March 5, 2025 • 30 mins
Have you ever done a background check on a friend? Do you do a social media deep dive on a person before going out with them? How far would you go to make sure the person you're dealing with is legit? Patty and the crew discuss.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
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Speaker 3 (00:35):
I'm the baby boomer.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
You're always going to hear those baby boomers having something
to say. Veterom broadcaster Uncle O is joining us, and oh,
we're talking about when private investigations go too far.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
You're probably saying, what's you talking about? Yes, what you're
talking about? Okay? The new trend to find out.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
This is all about being newsy and finding out if
a man is married or in a committed relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Women are wearing glitter.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Because married men or commitment men hate glitter because glitter
gets on everything.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Yeah, I mean, if you're not doing anything wrong, then
it don't matter. But because what what are you gonna
Okay forget to marry woman?
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Okay, what about if I just I'm just out.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
And I uncle O is out and I hug someone
who has glitter on?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Does that mean I'm cheating?
Speaker 2 (01:42):
It doesn't meaning, it doesn't mean it. But these are
some and and and women are gonna get mad. But
these are some of the tricks that are going on
out here to aka catch people.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Now, this is this is too much energy, Like that's
too much energy, Like like what why do you want
to do? I'm gonna understand the whole I'm gonna check
your phone, I want to wear some glitter. You're gonna
get some lipstick on your collar to see what this
just makes This makes no sense. This takes way too
much energy. And and if you got that amount of trust,
issues going to get out of the relationship. If you
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feel like like trust your gut. If you feel like
that your guy is cheating on you and you have
a conversation and it ain't matching up.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Go on and walk away from the relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Well, the glitter is what women are putting on themselves
on the first date, like they're putting it all over.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Oh that's too much work, that's too much work. I
don't understand who you trying. What are you trying to do.
You're trying to see if he's cheating. What it's gonna do.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
It's gonna get glitter on him, He's gonna go home
to his lady.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
She's gonna argue with him, not you. So how do
you help it anything? I don't understand well.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Now people are also doing deep dives save me to one.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Their a friend, no relationship, they're a friend, but they
want to say they want to say.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
If you're telling the truth about your life, so they
will do deep dives into your background, what you do. Oh,
maybe it's people who just have trust issues.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
But this is a thing. But let me let me
say this to you.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
You already started the relationship off wrong you are You
already started a relationship off with an issue on trust, right, So,
because that's the key to begin with. So a lot
of y'all need to stop going on these dates and
and and making yourself the main thing in the first
six months in the first place, you need You're gonna
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need a year to even determine.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
If you like this cat. This cat, and then you
truly don't know someone until you live with.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Him, so it don't matter what's going on in their life.
You're gonna if you stop making him your man or
you're a woman in the first six months and wait until.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
A year passed.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
But y'all can't wait because y'all can't be alone. Then, Lord,
I'm on a whole bunch of topics right now, Patty geeesh.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
But but about the friendships. But people are doing things
like this in the friendship. Say you mean somebody that's
too much energy.
Speaker 5 (04:18):
That's too much energy.
Speaker 6 (04:19):
I don't want that kind of energy.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I want to enjoy my time.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
That's gonna enjoy our's what happens to enjoying each other.
I can't enjoy you because I'm worried about what you're
doing on So I don't have time for that.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
So basically, oh, you just ain't got time for that.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Ish because people learn just doing the most.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Listen, it's too much to try to figure out if
you like me, I like you, if someone's on the side,
I'm not doing all that.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Let's go on a date. I'm gonna know on the.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Date if I like you or not, if you're going
to pay for the date. If I go on a
date with a woman and I didn't pay.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
For the date, she should not like me.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Okay, And unless we're married and she's paying for the date,
doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
It doesn't matter.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
A guy's supposed to treat the woman on the date
most of the time. If womanst to treat me on
the date, by all means I'm a letter. But at
the end of the day, I'm going with the intent
on spending the money on the day.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
What I'm not going with.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Is her billion expectations on the day.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Okay. What about friendships? If you met someone I'm talking
about the pure platonic of friendship and you found out
that they did like a background check on you, I
would think that was like so weird.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Yes, I'm done with them at that point, I'm done.
Ain't even more conversation to be had.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
I'm done.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
You know me, I'm crazy anyway, So I'm done. I
don't give there ain't that much trying to figure out
in the world. You've done a background check on me?
First off, invasion of privacy and I'm taking you to
court and I want some money.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
This is the podcast Patty and the Millennials and Dasia
More Evans is joining us DASIA Private Investigtion.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Whether you're investigating someone, you want to go.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Out with or people are even private investigating their friends,
which is kind of like a violation.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
But did you know that some women when they.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Start dating, they look up wedding registries and baby registries
to see if that person is on it.
Speaker 7 (06:29):
A good idea.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
This is like a thing.
Speaker 7 (06:37):
That's a brilliant. Dude, I was gonna tell you you
brought up the private investigating thing, like that's what that's
my side thing, Like I am so good. I will
end up finding out so much stuff. Did you give
me like the person's birth name and I'm on it?
Speaker 8 (06:48):
Wow, the registry.
Speaker 7 (06:50):
That's a great I'm adding that to my list.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Wouldn't you would do that?
Speaker 7 (06:57):
I like to look up stuff and go I go
into d doesn't I like somebody or I'm interested. I
haven't done all my friends, but I'm interested in a
guy or guys trying to talk to me. I go
down a deep rabbit who I'll end up on their
grandma faced the page?
Speaker 3 (07:09):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Well, you know the thing is for first daters. A
lot of women they're going on the first state, they're excited.
How do they find out if they're married or tied
up with someone and not being not admitting it? They
put glitter all over their bodies? What they put glitter
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all over their bodies? Because married men hate glitter. They
can't go home with glitter.
Speaker 8 (07:43):
You can?
Speaker 7 (07:43):
I go home with glitter?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Now go home? It's like, what the hell have you been?
Speaker 5 (07:49):
Glitter is?
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (07:50):
Glitterus extreme? Oh wow?
