April 2, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Inter John talks about how to know if someone is being fake
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Intern John's debut comedy album "The Album" is available right NOW! InternJohnComedy.com proceeds benefitting the Fisher House Foundation
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower intern.
John is my name. Algae season is here, at least
in the DC area. The pollen it looks like Shrek
is sneezing all over my car all time. Woke up
this morning my eyes bright red as if I had
(00:22):
smoked ten pounds of marijuana. Spoiler alert, I have not
not great. The vibes aren't good right now. You try
to get car wash, come out still looking like there's
you know what a macha that's the green stuff all
over the car. It's not great. We're gonna get through.
(00:42):
We're gonna survive. By the way I realized through going
through my phone. Friday will be four years that Skittles
has been part of the IJ household, which is crazy, crazy,
crazy crazy. I think that Skeets has been the family
for four years. I remember the I picked him up.
I remember he was a little bit nervous. I remember
(01:04):
the day I brought him home. Chewey was confused, to
say the least. I have a great photo of them.
They'll post layer this week where Skittles kind of looks
like I don't know what I'm doing here, and Chewie
looks like, hey, who is this guy? Chewy has a
look of like, hey, we had a good thing going here,
(01:24):
why bring in somebody else? You know. And it's kind
of crazy to see hit the photos of the days afterwards,
because Skeets got very comfortable, very quick, which obviously is
a good thing, and they end up being buddies. Even
though I told this before, but Chewy would bully Skittles,
and maybe not intentionally, I think that Chewey just kind
(01:47):
of didn't give a dang about anything, like he was
typical Chihuahua and that he thought he was a lot
bigger than he was, although he wasn't the typical loud
mouth yapping Chuahua, which I appreciated. But like, if Skittles
was like laying down somewhere chill, we would just like
(02:08):
walk into him and like the way it true you
would do it, you wouldn't be able to tell if
it was intentional or if he didn't see what was
going on or what, which I think kind of messed
with Skittles even more. You know. But uh, four years
of Skeets and he's spending the weekend aunt Shelby's house
very excited because this weekend, your boy going to Louisville.
(02:28):
So I'm excited for sauce taking, to skate taking skeets,
have fun there and then uh yeah, so my weekend though,
as we ride for the weekend, had not packed here
for my trip. So gotta do that. Going to a
Louisville this weekend. Very excited for Louisville, very excited for
Skyline Chili. I was gonna do some of like the
(02:49):
Bourbon tours. I wanted to do Buffalo Trace, but unfortunately
all the tours have been booked for like months. It
looks like so this excited kind of walk around down
town and just kind of a vibe out. I guess
I say vibe out. Still I'm gonna go throw myself
down the stairs real quick. So anyway, let me get
(03:10):
into this real quick too. The clues someone isn't as
decent as they act. Now, I've been known to not
be as open or as warm or have been total
at least I'm not as warm to new people. I
prefer to say that I prefer to sit back and judge,
not sit back and judge, sit back and observe. Like before,
(03:32):
I'm like, hey, you're a good person, come on in.
It's like I do tsa if you will, a bit
of a pat down, bit of a let's make sure
everything here checks out, and I try to wash the patterns.
According to the experts, if they treat service workers differently
than their peers, that's a sign they aren't as decent
as they claim. I think that's fair. They say, you
(03:56):
can learn a lot about somebody observing how they interact
with people they don't quote need to impress. I do
think that's fair. It could be workers of any kind.
I always think be nice to everybody. It's a very
simple thing, you know. That's why it's funny. Like when
I was doing the comedy stuff, people would ask, like,
you ever trash a hotel room or trash the dressing room? Like, yeah,
(04:17):
you know, that sounds fun in practice, it sounds fun
in like, oh yeah, rock star stuff. Then you realize
somebody has to clean it up, and so why make
somebody else's day harder. So now like we would always
straighten up the rooms, do the same in a hotel,
I just still want to make somebody's day harder than
it already is. And I would hope that the universe
(04:39):
does the same for me. The compliments they give contain
hidden criticism. H Ever, notice how certain people's compliments seem
to leave you feeling worse. They might say you look
so much healthier now, or that presentation was actually quite good,
with just enough emphasis to plan doubt. They say, these
batcan compliments are designed to establish dominance while maintaining plausible deniability. Yeah,
(05:04):
because they're saying it because they don't have the balls
if you will, to fully criticize you to your face,
you know, So they'll do it that way so that
if you do call them out, they can almost gaslight them.
