EDGAR BAE GHOSTED ME

Margot Robbie and Greta Gerwig snubbed by the Oscars, our review on 'The Iron Claw' starring Zac Efron, Gypsy Rose is free, I give an update on 'Edgar Bae' + the crew talks politics of dating, when to have the "what are we" talk, and GHOSTING!

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Episode Transcript

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Just test tests perfect. What's up? Guess who's Vizzac? Back back back

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again. Our last episode was Octobertwentieth. Boo, wow, it's it
called a New Year's break. Buttwenty twenty four, we're here, We're
back. I'm Angelina. If youforgot my name, this is for the
record. We have some special guestwith this. Well, Chris isn't special?
Is special? Hey? Everyone?But you know him? This is
Chris. You have two new movies. What's going on? Everybody? It's

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JD what everybody is? Sleek thefreak? Angel what's you might know me?
If you've ever seen Angelina's TikTok lives, Oh love that. They're big
fans of Angelique when she comes downthere like Angelina, who the freak?
Though it's looking like her Instagram name, it's my TikTok name. Okay okay,

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okay, okay, wow. Myfig DJ name is also like the
freak. My mom calls you likethe freak. My mom said stas with
Angelique every time she My Mom's like, I just love Angela. She's just
always living her best life. Wemessage on Instagram DM all the time.
Oh she likes my stories. Ilike her stories. Like we're tight.

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They're like this, if you don'tsee you can't see my fingers, but
like they're crossed. Yes, okay, And this week's episode and for the
culture, we're talking about Oscar nominationsand Oscar snubs, and let's talk TV
the Iron Claw and the Gypsy Army, and in bitch Oh, we're talking

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about a sensitive topic, ghosting.So by all means, let's get to
it. This is for the culture, for the culture, for the culture.
This is where we pick a headlineand ask if the A, she
or he did it for the culture, if you guys missed it. Oscar
nominations are out right, and theOscars do you call them? The Academy?

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Yes, yes, the Academy selected, right, the Academy picked Yes,
the Academy decided we're going to dothe funniest thing. And he's like,
there's this really popular movie that damnnear single handedly saved movie theaters last
year, broke box office records andwas all about the patriarchy. How about

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we have nominations to the only veilin the movie. I didn't know that.
You want to hear a hot takeeverybody? Yes? Oh yeah,
hold on, so well, letme just if you don't know. We're
talking about Greta Gerwig and Margot Robbiegot zero nominations America for ever did though
she did? Oh yes, BestPorting Actor? And Ryan Gosling he got

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one. What is it for BestSupporting Actor, Best Actor? Yes?
Yes, yes? What's your hottake? Angela can tear it? Because
I have a few t o.I haven't seen it, That's okay.
I just feel like I have notsay it's trash or something. Okay,
she hasn't seen it, It's okay, it's okay. Nor do I want
to read a bow? Wow?Why don't you want to see it?

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Isn't that I don't want to.It's like when it came out in theaters,
I was like, okay, I'lljust wait for when it's streaming.
Okay, And now that is everytime a long HBO it's like, don't
you want to watch Barbie? I'mlike, I don't really know. I
don't know why. Okay, Okay, watching the movie. You gotta be
in the mood to watch a newmovie, you know. Like I'm someone

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I watched comfort movies all day.I watch the same movie over and over
again. I'll be honest, Isaw it in theaters. I was like,
wow, amazing, and then Idid try to watch it again at
home and I was like, thisis kind of long. That's kind of
long, but it is still greatmovie. There's I haven't watched the movie.
I'll start off with that. Butthere was only one time that I
almost did, and it was whenI was on a plane because it was

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on the there were showing Barbie onthe plane Southwest. You can log into
the thing, and that's the besttime to catch up on a movie.
I see some fire movies. Myfirst time on a plane, I did
watch a couple of movies, butI did not watch that. But I'm
not gonna lie, and it wasit was out of embarrassment. I don't
want to wow, you know,because it would have been time to land.
He would been clipping up his stairs, like right, I was just

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watching. No, I was watchingBarbie Bitch. I heard people was crying.
Yeah, it was really beautiful.Yeah, the end made me cry.
Maybe I should want Oh, yeah, maybe you should. No,
but we've be cussing all day onthis podcast. Sorry, it's good.
Yeah, it's good. That's thelast segment. Okay, So in the

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beginning, when the headlines came out, like obviously that's super ironic. It
is fucked up. What the fuckare you guys doing? The Academy get
it together? But I feel likethe discourse now like people are a little
overdoing it. Yeah, like whyfeminists touch some grass or something something funny
that I saw Woody Goldberg come outand say. She was like about them

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not getting it. She said,okay, well white women don't shouldn't get
everything they want. And I waslike, okay, we'll be hot,
motherfucking take on the view. Itwas kind of funny. But and then
okay, I need to see thelist of the other like actors. I
guess I'm in the Okay, we'llsay for Margo's. I didn't watch any
of those other fucking movies. Itwas like Emma Stone, hold up up,

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poor thing, I do you wantto see? I do want to
see poor things. I do wantto see poor things? Is that that
amaztone one? Yeah? Yeah?See. I don't you pull it up
because I don't even know what's typein what was a nomination like best Actress,
yes, best actress, oscar noanother thing. I feel like the
discourse is starting to go we Ryanbeen Gossling. We need to put some

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respect on him because people are tryingto act like like he doesn't deserve like
he is a beloved actor since nineteenninety seven. And when Barbie came out,
we did a review on it andI even said, I hate to
say this because I know the movieis about you know, all women fucked
the patriarchy, But I will say, like, Ryan Gosling totally stole the
show for me, Like I waswaiting for him to pop up. He's

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had me dying laughing, Like Iwould say he was a best supporting actor.
Margo definitely. I mean Margo notonly like led like I heard she
like damn near help put this wholeshit together. So like she I think
she should have for sure got something. But it's not the end of the
world. And I feel like peopleit's to the point where like America Fair

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won't even get like her flowers forit because if she gets interviewed, they
just want to bring up how Brendaand take away from her. Yeah,
it is really extremely ironic that RyanGosling is the only person to get nominated,
but at least Billie Eilish did forYeah, there you go. Billy

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and Phineas for best song in themovie. Yeah, a movie. I
love that song. It's so sad. No, it is a beautiful as
song. Yeah. I was gonnasay one more thing, but I forgot.
Oh wait, shout out Steven Vendez, Ryan Gosling's wife and baby mama.
He's really winning. Wait you didn'tknow that? No? Okay,

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I just had another friend who justfound that out. Also, I guess
a lot of people don't know thatRyan's really winning. Did Ryan Gosling and
Ava Mendez? I thought that oneskinny white girl actress. No, no,
a different actor whoa holy ship?They have like two kids together?

