March 17, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his weekend, and how to choose happy
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Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's debut comedy album "The Album" is available right NOW! InternJohnComedy.com proceeds benefitting the Fisher House Foundation
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Happy Monday friend, Welcome to the thought Shower. Intern John
is my name. It was indeed a weekend, very busy
weekend kind of. It seemed like a long weekend in
a short weekend all on one, which I guess is
a good thing.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Friday kind of relaxed a little bit.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I've been trying to make Friday my not necessarily go
out day, but like relaxed day and recharge day a
little bit for the weekend. However, Saturday was a disaster
in the best way is possible. Saturday, at my bar,
we had our own party for well Saint Patrick's say,
of course, started around four. I think that I was
(00:40):
there until midnight ish, maybe a little bit earlier than that,
and then I was like, one of what it's time,
It's time to go have my chicken fingers. You know,
was still doing well, and I made the clutch decision
to order Uber EAT's taco bell that came to my
house about one thirty am. And that was I'm gonna
(01:02):
be honest, it's fantastic. Got casadilla, got two De Rio's
Locos tacos and one chicken burrito. Uh was it necessarily
the best move to have five thousand calories right before bed.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
The answer the question is yes, it was. It was.
It was a perfect idea. I felt lovely next day.
That's a lie.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I did not feel lovely out yesterday Sunday was a
day of rest and relaxation, you know. But it's been
nice to get back out, though slowly because you know,
for a while I just said, taxes, the taxes yesterday exciting.
I was going to my bar like every weekend, staying
in a hotel, which like was necessary in the beginning
for sure, to like get there understand things. I look
(01:45):
back now like that was exhausting, Like every Friday and
Saturday for basically three months, I was staying in the
hotel with the boys, and yet it was it was
exhausting for sure. Was the easier than driving, obviously, easier
than ubering, Yeah, a little bit cheaper probably as well.
(02:06):
It's kind of nice to be in one spot and
not feel like I was running all over the place,
you know. So that was kind of nice. This week,
big week coming Wednesday, there's a dinner gala for the
Fisheriss Foundation. It is a subury opening one hundred houses.
Believe Sauce is coming with me We're gonna do that,
(02:28):
very exciting. Might do some golf as well, and then
like a month of now, my first trip my brother
my dad going to New Orleans for a cigar convention
and that is indeed the warm up for my dad
and nice trip to Europe in May, going to a
soccer game in Manchester, which I'm very excited about, and
then going to Italy to see where they film Star Wars,
(02:52):
which I'm very excited about.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
My TikTok's been popping up all that stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
It's been so much fun to tell people like, yeah,
we go to Italy and see their eyes get big, like,
oh my god, it's amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I go, yeah, but it's for Star Wars. It's that's the.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Reason why let me get to this for your Monday,
the toxic habits that make it miserable, and how I
get some joy back in your life. I do think
misery loves company, right, And there is times where we
just want to be in a bad mood. You just
want to be able to complain about something and kind
of be what was me? I understand that we're all
(03:25):
there sometimes, you know, but eventually, as the great Winston
Churchill said, if you're going through hell, keep going only
way I get out, Yeah, I get through it. Sorry
with focusing on what's missing out instead of what you have, Yes,
Unhappy people tend to be a chronic case of I'll
be happy when dot dot dot, but I always fix
(03:47):
you next, next big thing, next big milestone. Believe that
happiness is waiting for them on the other side of
some accomplishment, and you know, it's funny when there's some
showy pass on New Year's and then it's been a
weird golly almost three months. But there was a moment
where during the hockey season, I was like, Okay, if
(04:09):
we win the conference championship, that will that will get
me to be happy again, you know with coaching, and
I've never once put my own happiness into teenage boys,
never think that's quite the move. But I was like,
maybe this, this will bring me out. And we won,
and I was very excited for the team. But then
I was like, oh, yeah, it didn't really fix anything,
(04:31):
you know, and not that shit of it's not supposed
to be what's happening. But do you think it's the
idea of like, oh if I just if this external
thing happens, that'll make me happy again. It's like now,
unfortunately it's inside of us to make us happy. You know,
we got to fix ourselves if you let fear guide
your life plan. They say, often unhappy people play it safe,
(04:53):
avoiding risk because they're terrified of failure, rejection, or uncertainty.
