April 18, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how to know if someone is a player or an actual gentleman
Intern John and Your Morning Show are having their first ever CHUES-Day dog adoption event in honor of John's dog, Chuy! They have teamed with Lost Dog and Cat Rescue to find homes for some amazing animals! Saturday 4/26 2:30-4:30p @ Hyde Social in Arlington
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John and Your Morning Show are having their first ever CHUES-Day dog adoption event in honor of John's dog, Chuy! They have teamed with Lost Dog and Cat Rescue to find homes for some amazing animals! Saturday 4/26 2:30-4:30p @ Hyde Social in Arlington
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern.
John is my name. Hopefully had a a good week
so far. Hopefully you have a chance to relax this weekend. Yeah, boys,
got a busy, uh busy evening today. Pretty excited by
a bound town the last two weekends. So you think, oh, John,
(00:20):
You're probably just gonna relax, not do anything this weekend.
Uh No, I have to I have to work. So
I'm gonna be at my bar this weekend. I'm very
excited because tonight meeting up with some buddies, so our
good friends Andrew and Romina coming, my buddy Evan coming
in from New York, and then my buddy Ryan as well,
who was one of our owners too. So doing that tonight.
(00:40):
Then hopefully this weekend live have a long weekend, hoping
the weather's good and try to take skittles out, get
him doing his thing. But then Easter, hopefully the Easter
Bunny comes, bring some chocolate. I guess the Easter Bunny
found my brother and I in New Orleans, which is
very exciting. I was informed though that my dad may
(01:02):
have stolen something from the Easter bunny, or maybe the
Easter Bunny put it in the wrong place because I
was supposed to have a chocolate bunny that somehow hopped away.
It happens to the best of us. You know, perhaps
the bunnies wasn't held down properly. Who's to say, but
sadly that is the case for me and the bunny.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
It is Nemar. By the way, I want to mind you.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Next Saturday, we're doing our first ever hold on second,
hold on hole first, knees, hold first, knees, hole first.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
No, didn't happen.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Our first ever dog adoption event is next Saturday, April
twenty sixth, Hide Social in Clarendon. That is the bar
that I'm involved with, and I'm very excited for this.
You know, yesterday I had a chance to go down
to NBC NBC four in DC thanks to my friend Justin,
and did an interview with Tony Perkins, who is Tony
(01:53):
Perkins is one of the most legendary broadcasts in the area.
And we just talked about Schoey and talked about the event.
May I'm gonna honest, Yeah, I walk in the studio
and the TV studio and they have Chewy on the
backboard on the screens and there's my alarm. Goll Lee,
what a podcast so far and kind of took my
breath away. It was a bit like, oh my gosh.
(02:14):
And then you know, Tony, who is a you know hell,
a professional broadcaster, was reading the intro and talking about
how hard it can be for you know, somebody who
lose their best friend and how often that best friend's
a dog. And that was a hard time listening to it. Man.
I almost cried right in the beginning of the segment,
(02:35):
but overall overall it was fantastic. It's gonna air some
time next week as we get ready for this event.