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Whoa Anyway, she posted with thereceipts like I don't think I didn't forget
you guys hated on my man whenit was announced that he was gonna be
ken and she put like a photodump of all the critics talking ship and
she's like this, Barbie is proudof her. Can let's go yeah put
some period, but yeah, overall, Oscars are not doing it for the

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culture. Would leads us to ournext segment, Let's talk TV, because
you know who did get snubbed?Zach? Did you guys see the iron
Claw. No, I'm still aressed, you guys. This past week,
I keep saying the white Claw ofthe movie conversations, I accidentally said

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the white clothes so good. Ithought we were talking about on the radio
like on air. No, No, at least I don't think I did.
Sometimes I feel like he's like outon air. It's a warm drinking.
I love the cherry. Iron Clawwas so good. I watched a

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lot of wrestling growing up, butthat's actually what is it on Eric's way
before my time, So I actuallydid not know about it other than like
what other people have told me.But I took my little sister, who
also used to be really into wrestling, and she knew nothing about the story
at all, and I already knewwhat it was going to be about.
So like ten minutes in, shelike leans to me and she's like,
Angelina, I love this movie somuch already, And I said, oh,

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you just wait, sister. Inmy head, honey, And honestly,
I was aug the whole movie,I thought, because in my head,
like leading up, I was like, I'm ready to cry my eyes
so I'm gonna be crying right away. It was like Daniel the end of
the movie. I'm like, bitch, I'm a thug. Like the first
brother dead. I was like,okay, one down, second one,
two down, Okay, spoiler everyonehold on if no one has this podcast,

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though, we always so everybody foryou, you guys, sorry,
sorry for you, Sorry for yourtrue story. I looked them up.
Yeah, it's about these wrestling legendsand uh there's a saying that they're cursed
because they just keep dying in theirfamily, like all the brothers literally died.
First of all, there are actuallysix brothers, but in the movie

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they only show five because the sixthdeath was too gruesome or horrifying or traumatic.
Let the whole out. Honestly,though, I was when I was
watching the movie, I was like, Okay, I don't know if it
was a great movie, but myonly like little cons I had like two.
I was like, I can't tellif there was pacing issues or if
that's just a hard thing, Likehow do you make a movie of like
six people dying back to back,you know what I mean? Yeah.

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Yeah, So it's like the firsthalf of the movie and then it happened
for the rest of the second halfof the movie was like boom, boom
boom, boom boom. Have youguys seen the Last Dance documentary Michael Jordan,
someone put the brother Chris how hedidn't make it in the movie,
with Isaiah Thomas saying I met thecriteria, like the fifth brother I should

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have been in the movie. Whatwas the sixth brother? Why wasn't he
in it? He committed Well,we also committed suicide, like three of
them did. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah, So I don't I don't
really know. But but when wewere coming out of the movie theater,
like literally the lady who was likegave us the popcorn, we were like
talking to her about it. Shewas like, yeah, and there was
a six brother, Like, Idon't know. We first of all,

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like at the end of the movieyou could all hear everybody sniffling in the
fucking theater and just one girl kindof like kind of let it out.
And then we once won, weall. I was like, I have
never cried so hard in a movie, and like we was looking at my

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friend like this is fucked up,this is not okay, this is story,
Like how do you wrap your mindaround that? So I didn't know
about the missing brother until like rightwhen we got home. My sister watched
the Dark Side of the Ring watchbut it's all so streaming on Netflix.
Yes, so they have an episodeso it's like a little more true story.

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But I don't know. I feellike the documentary made the dad look
like a good person, and Idon't know if he's that great of a
person. Wait the documentary of themovie. The documentary, Oh yeah,
because the movie he's a jackass,fuck that Dade pushing his kids to do
ship and then they all die andkill himselves and he's still like, Okay,
that's the definition of toxic Maxillately,they just suck it up a little.
So there's a scene where, likethe funeral, they're at the funeral

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like just wrapped up, and he'slike, all right, so who's gonna
step up the final goal against bites. The dad's acting it was a little
cheesy, a little corny. Ifeel like he was just kind of like
so, I thought it's a goodI think it was his his his role
was to like be the narrator.I don't know, he was like sewing
the pieces together. I don't know. He seemed a little cheesy for me,

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but just Jeremy Allen white too.Just started watching The Man. He's
in it. He played with oneof the brothers and he does really good.
Yeah, he really does a goodjob of dying. The one that
who dies, I don't know hisname. That's trivia questions. I don't

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know. The kid that played Davidto the younger brother did really good.
All of the brothers did really good. My only complaint of who was not
great was the guy that played RigFlair. He was not Ric Flaren and
I feel like it was like aMexican dude. Uh that's that's the no.
I don't know. I mean,he's the opponent, right, he's
like the really kind of kind ofFirst of all, wrestling is so gay.

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I just have to say, I'mlike sorry, like the outfits man
literally men wanting to like touch othermen and like put like like jump on
each other. It was like okay. Also though, also though, something
I was thinking of was like thisis this is a chance for men to
like come out and create it's draglike to create a character and put on

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a costume and uh like perform,you know, like I'm saying it's gay,
like I'm being funny. I'm beingand being funny but their performers sling
is not gay. That's good.I'm gay. I can say, oh
my goodness, it is not.But yeah, that's my only complaint is
Rick Flair was not Rick Flaring,and then like maybe the pacing a little

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bit, but yeah, I willsay I was a thug. I didn't
cry the whole time until the verylast scene. Zachn you bitch, he
got no no, but he justhis acting is just really good. And
there's the end scene like he reallyspeaking of he just got his star on
the Hollywood Walk of Fames. Whatsomeone told me that better fact check that

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ship out? Yeah, because well, I don't know, like I heard,
it's like not as big as itused to be like before. Yeah,
like Michael Jackson sure didn't pay forhis, but Macaulay Culkin just got
his, Like he's been famous since. Do you think he paid for his?
I need to know he hasn't doneanything since. I don't know.
Yeah, check that one. Yeahwhen it was a talk back and put

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it in the comments if people door do not pay for their stars on
the Walk Fame, will Hall ofFames, Hall of Fame, Hall of
Fame, and walk Wait did youguys Okay, I know it's a little
late, but like Gypsy Rose,she could watched the act I did.
That was fucked. What happened?Oh my god, I didn't see it.

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It's a documentary about her. It'sliterally just short story version, short
version. First of all, theymade an eight series reenact eight episode series
reenactment, and it's an hour episodewas eight hours. I literally watched the
first four episodes, went to bed, woke up and watched the second.
So it was a bad little Girland the little girl was told that she
was sick. Okay, this iscalled it's called Munchausen by proxy. And

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her mom told her that she wassick, that she had cancer, that
she had leukemia, so she wouldshave her head and she was a biscuit
in the wheelchair. You can't walk, and the little girl was kind of
like, yeah, I can,and she was like, no, you
can't. And she was like,okay, we're gonna put a feeding tube
in you, and then we're gonnalike put drugs in that feeding tube and
make you feel like you're actually sick, bitch, and basically just like made

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this little girl crippled even though shewasn't. And at the end of the
day, she meets this guy onlinehas a boyfriend, and the boyfriend comes
and murders the mom. Yep.And this is like in twenty fifteen,
and they made a fucking series aboutit on Hulu. Yes. Yeah,
familiar with the story because like Ihad a you know, all the means

(16:32):
and stuff, because she recently cameout of jail. She so right,
yeah, she's free. And nowthere's a new documentary on Lifetime. It's
like a six part series. Ibought it on Amazon Prime. It's called
Gypsy Rose The Prison Confessions, andit's like her, you're so invested,
Oh my god. No. Ifirst watched there's a there's an Amazon Prime
documentary. I bought that shit forthree dollars and once I watched that,

