June 25, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about the biggest red flags in a relationship
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Wednesday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the thought shower. Intern John is my name.
Halfway through the week, got a big weekend coming, actually
a big twenty four hours coming tomorrow Thursday. Intern John's
second chance prompt. You're gonna be at the film or
We're very excited Chris or Patrick Ivan Sync, You got
Ryan Cabrera, BB Mac, LFO and more.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Give me a great time. There's still some tickets left.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Hot and damfive dot com slash prom excite for that,
got my suit ray for that. And then this weekend
heading to Orlando broadcasting down there. Very exciting today doing TV.
Gonna be on Fox five for a couple different shows.
It's kind of a busy day. And then by the way,
I did this so wrong, I'm like hopping around my
(00:51):
schedule instead of going from like chronologically. So today guy
to TV. Wednesday will be on Fox five and DC
around like one. Then again at two o'clock, shouts to
everybody there. Very excited for that. Later on this evening,
we're starting a wine night Wine Wednesday at my bar.
So picking up sauce and her friend going to that
(01:13):
later tonight. Believe Hoodie's joining us as well. Nice kind
of hopefully at chill night. Hopefully it's a chill night.
Hopefully it's just have a glass of wine, has some dinner,
relaxed because tomorrow gonna be crazy day. Have the show
in the morning, gonna kill it obviously as I do.
(01:33):
Gotta go to the gym, then second chance prom with
all the form engine acts, which it's gonna be a
long day for me, probably close to twenty four hour day,
which is fine, you know, I mean, not ideal obviously,
but give me a fun show. So we gotta do
the morning showta do Jim stuff. Then go to the concert,
(01:54):
have a great time, rock out. Gonna be a lot
of fun. Our first time doing something like this as well,
so should be good again. Last many tickets hot in
Ada and five dot com slash problem. This has been
easily top five worst starts of a podcast ever.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Just bad.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I even today, like I'll now that I have a
longer hair, I'll plan my day around my hair to
where I'm like, all right, I'm not gonna wake up
and shower this morning because I'm gonna go to the
gym after the show, get a nice and sweaty then
gonna shower after the gym right, So what my hair
look good on TV? So I'm not gonna shower twice
(02:35):
because it'll just look like it's been washed twice, if
that makes sense. So that's the plan is, like, wear
the hat today during the show, go to the gym,
have the hair like a mess, go home, shower quick,
take Skittles out, and then go which, by the way,
it has not been a great week for dog owners,
been like one hundred some degrees, which I found like
(02:57):
a little stat study study. Sure, if it's eighty seven out,
it's like a one hundred and forty on pavement, and it
was one hundred degrees yesterday, so do that math. So
Skittles has been doing Sudoku in various things like that
to keep his energy going the right way. Let me
get to this for your Wednesday. The signs your partner
is giving up on the relationship. I feel like I've
(03:20):
been in relationships where that has happened, even they mean to,
and it does, like I mean, obviously it sucks. It's
almost like that person was waiting for me to pull
the plug, which I did. Yeah, yeah, I mean, so
I get that part of it. Let's get into this.
If the silence is deafenating. They say, gone on the
(03:43):
days where conversation flowed like a river. Now it feels
more like you're trying to squeeze water from a stone.
If your partner has become a noncommunicative it might just
be a phase of introspection. I think that's fair if
you if it feels like you're pulling teeth like with
your person, it should feel pretty easy to have a
conversation this kind of flows. I think it's more still
(04:06):
like that comfortability right where you can just kind of
be there enjoy each other. But if it stops, yeah,
just sign something's off for sure.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
If the intimacy is waning, Yes, they say.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Physical touch is one of the most purest forms of connection,
and its absence can speak volumes. If your partners recalling
from intimacy or showing a mark of disinterest and maybe
trying to reasset, and they're not even saying like hookups,
this is legit, just like cuddling or hugs, because I
get at that point again, if you're not doing that
with the person, what are you doing? Like If that's
(04:42):
the case, what do we do with I remember how
I talk with the next ones? Whereas there's like there's
no physical touch and being. I said to her, like,
we're basically just friends in like I don't like you.