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Yes, it is a thing because it's a It's a
thing like if you put a cross up to a vampire,
you know, and they get scared.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
They don't like glitter because they don't want to get
in and.
Speaker 7 (08:08):
As soon and as soon as he flips out about it,
that's a red flag.
Speaker 8 (08:12):
You got to run right.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
In and there.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Now, how do you feel about friendships? I'm not talking
about anything romantic. I'm thinking you develop a friendship, you know,
you vibe with that person, but you find out that
they've done an investigation on you, your background to see if
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you've been on Megan's List. So if you or if
you've done this or done that, would you feel this.
Speaker 7 (08:42):
Is like a platonic friendship?
Speaker 3 (08:43):
A platonic friendship?
Speaker 6 (08:45):
Oh wow?
Speaker 3 (08:48):
How does that make you feel? Is that kind of
Is that weird?
Speaker 7 (08:52):
I think it's weird because I haven't experienced it, like
I think it sounds weird. I haven't even thought to
do nothing like that. But I also do understanding this
certain aspect where people want to know who they're hanging
out with. You can be hanging out with somebody who's
a whole secret life that you don't know what that intels.
And if you think out with certain people, it can
get you in a get you looked at a certain way,
gets you in a world of trouble. If you're hanging
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out with this person, you don't know what they have
gone on in nurse private life. So I Kim, honestly,
I get it, but I don't know. I've only done
my investigation with the romantic things.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Now, but they're doing it now with friendships.
Speaker 6 (09:24):
Yay.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
When private investigation goes too far, what do I mean?
Speaker 2 (09:33):
People are doing deep dives if they're dating, they're doing
deep dive with friendships, which I kind of find just
a little disturbing because it's like, you really did a
background check on me before we're friends. I'm talking about
platonic friendships. But the new thing author Kim read is
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here Optimus always win Kim.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
The new thing in the dating world how to.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Tell if a man is married? Or in a committed relationship,
and they're not being honest. What they do is the
women are putting glitter all over themselves before they go
on a date because glitter gets on what everything?
Speaker 5 (10:23):
Mm?
Speaker 3 (10:24):
That is that doing the most?
Speaker 9 (10:28):
Yes?
Speaker 8 (10:29):
So doing the most.
Speaker 6 (10:30):
Let me tell you something. If I got to do
all that, I don't, we don't need to be dating.
I'm sorry, and and you know, and here's I guess.
I'm fifty two, Patties. Dating over fifty is very different.
I'm also a professional woman. I pride myself on my network,
my brand and my success. And I'm not putting glitter
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on my body. Damns, you're not putting glitter on my body.
But Patty, I'm not above a pi if depending where
our dating life is going. And here's why I say
that I got too much to lose. If you are
out here with the foolishness, I'm not.
Speaker 10 (11:18):
I don't.
Speaker 6 (11:18):
I'm not fighting a woman. I'm not having a woman
come to my home. You can DM me all you
want to our social media whatever. But big things that
women do for men when they find out they're seeing
other women, Instead of taking it up with the man,
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they take it up with the woman.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Well, people feel you need to know what the person is.
If they're on the sex offender registry, if a baby
is expecting and you're not being honest, to go to
baby registries and type in their name.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
This is what people are doing.
Speaker 6 (12:04):
Love it is.
Speaker 8 (12:06):
I love it.
Speaker 10 (12:07):
I love that and that you just put me down girl,
thank you, because let me tell you, I'm not going
to do that for my friends, like my my platonic girlfriends.
I'm just not doing that.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
That's dumb.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
And you should have a little bit more emotional intelligence.
When you're a certain age, you have wisdom, you've heart
been broken, you have discernment around people. I'm talking about
all people, but when you're dating. I don't see anything
wrong with that, depending where you are in the dating
in the dating experience with that person. But I'm not
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mad at that. I love that baby registry. I never
thought about that shit. I will shoot. I should have
done that before on a couple of people.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Now would you be offended if a friend did kind
of like a background check on you. You know you
mean to mindy, you hit it off. This is not
I'm talking about friends like you know, girlfriends, and you're like, well,
I made a new friend and you find out that
they did a background check on you.
Speaker 10 (13:08):
Yes, when you and I met thirty years ago and
you did a background check on me, I'd be mad, Okay.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
I would.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I would be a little offended too, I'd be like,
what the hell?
Speaker 3 (13:23):
Okay, but this is but this is something that is
going on. I am putting you down. What's with? What
is happening in these streets?
Speaker 6 (13:35):
Well, thank you, I appreciate this for that baby registry thing. Yes, Paddy,
thank you.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
When private investigating goes too far, there's a new thing.
And I think the young girls are the ones that's
that's doing it. Shout out to the young girls. But
how do you tell if a man is married or
in a coomited relationship and they're not being exactly honest
about their situation. Well, what they're doing they're painting themselves
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with glitter because glitter gets everywhere, and glitter is a repellan.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Married men are like.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Because they don't want the glitter on them, because you
can't explain it when you get home.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Mmm, we ain't worried about no glitter.
Speaker 9 (14:21):
We worried about no you can get the you can
get the clitter.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Going to the club too, so it doesn't matter.
Speaker 9 (14:28):
Well, if men want you, they want you that is,
it's gonna be no repell it. It's gonna make you
look like you're glittening. We might even want you even more.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
That's a fantasy. Oh my god, okay, fantasy.
Speaker 9 (14:39):
I'll see them glittery girls, and let me tell you somebody,
y'all look good.
Speaker 5 (14:42):
Girl, glittery. I like mere glittery woman.
Speaker 8 (14:46):
Quick.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Glitter gets on everything.
Speaker 8 (14:49):
So so what make it look good? That's like perfew.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
You just can't see it.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
You can smell it.
Speaker 9 (14:54):
Why ain't worried about that? It makes us look at
you even more. That's no repell it. That's a fantasy world.
