Everyday Life Issues With Special Guest, Pastor D. Patterson

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Episode Transcript

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It's another episode of the will JustAgree to Disagree Podcast? I'd be say
five, and we have a specialguest this week. Oh lord, yeah,
call him now pastor because uh,anything goes on this podcast or and
I mean anything. Thank you forinviting me, absolutely, thank you for

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coming on with us. Can Ijust say this before we get started.
You are something like a an iconin the city of Chicago, a legend.
You've been out here pastoring for manyyears. You're an amazing singer artist,
and we just love you. You'reso humble. You've been humble since
I've known you, going on whattwenty years now, ridiculous for twenty years.

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Yeah, I met him when Iwas on GCI. Yeah yeah,
wow yeap or a road there,But I think I kind of knew you
in the gospel realm before I evenwas on GCI. Secular music be started
together for yeah, yep, okay, so yeah, that's a long time,
DeAndre Patter, that's a long longtime. But anyway, so happy

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to have you here. Thank youfor having me, and we're just gonna
have some fun on the podcast today. I have no idea what's gonna come
out of any of our mouths.Ryan and I we just we talk about
whatever. Whenever, be good thecompany. I'mna be good. I'm here
for let's go. I think Iwant. I think I'm want. Not
so good right now, y'all makethat? Okay? Well, maybe not

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in the presence of the pastor.Maybe we should go ahead. That's probably
when I should not be good.I need prayer. Yeah, we all
do bother in Jesus name, itwon't right now, Pastor DeAndre Patterson.
You can check them out on oursister station Inspiration thirteen ninety on afternoons six
yep, yes or okay, So, Pastor, since you're the gas,

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we're gonna kick it off with you. What would you like to discuss,
sir? Oh my god. SoI know someone who went to when a
vacation. It was a girl's trip. Okay, it was a girl's trip.
And they went on vacation I guessto Puerto Rico somewhere, and and
one of one of the friends saidthat she was having a problem going to
the washroom with some of the ladiesbecause one in particular kind of left.

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Yeah, just a little. Weknew that you were there before I got
there. And these are grown women. These are yeah, these are real
grown women, like grown women withchildren. So bathroom etiquette is that important.
Yes, I'm actually a virgo andI'm a neat, free and clean
for you. So if I gointo a bathroom that's dirty before me,

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I have to fully clean it beforeI can even like brush my teeth or
something. Or you can't do anything. I can't do nothing. So I
would have had got another room ifI was on a trip with her.
Got it. Oh so this happenedin the room. This happened in the
room, like the hotel room bathroom. They're all standing in the room in
the room. Oh yeah, that'sa problem, sir, that's a problem.
I'm getting another room. She wantedto get another room, and she

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started she made the statement, shesaid, I just don't want to go
into the bathroom when she leaves becausethere's always something on the seat that's not
good, that's not good at it? Do you not know when you get
up exactly, don't you turn aroundto look at it and make sure everything
is okay. I mean, mostpeople when they flush, they're turning around

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to flush. So if you're turningaround to flush the toilet, you're not
paying attention to the actual toilet seat. Okay, so me and Ryan are
here, so I've got to askyou. Okay, that's fair. So
sure we're praying we splatter sometime,right, Yes, okay, I know
the gentlemen, dude, Yes,and women do too, But those women

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are true women will clean what wassprinkled. So you're saying she's not a
classy she's not a classy sprinkler.Yeah, that's what it is. I
don't know who he's referring to personally, so I can't say she doesn't have
class, but says you have towipe the toilet seat once you're done and

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so and then the toilet sprinkles too. Yes it does. It does,
especially those industrial sized ones. Yeah, but you can tell the difference between
a humans. Yeah, that's true. Well, I think I think bathroom
etiquette is very important, whether itis in the home, and let's not
even talk about the workplace. Yeah. I've had some situations at the workplace

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where I'm just like, I wantto put up a sign so bad,
or a camera or just that's truetoo, or just sit out side and
stake out the bathroom and see whocomes in and out and follow everybody until
you can find out, so theculprit is see. Yeah, it can
get bad at times, and I'mvery surprised at women. Four ladies and

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gentlemen. Let's just be mindful ofthe bathroom etiquete. Please shut up to
the maintenance crew here. Yeah,workplaces, we have to take care of
that. Absolutely. What was themoral to that story? Did they stay
in the room or I think thatthey ended up staying in the room,
but they determined that they would nevergo back on the vacation with that person.
And there it is. That's awhole other topic in another podcast.
Really, So traveling with people,you can't travel with everybody? You sure