(16:56):
it was like that was like anhour and a half. I'm like,
okay, I can invest an hourand a half. And I was like,
okay, funk, I gotta watchthe eight episode eight hour whatever.
And then and then recently January fifthwas when The Prison Confessions came out,
and like, yeah, I guessshe was like their document documentary. People
were coming in and I don't know, getting her story, getting her side

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of the story and while she's inprison and anyway that she was motherfucking crazy
and because you know why, Iwas so annoy sing that little bitches name
on my phone like on every singleI don't care. She was turning for
like a minute, Guess who cares? Guess who cares? Now, I'm
like no, it comes like GypsyArmy. I cannot like, oh she's

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but like she's not. She's walking. She talks in like TikTok language.
It was long term damage she didto get addicted to like prescription drugs.
So she's like whom like joined theclub, baby girl. But you know,

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I think I don't know if she'ssober. Now I'm sure she is,
but literally just followed her, followingher on Instagram at Gypsy ros Blanchard,
and you know she just like shelike goes to like she's like it's
the little thing. She's like,I really want to go to Times Square
and buy an iHeart n Y Tshirt Like that's the thing, Like she
love it. She literally she waslocked away in her house for like nineteen

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years and then and then when thegirl turned eighteen, when the girl turned
those shirt, her mom changed herbirth certificate to be like four years younger.
So she's like, happy birthday,you're fourteen, and she was like,
Hoda, that don't sound right.She was like, no, bitch,
you're fourteen, but she was actuallylike eighteen or something. Yeah,
her lies to be honest. Yeah, I feel like she got to point

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where it's the longest gaslight ever yetliterally didn't like she didn't know about the
Yes, yes, okay, whatif plotswis she didn't? Is there like
any conspiracy theories that like they actuallywait, what do you mean? Like
what if she just killed her momand it is a bad person, you

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know, her boyfriend her boyfriend killedthem. Oh yeah, like and that
was the whole thing too. No, he no, he's going to he's
going to prison for life. Hewent to prison for life. So this
and she went to prison for eightyears. She's like, I just said
the word. I was just amessenger. Yeah, yeah, I said
he didn't have to do it.Yeah. I met this guy on Christian
Mingle dot com. And then theboyfriend he had like multiple personalities and his

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like five hundred year old murderer vampirepersonality was the one who was going to
murder them all. Yeah, sohe was. She was like, honey,
can you have She was like,it's just an idea. Yeah,
I forgot what I need to talkto him literally, and he was like,
yeah, fucking murder her mom.Oh and them she fell a bad
murdering her mom. She's like,so I want I want someone to find

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her. So then they put onher shared Facebook page with her mom and
said we killed the bitch. Andthe post is still up. You can
you can google it. It's stillup. You can see the post we
killed the bitch. So Gypsy Roseand the boyfriend want a day or two
later because she felt bad about murderingthe mosse. How we're going to get

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someone to find her dead body becauseI feel bad and I don't want her
just like dying in the house.Okay, well like pretend like maybe this.
Yeah, we'll pretend we're the murderand it's not us. But we'll
just go on the facebook page andsay we murder killed that base. Yeah
yeah. And then they tracked theship to the boyfriend's house and the swat

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team came in. He addresses everyone, everything is tracked. Do not do
anything crazy if you don't want toget caught. Literally, said bitch if
you wanted to go to Tailor's,just tell a brother you want to go
to Taylor's. You said that.Oh hell yeah, man, I laid

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it out right, I said,I said, I says, I said,
bitch, bitch. A quick reminder, because it's been a little break.
If you ever helped change my diaperor know me when I was in
diapers, mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, it's time to turn the
podcast off. You're not you're notallowed to listen to the segment. Ever.

(21:32):
I'm not gonna warn you every singletime I want you hear that,
bitch, it's time to go,go away, go away. Let's you
want to hear some things you don'twant to hear. Okay, little story
timing, guys. Okay, I'mnot gonna say all details, but okay
say it. Yeah. So,me and my good friend Christina, we

(21:56):
went to this little bar that's nearbyboth of our play cases, and we
sat at the bar. No,absolutely not. But it's in between Hayward
and San Francisco CIEs. No,I don't think you do. It's not

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what you're thinking. It's not onethat we usually go to at least anyways.
Yes, okay, we went andsat at the bar, and there
was two really cute bartenders, butone of my thought was like super super
cute. They were kind of talkingto us, but I think the one
that I thought was like extra cutekind of did mention eventually that he had
a girlfriend or something. Yeah,that means stop, I'm just saying terrible,

(22:49):
terrible, terrible stop that time.I'm not. I don't think he
the first time. I don't thinkI knew about his girlfriend. But anyways,
just that guy's tell a fine whatever. Cared all live in our lives.
A couple of weeks maybe months goby, and my friend Christina,
her friend ended up getting a secondjob at that place, and I was

(23:14):
a sudden I was like, oh, tell we gotta give him a nickname.
That's his name, gonna be Bobbecause I do have a nickname.
And then it kind of gives awaywhat the restaurant is, sports sports bar.
I call him, we call himthey. Okay, let's just stick
to that for the record. Idon't know the bar. I'm just okay,
great, something that's not think ofit. So I was telling the
friend, I said, oh girl, tell him my son was up,

(23:37):
but like kind of joking kind ofserious, just being funny. No,
this bitch. Basically she told thisman, oh, Angelina thinks you're her
man? What kind of call?When I said, say, no,
that's not a board mission. Nownext time, like I don't even know

(23:57):
that he exists. I don't knowwho this man is, because like,
okay, I think you're cute,but not to be like, oh,
Angelina is obsessed with you. She'swriting about you and her diary every night.
Like that was so, I know. I was like, I was
such a cog block. Respectfully illgirl, I'm sorry. Yeah, that
was so not a girl girl likecling a stage five clinger was not cute.

(24:21):
So I was like, uh soimmediately in my head, I'm like,
okay, we're throwing that away.They no more because now next time
I say I'm gonna awake, I'mnot even interested. Sounds like the name
of a bars. Did you nothear my morning? What I said?
But that's like literally gives it away. When I go edit, I'm just
gonna bleep it every time. It'sgonna be like, yeah, we'll just
bleep it out a lot of time. Yeah, I know, Well,

(24:44):
I'm gonna look back. We gotto give it a new nickname right now.
That means, oh, you knowwhat, I'll call him Edgar Bank
because he kind of has the EdgarBanks. I know, no, when
I tell you, he really getsso fine Edgars. I swear he doesn't
dress like an Edgar. It's justthe Bays are giving Edgar work at and
so I'm gonna split the rest ofthat. He wears. He wears a

(25:06):
puffer jackie, I know the patches, and he's got a wall full of
like backwards that he saves up.I'm just describing my little brother love Fava.
Anyways, so he has some Edgarfeatures. Was him Edgar Bay?
And I'm gonna bleeve out everything else? I said, uh so where was

(25:29):
I? Okay? She said thatokay, and I have to forget he
exists. And then another time Iwas meeting a friend there and I met
her at the bar and whila,there goes Edgar Bay and he's talking to
me. But I'm really acting likeI don't know him. And I'll say,
all the partender is cute too,so I'm just like, you know,
I'm paying attention. So non EdgarBay, he's three feet taller,

(25:53):
and they're both talking to us andgive us three shots when you and I
think In that conversation, we startedtalking about something like waking up early,
and he was like, yeah,sometimes I had to wake up early to
walk my girlfriend's dog. So itwas like a hint that he has a
girlfriend. So I'm like, okay, I noted because right now you already
think I'm in love with you andyou got a girlfriend. No, you're
really dead to me, actually,sir, Okay, So whatever, keep
a cute leave right. That wasit. It was a good time.