I think that's true. To quote the great Herb Brooks,
USA hockey coach nineteen eighteen, risk something or forever sit
with your dreams. Risk something or forever sit with your dreams.
I do think I know people who are so paralyzed
by fear of making the wrong decision. And it's funny
(05:15):
because I've made thousands of wrong decisions. I mean, every
single day doing this show, I'll make a wrong decision,
no doubt. I don't dwell on it, you know, And
I'll have folks to ask me, like, what's my biggest
biggest mistake ever made? And I can't really name one
because I never really dwell on it. It's not because
(05:36):
I haven't made mistakes, Lord knows, but I will stick around,
like beat myself up for it. It's like, all right, Well,
as long as the next one's right decision, that's fine,
which leads to the next point. Dwelling on the past
instead of moving forward. They say, living in the past,
whether it's obsessing over mistakes, holding in the grudges, orromanticizing
the good old days, it's a surefire way to stay
unhappy when someone constantly or living what was the sound on?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
What is?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I think that makes all the sentence in the world. Yeah,
it's also it's not fun. It's just like I think
we sometimes do that and then we don't realize, like,
life is still moving. It's not like we've paused life
to wash the past. It's like you're sacrificing, excuse me,
the current for the past, and that's that's not good.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Do a couple more of these.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
If you let other people be in control of your happiness. Yes,
and don't get me wrong, I've been there before too.
But I've had friends where it's like they think somebody's
out to get them. And maybe I haven't agree with that,
but I'm just like, hey, like, even if this person
is out to get you and you are showing that
they're getting to you, you are giving them a win.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
If you really believe they're out to get you and
you're letting them get you this riled up, you are
letting them win.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Do not do that, clinging to.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Your toxic relationships because you don't think it is there better. Man,
this is so big. They say. Many unhappy people stay
in friendships, romantic relationships, or family dynamics that drain them
simply because they're afraid of being alone. They tolerate mistreatment,
excuse bad behavior, and convince themselves that any relationship is
better than none at all.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
It is not. It is not.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
I've said this a million times in the show, that
you deserve to be in a happy, healthy relationship. I
believe that if you have a relationship in your life,
whether it is family or friends or romantic, that isn't
making you happy, that constantly is draining you. That is
not good, especially because if that person actually cared about you,
(07:38):
they wouldn't put you through that kind of bs, that
kind of hell.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
So I think, yes, cut that out if you dig
your heels in.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
When it comes to change, they say that unhappy people
often struggle with change seen as a threat rather than
an opportunity.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I do think that's big too.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
That's like the old adage of like we've always done
things this way. Yeah, But if there's an easier way
of doing something, why not do it that way?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
You know?
Speaker 1 (08:08):
And I would also add to change doesn't mean you
were wrong. For if a season for work, if if
somebody finds a more efficient way of doing something, doesn't
necessarily mean your way was wrong. It means that times evolved,
technology evolved, people evolved. I don't think it's a slight
on anybody. I think that can be a bit of
(08:28):
a problem as well. The last one I'll get to
you overanalyzing everything, and it's cruciating detail. Yes, some people
can't enjoy the present moment because they're too busy analyzing, overthinking,
and second guessing every little thing. I'll say this, I've
been that person before. I think sometimes I still can be.
(08:48):
If I do an event, if I do a joke,
whatever it is, it's hard me sometimes not to sit
back and enjoy it. I go, Okay, that could have
been better, and it's like, sure it could have been better,
However it could have been a lot worse.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
I actually I had a boss I mentioned.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
This a couple weeks ago, who told me, like, my
problem is sometimes I don't just sit and enjoy success.
I'm always like onto the next thing, which is true.
