My First White Wedding

In tonight's episode of Crystal's Nightcap what is going on with Wendy Williams?, Kristin Cavallari's new man, we go to my first White wedding, and MORE!

Episode Transcript

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Yes, it's me, Crystal LittleSauce shocking I know. We are back
for another episode of Crystal's Nightcap Tonight. What in the wicked world is going
on with Wendy Williams, Kristin Cavalariand her new Man's the national anthem that
is just quaking everyone in their boots. We go to my first white wedding
is that's dad's side of the familyand more Get Usa. My name is

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Crystal role Sas. I'm a twentysomething Latina who just moved from California to
the Big app Happy Sorry that wasmy cat frappuccino. They're still getting used
to the city life. Anyways,Where was I am? Oh yeah,
I take over afternoon radio every dayon the world famous Z one hundred.
But when night falls, I'm lookingfor all the cloud I can get and

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casually searching these streets for my PrinceCharming. Come on this sexy single journey
where we'll go on a date witha new guy from the Apps every week,
host red carpets and interviews, andweasel our way into the secret society
of New York's top social life.Oh yeah, and someone's always watching.
That's my overprotective mom, this isCarystal's nightcap. I know, I know,

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I know, I'll stop. Notthe tomatoes, don't throw the tomatoes
at me. I'm sorry, Iknow, Oh, I know, I'm
sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, specifically to Cardlo's Candelaria
and Jody and Hypene more Oscar andSola and Izzy and obviously you. It's

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been a second. It's been toolong. It's been probably a month since
we have chit chatted. And it'snot just because of nothing. There's actually
something behind the scenes that's been goingon and it finally ended this past Friday,
and there is just some a situation. I'm of course, it's like

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really annoying when they're like, ohmy god, I can't talk about it.
But yeah, there's this pretty serioussituation going on and it was going
on for a while, and theaccumulation of it was this past Friday.
I just wanted to make sure that, like I didn't interfere or make things
wrong for the situation and I didn't. Now all the good energy, all

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of my hush hush, all ofthe positivity paid off, because the result
is great and I'm very very happyabout that. I might be able to
elaborate just a little bit towards theend, but ultimately we are back,
Happy hump Day, hope that youhad a great week so far. There

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has been so much that has beenhappening. We're going to actually talk about
the cheese may because what has beenhappening with Wendy Williams and the other Wendy,
Wendy's itself Diddy, there's just alot. So why don't I share
the cheesema about what's been going onwith what've been scrolling through? Yo?

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Have you seen this? Did sheshut really? Oh my god, I
can't believe it. We're sharing thecheese man, We're sharing the chief man.
No, I did not watch theWendy Williams documentary because I am not
going to be a viewer that contributesto that bombastic situation that they are putting

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her hand. Number Two, Idon't have cable, so even if I
really did want to watch it,I don't have the Lifetime channel and I
don't have wherever Lifetime streams that.But I did watch pretty much in an
entirety of it on TikTok, whichat the end of the day is helping
out the TikTok viewers trying to getthe word out instead of actually helping the
network that is putting Lifetime. Whatare you doing? We need to start

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putting the blame actually on Lifetime,because we're putting it on the family that's
not helping Wendy or the guardianships slashconservatorship that Wendy's under. But it's like
Lifetime allowed this to air. Peopleat Lifetime are also exploiting Wendy. Now
you could also make the argument thatanother network would have picked it up.

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Sure, but at the same timeLifetime did. And this is not fair,
This is not right. I,as you know, am a huge
Wendy Williams fan. I will sayit again. When she was going through
everything with her ex husband now KevinHunter, when she found out that he
was having a baby on her backin twenty eighteen, she went on a
hiatus towards the end of the year, and then she came back her first

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show back March of twenty nineteen.I was there. I have receipts.
There's a vlog on YouTube search upWendy Williams's first day back and this was
posted four years ago. Oh mygod. Those on March. Oh my

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gosh, I was a chunky monkeythis March fifth, twenty nineteen. And
here's just audio clips from it,because honestly, it was so iconic.
Mind you, This was the coldestday of New York City in like years.
Everything was closed, like every itwas a snow day. It was

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like a Monday. It was likea snow day. Everything was closed,
the airports were shut down, likeit was a crazy quote crazy snowstorm in
New York City. And me andmy premas Goby love you so much,
and her sister and her cousin,they went with me all the way our
little trip to New York City.And the reason that we were going is
because our cousin Chada, got anemail that possibly we had tickets to see

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Wendy Williams if the show was goingto come back. And we were just
all so supportive of Wendy because everythingthat happened with Kevin, and we knew
that her health was also declining.This was after the this is October,
well, this was the March afterthe October of when she fell to the
floor when she fainted. So therewas just a lot going on Wendy and

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we were just so happy that shewas finally back. So we're like outside
in line, and then we makeit inside and then we finally see Wendy.
Mom. We flew all the wayfrom San Francisco, California, and
we made it. We're gonna seeWendy. Wendy wait, and then you
get inside. They have a liveDJ and it is a party in there,

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like eight seven in the morning.It is like a straight on party,
like we're like dancing. The DJhas it bumped in. I haven't
seen everybody. Wendy then stand up, take over the shoulder selfie as Wendy's

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walking by them. Here's a shot. Now. Now let me tell you
Wendy goes through the entire studio audienceand takes a selfie or video with every
single person. Ah. That isjust forever implemented in my mind as one
of my core memories. I'm sohappy that I vogged that day and Wendy

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meant so much, means so muchto me, Like I really looked up
to her. I know she's problematic, I know she has said some cancellable
things. I know that she wasin a beef with one of my coworkers
now, Angie Martinez, and Ifeel like that was a lot. You
need to go back into the radiohistory books to look up that one.
That was crazy. And even inMelanie Martinez's book, she talks about Wendy

