I SAID TOO MUCH

 Monica McNutt checks Stephen A Smith on ESPN's First Take, Bottoms (2023) movie review, and I felt super judged by one of my friends about my situationship  *THIS EP WAS RECORDED 6/4*

Episode Transcript

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For the record with me Angelina,who's been so so behind on editing episodes.
You guys, when I tell you, I think we recorded this one
like two weeks ago, dead ass. We're gonna be back next week on
point. But yeah, you mightget an extra episode next week too,
because there was another really good episodethat we recorded that I forgot to edit,
that was even way before this one. I might just like do the

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Bitch segment because I feel like ourtopic was really good, but obviously everything
else is a little outdated. SemI the case for this episode, I
mean not really, just for theculture, and for the culture, I
do want to I did want totalk about Steven A. Smith and Monica
McNutt and then getting into it andthe whole narrative around the WNBA right now,
and let's talk TV. I'm actuallylate to the party, even though

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this is a late episode. I'vebeen late to this. I just finally
watched the movie Bottoms on Amazon Primeand I have to talk about it.
And in Bitch, we talk aboutwhen being the oversharer bites you in the
ass. Okay, when is sharingtoo much information with your friends about your

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situationships and relationships too much? Soby all means, let's get to it.
This is for the culture, forthe culture. For the culture.
This is where we pick a headlineand ask if they, she or he
did it for the culture. I'mgonna just flat, I'll say steven A.
Smith right now not doing it forthe culture. I know you guys,

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I don't know if you guys watchFirst Take at all, But if
you don't know, and for thelisteners that don't listen to because this is
obviously not a sports podcast, FirstTake is a popular sports show with steven
A. Smith and Shannon Sharp,and basically what they do is they just
discuss the hottest topics that are goingon that week in sports. Usually like
yeah, they're just having a discussionand they'll bring on guests and Mollie Kierum

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love her. She's like the girlon the show. She's kind of the
moderator to make sure they stay ontrack when we need to come a commercial
break. And yeah, they haveguests on to like basically debate with steven
A Shanna Sharp like kind of battleit out on like the hottest topic.
So a couple of weeks ago,the whole honestly, the video world lost
our minds about the w WNBA becauseKennedy Carter they're playing a game against Kaylyn

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Clark, and basically Kaitlyn Clark wasgetting ready to get in about it and
mind you, like, I'm sureyou guys know Kaylyn Clark. People are
saying like she is like the reasonthat the WNBA is getting all this attention,
which honestly is the whole other conversationbecause yes and no, you know,
I I think she deserves her flowerstoo, but do you think people
have been a little od with it? Anyways, She's waiting to get the

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ball inbounded and Kennedy cars sees herand you see her mouth. She says,
you little bitch and runs up toher and gives her a little hip
check before the ball's even inbounded,and yeah, okay. People were mad
about that. And then after review, the refs just said it was a
common foul and like, clearly it'sa flaground foul, Like that wasn't okay,

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And guys, the world went crazylike everyone's just like bathing Kaylen Clark
and they're just like like news outletslike Good Morning America covered it, You
covered it. News outlets were likethis is assault is crazy. It's the
basketball y'all. Like honestly that whatshe did was wrong and like one hundred

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percent was a flagron foul, likeI would have been mad about the common
foul too, And honestly, likejust watching the game, like the game
was really close, like girl,I'm all here for like, you know,
bicking up someone, you know,gotta punk a chest out a little
bit. Yeah, but like whenthe game is that closed, like that
was honestly like just a dumb decisionin general, But it's not something that's
like uncommon in the game of basketball. Men do it all the time,

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yes, not just basketball, likefootball players do it all the time,
people like stepping on people's heads andshit, so like, and no one's
calling it assault, right And basicallythere's like this narrative in the media that
like, oh, the women aremessing up the coverage that the WNBA is
getting. So Steve n Ae Smithand he brings up Monica McNutt, who
is an ESPN analyst honestly covered NBAand WNBA, and she's also played basketball

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herself, like she's what's a playerin the game exactly she knows what she's
doing. So they're on to talkabout this and basically like, I'm paraphrasing
the whole thing, but Steve NieSmith basically is like, you know,
I hate having to choose my wordsbecause he does want to criticize the women
for like I guess not acting rightbecause of the coverage or whatever. I
don't know, and it like hatesthat she's saying, I hate that this

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is in a diegment of the wholeWNBA, Like it shouldn't be. She
like did say, like Kenny Karvais wrong for doing that. It was
like all around stupid decision, butthis isn't like a whole indictment of the
WNBA, Like now you know they'reruining it for themselves and you know,
like we can't choose violence, likeoh, that's pretty stupid. And Steven
Smith is like, I hate thatI'm trying to criticize her, but I
have to pick and choose my words, and Monica says, well, welcome

(05:16):
to like being a woman, right, like okay, all the time,
right, which so things are gonnaheat it mid They're having this conversation for
forty five minutes, which like onfirst like like it doesn't that doesn't happen
a lot and especially talking about women'ssports, which it's like silver lining because
that is cool. Like in general, we haven't seen this much coverage on

(05:38):
the WNB and ju just so exactly, but like it's it's getting really heated,
like Molly has to be like,guys, let me do my job,
like we have to go to commercialbreak here, Like she's getting like,
yeah, it's getting heated. Sothey're saying that she says, welcome
to being a woman. So wheresteven A responds what he says, he
says, what about being a blackman? And for contact, Monica is

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a black woman, So it justseemed I don't know, I guess looking
back now, like in the heatof the moment, like that's this is
stephen a show. I'm sure there. I feel like there is a narrative
also, like obviously we know women'sbasketball is getting more coverage, but there
is a lot of people who liketalk shit still who say people don't care
about women's basketball and you know,like are so anti the WBA. Yeah

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exactly, So I get not wantingto be like roped into that, you
know, like yeah and becoming defensiveand none of us are black, soot
don't even want to speak, liketoo much to what they're saying to each
other, but also like I wasraised by a lot of black women and
like just doing your regular research onAmerica and how black women have been treated,
Like you don't want to play thestruggle who struggled most? Yeah a

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black woman? Yeah, especially asa black man. You would think he
would like understand it more so thatPARTUT thought was kind of whack. And
then he goes on to say whohas done more for the WBA than first
take? Okase, relax, andagain I'm like okay before it gets even
like what she responded, which kindof like got things pop in. I

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get it, like when something isfinally becoming popular or coming up like not
only exactly do you not want tobe roped into? Oh I'm definitely not
that, Like I'm an applive,I don't want to be roped into the
others Like that's not me. AndI get wanting when things are blowing up,
like you want your credit right,like I can talk about this shit
or like who talks about it morethan my show? Either? I do?

