WE GOT ENGAGED!

I know you feel abandoned, here's why. 

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
No, we're getting straight into it.

Speaker 2 (00:01):
Hello, it's Crystal Rosas and this is Crystal's Nightcap. Wherever
you're at, please let's hit with the follows so we
can be besties on everything. I'm at La Carystal Rosas,
thanks for hanging out another episode of Crystal's Nightcap, and
we're just we're going in raw dogging it.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
Sit back, relax. It's Crystal's Nightcap.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
Abandoned, neglected, ignored, uncared for, unwanted. These are all adjectives
that you might have been feeling the past few months
as I just I seriously abandoned you on Crystal's Nightcap
and I'm so sorry. I why, Like, what's been going on?

(00:54):
What's happened? There's been a lot going on. Number One,
I got my own show now on zero one hundred,
New Yorks number one hit music station. I'm holding afternoons
down myself, afternoons, your afternoons with christ Orosas. What an honor,
What a dream come true? Something I had been praying

(01:14):
for a few months after I moved to New York City.
I was sharing with you that there was just a
lot of difficulties behind the scenes. I wasn't really able
to share with you from really quickly. When I moved
here to New York City and started on ZE one hundred,
there has just been this problem that I could not solve,

(01:34):
and my boss could not solve, and my mother could
not solve. And I felt like I was letting something
rip joy away from me almost every single day. And
it was so hard. It was so rough, but honestly,
it got me closer to God. It helped me be
more professional in the workplace. There were a few times

(01:56):
where I lashed out, walked out. I had to walk
out and walk around the block and take a breather.
I almost quit. I almost quit my show here at
Z one hundred because it was just such a It
was such a hard place for me to be mentally.

(02:22):
But like I said, I was working on myself, on
my patients, on my mental health. It really got me
closer to God. And that's the only way that I
was able to last as long as I did in
the situation that I was here at ZE one hundred
was because I started going to church and I made
a church family here in the city, and I leaned

(02:45):
on God to help give me grace and patience during
those times that I was really really struggling, and I
prayed and prayed and prayed to have the situation be
changed for me. It was so interesting, is that close
to the end of my contract here, my first contract
here in New York City, my boss from San Francisco

(03:08):
ended up pulling up and ended up taking over ZE
one hundred. And this man, he is my guardian angel
and had always been, and he was the first line
of defense when I was having problems here. When I
first started having problems here in New York, I would
actually go to him first and I would tell him, dang,

(03:28):
this is happening.

Speaker 1 (03:29):
How the heck do I navigate this? What do I do?

Speaker 2 (03:32):
And he was coaching me, and he was telling me,
you know, what I should tell my bosses and what
I should do and how I should handle things. And
it's just so funny because I feel like I don't
know how, but it's just so serendipitous. He came like
right at the time that I needed his help the most,
and he ended up helping me to work on things

(03:53):
so that my situation was a lot better here. And
it happened so now I have my own show. It's
not exactly how I envisioned it. But this is what
This was honestly best case scenario for me and what
God wanted for me. And during these few months that
I haven't been hanging out with you, I number one
wanted to make sure that I didn't say or do

(04:14):
anything to jeopardize the possibility of me getting my own
show here. So I wanted to just kind of focus
on my duties at Z one hundred and focus on
my mental health and focus on my family and my
man's And it was just really hard for me to
try to get away and spend time with you, to
get with you on the night Cap. So now that

(04:34):
we're back here, there are even more bigger announcements because
when I look at twenty twenty four and we're wrapping
it up together here on this last episode of Crysonal's
night Cap in twenty twenty four, and I'm looking at
the year number two, I'm most thankful for the position
that I'm at now at Z one hundred with my
own show Afternoons two to six. I mean, what a

(04:55):
dream come true? What an honor? What's something that I
prayed for? And when I tell you that, I am
so excited to come to work and spend time with
my listeners one on one and just fully be myself
and be embraced by you guys. It has improved my

(05:15):
mental health and my state in just my life already
within the past what two months that I've been doing
the show alone, so so so much, and I just
feel so excited and so motivated for the future of
me here at Z one hundred because I locked in
another contract and we are here for a few more years, baby,

(05:37):
and we get most weekends off, which is also something
that was really hard on me because my weekends, you know,
being having time off now that I have the show
by myself, especially, it's a lot of brain power, it's
a lot of emotion I give to my show, and
I'm tired at the end of the weekend. I was
already tired of the end of the week with everything
I was dealing with the past few years. Now that