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Williams, which is pretty iconic.And I don't know, I just remember
when I first moved to New YorkCity here living on my own, and
my little brother Seman was living withme, and I would like, get
up in the morning, get ready. I would get up, and by
that time, Wendy's show would alreadybe post on YouTube. So as I'm
getting ready for my doing my hairand makeup to be on the radio,

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I was just watching Wendy's show fromthat morning and getting ideas for my show
later on, and I was justlike, you know, well, when
I get on the mic, I'mgoing to harness my inner Wendy. And
she was just so wondy for meend of my career and now being here
in New York City, you know. And shortly thereafter, her health started

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declining because of what was going onwith her personal life. And we've seen
that, and we've seen everything dealingwith her graves disease, and now we're
seeing this documentary and it's just,honestly so heartbreaking because I saw comments like
this everywhere saying, if you're atrue Wendy fan, you know that Wendy
wouldn't want you to see her likethis, Like Wendy always wanted to be

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put together and she wasn't perfect,like sometimes things would happen, but she's
a girl's girl, and she's aglitz and the glam and she's a capital
P. And it just it's notthe Wendy that if people love her and
care about her, should be puttingout there because she's going through things.
Clearly, she's going through problems withalcohol. Clearly she's going through problems with

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dementia. I have been talking topeople here the building that were close to
Wendy and worked really close with her, and honestly, they're even questioning the
family around her. They're saying thateven her own real blood family, they
don't really trust for her, andit's because they've actually seen things too,
and it's just so heartbreaking. Samethe demise of someone that was so big

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and powerful and entertaining and like literallybrought eglaps every day to seeing what's happening
with her now, Like I don'tlike this. I'm praying for her.
We should all be praying for herand all the people that go through things
like this. My Bisa Wlita,my great grandma on my mommy's side,
she went through Alzheimer's and it's adifferent form of aging and it's completely different

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than don't mention, I think,but it does have to do with what
you remember and developing in your frontallobe. And it's just sad to see
someone deteriorating from those types of illnesses. So I really hope and pray that
we're going to get more clarity onwhat's going on with her, because people
have been going in, especially onthe lady that is now her guardian and

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then the DA that assigned the guardianto Wendy. Did you see the tea
on that? Okay, So everyoneis doing their own investigating on this guardianship
with Wendy Williams. So now peoplehave been digging in to the judge who
ruled in Wendy Williams's guardianship case.Right, she allegedly was previously investigated for
granting guardianship appointments to people who donatedto her Supreme Court election. Now when

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I kind of dug deeper into this, it didn't seem like the numbers are
like astonishing. I mean, shedid receive five thousand dollars in campaign donations
from twenty nineteen to twenty twenty two. Five thousand dollars like okay, but
this was from twenty guardianship lawyers.That those numbers really aren't adding up to
something that for me is very alarming. But people that did donate those same

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people or law firms, they weregranted what they asked for. So that
alone, I mean, hello,Payola, we get it. That happens
in everything, and I'm not sayingthat it's right. I'm happy that people
are doing their due diligence and digginginto things like this on Behalf Wendy.
So there's definitely be a case openedon that investigation. If anything will happen,

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We're not sure because these judges againare very powerful and they are very
in with anyone that would be doingan investigation on them. So a little
hush money that could be slipped underthe rug yesterday. So I don't know
if anything's going to happen with this. All that I know is I really
hope, I really hope. Maybeif we keep praying we could one day

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get the Wendy Williams back that weall know and love. I just I
think it's looking unlikely. And herlashing out on her assistance and people on
those clips that I saw from thedocumentary, Hello, like she's going through
mental health issues. Like I'm notgonna sit here and call her crazy or
say that it's like wrong what she'sdoing because a lot of the time what

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she's saying doesn't make sense. Thefact that they had Black China on the
show and Black China was trying totalk to her, and even in her
eyes, do you see how likeyou can tell that Black China she's heartbroken
because she knows that it's not theWendy that she loves. But the one
part, the one part that tookme out and we were all laughing at,
is how Wendy sat here and continuedto call Kevin Hunter broke. That

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hurts too, because it's like anythingthat Kevin Hunter does have or did have,
it's like it was Wendy's. Sobut yeah, those memes where it's
like, even with dementia, younever forget that your dude is broke.
All love, all prayers to WendyWilliams and her family and all of us
are heartworking about this situation for real. Now, I don't want to keep
going to negative. I'm only gonnalightly gleaze on what's going on with P

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Diddy. We all know Cassie openedup a lawsuit and they settled it out
of Core thirty million dollars for allof the mental, physical, sexual abuse
that he put her through. Now, when this happened, I said it
on air, this is going toopen the floodgates. Cassie is not the
only one that Diddy has messed with, and it is going to be devastating

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what we're gonna learn about this manand how deep and dark he's infiltrated into
just the darkest parts of the industry. When people, especially if someone like
Aubrey O'Day from Dandy Kane has spokenout and said that the industry is very,
very dark and twisted and P Diddyis an awful man. We are
now going to see what that meansbecause there has been just crazy allegations.

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They're coming from everywhere, every whichhe she they them, every gender and
boundaries and your sexual orientation are notbeing taken into account because what we are
seeing now with Diddy is truly disgustingage being thrown in. There other reputable

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names in the R and B andhip hop community that have not been confirmed
nor deny yet. I don't evenwant to say those allegations either, because
it's about to get real crusty anddusty and disgusting. So Diddy deserves to
be in jail. And one wordI have is that he's so rich and

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powerful that it might not happen.But we'll see if enough people can come
forward and if enough for seats canbe proven. Do you never know?
What do you think? I'm kindof on the fence with this. It's
giving Harvey Weinstein and I mean,he's in the slammer, but I don't
know about this one. He's justvery powerful. So we'll see. But

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there will be developments, there willbe more people coming out, there will
be more dark, twisted stories,and it's going to be for a long
time. So just again, prayersto everybody that Diddy has literally violated on
crazy occasions. Oh my gosh,Love is Blind is Blind season six?
Everybody has been talking about it.Now listen, if you're like my boyfriend