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I do think that is like Iunderstand where it comes from, like
the pride and like wanting to defendyourself and like, exactly, you do
want your credit. I totally getit, but like to your point,
it is weird. Don't people wantBrownie probe else give it to you because
somebody's gonna be like, nah,they've been on that. You know,
people that are listening to people arewatching, they're right now, they've been
about that. You're like, youknow what I mean, right? I

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guess for me, I'm just likeWNBA is having their moment. I think
people need to let them have theirmoments, like it's not about the it's
not about who did what first,like and if I'm talking about it on
my show, I'm assuming it's becauseI'm hoping that one day it becomes something
like that where it's like, oh, for sure, they're fine right when
you're right away like, well,I'm the one doing this, like else

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who's done more for whatever? AndI'm stly gonna get more into that because
so basically he's saying that into whatshe says, respectfully, stephen A,
you weren't talking about the w BAthree years ago. Molly Kierum makes the
greatest face like she's like, oh, is it true? Steven Ae has
a speechless I mean, I guesshe's gotta. He did say like,

(08:37):
oh, I guess you missed somefirst take episode. Yeah, like I
would like to see the receipts.I mean, three years ago, no
one was me neither, like youknow, I mean my mom, she's
not her w BA fan, butwhen she was watching, I wasn't watching
it as much like I don't knowas many players as I did three years
ago than I do now, youknow, Like I'm guilty of it too.
I think a lot of us are. And it's just like she it

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was just a true fact. StephenA speechless, Like the guys, there's
a whole pregnant pause like it wasawkward. Molly Karen's face is hilarious.
Steven A just goes wow wow.And when you say wow, I know,
yeah, you're guilty. You're guilty, guilty face. That's what that

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means. And that's what Molly waslike, guys, please let me do
my job, like we need togo to commercial work right now, like
we need to wrap this up.So that was that Twitter goes crazy all
the headlines. Stephen A left speechless, Steve and I got put in her
place. Want to go checked him? Steven I goes on his own podcast
because he has his own platform,and like, I just thought his response
was so whack. I don't Idon't even have the whole thing, but

(09:41):
like some of the things he saidwas like one like no one who monicam
neck was but now you do ifyou watch first whatever. Actually it's like
she covers both the w n BA and w n B A and like
was a player in herself, Likeshe like you know, tears to like
have that platform, and like Idon't know, listen, there's like claiming,

(10:05):
no one I was talking about thew NBA without my podcast. Nobody
knew her without my podcast, Likeno, he completely misses the whole point
of what she's said. Obviously,his feelings are hurt, and like I
said, I get in the moment, like exactly not I wanted to be
roped into, like he's really defendinghimself and his feelings are hurt. But
I just feel like he missed herwhole point. Like yeah, because he
also goes on to say, likeall the women he's hired, like including

(10:28):
Molly on first take, and allthe women that work at his jobs,
and all these things he's done forwomen and women's bathroom ball, right exactly.
He should have just let her havethat, like six with your legend,
you have this show, this literallyis your platform. Let her win
this debate. Yeah, like whydo you have to take it there to
like, oh well, let metell you I did X, Y and
Z for women, including you.You need to be on this thing.

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This is my show, you know. Like I just saw his follow up
response with so whack it did nothave to go there. Let someone check
you or let or be like orshow some receipts and be like actually I
was, or even if he washonest, like you know what, yeah,
like I was also busy trying tohave the number one show, you
know, like you gotta respect it, like yeah, you know, everyone

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has excuses of why they didn't puton a platform where they didn't. Her
point is like it needs to bedone now. And just like this whole
narrative of I mean, going backto that original argument. I was listening
to this podcast that Marcus Thompson wason. Legendary a sports writer like did
so much work with the Warriors backin our early days, works for the

(11:31):
Athletic. He was on this podcastand he was saying, you know,
with the WNBA. When you havea big up and cooming league like this,
you need those stories of like,you know, juiciness and like personalities,
you know, and about these playersand whatnot. But what's missing is
the regular WNBA coverage and he andhe was saying like he's don't you know,

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like please don't get mad because likeshe's a hooper too, but like
there's still a lot of people whoare not seeing this as real basketball and
it's shown in the media, Likehow come I can't go see exactly like
how many you know, like specificstats and like other things that like sports
junkies can't look at too in theNBA, in the NFL, but like
the WABA, it's only these storiesdrama. Yeah, it's more like reales

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instead of Yeah. But the argumentwas like in general, like we just
need more depth in wa coverage,which is like period. I thought they
like honestly goes into the podcast.It was so good. Let me see
what it's called, because I knowthey work for the Athletic Athletic Women's Basketball
show. It is like the emergencypod because they had to talk about this
situation. But the way Stevehni Smithwent about it, I just thought was
so whack. It's giving defensive ina what's the word, I'm looking for

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a defensive in a desperate desperation inlike a desperation type of way. Like
he is trying to defend himself,but in like he doesn't have the right
words to say, so he's justtrying to make you look even more instant.
Yeah yeah, and then you canyou can prove yourself later. Yeah

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right, you know what I mean? And like I said, like I
see, I get, I totallyget wanted to defend yourself and all this
stuff, and like I respect StevenA. Smith, but it's like the
way you're going about it, it'slike looking the opposite. It's making you
look even worse. Like just letthese women have their moment. Yeah exactly,
I agree, and like and justthe whole like, oh, did
you even know who she was beforeshe was on first stick? Like yul

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right, because I said, youwere talking about the WNBA three years ago.
It's honestly, I would like tosee the receipts, you know what
I mean? So Charlot to Monica, though she tweeted yesterday, she says,
so, what's been going on herewith like a ween face because like
mind you like Twitter was going crazy, Yeah, Steven A. Smith like
two responses like on Twitter on hisYouTube page and it's like, you know

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your platform, like you're lowkey likeputting all these people to go bully her
too. Luckily, I mean peopleare like you're being whack and fuck but
like especially the people that you don'twant to be, like the people that
are so anti w n b A, like they're gonna jump all over yeah
them, or that you're giving themchance to be like this is why you
know what I mean exactly exactly,So yeah, Steve may Smith, but

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not doing it for the culture.Let's talk TV honestly, Chris and I
here today, so we're not gonnatalk about hacks. So y'all got one
more weeks to catch up because Isilers I said in the last episode,
We're not gonna be aout it right, but I'm away for Chris because he
did see them. Finally, Ihave to start with, no, you

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want me to watch all three seasons? Huh? Yeah, I said,
you can't. Yeah, you can't, You really can't. You really started?
No, Okay, no, respectfully, I watched Bottoms for the first
time last night. Did you guyswatch that movie. No, Oh my
god, it's like I feel likeit's like low Ki, like supposed to
be like a cult classic. It'swith Rachel I think her name Senate.

