October 24, 2024 • 34 mins
Are you ready for the hoidays? Are you preared for friends and family to test your nerves? Who makes the mac and cheese? Patty and the crew discuss the holliday do's and dont's.
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Speaker 3 (00:49):
After a little hiatus, we are back.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
This is the podcast conversation Patty and the Millennials. I'm
Patty Jackson, I am a baby boomer and we have
conversation with millennials, gen X, gen Z men women to
have great conversation where on the brink of a holiday.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Season and holiday dues and don'ts.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
We've got Dexter who puts all of this together and Dexter,
I couldn't wait to talk to you to hear your opinion.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
There are holiday dues and doones.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Dexter, how do you deal with people who like to
come in and start stashing their damn food. This is
before anybody eats. They're packing the plates. They're just out
of order.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
You know, it's funny that you say that, because I've
realized though, and I know we don't call them out.
You're one of these people. I'm not saying you packed plates.
But like, the cooks are the ones you really have
to watch because they make their food and they put
their food up before everybody else. Anyway, the cooks put
their food up before anybody else even comes to the house,
and then they look at everybody else sideways when people
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start putting up their plates. But like, y'all have already
done it. So I got my eye on the cook
this year.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
What is the job of the person who just can't cook.
We're not gonna hold it against them.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
But what is their job?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Rolls plates of utensils, if if they're using plastic stuff,
you got to bring the drinks and you and you must.
Speaker 5 (02:20):
Wash the dishes.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
You have to wash the dishes because bringing in utensules
and juices is nice, but like, do some put some
effort into this and wash the dishes out?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Which brings me to this and this is something that
Doc B had on his social media.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Paper plates or china.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Well, see, I'm a paper plate person like in my
regular life, like I'll use paper plates. So for Thanksgiving
and for Christmas, I feel like you should. You should
bring out the regular china. Like I want to eat
on something nice. I want to hear my fort click.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I like that canned cranberry sauce or rush cranberry sauce.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Oh you're not gonna like this answer, but please only
bring the cranberry sauce ocean spray out of the can,
like I only want the can.
Speaker 6 (03:11):
Well, pe would be like people be like I slaved
and I made this this fresh cranberry sauce.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
And I'd be like, okay, but did you get the
can as well?
Speaker 3 (03:19):
See in my house I have to have both.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I had a cousin who had a complete mouthdown because
they didn't.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Have the can.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
But I must say, in the Jackson household, I make
a me fresh cranberry sauce. But I know there are
those who are like Patty with ocean Spray. On this
edition of the podcast Patty and the Millennials, we're talking
about dues and don'ts.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
We've got Reese.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
He is representing jen Z going to be graduating from
Saint Joe's next spring.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Holidays. Dues are don'ts. How do you deal with people
who can't cook? Reese?
Speaker 7 (03:58):
Oh man, the people who don't show up or don't
bring anything, I'd rather say, like, please.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Don't you?
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Would you say maybe bring ice?
Speaker 7 (04:06):
Yeah, bring ice, bring some drinks. You know you can
bring a store bought pie. I don't mind it, Just
don't make anything. What do you do about the people.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Who come to your home and they immediately start stashing.
Speaker 7 (04:18):
Foo Oh my gosh, you see I have uncles who
do that, and it's like, come on, please, I'm not
your servant. Please enjoy the food with the family, and
don't it's just unnecessary.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
You're having the holiday dinner our paper plates? Acceptable question?
Speaker 8 (04:41):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (04:42):
I think it is just because dishes on Thanksgiving is
probably one of my worst nightmares. So that's the only
time I'll take paper plates. But get like the nice
festive designer ones, just don't get no dollar tree ones
like get the nice ones.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Desi Nili is joining us the podcast conversation Patty in
the millennials, does he were you aware that there are
holiday dudes?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
And don'ts?
Speaker 5 (05:08):
Okay, so now I don't know.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Let me see.
Speaker 6 (05:10):
I can't tell with you, Auntie.
Speaker 5 (05:11):
Let me see.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Well, people who can cook? What do we do with
those special people?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Do we ban them from the kitchen? Or say past
the blades?
Speaker 9 (05:23):
My lord?
Speaker 10 (05:24):
You go get all the utensils, you make sure they pretty.
Speaker 11 (05:27):
You get the decorations.
Speaker 10 (05:28):
You bring all that stuff, and you be the hostess,
but don't bring none to eat, because we.
Speaker 9 (05:32):
Don't want need no food sitting out grocery through eye?
Speaker 1 (05:36):
What do you do with people who come in the
door and start stashing food?
Speaker 10 (05:40):
Oh, Auntie, okay.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
First of all, no.
Speaker 10 (05:46):
Containers even hit the table until after the meal is served.
Speaker 9 (05:50):
The containers are fast.
Speaker 10 (05:52):
If they come in with the containers, they have to
put the containers away.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Because what you're not gonna do is get yours.
Speaker 10 (05:57):
And especially if you ain't prepared at all, and if
you wanted to save something, you should have made yourself
a small one before you brought the main one.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I do think a lot of people should cook before
they come to someone else's house because the people who
do the cooking, the people that are the hosts, well,
they want some left over too.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
At least to make sandwich, atast.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
One year, it was the year after I had my
stroke and I cooked dinner and was knocked out, girl,
knocked all the way out. I woke up, my kitchen
on was beyond clean. They ain't leave me nothing, no fool.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Nothing.
Speaker 10 (06:43):
Because okay, for the person that prepares, as long as
you're not digging out of the one thing I hate
to see if you serve the table, I need that
magaroni cheese hole, I need you know what I'm saying,
don't have nothing scooped out. But in that instance, you
should have a whole meal prepared for yourself and already
set aside before the folks get there, because no, yeah,
(07:03):
you do deserve to eat. Now, that's just not fair.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Okay, here's one quick question. Let's start. Cranberry sauce canned
or fresh. I'm a fan afresh because I make a
very good, very good fresh cranberry sauce. But I have too,
I have the can in the fresh. What are your thoughts.
Speaker 10 (07:28):
After having your cranberry sauce that I saw being prepared
with my own two eyes and my glasses on top,
I will never eat anybody else's cranberry sauce that can
jiggly wiggly is not gonna happen because I have been
exposed to Auntie's.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Cranberry sauce, and no other will do.
Speaker 10 (07:47):
But it's you can't get aunties now. I will say
that Boston Market got a mean money because you can
tell it's real because it has the cranberry and the
orange inside. But after you experienced aunties, you ain't eat
nothing else.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Thanksgiving holiday dues or don'ts It's that time of the
year when family could be coming by, or you could
be coming by with family.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Author Kim Reid is joining us.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
She is the author of a great book Optimis always wins.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Kim, what do we do with the people who can't cook?
Speaker 1 (08:21):
We don't want to banish them, but what role do
the person? Because a lot of people freak out, but
it's a go if you can't cook. I am grateful
that you are honest.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
About what you could do. What do we do with
the people who can't cook?
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Well?
Speaker 9 (08:39):
Because I know I'm not cutting cake at your house.
So I already knew that, you know, because you already
throw shade. So you know what I had to deal
with my self esteem on that. Okay, I don't cut cake. Okay,
but people who come over to the house, you know,
it's so funny. I give them plate duty. I tell
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them makes a fabulous cocktail and bring it for everyone
to try.
Speaker 12 (09:05):
You know, you have to keep You still have to
empower people. Right, Yes, some people don't know how to
make potato salad. Lord, have mercy. Then you don't have
them make potato salad. You tell them that.
