August 11, 2024 • 31 mins
Are you ready for the summer 2024 trends? Would you choose eating over personal hygiene? Would pay to attend a friends wedding? Patty and the crew discuss.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
The podcast conversation Patty and the Millennials because conversation is important.
What are you talking to? Gen Z, gen X, millennials,
baby boomers like myself. I'm Patty Jackson. I'm a radio
event out in Philadelphia. First up at BET We've got
bed term broadcast our uncle. Oh and oh, I just
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have to say, are you ready? I'm ready.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
I feel like this has got something to do with
trends and I'm ready.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Okay, one of the latest trends that's going out. You know,
when you get married, it can cost a lot of money.
A lot of people spend a lot of unnecessary money
on something that is a day. Well the new trend
and oh people are asking their guests they want to
charge them to attend the wedding. I ain't doing it.
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I'm gonna tell you right now, I ain't doing it.
This is the baby boomer're talking. I refuse. I wish
someone would say you're gonna charge me to come to
your wedding. Take me off the list, because now you're
not getting a gift, and I'm not spending money to
come to your wedding. I do not have time for
a twelve hour event. This is what the woman on
TV said this morning. Well, I'm give me your twelve
(01:33):
hour day. I don't want to give you a twelve
hour day. You're not taking twelve hours out of my life.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
You ain't never lied. I don't want twelve hours out
of my life. Twelve hours And well here's another question though.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Isn't it a charge. Don't you invite the people.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
You know you're gonna get the good gifts from. Yeah,
and you got like I know, I'm gonna get one
hundred and fifty two hundred and fifty to threehundred dollars
from you.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
So that's the charge right there, right it is. But
people are I call it double dipping. The woman was
charging three hundred and thirty three dollars for you to
come to her wedding, and yeah, they were still expecting again.
Oh no, no, that's where you got three things.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Now, I don't know if you allowed me to curse.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, you can beat this if you like.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
But the three things is they got me fucked up
because I'm not buying a gift and giving you three
hundred dollars. If I give you three hundred dollars, you know
you're not getting a gift.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Another thing, a lot of people are having brunch weddings,
and I can see this, you know, because an evening wedding,
you know, can be costly. You know, I believe I
like the idea of little snacks or durs and dessert
you can get filled off of that. We're not going
to be paying for a plate and you waste the food.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Yeah, I say, don't get married, Okay, go to the
justice of the peace and then to have a reception
at the end, so that you're not charging people for
this this extravagant thing that you are paying for and
you want the money back. This is an investment, I don't.
I mean, this is an investment into your future. Don't
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expect me to come give you back the money you spent.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
You know. Inflation is a big thing and one new trend.
People are four going items like they're not buying soaps
and the odorans because they need to save money so
they can eat. So it appears like people are saying
I'm gonna smell a little funky, but I'm gonna be
able to eat. It's strange. I know you're like, what, No, No,
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You're gonna turn off theodor so your belly.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Can be fool.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Oh yeah, I mean you can eat salad anywhere? Come on,
you could?
Speaker 5 (03:58):
You can?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
You can plant your own own food.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Come on now, like what you can?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
You don't forego the You don't give people your stitch
so that you can fill your belly.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
You know, people are cutting the cord on cable right,
people are now, And I know this happens when you
get older. You cut the cord on high maintenance friendships.
I always talk about friendships because as we go through life,
you see who's staying. Who got to go? Oh you
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really got to go? Oh you too negative? Oh no,
you about getting on my nerves. And I'm getting older
and I'm just not thinking like that. Are you surprised
that people are cutting the cord on high maintenance friendships?
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I'm trying to figure out why they were waiting so
long in the first place. That should be done in
your thirties, you know them high maintenance of friendships where
they expect you to be with them all the time,
or they expect you to spend money with them, or
you can't go on a trip.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
They're mad.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
You should have cut those friends off a long time ago.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Because people's finances are different, and you and you do
you have different priorities. You as you get older, your
priorities shift and you can't I can't be going to
the club every weekend because I gotta do family stuff
or I gotta take care of family members. Our lives
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change as we get older.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Listen, I can't go to on this trip every year
because I'm trying to save money. And then you know,
once you get a boyfriend or something in them trips
that you you ain't gonna be able to take two trips.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
You take one with.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Your boyfriend or one with your girlfriend, or one with
your your wife, or one with your husband, you ain't
gonna be able to take two of them.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Trips a year. We're talking trends. I love trends. This
is the podcast conversation Patty and the Millennials and author
Kim read Optimis Always Wins is joining us. Are you
ready because we're going to start off with weddings a lot,
all right? You know weddings can be expensive. They can
(06:19):
be It all depends on the people. It can be expensive,
and some people are saving money by charging people to
come to their wedding. I saw a story today. The
woman was charging her guests three hundred and thirty three
dollars to attend her wedding. So what do you get
(06:43):
a twelve hour day? I was saying, no, no, and no,
I'm so old school. I'm not paying to come to
somebody's wedding. I already come to the door with a
great gift. I don't have twelve hours to give to anybody.
I don't need you to do it to an hour
day for me because I'm not doing that either. What
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do you think about that trend? I mean, you're invited,
but you gotta pay.
Speaker 6 (07:11):
M Well, let me say this. People have to live
within their means.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
We all have been there, all of us, including me,
who I have lived way outside of my means. But
for a wedding, and for a wedding, I will say
this is that I'm not paying an order to go
to someone's wedding.
Speaker 6 (07:37):
What I will do is, if I am invited, I'm
going to get a great gift because I think that's etiquette.
And you love the couple that you're going to the wedding,
and you want to do something very nice for them.
And I do know, Patty, that you know dinners. If
you're going to an evening winter evening wedding, the dinner
is very Sometimes dinners are expensive, depending what venue. So
(07:58):
I'm going to get a really nice gift for that person.
And I do that just normally. But when someone charges
that this example you gave, when someone charges three hundred
and some dollars per person, first of all, they should
be shamed themselves. And two, you're paying for your dinner
or lunch or whatever it is, and you're paying for
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a part of their decorations. So you know, I don't know, Patty.