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She's she was on the idol.She was like the friend that's like the
assistant. Again. It's a movie. It's called Bottoms. Marshall Lynch was
like a supporting character. He's allfunny. Oh and I haven't seen it
that dog I know he's actually andthen I, oh, how do you
say her last name? From thebear Piery? Yeah, from the bear

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who's like amazing, she's in it, you guys. I was not expecting
because Okay, what I've read onTwitter and stuff, like, it's supposed
to be like a super Bad forgirls basically. But it's basically about these
two lesbians in high school and theycreate a fight club just so they could
hook up with cheerleaders, and theylike it's they kind of lie about why
they're creating the club, or liketheir resources or like their background, their

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credentials. I guess of like whatmakes them start a fight club just so
they hook up the chillers, Butthey end up creating like this really cool
space for women. Okay, sothat's like kind of the premise of so
you can see where that goes wrongand where it doesn't. But it's just
it's like so chaotic, Like there'sscenes like, honestly, I don't want
to say it because it's like gointo a vinely But I guess a lot

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of it is satire. But there'ssome ship that I did not plan on
seeing, like it looking as alittle gory, Like the scenes are crazy
glory bruh, because it is acomedy. It's it's hell of funny.
Yeah, shout out to Marshall Lynch. Actually, I think I read this
a long time ago because I meantto watch this movie a long time ago.

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It's certainly not a new movie cameout last year. But I guess
like Marshall Lynch putou because I guesslike his sister or something was lesbian.
I think when she came out hedidn't like when he handled it. I
don't know, because it is definitelya lesbian like, so I think it
meant a lot for him to bein it and play that role. He's
like the freaking teacher and I don'tknow, he like tries to understand these
girls but be small, be small. Yeah, I know, he's pretty

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funny in it. It's good.Just go watch it. It's chaotic.
It definitely is like very super bad, very book smart, like it's hilarious,
but some twists that makes it likemaybe like in more it's like,
wow, this is a cult classicbecause it's so stupid bad I have I
didn't even I have never heard ofit. I I've not seen the movie
poster. I've not seen anything.I guess I A lot of writers on

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Twitter also don't have Amazon the movieone the Oh that is probably what I
watched. I don't have it,and that's where its streaming on, So
I have that, but I don't. I didn't even see it on it
don't all. I guess all thewriters, I like, everyone does tweet
about it on my timeline, butin a very you have not known already.

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People are making like the fan editsfor it, you know, like
that kind of deal. Okay,But I also I think I know more
about it because I had interv CharlieXCX, and I think she basically like
helped with the score. Oh yeah, she did a lot of the sound
and her and I Rachel gar arelike besties. Yeah, I was reading
some of the reviews on letter boxbecause I'm just like, what are people
thinking about this movie? Like there'sjust a lot of stuff I did not

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expect. Like I literally like kindof I was like laying down and it
made me like sit up. Iwas like, what the fuck like that?
But it's hilarious. But yeah,I'm just reading someone said Rachel said
in AO I do you know,learn how to say her last name?
But it says could do fight Clubwith Brad Pitt and Edwin Orton. Couldn't
do bottoms because the guy is likea fight club but like a super Okay,

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it sounds good. Oh and onething I just want to say.
At the end, they have abluebird thing bring like bluebirds Anyone's like you?
Which I finally watched too. Yes, it was bad. It was
pretty bad. I'm definitely not sayingit's my top three, but I love

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a rom cop. So bad it'sa bad movie. I would watch again,
Okay, Okay, and I guessI do agree with I was like
looking on Twitter, a lot ofpeople are saying that Sidney Sweeney was miscast.
I do kind of see that alittle bit. The guy was perfect
the main guys. I think she'sjust meant for more either serious roles or
like scary movies. A yeah.And also I'm sorry Gata cannot act.

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I know, I gave him praiseolder episodes and Little Dickie for his like
monolog but I think it was morejust what they were highlighting, because the
more I see him, I'm like, how was he getting these roles?
And like he just seemed so likenot even just talken a black guy,
but like it was just so unnatural, like so like I would not believe
that there are friends Okay, Okay, well, technically he was the sister,
the brother sorry to the to thefriend guy. He's also the guy's

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best friend, the one that SidneySweeney except with. I like, you
know, I believe that the theguy who Sidney Sweeney hooks up with is
friends with the girl one of theone of the the girls from the couple
that's getting married, because I don'tknow, I just like there, yeah,

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like they're definitely close, because hewas like, I know, you,
bro, you need to choose her, and like you know everything about
the eggs. Okay, I guess, uh telling me And I've watched the
movie so many times. But andthey read they were friends. Wise,
I mean they're all friends because theygrew up together. Okay, yes,

(20:07):
yeah, they all hang out.Like let's see where they're like meeting up
to the friends. Like, Idon't know, it's just like this is
so it doesn't seem like he reallyhangs out with them, like obviously he
does this movie. But but youdidn't buy it. You didn't buy the
acting. Yeah, he's just abad actor. But I would I would
still watch it again though, likethere were some parts that I that made
me feel things. Okay, well, it is one of my favorite rom

(20:30):
coms. I don't know. Idon't remember if I said top three,
but I did say, yeah,I did not. I did not.
Yeah, I don't know. Idon't remember, but top three. It's
not in my top three. IfI did say that, it's not in
my top three, but is oneof my favorite rom comms currently and will
be in my rotation of feel goodcomfort movies that I will put on when

(20:52):
I want to watch a movie,and I will stand by that, respectfully.
What everyone else thinks good for you, what I think good for me,
you're not. I'm it does nothurt my feelings that people are hating
on it. Yeah, we're nottrying to hurt your feelings a course,
just giving a review of the movie, I know. But I just feel
like the way that I was goinghard for it, yeah, and like

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people aren't are telling me that theydon't like it. It's fine, Yeah,
yeah you should it just for you. It's for you. There's a
really bad wrong time I watched itwas like I think it's called When We
Last Met or something. It's likesuch a big movie. It's not the
guy from Alcoholics, a small onewith a scrunch, and like he goes

(21:37):
into like I don't know, thisfucking like photo booth and he's like allowed
to like rewind time every time hegoes into it, and he like is
in love with this girl, sohe goes in there three wine so we
could get her to like fall inlove with him every time he meets her,
but like it never works out.Yeah, like because they're just not
meant to be. But it's likekind of a bad movie, but I
liked it, And that's how Ifeel about anyone but you. It's like
this is clearly a bad movie,but I will watch it again. That's

(22:00):
how I felt about have you alwaysseen How to Stay? Or How to
Be Single? Oh? I lovethe movie, that's not it. I
liked it, but I think Idon't know, just something about it was
like not my favorite. I seeit again. It's just different way.
I don't know. But it's agood movie. It is a good movie.
I like the time. I willsay, but yeah, anyone but
you, you guys watched it,let us know, let us know.

