MEETING SHAKIRA IN TIMES SQUARE

In tonight’s episode of “Crystal’s Nightcap” we meet Shakira at Times Square, I get invited to speak at Career Day, a man hits on me in front of my boyfriend Zaddy, the bi-gender restroom rebuttal, my first umbrella swap, and MORE!

Episode Transcript

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Hello to your beautiful arm anchor.It's at Crystal LSAZ. Back with another
episode of Crystal's Nightcap. Tonight,we meet Shakira at Times Square here in
New York City. I got invitedto speak at career day for school here.
Plus, I'm having a Facebook marketfight with Zaddi's sister, the by
Gender Restroom Rebuttal, and my firstumbrella swap Get Usa. My name is

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Crystal Rosas. I'm a twenty somethingLatina who just moved from California to the
Big Apple Happy. Sorry that wasmy cat frappuccino. They're still getting used
to the city life. Anyways,Where was I am? Oh yeah,
I take over afternoon radio every dayon the world famous Z one hundred.
But when night falls, I'm lookingfor all the cloud I can get and

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casually searching these streets for my princeCharming. Come on this sexy single journey
where we'll go on a date witha new guy from the apps every week,
host red carpets and interviews, andweasel our way into the secret society
of New York's top social lights.Oh yeah, and someone's always that's my
overprotective mom. This is Crystal's Nightcap. Thank you for giving me some grace.

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Let me take last week off,Zaddie. My boyfriend was in town,
and I just I want to makesure that I'm spending as much time
with him as possible. We spenta lot of time together. We did
a lot of things. It wasso much fun. And I didn't get
to catch up with you even lastweek. So we're gonna get straight into
it. Thank you so much forlistening. Please subscribe if you have not.
I'm live in New York City onMonday through Friday two to six and

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for the New hit List every singleweeknight eleven to midnight. I'm on tons
of stations on the weekend, sojust see which ones and for which times
on everything on socials, I'm atLa Crystal Little Sas and let's just let's
let's get into it. Sit back, relax. It's Crystal's Nightcap. I'm

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feeling good today, even though Iwoke up at seven in the morning,
which is like four in the morningif you usually wake up at seven in
the morning for me, because Iusually like to wake up around noon depending
on the day. I mean alot of the times I do have to
wake up maybe nine or ten sevenfor me these days because my shift technically
starts at two in the afternoon.You know, it's something good, it's

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some cute and I'm so thankful.I was on a good day Fox,
their like lifestyle TV show here it'slocal and New York City celebrating our twenty
twenty four iHeartRadio Music Awards, whichis live on Fox. So I was
just kind of giving a recap upwhat's going to go on tonight, and
I got to announce Album of theYear Pop Album of the Year the winner,

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Olivia Rodrigo. So I'm all glamedup. I'm in a head to
toe juice vulore pink tracksuit. Ihave my blinked out shoes on my press
on nails. I have my righteyelash that's like literally ungngluing right now.
But nonetheless, I'm just so happyit's noon in New York City. I
have my iced coffee, I hadsome leftover meat balls, and I warmed

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up here at work, and I'mjust really happy to be hanging out with
you. It's been a second.We have so much to catch up on.
I was invited for career Day.How cute is this? I haven't
even done a career day in theBay when I lived back home, and
one of my really awesome co workershere, her son is like nine ten

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years old. We got to goto an ice hockey show together, a
game show Disney on nice hockey version. No. I got to go see
at Ubs Arena their hockey game andshe brought her son. And I love
kids. I just I love littlekids. They're so awesome. You know.

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Me and my soul body. No, my god son, my little
nephew, the duck Alex are reallyclose. And my coworker son is around
his age. He just like reallyreminds me of Alex. I just had
so much fun at the game withhim. We became besties. And whenever
she brings him to the studio tothe station, he always is asking to
stop by and say hi to me. And she comes into the student She's

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like, Crystal, you are beingrequested for a career day. He wants
you to do career day at hisschool. Is that okay? Are you
down with that? I'm like,are you kidding me? I've never done
a career day. This is adream. The fact that I get to
do a career day in New YorkCity for Manhattan children is amazing. So
I got to do career day forPS eleven, the kids in the fourth

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grade, and I go in there. I was so excited. It smells
like crayons and erasers and pencils.I just ah the hallways. You know,
those smells are the same, nomatter what coast, no matter what
school like. It literally smells likea school mayor, and I just missed
it. And I love to singall the little kids. And you know,
these Manhattan kids are just so muchmore advanced and developed, and like

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they're literally walking the streets of NewYork sometimes even by themselves at like nine
years old. So they're just reallygood, smart kids. I was able
to sit in for like half anhour and watch them until the end of
their class, and then their teacherinvited me up and I gave a little
short spiel about how I got intoradio and what I do with iHeart and
the amazing job that I have,and then I opened it up for questions

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and this little girl raises her hand, She's like, are you rich?
That was her first question, Andif she knew what I agreed to move
to New York City for, tomove here and to live here, and
to work my job. She wouldknow. But on the other hand,
I'm very blessed because I get endorsementsand sponsors, and so if it wasn't

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for that, I would really reallybe struggling. But at the end of
the day, if you live inManhattan, you're fine, You're thriving,
you're rich. So all I toldher, I didn't tell her all that.
All I told her was like,you know what. Because everyone started
laughing. The teacher's like, youdon't ask that, and I was like,
if we all live in Manhattan,we are rich, so we're all
rich. And then some kids arelike, no, we're not rich,

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blah blah blah. I was.I was heaving, hollering. What they
really cared about was if I wasa swifty. Someone always have raised her
hand as they're like, are youswifty, and I'm like, yes,
I'm a diehard swifty and half ofthe class was like, no, boo,
get her out kill her. Andthen the other half was like,
yes, swifty, Yes, welove you. Sho was very polarizing.

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Another little kid raised his hand andhe's like, are you a directioner?
And I was like, I dolove Harry Styles. I do love Louis
Tomlinson, but I'm not a directioner. And then again half the class was
like yeah, yeah, yeah,we hate one direction. And then the
class was like boom, like welove the one direction. It was just

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so funny. They were asking aboutthey were they were literally eight years old,
nine years old asking about xxx.Then fansition that rapper that passed away
a few years ago. I waslike, how do you guys even know
about him? We were like fourwhen that happened. No, no,
they were like seven. You know, my math is bad, but I'm
just like, how do you guyseven know about him? They really like

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Ice Spice. Ice Spice is likethe Ish and that girl. They love
Billie Eilish, they love Olivia orOld the Eagle, like they're really into
it, like they know everybody.They like Drake and twenty one Savage,
so they're really about it. They'rereally in the know. And then afterwards

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they were like, can we getyour autograph? And I was like,
you know what, I actually havestickers for all of you guys. I
have like little annoying like La CrystalRoal Sa stickers. So I passed them
out and they love them. Andthen they each got index cards in their
pens, and they asked me toliterally write my autograph for them and also
write their names, like they keptasking for more and more, like they're
like, okay, we were autographed, and then after like ten kids just

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like, oh, can you writemy name please? I'm like, oh,
yeah, I hate what's your name? Michelle? Okay here Michelle?
Oh can you write my first andlast name? Okay? What's your Eric?
Really? Okay? Here you're Eric. Oh it's with the scendy k
Oh, my bad. It wasso cute, like they are just the
cutest, very smart, very sweet, and just a really good behaved class.
Like I was shook because my class. I thank goodness. I was

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so lucky that my parents had mybrother and I in Catholic school. So
I was at the same thirty fivekids from kindergarten to eighth grade. And
our class was so bad. Ourclass was such bullies to each other and
tormented each other so bad that theyhad to bring a class therapist, Like
they had to outsource and bring atherapist for us to talk. I was

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so mad, Like I think thiswas a sixth or seventh grade, maybe
the fifth. Honestly, I forgotbut our class was so unhinged that the
therapist had to come to give usan entire day of counseling. And I
was sick that day and I couldn'tgo. And then my besty Izzy was
like, oh my gosh, youmissed everything, and she gave me an
entire brendown of like what happened.Like our classmates were like screaming at the

