March 12, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John recaps his disaster of a weekend, and how to know if someone is faking it!
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Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's debut comedy album "The Album" is available right NOW! InternJohnComedy.com proceeds benefitting the Fisher House Foundation
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And Happy Wednesday friends. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern
John is my name. I apologize for no podcast on Monday.
My weekend uh got kind of sideways, kind of quickly.
So I had not been going out to my bar
every single day like I had been in the past,
just because of well life things. This past weekend ended
(00:24):
up going Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Now, Sunday was the
worst one. Sunday is supposed to be a nice little
brunch day, kind of relax, everything is good. For whatever reason,
Sunday turned into me being held hostage at my own bar.
So Monday was not a good day for your boy.
Just felt it all over the place. And then so
(00:47):
yesterday I like tried to take a gummy to pass out.
I think like I was just so tired. I was
groggy the whole day. Long story short, We're okay nowt
We're gonna battle through, We're gonna fight back. You know,
there was a time, you know, the bar opened up
in October, and for the first probably two months, I
(01:09):
was basically staying in a hotel every single weekend because
it's closer to the bar. Then Shoe we passed on
New Year's and hadn't really gone to the bar in
a couple of weeks.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
I guess months really is because a lot going on.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
So I was like, you want to know why, I
probably should start being more supportive and doing my end
of the bargain, so to speak. So may up for
this weekend. For sure, we're surviving, We're thriving. I was
trying think of plans for this week, like I want
to get a weekend away soon. I was thinking about
going to Louisville actually to do like a bourbon tour.
But I need to, like I need to get away
(01:46):
and just kind of decompressed. It's been a bell a lot,
been a long year, and it's the second week of March.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
You know what I mean. So that's kind of the
plan this weekend hopefully.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Like looking ahead is to like maybe me and Skittles
go to the woods, Maybe I go to Salamon or
something like that. Louisville is still on the table, I
think too, only because I've never gone to Louisville to
like relax. Anytime we've been there, it's like running gun
like doing a bunch of stuff for the comedy too,
or doing stuff for the radio station. So I've never
(02:17):
had a chance to like do a distillery tour. I
guess we did one downtown, but I want to do
Buffalo trays, and like there's never been time because it's
always go go, go, go go. So maybe that happens,
maybe it doesn't. I'm not sure, but that's where we're
at now. Severance is wrapping up. If not watched Severance
yet on Apple TV, it is fantastic. Let me get
(02:40):
to this though for your Wednesday. How to know someone's
pretending to be confident is actually insecure.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I think that this is a huge thing to.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Know, especially because I think there's also nothing worse than
when somebody pretends to be confident they're not, because it
can be not helpful, especially it's in a work situation.
I would want a boss who's confident over one that's
not that way. I can at least trust you when
you're leading us somewhere, you know, starting with the first
ones to criticize others, they say, if you've noticed that,
(03:13):
how some people are quick to point out the flaws
and other ones before anyone can form an opinion. They've
they've already given their critique, often with hints of being superior.
That suggests they would never make a mistake. They say,
this rush for judgment isn't coming from a place a
confidence or expertise, rather from their own deep seed insecurities.
(03:33):
I think that's true, almost like they're trying to project
the inferiority before you can see their own. I think
that's true, especially if you're confident. You don't need to
talk trash. You don't need to bring somebody down. If
you actually are confident your own ability, your own skill,
why bring someone down. Their responses sound rehearsed. They say,
(03:58):
if he asks a simple question, their answer sounds like
it's been practiced in front of a mirror. They say,
it's not somebody communicates, Well, it's somebody who's carefully calculated
every word to project a specific image. I do think
that's sure too. You can almost like tell when somebody
turns off the personality when it's just like, this is
my pr answer, and I'm gonna answer it this way
(04:19):
and that way. Nobody can be upsetting me. Yeah, I
think that's one of the most like insincere things somebody
can do.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I think that's kind of like that.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I believe if they are reluctant to try new things
in front of others.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
It's a huge sign. It's a huge sign.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
They say, if you suggest a new activity or skill,
they immediately have a dozen reasons why they can't do it.