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I still really think it's good.I will still recommend it to everyone I
talk to. Go watch Bottom though, because that's another one that's like,
is this a bad movie or isit the greatest film I've ever seen?
You know, just a super funhigh school comedy, top notch political satire,
amazing score, absolutely deranged, irrelevant, silly film. Cinema bottoms on

(22:56):
Amazon Prime, go watch it.Bit, there is something I want to
talk about a little bit because Ihave noticed a little backfire on my part.
For context, You guys, I'msome and I'm not going to stop
this either, but I think Iam just going to adjust a little bit.
But I am someone who like talksthings to the motherfucking ground like anything.
It could be a work thing.It's like any conflict comes in my

(23:18):
life, I need everyone in theMoMA's opinions. I need all my friends
opinions, maybe even some colleagues.You know, I need a group chat,
right, I need to obsess overit for a little bit. I
need to torture myself and then Icome to my senses and then I have
a clearer vision and it really doesn'tmatter, like I am taking everyone's opinions
into consideration. But I think afterall of it, I do come to
just like truly what I'm feeling andwhat I think is right. You just

(23:41):
need to talk. You just needexactly and to different people. I do
like herring the different things. WhetherI agree with it or not, like
it just it just helps me.It's just what I like to do.
Yes, But you know, Igave my update to you guys about Carpenter
Bay and like you know where thingsare going. But I had recently went

(24:02):
to my Neil appointment, and Iforgot that I didn't update my nail tech
of like us talking again or likeanything that had happen, because I haven't
talked her since my birthday, andlike why don't She was like why,
Like why are you talking to himagain, and like I think I talked
it too much into the ground thatI wasn't even able to like explain it
the way I explain it to youguys, cause I'm just like it's like
so long ago now, and likenow we're in a good place. Like
I didn't, like my emotions aren'teven there they're as strong. So I

(24:25):
was just like, oh, well, this happened, and he apologized I
forgave him. Then he showed upat this thing and I thought I was
really sweet and now we're good.Yeah, And I don't know. She
just like was like super shitting onhim and like almost the point like I
was actually getting irritated because it mademe feel like she's like we feel like
this dumb bitch who like keeps takingtheir X back kind of ordeal, you
know what I mean. And andI'm like the last one to like be

(24:45):
defending a man, Like even mymom and them always get on me like
I'm like too harsh on people andwhat do whooped? And it's like I
don't. It made me like Ifelt like I needed to do that,
and it was like and then Iwas getting annoyed myself because it's like ill
I don't need to. It waslike, I don't need to explain anything
to you right one two I'm soundinglike this girl is like trying to fend

(25:06):
him. It's like, oh no, I don't want to sound like that
either. Like we were like talkingin circles, basically just getting me annoyed.
I actually had to go back thenext day because we didn't finish my
nails in time and I had togo to WORG. I was running late,
so I was like in a bettermoviod and I did kind of like
say it's her in a nicer waythat I was kind of annoyed and until
she kind of hurt me up.But she was kind of like, well,
you know what the day like,this isn't your boyfriend. And I'm
like yeah, clearly, like exactly, but also I feel like you're still

(25:29):
just now You're just like anyways allthis to say, and and I kind
of edited it to her with likeyou know what, yes he did a
whack thing, and I toose toforgive that whack thing. It is what
it is, like, yeah hedoes on the whack and I forgave it.
Do I think it's like level oflike wow, he's to beat me
or I cheated on me, LikeI think there's layers of like putting up
with shit, So I don't thinkI'm not gonna say like this dumb bitch
I like keeps going back to hereggs. And also on top of like

(25:52):
this isn't my boyfriend, Like I'mnot really putting up with anything like the
other the day we're dating and havingfun, so I'm not necessarily like crying
in a corner putting up with anything, laying you know, a bed,
waiting for a fall call either,Like I'm not doing that either, So
we kind of just ended it thatway. But all this to say,
I have this older friend who usedto write here at my Heart, and
I remember I didn't know so longthat she even had a boyfriend until like

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we got like extra close because shewanted to vent about him finally. And
even then, I remember, likeshe's now in a really good relationship,
Like I don't know, they mightget married too, and I don't know,
like they're doing really good, butI remember like when they were having
their early troubles, like I didn'thear any of it until maybe recently because
it was like a past situation andI always admired her of being very private

(26:36):
and like not that I'm gonna stopbeing this overshare, but I am saying,
like you really cannot tell your friendseverything, And that's what I want
to talk about, oversharing your relationships. I kind of just yeah, I
want to talk about that, Likehow do you guys feel about that?
I think I'm in the same boatas you, where like if something happens
to me, I need to liketalk about it with like my friend,

(26:59):
like like whoever, Like I justneed to like expel it from my body
for me to like help me,like you know. Yeah, however,
I do feel like speaking on likemy relationship and love life vibe. No
one knows anything about it. I'mnot telling anyone. If I'm dating someone

(27:21):
new, they'll hear about it ifanything after the fact, no one,
no one, no one, likenot even like your best friend, no,
not even anything, because I definitelyknew about you talking to people.
Yeah, but like I don't sharelike all the all the details, like
oh, like oh I'm on thedating apps. Oh I'm going on to

(27:41):
day on Saturday. Oh, theday was cool. I'm going on another
day like the next week. Whenyou do company problems. It's very like,
let me start from the beginning ofwhen it was going good and I
was going exactly yeah. Yeah,so it's like more towards like the tail
and if anything, and like Ifeel like even with you, I feel

(28:03):
like I've only talked to you aboutlike one, maybe two people. Yeah,
I've dated multiple more than that,sure, but yeah, I don't
know. That's just the boundary ofmind that I've always had. I don't
know why. I just feel likeit's something sacred to my heart. And
I also feel like I don't wantpeople to know about that part of my

(28:23):
life if it's not something that willbe long term, Like I don't want
to It's not that it's bad.I don't want to be the person who's
like has ten people dating ten peopleand then like their friends get confused about
who you're talking about because it's likeyou just and then like once it's over,

(28:48):
I don't want them to like askme about it for sure, it's
done right whatever. I do feellike you can correct me if I'm wrong.
I also feel like you do italso as a protective mechanism a little
bit like I feel like you don'tlike to your helps up about certain things
and like talking about it. You'relike, I don't want to talk about
it two sand or you know.Also I also feel like that's part of
it as well, but yeah,I don't know, it's just well,

(29:11):
you don't have to yeah, youknow. Yeah, I don't talk to
anybody about anything I have. Ihave like two people maybe three that really
know or that I feel like Icould say a lot too, like almost
like ninety nine point ninety nine,but there's always something I like to keep
to myself, especially with dating andrelationships, but me with mostly everything.