I just think people need to people going paying for parties.
I don't like saying I'm not going to charge people
for a birthday party. I'm old school, too, Patty. There's
just certain things you want people just to come and
enjoy themselves and have a great time. And now we're
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trying to impress other people or compete with social media
or pretend to be something we're not and then charging
and then doing something that we can't afford and then
having our guests be the brunt of that. That's just
insane to me. So no, I'm not going. I'm gonna
be with you.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I'm not going.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Okay. Another thing that's strending people as they cut the
court and cable, they're also learning how to cut the
cord with high maintenance friendships. It's a trend. People are
doing it. I think people are waking up as we
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grow and we grow older, we don't always need to
be doing the same thing or that person. Our lives
are different. You could be raising kids, taking care of
your parents. You know, your job could have you very busy.
You don't have time for the high maintenance friendships are
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people that just want so much from you, and you're like,
I can't do this.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
I'm in this season right now. I will be fifty
two in September, and every year on September fifth, actually,
but every year, Cake, but every year I do this thing.
I think about drama. I think about the toxicity of
(10:12):
relationships that I may allow, the expiration dates of relationships
that have expired, and I'm trying to hold on to
them for image or for whatever crazy reasons. You know,
sometimes when we grow oftentimes when we grow, it means
leaving relationships behind. And I think that at the end
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of the day, your success and your happiness come from
two places, come from one place, and that comes from within.
And you have to do whatever that takes for you
to be the best version of you and who you're becoming.
And if moving around friendships or expiring them, if that
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is going to be best for you, then that's what
you need to do. I think that people, I think
we again, we our choices.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
Create our lives right.
Speaker 6 (11:08):
At the end of the day, and you owe no
one an apology for your evolution and your growth. So
if you have to do as I mentioned what benefits
some people too, Patty want the version of you that
benefits them the most. So you can't let anything hold
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you captive to your own growth. That's I'll answer that.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Whitney Roberts is here. She's a senior editor of Philly Download.
Give us a brief synopsis of what the Philly Download is.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
So the Philly Download is like our little corner of
the Internet.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
It's very heavy on Philadelphia, Pennsylvania in general, but Philadelphia
very specifically. We talk about politics, are cold, your history, heritage,
and it's geared towards Gen Z and millennials.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
Anyone who wants to read it absolutely can, but.
Speaker 7 (12:09):
It's geared towards those particular those particular demographics.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
And it's heavy. When I say heavy, it is heavy.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
On the black.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Anyone who wants to read it absolutely can. But you know,
it's there's a specific group we're talking to.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Okay, today we're talking about trends. Whitney, you know I
love trends.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
I'm so nervous.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
There's a new trend where people are four going items
to save money to eat. What items are they letting
go so detergent? Wait things?
Speaker 4 (12:48):
Wait, I've just backed this up, so so we explain
it to me one more time.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Okay. People want to be able to eat, so I
guess they look at what they can buy what they can't.
So they're not buying toothspace or mouthwish or soap or
theodoran or laundry cleaning stuff, laundry products that's in trent
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with some not all.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Yeah, this is just like so they can go out
to eat or just eat.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
In general, eat in general.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
It's sad.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
It is wow, because we're gonna get that bar soap.
Speaker 7 (13:31):
I'm sorry, listen, listen, okay, Like we will eat some beans, yeah,
you can, products and stuff like that.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
We will find a way, but we're gonna be clean.
Speaker 8 (13:42):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (13:43):
Oh my goodness, what what a state.
Speaker 7 (13:47):
People are choosing between their health and well wellness and
their health and wellness.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
Like it shouldn't be a.
Speaker 6 (13:53):
Choice between getting clean and eating.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
You should be able to do both there.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Yes, okay. Weddings, as we know, can be expensive, and
it kind of like depends on the person because a
wedding in a marriage is two different things. Can I
just say that a wedding and two different things. Say it, people,
and a wedding can be very expensive, but it's all
up to you. I saw a story this morning about
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a woman. She and her fiance were charging people to
come to their wedding, charging them three hundred and thirty
three dollars, and they're promising you a twelve hour day.
I ain't never doing that and I'm not giving nobody
twelve hours of my day. And I said, then keep
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this little trend, cause you done missed out on a gift.
And I gift a good gift.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
You do get good gifts.
Speaker 8 (14:54):
You get extent gifts.
Speaker 6 (14:56):
A million.
Speaker 7 (14:58):
Charging someone to come your wedding unheard of, absolutely unheard of.
Now again, I love how you started where you said,
this depends upon the person. I'm gonna be really really honest.
I was my our wedding was very, very low key.
But I'm like a backyard wedding type of girl, so
I wasn't gonna have like a really expensive wedding anyway.
(15:19):
But the idea of charging your guests to attend your
special day, like, like, I don't understand the ration now
behind it.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
They don't want to spend the money.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Well, I mean, yes, they don't want to spend the money,
but also like, these are your guests for your special day.
Speaker 7 (15:37):
If you can't afford whatever you want for your special day,
it's time to scale down. And then in ten years,
after you saved some money, after you've had this beautiful
marriage for a decade, revisit it, get remarried, do a
renewal ceremony, something else. People need to learn how to
live within their means. It's so interesting that we went
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from people having to choose between being clean and eating
to this conversation of I'm charging you for the wedding
because I want this big elaborate expensive wedding. Absolutely not
like there has to be a middle ground that Coco.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Doua mom Lexi is here. Hi, honey, Hi, I love
how you knock it out the box. We're doing one
of my favorites, which is trending topics. Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (16:27):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Say oh, say oh trending topics. Weddings can be expensive.
A lot of people get confused between a wedding and
a marriage. How much you spend. It's on you because
the cost doesn't have to be out of control. There's
(16:48):
a new trend Lexi where people, if you go to
their wedding, you gotta pay to go to their wedding.