But no, I wasn't Oh no, I wasn't being mean.
I was being positive. Yeah, they remember their mistakes, but
(05:24):
they forget their own. Ah. Yes, when you mess up,
this person has an encyclopedia memory of every detail, which
they'll reference months even years later. Yet mysteriously, when they
make similar errors, those incidents seem to evaporate from the
recollection entirely. It is funny where there is like sometimes
(05:45):
the people like, you know, and you'll realize when they
say stuff, but I'm like, you know, I wouldn't even
think of that mistake. But somebody can like recollect mistakes
so quickly that to me. I was like, oh, you're
really watching me. Huh, Like you're really watching everything I
do and judging. You know, their generosity comes with strings.
(06:09):
You discover it later on. Say, initially the generosity seems refreshinged.
They offer to help before you even ask, insists on
picking up the tab, or giving you unexpected gifts. I
gradually noticed these kind gestures are frequently mentioned in conversation,
particularly when they need something from you. I had a
friend once who were wanting to go on a trip
ones and I was like, Hey, I can't you know,
(06:31):
afford to uh do that or I couldn't afford to
bring a girlfriend at the time. This was my first
move here. And the friends like, oh, don't worry, I
have a bunch of airline miles, Like I'll give you
my miles. There'll be ten bucks on top of that,
good to get. I was like, Oh, that's that's so amazing,
you know. And it wasn't until like a couple of
weeks later they brought up like how like I begged them,
Like no, no, no, I not beg you. You said
(06:53):
he'd do this for me. But it was a very
odd like oh, okay, so this is now I know,
like when you do a favor, it's not the goodness
of your own heart. It's almost like you're keeping track,
you're keeping score. That's why I learned the East Coast
different than the Midwest. Yeah. Uh. Their empathy comes and
goes depending on who's watching. You've seen their compassionate side,
(07:16):
the way they can sole the colleague after tough meeting
or spoke passionately about social cause. Yet when no audience
is present, or when the suffering person has no social capital,
the empathy vanishes. Yeah, I mean it's almost like it's performative.
They used to be a term for dating. It's called
woke fishing, where people pretend to be like really in
the social justice causes just to get attention on dating apps.
(07:40):
Kind of the same thing, but once the person that
train went over is gone, like yeah, I'm I'm gone,
I'm gone, next the couple more real quick. They dodge
direct questions with long winded answers, oh yeah, man. When
you ask a straightforward question about the behavior decisions, they
respawn with a verbose explanation that weaves through related topics,
(08:04):
past grievances, and hypothetical scenarios. They say, fifteen minutes in
their sponsor you realize they've spoken at length on actually
addressed in your original question. Yeah, I mean it's just
kind of give you their un around that's giving you
the apisoute run around, and then like hey you figure
it out, No duo one more. Uh. Their phone mysteriously
(08:25):
goes face down when you approach. Now this one, I
don't know if it's as uh obvious, but they say
we all value privacy. There's something telling about a person
who consistently and rapidly flips the phone over when it
was approach. You know, it's this quick movement becoming a
reflex in every inter room. I guess. I think sometimes
people just do that to be polite, you know, like
(08:48):
they're being polite and and why I seem they're giving
you full tention. But I could see if you mix
that with all these other ones, like oh yeah, okay, sure,
what are you trying to hide? What name do you
not want me to see pop up on your phone?
You know? Anyway, it's funny. I'm the the websaem on
right now. There's an ad for Magic Magic Mike Live.
(09:10):
I well, new listen, ladies, I will never understand y'all
paying to go see men take the clothes off. I'll
never understand it, because any duty follow or follows you
online would do it for free. I'm just gonna say it.
I'm gonna leave that there. Uh, take care as you
will if you get a chance to follow me at
interns gen Radio. You can follow the show at YMS Radio.