So next Saturday, the twenty sixth, Hide Social and Clarendon
our first ever Tuesday Dog Adoption.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
It's two thirty to four thirty.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Even if you aren't looking for an animal to add
to your life, you can still donate.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
You can still come out and just play with the dogs.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
That's always fun, just to play with dogs all thee
infoyms radio dot com. I want to get to this
real quick for your Friday. The traits that separate gentlemen
from players. I've been called one of these things. I
don't think I don't think it could be the other one,
even if I tried starting with his attention remains consistent
(03:23):
even when nobody's watching. They say a player's attention fluctuates
depending on who might notice or what he stands to gain,
create a performance that feels inconsistent in private settings.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
I would also say too, the player gets a thrill
off of like that public attention, right, So if they're
getting that, that makes it more fun, It makes it
more of a chase. I think that's probably the best
example of that. It's like the what happens when you
when the dog gets its own tail, you know what
I mean? Kind of like that, like when there's other
people around, you know, maybe they're vying for attention to me,
they feel like they're in competition, a little more attent
(03:57):
of the things. When it's just them, it's like, nah,
I'm goodness. His friends reflect the values he actually lives by.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
M m mmmmmm.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Players often maintain friend groups they contradict their performed values,
surrounding himselves with people who objectify partners, my commitment or
sub manipulation as strategy. I will say this, I'm not
sure if I'd be able to be friends if all
my friends were you know, cheating on the person. I
(04:29):
don't think and luckily on have this problem, right. I
don't think i'd be able to stay friends, you know
what I mean? But I don't think that. Yeah, I
don't think that i'd be able to do that. So
I do agree with that a lot, because it's like,
I don't want to be around you. I don't want
to deal with that. I don't want to be drawn
into that. When plans change unexpectedly, he doesn't freak out,
(04:52):
say players often respond to disruptive plans with disproportionate frustration,
revealing rigid expectation about how interactions should serve their interest
or image. I would also say, more so than this,
it's gonna sound gross. I would say, if they get
more so upset because they made plans for you, meaning
(05:12):
they had to juggle everybody else they're talking to, and
then if you fallow through, it's like, okay, now do
they send them what's up?
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Text? I really think that's probably more what it is like.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Now do they have to cover their tracks that way
because they know they quote unquote wasted Now we're on
the schedule on you. He speaks about his past relationships
with kindness. They say The language someone uses about former
partners reveals patterns likely to repeat in future relationships, regardless
of current promises. Players often construct narratives that position acts
(05:42):
is as crazy, difficult, or solely responsible for relationship failures.
I do think that's true because they have no intention
of staying around.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Right.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It's kind of like they're treating it like a McDonald's.
They know it's gonna be there. It's quick, it's easy,
it's on the way. So why would they want to
get deep in conversation about what they did wrong, like I,
when they have no plan to make the relationship anything
more than that.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
There we go.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
His actions match his timeline without rushing or solid Yeah,
they say, gentlemen allow relationships to develop at pace that
honors genuine emotional readiness and mutual comfort, without manufacturing artificial
urgency or unnecessary delays. Their consistency creates predictability. I would
say yes, because they're not trying to rush you off. Again,
(06:29):
I think if you are clearly not interested in developing
the relationship, you will rush things that get to whatever
marker you want to, right, Like, if.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
That's what they're trying to do.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
If they're not trying to actually get to know you,
and they just want to get to like the intimate stuff.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
It's a pretty good sign.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
That's like the idea of when somebody shows you who
they truly are, believe them.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
I think that's true.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
He builds you up to others rather than showing you off.
They say introduction to social circles reveals whether someone values
your person or your presentation. In the narrative about themselves,
players position partners as accessories, then enhance their image, focusing
conversation and aspects that reflect favorably on their selection rather
than honoring your independent identity.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, that actually makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
It makes a lot of sense because it's almost like
they're collecting you, right, what's that line of fil a boy,
I'm just notching your bedpost but your saligna song.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Yeah, it's like they don't really care about you.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
It's like they just want to show their friends, Oh,
this person's hot them with or this person does x
y Z. I think that's a huge sign, especially if
they don't leave, if they leave out rather the like
impressive things you've done. Yeah, I think so he creates
space for you instead of trying to fill all of it.
It's the way somebody approaches conversational emotional space reveals whether
(07:50):
they value your experience or merely your tension. Players dominate
interactions with persistent talking, interrupting or rejecting the conversation toward
themselves when focus shifts elsewhere. Their engagement creates the appearance
of connection while actually centering their perspectives, experiences, and needs
in every interaction. Yeah, I would just say, if you
(08:11):
don't look forward to talking to them, or if you
don't leave a conversation feeing fulfilled with them, that's a
really big sign, you know, because I do think somebody
is generally trying to make that connection, especially dude, They're
gonna want to get to know you. They're gonna want
to get to know what they get into, if it's
gonna make sense, if it's gonna work out. If they're
(08:32):
just talking about themselves again, I really think it just
shows they have no interest in the actual investment. It's like,
I'm just trying to get through this to get what
I want and then that can move on. And we
don't want that. In twenty twenty five, No, no, sir,
ree Bob, we are better. I hope you have a
great weekend. I hope I see you next Saturday. Hide
Social two thirty to four thirty pm for Tuesday, all
(08:55):
the info in that YMS radio dot com have a
great Friday, Sathasha or
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower. Intern.
