346: When whining is so magical that it generates polarity! (ft. Jason & Violet Lange) [replay]

Is it painful for you when you feel that your woman is closed? Do you long for more ways to help her open up fully? (Not just sexually, but that is included!)

Most dating and relationship advice doesn't include the concept of polarity and the three stages of relationship, but it can be nothing less than magical when worked with properly.

According to polarity work (originated primarily by David Deida), there are two primary forces in dating, relationships and sex: alpha energy (what we sometimes refer to as masculine) and omega energy (aka feminine energy).

The vast majority of omega partners have a deep longing to surrender to a trustable partner. They want to be able to be fully expressed and be met.

Yet in many cases, they feel like they're too much. Their emotions are too much; they're too fiery; they feel like they'll never be able to fully express themselves with a partner.

The lesser-known part of polarity work involves the three stages. As we grow in relationships, we have the capacity to graduate from stage 1 (rigid roles, often dictated by society), to stage 2 (we rely on talking to resolve tension), to stage three — which brings us to this episode. 

In polarized stage three relationships we bring in creativity, embodiment, and edgy play. We use breath, sound, and movement to move through tension or discomfort between us. Stage three is exciting, risky, and powerful. And as Jason puts it, "it tends to *wake us up* as men."

If you want to lead your woman into depths of safety, red-hot sex, and surrender in ways neither of you has perhaps ever experienced ways — if you want to help her feel even more of her heart, her spirit, and her sex, listen on.

Note: Credit to David Deida’s work on the stages of relationship and polarity. 

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "Through your direction, you can invite expression."
• "In stage two we just want it to end. In stage three it’s like, 'Bring it all. Let’s ride this wave.'"
• "You don’t have to do nearly as much as you think."
• "Tell me that again, but like a hippo."