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can? I feel my help coming, can? We prayed at the top
of the podcast. So now youfor your help. I feel it because
you can't travel with everybody, youabsolutely cannot. True, I agree,
I agree. Okay, well,thank you, Pastor DeAndre Adison Bathroom Medica.
I will think about that next timeI used the bathroom podcast. Ryan,

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all right, I want to talkabout this because, as you guys
know from this podcast, I cussout people all the time. And yeah,
yeah, and I'm sitting here withtwo of my coworkers that know me
very well, and they know theyhave seen me on days here that I
either I'm going to or in themiddle of it or just finished what God

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done. Absolutely, And I justwant to have a conversation to stop people
from doing this so you don't getcussed out. If it can be put
in an email or a text,don't call me who And I want to
discuss it because yesterday I was ona great nap, and Pastor DeAndre,
before we move forward, you ina great nap now, and before we

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move forward, can you let menknow that grown adults do take naps three
o'clock every day, three o'clock.Every three o'clock. If I am at
the stoplight at three o'clock, youknow what, Come on? I cannot
at my whole house, I cannot. She argues that I'm the one person

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that is a child because I stilltake naps. I think the last nap
I took I was in the fifthgrade. No, not even then,
I was six years old. Way, So I'm gonna talk to you because
I was in a great nap andI got a phone call and they called

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now once or twice. So atthis point, you think, oh,
let me pick up. Something mustbe and when I pick up, you're
gonna get the nap. Voice what'sup? Yes, I'm still sleep And
they were calling me on something andI'm not gonna say who it is because
we work with them. That couldhave been put in a text, and
if you didn't feel like texting me, you could have emailed me. So
they interrupted your nap, interrupted mynap. Is that why you're upset though?

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Because the nap was interrupted or thesuping one? My nap was interrupted.
But I truly think some people liketo hear themselves talk, and some
people just want to get on thephone and tell me everything that could have
could have been put in a textor email. And you guys do radio.
We talk for a living, andsometimes when I leave here, I

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don't want to go talk. Ilove the panda. When I get home,
I may just go sit in peaceand quiet. Say it again again,
nobody, anybody what you want tocall me about something? So what's
the moral to that story? Youcut them up? I didn't cut him
up, but I did not givethem an answer, and I made them

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way. I went back to sleepand then I sent an email with the
answer. Or you was mad?Mad because you also could have gone to
find that answer out yourself. Wow. So I just think the moral of
the story is sometimes when you callpeople thinking they're not doing nothing, they're
gonna pick up the phone. Blahblah blah blah. Just think could this
be in a text or an email? Or is this Ryan's nap time?
That's what you really should Yeah,Ryan's naptime. It's Ryan's nap time.

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But y'all don't feel that way past. I know you do. Oh no,
no, I've got to agree withyou today. I at the same
testimony test leave me alone between threeand five, okay, but even outside
of nap time, let's take anap out of it. Do you feel
like there's some people that like whenyou get out the phone that could have
been putting a text. Oh forsure. Yes, we didn't have to
talk about that today. Thank you, not today, Thank you. I

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agree with that whole talking all day. Then when you have like eighteen million
shows when I get home, Ijust want to be quite what. That's
it. That's all. So Iget it. I get it. But
another thing though, when you're asleep, let's get on texting etiquette. Period.
I got a text like at onein the morning, why a one.

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I'm a light sleeper. I canstill hear the chime, so you
may as well have called me.Because now I'm awake at one in the
morning from your text, so Ifeel like, don't call me at one
am, So why would you textme? See now I'm gonna argue you
there because as a morning show produce, my first alarm is at three o'clock,
right when I wake up. I'mresponding to text that people text me

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at eight o clock because I'm alreadysleep So I don't want you to think
I'm leaving you on red. SoI'm gonna text you. I'm not calling
you. I'm gonna text you ifI just want to. I've done that
with you before. If I havesomething on my mind, I'm gonna text
you. Or no, I'm notwaking you up. Half the time people
may respond, but you are wakingme up. I hear the chime,
I hear the notification attention. Ifyou have my phone number, please do

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not text me after hours. Ithink it's kind of disrespectful after towers to
text someone at one am. Thatis after hours. But in my opinion,
texting somebody at one am, Idon't think You're gonna freak out because
I'm texting you. If it wasan emergency, I would be calling you
at one am. So clearly I'mjust texting you. When you see it,
when you read it, you'll respond, No, that's after hours,