(06:00):
I'm alone, I feel like I'm going to need more
rest and time to myself than ever. So I was
also able and blessed to have most weekends off. Now
I am going in like one weekend a month instead
of every other weekend, And it just it's that alone
knowing that I can enjoin and spend time here on
the weekends in New York City, I don't have to

(06:22):
be really meticulous about the time that I'm taking to
go home back to my family in California. It is
such a weight lifted off my shoulders because I would
just be so tired by the end of the week,
just mentally drained and exhausted, and then not having a
full two days to recoup, and then you know, Sundays,
I dedicate to God and I go to church. So
just having now at least one day a week where

(06:43):
I don't have to get out of my apartment and
do nothing and spend time in this apartment that I
spend so much money to live in here in the city.
I'm so so so thankful that we were able to
work that out too, because I was also a huge
factor for me to stay here in New York. I
was like, I need my work situation to be different,
and I need at least most weekends off, and my

(07:06):
boss really really came through for that for most of
the things that I needed.

Speaker 1 (07:09):
So that is one.

Speaker 2 (07:12):
I think that's like, That's probably number two highlight of
twenty twenty four is that I got my own show,
and my number one highlight of twenty twenty four which
I have been somewhat keeping a secret from you and
from everyone, not just you, but I do feel like
you are the first person that I should tell and
no is that Oh.

Speaker 1 (07:31):
My god, am I okay? Am I okay, Oh my goodness.

Speaker 2 (07:34):
I I am an engaged woman. Zaddy and I got engaged.
Zaddy and I god willing are tying the not jumping
the broom. We got engaged on October twelfth, and that

(07:57):
is so special because twelve is my favorite number and
I think my looking numbers. So it ended up just
happening that way. But it was such an amazing surprise
and weekend and my family was there and it was
everything and more so. I obviously this is a nuclear
bombshell to you. I know, I know a lot of

(08:19):
you have been messaging me and seeing a ring on
my finger and asking, and it's kind of hard. I
wasn't really trying to hide that. I just wanted to
take the engagement in myself, with my man's and my family,
my loved ones, and I wanted to tell people on
my own time because it's just such a special moment
and I just I just I don't I don't really

(08:43):
know exactly how and still how I'm going to roll
this out or plan this or whatever, but I did
know that number one. The first person I wanted to
tell before I mean, of course, after my friends and
family and loved ones.

Speaker 1 (08:56):
Was you.

Speaker 2 (08:56):
You know, I didn't I didn't want to just throw
something on ig or on socials and you not know
because you have been there with me since day one,
and I feel like I obviously owe it to you
to give you the full story and the breaking news
before any other platform. So what is a switch? What happened?
How did this go down? This is so interesting? So

(09:19):
I'm going to tell you, like what happened, and then
I'm going to tell you the background to it. I
think that's how the timeline should go. So the years
going by, me and Zaddy have such an amazing year.
Every time that he comes to visit or go I
go back home, we grow more and more in love
and it's been so amazing. So starting the year off

(09:41):
together in New York City twenty twenty four for New
Year's Eve, him and our son. Now, yeah, isn't that crazy.
I'm a stepmom, I'm a twelve year old and he's amazing.
We and my family, my brother Junior, my brother Steve,
on the little duck Alex. We all were right here
in Times Square for New Year's Dick Clark's Rock in

(10:02):
New Year's Eve with Ryan Seacrest, And that was a
big move for us to bring our son to New
York City for the first time, and to be able
to do that with such a feat because he is
such an extraordinary dad and there are a lot of
prayers that need to be given more about co parenting.
So we were just so blessed that we got to
do that together and that was really serious. And then

(10:24):
the years going by, and then my dirty thirty back
home and he's all there, and he meets my entire
family and more, and he's come into more family things
and weddings, and then here comes May. We go on
our first vacation together, really like we go all off.
We go to Santorini, Greece, and a lot of people

(10:45):
thought that we were going to get hitched around then,
but it was still pretty soon.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
It was our first euro trip together. Let's see if
we can survive that.

Speaker 2 (10:52):
And I kind of hint it to him, like what
if I tell my boss to get some days off
that you might pop the question to me. And what's
crazy and I didn't tell you was that he said
to me, you're not far off from that. When I
told him that, I told Zaddy, I was like, I
know this isn't happening anytime soon, but I might tell
our boss that you might pop the question to me,

(11:13):
just so that he's really cool with me taking the
time off. And Zaddy was really like, you're not far off,
Like I actually wanted to ask you in Greece if
you would be okay with us getting engaged while you
still lived in New York City. And that in itself
was such a shocker to me because the beginning of
the year he was on the fence of us even
being together boyfriend and girlfriend while I lived in New