John is my name. Hopefully had a a good week
so far. Hopefully you have a chance to relax this weekend. Yeah, boys,
got a busy, uh busy evening today. Pretty excited by
a bound town the last two weekends. So you think, oh, John,
(00:20):
You're probably just gonna relax, not do anything this weekend.
Uh No, I have to I have to work. So
I'm gonna be at my bar this weekend. I'm very
excited because tonight meeting up with some buddies, so our
good friends Andrew and Romina coming, my buddy Evan coming
in from New York, and then my buddy Ryan as well,
who was one of our owners too. So doing that tonight.
(00:40):
Then hopefully this weekend live have a long weekend, hoping
the weather's good and try to take skittles out, get
him doing his thing. But then Easter, hopefully the Easter
Bunny comes, bring some chocolate. I guess the Easter Bunny
found my brother and I in New Orleans, which is
very exciting. I was informed though that my dad may
(01:02):
have stolen something from the Easter bunny, or maybe the
Easter Bunny put it in the wrong place because I
was supposed to have a chocolate bunny that somehow hopped away.
It happens to the best of us. You know, perhaps
the bunnies wasn't held down properly. Who's to say, but
sadly that is the case for me and the bunny.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
It is Nemar. By the way, I want to mind you.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Next Saturday, we're doing our first ever hold on second,
hold on hole first, knees, hold first, knees, hole first.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
No, didn't happen.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Our first ever dog adoption event is next Saturday, April
twenty sixth, Hide Social in Clarendon. That is the bar
that I'm involved with, and I'm very excited for this.
You know, yesterday I had a chance to go down
to NBC NBC four in DC thanks to my friend Justin,
and did an interview with Tony Perkins, who is Tony
(01:53):
Perkins is one of the most legendary broadcasts in the area.
And we just talked about Schoey and talked about the event.
May I'm gonna honest, Yeah, I walk in the studio
and the TV studio and they have Chewy on the
backboard on the screens and there's my alarm. Goll Lee,
what a podcast so far and kind of took my
breath away. It was a bit like, oh my gosh.
(02:14):
And then you know, Tony, who is a you know hell,
a professional broadcaster, was reading the intro and talking about
how hard it can be for you know, somebody who
lose their best friend and how often that best friend's
a dog. And that was a hard time listening to it. Man.
I almost cried right in the beginning of the segment,
(02:35):
but overall overall it was fantastic. It's gonna air some
time next week as we get ready for this event.
So next Saturday, the twenty sixth, Hide Social and Clarendon
our first ever Tuesday Dog Adoption.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
It's two thirty to four thirty.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Even if you aren't looking for an animal to add
to your life, you can still donate.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
You can still come out and just play with the dogs.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
That's always fun, just to play with dogs all thee
infoyms radio dot com. I want to get to this
real quick for your Friday. The traits that separate gentlemen
from players. I've been called one of these things. I
don't think I don't think it could be the other one,
even if I tried starting with his attention remains consistent
(03:23):
even when nobody's watching. They say a player's attention fluctuates
depending on who might notice or what he stands to gain,
create a performance that feels inconsistent in private settings.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
I would also say too, the player gets a thrill
off of like that public attention, right, So if they're
getting that, that makes it more fun, It makes it
more of a chase. I think that's probably the best
example of that. It's like the what happens when you
when the dog gets its own tail, you know what
I mean? Kind of like that, like when there's other
people around, you know, maybe they're vying for attention to me,
they feel like they're in competition, a little more attent
(03:57):
of the things. When it's just them, it's like, nah,
I'm goodness. His friends reflect the values he actually lives by.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
M m mmmmmm.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Players often maintain friend groups they contradict their performed values,
surrounding himselves with people who objectify partners, my commitment or
sub manipulation as strategy. I will say this, I'm not
sure if I'd be able to be friends if all
my friends were you know, cheating on the person. I
(04:29):
don't think and luckily on have this problem, right. I
don't think i'd be able to stay friends, you know
what I mean? But I don't think that. Yeah, I
don't think that i'd be able to do that. So
I do agree with that a lot, because it's like,
I don't want to be around you. I don't want
to deal with that. I don't want to be drawn
into that. When plans change unexpectedly, he doesn't freak out,
(04:52):
say players often respond to disruptive plans with disproportionate frustration,
revealing rigid expectation about how interactions should serve their interest
or image. I would also say, more so than this,
it's gonna sound gross. I would say, if they get
more so upset because they made plans for you, meaning
(05:12):
they had to juggle everybody else they're talking to, and
then if you fallow through, it's like, okay, now do
they send them what's up?