Or you think you're gonna spray Glennard like raide girl.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Please okay.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
A lot of people are doing investigations on people that
they need. They're searching baby registries and they're telling people
go to baby registries, see if that person's name is
on the registry, I guess, and see if a baby
is coming. They say, go to the district courts and
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type in their name to see what their background is,
if they've been in trouble. How many parking tickets do
they have.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
What do you.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Think about this trend? Is it taking it too far?
Or are you protecting yourself because everybody ain't honest.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Everybody's honest.
Speaker 9 (15:48):
If you don't trust that man, if you feel something's wrong,
you don't even have to run a check on him.
You know he's not the one. Because if you are
the one for us, we're gonna let you know everything.
I got to baby mamas. I got a credit score
six p fifty. I got bad credit, this, that an
other one. You really care about your somebody. It's almost
like people saying they're getting tracking devices on their boyfriend's car.
(16:10):
If you feel like you need a tracking device in
this car, you already know.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
That he's doing something okay, But men feel it. Men
are doing it too though they're doing checks on women.
They're credit check to see you.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Have to this shouldn't have to you should have to
do it.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Check credit tag.
Speaker 9 (16:27):
Peddy, I've been going out with you for three months ago.
What's your credit score? Because I'm thinking about popping the question.
My credit score is six'. Ten, well we're gonna have
to get that up to seven hundred and seven fifty
hundred to make it. Good but IF i am doing a,
check that MEANS i do not trust. You IF i
went downtown and paid forty dollars or whatever it is
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to find out, this that and the, other that means
WHEN i look at you in.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Your, FACE i don't trust. You this is what the
world has come.
Speaker 9 (16:54):
To it's just like people dating on black people meeting
all this Suff WHEN i was, around we went into
the club and you walked up to the.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Girl now you're going on the internet looking.
Speaker 8 (17:05):
At stuff they're lying on the.
Speaker 9 (17:06):
Internet if you feel as though you have to do
a check of a woman that ain't the.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
One when private investigating goes too, far whether it's a
friendship or a possible, Relationship dexter is here and decks
one of the new. Things one of the new things
that's happening a lot of, women and it's a lot
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of the younger ones who are doing.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
This they're going on the first.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Date, well you don't want to go by does he
have a ring on his? Finger what you want to
do to find out if they're married or you, know,
committed but they tied? Up you put glitter all over
your body because glitter gets on, everything and how do
you explain that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Your.
Speaker 8 (17:57):
Thoughts god BRING i can't take. IT i. CAN'T i,
LOOK i said this all the. TIME i am so
blessed THAT i am. Married because it is daily world,
TODAY i don't see how people do. IT i. Don't
if you're going to day and you see a girl
with a bunch of glitter, on it's, like is she
trying to get? Me is she trying to get?
Speaker 5 (18:17):
Me called?
Speaker 8 (18:18):
Up, like there's no, trust there's no. Respect everybody is
just out to get everybody. Else, Glitter, yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Glitter it's a new.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Thing, also people are doing background. Checks they're suggesting that
you go to baby registries and see.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
If their name is on. It they're, saying go.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
To the district courts to see what violations they.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Got are they a sex?
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Offender how many traffic tickets do they?
Speaker 8 (18:49):
Have you, KNOW i, knew and she's gonna kill me for,
fairness BUT i knew something wasn't right with women when
my sister told me before she goes on the, date
what's the one she goes to check their venmo to
see who they send money. To are you? Crazy she's, like,
yeah it's, Public like you could go type their phone
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number in it'll show you all the people that they
sent money, to and if it's too many people with
the same, NAME i start to look them up On.
Facebook if you can do what.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
They're doing this now a, Friend i'm not talking about a.
Relationship say you mean, tomighty y'all vibe they're a good, friend,
Right but you find out that they ran a background
check on, you your credit, score just just being newsy about.
(19:42):
You how offended would you? BE i would be very.
Speaker 11 (19:46):
OFFENDED i actually had a friend ask me how MUCH
i paid for my wife's wedding, ring and like that
was so offensive to, me and like a relationship just
never recovered from, that because it.
Speaker 8 (20:00):
Just becomes one of those things where it's just, like
why are you concerned about my? Finances like why would
you even if we're, Friends like our relationship should not
be built on anything outside of our. Friendship not BUT
i have my bank, account not my credit, score not my,
car And i'm certainly not doing that to, You so,
like don't do that to.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Me when private investigating goes too.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Far we've got song Stress Dosie neil joining us and
a lot of PEOPLE desi are doing background checks even on,
friends not.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Even let's not even talk about financial.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Relationships, yeah there's somebody you're interested, in they're doing background.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Checks would you be offended.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
If you found out, somebody you, know you meet them
and it's, like, oh they're gonna be a great friend
Or i'm really vibing with this, person but you find
out they've run the background check on you to see your,
finances your credit, score things about.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
You would you be a?
Speaker 12 (21:05):
Feend you know, What, Auntie i'm a little bit in
the middle with this because so my people THAT i
have in my circle know that my passion project Is
Little Mama's Etiquette. Academy so if somebody was really, considering
you know WHAT i, mean allowing me to be around
their child or group of, children and they just needed
a little bit more, information then, YEAH i can understand
(21:25):
on that, tip because they may be doing it to
get me a further. Opportunity but if you just my you,
know we go to brunch and stuff and carrying one
and now you want to run my background, check now
that makes that's gonna make me want to run something on, you,
honey because what you got to.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Hide that you all up at my, YA i mean
that you got to be all.
Speaker 8 (21:40):
Up and you understand What i'm.
Speaker 5 (21:41):
Saying something ain't.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
RIGHT i ain't, heard. Y'ALL i mean fifty years and
we're gonna have to bring that. Back y'all, mean y'all, mean, Yeah,
okay It's.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
George It's georgne's. Cousin, okay y'all, mean It's joorne's. Cousin.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Now regarding relationships the dating, world it's just so, difficult
but a trick that a lot of women are doing
on a first. Date if the SEEING cv, Married i'm
A cv in a committed, Relationship they're gonna put the
glitter all over all over their body.
Speaker 3 (22:17):
Because glitter goes, everywhere and glitter. Everywhere, yes and it's
hard to.