(29:34):
I think for me though, andI don't know if it's the same for
you, but only child you dothat a lot growing up sometimes where you
can just yeah, I feel overthinkyourself into it. You decided for yourself.
You didn't whether you needed the adviceor not, you didn't have it,
so you just kept yeah. AndI think that that kind of internalizes
later in life, where like nowit's you kind of get used to like,

(29:57):
well I talk to as motherfucker,I know it's myself and then you
know, And I also will sayto everyone, even to you, like
not everyone needs to know everything.Yeah, And I think that's that's in
every aspect of your life. Nomatter how much is everything to you,
you can share it a lot,but there's always little things that it's like

(30:19):
keep that sacred, keep that foryourself. And I'm sure you do that.
You probably just don't realize it becauseyou're choosing to share what you want
to. Well, I'm not sayingI'm just saying I don't realize it.
There's definitely I don't say every detail, like there's things that are sacred,
but I'm just saying I'm an openbook like process in general, Like yeah,
the things you guys were free toshare, Like I'm open book about
a lot of things, Like Idon't mind sharing, you know, not
necessarily deep dark secrets, but likestuff that like is really private to other

(30:42):
people, like it's not private tome, And I don't mind that.
And I don't think it's something thatlike, oh this is like it doesn't
mean it's not sacred to me becauseI'm sharing it. I'm just more comfortable.
I'm just like an open book andI don't mind that. Yeah,
And I love hearing about other peopletoo, and I feel like and I
feel like I get that energy inreturn because I do feel like a lot
of people do confide in me alot about things that they don't confind to
everyone about. Also, yeah,so I don't think I'm necessarily like not

(31:06):
making it sacred. It just it'sjust my personality. Like I don't know,
I'm an aries. I don't knowwhat your guys signs are. Like
I'm a pistash and I'm not anonly child. I'm the oldest. I'm
like the manager of my family.And I have a really big family.
And my cousins are like my sistersand my brothers, and like we all
just talk like my mom talk abouteverything too. So I don't know,

(31:26):
maybe that's just like also how alittle bit how I grew up and just
like what I'm comfortable doing. Yeah, And also and I guess this is
what I'm learning now, Like I'mspeaking more so about relationships because I know
my friends are. I guess I'monly saying this to myself because I know
they love me and they care aboutme a lot. So I also need

(31:48):
to remember that they're just coming froma protective place. But I and I
also know like that I tend tosometimes I take things personally when they're when
it's not that serious. I saythat this is specifically not like i'd the
right reason to be a little upset, but it was Also I can't blame
him because I chose to share thatinformation, and I guess I just need
to be more for me. Ineed to be more mindful of that,

(32:08):
like if you do, in thelong run, choose to forgive this person,
Like what is is there gonna beany backlash? Or do I need
to explain this to people? Oror yeah, I could send bounari say
I don't need explain shit to anyone, but like, at the same time,
if you're gonna share something with someone, you kind of do a little
bit. I mean, I don'tI don't need to do anything. No
one needs to do anything, butlike if I want to, I guess

(32:30):
I am someone that does care aboutwhat people think. And I definitely care
about what my friends think. Soit does bother me if they're thinking some
way, and it's not very easyfor me to be like, fuck your
opinion, this is what I'm doing. As long as you do have to
set that boundary, maybe it's notas brutal. I'm not saying fuck you,
but like I do guys say likeyou know what I do care about
the day. It doesn't really matterwhat what she makes because this is what
I'm doing now, and I'm likeset in this. Yeah, but yeah,

(32:52):
I feel for like this last thing, and I'm like, ooh,
like maybe I need to yeah notmaybe I don't need to tell the world
that's like, is this like yournel tech person? Yeah? This is
also Yeah, Like I think alot of people they want you to they
when they care about you, theywant what's best for you. And a
lot of times when you share everything, every relationship has ups and downs,

(33:15):
and I don't know about this.I don't know about that. So when
you're looking at it from the outsideand I don't like this person, you
like them, you know, soI rely be like that, ain't it?
Or like oh fuck that, likedon't tolerate that, And then I'm
over here doing the exact same thingwith the girl I like, you know
what I mean. It's yeah,your friends are always obviously easier to give

(33:36):
advice than to like, but it'shard. It's like big stuff. I
think, like I have a cousinwho she's with this guy that in the
beginning, like she would share alot of things about him, you know,
because she was excited, really closeto us everything, and a lot
of the things that she would saywould be like, oh no about that
because of this, or be carefulbecause of that, like little things that

(33:58):
you want to tell them because youcare, because you like your cousin,
because you want them to be happy, you know what, they deserve whatever,
right, and then something happens andthen they you know, like you
said, you decided to forgive them, and that was your decision. That's
great. But then me over here, I don't like the person the way
you do, so I'm gonna belike, m he still did that though,
you know what I mean, Andit kind of ruins, not ruins

(34:20):
that relationship that you can have withthis person. But like say, my
cousin marries him, I might alwaysbeen in the back of my head like
you still almost like did this though, you know? And that's on me
though, right because it's like,I mean, that's something one holding on
to it because I love you,because I care about you and a little
bit too. I mean, Iguess that's exactly That's what I'm saying.
Like when you do share, Iguess it depends, like you know,
the severity of it. But thoseare things you do need to take into
consideration, especially with family, likeexactly, Like and also sometimes we want

(34:45):
to vent only when it's a badthing, Yeah, and we don't take
into consideration that we're only like veting, like exactly, like maybe I am
more sacred about the nicer things orthe cute things because I'm protective of myself,
so I'll even want to get toodeep into it, you know what
I mean. So like maybe Idon't brag about that to my friends or
even want to s share it becauseI feel like those things are more intimate,
whereas like I'm just annoyed about someshit you said, Like I'm gonna
talk to my friend about that allday, like bitch, guess what the

(35:07):
motherfucker said, Like am my tripin? Like you know, I know
how I could get So they don'twant that. But when it's like constant
and it's like, well, thisperson fucking sucks because this is your fifth
thing of saying, yeah he didkind of annoying and I don't think it's
a shitty person and now I hatehim for you, So that that's something
you gotta think about. True,That's true. And yeah, even family

(35:27):
like Yeah, they'll choose to belike, well, we' actually don't fuck
with this person anymore. Yeah,and that's fair like that, you know,
like you don't have to, butthe person that's with them doesn't have
to leave them either, you knowwhat I mean. Yeah, And it
can get to a point sometimes wherelike you're not as close to that,
like that's I don't know if that'shappened to any of you, but like
it's happened in my family, wherelike the cheater was forgiven and now because

(35:47):
everybody knows, it's kind of likelike we don't really fuck with them no
more, like they're still around.They come over because whatever they're together,
they have kids or whatever it is, and then you're kind of like,
hey, what's up, But likeyou don't you're always upset for them,
you know, right, even ifyou've decided, even if they decided that
they're forgiven or that you still wantto be with them, because that's you're

(36:07):
definitely your choice. You know.The people that love you are always gonna
think that you deserve better than whatyou have, you know what I mean,
even if it's the most amazing person, even if it's you know,
yeah, to share the great thingsthat I was going to be like,
well, they could do this differentbecause no one's perfect. So it's definitely
people's politics. I mean, Idefinitely see myself, Like one thing I
pride myself a lot on is beingunderstanding. I don't pride myself a lot