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We had good conversation with them.They gave us free drinks. We leave
a couple more months past, andI mean my freend Cocina. Mind you,
Christina does not like being outside,like it's rare where she like wants
to go ww She's such a homebody or she wants to be home at
a certain time, you know.But today she was just feel a little
risque. We went to go getdinner a wa and she's like, you
know what, I could go forone more beer, a little you know,
a little nightcap. She's like,let's go to Madoak and we have

(26:37):
not been to Madoak in years.Both and her used to work at Lake
Sheley so we would go to medicall the time because it's right across the
street. And you guys know,I'm blind as hell, so I don't
I have my glasses on me,but I don't have them on, so
I can't really see if I putmy glasses on. I see one of
my old friends from like Elementary,and I was like, oh my god,
that's blah blah blah. I'm gonnago say hi to him real quick.
And she's like, okay, justwait here. So I go say
hi to him and he's like ina circle. Which why is Edgar Bay

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right in the circle? Did youjust see my friend? She's like like
like he literally like it's like amovie turned around the slow motion, like,
oh, you're an Elementary friend knowingEdgar Base and with him No,
no, he's no hold on.So and he introduced me to Bay.

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He's like Angelina Edgar Angelina. Noright, no I do. Like I
was like, oh my god fromthe Edgar restaurant. No, you guys,
he wants me tissy because he islike flirting with me. He's like,
you haven't stopped by. I haven'tseen you. He's like, oh,
now that I know, you know, this guy, like, I'm

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gonna give him free drinks. He'scome by. He's like, look you
gt me up and down. He'sgiving me the eyes. I go back
to my Frank and I'm like,is she her jaws jop? She's like,
bitch, did I see that coming? Said, oh my god.
Edgar Bay Like So eventually we likemigrate over there and we're talking. And
then now I've had a lot ofdrinks, we go downstairs the mattole area.
There's like upstairs downstairs, and meand Edgarbay are talking like about our

(28:07):
whole lives. At this point,I'm pretty drunk, so I at this
point I have tunnelvision. I'm like, I'm going home with this man tonight,
Like this is what's happening. Thisis this is what's happening. It's
in my head. Christina two threehut, you know this is a drill
that's gonna happen. And it's twoam. It's time to go. And
my friend's like, oh, we'reall going back to Edgar Bay's house.

(28:30):
You guys should come through, dumbcoming through. Oh but I will see
what I will say, just soyou guys get a fill of this man.
He definitely was on he was onsome single ship because he was just
hopping around the room like kind oftalking to everyone. And there's this other
girl that was there that had hisjacket on. Okay, it was all
that he is an edgar at therestaurant and or bar that he works at.

(28:53):
He said he had a girlfriend.Yeah, but he definitely I can
tell he was very single. Oneis the span of time between It's been
like months between every single talking andwe're back. That's I'm like, oh,
shore edgar by, like what monthsa girlfriend? Because the hater ship
the girl said to the saying,oh yeah, maybe like shut up.

(29:25):
You hear somebody say, oh shethinks you're her man, Like that's no,
that is crazy to say that iscrazy. You know. I hate
to like dig up someone's head,like yeah, like I'm not like a
cocky person. But then it's like, okay, bitch, relaxed, Like
you should be honored if I'm thinkingyou're my imagination, imaginating man. Okay,
yeah. On his on his end, I see what you're saying.
Yeah, size months later that heforgot he lied, so he's like yeah,

(29:52):
yeah, anyway, super on me. I'm like I'm sleeping this last
night, we go back, We'reall having drinks, having good time,
television again. If I'm goes,I can stand his room and we hook
up. But it was I definitelydrink too much. It was like a
sex scene in a movie. Youknow, you remember the good parts.
So that was a hugs okay andleaving It doesn't even matter anymore. But

(30:17):
before, when me and him werehaving like our whole deep conversation, he
had gave me his number or hetexts my number with his name. He's
like Edgar Bay. I was like, gotcha. So when I was leaving
his apartment, I text him likeAngelina, like dash Angelina, just in
case I don't know if people gottoo drunk, Like who did I text?
You know. So a couple ofdays go by and I'm talking with

(30:38):
my coworkers and I'm just like,should I hit this guy up? And
they're like, well, what doyou want from this? And I'm like,
I don't know. I don't reallyknow him like that, Like I'm
not saying I want a boyfriend,like but you know I would like to
do that again. Yes, SoI was like, okay, I'm gonna
text him round two with laughing emojis, and that's what I did. I
think that's so thirty. It's cute. Works every time I do it all

(31:00):
the time, but when I dopull it out, it works, Yes,
exactly the question mark yes on theway. Yes. No, he
didn't text me back, and mytext like maybe like five ish, and
then you know, an hour goesby. I'm like, you know what,
it's probably at work. He's probablyclosing because he is the manager at
that restaurant, so you know,I was I guess who. Yeah,

(31:26):
like, I'm I got my guesswho card out, Like, okay,
Edgar, it was professors in thelibrary with the candles stick. Okay,
that's a different game. Yeah,I can't. I'm like, okay,
he's closing, So I'm not gonnabe I'm not gonna swim, I'm not

(31:47):
gonna stress. Nine pm rolls by, then I rolls by, the next
day rolls by. You guys,this man never texts me back ever.
So tonight and bitch, we're goingto talk about ghosting. That is the
topic of the nights. Okay,yeah, yeah, a stinger also really

(32:16):
okay, I'm definitely not approved ofyou guys know that of stories, But
I will say I've never truly hada one night stand. Like every person
that I've hooked up with, evenit's not like on Fursday whatever, I've
always like continued hooking up with themfor a certain amount of time and then
it just doesn't work out whatever.Like I never just hooked up with someone
like never talk to them again.So that's why my ego was definitely hurt.

(32:37):
And I think a lot of peopleare hurt by ghosting because it is
ego thing. Like no one likesto be rejected, no one likes to
feel like they're not wanted. Alot of people will say it's like I
don't know, I guess the cowardwhale, like you should use your words
and stuff. I see both sidesbecause I've been in situations I've ever but

(33:00):
there are times where I'm like,I don't need to explain myself to you.
There's one people who are not thatspecial. Are levels to it.
There are like there are levels.It is very situational. That's like a
whole encompassing like word and phrase andlike definition, but there are it's a
great area right now you have toI feel like ghost is not considered ghosting.