Speaker 12 (22:22):
EXPLAIN i got to call you BECAUSE i got to
go to to the place and get me some glitter.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Buy but this is what's happening in addition to checking
the registries for baby, registries the district.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
Courts it's it's it's a thing for, real for, real your,
thoughts you know. What that's very very.
Speaker 12 (22:54):
Extreme but as much as you, know as a single
woman here That i'm going, THROUGH i can see why
somebody could think that hard about making this process much.
Simpler it is a dating cesspool out, here and people
just keep putting more chemicals in, it And i'm.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
Tired today we're talking about when private investigation goes too.
Far there are people who private investigate. EVERYTHING i mean,
everything including personal, friendships which the way you look at,
(23:29):
it it can be a little. Creepy we Got Chocolate,
Divinity Laturia, Charleston toya your price saying where are you
going with? This, Okay, well there's a new. Trend there's
a new trend not only in, dating but just in
friendships where people and you meet to, money you hit it,
(23:51):
off and you know you they're they're starting to become
a part of your inner. Circle, okay but the person
has done a background check on, you your credit, Score
i'm looking to see if you're in the district, courts
looking to see if you're on the sex. REGISTRY i,
(24:12):
mean they are doing deep dives into your. Life if
you found this, out would you be offended or would
you be weirded?
Speaker 5 (24:21):
Out, okay first and, FOREMOST i am one thousand percent
weirded out because what what is? This what in the
fatal attraction? Possibility we got going to one, Here but
on the other side of that, too and depending on
where you, know where you are career, wise life, wise
(24:42):
like thinking about, that like IF i were a public,
figure big Time, Beyonce If I'm, beyonce you're gonna be
my friend you damn, Well i'm gonna put you through a.
Speaker 6 (24:50):
Check, yeah someone got too much to lose at the
end of the.
Speaker 5 (24:57):
Day AND i, can't you, know have my around any you,
know unscrupulous behavior or you, know information THAT i didn't know.
About but the overall in, me this just is very.
Creepy it's very. Weird it's giving, lifetime you, know Movie,
Network movie of The. WEEK I i'm just about getting
(25:19):
learned people the new you, know the old, way and
you know watching people and you know you don't really
have to do all. That you watch somebody enough and
they'll tell you exactly who they are just by. Observations
SO i don't, KNOW i would just feel like if
somebody did that to, ME i don't know how GENUINE
i would, feel and it would kind of creep me
out AND i would create some. Distance but, again if You're,
(25:42):
BEYONCE i understand you get some grace.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Okay in the dating.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
World AND i always bring this up because there's a
lot going. On how can you tell if a man
is married or this is the first, date the first,
date he telephant marriage or in a committed relationship after
you swiped and swiped and, said, OKAY i want to
go on a date on this.
Speaker 3 (26:06):
One because trust, me people are playing in these. Streets
yes they. ARE i will.
Speaker 5 (26:12):
Say one of the biggest signs if you are sitting,
there especially like first, date if they are, not if
he's not really asking you a lot of, Questions if
he's not really asking you a lot of questions about
like your personal. Life do you know your day to
day that's kind of a telltale sign you kind of
have to look out. FOR i remember a while, ago
if they give you The google number as opposed to
(26:34):
their regular phone, number that is always a telltale. Sign
you also have, to you, know kind of keep you
keep keep keep your head on the slow. BAR i
remember one GUY i met on the site was talking
seemed like a really good. Dude you, know he was a.
Surgeon i'm, young probably about thirty five thirty six years,
old and he had said certain things, like, OH i
(26:56):
have yard work to do at the, house and in my,
Mind i'm, like come a thirty five year old single
man with no, kids and you know a. Problem you
bought a house that you have to do yard. Work
somewhere along the, Line i've mentioned. Something this man. GHOSTED i, said, oh,
no you were, married because there was no like the
way the reaction that he had to that and just.
(27:17):
Ghosted there was always, signs ladies that you can tell
that this man is married or spoken. For you just
have to be on the lookout for it and read it.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Properly, well some women the first, date they're dusting themselves with.
Glitter what because glitter goes everywhere and it's hard to
explain why you call that?
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Glitter where were? You but this is what, happened he, said.
Speaker 5 (27:47):
That's, what damn. Glitter i'm staying my black behind hall
That i'm doing all of it.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
Now some people are doing the modes they, are they're
doing the.
Speaker 5 (27:59):
Most IF i got to sit here and think of
a ploy at the first in and to figure out
this man is, married, girl and go on with your,
life don't take the. Date Watch avatar ON tv, tonight
kick them feet, up get you a glass of wine
because this is too.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Much, well if people will go to the district courts
to see if you've had any legal, problems how many
parking tickets do you? Have they're doing deep dives before
they get. Involved they're checking the sex registries to see if.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
You are on.
Speaker 5 (28:36):
It and you know, WHAT i have been hearing more
people advise doing that and not understand why doing, that
especially the sex registry for something like. That it's so
easy and readily available to you, know find somebody on.
There but when it comes to, LIKE i don't, know
it's just credit and you, know, history. Jail, yeah you
(28:58):
should know these things about. It oh, no it's just very.
Invasive but, again if you have to think about certain
things about certain, people that's probably a tell tale sign
right there that you shouldn't even go down that. Road
SO i don't, know AND i don't think you should
do that right away, either because you don't even know
where the relationship if it's going to develop into. ANYTHING
i feel like once you get to a you, know
(29:21):
probably maybe month. Two all, right this looks like it
really might be going. Somewhere we had really great positive.
Dates all, right MAYBE i will go ahead and do
a bit more research because it's protecting your better. Interests
but that very like in the very, beginning the first
couple of. Weeks to, me that's a bit too, much
BUT i DON'T i don't mind the sex registerry. ONE
i would have run that right, away to be.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Honest the dating world just the world is just so different,
nowadays but this is a new. Trend not only in
romantic relationships are, dating but friendships as.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
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Speaker 2 (29:58):
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to say. Veterom broadcaster Uncle O is joining us, and oh,
we're talking about when private investigations go too far.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
You're probably saying, what's you talking about? Yes, what you're
talking about? Okay? The new trend to find out.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
This is all about being newsy and finding out if
a man is married or in a committed relationship.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Women are wearing glitter.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Because married men or commitment men hate glitter because glitter
gets on everything.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Yeah, I mean, if you're not doing anything wrong, then
it don't matter. But because what what are you gonna
Okay forget to marry woman?