Now they're promising you a twelve hours day. It's gonna
cost you three hundred and then thirty three dollars. To me,
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it sounds crazy and it's a baby boomer. I ain't
doing it, and I don't have twelve hours for no
one out of my day exactly.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
That is madness.
Speaker 9 (17:23):
I don't even want to be with you for twelve hours,
and I definitely am not trying to pay to be
a part of your celebration for twelve hours.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
Yeah, because that's if you if you bring somebody. Everybody
got to pay three hundred. Look, I ain't doing it.
Speaker 9 (17:38):
Take me, and I feel like you can have a
different experience, right, Like it's and I'm not trying to
be funny, right, but if economically it does not fit
within your budget to invite people to celebrate you, because
that's what it is to give up our time.
Speaker 4 (17:52):
And yes, expect a gift. Should we should definitely be
giving gifts.
Speaker 9 (17:55):
But if you don't have the budget to accommodate it,
do something small, do something intimate, but don't make me
a part of your revenue stream for this expense.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Okay. Another trend people are not buying items to be
clean to save money so they can eat. Like it's like, okay,
go to the market. Should I get deodorant? Should I
get meat? We're gonna get meat. Let's forgo the deodorant.
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Like the basics, the mouth washed, the tooth face, the
things you need.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
Mm yeah yeah, those are necessity.
Speaker 9 (18:39):
I feel like, if you gotta choose between deodorant and meat,
what kind of meat are you buying?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Because ground turkey you can get that little round thing.
Speaker 9 (18:45):
For like two dollars and ninety eight cents, And I
know the cost of living has gone up, but you
can go to the dollar tree and get like dub
deodorant for a dollar, maybe a dollar twenty five. Because
you know they're going up on stuff, so no, we
need to fit it all in.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
I love trends. We got Dexter. You know I love trends, right, Dexter.
There is a trend where people are opting to not
keep up with their hygiene and so they can eat food,
no soap, no water, no mouth wash. They're not buying
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these items because they look at it as I need
to save this money because I need to eat.
Speaker 6 (19:30):
Well. If I had the treat between soap and nachos,
de trees and nachos haven't come, so I think I
might be into this trend.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Oh my gosh, you mean smelling funky bad breath.
Speaker 6 (19:45):
Well, I'm gonna eat good though. So if I had
the trees between eating and body order, a body older
is gonna win. It's like I'm going to eat.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Oh my gosh. There's another trend.
Speaker 8 (19:56):
You know.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Weddings can be expensive. It depends on the person. The
new trend is people want to charge you for attending
their wedding. I saw a story this morning with a couple.
We're charging three hundred and thirty three dollars a piece
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so you could go to their wedding and they're gonna
give you this spectacular twelve hour day. First off, yeah,
I'm not doing it, and I'm not giving anybody twelve
hours of my day.
Speaker 6 (20:35):
Twelve hours. I think it's a long time. However, I
did have a destination why, and people pay to come
to it, So I'm in for this trip. I'm good
with that one.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
So you would pay.
Speaker 8 (20:49):
I wouldn't necessarily pay, but I'm okay with charging people
to come to your wedding.
Speaker 6 (20:53):
Like, if you're a destination for.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
It, well that's different. I'm talking people to get married
at home. No, they're charging you. You're gonna get an
invitation deck, You're gonna get an invitation, right, You're gonna
get an invitation. But but you gotta pay to go.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
You want me to pay you money to party in
the city that I live?
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yeah, Cray, I love trends, and the and and and
this crew. They know that I love trends because I
really hit them with something and they're like, what, let's
talk weddings. Let's stalk weddings. Weddings can be expensive, right.
We all know that weddings can be expensive, but it
(21:46):
depends on the people because you've got to know how
to be within your budget. There's a new trend going
on where people are charging people to come to their wedding.
There was this one couple or so on the news
this morning. They're gonna charge you three hundred and thirty
three dollars per person to come to their wedding, and
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they're promising you a twelve hour, fun filled day. Nick,
I'm a baby boomer. I ain't for none of it,
not paying on nobody's damn wedding. I'm already coming through
it a great gift, but we're not gonna be charging.
And I don't have a I don't have twelve hours
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for anybody.
Speaker 8 (22:31):
You're gonna take that three three three and you gonna
go on about your wedding and your day without my
presence being there because y'all have tried it. I understand
that weddings are very expensive, but let's be clear, this
is a party that you chose to have. Of course,
coming I'm not in savage. I am going to bring
either a great gift or I'm going to bring a
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envelope stuffed or I might get both. But for you
to put a price ticker on there, that tells me
you cannot afford to have this dig, So don't do it.
Head on down to the justice of the piece. I'll
catch you at the barbecue afterward. Hello you my sentiments, baby.
You know we always on the same page.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Shot.
Speaker 10 (23:11):
So first of all, I blame Instagram, I blame social media.
I blame I ain't even gonna say us because we
ain't on.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
That type time. No, it was a black couple I saw, yeah, right,
and keep up with the joneses. That's when you get
this humongous budget.
Speaker 4 (23:29):
If you wasn't living beyond your means, you wouldn't need
to do it. And that's a telltale sign that the.
Speaker 10 (23:34):
Marriage may have problems early because you're already in financial
ruins because your mind's ain't right, so you're gonna be
over spending from the gates. So one of y'all don't
have fiscal uh spending of you know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (23:44):
Clarity, So y'all need to.
Speaker 8 (23:46):
Rethink this thing.
Speaker 4 (23:47):
I wish I would see y'all always.
Speaker 8 (23:49):
Y'all want me to cut y'all like me to cut.
That's what it is. What word charge me to cover
with your wedding?
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Maybe y'all fin to break up?
Speaker 10 (23:57):
Anyway, it should be three dollars at the third three
because that's how long y'all going to last?
Speaker 2 (24:02):
Three days, three weeks or three months.
Speaker 10 (24:04):
I'm out of here.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Okay. Another another trend, Another trend, people foregoing hygiene, buying soap,
deodorant mouth wise made. Also they can eat like they're
literally they're they're making this choice.