(33:25):
There's like a certain level of depthinto whatever relationship quote unquote. You
can't see the air quotes right now, but right you have to get a
certain depth into whatever relationship you guyshave before it's gonna be considered ghosting.
Oh, I totally agree that.I was gonna say that for the end,
but let's get into it. Iwas gonna say there's levels of ghosting,
and that's where I was. Iliterally was gonna say, I'm contradicting

(33:45):
myself in this story because one Ithink, Yeah, if it's one I
stand some see you back, that'snot fuing ghosting. I just use that
story to get Actually I never actuallygot I don't have a story to get
into this topic, but I wasabout as close it came. Okay,
No, absolutely, like beating ondating apps, like if you match with
someone on tender or on Instagram dmsand then like they don't beat up or

(34:08):
they don't hit you up, bitch, they didn't ghost you, right exactly.
I also agree with that if younever met it's not ghosting, like
no harm, no foul, likeI've never seen you exactly. If you
do not know this person exactly,he or she is a stranger to you
right, right. If we exchangenews and then I don't see what I

(34:28):
like, then I'm not going totext you about and that's okay, and
that's not ghosting. Yeah bad,Yeah, I would hurt my feeling so
a lot more. Well, Igave you why you gave me yours,
and I was like, but Inever say it, but but I always
like, that's hot, and thenand then and then I did foul oh

(34:50):
cute, and then I'm like,at least you do that. I thought
you were just like, oh,never mind, delete my pictures please.
Definitely no, definitely not. Younever talked down on people's pigs. I
always like, hey, good shit. But then if I'm not into it,
then I just back away. Youknow, I'm not evil. Yeah,
absolutely, there's levels of ghosting.If you never fucking met this person

(35:10):
or you just had a one nightstand, they're not ghosting. You get
the fuck over it. You'll beokay. If they're your husband of five
years and they stop talking to you, that's ghosting. Or if you're a
relationship that sucks, okay, whatdo you do and how to get over
ghosting? Because you know, there'snot really a manual book for it,
so that's what we're here for.So one thing about me, guys,
you angelicque you know, Chris knows, Jady might not know. But I

(35:32):
obsess over shit, Okay, Irun it to the ground. So mind
you. When this happened, it'slike next week, I'm at dinner with
friends and I'm like, okay,guys, what if maybe he was an
ocean and his phone dropped. I'mlooking out my local obrituaries and I'm just
like, what happened to this man? Honestly, I feel that that is

(35:52):
actually what you need to do.Though, if you want to get over
someone that ghosted you, that actuallygoes to you. You guys were in
relationship or you guys were talking fora long time. You don't hear for
them you And this is what Idid. I said. Someone asked me
shout out to Josie because she wasthe one that helped me originally text he.
She's like, hey, whatever happenedto Edgar Bay? I said,
Oh, I think he died.That's the only thing. And that is

(36:15):
really what you do have to tellyourself. I know it's like cliche saying
like if you wanted to, hewould, but it's true. If someone
is that into you, even onthe lowest level of Oh, I'm just
trying to fuck you like, theywill hit you back. They will do
that. So you should not wantto hang out with someone that doesn't want
to stick. They're p in yourB or your B or your m okay,

(36:37):
like they don't like you. Theydo not like you. And a
lot of the times it's all fora reason. Like with this person,
I overanalyze it again, not ghostingbecause I don't know. Anything could happen.
He could be dead right now.He give me sixty under it as
we speak. From what I know, he is all right. He edgar
bab baby. Questions when you textedhim, was it first of all?

(37:04):
Was he green or blue bubbles?No, he didn't block me, it
was okay, okay, okay,okay, yes. And do you have
any social media of him or no? Any? Was about to go I've
seen his Instagram because my friend postedto him. I'm not going to go
follow him like that's doing That's that'scrazy. Okay, Well that's I mean

(37:24):
if I got ghosted and I kindof like the guy or something, then
I would probably stop him. Yeah, yeah, I wouldn't follow. That's
stage. No no, no,no is my middle yes, me same,
but no, I was like Ialready talked it to the ground and

(37:45):
was like obsessing over it and hadall the reasons of what could have happened,
many ways he could have died,and what happened, like the reasons
of him not texting me back.So between that and just being like,
Okay, we're gonna get over it. Everything happens for a reason. It
could just be as this man justdoesn't like you, that's it. But
like I was just thinking more intoit, like, you know, if
he did just get out of relationship. When I met him, very was

(38:07):
much I'm single and he just gotthis new apartment, and it was very
batter of pad vibes, like he'sprobably like I'm inviting bitch just here every
weekend, Right, that was thevibe I'm getting. He's also younger than
me, He's like three years youngerthan me. So just all around,
I'm like, I don't know,I don't know this man's life. He's
in a different space. Look atyou. This one we called growth.
I'm leaving out details too, butI also may or may not have made

(38:27):
out with his friend the day before, so that kind came back to it.
Also, speaking of growth, Ijust want to say of self sabtage
is my middle name, but likeI'm growing a little bit from it,
like baby stops not fully self sabtageanymore. That's good. That's good out
there. Thank you so much.We're growing. We love this four sure

(38:49):
at all. Yes, but that'sI think that is the healthiest thing.
If you want to get over someonegoes new, they truly need to be
dead to you. Yeah, howdo you guys deal with ghosting? Okay,
so the last time I was theone and only time I would say,
guess what on my freaking birthday,March ninth birthday, I always my

(39:12):
randling's birthday because it's the same asbot wows. I was number one.
On my birthday, I texted thiswsand birth I texted this man and that
it went to green basically what why? What happened? Deleted on the deleted

(39:39):
He's now right? And it wasso sad because it was like years of
like situations. I was like,I was like, Okay, maybe I
saw it coming, but on mybirthday to day, I don't like that.

(40:06):
That is not a good person.That's not someone you want to be
with, like exactly, he's nota good person. So in the beginning
I was like self sabotage talking seeingwhat was up already, was like,
this person is probably seeing somebody else. Yeah, I enter based pagees private.
So that kept me from the selfsabotage. But if it wasn't I
probably wouldn't on that bitch. Butit took a like I had to really

(40:30):
be like I don't know him,like move on, to be honest for
having to me dead to me?And what was what did you say?
No? No, no, Idon't stop? Did She was like it

(40:55):
was a really good song, butit was basically to get over someone else,
get under someone else. Oh yeah, I love that. I love
that. So did you get undersomeone eventually? But not to get over
it. I feel like sex needsto be enjoyed and a lot of times,
I'm not saying for everyone, buta lot of times when you are

(41:15):
just looking up with someone to getover someone else, it makes it worse
because you'll go hook up, especiallyif the sex ends up being bad,
You're gonna go back home, like, oh my god, I'm really more
sad about the situation. I reallywanted to because I'm like, you know
what, that will really like,I will forget this man's forever if I

(41:37):
distract. Yeah, distraction. Butit didn't happen, and I think the
universe was like, girl, youdon't need that. You need to like
yes, solidarity, solidary. Yes. So really just had it was like
a mental daily battle. I'm like, this guy is shitty. Like I
had to repeat that. I hadto repeat that to myself. Yeah,
every single day. Remember who youare, bitch exactly, that bitch exactly.

(42:00):
It's a whole situational But like ifyou've been talking for someone a while,
like I'm very big on like lettingyourself feel things like if you're sad,
I can be sad. Don't belike, oh I'm not sad because
the it's gonna bite you in theass. But when someone goes to they're
dead, any ghost the ghosting orthe end of any relationship. But I
feel like you cannot exist to me, like how being someone being private?