Speaker 9 (09:18):
This year you have plenty of potato salads and you
can please bring the important part, which is the fabulous
bottle of champagne.
Speaker 13 (09:27):
Right.
Speaker 9 (09:28):
Sure, you got to empower people, and it's the way
you say it. It's in your language and your messaging, Patty,
because as you know, I was only hurt for two
point five seconds, and then we laughed about my none
cutting cake.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Ass see, never gonna let me let it down.
Speaker 9 (09:49):
No, no, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
But it's okay if you can't cook that. That's a
basic message that we're saying.
Speaker 9 (09:58):
Oh totally, it's okay if you can't cook. Let me
tell you something. In my twenties and thirties, I could
not cook worth a lick. But now I get sit
in patty.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Okay, we're gonna put you to the test, but not
this holiday season.
Speaker 6 (10:14):
You know what.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Most sche le.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Wren is joining, I said, I just love her voice
and her opinion. We're talking about holiday dew or don'ts
oh shay. How to tell people who walk in and
start packing those plates. They barely say hi to you,
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but they walk right by you and they see the
food and they are packing the plates.
Speaker 6 (10:47):
So here's the thing. The funny part about that is
that is my family. That is my family, and that
is what they are accustomed to doing until they hit
my door. Because when they hit my door, you leave
all your to gold can in your car because we
are not bringing those out into the very end of
the night. They will bring containers and start packing there
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to gold place before they pack their plate that they're
gonna eat. That's that's a no no. We don't do
that here at my house.
Speaker 14 (11:15):
Mm hm.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
You come here and whatever is left over we can
all share and take home. But that's a that's a huge.
Speaker 13 (11:21):
No no for me.
Speaker 6 (11:22):
Okay, I'll do that.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Now do you make that? Do you make that announcement?
I like it when they walk in like, don't be
coming in here doing that?
Speaker 15 (11:33):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (11:33):
Absolutely, yeah.
Speaker 6 (11:34):
See I'm no hold bar, I don't. I don't mince
words very well. I'm learning that that level of the quorum,
but I'm still God is still working on me there,
so they know that. If I see it too early on,
I'm like, and so what are we doing with that?
Speaker 12 (11:47):
Oh?
Speaker 6 (11:47):
Okay, because I'm gonna need you to put that over
there until everybody has had a chance to dip in
the pot. And then at the end, should there be
any less.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
You're more than welcome to take it with you.
Speaker 6 (11:56):
Oh, I say it straight up.
Speaker 9 (11:58):
I don't.
Speaker 6 (11:58):
I don't beat around the bushchair Okay.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Is it a very high compliment, because this is what
I read.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
It's a high compliment if you are the chosen one
to cook the macaroni and cheese.
Speaker 6 (12:12):
Oh absolutely, it's covet it. Macaroni and cheese and any
black household is mandatory. And the person that gets the
assignment to do the macaroni and cheese had better put
a foot in it and break their ankle off in it. Like,
if that's how good it better be because if not,
if not, you'll never ever live it down. That's a
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pressure that, to be honest with you, I think I
can burn a little bit, but I don't want the
macaroni and cheese. Don't give me that. Don't bring me
the macaroni and cheese.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Let's talk cranberry sauce, canned or fresh?
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Ooh, you know what.
Speaker 6 (12:51):
I'm not think cranberry salce, girl, But if I had
to say, I think fresh anything is better. I think
fresh anything. I'm not a can goods kind of girl.
I like fresh products and and reients.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
I make fresh cranberry sauce.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
And I had a cousin who had yes, Pam, I'm
talking about to you, who had a melt down because
I didn't have can. So now I'm forced to have
my fresh cranberry sauce, which is good. And I ain't
just saying it because I make it, but it is
very good and can like they have to have a choice.
Speaker 7 (13:30):
You know what.
Speaker 6 (13:32):
Here's another thing.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
Let me tell you.
Speaker 6 (13:33):
Something to that point where people have these preferences of
what kind of dish they like or what they don't eat.
Another thing another don't in my household, Thanksgiving or otherwise.
Don't come over here with all these dietary restrictions.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Don't come over.
Speaker 6 (13:48):
Here talking about you don't eat this, you don't eat that,
you gluten free, you know your pescatarian, vegetarian. Don't come
up because guess what exactly what is going to be served.
This is what you're gonna eat unless you decide to
bring your own plates.
Speaker 4 (14:05):
I don't cater to dietary restriction. I don't do that.
I don't do that.
Speaker 6 (14:08):
So if I make fresh cranberry sauce, freshman cranberry sauce,
is what you're gonna get. You want canned cranberry salce,
pull it out your curse.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
It's the season for cooking and having guests over for
the holidays.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
Today we are.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Talking about holiday DU's or don'ts in the kitchen. Jocolate Divinity,
LaToya Charleston is here. Is it a high compliment if
you are the chosen one to cook the macaroni and cheese?
Speaker 16 (14:41):
Absolutely, I feel like the the two you're the chosen one,
the mac and cheese and the potato salad. Those are
the two items on the list. If you get selected
to make those you've been You've been ordained. You're basically
the saint and the family when it comes to cook.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Okay, can cranberry sauce or fresh cranberry sauce?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Listen the way these tastes was are set up. I'm
gonna do with the can. I know ocean spry.
Speaker 16 (15:09):
Sorry, I've had the fresh, but aint nothing like that
ocean spray with them ridges in it.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Well, I make a fabulous fresh cranberry sauce.
Speaker 16 (15:20):
Oh well, Patty, I'll have some of yours, but we're
gonna have to have that ocean spray to the.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
I just I just said both down. Is it acceptable?
Do you have paper plates to serve on? Paper plate?
Speaker 16 (15:33):
Yeah, depending on how many people are there. I'm telling you,
if it's more than ten people, I wish I would
pull out a real plate and serve you on. Are
you gonna do these dishes? You're gonna take this paper
plate and you're gonna be good.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Okay, toy, what do we do with the people who
can't cook? And this is not throwing shade?
Speaker 3 (15:52):
No, baby, don't bring nothing.
Speaker 16 (15:55):
If you would like to contribute something, we need napkins,
we need utensils. You can never run out of those things,
because there's always going to be another engagement. Don't come
up in here talking about I got crafty in the
kitchen and I want you all to try this out.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
No, thank you, We don't do that on this day.
Another day.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
It is always good to talk to uncle Oh when
we're talking about holiday or Thanksgiving, do or don't. He's
a veteran broadcaster. He speaks his mind. Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:24):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Okay?
Speaker 12 (16:26):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Why do you deal with people who can't cook? Do
you just tell them do not cook?
Speaker 17 (16:36):
Do not wait till Thanksgiving to experiment on things.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
You've never done before.
Speaker 17 (16:43):
If you can't make mac and cheese, do not wait
till Thanksgiving to experiment. You got a whole three hundred
and sixty four other days to experiment on that nonsense.
Don't wait till Thanksgiving and then bring it as a
dish to my house.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Do you think it's a high comm I read it
is a very high compliment if you are chosen to
cook the baked macaroni and cheese.
Speaker 17 (17:08):
Listen, everybody can't make ba baked macaroni and cheese. You
know people can't make it, and they will They will
keep making it as if it's the best thing. The
problem is, so the problem ain't the people who keep
making it. The problem is the people who don't tell
them that it's no good, so they keep making it.
So But if somebody tell you to bring baked mac
and cheese because they know they can't make it, and
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you make the best baked mac and cheese, and let
me just let y'all know, Chaddie makes the best baked
mac and cheese.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Thank you, uncle, Oh, thank you so much. You know,
you know I love to cook.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
As far as holiday etiquette, paper plates or you know, yeah,
either yeah or china, As people say, do you use
paper plate to the china?