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Okay, what about if I just I'm just out.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
And I uncle O is out and I hug someone
who has glitter on?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
Does that mean I'm cheating?
Speaker 2 (01:42):
It doesn't meaning, it doesn't mean it. But these are
some and and and women are gonna get mad. But
these are some of the tricks that are going on
out here to aka catch people.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Now, this is this is too much energy, Like that's
too much energy, Like like what why do you want
to do? I'm gonna understand the whole I'm gonna check
your phone, I want to wear some glitter. You're gonna
get some lipstick on your collar to see what this
just makes This makes no sense. This takes way too
much energy. And and if you got that amount of trust,
issues going to get out of the relationship. If you
(02:19):
feel like like trust your gut. If you feel like
that your guy is cheating on you and you have
a conversation and it ain't matching up.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Go on and walk away from the relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Well, the glitter is what women are putting on themselves
on the first date, like they're putting it all over.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Oh that's too much work, that's too much work. I
don't understand who you trying. What are you trying to do.
You're trying to see if he's cheating. What it's gonna do.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
It's gonna get glitter on him, He's gonna go home
to his lady.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
She's gonna argue with him, not you. So how do
you help it anything? I don't understand well.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Now people are also doing deep dives save me to one.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Their a friend, no relationship, they're a friend, but they
want to say they want to say.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
If you're telling the truth about your life, so they
will do deep dives into your background, what you do. Oh,
maybe it's people who just have trust issues.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
But this is a thing. But let me let me
say this to you.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
You already started the relationship off wrong you are You
already started a relationship off with an issue on trust, right, So,
because that's the key to begin with. So a lot
of y'all need to stop going on these dates and
and and making yourself the main thing in the first
six months in the first place, you need You're gonna
(03:49):
need a year to even determine.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
If you like this cat. This cat, and then you
truly don't know someone until you live with.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Him, so it don't matter what's going on in their life.
You're gonna if you stop making him your man or
you're a woman in the first six months and wait until.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
A year passed.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
But y'all can't wait because y'all can't be alone. Then, Lord,
I'm on a whole bunch of topics right now, Patty geeesh.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
But but about the friendships. But people are doing things
like this in the friendship. Say you mean somebody that's
too much energy.
Speaker 5 (04:18):
That's too much energy.
Speaker 6 (04:19):
I don't want that kind of energy.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I want to enjoy my time.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
That's gonna enjoy our's what happens to enjoying each other.
I can't enjoy you because I'm worried about what you're
doing on So I don't have time for that.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
So basically, oh, you just ain't got time for that.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Ish because people learn just doing the most.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Listen, it's too much to try to figure out if
you like me, I like you, if someone's on the side,
I'm not doing all that.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Let's go on a date. I'm gonna know on the.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Date if I like you or not, if you're going
to pay for the date. If I go on a
date with a woman and I didn't pay.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
For the date, she should not like me.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Okay, And unless we're married and she's paying for the date,
doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
It doesn't matter.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
A guy's supposed to treat the woman on the date
most of the time. If womanst to treat me on
the date, by all means I'm a letter. But at
the end of the day, I'm going with the intent
on spending the money on the day.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
What I'm not going with.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
Is her billion expectations on the day.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Okay. What about friendships? If you met someone I'm talking
about the pure platonic of friendship and you found out
that they did like a background check on you, I
would think that was like so weird.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Yes, I'm done with them at that point, I'm done.
Ain't even more conversation to be had.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
I'm done.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
You know me, I'm crazy anyway, So I'm done. I
don't give there ain't that much trying to figure out
in the world. You've done a background check on me?
First off, invasion of privacy and I'm taking you to
court and I want some money.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
This is the podcast Patty and the Millennials and Dasia
More Evans is joining us DASIA Private Investigtion.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Whether you're investigating someone, you want to go.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Out with or people are even private investigating their friends,
which is kind of like a violation.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
But did you know that some women when they.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Start dating, they look up wedding registries and baby registries
to see if that person is on it.
Speaker 7 (06:29):
A good idea.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
This is like a thing.
Speaker 7 (06:37):
That's a brilliant. Dude, I was gonna tell you you
brought up the private investigating thing, like that's what that's
my side thing, Like I am so good. I will
end up finding out so much stuff. Did you give
me like the person's birth name and I'm on it?
Speaker 8 (06:48):
Wow, the registry.
Speaker 7 (06:50):
That's a great I'm adding that to my list.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Wouldn't you would do that?
Speaker 7 (06:57):
I like to look up stuff and go I go
into d doesn't I like somebody or I'm interested. I
haven't done all my friends, but I'm interested in a
guy or guys trying to talk to me. I go
down a deep rabbit who I'll end up on their
grandma faced the page?
Speaker 3 (07:09):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Well, you know the thing is for first daters. A
lot of women they're going on the first state, they're excited.
How do they find out if they're married or tied
up with someone and not being not admitting it? They
put glitter all over their bodies? What they put glitter
(07:36):
all over their bodies? Because married men hate glitter. They
can't go home with glitter.
Speaker 8 (07:43):
You can?
Speaker 7 (07:43):
I go home with glitter?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Now go home? It's like, what the hell have you been?
Speaker 5 (07:49):
Glitter is?
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (07:50):
Glitterus extreme? Oh wow?
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Yes, it is a thing because it's a It's a
thing like if you put a cross up to a vampire,
you know, and they get scared.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
They don't like glitter because they don't want to get
in and.
Speaker 7 (08:08):
As soon and as soon as he flips out about it,
that's a red flag.