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top of the lungs to each other, calling each other bad names and bad
words like it was crazy. Butyeah, our class was really bad.
These kids ten out of ten NewYork City Public School System in Manhattan.
I don't know about the other boroughs, but it seems like you guys are
doing really good for the Midtown area. So thank you for that. Thank
you PS one to eleven. Reallyappreciate it. Now what else is going

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on? I am now a Facebookmarketplace addict, and I could thank my
boyfriend Zaddy's sister. She is amazing. She is a queen. I've always
wanted a sister, Like I didn'ttruly want a sister growing up because I
didn't want to have to share clotheswith anybody, and I lived all the
attension of being like the only littlegirl in my family really, but I

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love the dynamic of me and Zaddyand his sister. Him and her are
really close. I really love thatabout him and about their family, and
they've really absorbed me too, andlike we're constantly everyday texting in group chats
and it's just so fun. Likeon my side, it's just me,
a Stevan junior and like the duckand boy sibling group chats are just different

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when like a girl is involved.So the problem is that Zaddi moved into
a new place and it needs tobe furnished as a home, Like he
has most of his big furniture things, but there's walls and corners and like
all these areas that are just veryblank. So me and his sissy took

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it upon ourselves to like try tofurnish his place. And I never really
used Facebook Marketplace too much, butshe is the queen and you can get
such good stuff on Facebook Marketplace.Like the things that I've been finding,
the deals that I've been finding incredible. I saw this. I got this
huge like seven foot mirror wood mirror. I haggled it down from like three

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hundred dollars to like one fifty andI was so proud of it. And
I got like a little shelf forhim too. I want, like I
wanted a really big last supper likeart piece for the dining area right to
put like where you eat. Andshe and her husband, so Zatti's brother

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in law, they are the Kingand Queendom marketplace and they have been drying.
One time, I was like,oh, you guys, this like
okay. So Zaddy was here withme in town so he couldn't go and
pick up some stuff. And sheand him were like on board with all
of their eight hundred kids. They'relike, we're packing them in the van
and we're taking them wherever you needjust to go to get you guys's Facebook

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marketplace. She's such a sweetheart.She drove all the way to the Sunset
in San Francisco from like Walna Creekall the way over there to pick up
the art piece for us, andit is just better than we even thought.
I almost am crying thinking of howgorgeous this is and just the good
deal. It's like a gold frame, it's actually cloth and it's like a
really antique looking Oh my gosh,it was so nice that I think is

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the best come up other than themirror, and so we're all going back
and forth. She's sending me thingsshe's looking at. I'm sending her things
I'm looking at. She's going andpicking things up, and she is dead
asked, trying to fight me forthese things that I'm finding. Like she
she will like, I'll be like, oh, like, can you guys
pick this up? At this timeShe's like, well, I kind of
want that for me. I'm like, girl, if you don't, you

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don't even have room on your walls. And then she got so fun that
she told Saddy. She's like,how does Crystal know I don't have any
room on my walls. I'm like, because you are the Facebook marketplace queen,
Like I know that you have noplace for nightstands, no place for
the art pieces, nothing on thewall. You have like shelves in the
most intricate things. One time shetold me, she told me that she

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said her husband from Walnut Creek toLake Tahoe, which is over three hours
to pick up a bed frame.And I'm like, that means she's setting
her miles radius because I'm trying tobe respectful when I only put my mile
radius to like ten to twenty miles. This woman put her radius miles to

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like over three hundred miles and islike having him pick up things in Tahoe.
I'm like, what kind of abed frame? She's like, no,
no, listen, Crystal, likeit is a boat. It was
a boat. Like this man literallybuilt a boat and it was a bed
boat. I'm like SpongeBob. She'slike kind of like SpongeBob, but more

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like up Andy. I'll like,that is insane. I can't believe he
went all the way over there,and so like them saying go, like
me telling them like go to thesunset please to pick up They're like,
that's that's nothing. That's just aroundthe corner, honey. I've been to
Napa, I've been to Monterey.Like here in the tri State, that's
like where is that. That's likegoing to the cat Skills, Like go

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to the cat Skills to pick upa frame. That's like going to freaking
Washington, DC to go get something. Like I was just crying, but
now I'm addicted to Facebook Marketplace andI am looking every second of the day
and I'm trying to coordinate like okay, like this person could do pick up
here at this time, and thisperson can make you at this time for
the pickup, and like they're againwith all their kids. So then here

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comes the weekend and Zaddy's like,Crystal, can your parents or your brothers
do it? Because like my siblingshave been running around for the past eighty
seven hours picking all these things up, Like can you just ask your family?
And I'm like, okay, soI'm asking, and my Dad's like,
I have a herdie, I can'tpick up heavy things. And my
Mom's like, I'm swamped with thework. It's tax time and I do
all the taxes. And my brotherJunior literally never wants to do anything and

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it Stevan is working as a paralegalat a law firm, so he like
literally didn't have a second in theday. And I just feel so embarrassed
that, like his siblings have beendoing everything for us and my family is
just a flop. But actually theydid end up picking up some stuff for
us at the end of the day, even though it was a struggle,
and even though I almost cried frombeing so frustrated with them, h they

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ended up doing it. But theproblem is now I'm on Facebook Marketplace twenty
four to seven. I don't evenknow what I'm looking for anymore. I
don't even know what I need.I don't know or he needs. I
don't know what Zaddy needs. Idon't need anything because I live in New
York City. I'm doing face atthe marketplace for a place literally across the
country for me. But I'm doingit, and it's slowly but surely kind
of getting there. We're like kindof filling up the rooms. We got

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the mirror for his room. Igot this little ladder shelf thing that looked
so good on Facebook marketplace and thenit pulls up looking haggardly. I don't
know what I'm going to do withthat dang shelf. Honestly, at this
point, I just want to throwit in the garage because it's so ugly,
Like it's so scuffed up and gross. I'm just like, I got
bamboozled with this one. But itwasn't that expensive, so it's okay.

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There are these gorgeous shutter mirrors andon Facebook marketplace, like he wouldn't tell
the dimensions, and finally they pullup and they're teeny tidy, but it's
okay, there will be a placefor it. But yeah, My journey
right now is being addicted to Facebookmarketplace. There's even like this bark cart
that me and his sister were obsessedwith. It was pricey, it was
pricey, and she's like, convincehim, Like I think you convince him

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to get it. And I haven'tasked Zaddy for things for me, Like
I don't ask him to buy mestuff, Like I really don't because he
spoils me all the time when we'retogether, and whatever I want, I
can just get it, usually formyself, but I don't have a whole
home to furnish. So I senthim the bark cart and it started this
whole conversation about how like he's like, I want to do these things for

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you, but you don't even livehere, and like it's just not fair,
and like when are you moving here? And it's it's just like a
lot, like it became this hugething, and it's just it's kind of
tough. It's kind of rough.It's kind of tough. He's having a
lot harder time with the distance thatI have that I am, and you

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know, I have so much thingsgoing on here in New York City and
with my job, and I justreally feel like I'm not ready yet to
fully go back home. But it'shard for him because he's sacrificed so much
coming here. It's expensive, hetakes time away from his family and where
he loves and lives now, Andso we're having those conversations and I'm definitely

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gonna try to see how i couldbetter have a better balance because right now
there really is no balance when itcomes to me and my family, Like
I get to see them for twodays maybe once a month, and it's
just really hard and really expensive,and I need to figure out a way
to like maybe switch something up becauseit's getting a little tight. But other

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than that, it was really funon my marketplace this scavenger hunt. I
felt like a stay agent, coordinatingwith like I'm the middleman different people try
to haggle the price. It wasa good time and it's still a really
good time now. What also I'mtrying to do at his place is throw
some plants in there, because I'mkind of a plant girly. If he
didn't know, I haven't posted aboutplants in a quite a while, but