A guy I was talking to a listener this past
week at the Speeding event, very nice guy who's like, hey, again,
congrats in your album be number one in the world,
and it's weird that, like I forgot that happened. Sometimes
(09:30):
I forget that I had the number one comedy album
in the world, which is insane. But yes, it's because
I think I'm so focused on like what can I
do next, which I'm trying to get better at trying
to Anyway, up, you have a great Monday. You you get
a chance to follow along at intern Gen Radio. I'll
see a Wednesday thought shower
Happy Monday friend, Welcome to the thought Shower. Intern John
is my name. It was indeed a weekend, very busy
weekend kind of. It seemed like a long weekend in
a short weekend all on one, which I guess is
a good thing.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Friday kind of relaxed a little bit.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
I've been trying to make Friday my not necessarily go
out day, but like relaxed day and recharge day a
little bit for the weekend. However, Saturday was a disaster
in the best way is possible. Saturday, at my bar,
we had our own party for well Saint Patrick's say,
of course, started around four. I think that I was
(00:40):
there until midnight ish, maybe a little bit earlier than that,
and then I was like, one of what it's time,
It's time to go have my chicken fingers. You know,
was still doing well, and I made the clutch decision
to order Uber EAT's taco bell that came to my
house about one thirty am. And that was I'm gonna
(01:02):
be honest, it's fantastic. Got casadilla, got two De Rio's
Locos tacos and one chicken burrito. Uh was it necessarily
the best move to have five thousand calories right before bed.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
The answer the question is yes, it was. It was.
It was a perfect idea. I felt lovely next day.
That's a lie.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I did not feel lovely out yesterday Sunday was a
day of rest and relaxation, you know. But it's been
nice to get back out, though slowly because you know,
for a while I just said, taxes, the taxes yesterday exciting.
I was going to my bar like every weekend, staying
in a hotel, which like was necessary in the beginning
for sure, to like get there understand things. I look
(01:45):
back now like that was exhausting, Like every Friday and
Saturday for basically three months, I was staying in the
hotel with the boys, and yet it was it was
exhausting for sure. Was the easier than driving, obviously, easier
than ubering, Yeah, a little bit cheaper probably as well.
(02:06):
It's kind of nice to be in one spot and
not feel like I was running all over the place,
you know. So that was kind of nice. This week,
big week coming Wednesday, there's a dinner gala for the
Fisheriss Foundation. It is a subury opening one hundred houses.
Believe Sauce is coming with me We're gonna do that,
(02:28):
very exciting. Might do some golf as well, and then
like a month of now, my first trip my brother
my dad going to New Orleans for a cigar convention
and that is indeed the warm up for my dad
and nice trip to Europe in May, going to a
soccer game in Manchester, which I'm very excited about, and
then going to Italy to see where they film Star Wars,
(02:52):
which I'm very excited about.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
My TikTok's been popping up all that stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
It's been so much fun to tell people like, yeah,
we go to Italy and see their eyes get big, like,
oh my god, it's amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I go, yeah, but it's for Star Wars. It's that's the.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Reason why let me get to this for your Monday,
the toxic habits that make it miserable, and how I
get some joy back in your life. I do think
misery loves company, right, And there is times where we
just want to be in a bad mood. You just
want to be able to complain about something and kind
of be what was me? I understand that we're all
(03:25):
there sometimes, you know, but eventually, as the great Winston
Churchill said, if you're going through hell, keep going only
way I get out, Yeah, I get through it. Sorry
with focusing on what's missing out instead of what you have, Yes,
Unhappy people tend to be a chronic case of I'll
be happy when dot dot dot, but I always fix
(03:47):
you next, next big thing, next big milestone. Believe that
happiness is waiting for them on the other side of
some accomplishment, and you know, it's funny when there's some
showy pass on New Year's and then it's been a
weird golly almost three months. But there was a moment
where during the hockey season, I was like, Okay, if
(04:09):
we win the conference championship, that will that will get
me to be happy again, you know with coaching, and
I've never once put my own happiness into teenage boys,
never think that's quite the move. But I was like,
maybe this, this will bring me out. And we won,
and I was very excited for the team. But then
I was like, oh, yeah, it didn't really fix anything,
(04:31):
you know, and not that shit of it's not supposed
to be what's happening. But do you think it's the
idea of like, oh if I just if this external
thing happens, that'll make me happy again. It's like now,
unfortunately it's inside of us to make us happy. You know,
we got to fix ourselves if you let fear guide
your life plan. They say, often unhappy people play it safe,
(04:53):
avoiding risk because they're terrified of failure, rejection, or uncertainty.
