Mental Health Monday: Woman Love Crying in the One Spot

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're waking up with in the morning, good morning, mental
health Monday. You know, just a quick little pisa like
a just am I to make things a little bit better. Obviously,
we can't change the entire world in one, two or
three minute segment, but we can help Lri Sharpage good morning,
good morning. She's our licensed clinical counselor so four and

(00:23):
ten Americans have admitted to doing this one thing within
the last like three days, even more so with women.
One in four women have admitted to doing this in
the last twenty four hours. Interesting, and that is crying
in your car.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Ha haa, the old cry in the car.

Speaker 1 (00:42):
There is no better place to cry than in your vehicle.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
I totally agree. Why is that? I totally agree?

Speaker 1 (00:48):
Is it the music? Sometimes it's the music?

Speaker 2 (00:50):
Right? Might be you're also kind of self contained, but
you still have a view mm hmm. It's private. You
can really get into it, let it go.

Speaker 1 (00:56):
There's a different feeling from crying in your driver's seat
than crying on your couch.

Speaker 2 (01:02):
Yeah. Yeah, and I like the car one better. I agree.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
Well, first of all, let me say that hopefully this
is the place that you go to every morning, at
least once in a morning to check in, feel good,
hear a good song, maybe giggle a little bit, make
it connection, learn something right. I strive to be that.
I don't know if I can necessarily fix what's going
on in your personal world, but you can at least
come and take a break with me every morning. What

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are your thoughts? Is it negative for people to be
crying so much these days? What's going on?

Speaker 2 (01:32):
So it's interesting we have kind of a view that
crying is negative, but ultimately crying is kind of the
ultimate coping skill. It's encoded within us, and when we cry,
our neurochemistry changes, so it gives us a sense of
relief through endorphins and dopamine. So there is an actual
biological reason to cry. We make cryings seem like it's
a really bad thing because I think that crying often

(01:53):
makes the people around us uncomfortable, and so because of that,
we'll tend to hide or go to our car, although
I still think that's an some place to cry. But
it is really just a coping skill, and so we
need to see it as such and not judge it
as much. I'm not surprised to hear that people are
crying because a lot of times people hold it in
until that is the last possible moment that they can

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hold it in, and then their brain's like butter doup.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
Here we go. Like I read something recently that said,
don't rob someone of being uncomfortable, Like being uncomfortable is
life and that's how we learn in life. Don't rob
them of that experience.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
That is like my number one philosophy as a therapist
is that it is important for other people to experience discomfort.
And one of the benefits of being a therapist is
I got used to doing that at work, so I'm
more able to do that with the people that I love.
It's still really hard. There's nothing harder than watching someone
you love struggle.

Speaker 1 (02:52):
Quick tip. If someone is struggling right now and they
might pull into their driveway at work and start crying.

Speaker 2 (02:57):
If you're struggling right now and you feel the need
to cry, let it go. If you can let it out,
it is much better out than in, as we say,
And also just try not to judge it, like that
is your body seeking and getting a release and that's
important for your mental health.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
Okay, and you know what, if all out fails, just
go with this. Only if you're if you're crying and
you got a sunroot. That is, since the car is
the best place to cry, they say, put that sunroof
down and let it ride. Baby,