Speaker 8 (24:31):
You must not want nobody around you. You must want
to live in a life of solitude because God hath
given us deodorant.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Use it.
Speaker 8 (24:39):
I don't understand it. Don't understand this life. But be great,
just be funky away from me.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
That's it. A DESI wait a minute, So here's the thing.
Speaker 8 (24:52):
This is a This is an.
Speaker 10 (24:54):
Issue of humility, not need, because if you are humble,
you can find an organization that will give you one
of the.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
Two if not books.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
If you need food.
Speaker 10 (25:03):
Bad enough, you can go to an organization get plenty
of food, or a street corner and.
Speaker 8 (25:07):
Load up right.
Speaker 10 (25:08):
And if you need toiletries, you can go to an
organization to get that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
So this is not an issue of need. This is
an issue of humility, and so I feel like.
Speaker 4 (25:17):
This comes down to embarrassment. Like people.
Speaker 10 (25:19):
Honestly, there are some people who would rather sink.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Than to say I'm hungry.
Speaker 10 (25:23):
When if we went back to a village mentality, nobody's
hungry because if one person eat, everybody eat, it's not
it's nobody on this phone that can say I'm hungry
and we don't have no food.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
So then the village we.
Speaker 8 (25:34):
Must have messed up somewhere because the ain't no way that.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
You're gonna be eating.
Speaker 10 (25:37):
And if you come over my house, you damn sure
ain't gonna be stinging. So I don't get it.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I think you just like the cuss daisy. That's what's happens. Christian. Yeah,
you Christian. They keep you honest. Thank you, Thank you, ladies.
I appreciate you guys. Yes, all right, love talking trends
and representing gen Z. I do it right. Yes, I'm
(26:06):
gonna get it right. I'm gonna get it right. We've
got re screen. He's a senior at Saint Ju's University,
and we're talking about trends with weddings. They can be expensive,
but to me, it depends on the person because some
people are really doing it outside of their means. You
should only do what you're gonna afford, because a wedding
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and a marriage are two different things. Don't start off
on the wrong financial foot. You know a lot of
people are like, well, I'm gonna get a lot of money.
Not necessarily because you have certain people who will put
five dollars in a card and go on there very way.
There's lessons to be learned in planning lessons where there's
a new trend. And I saw this woman. It was
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a black couple, and they are charging people to attend
their wedding, whether it's family members, whether it's friends. They're
gonna charge you three hundred and thirty three dollars for
you to go to their wedding, and they're promising you
this great twelve hour day. I'm a baby boomer. We're
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not doing either. I'm not giving nobody twelve hours of
my day. And I'm not going to pay to go
to someone's wedding like as a concert and still be
expected to bring a gift. I know I've said a lot.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
I'm not cheap.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
I give good gifts. I do. Auntie gives good gifts.
Your thoughts.
Speaker 11 (27:37):
I think that's just is so funny because why how
do you go into that and send those invitations? Because
my thing is, you know themselves, if they was offered that,
they wouldn't take that themselves, Like that's just it, but
it probably there. What really happened was their budget was
probably way too high and they was like, uh oh,
we're gonna have to just charge people just straight money
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to do all this.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
It is tacky.
Speaker 11 (28:01):
It's really tacky, and I think they should cancel that
because no one's gonna show up, and if they do,
that's crazy. I'm sorry because me I would have looked
at that and left, blocked them on social media, block
them on everything, and went on with my day.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
High maintenance friendships, this is another trend. People are actually
cutting them if they are too high maintenance. As you
get older, Reece, your life is going to change. Career, children, marriage,
you can't do the same things you may have done
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at twenty. Yeah, you know, because you've got responsibility in
your life. And some friends want to insist that you
just keep up with them, but your different levels just life.
Life be life, and sometimes exactly and as people cut
the cord on cable they're cutting the cord on high
maintenance friendships.
Speaker 11 (28:58):
I think that's it's kind of different. I believe that
if they're your true friends, then it doesn't hurt to
give a call because life does happen things, that's how
life is. But at the same time, those relationships are
to evolve and mature. Just because we've been friends since
we've been ten years old and I'm forty fifty years old,
now you should know everything about me. So if I
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call you just once in a blue moon, that should
be fine. I don't need to call you every single day,
every single week. We've known each other for fifty years,
you know what I'm saying. So, like, I don't think
cutting it off. No, the high meaning is because you
want somebody to look out for you. You want somebody to call.
You want that exact same effort that you're giving to them. Now,
if they're not giving you that back, then all by
all means cut it off.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Simple as that. Another trend people are for going hygiene,
oh man, in order to have money for school, I
mean for food. I'm talking about your basics. So do
you rent mouthwi wash, toothpaste? They would just rather smell
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so they could have money to eat. Wait, because I
was trends all the time, Reese, That's what I did.
That's crazy that and you know what's money.
Speaker 11 (30:20):
They're only doing that just so they can get paid
for people to watch them do that. That's that's where
that's coming in. It's it's it's sad social media. That's
definitely taken some turns.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
It is. I'm not walking around stinking.
Speaker 11 (30:33):
Yeah, And you know, I've seen that some celebrities they
talk about that how they will only shower like once
or twice a week. And I'm like, oh, yeah, I do.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
I don't. I don't.
Speaker 6 (30:42):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
I can understand you're not gonna buy that real expensive
Creed clone or something like that. The basics, the basics
and what we need, you need them was can't be funky.
Speaker 11 (30:58):
So we went from people eating the time to now
just never using them at all.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Exactly. Reese, thank you so much. He represents gen Z
and a senior at Saint Jose University. Thank you. Your
conversation is important. I love having conversation, whether it's silly,
whether it's serious, but conversation is a must. It makes
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
The podcast conversation Patty and the Millennials because conversation is important.