I think that's true. To quote the great Herb Brooks,
USA hockey coach nineteen eighteen, risk something or forever sit
with your dreams. Risk something or forever sit with your dreams.
I do think I know people who are so paralyzed
by fear of making the wrong decision. And it's funny
(05:15):
because I've made thousands of wrong decisions. I mean, every
single day doing this show, I'll make a wrong decision,
no doubt. I don't dwell on it, you know, And
I'll have folks to ask me, like, what's my biggest
biggest mistake ever made? And I can't really name one
because I never really dwell on it. It's not because
(05:36):
I haven't made mistakes, Lord knows, but I will stick around,
like beat myself up for it. It's like, all right, Well,
as long as the next one's right decision, that's fine,
which leads to the next point. Dwelling on the past
instead of moving forward. They say, living in the past,
whether it's obsessing over mistakes, holding in the grudges, orromanticizing
the good old days, it's a surefire way to stay
unhappy when someone constantly or living what was the sound on?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
What is?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I think that makes all the sentence in the world. Yeah,
it's also it's not fun. It's just like I think
we sometimes do that and then we don't realize, like,
life is still moving. It's not like we've paused life
to wash the past. It's like you're sacrificing, excuse me,
the current for the past, and that's that's not good.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Do a couple more of these.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
If you let other people be in control of your happiness. Yes,
and don't get me wrong, I've been there before too.
But I've had friends where it's like they think somebody's
out to get them. And maybe I haven't agree with that,
but I'm just like, hey, like, even if this person
is out to get you and you are showing that
they're getting to you, you are giving them a win.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
If you really believe they're out to get you and
you're letting them get you this riled up, you are
letting them win.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Do not do that, clinging to.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Your toxic relationships because you don't think it is there better. Man,
this is so big. They say. Many unhappy people stay
in friendships, romantic relationships, or family dynamics that drain them
simply because they're afraid of being alone. They tolerate mistreatment,
excuse bad behavior, and convince themselves that any relationship is
better than none at all.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
It is not. It is not.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
I've said this a million times in the show, that
you deserve to be in a happy, healthy relationship. I
believe that if you have a relationship in your life,
whether it is family or friends or romantic, that isn't
making you happy, that constantly is draining you. That is
not good, especially because if that person actually cared about you,
(07:38):
they wouldn't put you through that kind of bs, that
kind of hell.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
So I think, yes, cut that out if you dig
your heels in.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
When it comes to change, they say that unhappy people
often struggle with change seen as a threat rather than
an opportunity.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I do think that's big too.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
That's like the old adage of like we've always done
things this way. Yeah, But if there's an easier way
of doing something, why not do it that way?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
You know?
Speaker 1 (08:08):
And I would also add to change doesn't mean you
were wrong. For if a season for work, if if
somebody finds a more efficient way of doing something, doesn't
necessarily mean your way was wrong. It means that times evolved,
technology evolved, people evolved. I don't think it's a slight
on anybody. I think that can be a bit of
(08:28):
a problem as well. The last one I'll get to
you overanalyzing everything, and it's cruciating detail. Yes, some people
can't enjoy the present moment because they're too busy analyzing, overthinking,
and second guessing every little thing. I'll say this, I've
been that person before. I think sometimes I still can be.
(08:48):
If I do an event, if I do a joke,
whatever it is, it's hard me sometimes not to sit
back and enjoy it. I go, Okay, that could have
been better, and it's like, sure it could have been better,
However it could have been a lot worse.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
I actually I had a boss I mentioned.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
This a couple weeks ago, who told me, like, my
problem is sometimes I don't just sit and enjoy success.
I'm always like onto the next thing, which is true.
A guy I was talking to a listener this past
week at the Speeding event, very nice guy who's like, hey, again,
congrats in your album be number one in the world,
and it's weird that, like I forgot that happened. Sometimes
(09:30):
I forget that I had the number one comedy album
in the world, which is insane. But yes, it's because
I think I'm so focused on like what can I
do next, which I'm trying to get better at trying
to Anyway, up, you have a great Monday. You you get
a chance to follow along at intern Gen Radio. I'll
see a Wednesday thought shower
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