(36:30):
of things, And like I thinkmy mom taught us very early to like
to be very forgiving, and thatdoes being put up with shit, because
trust me, like she wishes Iwould put up a more shit. And
maybe I need to do better atlike doing it myself. But I will
say I do give my friends andmy family a lot of grace when it
comes to stuff like that, evenlike something as bad as cheating. One
thing I don't fuck with is abuse, like kidding that you'll be in my

(36:53):
bad graces and I don't want youto get back to that person, and
that it takes me a while toget over, even like offer someone like
probably would it. Yeah, Butlike even things as like I fidelity and
stuff like that, Like honestly,I remember one time I was talking to
this old coworker friend I worked atso fucking find joy department in Macy's.
I'll never forget she had like thisboyfriend, that he was shitty, like
you know, you didn't be oranything like not hellly shitty, but like

(37:15):
he just he kind of suck.He wasn't a good boyfriend. Yeah,
and I'll never forget. Like we'reexpenting about it, and like, you
know, I was just giving heradvice and then her reason for getting back
to him. She literally said,she's like, you know, Angula,
I'm just not done with him.Like I know, I'm not a dumb
bitch. I don't need to betold that. She wasn't saying this to
me, just like in general,she was saying, like it's not that
I'm don't know that he's doing badthings or that I deserve better. It's

(37:36):
not that I don't know that I'mnot like this dumb bitch. I like
love his blind kind of thing.I know that I just am not done
with him. And I thought thatwas so powerful to be like, yeah,
I know none of the shit,Like I'm just not done with this
person. I'm not taking her seriously. This is not that my husband.
Like when i decide I'm over beingtreated this way or like don't want to
deal with it, then I willmake that decision. But right now I'm
not done with him, and I'mgonna go back to him and love that.

(37:58):
Actually I did love that. Andhonestly, when my friends, I
mean, it does get to apoint I think when it's it becomes very
repetitive and like you know, causeI've actually friends who are like I see
their like mental health like goes severelydown and does get to a point where
I'm like, please stop. LikeI will understand everything. I don't mind.
I would never judge you for goingback to an X someone that's shitty,

(38:19):
or like forgiving something that's even unforgivable. Like I'm very understanding and I'm
not judgmental, So I'm not gonnabe the ones like, well, I'm
not fucking with that person until itdoes until I see you like get to
that point. So I guess likefor that too, it's like hard for
me to like talk to other peopleabout too, because I'm just like,
I give you this grace, likey'all need to give me this grace because
and I also just feel like mything wasn't that serious. That's a point

(38:43):
where like obviously it annoyed me enoughto talk to you guys and like talk
about my podcast, but at thesame time. That's how also not serious.
It was that I could talk aboutit on the podcast, not saying
I don't talk to you guys listenersabout serious shit, because I do,
but like I don't know if itwas like really big to the point where
I'm like crying, I don't know, I would I kind of think twice
about it, sorry, guys,Like I even have this problem on the
morning show, Like there was stuffwhere I'm like, I don't want to
talk about this because I'm dealing withit now, like it actually does hurt

(39:06):
my feelings and like I wouldn't beokay if like you know, JV or
someone just wanted to call him rightnow, Like I'm like, oh,
that's kind of like because that likewe're like in this play, yeah,
you know like this yeah, Likeso like that stuff. And in this
industry that is hard to balance becauseyou do need to share, like and
there's people who do share a lotof personal stuff with grace and shout out

(39:29):
to them for doing it that way. I just haven't found the way to
do that, especially me, likeI'm single, and like, you know,
it's weird exactly. There's peopleho don'ttake seriously where it's like I don't
even care to talk about this personbecause they're not that serious, you know,
and like I'm almost like, youknow, that would give them their
head big just to know I'm talkingabout them. Yeah, it's not that
serious, but it is just content. Now we're going out to another situation.
But I don't know back to thewhole like oversharing. I guess I'm

(39:51):
just like I feel like and soI know my friends just care about me
in my specific situation, but I'mjust like, oh my god, it's
really not that serious, like butyou like they're treating me like I'm like
taking this like terrible X back.I feel like, Also, maybe it's
because this is the only person you'vebeen talking about, right, So it's
they're like maybe they're making it seemlike like it's like a like a serious

(40:15):
theme because this is the one andonly person right potentially and he's like the
only person I'm dating right now.Yeah, so maybe that's why it's more
of like a like like he's kindof grown leave him, like, you
know, because he's the only one. Like, so maybe they think that
it's more serious than it is.Also because in this situation about your nail
tech, like you didn't update herlike how we were updated, right,

(40:37):
I'm sure like if you left outa whole bunch of those details and told
me about it, and I'm stillgonna be like he is not like please
drop him. There are other fishin the seagull friend. Yeah. But
then on your end, it's like, yeah, like you're just having fun.
But I don't really necessarily that it'sin the middle, Like I'm not
saying he's nobody. I'm just likeI like this person and yeah, maybe

(41:01):
down the road if that was,but like it's not a conversation right now,
and how do I can't even picturelike having a boyfriend right now?
Still, But I get what you'resaying, Like it's like, well,
this this person potentially could be yourboyfriend in the future, like obviously if
you're gonna getind your day hend Likethat's what at least to if you're either
gonna break up or you guys aregonna be in a relationship, so that
it is fair. Yeah, Andalso, like what you said earlier,
you're telling the notes that you're kindof updating them after you've already processed that,

(41:24):
you know what I mean, Likeyou you when you told us,
it was kind of almost in realtime, and that's what made an Exactly
you're showing you and your feelings andhow you're thinking about it in that moment.
A month later you're kind of like, oh, yeah, that happened,
but I'm not there anymore. Right, You're gonna tell the story,
same story, just different different emotions, different passion, different the way you

(41:46):
tell it. And that's what Ieven work because honestly, when you're in
it, like I do want theenergy for my friends. I want to
hear if it's really bad or ifI'm tripping, because like my feelings are
hurt right now and I'm dealing withit right now, and I need to
know, like I need advice formy friends, and I need the same
energy reciprocated. But I guess whenyeah, exactly, it's something that like
I've already dealt with and like nowwe're past it, like kind of bringing

(42:07):
me back now, like that energyof like hmmm, well you forget,
but I didn't, Like this iswhat's something happened. I'm like, oh
fuck, well now it's bring meback to that place of how I felt.
It's like, well I chose tobe over it, so like we
got to move forward because I'm livingfor it right right, you know,
but I could see where they notext coming from, but not in her
defense, but yeah yeah, butalso like let's be real, we live

(42:30):
in a time where like every littlething could almost be a red flag or
a reason not to go for something. And then again, people with your
friends, people that love you,they're gonna they're gonna think you deserve everything,
which you probably do, and butevery little thing is gonna be like,
well, I don't know about this. I don't know about that,
to the point where like you forgetthat we're human and people people fuck up