What are you talking to? Gen Z, gen X, millennials,
baby boomers like myself. I'm Patty Jackson. I'm a radio
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bed term broadcast our uncle. Oh and oh, I just
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have to say, are you ready? I'm ready.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
I feel like this has got something to do with
trends and I'm ready.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Okay, one of the latest trends that's going out. You know,
when you get married, it can cost a lot of money.
A lot of people spend a lot of unnecessary money
on something that is a day. Well the new trend
and oh people are asking their guests they want to
charge them to attend the wedding. I ain't doing it.
(01:12):
I'm gonna tell you right now, I ain't doing it.
This is the baby boomer're talking. I refuse. I wish
someone would say you're gonna charge me to come to
your wedding. Take me off the list, because now you're
not getting a gift, and I'm not spending money to
come to your wedding. I do not have time for
a twelve hour event. This is what the woman on
TV said this morning. Well, I'm give me your twelve
(01:33):
hour day. I don't want to give you a twelve
hour day. You're not taking twelve hours out of my life.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
You ain't never lied. I don't want twelve hours out
of my life. Twelve hours And well here's another question though.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Isn't it a charge. Don't you invite the people.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
You know you're gonna get the good gifts from. Yeah,
and you got like I know, I'm gonna get one
hundred and fifty two hundred and fifty to threehundred dollars
from you.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
So that's the charge right there, right it is. But
people are I call it double dipping. The woman was
charging three hundred and thirty three dollars for you to
come to her wedding, and yeah, they were still expecting again.
Oh no, no, that's where you got three things.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Now, I don't know if you allowed me to curse.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, you can beat this if you like.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
But the three things is they got me fucked up
because I'm not buying a gift and giving you three
hundred dollars. If I give you three hundred dollars, you know
you're not getting a gift.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Another thing, a lot of people are having brunch weddings,
and I can see this, you know, because an evening wedding,
you know, can be costly. You know, I believe I
like the idea of little snacks or durs and dessert
you can get filled off of that. We're not going
to be paying for a plate and you waste the food.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Yeah, I say, don't get married, Okay, go to the
justice of the peace and then to have a reception
at the end, so that you're not charging people for
this this extravagant thing that you are paying for and
you want the money back. This is an investment, I don't.
I mean, this is an investment into your future. Don't
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expect me to come give you back the money you spent.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
You know. Inflation is a big thing and one new trend.
People are four going items like they're not buying soaps
and the odorans because they need to save money so
they can eat. So it appears like people are saying
I'm gonna smell a little funky, but I'm gonna be
able to eat. It's strange. I know you're like, what, No, No,
(03:50):
You're gonna turn off theodor so your belly.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Can be fool.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Oh yeah, I mean you can eat salad anywhere? Come on,
you could?
Speaker 5 (03:58):
You can?
Speaker 2 (03:59):
You can plant your own own food.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Come on now, like what you can?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
You don't forego the You don't give people your stitch
so that you can fill your belly.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
You know, people are cutting the cord on cable right,
people are now, And I know this happens when you
get older. You cut the cord on high maintenance friendships.
I always talk about friendships because as we go through life,
you see who's staying. Who got to go? Oh you
(04:35):
really got to go? Oh you too negative? Oh no,
you about getting on my nerves. And I'm getting older
and I'm just not thinking like that. Are you surprised
that people are cutting the cord on high maintenance friendships?
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I'm trying to figure out why they were waiting so
long in the first place. That should be done in
your thirties, you know them high maintenance of friendships where
they expect you to be with them all the time,
or they expect you to spend money with them, or
you can't go on a trip.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
They're mad.
Speaker 3 (05:08):
You should have cut those friends off a long time ago.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Because people's finances are different, and you and you do
you have different priorities. You as you get older, your
priorities shift and you can't I can't be going to
the club every weekend because I gotta do family stuff
or I gotta take care of family members. Our lives
(05:34):
change as we get older.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Listen, I can't go to on this trip every year
because I'm trying to save money. And then you know,
once you get a boyfriend or something in them trips
that you you ain't gonna be able to take two trips.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
You take one with.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Your boyfriend or one with your girlfriend, or one with
your your wife, or one with your husband, you ain't
gonna be able to take two of them.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Trips a year. We're talking trends. I love trends. This
is the podcast conversation Patty and the Millennials and author
Kim read Optimis Always Wins is joining us. Are you
ready because we're going to start off with weddings a lot,
all right? You know weddings can be expensive. They can
(06:19):
be It all depends on the people. It can be expensive,
and some people are saving money by charging people to
come to their wedding. I saw a story today. The
woman was charging her guests three hundred and thirty three
dollars to attend her wedding. So what do you get
(06:43):
a twelve hour day? I was saying, no, no, and no,
I'm so old school. I'm not paying to come to
somebody's wedding. I already come to the door with a
great gift. I don't have twelve hours to give to anybody.
I don't need you to do it to an hour
day for me because I'm not doing that either. What
(07:04):
do you think about that trend? I mean, you're invited,
but you gotta pay.
Speaker 6 (07:11):
M Well, let me say this. People have to live
within their means.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
We all have been there, all of us, including me,
who I have lived way outside of my means. But
for a wedding, and for a wedding, I will say
this is that I'm not paying an order to go
to someone's wedding.
Speaker 6 (07:37):
What I will do is, if I am invited, I'm
going to get a great gift because I think that's etiquette.
And you love the couple that you're going to the wedding,
and you want to do something very nice for them.
And I do know, Patty, that you know dinners. If
you're going to an evening winter evening wedding, the dinner
is very Sometimes dinners are expensive, depending what venue. So
(07:58):
I'm going to get a really nice gift for that person.
And I do that just normally. But when someone charges
that this example you gave, when someone charges three hundred
and some dollars per person, first of all, they should
be shamed themselves. And two, you're paying for your dinner
or lunch or whatever it is, and you're paying for
(08:21):
a part of their decorations. So you know, I don't know, Patty.
I just think people need to people going paying for parties.