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I have my pink polka dot plant, have some basil that I'm growing.
I have some Parsley. I gota beautiful piece lily flower plant I have.
I had a Chinese money plant untilFrappy got mad that I want a
vacation and then knocked her on thefloor and soiled it and just peed all

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over it. But I've actually learnedto take care of plants within the past
few years of me living here inNew York City. And I love my
indoor plants and I think they adda vibe and I think they are really
good for your oxygen and your breathing. And I've also learned how to adapt
my plants with a cat. Soif you have a cat and you're having
a tough time because your cat's liketo dig the dirt, just put pine
cones around there or lava rock andyou're gonna be fine. So I literally

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ordered lavarrock from Amazon and pine cones, and now Frappi doesn't touch it because
the cats don't like the texture ofthat. But now I'm on FaceTime with
Zaddi's grandma, who she's turning eightythe Big eight zero. She is a
queen. She is a plant queen. She has elevated from the indoor plants
that she has an entire garden inher backyard that she maintains herself, and
she trims and she waters and shefertilizes. So I was just so proud

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of myself that when her and Iwere talking about plants, because she found
some trees that would be nice forZaddi's like the corners of his places,
of his rooms in his house right, and I was giving her a plant
tour of my living room. Shewas shook and like blown away and had
never seen a peak Bolka dot andwas giving me tips on some other plants
that were kind of outgrowing their pots. And I'm just like, dang,

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she is the og plant like sheis a plant queen, like she has
the og plants, like she's beenplanting for like sixty years. So for
her to be little quaking in herboots by my plants, I was like,
dang, I'm really out here.I'm really I'm really doing the plant
thing. So very proud of me. I'm still working on some plants for
his place. I find some reallygreat ones and then Booma gets swept up

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really quickly and just someone comes andsweeps it up, and oh, like
the bar cart like I was lookingeven because I send Zaddi the bark cart
last night, and this morning Ilooked at it just in case, you
know, maybe I want to Iwant to try to convince them a little
more to get it. And it'sgone. It's gone, And I'm afraid
I'll never see a vintage bark cartlike that ever again in my life.
We'll see hopefully maybe down the linethere'll be something better. But what else

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is going on? So when Zaddiwas here, we kicked off his weak
vacation here in New York City withSinatra night. So Saturday was so fun.
So this is not this Saturday,but last Saturday, I had a
appearance at the New Times Squerreminiso store, which is an awesome little store that

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has like Hello Katy stuff and someDisney stuff and like really cute stuff for
the kids and even for you ifyou like those cutesy things. It's kind
of like Sanrio but on steroids.And I was picked to do the grand
opening. I was the host forthe grand opening. And it was a
pouring rain, like bloods around thetri State, Like that's how bad the

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rain was. But I got mycute little alfit on and I brought my
umbrella and I skipped over there,and honestly, it was such a great
grand opening. I had so muchfun. There was a DJ, I
was really pumping up the party.I did a whole real recap if you
want to stay it on my Instagramat lat Crystotal SAZ. But the fact
that I was just like in theheart of Times Square, the fact that
I was with awesome clients and mysales rep share she's just so supportive and
always rooting for me and just thebest. Like, I had so much

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fun, and I just really feellike I'm really happy that I'm staying as
present as I can during a lotof these things. I mean, this
is something that I wish and prayedfor for years and now I'm here.
And sometimes when your mind is likein kind of different places, it can
get it can be easy to kindof be ungrateful for your situation or what

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you're doing, or be like,dang, it's raining, I have to
do this, or like, oh, like you know, my boyfriend's in
town, I have to be awayfrom him for a little bit. But
at the same time, it's likeI get to host this like ribbon cutting
ceremony for a really awesome cute storethat so many people love, and I
was just getting dms like, ohmy god, my kids love that store.
Oh I love that store. AndI was just like meeting so many
awesome people that were visiting New Yorkfor the first time or times. Score

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just literally are just for the grandopening and it was just so awesome and
I feel like everyone's energy was aone and I'm really thankful that I got
to do that. And then Zaddiepicked me up and we went to the
Met. The Metropolitan Museum here inright by Central Park, so it's on
the east side in like the sixties, and it's right on the edge of

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Central Park. Actually, like thebackyard of it is Central Park. I've
never been to the Met before.I think I did like an event like
outside of the Met before, butI've never been in there, and holy
Toledo, it is huge. Wegot there, the line was crazy because
it was raining, and everyone wantsto be inside of museums when it's raining.
There were so many umbrellas, butthe line actually went by really fast.

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If you live in Manhattan or ifyou live around the city, you
get to go for free. Sowe got to go in and there's just
everything. I mean, there's jewelryfrom like the ancient times. There's a
whole bunch of relics from all differentreligions, and then there's like sculptures and
art pieces they redecorate. They likehave vintage pieces from like the fourteen hundreds,

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the fifteen hundreds, like the FrenchVictorian era, the French the Renaissance,
Italian Renaissance, the Venetian time.Like I was just learning so much
and seeing so much. You gointo these rooms that are like staged rooms,
and it takes you back to likethe fifteen hundreds, and the carpets
are like extracted from those areas ofthose times, and you smell you can

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smell how old in the history andthese rooms and me and Zaddy were just
like having such a good time.We were so amazed. I don't think
any of us have been to amuseum like that before, and it was
just so cool. Zaddi was reallytired, he is still transitioning with the
time difference, and then got infrom his flight a little, you know,

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it was tired from that jet lag. So we didn't stay for much
long. I think we were probablyonly there for like four or five hours.
But you probably need like three daysto look at the whole Met.
I mean, there's an upstairs,there's a basement, there's we only got
to see certain rooms. But Yo, you need to come to the Met
when you come to New York City. It is a definite must. It

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was just gorgeous, and when wewere looking at the different art pieces,
we were just like meming them andlike just kind of laughing and just like
making fun things and like just allof the history and it was just it
was such a great day. We'vebeen wanting to go to the Met since
we literally met, no pun intended, like since we met, and since
he first came to New York,like we've always I've always told him,

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like, I want to do adate with you at the Met. I've
never gone. I want to gowith you, And I always just wanted
to do a date in general withthe Met at the Met. And I
never went with any of the guysthat I dated here in New York because
like I didn't like them enough tospend a whole day at the museum really
with them. But I'm so happythat I waited and I got to go
with Zaddie. So it was everythingwe got to have like French onion soup

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and a little sandwich at the cafe. But if I were you, I
would go to a deli pack somesandwiches and yeah, I would just go
and eat at the cafeteria there thatthey have there, because the food there
is like nay, I'll pass.The met was beautiful and then we went
home. We took a little nap, we woke up, got ready,

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went out to dinner, and wentto Frank Sinatra Night. Now, remember
my last weekend of my twenties.I tried to go with my friends here,
with Shelley and with Jewels and withJake, but it was expensive and
ain't nobody at the time was tryingto drop money on that, so we
didn't go. But I actually boughttickets for Zaddi and I to go.
It's at Cardigie Club. It's acigar club in Midtown and they have a

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Frank Sinatra tribute night. So wepull up and it's an uppity crowd.
Everyone is dressed to the nine.It's a lot of couples. We have
our lounge chairs and I'm looking cute. I'm wearing my apparatus. Now I
told you before that I bought thisapparatus on TikTok. It's like these like
little things for your bra where likeit can shove your chiechnas in. That's

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something And I've told you before,like I, for the most part,
am pretty comfortable with my body.I've dealt with body issues and image issues
in the past when it comes toweight, and I even now I'm really
cautious about what I eat because inNew York City, like there's just all
these like toothpick models, and it'sjust kind of hard comparing yourself to people

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when you're not like satisfied one hundredpercent with your body. So but when
it comes to me, like I'mokay for the most part with my body.
Have definitely had some dark times.But if there's anything that I would
change, I think it's just thefact that my che cheese are like spread
apart, Like I love the sizeof my chee cheese, but they're kind
of spread apart, like I don'treally have cleavage. And there's this thing
that I bought on TikTok that likeour inserts for your bra like sticky boob

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inserts, and they bring your cheekon us in so it literally looks now
that I have Triple Z's and Ibought it. I bought it for myself,
but I only really wear it aroundZaddy because they're really really really out
there. If you okay, ifyou want to go to my instagram and
get a little snake peek, goto my instagram and scroll down my reels.