That part was added, but we sure though it's like, hey,
we're just kind of like friends, you know, if the
(05:03):
future is non topic. I do think this is one
of the biggest signs, of course. And again it's not
just like getting married. It's like, hey, next weekend, I
mean fourth of July is next week. If they wouldn't
give you plans or confirm anything, yeah, probably a sign
if their criticism becomes personal, they'll it's tay constructive criticism
(05:26):
essential for growth. When it turns personal to know the story.
Suddenly you're not just wrong about the little things, you're
fundamentally flawed. Yeah, I think. No, Luckily I don't do
anything wrong ever, so that's kind of like that. But
I do think, yeah, once attacks become personal, where it's
(05:46):
it's like you always do this, where it's like when
you fight, when something's not personal, it's like, Okay, you're
mad the mistake. If you're making it personal, it's like
it's them. They're the ones that always mess up. Little
things go unnoticed. I do think for dudes, at least
this is a big thing. It's a big thing. I'm
(06:08):
sure it's the same for women too. Just talking to
my guy friends though, they say, remember when they notice
every small detail from a new haircut, favorite coffee order.
Now it's like you're invisible all those little gestures I
met with indifferent shrugs. I think that's sure because I
know dudes that will do things for their girl and
then she doesn't notice and nothing changes, usually in the
intimacy department, and it does kind of get to the
(06:31):
point where it's like, why am I even trying? Maybe
it's not the big, grandiose change that you want right away,
but if we don't acknowledge progress, why is somebody gonna try?
I think that's a huge thing, especially because too is
like everybody has other stuff going on right like work
and family stuff. So if you feel like you're not appreciated,
(06:53):
eventually you're gonna stop trying. And at that point it's
probably over. If the apologies dry up. They say, once
apologies wre h came easily, they were genuine. Now they're
as rare as the blue moon. Mistakes are gloss over
with silence, are worse. Defensiveness. It's not about being right anymore.
(07:13):
It's about power and pride. I've told this story, but
I had a relationship where the girl was she was
wrong about something like it wasn't even close black and white, wrong,
and she couldn't say sorry. And I didn't even like
want a grand apology. I was like, Hey, all he
gotta do is say sorry and it's over and we're good,
(07:35):
we move on.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
It's fine. And she couldn't do it.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Now it's a big time for me, like damn, okay,
because I think she's probably thought that I would throw
it in her face, which now, in hindsight, it's like, okay,
did you think that because that's what you did? You
thought you had taste your on medicine or what if
the social media post stop?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
This is tough.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
They say, You're online life once reflected your off one
love story, but now it's on a different tale. The
social media ones featured a couple shots, but they've slowly
faded in the archives. Yeah, the digital distance canna be
subtle yet telling Now, I do think that it's not
as if you have to post online to being a
happy relationship. However, to this point, if it is like
(08:24):
the percentage of posts all of a sudden drop of
being your person. I think most people realize that where
it's like ooh, are they even together still? Or if
one person starts posting like more thirst traps, it is like, Okay,
are they getting themselves ready to be back out there?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Are they testing the waters? You know?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Are they just kind of seeing like what kind of
attension can I get for this? To me, I've always
used social media and I've gotten heat for in the
past because all post girlfriends not really early but fairly early.
But to me, it's the easiest way to like subtly
tell people like, hey, I'm in a relationship, especially given
being like a public figure so to speak.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
So people don't hear it on the show.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
It's like this is like the relationship status on Instagram
or on Facebook, rather where it's like here here it
is boom, good to go. I do think that's a
huge thing when you don't want to post your person.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
To me, it's like maybe if you don't even realize it,
but subconsciously it's like you are preparing for whatever's next.
Hope you follow me at intern John Radio. Hope you
also have a fantastic Wednesday. I'll see a Friday STOPT
Shower
And a happy Wednesday. Friend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Welcome to the thought shower. Intern John is my name.