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Text? I really think that's probably more what it is like.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Now do they have to cover their tracks that way
because they know they quote unquote wasted Now we're on
the schedule on you. He speaks about his past relationships
with kindness. They say The language someone uses about former
partners reveals patterns likely to repeat in future relationships, regardless
of current promises. Players often construct narratives that position acts
(05:42):
is as crazy, difficult, or solely responsible for relationship failures.
I do think that's true because they have no intention
of staying around.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Right.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It's kind of like they're treating it like a McDonald's.
They know it's gonna be there. It's quick, it's easy,
it's on the way. So why would they want to
get deep in conversation about what they did wrong, like I,
when they have no plan to make the relationship anything
more than that.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
There we go.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
His actions match his timeline without rushing or solid Yeah,
they say, gentlemen allow relationships to develop at pace that
honors genuine emotional readiness and mutual comfort, without manufacturing artificial
urgency or unnecessary delays. Their consistency creates predictability. I would
say yes, because they're not trying to rush you off. Again,
(06:29):
I think if you are clearly not interested in developing
the relationship, you will rush things that get to whatever
marker you want to, right, Like, if.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
That's what they're trying to do.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
If they're not trying to actually get to know you,
and they just want to get to like the intimate stuff.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
It's a pretty good sign.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
That's like the idea of when somebody shows you who
they truly are, believe them.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
I think that's true.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
He builds you up to others rather than showing you off.
They say introduction to social circles reveals whether someone values
your person or your presentation. In the narrative about themselves,
players position partners as accessories, then enhance their image, focusing
conversation and aspects that reflect favorably on their selection rather
than honoring your independent identity.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, that actually makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
It makes a lot of sense because it's almost like
they're collecting you, right, what's that line of fil a boy,
I'm just notching your bedpost but your saligna song.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Yeah, it's like they don't really care about you.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
It's like they just want to show their friends, Oh,
this person's hot them with or this person does x
y Z. I think that's a huge sign, especially if
they don't leave, if they leave out rather the like
impressive things you've done. Yeah, I think so he creates
space for you instead of trying to fill all of it.
It's the way somebody approaches conversational emotional space reveals whether
(07:50):
they value your experience or merely your tension. Players dominate
interactions with persistent talking, interrupting or rejecting the conversation toward
themselves when focus shifts elsewhere. Their engagement creates the appearance
of connection while actually centering their perspectives, experiences, and needs
in every interaction. Yeah, I would just say, if you
(08:11):
don't look forward to talking to them, or if you
don't leave a conversation feeing fulfilled with them, that's a
really big sign, you know, because I do think somebody
is generally trying to make that connection, especially dude, They're
gonna want to get to know you. They're gonna want
to get to know what they get into, if it's
gonna make sense, if it's gonna work out. If they're
(08:32):
just talking about themselves again, I really think it just
shows they have no interest in the actual investment. It's like,
I'm just trying to get through this to get what
I want and then that can move on. And we
don't want that. In twenty twenty five, No, no, sir,
ree Bob, we are better. I hope you have a
great weekend. I hope I see you next Saturday. Hide
Social two thirty to four thirty pm for Tuesday, all
(08:55):
the info in that YMS radio dot com have a
great Friday, Sathasha or
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