Speaker 8 (08:12):
You got to run right.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
In and there.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Now, how do you feel about friendships? I'm not talking
about anything romantic. I'm thinking you develop a friendship, you know,
you vibe with that person, but you find out that
they've done an investigation on you, your background to see if
(08:35):
you've been on Megan's List. So if you or if
you've done this or done that, would you feel this.
Speaker 7 (08:42):
Is like a platonic friendship?
Speaker 3 (08:43):
A platonic friendship?
Speaker 6 (08:45):
Oh wow?
Speaker 3 (08:48):
How does that make you feel? Is that kind of
Is that weird?
Speaker 7 (08:52):
I think it's weird because I haven't experienced it, like
I think it sounds weird. I haven't even thought to
do nothing like that. But I also do understanding this
certain aspect where people want to know who they're hanging
out with. You can be hanging out with somebody who's
a whole secret life that you don't know what that intels.
And if you think out with certain people, it can
get you in a get you looked at a certain way,
gets you in a world of trouble. If you're hanging
(09:13):
out with this person, you don't know what they have
gone on in nurse private life. So I Kim, honestly,
I get it, but I don't know. I've only done
my investigation with the romantic things.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Now, but they're doing it now with friendships.
Speaker 6 (09:24):
Yay.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
When private investigation goes too far, what do I mean?
Speaker 2 (09:33):
People are doing deep dives if they're dating, they're doing
deep dive with friendships, which I kind of find just
a little disturbing because it's like, you really did a
background check on me before we're friends. I'm talking about
platonic friendships. But the new thing author Kim read is
(09:53):
here Optimus always win Kim.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
The new thing in the dating world how to.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Tell if a man is married? Or in a committed relationship,
and they're not being honest. What they do is the
women are putting glitter all over themselves before they go
on a date because glitter gets on what everything?
Speaker 5 (10:23):
Mm?
Speaker 3 (10:24):
That is that doing the most?
Speaker 9 (10:28):
Yes?
Speaker 8 (10:29):
So doing the most.
Speaker 6 (10:30):
Let me tell you something. If I got to do
all that, I don't, we don't need to be dating.
I'm sorry, and and you know, and here's I guess.
I'm fifty two, Patties. Dating over fifty is very different.
I'm also a professional woman. I pride myself on my network,
my brand and my success. And I'm not putting glitter
(10:55):
on my body. Damns, you're not putting glitter on my body.
But Patty, I'm not above a pi if depending where
our dating life is going. And here's why I say
that I got too much to lose. If you are
out here with the foolishness, I'm not.
Speaker 10 (11:18):
I don't.
Speaker 6 (11:18):
I'm not fighting a woman. I'm not having a woman
come to my home. You can DM me all you
want to our social media whatever. But big things that
women do for men when they find out they're seeing
other women, Instead of taking it up with the man,
(11:42):
they take it up with the woman.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Well, people feel you need to know what the person is.
If they're on the sex offender registry, if a baby
is expecting and you're not being honest, to go to
baby registries and type in their name.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
This is what people are doing.
Speaker 6 (12:04):
Love it is.
Speaker 8 (12:06):
I love it.
Speaker 10 (12:07):
I love that and that you just put me down girl,
thank you, because let me tell you, I'm not going
to do that for my friends, like my my platonic girlfriends.
I'm just not doing that.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
That's dumb.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
And you should have a little bit more emotional intelligence.
When you're a certain age, you have wisdom, you've heart
been broken, you have discernment around people. I'm talking about
all people, but when you're dating. I don't see anything
wrong with that, depending where you are in the dating
in the dating experience with that person. But I'm not
(12:38):
mad at that. I love that baby registry. I never
thought about that shit. I will shoot. I should have
done that before on a couple of people.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Now would you be offended if a friend did kind
of like a background check on you. You know you
mean to mindy, you hit it off. This is not
I'm talking about friends like you know, girlfriends, and you're like, well,
I made a new friend and you find out that
they did a background check on you.
Speaker 10 (13:08):
Yes, when you and I met thirty years ago and
you did a background check on me, I'd be mad, Okay.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
I would.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I would be a little offended too, I'd be like,
what the hell?
Speaker 3 (13:23):
Okay, but this is but this is something that is
going on. I am putting you down. What's with? What
is happening in these streets?
Speaker 6 (13:35):
Well, thank you, I appreciate this for that baby registry thing. Yes, Paddy,
thank you.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
When private investigating goes too far, there's a new thing.
And I think the young girls are the ones that's
that's doing it. Shout out to the young girls. But
how do you tell if a man is married or
in a coomited relationship and they're not being exactly honest
about their situation. Well, what they're doing they're painting themselves
(14:03):
with glitter because glitter gets everywhere, and glitter is a repellan.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
Married men are like.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Because they don't want the glitter on them, because you
can't explain it when you get home.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Mmm, we ain't worried about no glitter.
Speaker 9 (14:21):
We worried about no you can get the you can
get the clitter.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Going to the club too, so it doesn't matter.
Speaker 9 (14:28):
Well, if men want you, they want you that is,
it's gonna be no repell it. It's gonna make you
look like you're glittening. We might even want you even more.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
That's a fantasy. Oh my god, okay, fantasy.
Speaker 9 (14:39):
I'll see them glittery girls, and let me tell you somebody,
y'all look good.
Speaker 5 (14:42):
Girl, glittery. I like mere glittery woman.
Speaker 8 (14:46):
Quick.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Glitter gets on everything.
Speaker 8 (14:49):
So so what make it look good? That's like perfew.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
You just can't see it.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
You can smell it.
Speaker 9 (14:54):
Why ain't worried about that? It makes us look at
you even more. That's no repell it. That's a fantasy world.
Or you think you're gonna spray Glennard like raide girl.
Speaker 3 (15:02):
Please okay.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
A lot of people are doing investigations on people that
they need. They're searching baby registries and they're telling people
go to baby registries, see if that person's name is
on the registry, I guess, and see if a baby
is coming. They say, go to the district courts and
(15:27):
type in their name to see what their background is,
if they've been in trouble. How many parking tickets do
they have.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
What do you.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Think about this trend? Is it taking it too far?