(09:33):
Hope you have a fantastic Wednesday. I'll see on Friday.
This is the Thought Shower.
And a happy Wednesday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower intern.
John is my name. Algae season is here, at least
in the DC area. The pollen it looks like Shrek
is sneezing all over my car all time. Woke up
this morning my eyes bright red as if I had
(00:22):
smoked ten pounds of marijuana. Spoiler alert, I have not
not great. The vibes aren't good right now. You try
to get car wash, come out still looking like there's
you know what a macha that's the green stuff all
over the car. It's not great. We're gonna get through.
(00:42):
We're gonna survive. By the way I realized through going
through my phone. Friday will be four years that Skittles
has been part of the IJ household, which is crazy, crazy,
crazy crazy. I think that Skeets has been the family
for four years. I remember the I picked him up.
I remember he was a little bit nervous. I remember
(01:04):
the day I brought him home. Chewey was confused, to
say the least. I have a great photo of them.
They'll post layer this week where Skittles kind of looks
like I don't know what I'm doing here, and Chewie
looks like, hey, who is this guy? Chewy has a
look of like, hey, we had a good thing going here,
(01:24):
why bring in somebody else? You know. And it's kind
of crazy to see hit the photos of the days afterwards,
because Skeets got very comfortable, very quick, which obviously is
a good thing, and they end up being buddies. Even
though I told this before, but Chewy would bully Skittles,
and maybe not intentionally, I think that Chewey just kind
(01:47):
of didn't give a dang about anything, like he was
typical Chihuahua and that he thought he was a lot
bigger than he was, although he wasn't the typical loud
mouth yapping Chuahua, which I appreciated. But like, if Skittles
was like laying down somewhere chill, we would just like
(02:08):
walk into him and like the way it true you
would do it, you wouldn't be able to tell if
it was intentional or if he didn't see what was
going on or what, which I think kind of messed
with Skittles even more. You know. But uh, four years
of Skeets and he's spending the weekend aunt Shelby's house
very excited because this weekend, your boy going to Louisville.
(02:28):
So I'm excited for sauce taking, to skate taking skeets,
have fun there and then uh yeah, so my weekend though,
as we ride for the weekend, had not packed here
for my trip. So gotta do that. Going to a
Louisville this weekend. Very excited for Louisville, very excited for
Skyline Chili. I was gonna do some of like the
(02:49):
Bourbon tours. I wanted to do Buffalo Trace, but unfortunately
all the tours have been booked for like months. It
looks like so this excited kind of walk around down
town and just kind of a vibe out. I guess
I say vibe out. Still I'm gonna go throw myself
down the stairs real quick. So anyway, let me get
(03:10):
into this real quick too. The clues someone isn't as
decent as they act. Now, I've been known to not
be as open or as warm or have been total
at least I'm not as warm to new people. I
prefer to say that I prefer to sit back and judge,
not sit back and judge, sit back and observe. Like before,
(03:32):
I'm like, hey, you're a good person, come on in.
It's like I do tsa if you will, a bit
of a pat down, bit of a let's make sure
everything here checks out, and I try to wash the patterns.
According to the experts, if they treat service workers differently
than their peers, that's a sign they aren't as decent
as they claim. I think that's fair. They say, you
(03:56):
can learn a lot about somebody observing how they interact
with people they don't quote need to impress. I do
think that's fair. It could be workers of any kind.
I always think be nice to everybody. It's a very
simple thing, you know. That's why it's funny. Like when
I was doing the comedy stuff, people would ask, like,
you ever trash a hotel room or trash the dressing room? Like, yeah,
(04:17):
you know, that sounds fun in practice, it sounds fun
in like, oh yeah, rock star stuff. Then you realize
somebody has to clean it up, and so why make
somebody else's day harder. So now like we would always
straighten up the rooms, do the same in a hotel,
I just still want to make somebody's day harder than
it already is. And I would hope that the universe
(04:39):
does the same for me. The compliments they give contain
hidden criticism. H Ever, notice how certain people's compliments seem
to leave you feeling worse. They might say you look
so much healthier now, or that presentation was actually quite good,
with just enough emphasis to plan doubt. They say, these
batcan compliments are designed to establish dominance while maintaining plausible deniability. Yeah,
(05:04):
because they're saying it because they don't have the balls
if you will, to fully criticize you to your face,
you know, So they'll do it that way so that
if you do call them out, they can almost gaslight them.