Speaker 3 (18:01):
I think it depends on how many people you have
in your house.
Speaker 17 (18:04):
No, I don't care how many people in my house.
I'm not watching all those dishes. So it's gonna be
paper places. If you want to do something fancy, go
to a fancy restaurant. But when you come to my house,
we got plastic everything, forks, knives, spoons, and we got paper.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Plates so that you can eat. And then because you
may go back for a second.
Speaker 17 (18:23):
Dish, and I'm not gonna keep washing dishes, and you
go back for a second dish and then you want
to pack and take stuff home. So that's the other thing.
So no, I'm not gonna be having fine china out
for Thanksgiving. It's for you to mess up my dishes,
and I gotta cleaning when you leave.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Okay, one last question, Oh what do you think about
the people that be stashing food?
Speaker 5 (18:45):
Now? See them?
Speaker 17 (18:46):
The people I don't invite.
Speaker 5 (18:48):
You know, you can't invite them.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
You know who they are already. Now this ain't new,
we ain't young. We know who they are. So now
we stop.
Speaker 17 (18:54):
If you still inviting those people to the house, and
then you the problem.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
Arlene fell there glassy bread cookies.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Soon she's gonna tell what's all about the new location,
because twenty twenty five it's.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Gonna be a big year. Arlen. Are you ready for
the conversation?
Speaker 11 (19:10):
I am ready.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Okay, we're talking about holiday dudes, or don'ts What about
these people who love to stash food? They walk in
your home, they immediately start packing their plates. Has anyone eaten? No,
but they're stashing food and packing plates? Your thoughts.
Speaker 11 (19:34):
I'm laughing because can I be honest? I'm mustasher, I'm
a sash party. I know don't judge me.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
Please don't judge.
Speaker 6 (19:42):
Okay, I'm gonna tell.
Speaker 11 (19:45):
You why I'm a fashion because you know, when it's
something that is really really good, and I'm a slow eater,
so I might I might be in the conversation talking
to people, enjoying the vibe, enjoying my family members, or
enjoying my my friends giving, and the next thing, you know,
when it's time for me to eat, there's nothing there.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
There's nothing there.
Speaker 11 (20:04):
You know why, because I was running my track talking
and I've missed out on all the food. So now
what I've learned to do is to get all the
conversations in the beginning. As soon as I get in there.
Let me just start back and stack my little plate up,
so when it's time to eat, then i'll be I'll
have food. I'm sorry, I'm a fasher, but it's a
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method to my madness. It's because I'm so excited about
getting to talk to people, enjoying people haven't seen it
a long time. It's such a great vibe that I
am angry at the end when I don't have anything
to eat.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Okay, so you get you get, you get a pass.
I'm gonna give you a pass. I fix my face, Arlene.
You can't see it, but you know how my face
squinches out.
Speaker 5 (20:47):
But you.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
I know you hate it, but but you know, but
you know me.
Speaker 11 (20:53):
I enjoy a great conversation.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
Okay, let's let's continue on with the conversation.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Cranberry sauce canned afresh.
Speaker 11 (21:09):
God, this is a.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Okay, ocean spray. They do make the best. But since
I've learned to make cranberry sauce on my own, I
have both. I do make a great cranberry sauce, trialing era.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
I make a really good one. Did you ever have it?
I did when you came over the house. But Arlene,
let me tell you what I do.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I still have the one in the can for those
relatives who are like.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Where's the ocean spray?
Speaker 1 (21:48):
So we don't want, we don't want, we don't want
no fighting to break out.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
So I do have food.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Representing that younger said, of the millennials, we've got Dasia,
I guess you could say social media extraordinaire. That's how
I that's how I look at her. And she always
takes a great picture.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Dasia. We are talking about holiday dues or don't.
Speaker 6 (22:17):
It?
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Is it a high compliment if you are the one
who is chosen to cook the mac and cheese.
Speaker 11 (22:27):
Yeah, that's a huge compliment.
Speaker 14 (22:29):
If someone's trusting you would be like, that's one of
the main this is people look bored to if you're
being trusted with that, that's like a that's a huge compliment.
Speaker 9 (22:35):
What an honor?
Speaker 3 (22:36):
Yes, what a talent?
Speaker 1 (22:38):
Okay, paper plate or fine china paper plate?
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Oh okay? Because of the.
Speaker 6 (22:46):
Clean up, is it too messy?
Speaker 14 (22:50):
I will prefer a paper plate that you don't got
to do all those dishes. You people get thrown their
sulf away, get like, you know, rack up on their
plates if they want to get second or whatnot. Yet
I think it's just easier.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
What do you think about friendsgiving, which is becoming very
very popular.
Speaker 14 (23:06):
I love that idea. I think that's really cute and
cool to have with all your friends together, because sometimes
you can't mix all your friends with your family, and
everyone wants to beat with their family, so they can't
come over to your friend's house. You know, you can't
go over to your friend's house some things giving because
you're with your own families.
Speaker 12 (23:17):
I think something designated for just friends.
Speaker 6 (23:19):
I think that's a vibe.
Speaker 9 (23:20):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
We're talking about Thanksgiving do or don't. We've got sex
doctor Heather, who is a sexologist. Lexi is a doula
helping birth mothers and just helping that birthing process, and
she is walking in her calling. We're talking holiday do
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or don'ts. We're gonna start with you, doctor Heather. Paper
plates or china?
Speaker 13 (23:51):
Oh wow, listen, I say paper plates all the way,
because folks don't like helping.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
You clean up, Lexi.
Speaker 15 (24:02):
I agree, Wait all day long now my mother would
be turning over her grave right now with her fine
china that she used to like to pull out and
I used to love it until I had to wash it.
And so yes, I'm gonna go with paper polats.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
How is it a very high honor if you are
the one chosen to do the mac and geese?
Speaker 13 (24:24):
I feel like, oh yeah, because mac and teese is rough,
you know, like it's hard. A lot of people don't
like everybody's mac and cheese.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
I know.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
I've read an article that said it is a high honor.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
If you are the chosen one to do it.
Speaker 15 (24:41):
I do agree with that. Yes, I agree, it's a
high honor and high responsibility.
Speaker 5 (24:44):
Is a lot of pressure too.
Speaker 15 (24:46):
That's like bigger than the turkey.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
What about people who like to stash food?
Speaker 13 (24:56):
I know, Patty, this is your thing right here, because
I don't want all those leftovers. So I mean, but
it depends on who you are, because your Thanksgiving is
on another level, Patty, so.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
You know, well, you know i'd be running the people.
I'm gonna tell you what happens to me. The year
after I had my stroke, I said, I'm doing I'm
going back to cooking Thanksgiving dinner.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Well, it wore me out.
Speaker 1 (25:24):
It wore me out that I passed out in my recliner.
I woke up, all my damn food was going. I
couldn't even make a turkey sandwich. And this is why,
this is why you get this.
Speaker 15 (25:40):
I understand that part. I feel like, let's people get
their first round. Let's get the first round of police first,
then you can start making some stuff.
Speaker 4 (25:49):
I agree, I agree. I agree with that.
Speaker 5 (25:52):
LEXI.
Speaker 13 (25:52):
I don't like when people come in.
Speaker 9 (25:54):
So my sister does that.
Speaker 13 (25:55):
She comes in with tumbaware and packs her tumbleware up,
and I'm like, hold on, let people eat first.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
So I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Okay, here's another one, How do you deal with people
who can't cook?