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And there's a reel that I havewith the artists Joe. We're like
standing there with our headphones on.I'm wearing like a brown skirt and a
white long sleeved shirt and I havea scarf over it. Now look at
look at my chee on us.Now I have that scarf covering because my
boobs look crazy if I don't havethat scarf and I'm not walking around work

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like that. That particular video,I actually was going to go on a
date afterwards with Zaddy, so Ihad to wear that outfit. But I
didn't want my chee cheese out foreverybody, so I kept that scarf over
it. I was wearing the apparatusfor our date for Frank Sinatra night,
but I had that scarf too,and like because I never really like I

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have my boobs out like that orthat big out like that, because of
this apparatus thing. I'm a littleself conscious, like I don't really know
how to act, like I'm notreally like an out there booby kind of
girl, So like I feel alittle uncomfortable, so I do kind of
keep the scarf on because I donotice that the first thing people look at
when they see me and I'm wearingthis low cut shirt with my cheech one
us out, they go straight tomy boobs. And I am unkind of

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uncomfortable like with that when Zaddy's aroundand it's just me and him, like
that is totally fine with me,and like when we're on a date,
like it's kind of cute, butlike we were at a lounge and like
we were sitting low, and likepeople were walking like frequently byas and I
just I just felt a little uncomfortable, so I was wearing the scarf.
But you know, Zaddi, likehe loves the apparatus. This is the

(29:03):
second time I wore them out inpublic with him, and he is obsessed,
like he loves when I wear them. And the rule is I can
only wear them in front of him, which is fine because I don't like
him wearing gray sweatpants in public.Because the print beap printing, and I
just don't want nobody looking at hisprint like that. But for us,
my apparatus is amazing. I waswearing the scarf, so the apparatus was

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on, but the scarf was hidingit. I was looking very cute.
I put eyeliner on, which youknow I never do. I had my
lashes on. I was feeling myself. So we just sit down and we
just get our orders. We don'teven have our drinks yet. We just
got them taken. And there's thisolder man. It's already like ten thirty
ish. There's this we'll call hima silver fox kind of man, like

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keeps it right and tight head totoast, suit full gray hair, like
good looking. He is walking andturns his head looks at me. Again.
I don't the operatus is not showing, so this is just my pure
beauty that he's looking at. Helooks at me, turns completely all the
way around, is almost falling backwardsand says, oh, my goodness,

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you are so beautiful. You lookso great. And I'm just there and
I'm like, thank you, thankyou so much. She's like, no,
you are so pretty. Like heis like digging it in at this
point, and I'm like, oh, you're so sweet, thank you now,
mind you, Like Zaddy and Iare probably on the younger end of
this club, like it's I wouldsay, like forty and above. There

(30:37):
are some couples like somewhat of ourage, but I think that Zaddy and
I were definitely on the younger side, and this silver Fox was probably like
seventy. So he's digging in abouthow gorgeous I am. He's like almost
stumbling backwards because he was walking awayfrom me, and he's now seeing Zaddi
on the side that his back waskind of turned. So he looks at

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Zaddy and he goes, oh,my gosh, like I am so sorry,
but she is just so gorgeous.And Zaddy is just staring at him,
not nodding his head, not sayingthank you, just staring at him.
And then the guy just goes againto me like you're so pretty,
and I say thank you, thankyou, and then he like his neck
is still breaking as he's walking away, and I'm loving it, like I'm
just loving this, Like I don'tthink I've been hit on before in front

(31:25):
of Zaddy. I definitely have notbeen hit on before in front of Zaddy.
People are usually afraid of him becausehe's like so tall and big.
But this man, I think wasone pretty drunk and two didn't see Zaddy
like he saw me first and thenlike afterwards saw Zaddy, So he didn't
really realize that I was with aman. I've never been hit on in
front of Zaddy. Zaddy's been hiton in front of me. Before our

(31:48):
second date, a woman grazed hisentire back in front of me as she
was walking by him, and Iwanted to throw hands. I wanted to
stomp on next, but it wasour second date, like, I couldn't
be rude, and I didn't wanthim to think that I was the psychopath
that I actually am, so Ididn't say anything. But he gets hit
on all the time. I seegirls stare head to toe at him all
the time, even when he doesn'teven realize it. Even at that bar,

(32:13):
there were some cougar girls that werestaring at him, and I'm pretty
sure he didn't even really. Heprobably did realize, but he didn't want
to make it a thing. Sowhen this man did that, Zaddy was
boiling in his seat. I wouldhave thought that Zaddi would have been like
thank you, or like nod athis head like it's okay, it's okay.
No, Zaddi had a straight face. Did just stared at this stared

(32:36):
this man down to the pits ofhis soul and ran him off. And
he did not have Zad didn't evenwant to look at me. He was
so mad and I just kind ofwas giggling and I was just like babe,
and he's like, no, thatis so disrespectful. I was giggling.
I was like, babe, hewasn't trying to be disrespect he was

(32:57):
just compmenting me. He's like,no, you don't do that, like
as a man. It's boy code. It is man code, like it
is an unspoken rule, like youdo not compliment a woman when she's with
a man. And I'm like,babe, it's okay. Like he didn't
see you, and he's like,oh, I'm sure he saw me.
I'm sure he was going on likehe and I was just like, oh
my gosh. We haven't even goneour drinks yet. We are sober tobers

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and Zaddy is just going off aboutthis man. And I loved it,
as I said, like I wasbasking because I've never seen him jealous like
this. I see him jealous likehere and there about certain things maybe that
we talk about, but not reallyin person like that. So I'm kind
of trying to calm him down.He's not having it. He's peeved our

(33:40):
drinks come. I try to doa little Cheersi's he's still soiling in the
fury of this old boomer that washitting on me, and I'm just like,
well, you know, we can'tsay it was because of the apparatus,
because it absolutely wasn't because the scarfwas completely on top of it.
So round of applause to me andbeing the battie that I am, and

(34:04):
finally in person getting hit on andgetting Zaddy jealous, like he needs to
get a little taste of what hegot. He got to realize it.
He does realize he's so sweet tome. But it's just nice when other
people validate you, you know whatI'm saying. So after some time,
Zaddy, he did eventually get overit. But then there was another really
drunk, way less attractive man thatwas just staring me down, like jaw

(34:25):
dropped, mouth open, and likenot just for a second, like staring
at me like a zombie, likefrom behind, like cause I'm kind of
sideways, and I'm like a baby. Why don't you want to get mad
at him? Like why he's likethat man is like not even on this
planet right now to get mad atlike he can't even stand straight. I'm
not gonna knock him out. I'mlike, okay, but just saying so,

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it was a great night for mebecause I kept getting hit on and
the Frank Sinatra tribute artist was incredible, amazing ten out of ten. It
was a little expensive. You haveto pay forty dollars for the tape and
then you have to get two drinksminimum, so you're kind of running it
up a little bit. But ifI were you, I would save your
coins. If you're out in NewYork City, you want to do like

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a cute like and you should reallyonly go with a small group. I
think the biggest group is probably likesix people, four people. The layout
of the event space is kind oftough. There's like this big like cabinet
in the middle, so it waseven kind of hard for me to see.
You can upgrade and get like sixtydollars VIP tickets, which are just
kind of on the side. It'sa really small, small venue downstairs,
and they have a little upstairs balcony, but if you're up there and not

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sitting in the front of the balky, you're not really gonna be able to
see it, So good luck.I would say, maybe go with another
couple or just you and you're aboo thing, I would say definitely go.
The bar gets really packed, soif you're wearing heels, you're gonna
staying up the whole time if youdon't pay for a forty dollars ticket to
sit down and a reservation. Sothat's kind of how things in New York
are. If you do want tohave these like glam luxury fun like unique

(35:52):
nights, you're gonna have to copup a pretty penny, which is kind
of unfortunate. But I live hereand I am so thankful that I get
to get to live here, andme and Zaddy work really really hard to
make sure that we are able todo these things. And I know it's
not like for everyone and not reasonablefor everyone, so just keep that in
mind. But I would say,once in your lifetime, save up and

(36:15):
one percent go because it was socool. And I also would say you
should probably try to get the VIPtickets because if you get unlucky and get
in a seat like me, thenyou're kind of like bending your back in
weird ways to watch the show.I would have paid a little extra to
do the VIP if I would haveknown they were going to sit me in
that place. And you don't reallyknow where they're going to sit you.