(11:35):
York City for a few more years and worked there,
but him being open to as being engaged while I
lived here. I was like, Wow, he's been thinking about it,
because I feel like this entire engagement, it's really funny
how we've been on the same wavelength, we just haven't
really told each other. So I made that joke to him.
He was actually talking to his church brothers and his

(11:56):
friends and family about being engaged to me while I
lived here, and that already was a big step for
me to be like, all right, we're getting serious here.
So then a few months after that, he booked us
another trip to Barcelona, which I am going to obviously
have a separate episode about because the bathroom brawl at

(12:17):
Barcelona twenty twenty four that was insane. There are so
many situations that we got into in Barcelona that I
need to chat and catch you up on. I think
I stopped the pod around there, so we'll get into that.
But that was amazing and so much fun, and we
just really have been going off and again into it.

(12:40):
And then we were booking trips to go back home
to see my family in Mexical where my dad's from,
which is another huge step in our relationship. And so
a lot of things were happening, and I was getting
a little impatient about us being engaged. So I started
manifesting to myself and saying, by my birthday next year,

(13:02):
by my birthday twenty twenty five, by March twenty twenty five,
I would like to be engaged, and something interesting as well.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
I want to timeline on is.

Speaker 2 (13:13):
Back in June when my cousin, the Gavi was staying
with me here in New York City for I think
she was here for like a month or two. We
went looking for diamonds and she was saying, like, oh,
just in case, just in case. I mean, you guys
already had the talk that you guys might get engaged
while you live here in New York City, So why

(13:34):
don't we go and look for diamonds and see your
size and all that. I just need to know your size.
So we went to the diamond district here in New
York City. We went to the different Tiffany's. We had
so much fun. I learned everything about the scope and
the cut and the clarity and the vvs ones and
the all the things, the carrots, all the things. And
so I immediately drew out my dream engagement and wedding ring.

(13:57):
So my Opima Gavi had that, and that was in
June slash July. So we're going July August, September, we're
in Vegas for iHeartRadio Music Festival.

Speaker 1 (14:08):
Zaddi comes along to come hang out with my.

Speaker 2 (14:10):
Theols that live in Vegas too, and we have such
a great family weekend and we're doing all these things
where I feel like he's part of my family. And
this is also interesting about Vegas. When we went with
my family part of the trip, me, my mom, and
Zaddy and I stayed in the same condo, and my

(14:33):
mom was okay with me and Zaddi staying in our
own room in the condo. I mean we were in
the same condo together. It was a two bedroom condo.
But I never thought that my mom would be okay
with us going on a family trip together and then
Zaddy and I being in a room together. We've thought

(14:55):
about and planned family vacations before, even including well that
was the first one including Zadi, but I thought it
was so odd that she allowed me and him to
sleep in the same room. I would have thought that
she would have wanted him to sleep out in the
living room to pull out bed, and she and my
dad were okay with it. Well, it was really my mom.
My dad's okay with anything that my mom says is okay.
So that's how our family dynamic works, Like if my

(15:18):
dad's gonna be okay with everything, but if my mom
says no, then my dad is gonna say no. My
mom is the one that usually sets down the rules,
so I thought that was really, really weird, and I
actually even brought that up to Zaddie. I was like, Babe,
I can't believe my mom wi let us sleep in
the same room. He's like, Babe, we're thirty. I'm like,
I know, we're thirty, and I know you have a kid,
but it's still just so bizarre to me because I

(15:39):
just didn't think that she would be okay with that.
So that was in September, and now August is coming along,
No September, October, October is coming along, and I'm gonna
go back home because I am honored to be the
godmom of my bestie Elisa and Anthony's son. So I'm
going to go for their christening to be their god mom.

(16:00):
And they were having a really tough time looking for
another godparent. They were having a tough time looking for
a god dad for baby Jojo. So I was going
to be the only god parent for them. And I
was so honored and so excited. And Alisa has been
and is one of my best friends for years now,
and the fact that they're choosing me to help raise

(16:21):
Jojo and be part of his life and be there
to help guide Jojo to stay close to God for
the rest of his life, and if anything happened to them,
I am responsible for Jojo. I was so honored, so
I was really geeked to go back home for this one.

Speaker 1 (16:35):
So a few weeks until the.

Speaker 2 (16:38):
Christening, I'm hitting up my godmother asking if she needs
help with the decorating or whatever, and she's asking me
what I'm gonna wear. And then my family knows that
I'm going to be in town, so they are like,
why don't we do a wine day on Saturday? The
christening is Sunday. Why don't we go to this Q
winery we found and have a wine day together?

Speaker 1 (16:58):
And I said cool.