I don't like saying I'm not going to charge people
for a birthday party. I'm old school, too, Patty. There's
just certain things you want people just to come and
enjoy themselves and have a great time. And now we're
(08:41):
trying to impress other people or compete with social media
or pretend to be something we're not and then charging
and then doing something that we can't afford and then
having our guests be the brunt of that. That's just
insane to me. So no, I'm not going. I'm gonna
be with you.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I'm not going.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Okay. Another thing that's strending people as they cut the
court and cable, they're also learning how to cut the
cord with high maintenance friendships. It's a trend. People are
doing it. I think people are waking up as we
(09:19):
grow and we grow older, we don't always need to
be doing the same thing or that person. Our lives
are different. You could be raising kids, taking care of
your parents. You know, your job could have you very busy.
You don't have time for the high maintenance friendships are
(09:39):
people that just want so much from you, and you're like,
I can't do this.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
I'm in this season right now. I will be fifty
two in September, and every year on September fifth, actually,
but every year, Cake, but every year I do this thing.
I think about drama. I think about the toxicity of
(10:12):
relationships that I may allow, the expiration dates of relationships
that have expired, and I'm trying to hold on to
them for image or for whatever crazy reasons. You know,
sometimes when we grow oftentimes when we grow, it means
leaving relationships behind. And I think that at the end
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of the day, your success and your happiness come from
two places, come from one place, and that comes from within.
And you have to do whatever that takes for you
to be the best version of you and who you're becoming.
And if moving around friendships or expiring them, if that
(10:58):
is going to be best for you, then that's what
you need to do. I think that people, I think
we again, we our choices.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
Create our lives right.
Speaker 6 (11:08):
At the end of the day, and you owe no
one an apology for your evolution and your growth. So
if you have to do as I mentioned what benefits
some people too, Patty want the version of you that
benefits them the most. So you can't let anything hold
(11:31):
you captive to your own growth. That's I'll answer that.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Whitney Roberts is here. She's a senior editor of Philly Download.
Give us a brief synopsis of what the Philly Download is.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
So the Philly Download is like our little corner of
the Internet.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
It's very heavy on Philadelphia, Pennsylvania in general, but Philadelphia
very specifically. We talk about politics, are cold, your history, heritage,
and it's geared towards Gen Z and millennials.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
Anyone who wants to read it absolutely can, but.
Speaker 7 (12:09):
It's geared towards those particular those particular demographics.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
And it's heavy. When I say heavy, it is heavy.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
On the black.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Anyone who wants to read it absolutely can. But you know,
it's there's a specific group we're talking to.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Okay, today we're talking about trends. Whitney, you know I
love trends.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
I'm so nervous.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
There's a new trend where people are four going items
to save money to eat. What items are they letting
go so detergent? Wait things?
Speaker 4 (12:48):
Wait, I've just backed this up, so so we explain
it to me one more time.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Okay. People want to be able to eat, so I
guess they look at what they can buy what they can't.
So they're not buying toothspace or mouthwish or soap or
theodoran or laundry cleaning stuff, laundry products that's in trent
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with some not all.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Yeah, this is just like so they can go out
to eat or just eat.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
In general, eat in general.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
It's sad.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
It is wow, because we're gonna get that bar soap.
Speaker 7 (13:31):
I'm sorry, listen, listen, okay, Like we will eat some beans, yeah,
you can, products and stuff like that.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
We will find a way, but we're gonna be clean.
Speaker 8 (13:42):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (13:43):
Oh my goodness, what what a state.
Speaker 7 (13:47):
People are choosing between their health and well wellness and
their health and wellness.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
Like it shouldn't be a.
Speaker 6 (13:53):
Choice between getting clean and eating.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
You should be able to do both there.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Yes, okay. Weddings, as we know, can be expensive, and
it kind of like depends on the person because a
wedding in a marriage is two different things. Can I
just say that a wedding and two different things. Say it, people,
and a wedding can be very expensive, but it's all
up to you. I saw a story this morning about
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a woman. She and her fiance were charging people to
come to their wedding, charging them three hundred and thirty
three dollars, and they're promising you a twelve hour day.
I ain't never doing that and I'm not giving nobody
twelve hours of my day. And I said, then keep
(14:44):
this little trend, cause you done missed out on a gift.
And I gift a good gift.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
You do get good gifts.
Speaker 8 (14:54):
You get extent gifts.
Speaker 6 (14:56):
A million.
Speaker 7 (14:58):
Charging someone to come your wedding unheard of, absolutely unheard of.
Now again, I love how you started where you said,
this depends upon the person. I'm gonna be really really honest.
I was my our wedding was very, very low key.
But I'm like a backyard wedding type of girl, so
I wasn't gonna have like a really expensive wedding anyway.
(15:19):
But the idea of charging your guests to attend your
special day, like, like, I don't understand the ration now
behind it.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
They don't want to spend the money.
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Well, I mean, yes, they don't want to spend the money,
but also like, these are your guests for your special day.
Speaker 7 (15:37):
If you can't afford whatever you want for your special day,
it's time to scale down. And then in ten years,
after you saved some money, after you've had this beautiful
marriage for a decade, revisit it, get remarried, do a
renewal ceremony, something else. People need to learn how to
live within their means. It's so interesting that we went
(15:57):
from people having to choose between being clean and eating
to this conversation of I'm charging you for the wedding
because I want this big elaborate expensive wedding. Absolutely not
like there has to be a middle ground that Coco.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
Doua mom Lexi is here. Hi, honey, Hi, I love
how you knock it out the box. We're doing one
of my favorites, which is trending topics. Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (16:27):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Say oh, say oh trending topics. Weddings can be expensive.
A lot of people get confused between a wedding and
a marriage. How much you spend. It's on you because
the cost doesn't have to be out of control. There's
(16:48):
a new trend Lexi where people, if you go to
their wedding, you gotta pay to go to their wedding.
Now they're promising you a twelve hours day. It's gonna
cost you three hundred and then thirty three dollars. To me,
(17:09):
it sounds crazy and it's a baby boomer. I ain't
doing it, and I don't have twelve hours for no
one out of my day exactly.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
That is madness.