(42:22):
Like I've been blocked. And atfirst I was so sad. Nor was
I was hurt. I was hurt, but the month, no more more
than a month, I was hurt. After a while, though, I

(42:46):
was like, man, I'm them. Blocking me was like the best thing,
because yeah, I can't, Ican't to separate yourself, you will
walk through that door, yes,I think, especially more so I guess
with relationships. But it's easier withthe ghosting because like usually I will say,
ghosting happens when it's like a shorterperiod of time. Hopefully it's some
shit that happens in the beginning.He step, it's a relationships territory.

(43:08):
Then that's just like a terrible fuckingperson, you know what I mean.
But one day, like we've allbeen down bad before, and then there's
that one magical day you just wakeup and you're like, oh shit,
I don't care anymore. And it'sso like when you truly don't, when
you're like downline yourself and you're like, oh shit, and then like you
laugh about it, like damn,I was really dawn bad about that looking

(43:29):
back at yourself, like crying,looking back reading my journal entries on it,
I'm like crame, like, okay, you're crazy, babes. Okay,
not your journal entries. I lovethat. That's a little fitness bag.
I was like these feeling because Idon't even have them anymore. Exactly
like this poor ass man good It'slike what, yeah, yes, feel

(43:53):
those feelings. Yeah I felt it, felt it, felt it, over
it, and now I'm in abetter place. Yes, you will get
there, just they are dead toyou. But I would like to say,
if you are thinking about ghosting,like ghosting someone, just why why
don't people just be like it wasa fun time, Thank you so much.

(44:17):
I'm onto the next. Yeah,obviously, like in nicer terms,
but like I've been pretty good atthat too, someone like if we've been
hooking up for when I am overyou, I'm like I was just like,
hey, I don't think we shouldsee each anymore. Yeah, it's
that simple. It's so freaking simple, like shout, but right, isn't

(44:39):
that so much better? Like it'llhurt to hear, but I feel like
it's better than being ghosted. Well, and for me, I feel like
it's easier on my end because it'slike I really don't want to hear from
you anymore. So like I hopeI make myself so clear in a nice
way because I want to be anasshole, like you should stop texting me.
Can I ask a question about differentlydifferent types of ghosting? Because I've

(45:00):
been trying to think if I'm aguilty ghost or like, so that's what
I want to know. That's whatI want to know because a lot not
a lot, this is all thepast life. I'd just like to say,

(45:22):
yeah, their goals, but she'severything. I love her, but
this is a past life. AndI was just like, I know things
aren't going to keep going, sostart backing out a little bit slowly and
slowly, and then it's like whenI do stop responding, it's like this

(45:45):
was coming right? Is that isthat considered a ghost? Like maybe my
responses start getting a little bit drierand maybe it starts taking a little bit
longer to respond. It's like aslow go I guess because I feel like
that's very natural in a like relateit's like, oh yeah, like he

(46:07):
stopped tech. Like you know whenthose Good Morning Tech stop. I will
say that I felt felt on theother end, like they could tell felt
I see I see what's going on, and like they see what's going on,
so they like are antiusipating it.It's kind of like when you run

(46:28):
over a bunny and you see himslowly dying and it's like, should I
just put the bullet in this moneyand to stop it from dying this terrible
death, or should You're not runningover the bunny. You're leaving him there
to suffer and die a terrible death. That's what you're doing. You're not
taking me out of my misery.I guess you're like you're kind of prolonging
it, right because because I guessit leaves the other person to hope that

(46:51):
you're gonna get it together. I'mnot that's good to hear though. On
the other end, it's just feellike there's it's a great area, Like
yeah, a lot of I feellike, I don't know, I don't
want to speak for all girls ingeneral, but like I feel like there
is room for like the mind tolike roam to places like what if this?

(47:14):
What if that's true? It couldgo there, but I don't know,
like maybe I should wait, maybenot, And that's where it like
goes crazy in your mind. Ina perfect world, we're open and we
communicate and we like voice our needs, but we're all kind of scared to
tell everybody what we want, likethe honest truth of what we want.
So I think that's where it wascoming from. But you probably should have

(47:35):
been like, actually, this isnot what I want. But then but
we all kind of I feel likewe all kind of do like, Okay,
we're just a little bit dryer.We're a little bit drier, and
so we're the fucking hear does Yeah, now, I I'll think about it.
I think it is better just tobe more drag. I guess it
depends on how much you respect thatperson honestly when it comes down to right,
because I feel like I've been theshitty person I guess in that situation.

(47:55):
But I feel like I don't owethat person and explanation because our relationship
was never I've never shown that personsigns of it being anywhere near serious,
Like I've never agreed to go ondates with you when you've asked. I
don't text you. We don't reallytalk like that. I'm not sure if
I even really like you, youknow. So when that situation, it

(48:20):
truly comes to a place of Idon't want to speak with you like at
all at all. I just feellike I don't need to explain myself because
there's nothing to explain, Like Ishowed you all signs. We both know
this was literally nothing, So whatis the point of me even sending this
text to like and nicely like it'slike I could I just kind of scattleway
and not hit you up to hookup, like if it's truly like just

(48:42):
sex and like we don't really havethat connection. But I think if you
do have some kind of connection withsomeone and they're texting you and like now
you're just like, oh, I'mgonna be dry with my text, I
think it's just better to be directbecause exactly like how girls sinc like,
if we really like you and we'renot used to you being distant when that
does come, maybe we are ina place where we're ready to give you
one hundred excuses. And sometimes theperson it really is not that like people

(49:05):
go through shit like oh, actuallyit's not because I wasn't texting because I
might into you, like I don'tknow, someone just died, or like
I have that I'm dealing with depression, or if I can lost my job,
like I don't know, it couldbe anything, or maybe I am
talking to someone, but I stillwant to keep you around because I'm going
to come back to you. Don'tyou worry anything. So we run that
through our head, like I guessyou're putting me in a position where I

(49:27):
need to decide if I need tocut you off, and maybe I'm not
ready to do that, you knowwhat I mean, Like it's just it's
putting too much out there. Ithink if there is connection, he said,
you should, I need facts.But sometimes every once in a while
we're putting positions where it's not thateasy. So I feel like it's best
to be direct. But if youweren't giving them anything to begin with you,

(49:47):
they don't really you don't we alljust like fucking or was it like,
uh, we were went on dates, you took her out, you
dining with the GM smiley face,we lost He's an I would also like
to say that I like prefaced,we were nothing serious. We didn't go

(50:08):
on like official dates necessarily okay,not public, but we kicked what do
you mean we kicked it and likeyeah, like you know, we'll go
smoke or something. But but yeahthat hey you got a last time,

(50:35):
let's go half so no no public? Like do you feel bad a little
bit? Yeah? I think I'vealways kind of felt bad though. I
think I've always just been trying tolike tell myself, like no, I
mean, let's let's call her,let's get her a ring ghost, come

(51:12):
fly ghost like friendly. So yeah, circling back to just like if you
expect the person enough, like justbe direct. The best thing I told
myself to try to get over myguilt and make not even get over my
guilt, to push away my guiltand hide from it altogether. You tell

(51:32):
yourself that I may not have beenopen at the end, but I was
very clear and open at the beginning, like I did go into it.
I was like, hey, thisisn't a relationship. I'm not looking for
that. I don't want it togo past this. Yeah, that's that.