Or are you protecting yourself because everybody ain't honest.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Everybody's honest.
Speaker 9 (15:48):
If you don't trust that man, if you feel something's wrong,
you don't even have to run a check on him.
You know he's not the one. Because if you are
the one for us, we're gonna let you know everything.
I got to baby mamas. I got a credit score
six p fifty. I got bad credit, this, that an
other one. You really care about your somebody. It's almost
like people saying they're getting tracking devices on their boyfriend's car.
(16:10):
If you feel like you need a tracking device in
this car, you already know.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
That he's doing something okay, But men feel it. Men
are doing it too though they're doing checks on women.
They're credit check to see you.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Have to this shouldn't have to you should have to
do it.
Speaker 5 (16:26):
Check credit tag.
Speaker 9 (16:27):
Peddy, I've been going out with you for three months ago.
What's your credit score? Because I'm thinking about popping the question.
My credit score is six'. Ten, well we're gonna have
to get that up to seven hundred and seven fifty
hundred to make it. Good but IF i am doing a,
check that MEANS i do not trust. You IF i
went downtown and paid forty dollars or whatever it is
(16:48):
to find out, this that and the, other that means
WHEN i look at you in.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Your, FACE i don't trust. You this is what the
world has come.
Speaker 9 (16:54):
To it's just like people dating on black people meeting
all this Suff WHEN i was, around we went into
the club and you walked up to the.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Girl now you're going on the internet looking.
Speaker 8 (17:05):
At stuff they're lying on the.
Speaker 9 (17:06):
Internet if you feel as though you have to do
a check of a woman that ain't the.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
One when private investigating goes too, far whether it's a
friendship or a possible, Relationship dexter is here and decks
one of the new. Things one of the new things
that's happening a lot of, women and it's a lot
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of the younger ones who are doing.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
This they're going on the first.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Date, well you don't want to go by does he
have a ring on his? Finger what you want to
do to find out if they're married or you, know,
committed but they tied? Up you put glitter all over
your body because glitter gets on, everything and how do
you explain that.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
Your.
Speaker 8 (17:57):
Thoughts god BRING i can't take. IT i. CAN'T i,
LOOK i said this all the. TIME i am so
blessed THAT i am. Married because it is daily world,
TODAY i don't see how people do. IT i. Don't
if you're going to day and you see a girl
with a bunch of glitter, on it's, like is she
trying to get? Me is she trying to get?
Speaker 5 (18:17):
Me called?
Speaker 8 (18:18):
Up, like there's no, trust there's no. Respect everybody is
just out to get everybody. Else, Glitter, yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
Glitter it's a new.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Thing, also people are doing background. Checks they're suggesting that
you go to baby registries and see.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
If their name is on. It they're, saying go.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
To the district courts to see what violations they.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Got are they a sex?
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Offender how many traffic tickets do they?
Speaker 8 (18:49):
Have you, KNOW i, knew and she's gonna kill me for,
fairness BUT i knew something wasn't right with women when
my sister told me before she goes on the, date
what's the one she goes to check their venmo to
see who they send money. To are you? Crazy she's, like,
yeah it's, Public like you could go type their phone
(19:11):
number in it'll show you all the people that they
sent money, to and if it's too many people with
the same, NAME i start to look them up On.
Facebook if you can do what.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
They're doing this now a, Friend i'm not talking about a.
Relationship say you mean, tomighty y'all vibe they're a good, friend,
Right but you find out that they ran a background
check on, you your credit, score just just being newsy about.
(19:42):
You how offended would you? BE i would be very.
Speaker 11 (19:46):
OFFENDED i actually had a friend ask me how MUCH
i paid for my wife's wedding, ring and like that
was so offensive to, me and like a relationship just
never recovered from, that because it.
Speaker 8 (20:00):
Just becomes one of those things where it's just, like
why are you concerned about my? Finances like why would
you even if we're, Friends like our relationship should not
be built on anything outside of our. Friendship not BUT
i have my bank, account not my credit, score not my,
car And i'm certainly not doing that to, You so,
like don't do that to.
Speaker 3 (20:17):
Me when private investigating goes too.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Far we've got song Stress Dosie neil joining us and
a lot of PEOPLE desi are doing background checks even on,
friends not.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
Even let's not even talk about financial.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Relationships, yeah there's somebody you're interested, in they're doing background.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Checks would you be offended.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
If you found out, somebody you, know you meet them
and it's, like, oh they're gonna be a great friend
Or i'm really vibing with this, person but you find
out they've run the background check on you to see your,
finances your credit, score things about.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
You would you be a?
Speaker 12 (21:05):
Feend you know, What, Auntie i'm a little bit in
the middle with this because so my people THAT i
have in my circle know that my passion project Is
Little Mama's Etiquette. Academy so if somebody was really, considering
you know WHAT i, mean allowing me to be around
their child or group of, children and they just needed
a little bit more, information then, YEAH i can understand
(21:25):
on that, tip because they may be doing it to
get me a further. Opportunity but if you just my you,
know we go to brunch and stuff and carrying one
and now you want to run my background, check now
that makes that's gonna make me want to run something on, you,
honey because what you got to.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Hide that you all up at my, YA i mean
that you got to be all.
Speaker 8 (21:40):
Up and you understand What i'm.
Speaker 5 (21:41):
Saying something ain't.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
RIGHT i ain't, heard. Y'ALL i mean fifty years and
we're gonna have to bring that. Back y'all, mean y'all, mean, Yeah,
okay It's.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
George It's georgne's. Cousin, okay y'all, mean It's joorne's. Cousin.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Now regarding relationships the dating, world it's just so, difficult
but a trick that a lot of women are doing
on a first. Date if the SEEING cv, Married i'm
A cv in a committed, Relationship they're gonna put the
glitter all over all over their body.
Speaker 3 (22:17):
Because glitter goes, everywhere and glitter. Everywhere, yes and it's
hard to.
Speaker 12 (22:22):
EXPLAIN i got to call you BECAUSE i got to
go to to the place and get me some glitter.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Buy but this is what's happening in addition to checking
the registries for baby, registries the district.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
Courts it's it's it's a thing for, real for, real your,
thoughts you know. What that's very very.