They'll just watch instead. It's because they're afraid of looking
foolish in front of other people. That to me is interesting,
especially if it's something where it's like everybody sucks at it,
you know what I mean, Like karaoke, we all suck.
Nobody's gonna leave karaoke and be like, oh my god,
(04:57):
John was horrendous to karaoke. He was having a good time.
I think that one might be the biggest one, especially
because like nobody's judging man, we have our own things
going on. If they're inconsistent in how they present themselves,
they say, have you ever noticed how some people seen
the shape ship depending on who they're with. With one
(05:18):
group they're the life loving extrovert, another one that they
thoughtful intellectual, so on and so forth. They say, this
chameleon like behavior is a science. Someone who lacks a
solid sense of self and said constructs persona's based on
who they think others want to see. Yeah, I mean,
I would say the point of that is mainly that
if you were secure enough, you wouldn't really care how
(05:39):
others perceive you, you know what I mean, Like, if
you were that confident, you'd be the same no matter
who you're with. That's why, Like I've certainly learned this
as I gotten older. I think it's just easier in
life too, just being honest and just telling the truth.
But not even just telling the truth, Like I know
that if I say something to like Sauce, I would
(06:01):
say the same thing to Rose or Eric or whoever.
And that makes life easier because I don't have to
think of, like, oh what I say to this person?
You know, it's like it's all consistent, it's all good
to go. The next sign is they take a long
time to make simple decisions.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
I think this is true.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
They say you probably experienced it weighing endlessly while someone
agonizes or what should be a very straightforward choice, whether
it's a restaurant or making a minor work decision, they
have paralysis about being able to be thorough. It's the
crippling and fear of making the wrong choice facing judgment
for it. Yeah, I think that's true, because again, if
you're confident, it's like I'm confident that if I make
(06:40):
a wrong choice, I can still recover from it. I'm
also confident that if I make a wrong choice, the
people I surround myself with won't be quick to judge,
you know, they won't be quick to rub it in my face,
which I think is also pretty pretty huge. They talk
about six past six in unrelay situations. Oh man, it's interesting,
(07:04):
they say. We've all been trapped in conversations where someone
keeps steering the discussion back to their one project they
crushed five years ago, or they wore they went to college,
even when it's nothing to do with the current topic.
They say, it's not just knowing. It's a Revalian person
who is desperately clinging to the past achievements because they
don't feel secure in the present identity. That's one of
those weird ones too. Where to that point, if it
(07:26):
has nothing to do with what's currently going on and
you're just bringing up the past, I'd be like, yeah,
we already know that you did that, Like, how do
you want us to congratulate you again for the past stuff?
That's how that works. If they overcompensate with material possessions,
they say everything they own must be the latest model,
(07:47):
luxury version, somehow visibly expensive. They make sure you notice
all of it. They say, it's not just about enjoying
nice things, it's about using external setus symbols to construct
an identity where internal confidence is like that to me
just sounds exhausting, like to always be worrying about what
somebody else thinks. I think that's a lot because it's like,
(08:09):
if you can't be happy with yourself, who can you
be happy with?
Speaker 2 (08:12):
You know, and like.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Life's expensive already buying designer stuff, I think if you
truly like it, that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
That makes sense.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
But if you're buying to make somebody else happy, I
don't know, man, especially if it's not something you can
have every day. You know, if it's like an expensive shirt,
that's a lot for one person to see it once
and then be suck in your closet. The last one
I'll hit is they fished for validation on social media.
I think that makes a lot of sense because if
(08:41):
you are super confident, truly confident, you don't necessarily care
about the social media likes because you already know your
stuff's good. You're confident in your ability, So why would
you know what to get, why would you need to
go get the validation elsewhere? I think this happens in
relationships too. Anytime is somebody in the relationship was posting
a lot, I'm like, ooh, why are we trying to
(09:05):
get in that validation elsewhere?