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Everybody can't cook. I'm okay with you.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Just bring in the water or the spirits or the soda,
the juice.
Speaker 3 (26:16):
How do you deal with people who can't cook?
Speaker 15 (26:19):
I ask them to bring something like that or chip in,
like hey, I'm gonna you know, I'm ordering you know,
fried fish or whatever during Christmas. May be a ham
you want to put in on this, or like, yes,
please bring them paper products. We just talked about that.
Nice those nice ones. Don't bring those floppy paper plates.
Bring the good disposable please.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Okay. What about the person who think they can cook?
They think, oh I got.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
This, I got that, but we really know, please stop
because that's not good.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
How do you how do you deal with that?
Speaker 9 (26:54):
Well, you know what I do, Patty.
Speaker 13 (26:56):
I let them bring Because some people are adamant about
bringing a because they think it's a good dish. I
let them bring it and I just put it out
in the back. And it's just it shows them that
people don't want their dish because it's still the same.
Nobody got any of it and it's still there.
Speaker 15 (27:14):
Lexi, I agree with that. I haven't done it, but
I agree with it.
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Yep, I do it.
Speaker 12 (27:20):
I put it out.
Speaker 3 (27:21):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
We've got Whitney Roberts, popular social media blogger.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
She's got the download news. You's the editor. I'm doing
this all on the top of my head. Hey, love,
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
We're talking about holiday des er dunes. Your thoughts on
people who come in ain't nobody ate, ain't nobody ate, Whitney,
but they're sashing the food.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Your thoughts, Oh, absolutely not.
Speaker 8 (27:52):
That goes against all house rules and decorum, Like everybody
has to eat first before we start to make plates.
I think that's just good decorum. But it's also like
just good practice. If you're stashing away plates right now before,
like you know, half the families even like made their
plate and they're still in line, and you're like making
tough where to go.
Speaker 5 (28:12):
That's a big problem.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
Friendsgiving is becoming very big because we all know all
families don't get along. It's becoming much more popular. Your
thoughts on friendsgiving. I love the idea.
Speaker 9 (28:26):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 8 (28:27):
So I've actually been to a bunch of different friends givings.
It's just it's warm and it's inviting. It's a different
type of environment than like your normal typical Thanksgiving where
it's like, you know, you're you might be on your
a different level of like you're p's and q's because
you're in front of your grandparents or whatever. We're like
your friends, like you can cut up a little bit,
act out a little bit, you know, talk a little different,
(28:50):
loosen up a bit.
Speaker 6 (28:51):
But also it's just you know, your friends.
Speaker 8 (28:53):
Are your chosen family sometimes and so I love the
idea of bringing them together and having a time for
them as well.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
Paper plates are fine china.
Speaker 6 (29:07):
These people are not gonna like my answer for this one.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
It depends on the shindig.
Speaker 8 (29:13):
It depends like if we're having a lovely sit down Thanksgiving, please.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Give me china. But like if we're at like.
Speaker 8 (29:19):
A cutback like maybe Thanksgiving evening, like it's not like
that serious, like we already had our dinner and everybody's
changed into like their sweats, and you want to like
have a little like cut back with your friends or whatever.
Speaker 5 (29:31):
Paper plates are fine.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Cranberry sauce in the can or fresh Oh.
Speaker 9 (29:38):
No, why did you do this to be.
Speaker 8 (29:41):
This one's a scandalous one because this one gets people
into trouble. I'm I'm of the personal belief of the
can cranberry sauce. I know, call me what you want,
tacky whatever. I love a good ring.
Speaker 6 (29:55):
I love that little ring cut where the rings in
the can.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Or let me tell you something. At my home, I
have to do both. I do make a really great
fresh cranberry sauce, but.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
To keep to keep family.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Members from having a mouth down at the table, I
always had that ocean spray right there, right there.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
Absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
We are talking about Thanksgiving dews or dons, and there
are Thanksgiving dews or dones. We've got the comedian Derek
Leads joining us. It's always good to hear his opinion.
I'm good, Derek, Cranberry sauce in a can or fresh.
Speaker 18 (30:44):
Everything should be fresh for Thanksgiving. Nothing comes out of
the can for Thanksgiving. You knew Thanksgiving what's coming last Thanksgiving.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
But some people prefer the can.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Now I'm gonna tell you I make a great fresh
cranberry sauce.
Speaker 3 (30:57):
But but there are.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Some people they want that ocean spray.
Speaker 18 (31:05):
Well, you know, don't tell people that you got out
of candact like it was fresh. You know, somebody Honor's
gonna be there and they're gonna say, oh, she was lazy.
Speaker 5 (31:14):
Don't do that. Just don't tell them it comes out
the can. Don't say it.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Say it with fresh But you can't fake the funk
when it comes out of the can, because the ocean
spray is that little gem, that little shake through it.
Speaker 5 (31:26):
Men don't know the difference. We just glad to be eating.
Women might. Men don't care.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Paper plates are fine.
Speaker 18 (31:32):
China fine China is Thanksgiving. Thanksgivings once a year.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Okay, you deal with people who love to dash their food, Derek.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
They arrived at their house. They arrive at your house.
Speaker 18 (31:49):
Well, don't do that, Derek.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
They come into your home, they start packing. Nobody ate yet,
but they packed theirs up. Your thoughts, Ghatto.
Speaker 18 (32:06):
Go somewhere and sit down with all that we didn't
even eat yet, certain things that took ghetto. If dinner
served at three o'clock, don't you come in there at
three fifteen, three twenty, Auntie said, three o'clock. He's supposed
to pull up no later than two forty five, so
they can say the blessing in three.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
These are the holidays, do or don't?
Speaker 5 (32:25):
Well?
Speaker 1 (32:25):
How do you feel about people who pray too long
over the food.
Speaker 18 (32:30):
Well, well, you give them the prayer because some people
they glad to be here. It's so many people dealing
with so much stuff. You let them pray as long
as they want. That might be their last Thanksgiving. You
don't cut no prayer.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
Okay, we don't get the prayer.
Speaker 18 (32:44):
Let them do what they do. And then you also
don't walk in without nothing. And a lot of men
don't understand that. I know women get it. Don't go
nowhere for Thanksgiving and you didn't bring nothing. Even if
they say don't bring anything, you still pick up. If
you ain't got no money going down to act me
and at you a case of water or something.
Speaker 5 (33:02):
You don't come in the empty handed.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
How do you deal with people who can't cook?
Speaker 5 (33:08):
You don't say anything. You know they can't cook. You
knew all hear they couldn't cook.
Speaker 18 (33:13):
Don't say nothing, and don't ask who made the potato salad.
Speaker 5 (33:17):
Just be glad you're eating it. Just take a little bit.
Just take a little bit, that's.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
All, Derek. I always asked who's making the potatoes alad?
Speaker 1 (33:26):
That's the first thing out of my I look at it,
and you know, something looks good.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
But you still got to be like, well, who made
the potatoes? Alad, that's right.
Speaker 5 (33:35):
We want to know that before we even get there.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
There are holiday dudes or dones. Derek, thank you. If
you can't cook, here's some Auntie advice. Don't even worry
about it because you're not going to be experimenting on Thanksgiving.
It's okay to bring utensils or cup, bring ice, It's okay,
just bring something. Friends Giving is big because we know
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Speaker 3 (00:49):
After a little hiatus, we are back.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
This is the podcast conversation Patty and the Millennials. I'm
Patty Jackson, I am a baby boomer and we have
conversation with millennials, gen X, gen Z men women to
have great conversation where on the brink of a holiday.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Season and holiday dues and don'ts.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
We've got Dexter who puts all of this together and Dexter,
I couldn't wait to talk to you to hear your opinion.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
There are holiday dues and doones.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Dexter, how do you deal with people who like to
come in and start stashing their damn food. This is
before anybody eats. They're packing the plates. They're just out
of order.