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Zaddy, and you don't like watchingthose stupid reality love TV dating shows.
This is not one of those,Like you, you seriously need to get
into the tea of this. Howdo I feel about all the couples.
I will tell you what conversation hitme the most. It was Johnny and
Amy's birth control conversation about how shedoes not want to be on birth control

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and she doesn't want to interfere withher hormones because she does want to be
a mom one day. I lovethat she said up for herself and Johnny
just saying like, okay, wellthen we need to figure it out.
Okay, Well then there's other formsof user to wear something or user to
get the V word. But Ilove that they highlighted this conversation in this

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season because it's something that we don'ttalk about a lot, and it's something
that's put onto women, and itjust does not make sense to me why
we would mess with the hormones ofa woman that is the vessel for a
future kid. I have been onbirth control for very long and I don't

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like it. But if I didn'twant to be a young parent and possibly
single parent, then I knew thatI had to protect myself just like a
lot of people do. Or Iwould be abstinate and it would just be
a lot easier if it was onthe guys. I'm happy that now there

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are more research on male birth controls. I was having this conversation with Zaddy
and it got heated. It gotvery heated, but not in a bad
way, just like we're both verypassionate on each sides of our things.
And it's like guys have their egosand they don't want something to stop working
that they have, and women arelike, okay, fine. Then I
guess that we for so long havebeen the ones that have had to put

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up with this. But it's notfun, it's not it's not cute.
And I'm really very shook and happyand proud that we have women like Amy
out here to look up to andbe like, you know what, if
I don't want to do it,then I don't have to do it,
and we can try to figure otherthings, and if we can't, then
it's just not going to work out. Like stick to your guns, Sis,
stick to your guns. I'm veryproud of her for that. That

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was a huge conversation for me.We also we have Amber y'all seriously,
stop dragging Amber. Stop dragging Amber. She does kind of look like Megan
Fox, and I like the memeswhere it's like she does look like Megan
Fox before any botox or she surgeries. She does like Megan Fox used to

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have a chin like she used nota crimson chin, but she used to
have a chin first of all.Second of all, without any of those
fillers, she does look a lotmore like Amber. And put black hair
on Amber, she will look alot more like Megan Fox. I just
people are so mean. People areso mean. And yes, clearly we

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can see that Amber was on theside of insecure. She was showing clingy
insecureness and that's what it is.But people are dragging her for it.
You guys, we've all been insecure, like we have all been insecure so
much and liked a guy so muchmore than he has liked us. Can

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we just have a little empathy?Can we have a little sympathy for her?
You know me, I'm a girl'sgirl. I'm gonna defend my women.
But I just hate seeing how muchshe's been dragged and I love seeing
her speak up for herself in recentinterviews, saying yes I was insecure.
I have worked a lot on myselfbecause of that. She's also being silly
and telling people, Hey, ifyou've told me I look like Megan Foxing,

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you please be vocal right now.I would really love that. Now
when it comes to Jimmy, Jimmy, I don't really know how to read
that guy. Unfortunately, we sawclearly that he just didn't find Amber physically
attractive as she found him, whichwas tough to watch. I've seen responses

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on all of it, and Ido agree that Jimmy was saying most of
the right things, like he wassaying things that he should say. And
Jimmy is getting pushed to the edgebecause sometimes he does clap back and stand
up for himself, like when Amberwas like, I cooked and I cleaned
for you, and I do allthis and then I, you know,
threw a back for you, andhe was like, well, in my

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defense, like you were the onethat wanted to throw back, and I'm
I need a little space from thattoo, which was shattering, which was
just earth shattering. I was sohurt for Amber. Like the one thing,
the one thing that would kill us. What it is is if a
guy told us that like he feltlike we were doing too much in the

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sexuality field, and like we weredoing it too much or wanted it too
much, because it's just like,isn't that what you want? And that's
what all these guys care about most, you know, and ultimately maybe not.
I mean sure, I do knowsome guys O were that that is
absolutely not their number one thing.But that's kind of what we've conditioned.
That's the sexuality of it all.Like, yeah, the hyper sexual worlds

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that we live in, that isexactly what we have been up against since
our youth. Okay, And sohearing that a guy like doesn't want that
from us or was like too overbeardwith that, that's like, soh my
god, it felt so I thinkwe all felt so bad seeing that.
Yeah, that's definitely not gonna lastand we know that, which is It's
okay, Amber, she has hadgrowth since then. I mean they filmed

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over a year ago and more thana year ago, and she's gonna find
a perfect man for her. Iknow that. Oh my gosh, Kenneth
and Brittany, do not get mestarted on Kenneth's dolphin loving head ass bro
Kenneth. Okay, thish, Oh, this is kind of mean. And

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this is what I've been seeing.There's been old clips of Kenneth when he
was on some type of news show, like promoting something about the youth.
I think he's a teacher or somethinglike that, right, And people in
the comments are saying that he speaksa little spicy. He speaks, he
speaks a little flamboyant. And that'snot the site that we saw of him
on the show. On the show, we saw he's like this like cool

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guy who is addicted to his phone. He has phone addiction issues. And
let me tell you, Brittany isa sweetheart. She is beautiful and she
is just like a good vibe.She dresses well, she's successful, and
any guy would swoon over Brittany likeshe is. She is it now she's

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like ready to obviously get really seriouswith him, And yeah, I don't
know if he likes her gender,Like I really don't. I don't know
if he likes her gender. That'skind of what it was giving. She
even was vocal about how she's morephysical with him than he is of her,
and he could work on that.And he just likes to touch his
phone. I don't know if he'saddicted to grinder. I don't know what