Speaker 9 (17:23):
I don't even want to be with you for twelve hours,
and I definitely am not trying to pay to be
a part of your celebration for twelve hours.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
Yeah, because that's if you if you bring somebody. Everybody
got to pay three hundred. Look, I ain't doing it.
Speaker 9 (17:38):
Take me, and I feel like you can have a
different experience, right, Like it's and I'm not trying to
be funny, right, but if economically it does not fit
within your budget to invite people to celebrate you, because
that's what it is to give up our time.
Speaker 4 (17:52):
And yes, expect a gift. Should we should definitely be
giving gifts.
Speaker 9 (17:55):
But if you don't have the budget to accommodate it,
do something small, do something intimate, but don't make me
a part of your revenue stream for this expense.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Okay. Another trend people are not buying items to be
clean to save money so they can eat. Like it's like, okay,
go to the market. Should I get deodorant? Should I
get meat? We're gonna get meat. Let's forgo the deodorant.
(18:28):
Like the basics, the mouth washed, the tooth face, the
things you need.
Speaker 4 (18:35):
Mm yeah yeah, those are necessity.
Speaker 9 (18:39):
I feel like, if you gotta choose between deodorant and meat,
what kind of meat are you buying?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Because ground turkey you can get that little round thing.
Speaker 9 (18:45):
For like two dollars and ninety eight cents, And I
know the cost of living has gone up, but you
can go to the dollar tree and get like dub
deodorant for a dollar, maybe a dollar twenty five. Because
you know they're going up on stuff, so no, we
need to fit it all in.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
I love trends. We got Dexter. You know I love trends, right, Dexter.
There is a trend where people are opting to not
keep up with their hygiene and so they can eat food,
no soap, no water, no mouth wash. They're not buying
(19:23):
these items because they look at it as I need
to save this money because I need to eat.
Speaker 6 (19:30):
Well. If I had the treat between soap and nachos,
de trees and nachos haven't come, so I think I
might be into this trend.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Oh my gosh, you mean smelling funky bad breath.
Speaker 6 (19:45):
Well, I'm gonna eat good though. So if I had
the trees between eating and body order, a body older
is gonna win. It's like I'm going to eat.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Oh my gosh. There's another trend.
Speaker 8 (19:56):
You know.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Weddings can be expensive. It depends on the person. The
new trend is people want to charge you for attending
their wedding. I saw a story this morning with a couple.
We're charging three hundred and thirty three dollars a piece
(20:19):
so you could go to their wedding and they're gonna
give you this spectacular twelve hour day. First off, yeah,
I'm not doing it, and I'm not giving anybody twelve
hours of my day.
Speaker 6 (20:35):
Twelve hours. I think it's a long time. However, I
did have a destination why, and people pay to come
to it, So I'm in for this trip. I'm good
with that one.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
So you would pay.
Speaker 8 (20:49):
I wouldn't necessarily pay, but I'm okay with charging people
to come to your wedding.
Speaker 6 (20:53):
Like, if you're a destination for.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
It, well that's different. I'm talking people to get married
at home. No, they're charging you. You're gonna get an
invitation deck, You're gonna get an invitation, right, You're gonna
get an invitation. But but you gotta pay to go.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
You want me to pay you money to party in
the city that I live?
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yeah, Cray, I love trends, and the and and and
this crew. They know that I love trends because I
really hit them with something and they're like, what, let's
talk weddings. Let's stalk weddings. Weddings can be expensive, right.
We all know that weddings can be expensive, but it
(21:46):
depends on the people because you've got to know how
to be within your budget. There's a new trend going
on where people are charging people to come to their wedding.
There was this one couple or so on the news
this morning. They're gonna charge you three hundred and thirty
three dollars per person to come to their wedding, and
(22:07):
they're promising you a twelve hour, fun filled day. Nick,
I'm a baby boomer. I ain't for none of it,
not paying on nobody's damn wedding. I'm already coming through
it a great gift, but we're not gonna be charging.
And I don't have a I don't have twelve hours
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for anybody.
Speaker 8 (22:31):
You're gonna take that three three three and you gonna
go on about your wedding and your day without my
presence being there because y'all have tried it. I understand
that weddings are very expensive, but let's be clear, this
is a party that you chose to have. Of course,
coming I'm not in savage. I am going to bring
either a great gift or I'm going to bring a
(22:52):
envelope stuffed or I might get both. But for you
to put a price ticker on there, that tells me
you cannot afford to have this dig, So don't do it.
Head on down to the justice of the piece. I'll
catch you at the barbecue afterward. Hello you my sentiments, baby.
You know we always on the same page.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Shot.
Speaker 10 (23:11):
So first of all, I blame Instagram, I blame social media.
I blame I ain't even gonna say us because we
ain't on.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
That type time. No, it was a black couple I saw, yeah, right,
and keep up with the joneses. That's when you get
this humongous budget.
Speaker 4 (23:29):
If you wasn't living beyond your means, you wouldn't need
to do it. And that's a telltale sign that the.
Speaker 10 (23:34):
Marriage may have problems early because you're already in financial
ruins because your mind's ain't right, so you're gonna be
over spending from the gates. So one of y'all don't
have fiscal uh spending of you know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (23:44):
Clarity, So y'all need to.
Speaker 8 (23:46):
Rethink this thing.
Speaker 4 (23:47):
I wish I would see y'all always.
Speaker 8 (23:49):
Y'all want me to cut y'all like me to cut.
That's what it is. What word charge me to cover
with your wedding?
Speaker 4 (23:56):
Maybe y'all fin to break up?
Speaker 10 (23:57):
Anyway, it should be three dollars at the third three
because that's how long y'all going to last?
Speaker 2 (24:02):
Three days, three weeks or three months.
Speaker 10 (24:04):
I'm out of here.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Okay. Another another trend, Another trend, people foregoing hygiene, buying soap,
deodorant mouth wise made. Also they can eat like they're
literally they're they're making this choice.
