on that.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I don't have a mother in law who's like that.
We usually host if we're doing anything with my husband's
side of the family.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Okay, And since COVID, my husband has realized that if
he doesn't leave the house for holidays, the world doesn't stop.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay, I like that. Take Lauren caught me talking about
my windshield wipe in the beginning of the hour and
how I'm having a hard time changing them. So that's
what that initial part of the conversation was, if you're
just walking into it. And I also wanted to get
her take on the Easter them. So I'm on the
phone with my colleague and she's coming down from Chicago
to just south of Dayton for her family's Easter, and
(02:17):
she's kind, she's not complaining, but she's like, like, it's
four hours one direction. And I had asked my aunt, Hey,
do you mind shifting this date to Saturday where this,
you know, so we can we don't have to drive
essentially let's say six and a half seven hours in
one day, just to be around our family in the
aunt let's call her Aunt Karen. She was like, no, nope,
(02:41):
We're going to keep everything moving on a Sunday. And
I have so many thoughts on this, and I'm wondering
if you're gonna sit in your car right now and
you're like, tif, like, you're not married, you don't have kids.
You know, when you get there it might be a
different situation. But I don't see myself and maybe I'm
(03:05):
gonna be the worst daughter in law on the planet someday,
But if it doesn't work out, I'm I'm not gonna stress.
I'm not going to stress out over it. Because I
had proposed this to her and I was like, well,
it just seems so clear to me to be like, hey,
it's Easter Sunday. You're an adult with vacation time. Do
you want to use it to drive the eight hours
(03:25):
in one day to be around for some Cadbury eggs?
Or can you go off with your newly married husband
they've been married about five or so months and start
your own traditions and create your own holidays together. And
she was almost like, oh my god, No, I could
never do that. And I'm like, really, five one three
(03:45):
seven four nine to one oh seven one, or utilize
that talkback feature as well. Do you come up against
this a lot with your family? And are you going
to do this for Easter? Good Morning? I like that
I'm getting talkbacks right out the gate on this one.
To participate and be a part of the TIF and
the more community you can talk back with TIV when
you search kiss one oh seven one on the iHeartRadio app.
The microphone is in the top right hand corner. That
(04:07):
is where we're gonna start. We're chatting about Easter.
Speaker 4 (04:10):
As long as I've been married to my husband, no
matter where we've lived, whether it's an hour away or
four hours away, his mother always wants us to drive
up there for every holiday. We try to rotate, but
it's never worked. And sometimes I just feel like I'm
missing out on the memories that I could make in
my own home with my children.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Bingo. Thank you for that take, because that's how I feel.
And I'm not in the category of married or kids yet,
so I'm free to make my own decisions that are
best for me, right, you know. And I try to
obviously make them for community and family. But I don't
have family here in Cincinnati. Mine is spread across Florida
(04:50):
in Massachusetts, so I don't ever come up against this
for let's say a holiday like Easter. And if you're
just walking into this conversation, you two can contribute. I
was chit chatting about a colleague of mine. We were
on a zoom call yesterday and she's like, well, I'm
gonna drive three and a half hours from Chicago to
Dayton in one day. Because of Easter, so I'm curious
(05:10):
what your take is on this. You can also utilize
our phone line as well. Five win three seven four nine,
one oh seven one. Good morning, you're waking up with
TIF in the morning, I kissed one oh seven one.
We're not far off from the three things you need
to know to get your day started in since he
coming up around seven fifty ish this morning, we'll dive
into the Savannah Bananas coming to Cincinnati in June. But
we're in the midst of talking about the Easter holiday
(05:33):
and if you've come up against something similar that a
colleague of mine and I were chatting about yesterday, where
she has to drive from Chicago to Dayton and back
in one day to spend time with family for the
holiday because they won't come to her and they also
won't shift the date around. But there's this like layer
(05:53):
of guilt that wait a minute, well, I can't tell
my mother in law or I can't tell my own
mother that I'm not going to be there for Easter
because she'll be really upset with me. She'll be offended.
Yet I'm the one that has to drive seven hours
in one day. Good morning, you're on the Air.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Hey, good morning.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
I was just calling about the Easter holiday situation.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I'm curious.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
My sister invited me to come to Iowa for a
surprise birthday party for my father, but refused to do
it on Saturday, so I have to drive in basically
drive in kind of the party and leave with just
one night so I can relate.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Yeah, and I bet you're kind of like, no, it
is what it is, But can you not see where
I'm coming from?