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the situation is. You know,I'm not making fun of him or people
that are in the closet like itgenuinely that is how it was coming across.
And it's just unfortunate. If hecan't live in his truth, like
then we need to pray for himto be strong and live in that truth.
Or if he just really is onthe flamboyant side and just like didn't
like her anymore, then he can'tblame God. Like that's where I was

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getting mad, Like he was likeputting it on God, and it's like,
well, if we don't work out, you know, I'm just trusting
in God. And it's just likethat's like it was so passive how he
said that, Like I just didn'tlike how he brought got it to that,
Like don't bring God and you haveyour own voice and you can speak
your actual truth and like what isgoing in on your brain because saying that
things are okay and they're clearly notnot okay. Yo. Ken Kenneth had

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me on one now Ad and Clayad out here was an NFL cheerleader.
She's gorgeous. She's a ten outof ten and Clay is good looking and
tall, and that's and he's successful. And yeah, he's successful too,
you know. At the I kindof do feel bad a little bit for

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Clay because even people were dragging himfor saying that it's gonna be hard for
him to be faithful, Like itis true, Like if you grow up
and all you see is like yourdad being a player and like having all
these women like fawn over him,and he takes you on vacation and you
see him with different women all thetime, and you never really see like
what a true, genuine, unconditionallove is. I could kind of see

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how that could be a little challenging, but I think that he needs to
touch some grass, like yes,you're good looking, yes you are a
homeowner, but at the end ofthe day, you also need to understand
that you have a really, reallygreat woman there that is like willing to
just walk away from you, andyou need to share your danks soup with

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her. If you're over here slurpand everything drop of soup on your honeymoon
vacation and you're saying how good itis that you're not even gonna like be
like boot you want some baby,want a little taste, you want a
little dribble, How dare he slurpup all that soup and all even offer
her that was oh my gosh,that's too much. Or you even saw
her face, she was disgusted.She's trying for him, But I think

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that even she knows that she shouldhave a guy that really looks at her
as the prize, and he's kindof he's trying. It's like he's trying
to be that guy. But Idon't think that he fully has it right
now ready in it. I justdon't think that. And I think that
secretly she does know that. Likeeven though he has like on the outside,
like he does look like he's everythingtogether. He has his life,

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his job, his looks, butthe fact that he's like one hundred percent
prioritizing his job and doesn't really wantto make time for her, that's a
problem. Like your man should beobsessed with you. Your man should want
to spend every second with you.He should want to spend all the amount
of money and extra hours flying tosee you and be with you. Like

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if he doesn't, if he's likeI got to make things happen more like
I'm working, I'm grinding I gottakeep on my grind, Like I respect
and understand that, but then likedo that, like don't don't have me
be your second option, right,like like if you're trying to get ready
and be married and all these thingsand have me move in with you and
stuff, like show me the energythat you actually want to build this with

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me, because he was not giventhat. And I don't think that they're
gonna last. Oh, Laura andJeremy, Jeremy not freaking the Parking Law
of loss are found, Okay,Laura and Jeremy. Yeah, Jeremy,
he he's torn and he also haslike a lot going on. I mean

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all those things about him, likebeing engaged before and then like living in
the house that he lived with hisex fiance, and then like right,
getting into love is blind. LikeI think that he was kind of trying
to, Like at first, Ireally thought that Himalaya were gonna make it
because they had a really great communicationuntil he decided to lie to her and
go hang out with Sarah Ann.Like, oh, oh yeah, I'm

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very happy that Laura read him tofilth, write him to filth, you
know my mom something like that.She's really good at this we need to
get better at this, Mohitas.You got to ask the questions before you
come up and tell them everything,because if you tell guys like all the
ways, you know that they werelying first and upfront, then you can't
really catch them in the lie becauseyou're just telling them. And I've done

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this in the past too, luckily, Like from what I know and see
so far, me and Zad eventogether for a little over a year,
and he's never lied to me,and I make it an effort to not
lie to him. They're nothing reallyto lie to each other about. We're
very open about that stuff. Butback in the past, you know,
I had my toxic situation and Iwould just be like, why were you
at blah blah blah, and likeif you do that, then they're just

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gonna come up with excuses if youask them specific questions like Laura did.
Laura is she's a smart cookie.She's a real one. Laura. She's
gonna end up with a multimillion dollarman. I know her. I know
her. She is going to endup with the right one, with a
very successful career. I see alot in Laura's cards. She's really really

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smart and she has a really greatfamily that supports her, and that is
huge because that's very hard to findthese days. And if you have a
family that supports you and everything thatyou are and talks you up and loves
you, that is that's a plus. These days, it's hard to find
that. So the fact that shewas like where were you then? And
then what time? And then towhere? And she caught him in his

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life because she already knew the truth. That's what you're supposed to do.
Bro, as a grown man.You are not hanging out on a parking
lot until five am with another grownwoman that's just in high school. You
already even doing that. So yeah, Jeremy, Jeremy, you got caught
red handed? Yo. The nextepisode, when does it freaking drop?

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Bro? These next episodes of Whatis Blind and we find out what's gonna
happen at the Altar are gonna beso good. They really did something with
this series. And I tell everybodyabout it. I know that sometimes reality
TV it's like, who cares thekind of stupid everyone's watching it? I
don't want to watch it, butyou know, just just live a little
see what the people are talking about. I guarantee you're gonna end up being

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lightweight addicted like I am. Sothat's what's been going on with the reality
TV world. And I also wantto play this clip now. This young
woman, eight year old Kinsley Murray, who is being compared to Friggie in
all of the best ways. She'ssaying the national anthem at the Pacers and

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Raptors game and I've never in mylife heard anything like this, and it
is beautiful. Oh begain you seeb doll la for the B butdwin whoa

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and the gain love balls B stackYeah yeah new then say that spak Man,

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Yeah, yes, yes, Kinsley. That's eight year old Kinsley Murray
with our head books to done absolutelyapt ten out of ten. Listen.
It was a little shaky sometimes thecontrol. We can work on that the