Halfway through the week, got a big weekend coming, actually
a big twenty four hours coming tomorrow Thursday. Intern John's
second chance prompt. You're gonna be at the film or
We're very excited Chris or Patrick Ivan Sync, You got
Ryan Cabrera, BB Mac, LFO and more.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Give me a great time. There's still some tickets left.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Hot and damfive dot com slash prom excite for that,
got my suit ray for that. And then this weekend
heading to Orlando broadcasting down there. Very exciting today doing TV.
Gonna be on Fox five for a couple different shows.
It's kind of a busy day. And then by the way,
I did this so wrong, I'm like hopping around my
(00:51):
schedule instead of going from like chronologically. So today guy
to TV. Wednesday will be on Fox five and DC
around like one. Then again at two o'clock, shouts to
everybody there. Very excited for that. Later on this evening,
we're starting a wine night Wine Wednesday at my bar.
So picking up sauce and her friend going to that
(01:13):
later tonight. Believe Hoodie's joining us as well. Nice kind
of hopefully at chill night. Hopefully it's a chill night.
Hopefully it's just have a glass of wine, has some dinner,
relaxed because tomorrow gonna be crazy day. Have the show
in the morning, gonna kill it obviously as I do.
(01:33):
Gotta go to the gym, then second chance prom with
all the form engine acts, which it's gonna be a
long day for me, probably close to twenty four hour day,
which is fine, you know, I mean, not ideal obviously,
but give me a fun show. So we gotta do
the morning showta do Jim stuff. Then go to the concert,
(01:54):
have a great time, rock out. Gonna be a lot
of fun. Our first time doing something like this as well,
so should be good again. Last many tickets hot in
Ada and five dot com slash problem. This has been
easily top five worst starts of a podcast ever.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Just bad.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I even today, like I'll now that I have a
longer hair, I'll plan my day around my hair to
where I'm like, all right, I'm not gonna wake up
and shower this morning because I'm gonna go to the
gym after the show, get a nice and sweaty then
gonna shower after the gym right, So what my hair
look good on TV? So I'm not gonna shower twice
(02:35):
because it'll just look like it's been washed twice, if
that makes sense. So that's the plan is, like, wear
the hat today during the show, go to the gym,
have the hair like a mess, go home, shower quick,
take Skittles out, and then go which, by the way,
it has not been a great week for dog owners,
been like one hundred some degrees, which I found like
(02:57):
a little stat study study. Sure, if it's eighty seven out,
it's like a one hundred and forty on pavement, and it
was one hundred degrees yesterday, so do that math. So
Skittles has been doing Sudoku in various things like that
to keep his energy going the right way. Let me
get to this for your Wednesday. The signs your partner
is giving up on the relationship. I feel like I've
(03:20):
been in relationships where that has happened, even they mean to,
and it does, like I mean, obviously it sucks. It's
almost like that person was waiting for me to pull
the plug, which I did. Yeah, yeah, I mean, so
I get that part of it. Let's get into this.
If the silence is deafenating. They say, gone on the
(03:43):
days where conversation flowed like a river. Now it feels
more like you're trying to squeeze water from a stone.
If your partner has become a noncommunicative it might just
be a phase of introspection. I think that's fair if
you if it feels like you're pulling teeth like with
your person, it should feel pretty easy to have a
conversation this kind of flows. I think it's more still
(04:06):
like that comfortability right where you can just kind of
be there enjoy each other. But if it stops, yeah,
just sign something's off for sure.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
If the intimacy is waning, Yes, they say.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Physical touch is one of the most purest forms of connection,
and its absence can speak volumes. If your partners recalling
from intimacy or showing a mark of disinterest and maybe
trying to reasset, and they're not even saying like hookups,
this is legit, just like cuddling or hugs, because I
get at that point again, if you're not doing that
with the person, what are you doing? Like If that's
(04:42):
the case, what do we do with I remember how
I talk with the next ones? Whereas there's like there's
no physical touch and being. I said to her, like,
we're basically just friends in like I don't like you.