Speaker 4 (06:38):
Right?
Speaker 5 (06:38):
And this was planned months in advance, so there was
no reason, you know, she couldn't do it on Saturday,
but she just said, nope, it has to be Easter.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
And I was like, okay, So I just had to
call in and say that I appreciate you. What's your name?
What neighborhood you wake it up with me?
Speaker 5 (06:50):
And Kenna?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
And I'm from Waynesville, Kenna, And I'm fresh off the
heels of feeling a little like salty from some of
my Boston friends putting an effort to come visit me.
So I have this kind of like maybe jaded view
on this, but I feel like this happens a lot
in families where the mother in law or your own
mother won't give up the fact that you can't not
(07:13):
drive to them for holidays or birthdays, like it's never reciprocated,
And if you want to spend the time with them,
you have to be the one to put yourself out
and your family and your kids out to do it.
And when you do that, I feel like you miss
out on a lot of like great memories at your
own home.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yep, I agree.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Well, thanks for the take. You know, that's why I
kind of run the show the way I do topic
based conversation because there's always varying opinions on whatever it
is any given day that we're talking about. So thanks
for your insight on that one. In the meantime, we're
still commercial free. Don't let your son marry me, because
I will be coming to your house on Eastern Good Morning.
You're waking up with Tip in the morning on Kiss
(07:50):
one oh seven one. I'm thinking back to when Pink
was at Great American Ballpark two summers ago. That was
suck a good show. God, I wish she was coming back.
It's funny we were just talking about Great American Ballpark
because of Savannah Bananas. They announced that their two dates
(08:12):
have been sold out officially.
Speaker 6 (08:14):
Everyone's drinking water, right, I have to mom you for
a second, there is water in beer.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
All right, guess so no sep one is commercial free
for the rest of the hour. I appreciate you having
tiff in the morning on I want to check one
of our talkbacks that we didn't get to from our
last hour about the Easter conversation. Let's see what we
get this morning.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
So with our family, they're like eight hours away, so
both sides just try to make it work sometimes. But
like during the holidays, if we're gonna go down for
like a big one like Easter, Christmas, whatever, we usually
go like a day or two before and just spend
the night with them. I mean that way, we get
more quality time with our family and we don't have
(08:57):
to worry just about that one specific day. And then
that one specific day they know we're leaving early and
they're usually okay with it.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I like your take on that one, if you're just
walking into the conversation. I was chatting with a colleague
yesterday and she was saying that she was a little
frustrated with her family because she's got to drive almost
eight hours in one day to see them for Easter.
Coming from Chicago to Dayton and back. She's like, can't
I have this like layer of guilt of not being
(09:27):
there because I want to be there, but I also
feel like that's a lot. And so we were just
kind of going back and forth on that one. We
got time for one more call higher on the.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Air, So I have kind of a different take on it.
I was the same way.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
I would kind of get frustrated with running here, running
there because we're a split family both sides, and then
we ended up losing his mother in law and my father,
so now our kids, it's just different.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
We have nowhere to go, and I don't know, it's
kind of sad. So there's a little different look for
you guys.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Okay, so you are saying, if if I'm hearing this correctly,
you're like, just buck up and do it and spend
the time with your family while you can't.
Speaker 7 (10:08):
Yeah, because you will miss it absolutely, no matter how
stressful it is. I know the day of is like
so rough, but when they're not here anymore, you feel empty.
That's the time for you to have your own traditions,
you know.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Okay, Well, thank you for the call. I do appreciate that,
you know, I hope my take wasn't too annoying. I
just don't like it when my friends feel guilty about something. Anyways,
we'll table this commercial free. Your chance to win Nelly
tickets coming up at eight thirty
You're waking up with kids in the morning. Kiss the morning.
So I had a conversation with a colleague of mine
over zoom yesterday and she was not complaining at all,
but just kind of like about the Eastern holiday because
she has to drive four hours one direction and four
(00:21):
hours another direction to spend time with her family because
they won't accommodate her. And I was like, huh huh.
I've got my thoughts on my take on that, and
we've already got talkbacks in phone calls lined up on this.
So I have a feeling there's going to be a
lot of different sides to this. So we'll start with you.
Good morning, you're on the air.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Go to AutoZone in Newport and they will do it
for you.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Okay, Well they also like do they they put the
white person long again? Okay?
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Tell them what model your car is. Okay, I'll show
you different brands that they have at different cost points.
I literally just did mine last week.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Okay, okay, and.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Then amazing, he was the manager. It was raining, and
he was like, you needed this instant putting them on.