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pitch as well. But get readybecause the name Kinsley Murray is not going
away anytime soon. A few moreyears of vocal coaching. She's gonna win
a Grammy. And I said ithere first, with that passion, with
that f with the oh, Itrust me you, she is gonna be

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a star. I just I couldsee all of it. And the triple
octaves she had three octaves with thatLand of the Free, Oh so angelic.
Congratulations. She is like the viralgirl of this week and I'm just

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so proud of her. Her parentsshould be very proud. I know there's
some people dragging her vocals, butlisten, she's eight years old. She's
eight years old with that confidence andthat range. Cannot wait to see you
flourish Kinsley, keep it up,queen. Oh. Another queen I need
to talk about is Kristin cat Valari. She is Luguna Beach's it girl,

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the Hills it girl. People tryto compete with her, you can't.
She is though, like she isit and he has been divorced from her
ex NFL retired husband j Cutler forfour years now. They separated in twenty
twenty after being together for ten years. They have three amazing children together,
eleven, nine, and eight.And she's been out and about. She

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has been very vocal about how she'sdating and she would love to find a
good man one day. And nowshe just hard launched on IG last night.
Her relationship with twenty four year oldMark esthis and if you don't know
who he is, neither do Idon't worry. But if you were on
TikTok and you've seen some young finecowboy men that are called the Montana Boys

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with the Z. He's part ofthat TikTok crew. Now. He used
to play football for college teams inMontana like Montana Tech and University of Montana.
But now you could see his bear, no hair, shirtless, six
packed self modeling four different cowboy brands, which is everything. And you can,

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as I mentioned a second ago,see him on Kristen Cavalii's timeline because
she time line hard launched him aphoto of then and all she put was
he makes me happy with a whiteheart emoji. And I just know that
her ex NFL husband is punching theair right now because she wins like there's

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nothing that Kristen does that is nota w Yes, he may be a
good old thirteen years her senior,but she has a look, the body,
the tenacity, and the youthfulness toherself that she can pull a young
twenty year old. And is itweird? She's thirty seven. She's not

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over forty, So I don't thinkit's weird because she's not over forty like
a thirty Okay, if a thirtyseven year old dude is dating a twenty
four old year old girl. Twentyfour is okay, twenty four, it's
the twenty twenty one, even twentythree that's kind of weird. I think
twenty four is okay. I thinktwenty four and thirty seven. I don't
see a problem with that. Ithink also because it's Kristen, I don't

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see a problem with that. Iwant to see her happy. She's unproblematic,
like she really is. I knowsome people think that she might have
been messy in the past, butshe's really not messy. Like if she
likes the guys, she's confident,she'll say what's on her mind. She
could get a little like snippy andyappy and spicy, but she's never like
overly disrespectful. She's never said anyproblematic or cancelable things. I really am

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happy for her, and this isa win for us. This is a
win for us, will hit us, This is a win city girls up.
And I want to see her withpdating him. That's what I want
to see. We're probably not gonnasee that because the kids are young,
and that can kind of affect youngkids like that. So I think in
that sense, I think it's awesomethat she's deciding to be respectful with her

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hard launch with this new guy.But because I love her and because she's
hot, I want to see littlePda with this guy, one of the
Montana Boys. Literally, that's whatthe tik talk dancing group name is.
And I can watch Montana Boys fora few minutes because I haven't taken woman.
Yes I am. I have myown boyfriends, so I'm not gonna

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be scrolling on TikTok for hours watchingthe Montana Boys, but I will for
a few minutes until I realize that'snot what I should be doing as an
almost thirty year old movehead that's ina beautiful, loving, flourishing relationship.
But other than that, congratulations tothem. That is huge news. And
I love to see Kristen living herbest life. Now, what's going on
with me and my life? Honestlyand not too much. We're going to

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catch up right now in Crystal's cave. Hello, who's in here? It's
so dark? Ew? What's dripping? I can step on something? You're
now inside Crystal's cave? Cave?Now? Since we last talked, I
was actually back home two weekends agofor one of my primas weddings, which

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was everything, and I'm so thankfulthat we went and I didn't block out
and I didn't overserve myself, sowe're out of applause. And then the
weekend before after that, two weekendsago, I went to Texas because Zaddie,
actually his side of the family,his brother was getting married, and

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I made the plus one list,thank you very much. Actually I made
the plus two list because number oneis his kiddo, who also came along.
So it was a three of us, and this is our first trip
together. We actually remember. Wewent to Disneyland together and then he spent
a whole week with us here inNew York City over New Year's Eve,
and yeah, it was so muchfun. It was really quick, kind

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of annoying. I missed my flightFriday night, but I ended up pulling
up Saturday morning and we got tovibe and hang out. I met his
brother's side of the family, whichis awesome and amazing and so sweet and
so welcoming and so warming. Itwas my first white wedding, can you
believe it? My first white wedding. They were playing Love Shack and Halla

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Back Girl and Mister Brightside, andI grew up with gun Stefani and like
the Killer Soul. That's not evenlike crazy White. But usually when I
go to well As, it's it'sonly Mexicans. I've only been to Mexican
wedding, so this was my firstone. Whether it's not a madiachi or
a banda or like kumbiya here andthere, but it was a vibe.
And again I didn't overserve myself,thank you very much. No blacking out

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for me. I'm maturing, yess, I know I am. And then
after the wedding, we wanted tosurprise the kiddo by taking them to BUCkies
because it is just like the ultimategas station stop experience in the South,
and they don't have any around NewYork, they don't have any around California.
So we're kind of in his earthat we wanted to take him to
BUCkies, and we ended up goingand it was so fun. And then

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I'll walk out like four in themorning to get back onto my flight back
here, and it's gonna be chillfor the next few weeks. I took
those two days, those weekends off. I'll be working the next few weekends
and then March is my birthday.Months and I get my birthday weekend off
my trenthra. So excited for thatbecause going back home, I already shared