Speaker 2 (17:00):
And then my theos from Vegas are gonna pull up
two so I'm like, oh great, Like we're all gonna
be there together this weekend.

Speaker 1 (17:08):
I love this. This is perfect.

Speaker 2 (17:10):
And so my mom kept mentioning how the winery is
very bougie and that when they went, everyone's dressed really nice,
so just to make sure dress really nice. And then
ended up inviting Michael father as Anthony and Lisa anyways,
because it's close to where they live up north, close
to like Sacramento area, so we invite them and then
Michael mother is asking what I'm gonna wear for the

(17:32):
christening with dress, so I show the dress and then
she asks me what I'm gonna wear for the winery
because she says that she wants to be dressed appropriately,
and I tell her, oh, I think I'm gonna wear
this purple romper or something to say, okay, so then
that's the thing. And then we're getting closer and closer
to the christening and she's like, Hiko, mother, like, what
are your nails gonna be like? And I which I

(17:52):
thought it was really weird and I was. And then
when she sent that I told I told Zaddie. I
was like, Babe, Alisa wants to match me at the
winery my dresses and she's asking me about my nails
because when I told her, oh, I'm getting these nails
done for the christening, she goes, oh, okay, then I'll
get the same ones. And I'm just like, Alisa is
not the type to like try to match you, match you,
Like she'll match a vibe, but she won't really like

(18:17):
I thought that she was going a little overboard with
trying to like match for the christening and then like
wear a romp or two for the winery and then
get her nails done the same as me as a christening.
I'm like, am I all of a sudden just way
too cool and like she wants to like be just
like me that weekend. I was confused on that part
because I was like, she never asks me what that,

(18:39):
she never tells me she wants to match nails. But
I didn't think I'm telling you right now, Like I
didn't think it was gonna be an engagement because on
top of all this, on top of all of this,
Zaddi is starting his own business, and he's starting his
new business, and he will soon be unemployed by the

(19:01):
huge company that he's worked for and worked up and
been really awesome at and now he's gonna start his
own thing.

Speaker 1 (19:08):
So this whole year, people have.

Speaker 2 (19:11):
Been asking me, oh, when you guys are gonna tie
the out? When are you gonna be engaged? But I
knew that one he's focusing totally on his new business. Two,
we're gonna be broke because we're not gonna have that
consistent check coming in on his end for I don't
know how long. Even though he's great with money and
he has a savings and all those things, like we're
not looking at his savings, like we're looking at the

(19:32):
money coming in. And when you're a business owner for
the first who knows you don't have money coming in.
So I was like, number one, we're gonna be broke.
Number two, he needs all of his energy and effort
into his new business. So yeah, we're not going to
be getting engaged anytime soon. And then my contract for
my job is coming up. It's like really wiggly, so there's.

Speaker 1 (19:50):
Just too much.

Speaker 2 (19:50):
Like I was just telling everyone like, oh no, we're
focusing on his new business. He's starting a business, so
we're gonna focus on that. We'll get engaged eventually. But
I I was kind of annoyed and but her like
I was annoyed knowing that we probably won't be getting
engaged this year, but hopefully, like I said, maybe by
my birthday March twenty twenty five. That was my manifestation

(20:14):
March twenty twenty five. So we're inch and closer to
the christening. And yeah, this with Alisa is going on.
She's asking me about my nails and what I'm wearing,
and I don't really think that. I just think it's
funny that she wants to do the same thing as
me and is really interested in what I'm wearing and stuff,
because at least they usually knows the vibes like she
usually does her own thing. Other than that, it had

(20:36):
been since June that me and Gaby went to go
look for a ring, and has been since May that
me and Zaddy have talked about being open to an engagement.
We have not peeped about an engagement since then May.
Now it's October and it's a week before the christening.
It's a week of the christening, and this is the

(20:57):
week that I am going to to volunteer at the
children's hospital here in New York City at Kravitz Children's Center.
And on the way there through to Central Park, I
get attacked by a dog. So I call Zaddy in
a crying panic. I just got attacked by a dog,
and it was honestly, really really scary, and it was traumatizing.

(21:19):
I had been attacked by dogs before, and that's why
I'm a cat person, because I don't have the best
experiences with dogs. So that was really scary. I got
attacked by a dog on Monday. On Tuesday, I started
getting a stye on my eye and then I got
a huge mosquito by.

Speaker 1 (21:37):
On my eye lid.