Speaker 4 (01:37):
You know, it's funny that you say that, because I've
realized though, and I know we don't call them out.
You're one of these people. I'm not saying you packed plates.
But like, the cooks are the ones you really have
to watch because they make their food and they put
their food up before everybody else. Anyway, the cooks put
their food up before anybody else even comes to the house,
and then they look at everybody else sideways when people
(01:58):
start putting up their plates. But like, y'all have already
done it. So I got my eye on the cook
this year.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
What is the job of the person who just can't cook.
We're not gonna hold it against them.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
But what is their job?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Rolls plates of utensils, if if they're using plastic stuff,
you got to bring the drinks and you and you must.
Speaker 5 (02:20):
Wash the dishes.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
You have to wash the dishes because bringing in utensules
and juices is nice, but like, do some put some
effort into this and wash the dishes out?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Which brings me to this and this is something that
Doc B had on his social media.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Paper plates or china.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Well, see, I'm a paper plate person like in my
regular life, like I'll use paper plates. So for Thanksgiving
and for Christmas, I feel like you should. You should
bring out the regular china. Like I want to eat
on something nice. I want to hear my fort click.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I like that canned cranberry sauce or rush cranberry sauce.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Oh you're not gonna like this answer, but please only
bring the cranberry sauce ocean spray out of the can,
like I only want the can.
Speaker 6 (03:11):
Well, pe would be like people be like I slaved
and I made this this fresh cranberry sauce.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
And I'd be like, okay, but did you get the
can as well?
Speaker 3 (03:19):
See in my house I have to have both.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
I had a cousin who had a complete mouthdown because
they didn't.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Have the can.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
But I must say, in the Jackson household, I make
a me fresh cranberry sauce. But I know there are
those who are like Patty with ocean Spray. On this
edition of the podcast Patty and the Millennials, we're talking
about dues and don'ts.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
We've got Reese.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
He is representing jen Z going to be graduating from
Saint Joe's next spring.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Holidays. Dues are don'ts. How do you deal with people
who can't cook? Reese?
Speaker 7 (03:58):
Oh man, the people who don't show up or don't
bring anything, I'd rather say, like, please.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Don't you?
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Would you say maybe bring ice?
Speaker 7 (04:06):
Yeah, bring ice, bring some drinks. You know you can
bring a store bought pie. I don't mind it, Just
don't make anything. What do you do about the people.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Who come to your home and they immediately start stashing.
Speaker 7 (04:18):
Foo Oh my gosh, you see I have uncles who
do that, and it's like, come on, please, I'm not
your servant. Please enjoy the food with the family, and
don't it's just unnecessary.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
You're having the holiday dinner our paper plates? Acceptable question?
Speaker 8 (04:41):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (04:42):
I think it is just because dishes on Thanksgiving is
probably one of my worst nightmares. So that's the only
time I'll take paper plates. But get like the nice
festive designer ones, just don't get no dollar tree ones
like get the nice ones.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Desi Nili is joining us the podcast conversation Patty in
the millennials, does he were you aware that there are
holiday dudes?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
And don'ts?
Speaker 5 (05:08):
Okay, so now I don't know.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Let me see.
Speaker 6 (05:10):
I can't tell with you, Auntie.
Speaker 5 (05:11):
Let me see.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Well, people who can cook? What do we do with
those special people?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Do we ban them from the kitchen? Or say past
the blades?
Speaker 9 (05:23):
My lord?
Speaker 10 (05:24):
You go get all the utensils, you make sure they pretty.
Speaker 11 (05:27):
You get the decorations.
Speaker 10 (05:28):
You bring all that stuff, and you be the hostess,
but don't bring none to eat, because we.
Speaker 9 (05:32):
Don't want need no food sitting out grocery through eye?
Speaker 1 (05:36):
What do you do with people who come in the
door and start stashing food?
Speaker 10 (05:40):
Oh, Auntie, okay.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
First of all, no.
Speaker 10 (05:46):
Containers even hit the table until after the meal is served.
Speaker 9 (05:50):
The containers are fast.
Speaker 10 (05:52):
If they come in with the containers, they have to
put the containers away.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Because what you're not gonna do is get yours.
Speaker 10 (05:57):
And especially if you ain't prepared at all, and if
you wanted to save something, you should have made yourself
a small one before you brought the main one.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I do think a lot of people should cook before
they come to someone else's house because the people who
do the cooking, the people that are the hosts, well,
they want some left over too.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
At least to make sandwich, atast.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
One year, it was the year after I had my
stroke and I cooked dinner and was knocked out, girl,
knocked all the way out. I woke up, my kitchen
on was beyond clean. They ain't leave me nothing, no fool.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Nothing.
Speaker 10 (06:43):
Because okay, for the person that prepares, as long as
you're not digging out of the one thing I hate
to see if you serve the table, I need that
magaroni cheese hole, I need you know what I'm saying,
don't have nothing scooped out. But in that instance, you
should have a whole meal prepared for yourself and already
set aside before the folks get there, because no, yeah,
(07:03):
you do deserve to eat. Now, that's just not fair.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Okay, here's one quick question. Let's start. Cranberry sauce canned
or fresh. I'm a fan afresh because I make a
very good, very good fresh cranberry sauce. But I have too,
I have the can in the fresh. What are your thoughts.
Speaker 10 (07:28):
After having your cranberry sauce that I saw being prepared
with my own two eyes and my glasses on top,
I will never eat anybody else's cranberry sauce that can
jiggly wiggly is not gonna happen because I have been
exposed to Auntie's.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
Cranberry sauce, and no other will do.
Speaker 10 (07:47):
But it's you can't get aunties now. I will say
that Boston Market got a mean money because you can
tell it's real because it has the cranberry and the
orange inside. But after you experienced aunties, you ain't eat
nothing else.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Thanksgiving holiday dues or don'ts It's that time of the
year when family could be coming by, or you could
be coming by with family.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Author Kim Reid is joining us.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
She is the author of a great book Optimis always wins.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Kim, what do we do with the people who can't cook?
Speaker 1 (08:21):
We don't want to banish them, but what role do
the person? Because a lot of people freak out, but
it's a go if you can't cook. I am grateful
that you are honest.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
About what you could do. What do we do with
the people who can't cook?
Speaker 5 (08:39):
Well?
Speaker 9 (08:39):
Because I know I'm not cutting cake at your house.
So I already knew that, you know, because you already
throw shade. So you know what I had to deal
with my self esteem on that. Okay, I don't cut cake. Okay,
but people who come over to the house, you know,
it's so funny. I give them plate duty. I tell
(09:01):
them makes a fabulous cocktail and bring it for everyone
to try.
Speaker 12 (09:05):
You know, you have to keep You still have to
empower people. Right, Yes, some people don't know how to
make potato salad. Lord, have mercy. Then you don't have
them make potato salad. You tell them that.
Speaker 9 (09:18):
This year you have plenty of potato salads and you
can please bring the important part, which is the fabulous
bottle of champagne.
Speaker 13 (09:27):
Right.
Speaker 9 (09:28):
Sure, you got to empower people, and it's the way
you say it. It's in your language and your messaging, Patty,
because as you know, I was only hurt for two
point five seconds, and then we laughed about my none
cutting cake.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Ass see, never gonna let me let it down.