I said, if you have the time, I would greatly
appreciate it. And he's like, yeah, it's no problem at all.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
I'm little going out and two minutes later popped them off,
popped them on, and I was good to go. He's
to test them out, make sure they don't fly off,
you know, while you're driving down the road.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Okay, I'm literally just a growl perfect.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
I am literally.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
I really tried. I went in and out of Walmart
two or three times. Then I had to return them.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Mm hm, which is the worst returning to anything. It's
just awful.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
What was your name when neighborhod he waken. I'm a man, Lauren, Lauren.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I'm in northern Hyzecky Lauren.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I really do appreciate that we're going to talk about
Easter and family and such. Just quick update for me
plans on Easter. Do you have a mother in law
that's like you must come to whatever it is. I'm
throwing like, what's the status on that.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I don't have a mother in law who's like that.
We usually host if we're doing anything with my husband's
side of the family.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Okay, And since COVID, my husband has realized that if
he doesn't leave the house for holidays, the world doesn't stop.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay, I like that. Take Lauren caught me talking about
my windshield wipe in the beginning of the hour and
how I'm having a hard time changing them. So that's
what that initial part of the conversation was, if you're
just walking into it. And I also wanted to get
her take on the Easter them. So I'm on the
phone with my colleague and she's coming down from Chicago
to just south of Dayton for her family's Easter, and
(02:17):
she's kind, she's not complaining, but she's like, like, it's
four hours one direction. And I had asked my aunt, Hey,
do you mind shifting this date to Saturday where this,
you know, so we can we don't have to drive
essentially let's say six and a half seven hours in
one day, just to be around our family in the
aunt let's call her Aunt Karen. She was like, no, nope,
(02:41):
We're going to keep everything moving on a Sunday. And
I have so many thoughts on this, and I'm wondering
if you're gonna sit in your car right now and
you're like, tif, like, you're not married, you don't have kids.
You know, when you get there it might be a
different situation. But I don't see myself and maybe I'm
(03:05):
gonna be the worst daughter in law on the planet someday,
But if it doesn't work out, I'm I'm not gonna stress.
I'm not going to stress out over it. Because I
had proposed this to her and I was like, well,
it just seems so clear to me to be like, hey,
it's Easter Sunday. You're an adult with vacation time. Do
you want to use it to drive the eight hours
(03:25):
in one day to be around for some Cadbury eggs?
Or can you go off with your newly married husband
they've been married about five or so months and start
your own traditions and create your own holidays together. And
she was almost like, oh my god, No, I could
never do that. And I'm like, really, five one three
(03:45):
seven four nine to one oh seven one, or utilize
that talkback feature as well. Do you come up against
this a lot with your family? And are you going
to do this for Easter? Good Morning? I like that
I'm getting talkbacks right out the gate on this one.
To participate and be a part of the TIF and
the more community you can talk back with TIV when
you search kiss one oh seven one on the iHeartRadio app.
The microphone is in the top right hand corner. That
(04:07):
is where we're gonna start. We're chatting about Easter.
Speaker 4 (04:10):
As long as I've been married to my husband, no
matter where we've lived, whether it's an hour away or
four hours away, his mother always wants us to drive
up there for every holiday. We try to rotate, but
it's never worked. And sometimes I just feel like I'm
missing out on the memories that I could make in
my own home with my children.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Bingo. Thank you for that take, because that's how I feel.
And I'm not in the category of married or kids yet,
so I'm free to make my own decisions that are
best for me, right, you know. And I try to
obviously make them for community and family. But I don't
have family here in Cincinnati. Mine is spread across Florida
(04:50):
in Massachusetts, so I don't ever come up against this
for let's say a holiday like Easter. And if you're
just walking into this conversation, you two can contribute. I
was chit chatting about a colleague of mine. We were
on a zoom call yesterday and she's like, well, I'm
gonna drive three and a half hours from Chicago to
Dayton in one day. Because of Easter, so I'm curious
(05:10):
what your take is on this. You can also utilize
our phone line as well. Five win three seven four nine,
one oh seven one. Good morning, you're waking up with
TIF in the morning, I kissed one oh seven one.