(36:37):
Maybe I get lucky, maybe not. So that's that on that this story
is like it is out of aSeinfeld episode. I couldnot even believe what
happened. So one of the nights, I don't remember what day was,
me and Zaddy went to the speaksthat I really like here in Midtown again.

(36:57):
It's called the Ricky, and theyhave this amazing pomegranate drink called I
think it's just called Ricky's Pomegranate orsomething. And the thing about the Ricky
is that it's a by gender bathroom. A lot of restrooms in New York
City are by gender, and Ihave, I don't know how loud I've
spoken out about my issue with bygender restrooms, and it has nothing to

(37:20):
do with the transgender conversation. Likewhatever gender you are, like, I
feel like you should just feel comfortablegoing into the gender that you want to
be assigned to bathroom Like, Ihave no problems with that. And there's
actually a really really funny episode ofIt's Sending in Philadelphia that you should watch
that does talk about this, andthey try to fix the bathroom crisis and
it's hell a funny end of theend of the day. You just can't.
And this is exactly why. Now. The first place that I had

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a huge problem with this bathroom bygender bathroom situation is at Harriet's at the
aw Sprey Hotel in Brooklyn by likeby the water, because it's probably a
ten stall ten to twelve stall bathroomwith sinks in the middle, and it's

(38:05):
just boys and girls just going inand just like in the bathroom together,
like washing hands together, waiting forstalls after each other, and it's disgusting
because men don't know how to putthe seat down and are vile, like,
are absolutely vile. So at theRicky, it's another by gender bathroom,

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and we get there and Zaddi's like, I have to go real quick,
and I'm like, oh, goodluck, because it's these are both
by gender bathroom rooms, but it'sjust it's just a closet. So it's
one closetive bathroom, another closetive bathroom. But they both say like both genders,
right, and I'm like, goodluck it's about and he's like,
oh, I will, I willbecause he is for them, like he

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doesn't care about because he's gross.He leaves the stall up, like he
leaves a toilet seat up, likethat's the kind of guy he is at
by gender bathrooms. I went intothe bathroom after him, and I knew
it was him in the stall thatI went to because the seat was up,
and I'm like, stop doing that, You're disgusting. So he tries
to go to the bathroom but thereit's taken. So he comes back and

(39:15):
sits with me, and he's likeit's fine though it's taken, but I'm
gonna be fine. And I'm like, you're gonna be fine. I'm gonna
wait until we get home because Iwill not use these bathrooms because I've just
had such disgusting things I've seen inthese bathrooms that have both gender signs on
them. So then as we're waiting, like he really has to go and

(39:35):
we're waiting, you guys, thishuge man comes out. Me and Zaddy
look at each other. His faceturns white in terror, and I start
busting out laughing. I'm like,no way, there is no way,

(39:58):
Like this man looked like a sumowrestler, Like and I'm not exagger I'm
not body shaming, like it's nota problem, but like this man was
so huge and he just had dinner, that bathroom would be a problem.
That bathroom is a problem. Sonow Zaddy is looking at me, He's

(40:22):
looking at the bathroom. His handis on his head, like what the
heck am I gonna do? AndI'm like, get in their babe,
that's all you, babe, Thatis all you, babe. And he's
like he like takes a big gulpand he's like and then he takes a
drink out of his drink. Helike pounds and he's like, oh,
I will survive. He watts andI start screaming laughing, like I cannot

(40:45):
believe that just happened, because again, I am not going to use that
restroom. I don't care if Iam about to urinate myself on this bar
seat, like I'm not going.I'm not going. I lived with three
men, my brother juniors, sevenand then the duck. I've had to

(41:05):
share bathrooms with them, very justI hate it all and I'm very lucky
that Zaddi for the most part,like at the house, he's respectful,
he puts the seat down, likeI never have bathroom problems. I taught
him how to, like, ifyou ever have an issue, please scrub
the here's the scrub. Scrub yourself. I'm not gonna be scrubbing this dang
toilet after your guys's adult mess.Is Like my mom used to make me
to scrub the toilet at five yearsold. I was like, I was

(41:29):
that was my job around the housewas to clean the bathrooms, Like I
was putting on the gloves and scrubbingthe toilet and the bottom with the clorox
and the all of it, allof it. I had to do that
and I hated it. And likenow that I'm older, I'm just like
I don't have to do that foranyone else anymore. And also when I
worked at Pasta Pelicans at the restaurant, I had to clean those toilets too,

(41:50):
which I was like, I'm thehostess. Why am I cleaning the
nasty bathrooms? I'm just at aplace in my life and my thirty years
where I'm not going to the publicrestrooms at bygenderrooms and I'm not cleaning a
toilet that I didn't make my ownmess. Like I'll clean my own bathroom.
I clean my own bathroom like oncea week. But like, if
you're making a mess, and ifthere's colors on the toilet that are not
white, clean it yourself. I'mnot going to be cleaning after you.

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So Zaddi is in there, andI am having the time of my life,
like I am hootering and hollering,sipping on my pomegranate. Ricky and
Zaddy comes out. He goes crystal, Thank God, the toilet seat was
up. He just paid. Itwas all It was just a number one.

(42:38):
And I was like, you areso dang lucky, mister, you
are so lucky that that bathroom Godsent. I don't know why God blessed
you, The Holy Spirit came downand blessed you at this moment because it
was about to teach you a veryhard lesson about bigender restrooms that I've had
to learn the hard way. AndI'm I'm very annoy that you didn't,

(43:00):
But I do love you so I'mhappy that you didn't have to go through
that. I was kind of secretlydemonically wishing you were, but he didn't.
And again, that was a freakingthat was a skid out of Seinfeld,
Like, I could not believe thatthat happened. But luckily for Zaddy
it was totally fine. Oh mygosh, I have to tell you about
the umbrella swap. This was crazy. So a while ago, when a

(43:23):
Zaddi was in town, he tookone of my favorite umbrellas to his job
and he forgot it. And thisis one of those umbrellas I don't know
have if you've seen them, youknow those like clear dome umbrellas. Well,
this one is also iridescent, soit's just even more annoying and obnoxious
than that regular clear dome umbrella.And I love that umbrella. So when

(43:43):
Zaddi left it at his job,I was like, someone's definitely going to
steal that, so I'm just goingto order a new one. So I
ordered a new one and I loveit. And if I know it's going
to rain pretty hard, I alwaystake it with me. So I took
it with me to work and afterwork, I'm about to walk in the
train to go meet up with Zaddiat his job down close to Penn Station.
Well, Zaddi works in the Bay, but his job is all over

(44:07):
the world, so he can easilyjust kind of pop into the sector here
in New York City. So whenhe's here he does do that. Some
of the days he decides to gointo the office. So I'm walking to
the train and it's raining and Ihave my umbrella and this lady stops me,
like she stops in her tracks.So she's like, that is the
coolest umbrella I've ever seen. AndI was like, I know right,

(44:30):
I love this and she goes,where did you get that from? And
I'm like, believe it or not, I've gone on Amazon and it's amazing
and I get compliments on it allthe time and I love it. And
she's like, that is so cool. I'm gonna have to get one.
I'm like, you absolutely ten andten should get one because I love this
umbrella. She's like I will,So she starts walking away and I realize