Speaker 2 (21:38):
So I am looking like a freaking hot mess this
week and that Sunday I'm going that weekend, I'm going
to be the godmom, and I'm just like, oh my god,
I'm gona look like a disgusting hot mess baptizing my
little Jojo. So as we are approaching the week, I

(22:00):
and realizing that, like the holidays are coming up, we're
going to be spending with our family this weekend, we're
spending with our family too, and Zaddy's going to be there,
and I just am getting a little antsy about the engagement.
I just want to know, like is it going to
be happening within the next six months?

Speaker 1 (22:13):
Like what is the temperature in the room?

Speaker 2 (22:15):
So I call in my brother Junior. My brother Junior
is a year older than I am. Him and I
are really close now these days, closer than ever.

Speaker 1 (22:23):
I'm so thankful for him. I love him so much.

Speaker 2 (22:25):
Him and Zaddy get along so well, sometimes even better
than me and Zaddy get along. And I'm just very
thankful for my brother Junior, and he knows him very well,
and he really loves Zaddy. For me, so I call
him Junior. I'm like, brother, bear, brother, I need your help.
He's like, what do you need?

Speaker 1 (22:39):
Sister? I got you?

Speaker 2 (22:40):
And I say, do you mind because I know you're
going over to plant a cherry tree at Zaddi's house.
Do you mind while you're at his place to just
pick his brain a little bit about proposing to me?
Like does he think he wants to do it?

Speaker 1 (22:53):
Still? Does he have plans to do?

Speaker 2 (22:55):
I haven't heard anything since since May about us being engaged,
So can he just pick Zaddy's big oldbald brain for me?

Speaker 1 (23:01):
Please? And my brother's like, no worry, sister, I got you.
I got you. I'll call you right after I go
over there. I say perfect.

Speaker 2 (23:08):
So I'm tracking my brother Junior's location and I'm seeing
right when he leaves Zaddie's house and I call him
right back, my brother, what is the four one?

Speaker 1 (23:14):
And what happened? And Junior's like.

Speaker 2 (23:17):
Ooh, Crystal, you better eat your oranges, siss, you better
eat your oranges. I'm like, what are you talking about?
He's like, you need to eat your oranges. You gotta
clear up that face of yours.

Speaker 1 (23:26):
I'm like, what case mind you? Mind you?

Speaker 2 (23:31):
I have a style on one eye, a bug bite.
I got attacked by a dog. It has been a
scary week.

Speaker 3 (23:37):
June.

Speaker 1 (23:37):
You're like, you gotta eat your oranges, eat your vitamin C.

Speaker 2 (23:40):
You'll be good. I'm like, does he want to propose
to me or not? Like, are we gonna get engaged?
Like by my birthday?

Speaker 1 (23:44):
Maybe? And he goes, sister, sister, he goes, listen, you
both hella want to get married. That's all I know.

Speaker 2 (23:49):
You got you both hella want to get married. So
we'll see maybe around the holiday. Oh, I said too much.
I'm like, wait, the holidays, swapy, the holidays? Oh my gosh,
probably the holidays, huh or Junior, you're saying that as
a decoy because you do know, and you know what
he said, and you just want to decoy me, and
it's not gonna be the holidays. I don't know which
is which. You are of no help. Junior would not

(24:10):
say a word to me. He would not peep nothing
to me. He was unnecessarily following bro code instead of cistcode,
and it irked me. It really triggered me. I was
so angry. I was on the phone with him for
like an hour and he wouldn't say anything other than eat,
go to the store, get a big family bag of oranges,
and eat my oranges.

Speaker 1 (24:28):
I was like, oh my gosh.

Speaker 2 (24:31):
So we're approaching and Zaddie's asking me what I'm gonna
wear to the winery. He's like, Babe, your mom is
really fixated on this quote Bougie winery and want us
to quote dress nice and quote bougie. So do you
know what you're wearing. I'm like, yeah, I'm wearing this
purple ramper. And he's like, oh, what about that one
dress you wore for your famous thing a few months ago.

(24:54):
I was like, oh, yeah, that flowery one.

Speaker 1 (24:55):
It's nice. And I said, okay, look for it. I'll
bring that.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
Then he said cool, so I pack it up my backpack.
I also packed the purple romper and I head back
home to California from New York City for the weekend.
So something also interesting was that we had our son
that weekend, luckily, and I'm also happy that the weekend
of the christening was also the weekend that we had
our son. But because we were gonna wake up early

(25:22):
and all these things, and I get in very late.
I get in usually one am from New York City
to California. We sometimes have our sons stay with Zatti's
sister or grandma so that he could sleep so he
doesn't have to be up to one am going to
the airport. Or sometimes he comes with me. It's a
Friday night, so sometimes he comes with me, and it

(25:43):
doesn't matter. It's really up to him what we ask,
what he wants to do, and we also I also
opened the door for him to stay at my mom's
house with my nephew, the little duck, Alex, because Alex
and our son is they're besties now, they are besties.
They are bummed when one of them is at their
mom's house and not us, and they have so much
fun together. But he's never stayed the night at my

(26:05):
mom's house before our son.