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a little bit, but I recordedthe video and I sent out the photos
from invitations this past weekend. Incredible. My birthday month starts this Friday,
so I'll be dropping a few picksfrom my birthday invitations on Friday, and
then I have like a whole videoas well that I'll be dropping maybe like
a week after that, and thenit's gonna be part tay Time, part

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take time for my Trenthira, whichis not gonna be so crazy, Like
I'm gonna have a dinner with thefamily and then all the young cousins we're
all gonna take a party bus aroundthe city. We're gonna go visit my
Prima Jessica at UCSF because she isin her second round of second round of
chemo, so we are all givingher positive energy and positive vibes. My

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Preta Jessica is so and she's reallygoing through right now mentally, Like even
though she's very close to God andshe's usually a very positive person, she
is really struggling with her mental healthgoing through chemo again. So I just
would really like it. If youcould please give her some love and send
some extra prayers because she really reallyreally needs it. But I'm excited to

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go pull up on her in ourbig old party bus and she's gonna have
her dress in her little cornetamen.So it's going to be a vibe.
And that's kind of what I'm lookingforward to, is just spending time with
my fam and Zaddy moved into agorgeous place and he has a lot of
space now, so I've been lookingon a Facebook marketplace for what I want
to have in his house, andI found a piano for free, so

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I'm gonna have him go pick thatup. I'm demanding a tree nest,
like one of those little eggs thatyou hang from trees or hang from things
like the egg nest like kind offloating couch, but it's like an egg
nest, you know what I'm talkingabout. So he already put the rope
up for that. Now I haveto find the perfect egg for me.

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I'm out one of those on oneof his trees in his backyards. And
he has an extra bedroom that I'mgoing to convert into my closet, even
though I don't even live there andI'm like, barely home. I don't
care. I'm taken over at oneof his rooms, and I'm so excited
for that. I'm excited to seehis new place. He just moved,
so I'm going to be able tocheck it out when i go back home
for my NIRA. But other thanthat, it's just all good stuff.

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I'm going to be here in NewYork for the next few weekends, and
I'll let you know if anything crazyor poppin happens. Today I was walking
into work and I see this likegroup of men walking out of my building.
And I look at one of themen and I'm like, I think
I know you. Oh, Ido know you. Your doctor Phil.
Doctor Phil, just casually walking outof my job, and you know me,

(40:52):
Like, I'm I'm going to askfor a selfie, Like if it's
me, I'm going to ask fora selfie. But the vibe that I
was getting from the crew and thevibe I was getting from doctor Phill was
like not selfie like. And Iwas oddly self aware today, so I
was like, I'm just not gonnaask for a selfie today. I don't
want to get denied and rejected.And also I am like in the vicinity
of my work, solet's kind ofthirsty. If I was upstairs in the

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studio would be different, but nowI'm like out and like set my public
down in the building. So Idon't want to cause more attention to him
because he's already trying to get intohis blacked out SUV. But I think
I will have my time with doctorPhil, Doctor Phil's Phil. Doctor Phil
is a very volatile person. Somepeople really like him, some people don't
like him at all because of hispolitics and certain things that he has done.
At the end of the day,I just know him as a cash

(41:35):
me outside guy that put her on. So thank you for doing that,
Doctor Phil. Daniel Bergoalie, therap Queen, and mom to Bee.
So that's kind of why I wanteda selfie, and I kind of want
to say I caught him outside asa cashim but again, I will have
my time for that. Other thanthat, everything is solid, everything is
jolly. I think it's time toget into our Daily Motivator. Would like

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to end the pod talking about dailymotivation and then en end it with a
closing prayer. So let's start theDaily Motivator. This one's called dare to
achieve. All right, let's getinto it. Go ahead and dream.
Go ahead and act on your dream. Dare to desire improvement, progress,
achievement, fulfillment. Do the workto make it happen. Embrace the challenges

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as they point the way to yourgoal. Learn, adapt, inquire,
wonder, and most of all act. Your life today is greatly enhanced by
the ambition, competence, and achievementof countless individuals going back for centuries.
Keep the goodness of their achievements goingwith your own positive focus and dedication.
Seek to better understand and experience thereality of existence. Seek to better understand

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and experience the reality of existence.Work to improve upon what you discover.
The possibilities have no limit. Doyour part to bring the best ones into
being. Ah dare to achieve,dream, Act on your dream. It
really is never too late. Itold you a few weeks ago that I
started ice skating and it's been likethe funnest thing to do. And even

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though I might not be in theice skating Olympics, it's still fun and
it's still something that like I've alwayswanted to kind of get into. And
I'm really proud that I took thatstep. What are some things that you're
like, I kind of want todo this, I kind of want to
get into it. You could alwaysdo it, like you can always make
time for things that you really loveand want to work for. So whatever

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that is and means to you,I hope that you're doing it. Me
honestly, is just being here asyou one hundred every day and grinding and
putting up with the tough things thatI have to put up with here at
work, but like knowing that I'mstarting to figure out my purpose, and
honestly, I think it's just tospread happiness and laughter. That's like really

(43:50):
all that I want to do.And God has decided to do that for
me on a grand scale, likeon the biggest radio station in the world
pretty much, and I will continueto make God proud. So I'm very
happy that we're talking about achieving andgoing ahead with our dreams. So I
hope that you enjoyed today's episode ofCrystal's night Cap. That was the daily

(44:12):
motivator. We're going to get intoour prayer now, and I know it's
not for everyone, and I don'tever want to impede and push beliefs on
you if you want to stick aroundfor the prayer, cool. If not,
thank you so much for hanging out, and make sure you subscribe and
share the pot of your friends ifyou're really liking it. We are back
to our regular scheduled program. Ican all wait to see you next week
now. The prayer today is fromthe book called Jesus Calling, and I