(44:52):
that last time Zaddi I brought theumbrella up to Zaddy it was actually at
his job, so no one tookit from his job. Most likely because
he works with only like men andlike no one at his job would want
us to like a pink clear eardoesn't umbrella. But I remember that I'm
on my way to Zaddy's job andI have another my other umbrella there,

(45:14):
my original one. So this waslike the new one that I got and
I probably only used like once,and so I run after her and I'm
like, you know what, Iactually have another one that I'm on my
way right now to get, sohere you can have this one. And
she's like no, no, noway, no way, and I was
like, no, no, yeah, please have it, Like you don't

(45:35):
have to order one here, Ihave another one. You just take it.
And so she's like, you areso sweet, thank you so much,
and I'm like, of course,like you're gonna love it, and
I'm just really, I'm just reallyhappy that you're gonna enjoy using it because
I enjoy using it and I amtotally fine. And she says thank you
and she goes wait here and shegoes into her back. She's like,
do you want this like kind oflame black one, And I'm like,

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you know what I have? Ihad a lame small travel black one because
the aridesin umbrella. It's a longumbrella, it's a big stick umbrella.
And I was like, I justhad a small travel black one that broke,
and I actually was going to ordera new small one. She's like,
well, now you don't need to. Here you go, and she
gave me her black one and wedid an umbrella swap and it was so

(46:17):
awesome and I was able to usethat umbrella to walk to the train and
not get wet. And she wasnow using her beautiful new Iriduescin Dome umbrella
and it was just the cutest thingand it was the coolest thing. And
it's like it made me so happy, and like I know that umbrella made
her happy, and like, nowI didn't have to buy a new travel
umbrella because even though like my umbrellais cool, sometimes if it's not gonna

(46:37):
rain too too much, you kindof just want an umbrella you can throw
in your bag and like not haveto carry around a big old thing.
And I have a few umbrellas becauseit does rain a lot here in New
York City when the rain seasons comeand sometimes it rains crazy. So how
awesome that we got to do anamazing umbrella swap and she got something that

(46:58):
she didn't even know she wanted andexisted, and I got something that I
actually knew that I needed. AndI still have my dome umbrella and I
was able to pick it up atZaddie's job, and we were able to
put his umbrella, the black umbrella, in his bag and have a great
rainy evening. So that evening wasactually really really fun too, because we
made reservations at this place called theSeville se v I L L E really

(47:23):
hard to get reservations. You haveto email them, like they don't have
like a Rezi or anything. Askthem for like premiere seating if you can.
Like the reservation is free. Theyhave little bites to eat, not
really food food, but they havea live band, which is awesome,
and it started at seven o'clock andso we pulled up and the food like
we kind of wanted dinner dinner,so we were like, you know,

(47:44):
we're just gonna watch the band fora little bit and relax for our last
night together, or so we thought. And we had like a really cute
romantic little talk during the band andthe drinks and then he's like, it's
my last night, like what doyou want to do. We could kind
of get a little crazy, maybepop a bottle of wine at the house

(48:06):
if you want, or we canmaybe like get a bottle and just run
around the city. I was like, Babe, we haven't done that since
the ghost tour, Like, let'sdo that. So we go into a
liquor store and we get a smallbottle of patron and we get some chaser
from a hot dog car and wejust start walking around like Harold Square,
which is like we're the big Mayseason and all the stores. And then
we walk up to Brian Park andit's raining and we're just like kissing in

(48:28):
the rain and we're just like chuggingthe bottle of pequila and we're just like
walking around, like getting tipsy arounda rainy New York City night and it
is so fun and we're just talkingand talking and laughing and joking and trolling.
And then we get to a barcloser to my house and we're now
at the bar and we're drinking.We're kind of having these like existential conversations

(48:51):
about ourselves and our futures and likemy job and all these things, and
like the conversation's getting pretty heated,not in a negative way, but just
like getting really deep, and heordered, like, have a nittle martini
something like he like spicy margarita vibedrinks, and so we were kind of
done, and I was like,I don't, I don't. It's alcoholism

(49:12):
in me. I don't like toleave drinks with a little bit of alcohol,
like I liked to leave every glassempty. So as we're walking out,
I chug his like have a nittleMartini thing, and all of the
seeds from the chillis get lodged inmy mouth and in my throat, and

(49:34):
I am now having this like burningsensation in my esophagus and in my tongue.
If you've noticed, I haven't talkedabout my heartburn in a very long
time, and that's because I'm,as you remember, and now taking a
daily heartburn pill because I am aboomer. I'm an overweight boomer with a
terrible esophagous And yeah, so Ilike minchelo MOI fasci. I really get

(50:01):
spiced out real easily. So myentire esophagus, my tongue, in my
mouth is on fire. We're onthe streets of New York City and I'm
like babe, I cannot talk,Like my mouth is seriously like on fire
right now, Like I can't evenbreathe. I'm like, can you please
make out with me? Like Ineed your spit like on my tongue to
calm it down. So he's likehe's like using his tongue to like pat

(50:29):
my tongue, which sounds crazy,but it is true and it is helping.
And so like we're on the sidewalkdoing this and all I hear is
Yo, Zaddy, get a room, And me and Zaddy look at each
other and we're like what and welook over. It's fricking Josh Martinez is

(50:53):
my coworker. In his car.It's the night host from Z one hundred
who does this show right after me, right after my afternoon show. It's
Josh Martinez in his car, andI'm like me and Zaddi are like Josh,
and he's like, get in,Losers, I'm taking you home.
And I'm like wait, and soI guess like he kind of got off

(51:14):
work a little late and he's drivinghome. He lives in Staten Island and
he and he doesn't drive home often, which was a really funny coincidence because
he really does not drive to workvery often. It just so happened that
he did, and it just sohappened that there was terrible traffic that he
was taking like a weird way,and it just so happened that that weird
way was on the same street thatme and Zaddy were like trying to fix

(51:37):
my tongue and we're just like what, So then we hop into Josh's car.
It's like so funny, like eventhough New York City is like the
biggest city in the world, it'salso like the littlest biggest city in the
world. Like you are just goingto see your coworker randomly making it all
the side of the street. Andhe takes us to my house and I

(51:57):
actually I actually did some signora forthe first time ever dating Zaddy. I
cooked dinner for him. We alwaysgo out. We are just always Audi's
and a bouties or order food in. And it's like he really doesn't he
Up until now, he hadn't beenable to spend too many nights in a
row with me. He'd only beenable to spend like four nights and then

(52:20):
he'd have to go back home fordad mode. But now his a schedule
changed with his son, so hecan do one week one week, which
means that he can stay with mefor a full week, which is just
incredible and we're so happy about it. And we actually have like enough nights
to like not get film about notbeing out and eating cool food. So

(52:42):
I did decide to do some Senoratings. One of the knights that Zaddi
was working kind of laid at myhouse. I decided to just stop and
get groceries and I made us barbecuechicken and broccoli, bacon and sweet yam
potato potato yam wedges, and heate a whole thing up. He loved

(53:04):
it. He said it was areally good and honestly, it was pretty
good, and I was very proudof myself. So I was so proud
of myself that I had leftovers andasked Josh Martinez to come and rate the
food that I made, and heloved it too. I'm like, dang,
okay, look at me, likeI'm really on my Sonhoda vibes.
So that was really fun. AndJosh was just hanging out with us at
our apartment and we were just likevibing and he probably didn't leave till like
a little after midnight and then meZaddy just got to watch this new show

(53:30):
that we love to watch on Netflixcalled A Physical one hundred. Now,
the thing is that, like Zaddy'sbeen noticing that I kind of have this
like Asian man fetish, Like Ilove Asian men. And I don't know
where this started or how it happened, but I love looking at Asian men.
I think they're so attractive. Ithink maybe it's like the bts of

(53:52):
it all and like the boy bandof it all, and then like meeting
some of them in person, They'rejust so cool. And like I just
love of Asian food, all typesof Asian food. I love like the
culture. I there's just a wholebunch of different things. And so like
Zaddy kind of picked up on thefact that I really like Asian men,

(54:12):
and he's not mad about it.He's like a little jealous, but he
it's he like supports. He won'tlike I encourage, but like he supports
because he knows that, like I'mnot gonna step out of our relationship.
But like I really do like watchingAsian men. And also like when I
favorite YouTubers Stephanie Sue, like Iwatch her all the time. And he's

(54:35):
just like she always talks about Koreaand I love her, like relationship with
her man's and like I like lovethem and I like fantasize them. I
just like I don't know why,I just like do. And so this
show, it's a Korean show,and it's so crazy. They get a
hundred of the most physically capable humansin Korea. We're talking world champion jiu
jitsu masters, We're talking world championheavyweightlifters, big gymnasts, private agents like

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Navy Seal Koreans in these v seals, like influencer, bodybuilders, like personalities,
things like that, like cheerleaders,all different professional baseball players, like
all these professional athletes, one hundredof them. This show has them competing
with each other to see who isgoing to be like the ultimate physical person.