Speaker 8 (24:31):
You must not want nobody around you. You must want
to live in a life of solitude because God hath
given us deodorant.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
Use it.
Speaker 8 (24:39):
I don't understand it. Don't understand this life. But be great,
just be funky away from me.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
That's it. A DESI wait a minute, So here's the thing.
Speaker 8 (24:52):
This is a This is an.
Speaker 10 (24:54):
Issue of humility, not need, because if you are humble,
you can find an organization that will give you one
of the.
Speaker 5 (25:00):
Two if not books.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
If you need food.
Speaker 10 (25:03):
Bad enough, you can go to an organization get plenty
of food, or a street corner and.
Speaker 8 (25:07):
Load up right.
Speaker 10 (25:08):
And if you need toiletries, you can go to an
organization to get that.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
So this is not an issue of need. This is
an issue of humility, and so I feel like.
Speaker 4 (25:17):
This comes down to embarrassment. Like people.
Speaker 10 (25:19):
Honestly, there are some people who would rather sink.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Than to say I'm hungry.
Speaker 10 (25:23):
When if we went back to a village mentality, nobody's
hungry because if one person eat, everybody eat, it's not
it's nobody on this phone that can say I'm hungry
and we don't have no food.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
So then the village we.
Speaker 8 (25:34):
Must have messed up somewhere because the ain't no way that.
Speaker 2 (25:37):
You're gonna be eating.
Speaker 10 (25:37):
And if you come over my house, you damn sure
ain't gonna be stinging. So I don't get it.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
I think you just like the cuss daisy. That's what's happens. Christian. Yeah,
you Christian. They keep you honest. Thank you, Thank you, ladies.
I appreciate you guys. Yes, all right, love talking trends
and representing gen Z. I do it right. Yes, I'm
(26:06):
gonna get it right. I'm gonna get it right. We've
got re screen. He's a senior at Saint Ju's University,
and we're talking about trends with weddings. They can be expensive,
but to me, it depends on the person because some
people are really doing it outside of their means. You
should only do what you're gonna afford, because a wedding
(26:28):
and a marriage are two different things. Don't start off
on the wrong financial foot. You know a lot of
people are like, well, I'm gonna get a lot of money.
Not necessarily because you have certain people who will put
five dollars in a card and go on there very way.
There's lessons to be learned in planning lessons where there's
a new trend. And I saw this woman. It was
(26:51):
a black couple, and they are charging people to attend
their wedding, whether it's family members, whether it's friends. They're
gonna charge you three hundred and thirty three dollars for
you to go to their wedding, and they're promising you
this great twelve hour day. I'm a baby boomer. We're
(27:15):
not doing either. I'm not giving nobody twelve hours of
my day. And I'm not going to pay to go
to someone's wedding like as a concert and still be
expected to bring a gift. I know I've said a lot.
Speaker 5 (27:31):
I'm not cheap.
Speaker 2 (27:32):
I give good gifts. I do. Auntie gives good gifts.
Your thoughts.
Speaker 11 (27:37):
I think that's just is so funny because why how
do you go into that and send those invitations? Because
my thing is, you know themselves, if they was offered that,
they wouldn't take that themselves, Like that's just it, but
it probably there. What really happened was their budget was
probably way too high and they was like, uh oh,
we're gonna have to just charge people just straight money
(27:59):
to do all this.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
It is tacky.
Speaker 11 (28:01):
It's really tacky, and I think they should cancel that
because no one's gonna show up, and if they do,
that's crazy. I'm sorry because me I would have looked
at that and left, blocked them on social media, block
them on everything, and went on with my day.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
High maintenance friendships, this is another trend. People are actually
cutting them if they are too high maintenance. As you
get older, Reece, your life is going to change. Career, children, marriage,
you can't do the same things you may have done
(28:37):
at twenty. Yeah, you know, because you've got responsibility in
your life. And some friends want to insist that you
just keep up with them, but your different levels just life.
Life be life, and sometimes exactly and as people cut
the cord on cable they're cutting the cord on high
maintenance friendships.
Speaker 11 (28:58):
I think that's it's kind of different. I believe that
if they're your true friends, then it doesn't hurt to
give a call because life does happen things, that's how
life is. But at the same time, those relationships are
to evolve and mature. Just because we've been friends since
we've been ten years old and I'm forty fifty years old,
now you should know everything about me. So if I
(29:21):
call you just once in a blue moon, that should
be fine. I don't need to call you every single day,
every single week. We've known each other for fifty years,
you know what I'm saying. So, like, I don't think
cutting it off. No, the high meaning is because you
want somebody to look out for you. You want somebody to call.
You want that exact same effort that you're giving to them. Now,
if they're not giving you that back, then all by
all means cut it off.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Simple as that. Another trend people are for going hygiene,
oh man, in order to have money for school, I
mean for food. I'm talking about your basics. So do
you rent mouthwi wash, toothpaste? They would just rather smell
(30:04):
so they could have money to eat. Wait, because I
was trends all the time, Reese, That's what I did.
That's crazy that and you know what's money.
Speaker 11 (30:20):
They're only doing that just so they can get paid
for people to watch them do that. That's that's where
that's coming in. It's it's it's sad social media. That's
definitely taken some turns.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
It is. I'm not walking around stinking.
Speaker 11 (30:33):
Yeah, And you know, I've seen that some celebrities they
talk about that how they will only shower like once
or twice a week. And I'm like, oh, yeah, I do.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
I don't. I don't.
Speaker 6 (30:42):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
I can understand you're not gonna buy that real expensive
Creed clone or something like that. The basics, the basics
and what we need, you need them was can't be funky.
Speaker 11 (30:58):
So we went from people eating the time to now
just never using them at all.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Exactly. Reese, thank you so much. He represents gen Z
and a senior at Saint Jose University. Thank you. Your
conversation is important. I love having conversation, whether it's silly,
whether it's serious, but conversation is a must. It makes
you think you know about life circumstances. And I just
(31:25):
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