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send it to all of my closefriends and family. Everyone that knows me
pretty much has one, and thisone was really good today, so good
that I even posted it on myInstagram story because I feel like I needed
to hear this. February twenty eighth. It's called stop judging and evaluating yourself,
for this is not your rule.Above all, stop comparing yourself with
other people. This produces feelings ofpride or inferiority, sometimes a mixture of

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both. I lead each of mychildren along a path that is uniquely tailored,
made for him or her. Comparingis not only wrong, it is
also meaningless. Don't look for affirmationsin the wrong places, your own evaluations
or those of other people. Theonly source of real affirmation is my unconditional

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love. Many believers perceive me asan unpleasable judge angrily searching out their faults
and failures. Nothing could be furtherfrom the truth. I died for your
sins so that I might clothe youin my garments of salvation. This is
how I see you, radiant inmy robe of righteousness. When I discipline
you, it is never an angeror disgust. It is to prepare you

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for face to face fellowship with methroughout all eternity. Immerse yourself in my
loving presence. Be receptive to myaffirmation, which flows continually from the Throne
of Grace. It was the firstpart we're talking about. Stop judging and
evaluating yourself, Stop comparing yourself withother people, Like that is just not

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what we're supposed to be doing.And that is the hardest thing to not
do, because all we're doing allday on our phones and in our conversations
and online is like comparing ourselves toother people, Like how can you not?
But I still struggle with this.I still look at other people and
think like, oh, I wouldwant this or that, or like oh,
they get to do all these goodthings, or look at how she

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looks. Oh my gosh, she'salways snatched, And in my head,
I'm just like I start thinking,I'm like, but what do I really
want from that? Like what couldI really use with that? Like if
I start envying people for money,it's like what do I actually want?
Like a new person? For who? For what? Like for why?
Like thinking of how I look?Like God made me looking exactly the way
I look. And we are flawless, as Beyonce said, You're flawless.

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But it really is hard. Butwhat we're learning here is that the only
real affirmation that we need is thefact that there is someone out in the
universe. Whatever you believe, thereis an energy and a love that has
unconditional love for you no matter what. And then also I think it's really
important to touch on the part abouthow some people think that God is unpleasable

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and judges and angrily looks for faultsand failures. But and that's a tough
time that people have with religion orpeople's beliefs. But just right here in
this in this own scripture from Lukesix thirty seven, John three, sixteen
seventeen in Isia six y ten andProverbs, that's literally not what that is,

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like the only reason that God issetting parameters for us, it's because
they do love us and they'd wantthe actual best for us, And like
everything that we are taught about Godand through God is actually for the betterment
of us. And we're not supposedto be feeling guilt like that is a
normal reaction because we're humans. Butwe're not supposed to be feeling guilt.

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We're supposed to know that like weare human, humans make mistakes. We
will make mistakes, and at theend of the day, there is going
to be someone that will always forgiveus and I will always love us no
matter what and wants to robe usin righteousness, radiant. They see us
radiant in their robe of righteousness becausethey gave up everything for us. I've

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been learning a lot about that too, because this part says when I discipline
you, it is never an anchoror discuss, it's to prepare you for
face to face, like we doget disciplined. Like there are consequences in
life, and it could be differentfor different people. I've gone through things
in my life and I've had tolive with and still live with today,
certain consequences from that, and itdoes bring me shame. It does bring

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me guilt. Like again, becausewe are human but at the end of
the day, when you know andyou feel like you know even though all
those things that I did, andlike, even though there are consequences for
those actions that I've made in thepast, no one can judge me.
God doesn't even judge me. Godloves me and love you no matter what.
Like how good does that feel?Like? Even when sometimes your own

(49:05):
family or the people that you careabout the most, or the people that
you want to love you the most, have those feelings of judgment towards you,
or they know certain things about youthat like give blemishes that you think,
But at the end of the day, like, none of that judgment,
none of that guilt actually matters becausewe are unconditionally loved by someone at
all times. That makes me feelreally comforted and really good and it makes

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me feel like it's okay, LikeI'm gonna make mistakes. I've made mistakes
before. Disciplines came from that,those consequences came from those because we're human.
But at the end of the day, like how lucky are we?
And we really need to continue togive things that there is someone that has
a path for us, accepts usno matter what, and loves us.

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No matter what. And I thinkwe need to hear that and tell ourselves
that more, because sometimes we dofeel like alone, Sometimes we do feel
unloved, sometimes we want to question. I was talking to my puddy,
my Jessica about her I mean,like she's literally in bed for the next

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few weeks, dealing with chemotherapy,fighting for her life because her body is
fighting against her to live, andshe was just talking about how hard it's
been on her mental and I totallythink it's fine for me to talk about
this because she's really open and sheI think her story deserves to be told

(50:35):
and hearing her and her struggles withher mental health and feeling really depressed and
feeling so sad being someone that's alwaysup, I mean, one of the
tough things that she's going through isshe's always positive and she's always looking at
things in a good way. Butshe doesn't feel like that right now.

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Like she's really confused on why she'snot feeling that way. And I'm telling
her, I'm like, Sis,it's because you're going through this again.
You've been through this already and youknow how hard it is physically for you
and mentally, and like you're oneprobably questioning why this happening again, But
two, you probably feel so alone, and she just started like breaking down.
She's like, I do I feelalone? I was like, you

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probably feel like nobody understands what you'regoing through, and like nobody can and
like I can't, like I cannot, like I'm sitting in my apartment with
my cat and I am gonna beable to see my family in two weeks,
and like my health is fine,Like I do not know at all
what is going on in your brainand how you feel at the hospital every
day, waking up, going tosleep, waking up in the middle of

(51:40):
the night to beeps and to needles, and you know, loss of your
hair and your femininity and things toyour body that are happening that you just
you don't know why it's happening,and you wish it's not happening. You
spent so much time trying to behealthy after the chemo the first time a
few years ago, and now it'sback and you feel like you're reverting to
it. Like I don't, Idon't know how you probably feel alone,