(51:53):
And then so does that make metold her? So you told her
at the beginning. Yeah, Iguess that's no, that's totally fair.
And I think, like I thinkyou girls and guys, No, girls,
guys, I think you do needto believe people when they say that.
I think a lot of times theother person will be like, oh
why I can change that, yeah, or like this might go somewhere else.

(52:13):
Yeah, so that's hard. ButI will say, when you start
doing shit that is not a littlemore serious, like that's not cool either.
Don't tell me we're not doing anything. And now you got me if
I did meet a family barbecues,you know what I mean, Like there's
people who do that too, andthen be like, well, I told
you, remember three months ago,I told you before put that ring on
your finger, I told you it'snot the serious And now I'm the bad

(52:34):
guy. Like yeah, you arethe bad guy. You set the proper
expectation. So yeah, I guessthat's fine. Set the expectations at the
beginning, you know. See,that's that's another topic. Let me tell
you another quick story while we're onthat. My trainer she had a boyfriend
and they were like manet us atthis bar, like we want to go

(52:55):
out, you should come by,And I was like, okay, I'll
stop by. I had a longday it work, and he had a
friend, but I was not intohis friend. And he was like you
know that, me was the guylike screaming out the girl in the club.
It was given those ve like we'reat the Dirt Bird and the music's
blasting and you're trying to have aconversation with me, Like no, I
can't hear you. This is notthe time I just got off work.
Like they're like drunkard than me.Too. It's like I'm not even there.
But then I had a couple moredrinks, music went down, We're

(53:15):
in a little loungeery and I'm talkingto him. We end up vibing my
CM on a couple more occasions.We're hooking up and I have his number.
Okay, we only hooked up onetime, and I want to continue
hooking up with him. So Itext him just like hey, what's up,
blah blah blah. I'm trying gethim the pop for the next weekend.
And he did text me right away. Well, first he was texting

(53:36):
me whatever whatever, and then hedid message me something about like yeah,
like, hey, just want tolet you know I just got a long
relationship. We do not like itfor anything serious. I don't know.
Maybe I'm crazy, because now thatI'm explaining it, explaining it to you
guys, it doesn't sound that bad. But originally when I read that,
I was just a little confused,like I can't be rude and be like
can we still fuck? Though?Like like I was like, what are

(53:58):
you saying here? I okay,and men are simple. Yes, you
could say that and it would belike, yes, that's the end of
that. Okay, So I ama very big fan of early the talks,
Like what are we talks? I'mlike, yeah, no, I'm
saying that straight right now. Yeah, there is no way you could get

(54:21):
this far down the road because Itold you that this was over here from
the very beginning. So okay,want to have sex without feeling guilty too,
Like he's like sex two weekends ina row is okay, it wasn't
the very next weekend. I don'tknow. I just hate the rules and

(54:45):
having that what are we conversation?Right away? Can we not talk about
wanting relationships? Not wanting relationships?What do you like? Even if if
he would ask me, like whatare you looking for? Like but I
don't know, Like I just don'twant to have sex with you a busy
Saturday night, yeah literally, andlike I just don't want to. I
don't know. I guess I'm verylike go with the flow. So like
when we start talking about I guessto me, it's like it's making it

(55:07):
not fun right away, right,But I feel like you no, I
get it, Like yeah, I'mjust thinking like with the guys, it's
like you on the top or bottom, Like it's like straight to it and
straight to it and the relationship justkind of happens near the end anyways.
Yeah, I mean ideally, Ijust feel like there's other ways to let
someone know where you stand or whereyou're at without having to like verbally talk

(55:31):
about it, Like your actions aregonna show in the beginning at least if
we're if you're not asking me ondates exactly, if I'm only hitting you
up on Saturdays or on weeknights orpast a certain hour, like we already
know what it is in the beginning. I don't know. I just feel
like it takes the fun out ofit. I feel like after the first
time, like it's a little liketoo like after the next time, maybe,

(55:55):
like maybe like I don't care thatyou just got a relationship. I
guess that's the other part I wasannoyed with too, Like I didn't ask
you and you didn't ask me,bitch, Like did I did? I
ask you what you're going through?You did? And I hear your side
it's like I'm just trying to benoble. But I guess for me,
it's also like I feel like whenyou say that, you're assuming that I

(56:15):
want that. Yeah, right,so now I feel like you're oversharing and
you need to get over yourself,you know what I mean? All my
bases here. Yeah, you wantto like see what if you guys want
to Maybe it's like you want tosee if you guys are on the same
page. You know, like maybeit should have been an approach a different
way, like, hey, Ijust want sex? Do you just want
sex? O? Way cool?Because I don't want a relationship right now,

(56:36):
you know, like maybe sometime lateron. But but even that,
even though maybe they he had likea hard opinion like I don't want a
relationship, but I just want tofuck because she's pretty, you know what
I mean. Yeah, it's kindof a little bit of dog behavior but
fun. Also, it may takeaway a little bit from the fun,

(56:59):
but if y'all both are on thesame page, then it's guaranteed fun with
guaranteed no drama. Oh I'm intothat. Yeah. So it's like,
you know, let's just let's andif it doesn't work for you and that
you do take it the wrong way, then hey, that's what that is.
Then at least we figured that outnow and not from now when you're

(57:21):
knocking at my door right right,you don't want to we don't want to
read between the line. Yeah,I guess crazy me in the back of
head, I'm just like, well, let's not take off you fall in
love with me off the table completely? Yeah, you with me or not?
Yeah? Like yeah, but maybeyou don't. You just want it
to be purely physical. And that'sokay too. How do you know saying

(57:44):
it's not really your sualtmate and youdon't know that's your saltmate, but right
away you're like, hey, butI want nothing to do with you.
Okay, that's aggress that's an aggressiveexample, and that's not always going to
be the case. But I'm justsaying I feel like at the very beginning,
like first hookup or first high byname, either of us, neither
of us don't know shit. Socan we just wait to have that conversation?

(58:06):
No, now that conversation has feelings. If we have this conversation,
now, there's no feelings in thisconversation, m that's my thing. No,
that's that's a good point. Gottabe there. There's some crazy bitches
out there, there's some crazy guystoo, and like I might hate you
tomorrow, like I might. Idon't know anything about you, so I

(58:28):
just have my little Dululu head alittle person I like thought up so I
could like continue sleeping with you.I convince myself you're a good person enough
for me to hook up with youand like share my body with you.
And then, like you know,once you start talking to someone a little
bit too much, just like oftentimesif you're just tucking up with someone or
just talking to someone, eventually youget to know this person and you decide

(58:52):
if you like them or not.Okay, But like I feel like if
somebody were to approach me and belike after the first time, second time,
whatever, like what like this iswhat it is, Like, it's
just what it is, I wouldred flag. No, I feel the
moment, I would agree because that'swhat it is in that moment down the

(59:15):
line. But down the line getsto be okay else in the culture,
then we have to revisit. Surewe are cross my figures. Yeah,
thanks for you winked, right,what I'm okay, that's what it is.

(59:38):
And if something happens in the future, then that's like another thing to
conquer. Yeah, first comes love, then comes marriage, baby Carris,
that's what you said, right,stupid? How many Yeah, I guess
it's good to be open. Ijust feel like, be honest and open.