Speaker 9 (09:49):
No, no, I'm not.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
But it's okay if you can't cook that. That's a
basic message that we're saying.
Speaker 9 (09:58):
Oh totally, it's okay if you can't cook. Let me
tell you something. In my twenties and thirties, I could
not cook worth a lick. But now I get sit
in patty.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Okay, we're gonna put you to the test, but not
this holiday season.
Speaker 6 (10:14):
You know what.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Most sche le.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
Wren is joining, I said, I just love her voice
and her opinion. We're talking about holiday dew or don'ts
oh shay. How to tell people who walk in and
start packing those plates. They barely say hi to you,
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but they walk right by you and they see the
food and they are packing the plates.
Speaker 6 (10:47):
So here's the thing. The funny part about that is
that is my family. That is my family, and that
is what they are accustomed to doing until they hit
my door. Because when they hit my door, you leave
all your to gold can in your car because we
are not bringing those out into the very end of
the night. They will bring containers and start packing there
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to gold place before they pack their plate that they're
gonna eat. That's that's a no no. We don't do
that here at my house.
Speaker 14 (11:15):
Mm hm.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
You come here and whatever is left over we can
all share and take home. But that's a that's a huge.
Speaker 13 (11:21):
No no for me.
Speaker 6 (11:22):
Okay, I'll do that.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Now do you make that? Do you make that announcement?
I like it when they walk in like, don't be
coming in here doing that?
Speaker 15 (11:33):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (11:33):
Absolutely, yeah.
Speaker 6 (11:34):
See I'm no hold bar, I don't. I don't mince
words very well. I'm learning that that level of the quorum,
but I'm still God is still working on me there,
so they know that. If I see it too early on,
I'm like, and so what are we doing with that?
Speaker 12 (11:47):
Oh?
Speaker 6 (11:47):
Okay, because I'm gonna need you to put that over
there until everybody has had a chance to dip in
the pot. And then at the end, should there be
any less.
Speaker 4 (11:55):
You're more than welcome to take it with you.
Speaker 6 (11:56):
Oh, I say it straight up.
Speaker 9 (11:58):
I don't.
Speaker 6 (11:58):
I don't beat around the bushchair Okay.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Is it a very high compliment, because this is what
I read.
Speaker 1 (12:04):
It's a high compliment if you are the chosen one
to cook the macaroni and cheese.
Speaker 6 (12:12):
Oh absolutely, it's covet it. Macaroni and cheese and any
black household is mandatory. And the person that gets the
assignment to do the macaroni and cheese had better put
a foot in it and break their ankle off in it. Like,
if that's how good it better be because if not,
if not, you'll never ever live it down. That's a
(12:35):
pressure that, to be honest with you, I think I
can burn a little bit, but I don't want the
macaroni and cheese. Don't give me that. Don't bring me
the macaroni and cheese.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Let's talk cranberry sauce, canned or fresh?
Speaker 4 (12:49):
Ooh, you know what.
Speaker 6 (12:51):
I'm not think cranberry salce, girl, But if I had
to say, I think fresh anything is better. I think
fresh anything. I'm not a can goods kind of girl.
I like fresh products and and reients.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
I make fresh cranberry sauce.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
And I had a cousin who had yes, Pam, I'm
talking about to you, who had a melt down because
I didn't have can. So now I'm forced to have
my fresh cranberry sauce, which is good. And I ain't
just saying it because I make it, but it is
very good and can like they have to have a choice.
Speaker 7 (13:30):
You know what.
Speaker 6 (13:32):
Here's another thing.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
Let me tell you.
Speaker 6 (13:33):
Something to that point where people have these preferences of
what kind of dish they like or what they don't eat.
Another thing another don't in my household, Thanksgiving or otherwise.
Don't come over here with all these dietary restrictions.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Don't come over.
Speaker 6 (13:48):
Here talking about you don't eat this, you don't eat that,
you gluten free, you know your pescatarian, vegetarian. Don't come
up because guess what exactly what is going to be served.
This is what you're gonna eat unless you decide to
bring your own plates.
Speaker 4 (14:05):
I don't cater to dietary restriction. I don't do that.
I don't do that.
Speaker 6 (14:08):
So if I make fresh cranberry sauce, freshman cranberry sauce,
is what you're gonna get. You want canned cranberry salce,
pull it out your curse.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
It's the season for cooking and having guests over for
the holidays.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
Today we are.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
Talking about holiday DU's or don'ts in the kitchen. Jocolate Divinity,
LaToya Charleston is here. Is it a high compliment if
you are the chosen one to cook the macaroni and cheese?
Speaker 16 (14:41):
Absolutely, I feel like the the two you're the chosen one,
the mac and cheese and the potato salad. Those are
the two items on the list. If you get selected
to make those you've been You've been ordained. You're basically
the saint and the family when it comes to cook.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Okay, can cranberry sauce or fresh cranberry sauce?
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Listen the way these tastes was are set up. I'm
gonna do with the can. I know ocean spry.
Speaker 16 (15:09):
Sorry, I've had the fresh, but aint nothing like that
ocean spray with them ridges in it.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Well, I make a fabulous fresh cranberry sauce.
Speaker 16 (15:20):
Oh well, Patty, I'll have some of yours, but we're
gonna have to have that ocean spray to the.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
I just I just said both down. Is it acceptable?
Do you have paper plates to serve on? Paper plate?
Speaker 16 (15:33):
Yeah, depending on how many people are there. I'm telling you,
if it's more than ten people, I wish I would
pull out a real plate and serve you on. Are
you gonna do these dishes? You're gonna take this paper
plate and you're gonna be good.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Okay, toy, what do we do with the people who
can't cook? And this is not throwing shade?
Speaker 3 (15:52):
No, baby, don't bring nothing.
Speaker 16 (15:55):
If you would like to contribute something, we need napkins,
we need utensils. You can never run out of those things,
because there's always going to be another engagement. Don't come
up in here talking about I got crafty in the
kitchen and I want you all to try this out.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
No, thank you, We don't do that on this day.
Another day.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
It is always good to talk to uncle Oh when
we're talking about holiday or Thanksgiving, do or don't. He's
a veteran broadcaster. He speaks his mind. Are you ready?
Speaker 5 (16:24):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Okay?
Speaker 12 (16:26):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Why do you deal with people who can't cook? Do
you just tell them do not cook?
Speaker 17 (16:36):
Do not wait till Thanksgiving to experiment on things.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
You've never done before.
Speaker 17 (16:43):
If you can't make mac and cheese, do not wait
till Thanksgiving to experiment. You got a whole three hundred
and sixty four other days to experiment on that nonsense.
Don't wait till Thanksgiving and then bring it as a
dish to my house.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
Do you think it's a high comm I read it
is a very high compliment if you are chosen to
cook the baked macaroni and cheese.
Speaker 17 (17:08):
Listen, everybody can't make ba baked macaroni and cheese. You
know people can't make it, and they will They will
keep making it as if it's the best thing. The
problem is, so the problem ain't the people who keep
making it. The problem is the people who don't tell
them that it's no good, so they keep making it.
So But if somebody tell you to bring baked mac
and cheese because they know they can't make it, and
(17:30):
you make the best baked mac and cheese, and let
me just let y'all know, Chaddie makes the best baked
mac and cheese.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Thank you, uncle, Oh, thank you so much. You know,
you know I love to cook.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
As far as holiday etiquette, paper plates or you know, yeah,
either yeah or china, As people say, do you use
paper plate to the china?
Speaker 3 (18:01):
I think it depends on how many people you have
in your house.