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Hoover thought, I hope you have a great Wednesday. I
appreciate you listening. If you get a chance to follow
at Internshire Radio it's Thought Shower.
And Happy Wednesday friends. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern
John is my name. I apologize for no podcast on Monday.
My weekend uh got kind of sideways, kind of quickly.
So I had not been going out to my bar
every single day like I had been in the past,
just because of well life things. This past weekend ended
(00:24):
up going Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Now, Sunday was the
worst one. Sunday is supposed to be a nice little
brunch day, kind of relax, everything is good. For whatever reason,
Sunday turned into me being held hostage at my own bar.
So Monday was not a good day for your boy.
Just felt it all over the place. And then so
(00:47):
yesterday I like tried to take a gummy to pass out.
I think like I was just so tired. I was
groggy the whole day. Long story short, We're okay nowt
We're gonna battle through, We're gonna fight back. You know,
there was a time, you know, the bar opened up
in October, and for the first probably two months, I
(01:09):
was basically staying in a hotel every single weekend because
it's closer to the bar. Then Shoe we passed on
New Year's and hadn't really gone to the bar in
a couple of weeks.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
I guess months really is because a lot going on.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
So I was like, you want to know why, I
probably should start being more supportive and doing my end
of the bargain, so to speak. So may up for
this weekend. For sure, we're surviving, We're thriving. I was
trying think of plans for this week, like I want
to get a weekend away soon. I was thinking about
going to Louisville actually to do like a bourbon tour.
But I need to, like I need to get away
(01:46):
and just kind of decompressed. It's been a bell a lot,
been a long year, and it's the second week of March.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
You know what I mean. So that's kind of the
plan this weekend hopefully.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Like looking ahead is to like maybe me and Skittles
go to the woods, Maybe I go to Salamon or
something like that. Louisville is still on the table, I
think too, only because I've never gone to Louisville to
like relax. Anytime we've been there, it's like running gun
like doing a bunch of stuff for the comedy too,
or doing stuff for the radio station. So I've never
(02:17):
had a chance to like do a distillery tour. I
guess we did one downtown, but I want to do
Buffalo trays, and like there's never been time because it's
always go go, go, go go. So maybe that happens,
maybe it doesn't. I'm not sure, but that's where we're
at now. Severance is wrapping up. If not watched Severance
yet on Apple TV, it is fantastic. Let me get
(02:40):
to this though for your Wednesday. How to know someone's
pretending to be confident is actually insecure.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I think that this is a huge thing to.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Know, especially because I think there's also nothing worse than
when somebody pretends to be confident they're not, because it
can be not helpful, especially it's in a work situation.
I would want a boss who's confident over one that's
not that way. I can at least trust you when
you're leading us somewhere, you know, starting with the first
ones to criticize others, they say, if you've noticed that,
(03:13):
how some people are quick to point out the flaws
and other ones before anyone can form an opinion. They've
they've already given their critique, often with hints of being superior.
That suggests they would never make a mistake. They say,
this rush for judgment isn't coming from a place a
confidence or expertise, rather from their own deep seed insecurities.
(03:33):
I think that's true, almost like they're trying to project
the inferiority before you can see their own. I think
that's true, especially if you're confident. You don't need to
talk trash. You don't need to bring somebody down. If
you actually are confident your own ability, your own skill,
why bring someone down. Their responses sound rehearsed. They say,
(03:58):
if he asks a simple question, their answer sounds like
it's been practiced in front of a mirror. They say,
it's not somebody communicates, Well, it's somebody who's carefully calculated
every word to project a specific image. I do think
that's sure too. You can almost like tell when somebody
turns off the personality when it's just like, this is
my pr answer, and I'm gonna answer it this way
(04:19):
and that way. Nobody can be upsetting me. Yeah, I
think that's one of the most like insincere things somebody
can do.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I think that's kind of like that.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
I believe if they are reluctant to try new things
in front of others.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
It's a huge sign. It's a huge sign.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
They say, if you suggest a new activity or skill,
they immediately have a dozen reasons why they can't do it.