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that's that's too late, and Idon't think that's appropriate. What about you,
pastor that's too well, it's differentfor you, I think in a
leadership role. So you're probably onalert twenty four hours. Right. My
phone is on silent oh at alltimes, and I have it on do
not disturb. Oh. I won'tget a lot of spam cars, and
but I do have I do makeit a practice of looking at the phone

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in the event one of the membersis your need one o'clock in the morning
is Uh, it's a little overthe top to me. I think it's
it's borderline disrespectful. It is because, yeah, because people need their rest
and uh, you're texting me.Somebody's in the bed next to me exactly,

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So that's okay. Let me saythis. There's levels to it.
Do you know what I'm saying.I got text someone who's happily married at
one am, exactly. There arelevels to it. Also, I text
my boss at one am. It'slike, yeah, the radio is off
air. I will text Beyonce textit's gonna be a problem. I don't

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mind that, But don't call meduring that time. Okay, Duly notes
it. But how does one knowwhen you're napping, Ryot, when one
says bye to you leaving my heart? Know that at some point before this
nighttime, I'm going to take aYeah, okay, So my family knows
three o'clock is mine. If it'snot three, it's four, and I
sleep until five thirty World News.I wake up right on time for the

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world News. My family knows.If I just come home and I'm not
happy and slamming things, I leavethem alone alone, Leave it right alone.
I think I got some I gotsome holy oil in my coat.
You think I need it? Giveit to you. Leave me a little
while here I can spring with someone. Do too to me. I'm sure,

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I'm sure interesting. So I andPastor, I believe you and I
have the discussion very briefly a coupleof years back. So my partner was
up here visiting once and very nice. Yeah he's up there, hey,

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So anyway, you know he he'skind of old school. He likes a
woman who gets in the kitchen andcooks. And you know, it's twenty
twenty four, Pastor, and Ryan, what woman do you know is like
at home in the kitchen cooking likeI get it, don't get it twisted.
He's absolutely right. I do needto roll up my sleeves and get

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in that kitchen and cook some mealshere and there. I'd like to eat
out a lot. I'm busy,I'm on the go. I'll hit a
drive through. You know, I'mvery, very busy. I do more
than just work. I think Ido things outside of work that keeps me
occupied. So my thing to youis, Pastor, since you are married
and you're in a committed relationship,is a woman not cooking a deal breaker

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in most marriages and or relationships?Keep it in mind. I do work
a job, and I'm very busy. Disclaims. Go ahead, Ryan,
I am married, Okay, Soso I don't think that not cooking is

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a deal breaker. Or I dobelieve that there should be some cooking because
it's bigger than the food. Sometimesto old fashioned men. Yeah, yeah,
it's sitting at the table looking inyour eyes. Okay, what tasting
the love and the attention that youput into the meal for me. Okay,

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So it's more like this is thisis, this is, this is
oh yeah, this is this isa little it's a community coming together,
you know, your guy and hiswife or his significant other. Yeah.
I think it's really important now inlight of the fact that you're working a
job, and ladies, if youwork in a job and you don't have

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a whole lot of time to dothings that you that you would like to
do, if you got to goget a dinner, a TV dinner,
a microwave dinner. Yeah, Ithink when you when you get a guy,
that needs to be discussed at thetop. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah. If it's not discussed atthe top, then there's going to
be a surprise someplace. And that'sthe deal breaker. That is true.

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Okay, got it, Because wherethere's understanding, there's no room for misunderstanding.
Okay, now I felt that.Yeah, I did too. There's
a lot of misunderstanding in my life, so it should be known from the
top. I want you to cook, okay, gotcha, gotcha? Right,
No, it's funny you say thatbecause I do come from a family

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tradition. I guess you could saystarting at my grandmother's, my great grandmothers,
that they did cook, and theycooked and cleaned and did that stuff,
you know, And I get whatyou're saying. I will say,
though, we are moving in adifferent change in society with twenty four where
gender roles may be switching. Soyou may have a household that the guy
cooks, yeah, the female does. Is this true? I completely agree

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though that there's either a conversation atthe beginning of the relationship or there's just
some type of understanding. It don'tmatter who cook, as long as we
come together at the end of theday to sity it. We can order
out for all our care, butas long as we're having that like together
community together time. So I don'tknow if it's like he said, you
actually cooking. I know the guyyou're talking about, and I don't think

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you can cook, Beyonce, SoI would actually, all right, I'm
going over told me she only canmake chacos. Now let's talk about it.
But yeah, my tacos are fine. Now they are? Have you
anybody that just said they are?I can make some man, my tacos

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are fire, I would say.In Beyonce's situation. It may be where
roles are a little bit reversed,but I completely agree, honestly with what
you said. As long as it'sunderstanding, I don't think there'll be a
deal breaker. Let's go back toyou said saying something about grandmothers. So
mothers and grandmothers and break my mother'sback in the day, that's what they
did, Yeah, that's what theyThey cooked, the clean they iron sheets.