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And so so that night we watchedthis show, right, and you
know, me and me and Zaddilike we have so much fun with each
other. We we love spending allall hours of the day, all hours
of the night, just keeping eachother a week and He's like, definitely

(55:49):
he likes to like with intimacy sometimes, Like I say, it's somewhat fifty
to fifty, but sometimes he canhe leads a little more. And he
noticed that after I really don't evenlike talking about this stuff, but Daddy
noticed that after we watched the Koreanshow, I was like mad horn dog

(56:10):
for him, like he said,like unlike anything that he is saying.
And then we talked about it thenext day and he was like, why
were you so aggressive towards me?And like you just completely just jumped my
bones. And I think it's becausewe were watching that Courage show. Is

(56:31):
that wide? I was like,oh my gosh, I didn't even put
two to two together, but likeI think it is true. Like I
think that like my hormones were reallylike pulsating because of that show. I'm
so sorry, Like we don't haveto watch it anymore if it makes you
uncomfortable, And he's like, Imean, I he's like, I don't

(56:51):
even know what to say. Idon't even know what to say. I'm
not gonna say that I didn't enjoy, but it was just it's just a
different personality that I saw come outof you the night after we watched that
show, and I'm just like wow, wow, wow. So yeah,
that's something interesting that we're learning abouteach other. He's kind of afraid that

(57:12):
I'm watching the show without him,and he doesn't want me to get too
excited without him. He might wantme to like just to wait and splurge
to watch it with him when Isee him next. But that was really
silly and funny, and it's onhonestly a really good show and it is
Oh my god, there's like,oh, that's like a fantasy show of
mine, Like these men that areso good looking and like chiseled head to

(57:35):
toe and it's like, it's agreat show. Sis, you do watch
Zaddia. I'm sorry. You knowI love you. You know I love
you and only you, and you, to me are the most attractive person
in the world. So I wouldnever trade you, not even for a
hundred Korean men. Okay, Ipromise now. The last thing is we
got to see Shakira at Times Square, which was everything I gotta eat for

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my boss probably like two hours beforemy shift ended, saying hey, Shakida
is going to be performing at TimesSquare. Do you want to see her?
And I'm like absolutely, post Malonedid it last year and it was
kind of a surprise too, andwe weren't really involved that much, but
for this one, my bosses wereinvited, and so they extended the invitation

(58:21):
to me, and I was soexcited. I asked Daddy. I was
like, Daddy, I aske Daddy. I was like, hone, we
have plans for dinner, but canwe scratch them real quick and go see
Schekida At times Carr, He's likeyes. There was a lot of people
getting in there after work was ahot mess. I didn't even have a
pass for him. I had tokind of ask the person that was handing

(58:43):
out the credentials. I was like, my boyfriend is in from California.
Is it okay if you give mea pass for him? He's like,
oh, we're really only supposed togive one. I was like, oh,
I know, but please, andthey're like, all right, fine,
So I just handed him a passtwo. I'm like, oh my
gosh, thank goodness. He wasmy social media representative for the day.
I mean, this was for myjob, so I did need to get

(59:04):
content and so he's not used tothis, so it was a little different
for him. It was a littleodd, but he was a trooper and
he ten out of ten. Hewas so good even though it's out of
his comfort zone. He doesn't reallylike the whole social media thing. He
doesn't even like that side of itwhen it comes to me. But we
talked through it and he was sohelpful and the video came out so good,

(59:27):
and I'm just so so thankful thathe was there to help. And
Shakira, oh my gosh, eventhough she only performed a few songs.
I mean, duh, it's afree concert. She's only going to perform
like maybe three four songs. Shewent off, she went in. She's
celebrating her new song with Cardi B. She's celebrating new music. Me and
Shelley Rome, who does late nightshere on Z one hundred. She also
does the New Hitlist with me atZ one hundred every single weeknight. Her

(59:49):
and I learned the Puntaia chair dance, which took us like probably three hours
to learn and to perfectly record.So if you can, and if you
see it right now, give ussome love on socials on my Instagram at
lack Crystal real sas. But whatan amazing I was just like looking around
and seeing what I was doing.I was just like, what an amazing
few weeks I'm so thankful I havethese opportunities here at New York City.

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I'm so thankful that I get todo stuff like this with my boyfriend Zaddie.
And I'm just very grateful because oneday, who knows, it's not
gonna be like this anymore. Andas I'm looking and thinking about what I
have going on right now, it'shonestly better than a dream. And I
say that all the time, andI don't say that lightly. So with
that being said, we are goingto end the nightcap with our daily motivator

(01:00:37):
and then I'm going to get intomy prayer. And if you'd like to
stay and stick around for the endwith the prayer, totally cool. If
the daily Motivator is enough for you, then totally cool. Here's a daily
motivator today. It's called it paysto care. It pays to care about
life, about others, about meaning. It pays to care about time and
effectiveness and achievement. It pays tocare about truth, pays to care about

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what's good and what contributes to life. To the extent you care, you
get involved and make a difference.When you care. That caring drives your
priorities, your actions, your results. Caring is more than just feeling or
saying you care. To care meansto act on what you care about.
Do that and life resounds with purpose. Do that and fulfillment, deep satisfaction,

(01:01:23):
and enrichment all comes your way.Go to the trouble, make the
commitment to care. It matters smalland large. It's an essential part of
how life is well lived. Ohmy god, those that is beautiful.
It's an essential part of how lifeis well lived. It's so true.

(01:01:45):
Like if you just sit around likedon't care about this, or don't care
about that, or don't think thisis a big deal, or don't celebrate
your achievements and what you've done,Like, then what does life even matter?
I really try to and strive tocare about a lot of things that
I do. I always say thisto Zaddy, but I'm like, if

(01:02:07):
I don't care about it, like, who is going to care about it?
This reminds me of when I justthrew my faith anyira. You know,
like I wanted to have at firstjust a small thing, but then
I was like, you know what, I want to party with my whole
family. I was really amazed andblown away with how much they care and
love me and people who came likeout of their ways to celebrate me,

(01:02:28):
And that wouldn't have happened if Ididn't care about myself and I didn't care
about my family. Like the thingsthat we do, they only matter because
we make them matter because we careabout them. And it's true like when
you care, that caring drives yourpriorities, your actions, your results,
and you have to put action,you have to act on what you care

(01:02:52):
about. Coming up, I havesome celebrations for my family too, and
the planning is a little hectic,but I want the people that we're celebrating
to know that we care about themand that we love them, and that's
what family is for, that's whatfriends are for. So I hope that

(01:03:13):
whatever it is, big or small, if you're passionate about it, and
even if you're not, like youcan train your own brain to care about
that. And it is true,like it is an essential part of how
life is well lived when you makethat commitment to care. I love that.
I hope you enjoyed that too.I hope it helped you and whatever

(01:03:34):
you have going on. One ofmy friends opened up about how her birthday
was coming up, and she feltlike people around her like didn't care,
and she cares and gives so muchto everyone, but she feels like that
doesn't come back to her and itsucks to hear that. And I couldn't
be close to her for her birthday, but I talked to her through it.