Speaker 17 (18:04):
No, I don't care how many people in my house.
I'm not watching all those dishes. So it's gonna be
paper places. If you want to do something fancy, go
to a fancy restaurant. But when you come to my house,
we got plastic everything, forks, knives, spoons, and we got paper.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Plates so that you can eat. And then because you
may go back for a second.
Speaker 17 (18:23):
Dish, and I'm not gonna keep washing dishes, and you
go back for a second dish and then you want
to pack and take stuff home. So that's the other thing.
So no, I'm not gonna be having fine china out
for Thanksgiving. It's for you to mess up my dishes,
and I gotta cleaning when you leave.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Okay, one last question, Oh what do you think about
the people that be stashing food?
Speaker 5 (18:45):
Now? See them?
Speaker 17 (18:46):
The people I don't invite.
Speaker 5 (18:48):
You know, you can't invite them.
Speaker 3 (18:49):
You know who they are already. Now this ain't new,
we ain't young. We know who they are. So now
we stop.
Speaker 17 (18:54):
If you still inviting those people to the house, and
then you the problem.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
Arlene fell there glassy bread cookies.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Soon she's gonna tell what's all about the new location,
because twenty twenty five it's.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
Gonna be a big year. Arlen. Are you ready for
the conversation?
Speaker 11 (19:10):
I am ready.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Okay, we're talking about holiday dudes, or don'ts What about
these people who love to stash food? They walk in
your home, they immediately start packing their plates. Has anyone eaten? No,
but they're stashing food and packing plates? Your thoughts.
Speaker 11 (19:34):
I'm laughing because can I be honest? I'm mustasher, I'm
a sash party. I know don't judge me.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
Please don't judge.
Speaker 6 (19:42):
Okay, I'm gonna tell.
Speaker 11 (19:45):
You why I'm a fashion because you know, when it's
something that is really really good, and I'm a slow eater,
so I might I might be in the conversation talking
to people, enjoying the vibe, enjoying my family members, or
enjoying my my friends giving, and the next thing, you know,
when it's time for me to eat, there's nothing there.
Speaker 4 (20:04):
There's nothing there.
Speaker 11 (20:04):
You know why, because I was running my track talking
and I've missed out on all the food. So now
what I've learned to do is to get all the
conversations in the beginning. As soon as I get in there.
Let me just start back and stack my little plate up,
so when it's time to eat, then i'll be I'll
have food. I'm sorry, I'm a fasher, but it's a
(20:25):
method to my madness. It's because I'm so excited about
getting to talk to people, enjoying people haven't seen it
a long time. It's such a great vibe that I
am angry at the end when I don't have anything
to eat.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Okay, so you get you get, you get a pass.
I'm gonna give you a pass. I fix my face, Arlene.
You can't see it, but you know how my face
squinches out.
Speaker 5 (20:47):
But you.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
I know you hate it, but but you know, but
you know me.
Speaker 11 (20:53):
I enjoy a great conversation.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
Okay, let's let's continue on with the conversation.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Cranberry sauce canned afresh.
Speaker 11 (21:09):
God, this is a.
Speaker 1 (21:17):
Okay, ocean spray. They do make the best. But since
I've learned to make cranberry sauce on my own, I
have both. I do make a great cranberry sauce, trialing era.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
I make a really good one. Did you ever have it?
I did when you came over the house. But Arlene,
let me tell you what I do.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I still have the one in the can for those
relatives who are like.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Where's the ocean spray?
Speaker 1 (21:48):
So we don't want, we don't want, we don't want
no fighting to break out.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
So I do have food.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Representing that younger said, of the millennials, we've got Dasia,
I guess you could say social media extraordinaire. That's how
I that's how I look at her. And she always
takes a great picture.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Dasia. We are talking about holiday dues or don't.
Speaker 6 (22:17):
It?
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Is it a high compliment if you are the one
who is chosen to cook the mac and cheese.
Speaker 11 (22:27):
Yeah, that's a huge compliment.
Speaker 14 (22:29):
If someone's trusting you would be like, that's one of
the main this is people look bored to if you're
being trusted with that, that's like a that's a huge compliment.
Speaker 9 (22:35):
What an honor?
Speaker 3 (22:36):
Yes, what a talent?
Speaker 1 (22:38):
Okay, paper plate or fine china paper plate?
Speaker 3 (22:43):
Oh okay? Because of the.
Speaker 6 (22:46):
Clean up, is it too messy?
Speaker 14 (22:50):
I will prefer a paper plate that you don't got
to do all those dishes. You people get thrown their
sulf away, get like, you know, rack up on their
plates if they want to get second or whatnot. Yet
I think it's just easier.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
What do you think about friendsgiving, which is becoming very
very popular.
Speaker 14 (23:06):
I love that idea. I think that's really cute and
cool to have with all your friends together, because sometimes
you can't mix all your friends with your family, and
everyone wants to beat with their family, so they can't
come over to your friend's house. You know, you can't
go over to your friend's house some things giving because
you're with your own families.
Speaker 12 (23:17):
I think something designated for just friends.
Speaker 6 (23:19):
I think that's a vibe.
Speaker 9 (23:20):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
We're talking about Thanksgiving do or don't. We've got sex
doctor Heather, who is a sexologist. Lexi is a doula
helping birth mothers and just helping that birthing process, and
she is walking in her calling. We're talking holiday do
(23:44):
or don'ts. We're gonna start with you, doctor Heather. Paper
plates or china?
Speaker 13 (23:51):
Oh wow, listen, I say paper plates all the way,
because folks don't like helping.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
You clean up, Lexi.
Speaker 15 (24:02):
I agree, Wait all day long now my mother would
be turning over her grave right now with her fine
china that she used to like to pull out and
I used to love it until I had to wash it.
And so yes, I'm gonna go with paper polats.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
How is it a very high honor if you are
the one chosen to do the mac and geese?
Speaker 13 (24:24):
I feel like, oh yeah, because mac and teese is rough,
you know, like it's hard. A lot of people don't
like everybody's mac and cheese.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
I know.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
I've read an article that said it is a high honor.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
If you are the chosen one to do it.
Speaker 15 (24:41):
I do agree with that. Yes, I agree, it's a
high honor and high responsibility.
Speaker 5 (24:44):
Is a lot of pressure too.
Speaker 15 (24:46):
That's like bigger than the turkey.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
What about people who like to stash food?
Speaker 13 (24:56):
I know, Patty, this is your thing right here, because
I don't want all those leftovers. So I mean, but
it depends on who you are, because your Thanksgiving is
on another level, Patty, so.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
You know, well, you know i'd be running the people.
I'm gonna tell you what happens to me. The year
after I had my stroke, I said, I'm doing I'm
going back to cooking Thanksgiving dinner.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
Well, it wore me out.
Speaker 1 (25:24):
It wore me out that I passed out in my recliner.
I woke up, all my damn food was going. I
couldn't even make a turkey sandwich. And this is why,
this is why you get this.
Speaker 15 (25:40):
I understand that part. I feel like, let's people get
their first round. Let's get the first round of police first,
then you can start making some stuff.
Speaker 4 (25:49):
I agree, I agree. I agree with that.
Speaker 5 (25:52):
LEXI.
Speaker 13 (25:52):
I don't like when people come in.
Speaker 9 (25:54):
So my sister does that.
Speaker 13 (25:55):
She comes in with tumbaware and packs her tumbleware up,
and I'm like, hold on, let people eat first.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
So I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Okay, here's another one, How do you deal with people
who can't cook?
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Everybody can't cook. I'm okay with you.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Just bring in the water or the spirits or the soda,
the juice.