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See that this generation don't know nothingabout all the old school and they
didn't work twelve four days. Sothat's that's it. Different. So my
wife doesn't cook often as much asshe might want to. And then with
Dylan going to school, I mightnot get a meal until Christmas, you
know, and it's January. No, But if I asked her to cook,

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she's gonna cook. But she's notgonna do as much. Why because
she's a PepsiCo five days a week. You know, I'm in and out.
So it's different. It's very different. It's a little different. Yeah,
And I'm the youngest, you know. My mom she somehow taught my
other sisters who are older than me, to cook. My mom was to

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stay at home mom. There's justa lot you know, for my formative
years, we traveled a lot,so she was right there at home all
the time, cooking three meals aday. So I just feel like,
oh, okay, I I don'tneed to learn how to cook for what.
But then all of a sudden,I was an adult and I'm like,
oh, I really have never cookedmy life. Yeah, And it's

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no justs to my mom. It'sjust as I was growing up, times
were changing, you know, comparedto my older sisters, So I never
got that talent. Those twos theycan cook up a storm, but it
just never rubbed off on me.But I'm gonna get a cookbook and I'm
gonna go on YouTube and I'm gonnalearn some basics, and then I'm gonna

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build off of those basics, especiallyif your guy likes to eat. Oh
yeah, absolutely he does. Yeah, okay, so thank you, thank
you Ryan for your two cents eightAnd yeah, I just I didn't know
what to do with that. Ican't either, though, So I you
know you don't know how to cook. Oh no, both of y'all missed

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those classes because I too grew upwith my mom. Like her mother.
My mom had a real She cookedMonday through Thursday, Friday, and Saturday
Sunday with her days off. Wow, that's cool. Maybe I can adopt
something like that. I'll do somethingshe got from a couple of days.
Start off slow and build up.Here you go, build a big enough

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one. Okay, Okay, thisis not for Beyonce. This is for
the rest of the ladies, rightbecause I'm not the only woman. There's
a ton of women that don't cook. Build two meals one day that the
family can eat off of Monday,Tuesday, Wednesday, and then they go
Thursday, Friday and Saturday or however. Okay, yeah, see that's a

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deal breaker for me. That's awhole other podcast. I hate leftovers.
It ain't leftovers, you just youdidn't eat it until Wednesday. It was
a freezer. Okay. Well,thank you for that advice. Pastor and
Ryan appreciate you guys so much.We had fun with you, sir.

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Thank you for joining us. We'regonna come back anytime. This is great.
Yes, I liked it. Anytime. Tell us briefly about your church.
You can meet me a Destiny WorshipCenter fifty five fourteen wes Chicago Avenue.
That's the church I founded twenty yearsago, Yes, And then over
west side it's the west side.And then in Maywood where he has a
street named after him on the westside, legend name right there on the

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street. Yes, no big Iknow you knew that nobody has streets named
after them unless you're iconic or legendin the city. Oh my god,
amazing, no big deal. Thenin Maywood the church that I got saved
in twenty ten, Saint Charles Road, Mikle Reviivle. And then my Godfather's
Church on the south side, ChristianTabernacle forty seventh and Prairie on Sunday afternoons

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at one, so it's ten onthe west side, eleven thirty Maywood,
one thirty on the south side.Okay, right, and I we gotta
we gotta stop by and visit oneof those. That's something we do because
Heaven. I gotta go wherever hegoes. And you both, yes,
no, we definitely will come andvisit at some point. Pastor. Thank
you so much for joining us onthis episode of the Will Just Agree to

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Disagree Podcast. I'm Beyonce Fox.You can follow me anywhere at Beyonce Fox.
I'm right, you can follow meat Ryan medialy be sure to subscribe
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pastor where can they find you?They can find me on Instagram DeAndre Patters
an official page, or my personalitypage on Facebook or inspiration thirteen ninety.

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I just want to say, youknow you booming when you got an official
page. Okay, oh my gosh, you got an official page, official
street name, three churches, manmus be nice, Bye bye, Thank
you, sir,