But no, I wasn't Oh no, I wasn't being mean.
I was being positive. Yeah, they remember their mistakes, but
(05:24):
they forget their own. Ah. Yes, when you mess up,
this person has an encyclopedia memory of every detail, which
they'll reference months even years later. Yet mysteriously, when they
make similar errors, those incidents seem to evaporate from the
recollection entirely. It is funny where there is like sometimes
(05:45):
the people like, you know, and you'll realize when they
say stuff, but I'm like, you know, I wouldn't even
think of that mistake. But somebody can like recollect mistakes
so quickly that to me. I was like, oh, you're
really watching me. Huh, Like you're really watching everything I
do and judging. You know, their generosity comes with strings.
(06:09):
You discover it later on. Say, initially the generosity seems refreshinged.
They offer to help before you even ask, insists on
picking up the tab, or giving you unexpected gifts. I
gradually noticed these kind gestures are frequently mentioned in conversation,
particularly when they need something from you. I had a
friend once who were wanting to go on a trip
ones and I was like, Hey, I can't you know,
(06:31):
afford to uh do that or I couldn't afford to
bring a girlfriend at the time. This was my first
move here. And the friends like, oh, don't worry, I
have a bunch of airline miles, Like I'll give you
my miles. There'll be ten bucks on top of that,
good to get. I was like, Oh, that's that's so amazing,
you know. And it wasn't until like a couple of
weeks later they brought up like how like I begged them,
Like no, no, no, I not beg you. You said
(06:53):
he'd do this for me. But it was a very
odd like oh, okay, so this is now I know,
like when you do a favor, it's not the goodness
of your own heart. It's almost like you're keeping track,
you're keeping score. That's why I learned the East Coast
different than the Midwest. Yeah. Uh. Their empathy comes and
goes depending on who's watching. You've seen their compassionate side,
(07:16):
the way they can sole the colleague after tough meeting
or spoke passionately about social cause. Yet when no audience
is present, or when the suffering person has no social capital,
the empathy vanishes. Yeah, I mean it's almost like it's performative.
They used to be a term for dating. It's called
woke fishing, where people pretend to be like really in
the social justice causes just to get attention on dating apps.
(07:40):
Kind of the same thing, but once the person that
train went over is gone, like yeah, I'm I'm gone,
I'm gone, next the couple more real quick. They dodge
direct questions with long winded answers, oh yeah, man. When
you ask a straightforward question about the behavior decisions, they
respawn with a verbose explanation that weaves through related topics,
(08:04):
past grievances, and hypothetical scenarios. They say, fifteen minutes in
their sponsor you realize they've spoken at length on actually
addressed in your original question. Yeah, I mean it's just
kind of give you their un around that's giving you
the apisoute run around, and then like hey you figure
it out, No duo one more. Uh. Their phone mysteriously
(08:25):
goes face down when you approach. Now this one, I
don't know if it's as uh obvious, but they say
we all value privacy. There's something telling about a person
who consistently and rapidly flips the phone over when it
was approach. You know, it's this quick movement becoming a
reflex in every inter room. I guess. I think sometimes
people just do that to be polite, you know, like
(08:48):
they're being polite and and why I seem they're giving
you full tention. But I could see if you mix
that with all these other ones, like oh yeah, okay, sure,
what are you trying to hide? What name do you
not want me to see pop up on your phone?
You know? Anyway, it's funny. I'm the the websaem on
right now. There's an ad for Magic Magic Mike Live.
(09:10):
I well, new listen, ladies, I will never understand y'all
paying to go see men take the clothes off. I'll
never understand it, because any duty follow or follows you
online would do it for free. I'm just gonna say it.
I'm gonna leave that there. Uh, take care as you
will if you get a chance to follow me at
interns gen Radio. You can follow the show at YMS Radio.
(09:33):
Hope you have a fantastic Wednesday. I'll see on Friday.
This is the Thought Shower.
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