(42:51):
people. There's you're learning just asmuch. You know, my friend's known
me for ten years. This girlI'm dating is a month. Like there's
a lot to cover, you know. So I think another part that like
I guess her my feelings are maybeannoyed about it. And again it's like
not everyone is like you, andnot everyone has the same politics or like
same understanding or same judgment morals whateverthe hell. But like, for example,
I have another friend and like nowis done with her relationship. But

(43:15):
I remember when she was taking himback for something I thought that was whack,
or even though I felt she coulddo better once I knew she forgave
him, I never was like afterthat, Okay, well girl, he's
trash, like I forgave him withher, or at least moved on.
Like even if I'm in the backof my head like that, God does
not deserve my friend. I'm nottelling her that because I don't want her
to feel like I don't hate him, because I don't hate him. I
don't understand. I was not comingfrom a place I hate. I just

(43:36):
think you could do better. AndI'm like I'm hoping, like because I
know you're still in it, I'malmost hoping, like Okay, I'm just
like praying he gets it together becauselike, obviously you're still in this,
so like I hope you work out. I don't necessarily hate him, and
like, I don't want my friendto feel like she can't talk to me
about her boyfriend anymore, or likefeel like I hate him, or it
just be awkward when we talk aboutit, or even like when we all
go out. I don't want herto think I'm like to hate her friend,

(43:59):
you know, and or or evenmake her feel bad about her chusing
to forget him and like staying inthis relationship. And again this is there's
layers like yeah, obviously, likethere's more stuff where like maybe someone doesn't
need to feel bad about the relationshipor or maybe you need to set a
boundary of like actually I'm not okaywith this as your friend, but like
for little relationshipship that we all dealwith, like no one is perfect,

(44:20):
like you said, like people doaction. Unfortunately, there's not a perfect
person. So I guess that kindof annoyed me too, Like it's like
I do that for my friends,Like I just didn't like the energy.
I guess it was very much likehe sucks. It kind of was like
I'm not accepting of him. Almosta little man but already off the bat,
you know. Yeah. But thenI guess so the other extent,

(44:43):
maybe she's like, well does isn'teven your boyfriends like to say that,
Like I'm doing this? Girls,Just listen, why are you talking back?
Are you talking about? You're right? You're right. I mean,

(45:05):
it's it's hard. You have to. You have to if you are someone
that's an open book, like Ithink I am in a lot of things.
It's just there's certain parts of mylife that I'm like, well,
I kind of already dealt with this, so I don't really Yeah, I
try to tell or felt the needto bring it up anymore because it already
happened. You know, I forgotI was gonna say with that, but

(45:25):
it was good. It'll come backto you what I will say. I
think going away, like obviously I'mnot gonna be like when I's gonna become
this crazy private person doesn't share anythingbecause like that that's just it's just not
me and I I'm solo, SoI like talk. I like updating my
friends about my relationships and my familyabout my relationships, and like even if
it's like something left casual, likeI still like talking about it because this
is someone I'm talking to every dayor hanging out with every weekend, Like

(45:46):
it's part of my life. Iwant my friends know about it. But
I will say, maybe I'm likegoing to pick and choose like the stuff
I share to you, Like maybenot every single friend needs to know about
this one issue I'm going through,depending how they act, like like my
like my guy cousins that were kindof talking about like like they're not gonna
judge me, for that and notinn and they do want the best for
me, and like, honestly,trust me, I feel something serious.

(46:07):
They would be like fuck that guy, but like something like this though,
tink a lot about it because theyalready thought I was kind of overreacting in
the beginning, not overreacting, butthey were very much like why don't you
just text them? You know,like we're over here talking about it,
you know, like it's okay tojust send a text be like what the
fuck what's up? Like did youdie? You know, like let's just
get to the point of it,and you know, and then they and
then they like make jokes like likethey were sending me ghost emojis all day,

(46:30):
but like if I'm sure they knowwhat I'm talking to them, and
like they're not gonna be like thisguy, you know, like they're not
gonna give me a hard time aboutit either, And like I think I
just need to pick and choose,like who is who can hear me on
and who knows how I'm thinking?And then people that know you enough to
know where you're coming from too,you know, yeah, like exactly like
that maybe not hold it against me, and like all I'm not I'm not

(46:51):
just picking on a nail tech likeno, no, no, yeah,
several situations and I'm probably still gonnakeep talking to about shit kind of because
what you already said, like you'regonna take in all that advice off what
everyone has, right, but youkind of we all already kind of know
what we want to do anywhere atthe end of the day. Is just
a way to be like, Okay, well let me just see what's out
there. But at the end ofthe day, what I usually what you

(47:14):
already think is right for you.Yeah, and like what you're gonna deal
with And I honestly like it wasa little blessing too. There's stuff I
was just thinking about in the backof my head that she said, and
I'm like, you know what lateron like literally this morning, it's like
I needed to hear that, Like, Okay, it's a little true,
but like how I'm gonna deal withit is different, and how I feel
about it is different. And likeback to what Emma back in the day,

(47:34):
not Emma, oh my god,her just because it was my other
white friend, Emily, Okay,very similar, okay, similar days MMA's
one, but the st Emily backto her short of like I'm just not
done with this person. I thinkthat's like, that's what it is.
I still want a day to havefun. So yeah, I came to
an epiphany. Actually just now,I think it has to do with the

(47:58):
only child thing that's I don't reallyshare because I just feel like I just,
Yeah, growing up, I justdealt with everything on my own.
I had no siblings to like talkto, like, didn't really talk to
my friends about things, didn't reallytalk to my family about things, so
like I don't really know to talkto talk to my friends. So I

(48:20):
just handled everything on my own.So I feel like that's really that's how
you grew up. Yeah, AndI feel like, and like you said,
Angelina, when I do tell youstuff or when I did, like
in the past, it was likewhen I had like my final like straws,
I was trying to like talk talkit out. It's like when I
need to, I guess, solike when I feel like I don't like

(48:43):
we're about to meet that person,You're like, hey, I'm talking those
guys like whatever. Yeah, whenlike I didn't feel like I needed to
because I could handle it it likeinternally on my own, right, right,
so yeah, I feel like that'show I feel about it. So
no one is knowing, No oneis going to meet my future boot until
like our engagement but when yellow meethim period, Okay yeah probably, I

(49:08):
don't know, maybe not. Yeah, I disagree engaging because you are really
close with your friends. I amlike when you're dating someone eventually, like
when you get to a certain point. Yeah, early stages, totally get
it. But like if you're dating, you want to bring them around.
You're going to hide this person.But my friends joke around and be like,
yeah, Angelique, I guess we'renot going to know him until your

(49:30):
engagement party till do you want that? You want your friends to meet your
future husband? No, my daughter. Yeah, but it's seeming like healthy
on both ends, like of notsaying anything and saying too much, Like
there is a middle that I feellike is healthy. Both both can be
extremes for sure, right, andit can be yeah. Yeah, I