(01:03:55):
I gave her some breadings and prayersto help her through it, and
she said that that mattered and helpedher so much. I just wanted her
to know that even though I couldn'tbe there physically to give her the flowers,
I couldn't be there to give herthe gift, like just time with
people and just spreading your light tothem. Sometimes that is enough and it
does show them that they care.And honestly, that's why I love my

(01:04:16):
job so much, because I getto talk to so many people every day
here with what I do and throughdifferent platforms, and I really just want
them to know that, like,I do care about you and what you
have going on, and I tryto tell you as much as as I
can, like if you need anything, if you need help with something,
hit me on Snapchat a lot ofcrystaltals, so that's the easiest way for
me to communicate to you. Andsometimes you do hit me up, and

(01:04:39):
I'm very thankful that you do,because there are times where we feel like
no one cares about us. Butyou are cared for, You are loved,
your light, your love, yourGod loves you more than you can
ever even understand. And you canalso share that care and that light and
love with other people. So Ihope you enjoyed that. Thank you so

(01:05:00):
much for hanging out. Please subscribeif you haven't shared the podcast. If
you're loving it. Now, we'regoing to move on to our daily prayer
for April second. Yesterday was AprilFool's Day. I'm actually finishing the pod
today. I have recorded most ofit yesterday, but I'm actually finishing it
today right now when I'm hanging outwith you, So we're gonna do the
April second Jesus calling from Sarah Young. Enjoying Peace in His Presence is what

(01:05:23):
this book is called. It reallyhelps me every single day I read it
when I get to work, tohelp me to stay present and to know
that there is a bigger meaning andjust to kind of stay joyous in our
day to day. So this onesays, I have promised to meet all
your needs according to my glorious riches. Sheeesh that alone. Imagine that.

(01:05:45):
I mean, that is what itis, But like that just feels so
good to hear. Right, thisis This rating is from Philippins four nineteen
and two Corinthians four seventeen. Ihave promised to meet all your needs according
to my glorious riches. Your deepest, most constant need is for my peace.
I have planted peace in the gardenof your heart where I live,
But there are weeds growing there too, weeds of pride, worry, selfishness,

(01:06:11):
and belief. I'm the gardener,and I'm working to rig your heart
of those weeds. I do mywork in various ways. When you sit
quietly with me, I shine thelight of my presence directly into your heart,
and this heavenly light peace grows abundantlyand weeds shrivel up. I also
send trials into your life. Whenyou trust me. In the midst of

(01:06:33):
trouble, peace flourishes and weeds dieaway. Thank me for troublesome situations,
the peace they can produce far outwaysthe trials you endure. Thank me for
troublesome situations, the peace they canproduce far outweighs the trials you endure.

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I love this analogy of like Godplanting your peace in the garden of your
heart where you live, where Helives. But there is like the weeds
of like pride, worry, selfishness, unbelief, and the more that we
stay close to God and say inGod's peace and teachings and readings, it

(01:07:15):
is true, Like it's like astep every single day. It's like you're
cutting down a weed that's trying togrow. That's like trying to take away
your peace and your joy. That'show it is for me. I feel
like things that I've been bothering meover the time that I've lived here,
like I've been able to be moreunbothered and more unbothered because I've been getting

(01:07:38):
closer and closer to God. Lastnight I sat and, oh my gosh,
I think I told you that Zaddygot me a Bible for my birthday.
He got me like an like anI'm gonna remember for next week the
exact version he got me. Butit's like it's not the King's James version.
It's a version that's an easy readversion and like a modern version.

(01:08:01):
And I actually sat down last nightbefore I went to bed and I read
all of John, which is likeit was pretty long. It took me
like probably an hour, but asmore as I was reading it and getting
into it, I just like couldn'tput it down. I was like,
Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh. Now, Matthew,
Mark, Look, and John arethe Gospels and they tell us stories
of God's ministry, or jesus Isministry, from when he was born to

(01:08:27):
where he resurrected after being murdered.And it's like a novela and not only
that, like the things that Jesusis teaching and telling you in the Word
is like so comforting. And Iwas like crying at certain points because I'm
just like, oh my gosh,like are you just you kind of start

(01:08:51):
what you read, you kind ofstart comparing it to like your own life
and what you have going on,and then it's kind of like teaching you
how you should be in those situations. For example, like this past weekend,
Lizzo, right, she was talkingabout how she feels so bullied in

(01:09:12):
the industry and wants to quit.And I think I've hinted. I don't
know if I've explicitly told you mysituation with Lizzo, but it wasn't positive
and it kind of hurt me,and it kind of has left a sour
taste my mouth about her. ButI also always say, like, Lizo

(01:09:33):
is someone in the world that hasbeen bullied and tormented and ridiculed, probably
more than anyone else, only becauseof how she looks, which is so
disheartening. And she's actually really talentedwhen you peel things back, like,
she's very, very talented. Iwas a huge fan of her, and
so yesterday at work when we wereon air, that was a big story

(01:09:55):
of the day, as her sayingthat she was going to quit, and
like the me part of me itto be like you were mean to me,
right, like you were, youwere not nice to me, but
like the actual like not really godly, but like the compassionate and like human

(01:10:15):
to human side of me was like, this person has been through so much.
She probably had a bad day whenher and I had her interaction,
But when you go through her commentsand stuff, people are so mean.
People are so mean to her inperson, people just like believe her relentlessly,
like no human deserves that, andthat can bring out ugly and people.
And when I was talking on airabout it, I wanted to go

(01:10:41):
high. And I'm really proud ofmyself that I did. And I feel
like because I've been reading more andbeing closer to God and in my religion
and faith. That is that theHoly Spirit like made me do that.
Like I feel like because I've beenlearning more about the Holy Spirit and like
the love that we should be givingeach other each to each other, Like

(01:11:02):
that's all that religion is. Likereligion is just loving each other. I
on air came from a place likeof love instead of that hurt that I
personally felt. And I was reallyproud of myself because I could be petty
sometimes and yeah in the industry andof all the years that I've worked,
like that wasn't a positive situation thatI had interaction that I'd had with her,

(01:11:26):
But at the end of the day, like we're all human, and
if I have the power, notthe power, but like the platform,
if I have the platform to sharea story about her that she's going through
something really really tough right now andreally just needs compassion and love, Like
that's the most important thing because we'veall been bullied, like I've bullied people

(01:11:48):
before, like I have bullied,So I'm not perfect and no one is
perfect. And if we kind ofmore spread that love and we kind kind
of let God weed those those timesof pride and selfishness and unbelief and worry,

(01:12:10):
we will get closer to peace andjoy. And I think that's kind
of where I was trying to getat. Like I felt a lot,
I felt really good, and Ikind of felt really proud of myself that
I was able to do that andwhatever that means for you and what that
is for you. But that's howI'm reflecting the readings to my own life.
So I hope that you enjoyed prayingwith me today. Whatever is your

(01:12:30):
special intention, whatever you need extraprayers on, we are going to pray
for, and just remember that someoneloves you above everything else, and they
really want the best for you,and they want you to have joy and
peace, and they are going toabundantly bless you whatever it is that you
believe in. I'm glad that weget to spend this time sharing our prayers

(01:12:53):
because I, you know, don'twant to bombard you with my beliefs and
if it's not your beliefs. It'stotally fine. I just really want you
to know that you're loved and you'recared for, and then you deserve peace
and joy, and I hope thatyou are working on that however you feel
is necessary, and just these simpledaily prayers alone can help. So thank

(01:13:13):
you so much for hanging out withme. Please subscribe if you haven't shared
the pod with your friends. Ifyou're really liking it, I can't wait
to hang out with you again nextweek. And I'm live here in New
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(01:13:34):
crystaltal Sas. I really am herefor you, so whatever you need hit
me on Snapchat. Okay, I'mat latch crystaltal Sas. I love,
love, love you and I'll seeyou on the next one.