(01:00:00):
Do you know what you want?Yeah, in the end, at
that moment, that's what okay,person, I'm saying that because even on
the other end, I don't likewhen people right away like I mean,
I guess it's good to know ifyou're looking for a relationship, But at
the same time, like say Iam and you ask me on date and
you're not even someone that just lookinghook out, but you do ask me,
Hey, what are you looking tobe in a relationship? And I'm

(01:00:21):
like, yeah, Like I feellike that's even a trap question because it's
like, well, that doesn't meanwith you though, And like sometimes people
get scared You're like, oh,she's looking at relationship, but it's like
I don't even know if I likeyou, like we're on this date.
I think it's a good question.I think it's a good question. You
are you do want a relationship andyou could say that it doesn't have to
necessarily be with you, but Iknow in the future, like I do

(01:00:42):
want to be with someone. Iwant to like, you know, plant
my seed or whatever, like Iwant to be you know, put my
roots in the ground with someone Yes, yeah, that's a good question,
you know, or just like Iactually do I want to be an absolute
horror right now for the next twoyears because I just got a relationship and
no, I'm gonna like just bethe biggest slut ever. Are you cool
with that? Because I'm gonna beYou're gonna get tested. I'm gonna tested,
and we're gonna be like fucking lookinglike rabbits. I do feel like

(01:01:07):
people get scared though, like,yeah, people will totally get scared or
like beat on the chest. Yeah, I mean, I guess it's fair
to like let someone know if you'reemotionally unavailable. Wow, there we go,
Yeah, wrap it up, wrapthis up. That was it.
I feel like emotions is like thetopic, like yeah, it boils down

(01:01:29):
to like the emotions of it.Yes, and yeah, you can let
me know where you're at in themoment. But for me, I'm just
like the universe and us this isso much bigger. But you don't know
what's gonna happen tomorrow, So don'ttell me your little plans because you don't
know and I don't know. Okay, That's all I'm saying. And also
that could just be like they're beinglike putting their poker face on, like,
h yeah, you know, I'mjust trying to fuck but you know,
you know, men are sensitive.Boys girls are sensitive too, you

(01:01:51):
know. Either way, you couldsay that like, oh, that's not
what I want, but deep downeveryone wants to be loved, right,
yeah, I don't want loved loved. It's good to hear the guys want
to be yellow more boys in thepodcast. I don't know what you're talking.
Is one of my only guy friendswho gives me sound advice. And

(01:02:15):
you're pretty sound, you're pretty wellaccept the offer to be on the podcast
again. Okay, every way backto the city then yeah, beautiful.
Let them know. And at theend that I think that's what we've all.
Yes, every day, I gota temperature. Every day's next morning,

(01:02:43):
tophone out, Yeah, yeah haveActually should I say this? Yes?
Say it? Say yeah, faceit's a family member close to me.
Okay, we got it. Butthey just got out of a long

(01:03:04):
relationship and they just got into anew relationship and they're kind of like,
I'm just not ready to like getmarried again or whatever. And the partner
rolls over and says, babe tomy family and They said, babe,
babe, do you want to getmarried? And my family member says,

(01:03:27):
Mary had a little lamb that's likein my or something like the worst movie,
like baby, you want to getmarried? Mary had a little to
me like myself get up red flagor red poster or red ball, Oh

(01:03:58):
my little did you recite nurseries tome? Did your family member tell you
this or did the family member togetherremember yes, and we love them?
I love her, love her?Oh her sin is just a jokester,
just a real jokes Did you feelthat like he was just married to though?

(01:04:28):
Yeah, he just marriage a longtime. Did the partner want clarification?
Honestly, I just got the funnyjoke of the story, and that
was This wasn't though, like aproposal though, This wasn't like a down
on my knee? Will you marryme? You want to? I like
was always asking and stuff. Idon't want to get too deep into it

(01:04:51):
because it's a little personal. Andmy family member does listen to the podcast.
Oh my god. They they toldme O the days they're like,
you're you're talking about me the otherday on the podcast or not really?
But I said, but I said, because I was saying, like,
oh, this person when whenever theygo on trips they bring me a t
shirts of like here's my here's mycan coon. But that you didn't go

(01:05:16):
shirt. I heard you talking aboutthat on the podcast. I was like,
oh, yeah, give me betterguests, like so much shot glass
or something. Anyways, honestly,I want to know, like where did
it go after that, because Idon't know, funny, that is hilarious,
it's hilarious. I need to knowthe rest of the story. My

(01:05:38):
family member is just a super funnyguy, and I don't know, but
they're still together and I love her. Maybe she probably understood his exactly.
I think it was just that itwas because if somebody said that to me,
yeah, I think they will eventuallyone day get married get married.
But like I said, like,my family member just got out really like

(01:05:58):
a ten years something like that.But yeah, so that's just a nice
funny story of today. Mary hada little Yeah. I guess o'ver all.
It's just important to know what youwant, and I think I'm someone
who totally doesn't like I know,I want to be single right now.
I love the space I created formyself mentally, physically, I look at

(01:06:20):
my apartment, that is a woman'sapartment. I don't want no man a
living or touching anything in there.Yeah, and like, I love not
checking in with someone, and Ifeel like that's something that just comes natural.
There's nothing wrong with it. Ithink it's a beautiful thing. You
want to know what they're doing.But I feel like when I got out
my first relationship, I really fellin love with the freedom part, Like
wow, I'm at the sushi restaurantand no one knows I'm here, or

(01:06:43):
like you may you ask me forplans, I'm gonna check in to see
if this person, Like I reallyfell in love with that and never really
fell out of love with it.I mean, I even get mad when
my friends do it. I'm nota relationship because of those reasons. I'm
not gonna take it from my buddyall pal. So there is a lot
that I love about being single andwhat comes with it. But on the
other hand, I don't like thestreets. I'm over the streets, and

(01:07:08):
I hope I have the courage tolike not turn away my soulmate if that
is ever in front of me.I don't know, I don't know what
I want I'm a mess. Iactually don't know what I want. I'm
down to being fall in love.I'm also down to be single for the
rest of my life. So Ifeel like that being down to be single
for the rest of your life isthe best way to find a relationship.
Yeah, because you gotta you haveto be able to find that piece and

(01:07:31):
like know that piece that you couldbring yourself and be like that means you
have to beat this because this rightover here a great time and if you
come down here and lower this,then it's not going to work for you.
Exactly perfectly said. So if you'resingle, stay single forever as long
as you can hold on to it. Love it. Don't tell someone what

(01:07:54):
you want on the first date.Okay to say that, I'm in a
happy relationship right now. So yeah, cou up to Carmel. We love
you too, Carmel on the podcastnow. Yes, And if you are
being ghosted and you're feeling really downabout it, bitch, what I need
you to do right now is deadgo. Yeah, he's dead to you.

(01:08:15):
Go to your local supermarket, hitup aisle three, pick up some
self esteem for free ninety nine.That person is dead to you. Cremated
and we're not bringing them back tolife. There will be no reincarnation,
not here. You're dead forever,wipe off the face of the planet.
No social security, no nothing,no record of him, like, there's
no record, like he's gone.Alrightp you's got no one knows him,

(01:08:38):
No one knows him. That's whatyou gotta do. He doesn't exist.
Yeah, and you will see thelight down the tunnel and you will be
oh, okay, surround yourself withyou like just the free Yeah, And
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