Speaker 3 (26:16):
How do you deal with people who can't cook?
Speaker 15 (26:19):
I ask them to bring something like that or chip in,
like hey, I'm gonna you know, I'm ordering you know,
fried fish or whatever during Christmas. May be a ham
you want to put in on this, or like, yes,
please bring them paper products. We just talked about that.
Nice those nice ones. Don't bring those floppy paper plates.
Bring the good disposable please.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
Okay. What about the person who think they can cook?
They think, oh I got.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
This, I got that, but we really know, please stop
because that's not good.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
How do you how do you deal with that?
Speaker 9 (26:54):
Well, you know what I do, Patty.
Speaker 13 (26:56):
I let them bring Because some people are adamant about
bringing a because they think it's a good dish. I
let them bring it and I just put it out
in the back. And it's just it shows them that
people don't want their dish because it's still the same.
Nobody got any of it and it's still there.
Speaker 15 (27:14):
Lexi, I agree with that. I haven't done it, but
I agree with it.
Speaker 4 (27:19):
Yep, I do it.
Speaker 12 (27:20):
I put it out.
Speaker 3 (27:21):
Yep.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
We've got Whitney Roberts, popular social media blogger.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
She's got the download news. You's the editor. I'm doing
this all on the top of my head. Hey, love,
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
We're talking about holiday des er dunes. Your thoughts on
people who come in ain't nobody ate, ain't nobody ate, Whitney,
but they're sashing the food.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Your thoughts, Oh, absolutely not.
Speaker 8 (27:52):
That goes against all house rules and decorum, Like everybody
has to eat first before we start to make plates.
I think that's just good decorum. But it's also like
just good practice. If you're stashing away plates right now before,
like you know, half the families even like made their
plate and they're still in line, and you're like making
tough where to go.
Speaker 5 (28:12):
That's a big problem.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
Friendsgiving is becoming very big because we all know all
families don't get along. It's becoming much more popular. Your
thoughts on friendsgiving. I love the idea.
Speaker 9 (28:26):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 8 (28:27):
So I've actually been to a bunch of different friends givings.
It's just it's warm and it's inviting. It's a different
type of environment than like your normal typical Thanksgiving where
it's like, you know, you're you might be on your
a different level of like you're p's and q's because
you're in front of your grandparents or whatever. We're like
your friends, like you can cut up a little bit,
act out a little bit, you know, talk a little different,
(28:50):
loosen up a bit.
Speaker 6 (28:51):
But also it's just you know, your friends.
Speaker 8 (28:53):
Are your chosen family sometimes and so I love the
idea of bringing them together and having a time for
them as well.
Speaker 3 (29:01):
Paper plates are fine china.
Speaker 6 (29:07):
These people are not gonna like my answer for this one.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
It depends on the shindig.
Speaker 8 (29:13):
It depends like if we're having a lovely sit down Thanksgiving, please.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Give me china. But like if we're at like.
Speaker 8 (29:19):
A cutback like maybe Thanksgiving evening, like it's not like
that serious, like we already had our dinner and everybody's
changed into like their sweats, and you want to like
have a little like cut back with your friends or whatever.
Speaker 5 (29:31):
Paper plates are fine.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Cranberry sauce in the can or fresh Oh.
Speaker 9 (29:38):
No, why did you do this to be.
Speaker 8 (29:41):
This one's a scandalous one because this one gets people
into trouble. I'm I'm of the personal belief of the
can cranberry sauce. I know, call me what you want,
tacky whatever. I love a good ring.
Speaker 6 (29:55):
I love that little ring cut where the rings in
the can.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Or let me tell you something. At my home, I
have to do both. I do make a really great
fresh cranberry sauce, but.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
To keep to keep family.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Members from having a mouth down at the table, I
always had that ocean spray right there, right there.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
Absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
We are talking about Thanksgiving dews or dons, and there
are Thanksgiving dews or dones. We've got the comedian Derek
Leads joining us. It's always good to hear his opinion.
I'm good, Derek, Cranberry sauce in a can or fresh.
Speaker 18 (30:44):
Everything should be fresh for Thanksgiving. Nothing comes out of
the can for Thanksgiving. You knew Thanksgiving what's coming last Thanksgiving.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
But some people prefer the can.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Now I'm gonna tell you I make a great fresh
cranberry sauce.
Speaker 3 (30:57):
But but there are.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Some people they want that ocean spray.
Speaker 18 (31:05):
Well, you know, don't tell people that you got out
of candact like it was fresh. You know, somebody Honor's
gonna be there and they're gonna say, oh, she was lazy.
Speaker 5 (31:14):
Don't do that. Just don't tell them it comes out
the can. Don't say it.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Say it with fresh But you can't fake the funk
when it comes out of the can, because the ocean
spray is that little gem, that little shake through it.
Speaker 5 (31:26):
Men don't know the difference. We just glad to be eating.
Women might. Men don't care.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Paper plates are fine.
Speaker 18 (31:32):
China fine China is Thanksgiving. Thanksgivings once a year.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Okay, you deal with people who love to dash their food, Derek.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
They arrived at their house. They arrive at your house.
Speaker 18 (31:49):
Well, don't do that, Derek.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
They come into your home, they start packing. Nobody ate yet,
but they packed theirs up. Your thoughts, Ghatto.
Speaker 18 (32:06):
Go somewhere and sit down with all that we didn't
even eat yet, certain things that took ghetto. If dinner
served at three o'clock, don't you come in there at
three fifteen, three twenty, Auntie said, three o'clock. He's supposed
to pull up no later than two forty five, so
they can say the blessing in three.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
These are the holidays, do or don't?
Speaker 5 (32:25):
Well?
Speaker 1 (32:25):
How do you feel about people who pray too long
over the food.
Speaker 18 (32:30):
Well, well, you give them the prayer because some people
they glad to be here. It's so many people dealing
with so much stuff. You let them pray as long
as they want. That might be their last Thanksgiving. You
don't cut no prayer.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
Okay, we don't get the prayer.
Speaker 18 (32:44):
Let them do what they do. And then you also
don't walk in without nothing. And a lot of men
don't understand that. I know women get it. Don't go
nowhere for Thanksgiving and you didn't bring nothing. Even if
they say don't bring anything, you still pick up. If
you ain't got no money going down to act me
and at you a case of water or something.
Speaker 5 (33:02):
You don't come in the empty handed.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
How do you deal with people who can't cook?
Speaker 5 (33:08):
You don't say anything. You know they can't cook. You
knew all hear they couldn't cook.
Speaker 18 (33:13):
Don't say nothing, and don't ask who made the potato salad.
Speaker 5 (33:17):
Just be glad you're eating it. Just take a little bit.
Just take a little bit, that's.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
All, Derek. I always asked who's making the potatoes alad?
Speaker 1 (33:26):
That's the first thing out of my I look at it,
and you know, something looks good.
Speaker 3 (33:31):
But you still got to be like, well, who made
the potatoes? Alad, that's right.
Speaker 5 (33:35):
We want to know that before we even get there.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
There are holiday dudes or dones. Derek, thank you. If
you can't cook, here's some Auntie advice. Don't even worry
about it because you're not going to be experimenting on Thanksgiving.
It's okay to bring utensils or cup, bring ice, It's okay,
just bring something. Friends Giving is big because we know
(34:03):
all families do not get along. So celebrate the way
in which you like. This is the podcast conversation Patty
and the Millennials and we just we just talked about anything.
Speaker 3 (34:17):
Good. Conversation is a musk. Thanks for joining us.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
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