Speaker 1 (26:07):
He's only stayed the night with us, but not at.

Speaker 2 (26:10):
My mom's house. Right, so pretty much his new grandma's house.
But he's twelve, so he's not gonna call my mom grandma.

Speaker 1 (26:16):
You know, that's like weird, But.

Speaker 2 (26:20):
I guess I guess from when I pulled up, I asked, oh,
where is he?

Speaker 1 (26:24):
And because usually when they go to pick me up, they.

Speaker 2 (26:27):
Stop at my mom and dad's house and hang out
with them until it gets late, and then they go
pick me from the airport because it's kind of on
the way and might as well spend He loves spending
time at my parents' house even if I'm not there,
and so does our son, so that was fine.

Speaker 1 (26:41):
So we do that and I get picked up and
I'm like, oh, where is he.

Speaker 2 (26:45):
He's like, Oh, he stayed at your mom's house. I'm like,
he wanted to stay with my mom and dad and Alex.
He's like yeah, like he didn't want to leave, like
he just wanted to stay with them, and they said
they'll take him tomorrow in the morning when we go
to the winery, I said, oh.

Speaker 1 (26:56):
That's so funny. That's so cute.

Speaker 3 (26:57):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (26:57):
I love that.

Speaker 2 (26:58):
I love that he felt so comfortable enough with my
side of the family that he wants to spend the
night there. So we spent the night and me and
Zaddy went to bed, and then we wake up early,
kind of well it's early for me because of the
time changed, we wake up kind of early. Zaddy also
mentions that he wants to go see his mommy at
the cemetery before we go to the winery, so We're

(27:21):
getting ready at the house and I put on the
purple ramper and he goes, oh, I thought you were
putting your dress on, and I was like, oh, yeah,
I thought it was here. I thought I left to
hear and I couldn't find it. And he's like, oh,
you didn't tell me that you said you had it.
I would have looked for it here, but I thought
you were gonna wear that, and he said and I

(27:42):
was like, oh no, I'm just gonna wear a purple ramper.
And I didn't think it was a big deal, but
Zaddi is getting dressed up, like dressed out. I was
just like, who's this guy trying to impress? With a
crisp shirt and his nice pants that we love and
his cute little boot Chelsea boots and the belt to match.
I'm just like, who is this guy? So he's like,
your mom said that we were gonna dress bougie. I

(28:02):
don't know if she's gonna like that. I was like, Babe,
it's a ramper. It's a long purple romper. It's cute,
it's fine. So it's like, okay, I'm just saying So
then he leaves and I get a call from my mother.
And my mother is like.

Speaker 1 (28:15):
Good morning, my princess.

Speaker 2 (28:16):
How are you. We're on our way to the winery.
How you guys doing. I'm like, oh, mommy, I miss you.
It's been a while. I'm doing great. And she's like, oh,
we're on our way there, and what are you dressing? Like,
what are you wearing? I was like, oh, I'm just
wearing this purple ramper, the one that you saw me
in when we went to drangle. And she's like, no,
absolutely not. You cannot wear that. That romper is ugly
and everyone that goes to this winery is dressed bougie,

(28:38):
and you cannot wear that. I'm like, okay, listen here,
all right. It is ten in the morning. I just
got in at two am. I am not going to
be verbally harassed by you the first thing in the morning.
I am not trying to impress anybody at this stupid
bougie winery. Goodbye, And I hang up on her. I

(29:02):
verbally assult my mother and then hang up on her,
and Zaddy's not there.

Speaker 1 (29:10):
He's like down, he's down in the kitchen or something.
So then time is going by. I'm fixing my hair.

Speaker 2 (29:17):
I'm doing my hair and then Zaddy comes in and
he's like, you're really gonna wear that? I'm like, babe,
what is why is everyone hating on this romper? And
he goes, you look like Barney.

Speaker 1 (29:35):
And when he said that, I saw it. I kind
of saw it a little bit and I was mad.

Speaker 2 (29:41):
But at the end of the day, like, that's my
man's and he's looking fine and I and I'm just like,
if he wants me to wear something else, like I
will wear something else.

Speaker 1 (29:51):
Now here's the tea.