(49:53):
remember I had a best friend inhigh school and like her family was so
so private, like to the pointwhere like they get mad if you like
said anything about anything, Like Idon't know it was, I remember noticing
it kind of and then I'll neverforget my other friend like dated to because
she was like, oh my god, their family's so private, right,
And I was like, oh soit's like a known thing. That's how
private they were yea. And yeah, it was just like we don't talk

(50:15):
about every day, we don't talkabout family issues. And I think it
really is just how you grown up. I don't maybe, I mean,
I know, you guy said youronly child, but like in me and
this girl's you know, comparisons,like she has a big Mexican family.
I have a big Mexican family.She has older brothers. I'm the oldest
sister, but we all have siblings. Yeah, And like I think it's
just how we were raised. Likemy mom is very like me and mom
tell each other everything, and we'revery much like talking family. We're gonna

(50:36):
talk about our problems. If we'regonna fight, we're gonna have a meeting
afterwards, and we're talking about whowas wrong, and like you know,
we're all gonna apologize to each other, like wons to like discipline us.
She would like spake us and thenlike talk make you talk to her after
yeah, like about why like whatwhy and where what hurt your feelings?
Yeah, and and like maybe myfriend in high school, like maybe that's
not her family was because they're verylike we don't we have family. Probably

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we don't talk about it. Noone knows about the issues that are going
on in this house, which isrespectable to but it just is completely different
from my household. Yeah, becauseI will say this, I have a
huge family, and I think oneof the reasons why I'm also very private
is because of how close we are, like to the point where like sometimes
I don't want everyone to know everything, or like like like we always have

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a joke me and my cousins,how like if we tell our mom something,
all my theas are going to findout something about it, nothing crazy,
nothing big. We just make itas a joke because it's true.
We'll say something and like my theais gonna know some my my cousin's gonna
know. They already knew because Ialready told them. It becomes that,
you know. So I think that'sone way that like me and and the
specific set of cousins that I have, that we're kind of like we need

(51:44):
to, you know, but wedon't love how close how much people find
out about things. Everyone's going Itrust my family and everything, but I
don't care to hear what all ofthem have to say. So like a
media family and like the whole family, and like going back to the only
child thing. I have cousins thatI'm really close to, but I didn't

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live in the same city they did, so like you go through yourself,
you process it, and then whenI see my cousin, there's things I
talk about to them, but alreadyhappened. I'm not there anymore. I'm
just telling you about it because I'mclose to and I'm updating you about my
life, right I mean, Andit's all fun until it's your problem,
Like of course I want to youknow, whatever's problems and blah blah did

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last night? Yeah, family knowabout this. I don't know if you
if you do too, But Ihave like the the some people in our
family that's like they know they're ineverybody's business, but to them, they
don't want everybody to know anything.And it's like, no, if you're
gonna be an open family, yougot it. We all got to do
it, you know, right,the pros and cos are having a big

(52:50):
family. Oh yeah, you couldbe mad about it, but to an
extent, you gotta be like,well, this is just family exactly.
My family is pretty like private.I don't know if it's to the point
where your friends like how your friendswas, but we don't, like I
don't personally. Yeah, I guessit's how I was raised, but I
don't personally tell other people like ourfamily issues. No one really knows,

(53:15):
like what goes on, like likeour internal like fights and stuff, and
I don't know. I guess,yeah, just how I grew up and
how my family was, like noone knows, like it's interesting or like
my whole family could be broken,like no one talks to anybody, and
y'all wouldn't even know, right,see, my family's opposite, like we
know, we know too. Ithink it's a cultural thing though, because

(53:37):
at least for us, like allmy family, it's only a few generations
back that they were also the samelittle village that everybody knew everything, even
when you don't want even if youdidn't tell them, you know, yeah,
and it kind of just passes on. And then now that we're here
and all scattered, we still yeah, you know, yeah, I don't
know how you think from us,I think, you know, maybe it

(53:59):
is and maybe my friend. Herfamily was like very private because exactly because
of that reason, like, well, we know we have a nosy family,
so we need to be as privateas possible because just like her immediate
family that was that way. Butlike for media, family is a big
household. She had like two brothers, like she was like the only girl
or hurt. She had another oldersister, but like hella siblings, you
know, like and say with me, like I got my brother and my
sister, like my mom, mystepdad. We got an uncle living in

(54:21):
the garage, you know, likelike brother's house. So like it's like
even though I have a little family, like it's a big little family in
this one household. So yeah,I mean it is just interesting. I
don't think that I necessarily like havea solution to this conversation we brought up.
Like it's literally just a conversation.Yeah, and it's interesting, Like
yeah, it all goes back tolike how you're raised and like how you

(54:42):
acted when you were younger and likeamongst your friends. And I've always been
like an oversharer. I'm an openbook and I don't think and vice versa,
like you know with someone that's private, I don't think it's like bad
or good on either end. Like, I think there's a lot of pros
to like being a private person obviously, like seeing the other side, like
my cons, but I also likelove that I'm an open person too,

(55:05):
and I've seen the reward of itgoing back to so yeah, it's just
interesting. Yeah, any interesting.That's a topic for today. If you
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please do that. This is agood conversation. Guys are sharing so much
closer to you, guys, nowwe just really opened up. Okay,
so surprised. I've been this guyfor like a year or so. I
was kidding. If you came tous with something like that, I would

(56:09):
have never guessed. That's how muchof right now I think of you and
be like, oh, she's singleeither, I don't know. I really
don't know about I remember when shecame out that she had a boyfriend.
We were all like we found outat her birthday because he was there,
and everyone was like, she hasa boyfriend, and I'm like, yeah,
like five years like this, No, I did like hiding from your

(56:30):
coworkers because the workplace different, butlike I'm like her power of being that
private, like workers don't watch it, you know. No, but that's
what I feel like. Okay,I won't wait until marriage or proposal,
but I'm gonna pop out like yourcoworker of dating for five years and then
everyone was gonna be shook, like, yeah, I got a man.
Yeah. And also he was likekind, so she probably didn't want to

(56:51):
like wrap him like that. LikeI'm wanting place to brag about you.
But you guys have dated. We'rejust bad people and I didn't want to
know. I'm just kidding. Idefinitely, I don't know. I don't
know, but I feel that too, Like I think there are some people
who I know I definitely don't takeseriously and like exactly like we make these
days like obviously for the podcast toprotect them. But even when I'm talking

(57:12):
to my friends, I'll be like, oh, slow bay, like because
I don't care about like this isthis person I'm not dating I don't take
seriously, is like a hook ofone and done kind of not one and
done, but like exactly like myboyfriend and Dan, we don't even want
to go on dates with you.You know, there's there's some people you
just don't take seriously, and yeah, you choose at least I guess.
I don't choose to not talk aboutthem, but I choose how I talk

(57:34):
about them, Yes, yes,and in the context I talk about them,
and how much I talk about them. So there's layers. There's layers
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