Speaker 12 (22:54):
Extreme but as much as you, know as a single
woman here That i'm going, THROUGH i can see why
somebody could think that hard about making this process much.
Simpler it is a dating cesspool out, here and people
just keep putting more chemicals in, it And i'm.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
Tired today we're talking about when private investigation goes too.
Far there are people who private investigate. EVERYTHING i mean,
everything including personal, friendships which the way you look at,
(23:29):
it it can be a little. Creepy we Got Chocolate,
Divinity Laturia, Charleston toya your price saying where are you
going with? This, Okay, well there's a new. Trend there's
a new trend not only in, dating but just in
friendships where people and you meet to, money you hit it,
(23:51):
off and you know you they're they're starting to become
a part of your inner. Circle, okay but the person
has done a background check on, you your credit, Score
i'm looking to see if you're in the district, courts
looking to see if you're on the sex. REGISTRY i,
(24:12):
mean they are doing deep dives into your. Life if
you found this, out would you be offended or would
you be weirded?
Speaker 5 (24:21):
Out, okay first and, FOREMOST i am one thousand percent
weirded out because what what is? This what in the
fatal attraction? Possibility we got going to one, Here but
on the other side of that, too and depending on
where you, know where you are career, wise life, wise
(24:42):
like thinking about, that like IF i were a public,
figure big Time, Beyonce If I'm, beyonce you're gonna be
my friend you damn, Well i'm gonna put you through a.
Speaker 6 (24:50):
Check, yeah someone got too much to lose at the
end of the.
Speaker 5 (24:57):
Day AND i, can't you, know have my around any you,
know unscrupulous behavior or you, know information THAT i didn't know.
About but the overall in, me this just is very.
Creepy it's very. Weird it's giving, lifetime you, know Movie,
Network movie of The. WEEK I i'm just about getting
(25:19):
learned people the new you, know the old, way and
you know watching people and you know you don't really
have to do all. That you watch somebody enough and
they'll tell you exactly who they are just by. Observations
SO i don't, KNOW i would just feel like if
somebody did that to, ME i don't know how GENUINE
i would, feel and it would kind of creep me
out AND i would create some. Distance but, again if You're,
(25:42):
BEYONCE i understand you get some grace.
Speaker 3 (25:45):
Okay in the dating.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
World AND i always bring this up because there's a
lot going. On how can you tell if a man
is married or this is the first, date the first,
date he telephant marriage or in a committed relationship after
you swiped and swiped and, said, OKAY i want to
go on a date on this.
Speaker 3 (26:06):
One because trust, me people are playing in these. Streets
yes they. ARE i will.
Speaker 5 (26:12):
Say one of the biggest signs if you are sitting,
there especially like first, date if they are, not if
he's not really asking you a lot of, Questions if
he's not really asking you a lot of questions about
like your personal. Life do you know your day to
day that's kind of a telltale sign you kind of
have to look out. FOR i remember a while, ago
if they give you The google number as opposed to
(26:34):
their regular phone, number that is always a telltale. Sign
you also have, to you, know kind of keep you
keep keep keep your head on the slow. BAR i
remember one GUY i met on the site was talking
seemed like a really good. Dude you, know he was a.
Surgeon i'm, young probably about thirty five thirty six years,
old and he had said certain things, like, OH i
(26:56):
have yard work to do at the, house and in my,
Mind i'm, like come a thirty five year old single
man with no, kids and you know a. Problem you
bought a house that you have to do yard. Work
somewhere along the, Line i've mentioned. Something this man. GHOSTED i, said, oh,
no you were, married because there was no like the
way the reaction that he had to that and just.
(27:17):
Ghosted there was always, signs ladies that you can tell
that this man is married or spoken. For you just
have to be on the lookout for it and read it.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Properly, well some women the first, date they're dusting themselves with.
Glitter what because glitter goes everywhere and it's hard to
explain why you call that?
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Glitter where were? You but this is what, happened he, said.
Speaker 5 (27:47):
That's, what damn. Glitter i'm staying my black behind hall
That i'm doing all of it.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
Now some people are doing the modes they, are they're
doing the.
Speaker 5 (27:59):
Most IF i got to sit here and think of
a ploy at the first in and to figure out
this man is, married, girl and go on with your,
life don't take the. Date Watch avatar ON tv, tonight
kick them feet, up get you a glass of wine
because this is too.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Much, well if people will go to the district courts
to see if you've had any legal, problems how many
parking tickets do you? Have they're doing deep dives before
they get. Involved they're checking the sex registries to see if.
Speaker 3 (28:35):
You are on.
Speaker 5 (28:36):
It and you know, WHAT i have been hearing more
people advise doing that and not understand why doing, that
especially the sex registry for something like. That it's so
easy and readily available to you, know find somebody on.
There but when it comes to, LIKE i don't, know
it's just credit and you, know, history. Jail, yeah you
(28:58):
should know these things about. It oh, no it's just very.
Invasive but, again if you have to think about certain
things about certain, people that's probably a tell tale sign
right there that you shouldn't even go down that. Road
SO i don't, know AND i don't think you should
do that right away, either because you don't even know
where the relationship if it's going to develop into. ANYTHING
i feel like once you get to a you, know
(29:21):
probably maybe month. Two all, right this looks like it
really might be going. Somewhere we had really great positive.
Dates all, right MAYBE i will go ahead and do
a bit more research because it's protecting your better. Interests
but that very like in the very, beginning the first
couple of. Weeks to, me that's a bit too, much
BUT i DON'T i don't mind the sex registerry. ONE
i would have run that right, away to be.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Honest the dating world just the world is just so different,
nowadays but this is a new. Trend not only in
romantic relationships are, dating but friendships as.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Well we love a great.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
Conversation this is the podcast Conversation patty and The. Millennials
you can find us where we. Live thanks so much
for joining. Us conversation is important and a. Must thanks
for joining Us the Podcast patty and The.
Speaker 3 (30:16):
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