Speaker 2 (29:52):
I did bring that Fowery dress that he liked, and
I was gonna wear that the next day at the
bat for the christening for the baptism, and I wanted
to surprise him, but he was insistent on me wearing
it that day. So if if my man wants me
to wear that, I'm gonna wear that. So I was like,
you know what, babe, you're the only one that I
care to impress if you're really fixated on me wearing
this dress.

Speaker 1 (30:11):
I did bring it.

Speaker 2 (30:11):
It's crunchy and so wrinkly right now, so it's gonna
take about thirty minutes to iron this dress, probably more
because it has a lot of riffles on it. You're
gonna see it right now when I post it on ig.
It has a lot of like ruffles around the bottom
of it, and it just takes forever to steam. And
so I was like, you're gonna help me steam this,
and let's get to it because we're already late. Now

(30:32):
we're running late. So I'm steaming the dress. It's crusty.
I had planned on washing it that night and then
wearing it the next day. It hasn't been washed since,
like I wore it so long ago.

Speaker 1 (30:43):
But it is cute. It is cute. It's a vibe.

Speaker 2 (30:45):
I'm still in the romper though, because the romper is
comfortable and that dress it's it's not that comfortable. It's uncomfortable.
That's why I didn't really want to wear it that day.
I'd rather have worn it the next day. So we're
getting everything ready, we're on our way to the We're
gonna pack up and go on our way.

Speaker 1 (31:00):
To the winery.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
And then I tell Zaddie, I'm like, babe, are you
sure you want to stop by the cemetery today?

Speaker 1 (31:07):
Can we stop by tomorrow or Monday?

Speaker 2 (31:10):
And he's like okay, okay, And then we're just kind
of finishing, packing up whatever. And then we get into
the car and he's like, you know, I really want
to see my mom today. I'm like, okay, let's go. Like,
let's go out. So we go to the cemetery. I'm
literally finisheshing my makeup in the car. I'm like, babe,
give me five minutes go hang out with your mom
or I'll be right there with you. I'm finishing my makeup,
and then I go to her little beautiful bench and

(31:34):
we're at the cemetery and we're just talking to his
mom and I'm like, I'm just telling her how funny
her son is and just trolling him and sharing just
funny jokes that we have together. And it was just
it was really special. It was really nice, and it
was such a beautiful day. It was such a beautiful day.
And mind you, I had done the heatless curls like

(31:54):
that night and I woke up and my hair had
never looked better. I don't know how or like what
technique I did, but when I got up and I
took my hairleoss curls out, I told Zaddi, I was like, Babe.

Speaker 1 (32:03):
My hair is never looked bad. This is a good
hair day.

Speaker 2 (32:05):
Which is also like a really funny premonition. So it's
about an hour and a half drive up to the
winery from the cemetery. After we have an amazing time
with his mommy, and it's just him and I because
the duck and our son is with my parents and
they're taking them up to the winery too, where they're
allowed to have kids and all these things.

Speaker 1 (32:25):
So we're driving.

Speaker 2 (32:25):
It's an hour and a half and I had brought
this deck of cards that we like to play all
the time. There are relationship cards. You can get them
on Amazon, and I started getting them. I got us
like a friendship deck when we first started dating, and
it just gives you cards and questions about friends, like
what's the best part about being friends with me? And
things like that. And then when we became a boyfriend
and girlfriend, I got us the relationship deck, and so

(32:48):
this deck, it's a little more in depth, right about
your intimate relationship, and it has questions like when was
the first time you knew you fell in love with me?

Speaker 1 (32:58):
And things like that.

Speaker 2 (32:58):
So we like to play this game, or I have
the cards with us whenever we're anywhere. Really, I bring
him all the time, so I had him with me.
I was like, let's play the cards, babe, and he's like, yeah, sure.
So we're driving or playing the cards and we can
draw like one or two cards and we're talking for
like thirty forty minutes. So we're going and we're getting
closer to the winery, and one of the cards that
I pick says, what are you scared to tell me?

(33:22):
And in my head, I'm like, I want to get engaged.
I want to get engaged. But I haven't told him this.
I've never told him this. I haven't talked anything or
a peep about being engaged.

Speaker 1 (33:31):
It was him.

Speaker 2 (33:32):
It was me like kind of hinting about the boss
thing for Greece, and then him saying, yeah, let's I
want to see if you'd be open to being engaged
while you lived in New York City. But other than that, again,
since May, we have not been a peep about engagements.
So that card gets pulled what are you scared to
tell me? And mine is I want to get engaged,

(33:52):
and he goes, Okay, what is it? What are you
scared to tell me? And I'm just like, if I'm
scared to tell you, why what I tell you? And
he goes, you're not gonna tell me. I say, no,
I'm not gonna tell you. I'm scared to tell you.
I'm not gonna tell you.