That part was added, but we sure though it's like, hey,
we're just kind of like friends, you know, if the
(05:03):
future is non topic. I do think this is one
of the biggest signs, of course. And again it's not
just like getting married. It's like, hey, next weekend, I
mean fourth of July is next week. If they wouldn't
give you plans or confirm anything, yeah, probably a sign
if their criticism becomes personal, they'll it's tay constructive criticism
(05:26):
essential for growth. When it turns personal to know the story.
Suddenly you're not just wrong about the little things, you're
fundamentally flawed. Yeah, I think. No, Luckily I don't do
anything wrong ever, so that's kind of like that. But
I do think, yeah, once attacks become personal, where it's
(05:46):
it's like you always do this, where it's like when
you fight, when something's not personal, it's like, Okay, you're
mad the mistake. If you're making it personal, it's like
it's them. They're the ones that always mess up. Little
things go unnoticed. I do think for dudes, at least
this is a big thing. It's a big thing. I'm
(06:08):
sure it's the same for women too. Just talking to
my guy friends though, they say, remember when they notice
every small detail from a new haircut, favorite coffee order.
Now it's like you're invisible all those little gestures I
met with indifferent shrugs. I think that's sure because I
know dudes that will do things for their girl and
then she doesn't notice and nothing changes, usually in the
intimacy department, and it does kind of get to the
(06:31):
point where it's like, why am I even trying? Maybe
it's not the big, grandiose change that you want right away,
but if we don't acknowledge progress, why is somebody gonna try?
I think that's a huge thing, especially because too is
like everybody has other stuff going on right like work
and family stuff. So if you feel like you're not appreciated,
(06:53):
eventually you're gonna stop trying. And at that point it's
probably over. If the apologies dry up. They say, once
apologies wre h came easily, they were genuine. Now they're
as rare as the blue moon. Mistakes are gloss over
with silence, are worse. Defensiveness. It's not about being right anymore.
(07:13):
It's about power and pride. I've told this story, but
I had a relationship where the girl was she was
wrong about something like it wasn't even close black and white, wrong,
and she couldn't say sorry. And I didn't even like
want a grand apology. I was like, Hey, all he
gotta do is say sorry and it's over and we're good,
(07:35):
we move on.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
It's fine. And she couldn't do it.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Now it's a big time for me, like damn, okay,
because I think she's probably thought that I would throw
it in her face, which now, in hindsight, it's like, okay,
did you think that because that's what you did? You
thought you had taste your on medicine or what if
the social media post stop?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
This is tough.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
They say, You're online life once reflected your off one
love story, but now it's on a different tale. The
social media ones featured a couple shots, but they've slowly
faded in the archives. Yeah, the digital distance canna be
subtle yet telling Now, I do think that it's not
as if you have to post online to being a
happy relationship. However, to this point, if it is like
(08:24):
the percentage of posts all of a sudden drop of
being your person. I think most people realize that where
it's like ooh, are they even together still? Or if
one person starts posting like more thirst traps, it is like, Okay,
are they getting themselves ready to be back out there?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Are they testing the waters? You know?
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Are they just kind of seeing like what kind of
attension can I get for this? To me, I've always
used social media and I've gotten heat for in the
past because all post girlfriends not really early but fairly early.
But to me, it's the easiest way to like subtly
tell people like, hey, I'm in a relationship, especially given
being like a public figure so to speak.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
So people don't hear it on the show.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
It's like this is like the relationship status on Instagram
or on Facebook, rather where it's like here here it
is boom, good to go. I do think that's a
huge thing when you don't want to post your person.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
To me, it's like maybe if you don't even realize it,
but subconsciously it's like you are preparing for whatever's next.
Hope you follow me at intern John Radio. Hope you
also have a fantastic Wednesday. I'll see a Friday STOPT
Shower
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