They'll just watch instead. It's because they're afraid of looking
foolish in front of other people. That to me is interesting,
especially if it's something where it's like everybody sucks at it,
you know what I mean, Like karaoke, we all suck.
Nobody's gonna leave karaoke and be like, oh my god,
(04:57):
John was horrendous to karaoke. He was having a good time.
I think that one might be the biggest one, especially
because like nobody's judging man, we have our own things
going on. If they're inconsistent in how they present themselves,
they say, have you ever noticed how some people seen
the shape ship depending on who they're with. With one
(05:18):
group they're the life loving extrovert, another one that they
thoughtful intellectual, so on and so forth. They say, this
chameleon like behavior is a science. Someone who lacks a
solid sense of self and said constructs persona's based on
who they think others want to see. Yeah, I mean,
I would say the point of that is mainly that
if you were secure enough, you wouldn't really care how
(05:39):
others perceive you, you know what I mean, Like, if
you were that confident, you'd be the same no matter
who you're with. That's why, Like I've certainly learned this
as I gotten older. I think it's just easier in
life too, just being honest and just telling the truth.
But not even just telling the truth, Like I know
that if I say something to like Sauce, I would
(06:01):
say the same thing to Rose or Eric or whoever.
And that makes life easier because I don't have to
think of, like, oh what I say to this person?
You know, it's like it's all consistent, it's all good
to go. The next sign is they take a long
time to make simple decisions.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
I think this is true.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
They say you probably experienced it weighing endlessly while someone
agonizes or what should be a very straightforward choice, whether
it's a restaurant or making a minor work decision, they
have paralysis about being able to be thorough. It's the
crippling and fear of making the wrong choice facing judgment
for it. Yeah, I think that's true, because again, if
you're confident, it's like I'm confident that if I make
(06:40):
a wrong choice, I can still recover from it. I'm
also confident that if I make a wrong choice, the
people I surround myself with won't be quick to judge,
you know, they won't be quick to rub it in my face,
which I think is also pretty pretty huge. They talk
about six past six in unrelay situations. Oh man, it's interesting,
(07:04):
they say. We've all been trapped in conversations where someone
keeps steering the discussion back to their one project they
crushed five years ago, or they wore they went to college,
even when it's nothing to do with the current topic.
They say, it's not just knowing. It's a Revalian person
who is desperately clinging to the past achievements because they
don't feel secure in the present identity. That's one of
those weird ones too. Where to that point, if it
(07:26):
has nothing to do with what's currently going on and
you're just bringing up the past, I'd be like, yeah,
we already know that you did that, Like, how do
you want us to congratulate you again for the past stuff?
That's how that works. If they overcompensate with material possessions,
they say everything they own must be the latest model,
(07:47):
luxury version, somehow visibly expensive. They make sure you notice
all of it. They say, it's not just about enjoying
nice things, it's about using external setus symbols to construct
an identity where internal confidence is like that to me
just sounds exhausting, like to always be worrying about what
somebody else thinks. I think that's a lot because it's like,
(08:09):
if you can't be happy with yourself, who can you
be happy with?
Speaker 2 (08:12):
You know, and like.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Life's expensive already buying designer stuff, I think if you
truly like it, that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
That makes sense.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
But if you're buying to make somebody else happy, I
don't know, man, especially if it's not something you can
have every day. You know, if it's like an expensive shirt,
that's a lot for one person to see it once
and then be suck in your closet. The last one
I'll hit is they fished for validation on social media.
I think that makes a lot of sense because if
(08:41):
you are super confident, truly confident, you don't necessarily care
about the social media likes because you already know your
stuff's good. You're confident in your ability, So why would
you know what to get, why would you need to
go get the validation elsewhere? I think this happens in
relationships too. Anytime is somebody in the relationship was posting
a lot, I'm like, ooh, why are we trying to
(09:05):
get in that validation elsewhere?
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Hoover thought, I hope you have a great Wednesday. I
appreciate you listening. If you get a chance to follow
at Internshire Radio it's Thought Shower.
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