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And she's like, I really feelalone, Like I feel like no one
is there, and I'm like Godis there, Like God has a plan,
God has a reason. Please keepreading the calendar I sent you.
I'm going to send you more.There's an app called Our Daily Bread and
it reads it's like a podcast ofa reading and a story and a really
uplifting story every morning. Download thatI'll send you YouTube of New Life Church

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in California. They post their sermonsonto YouTube, so like, listen to
those when you're feeling down, becauselike that's the only thing that can keep
your mind positive when it's so soso in the gutter. And even though
like the more reinforcement I can giveher about God and letting her know there's

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someone that loves you and someone thathas a plan and wants the best for
you, and we'll have the bestfor you, and there is a plan
here, like there is a weirdmethod to the madness that our human brands
cannot understand. You know. It'sthe feeling of being alone that a lot
of us feel. Like I even'tfeel like that way sometimes, like I
feel like, even though I amso blessed in so many ways, like
the struggles that I go through behindclosed doors, like no one can really

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understand. And if I even complainabout certain things, It's just like shut
up, like why are you complaining? Like your life is amazing, you
know, but at the end ofthe day, like we are not alone.
You are so loved. There isan amazing, amazing journey ahead of
you no matter what that even youand I cannot comprehend understand, but just

(53:32):
keep being positive and ultimately, likeit doesn't matter what you believe in,
who you believe in, what religion, Like, the bottom line is just
love, like the golden rule.Treat others how you want to be treated
and even better. I was talkingto another one of my girlfriends recently,
and she's really just draw over somewhatof a breakup, and she's always overworked

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at her job and she feels likeshe can never get a break and it's
always one thing after another. Andher spirits were also really down. And
it was recently her birthday, andshe said that on her birthday, like
she was kind of hanging out withthe friend, and like her friend is
someone that she goes all out for, so like if it was her friend's
birthday, she would bring her balloonsand a crown and flowers, and it

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was her birthday and so like herfriend pulls up and they do activity together,
and she notices that, like there'sballoons and flowers in the car,
and she's like, oh my god, these balloons. And she's like,
yeah later for my boyfriend, likehis birthday, so I kind of surprised
him. And she's like, oh, okay, Like but it's also her
birthday, so she's kind of like, oh, man, Like I kind

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of feel hurt because she didn't saythis out loud, but she was just
feeling unappreciated and it was her birthday, and like you know, know when
sent her anything, and like shegot a few texts, but she was
just feeling unloved, like on herbirthday from her own people. And she
was breaking down to me and shewas saying like do I just love too
hard? Like do I just givetoo much love to people? Because I

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feel like I don't get it back? And I'm like, listen, sis,
no, Like people love you becauseof how much you love, and
there are going to be times whereyou feel like you're not getting that reciprocated.
But we should be loving the wayyou love. We should be going
all out for our friends all thetime when it's their birthday or even just

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because, and that's what life isshould it is about, Like if we
stop giving the love that we initiallyjust internally feel like giving to people,
we're hurting ourselves. We're hurting theworld because the world really needs more love
and positivity and goodness out there.And it just broke my heart when she

(55:44):
said that, because, like literally, that's why she's one of my best
friends. Even though I couldn't bewith her on a birthday, she's across
the country from me, I'm sohappy to get to celebrate with her when
I go home, I'm going tomake a part of her birthday too.
I just think that, like that'ssomething we need to remember that the love
that we give even if we don'tget it back, that's giving unconditional love,

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is called agape love. And themore that we can do that with
other people, it's just giving lovewithout ever wanting anything back. It's unconditional
love and the world just needs moreof that. And the more that you
give that out no matter what,even if you feel like you don't get
it back, like it will comeback tenfold. It will. It does.

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And I know for my friend,one hundred percent does for her.
I know for my Prettyma Jessica,Like she is that person that just gives
so much, like so much,and these health things just keep happening to
her and she really feels beat down. And that's why I'm like really asking
if you can, please please pleasehelp, just with a prayer and just

(56:50):
giving her positive energy. And formy friend too that was going through tough
times. I sent her the bookThis Jesus Calling Calendar book because I feel
like any form of someone telling youyou are loved and you are enough and
you will get through it and thereis a path for you, Like any
way that we can hear that moreand more in our day will help us

(57:12):
just to be more positive and actuallyfeel loved because there is someone all the
time it loves us and love otherpeople unconditionally. I feel like this is
like a sermon going on, butyou know how, you know how I
get. I just start rolling andyeah, all of us are going through
really tough times and no matter what, I just really want you to know
that you are loved and keep giving, keep spreading the most positive vibes and

(57:38):
energy and true happiness for others.Ultimately, that's how we should be living
and thriving to be and it's hard. It's hard when things aren't always going
your way, when maybe you're notconfident, or maybe you're not where you
want to be, but there isa path for you. It will get
better and you if you give outmore love, Like I said, I'll

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come back ten time. So Ihope that you liked that prayer for today.
I hope that you're doing okay.I hope that you enjoyed tonight's episode.
I'm gonna be going back to likemore pop cultree things in the beginning
part of the pod, and thentowards the end, I'll be giving updates
on what's going on with me.Not too much has been going on and

(58:21):
will be going on recently because I'mjust gonna be working six days a week
for the next like five weeks.There's like there's five Saturdays of March and
I'm working four out of the five, So i don't have like a lot
going on other than work because I'mgonna be working a lot, which I'm

(58:43):
very blessed for and I'm very thankfulfor. You just know how those Saturday
shifts, they just if I canjust punch something the face would be a
Saturday shift. But it's a goodproblem to have, honestly at the end
of the day, so I can'teven complain about that. But yeah,
i'm gonna keep you updated on what'sgoing on, and I'm just so thanking
that we're hanging out together for anotherepisode of Crystal's night Cap. That you
soho so to so to love abitch, and I love you and I'll

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see you on the next one.