We're not far off from the three things you need
to know to get your day started in since he
coming up around seven fifty ish this morning, we'll dive
into the Savannah Bananas coming to Cincinnati in June. But
we're in the midst of talking about the Easter holiday
(05:33):
and if you've come up against something similar that a
colleague of mine and I were chatting about yesterday, where
she has to drive from Chicago to Dayton and back
in one day to spend time with family for the
holiday because they won't come to her and they also
won't shift the date around. But there's this like layer
(05:53):
of guilt that wait a minute, well, I can't tell
my mother in law or I can't tell my own
mother that I'm not going to be there for Easter
because she'll be really upset with me. She'll be offended.
Yet I'm the one that has to drive seven hours
in one day. Good morning, you're on the Air.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Hey, good morning.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
I was just calling about the Easter holiday situation.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I'm curious.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
My sister invited me to come to Iowa for a
surprise birthday party for my father, but refused to do
it on Saturday, so I have to drive in basically
drive in kind of the party and leave with just
one night so I can relate.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
Yeah, and I bet you're kind of like, no, it
is what it is, But can you not see where
I'm coming from?
Speaker 4 (06:38):
Right?
Speaker 5 (06:38):
And this was planned months in advance, so there was
no reason, you know, she couldn't do it on Saturday,
but she just said, nope, it has to be Easter.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
And I was like, okay, So I just had to
call in and say that I appreciate you. What's your name?
What neighborhood you wake it up with me?
Speaker 5 (06:50):
And Kenna?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
And I'm from Waynesville, Kenna, And I'm fresh off the
heels of feeling a little like salty from some of
my Boston friends putting an effort to come visit me.
So I have this kind of like maybe jaded view
on this, but I feel like this happens a lot
in families where the mother in law or your own
mother won't give up the fact that you can't not
(07:13):
drive to them for holidays or birthdays, like it's never reciprocated,
And if you want to spend the time with them,
you have to be the one to put yourself out
and your family and your kids out to do it.
And when you do that, I feel like you miss
out on a lot of like great memories at your
own home.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yep, I agree.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Well, thanks for the take. You know, that's why I
kind of run the show the way I do topic
based conversation because there's always varying opinions on whatever it
is any given day that we're talking about. So thanks
for your insight on that one. In the meantime, we're
still commercial free. Don't let your son marry me, because
I will be coming to your house on Eastern Good Morning.
You're waking up with Tip in the morning on Kiss
(07:50):
one oh seven one. I'm thinking back to when Pink
was at Great American Ballpark two summers ago. That was
suck a good show. God, I wish she was coming back.
It's funny we were just talking about Great American Ballpark
because of Savannah Bananas. They announced that their two dates
(08:12):
have been sold out officially.
Speaker 6 (08:14):
Everyone's drinking water, right, I have to mom you for
a second, there is water in beer.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
All right, guess so no sep one is commercial free
for the rest of the hour. I appreciate you having
tiff in the morning on I want to check one
of our talkbacks that we didn't get to from our
last hour about the Easter conversation. Let's see what we
get this morning.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
So with our family, they're like eight hours away, so
both sides just try to make it work sometimes. But
like during the holidays, if we're gonna go down for
like a big one like Easter, Christmas, whatever, we usually
go like a day or two before and just spend
the night with them. I mean that way, we get
more quality time with our family and we don't have
(08:57):
to worry just about that one specific day. And then
that one specific day they know we're leaving early and
they're usually okay with it.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I like your take on that one, if you're just
walking into the conversation. I was chatting with a colleague
yesterday and she was saying that she was a little
frustrated with her family because she's got to drive almost
eight hours in one day to see them for Easter.
Coming from Chicago to Dayton and back. She's like, can't
I have this like layer of guilt of not being
(09:27):
there because I want to be there, but I also
feel like that's a lot. And so we were just
kind of going back and forth on that one. We
got time for one more call higher on the.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Air, So I have kind of a different take on it.
I was the same way.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
I would kind of get frustrated with running here, running
there because we're a split family both sides, and then
we ended up losing his mother in law and my father,
so now our kids, it's just different.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
We have nowhere to go, and I don't know, it's
kind of sad. So there's a little different look for
you guys.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Okay, so you are saying, if if I'm hearing this correctly,
you're like, just buck up and do it and spend
the time with your family while you can't.
Speaker 7 (10:08):
Yeah, because you will miss it absolutely, no matter how
stressful it is. I know the day of is like
so rough, but when they're not here anymore, you feel empty.
That's the time for you to have your own traditions,
you know.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Okay, Well, thank you for the call. I do appreciate that,
you know, I hope my take wasn't too annoying. I
just don't like it when my friends feel guilty about something. Anyways,
we'll table this commercial free. Your chance to win Nelly
tickets coming up at eight thirty
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