Speaker 1 (34:03):
What about you? What are you scared to tell me?

Speaker 2 (34:07):
And he goes, I can't only think of anything right now.
Skip And we're like okay, skip. So we skip it
and we do a few more cars and we just
start talking about I love and how much we love
each other and all the things.

Speaker 1 (34:18):
It was.

Speaker 2 (34:18):
It was so great we had We had really great, great, great, great.

Speaker 1 (34:23):
Cards that we pulled that day.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
So then we are pulling up to the winery and
we're about to get out, and he looks at me
because I'm still in this purple Barney romper, and he goes,
you're gonna change right I'm like, babe, yes, I'm gonna change.
I didn't want to put the dress on because it's
gonna go even more wrinkly after we spend forty five
minutes steaming it. Right now, I'm gonna change right now. Okay,
I'm gonna change right now. He's like, okay, I was
just asking. So I literally change outside of the car

(34:44):
in the parking lot and then it's too We're late
we are late.

Speaker 1 (34:49):
We are late.

Speaker 2 (34:49):
I wanted to get there to see my whole family
at eleven is probably twelve thirty right now, closer to one.
And we walk into the winery. There's kids where and
Jordan's there's a girl on a crop top. I'm like, what,
what in the bougie was my mother speaking about. It's
not ratchet, it's it's gorgeous. It is a gorgeous winery.

(35:14):
But she was just really like I was getting stared.
I was getting stared at when I walked in and
I couldn't find any of my family there, and it's
on this beautiful estate, and we're walking down further and further,
and I finally see my family, super secluded from like everyone,
in our own picnic area, and I say hi to everyone,

(35:34):
and my brimas are there, and my Theos that I
haven't seen her forever are there, and Zaddi's sister and
grandma and brother and some of the kids are there,
and my nephew and our our.

Speaker 1 (35:46):
Kid is there.

Speaker 2 (35:47):
So it's just a huge, happy family time. So I
get there and I'm lifting up the pizza tins. You
know when when you go maybe somewhere they bring out
the pizza on a charcuterie platter and they put the
tin up there. I'm lifting up all the different tins
and I go, y'all, big backs ate all the pizza.
I am starving, and y'all didn't leave one slice for me.
That's crazy, And I'm like joking, but I'm also hungry.

(36:10):
And my priam my Eddie God gets up in a
panic because she's like, oh, let me order some.

Speaker 1 (36:13):
I'm gonna go order some.

Speaker 2 (36:14):
I'm like, Erica, I'm joking, like it's okay, I can
go get some right now.

Speaker 1 (36:18):
I was just kidding.

Speaker 2 (36:19):
I was just laughing at how you guys literally didn't
even leave a crumb.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
And she's like, oh yeah, but it's okay.

Speaker 2 (36:23):
Let me go get some because we did order some
and they were supposed to bring more out, so let
me go see what's going on.

Speaker 1 (36:27):
She was like.

Speaker 2 (36:28):
Frantic, and I just thought that was kind of weird.
But also, I haven't seen my family in a long time.
Maybe they like we're afraid to step, like have me
be inconvenienced because I just flew in really late last night.
I thought that was weird because usually they would have
just laughed and I would have just gone to get
my home pizza. But I was like, dang, like maybe

(36:50):
they finally put respect on my name. So that was
really funny to me, something that stood out. But the
night is the day is going, and Zaddi's sister is
kind of bubbling herself, like we're all me and my
cousins and my uncles, we're all kind of chatting. And
Zaddi's sister is bubbling herself on a far table and

(37:10):
not really coming to chat.

Speaker 1 (37:12):
And so I asked him like, hey, like why don't
you come hang out with us.

Speaker 2 (37:14):
She's like, oh yeah, Like I just I need a
little breath, Like I'm just kind of tired. I want
a little like calm down time. So she doesn't really
want to stay with us, but her man's just sitting
with us. Their grandma's sitting with us. And then Zaddi,
he's kind of a little a little distant too, like
I'll tell him that comes.

Speaker 1 (37:31):
In next to me.

Speaker 2 (37:31):
But he wants to go chat with the guys, and
he never really does that to go chat with my uncles.
He's always a leech by my side, like wherever we are,
we're next to each other.

Speaker 1 (37:39):
But then I was also thinking you know.

Speaker 2 (37:41):
This is I guess one of the times where the
boys are all kind of over there and we're getting
a little older. He's thirty one, now, maybe he wants
to go have some grown man some theo time over're
there with the Tholes and I was like, okay, okay.
So he was doing that. I was hanging out with
my cousins and then Zaddi's like, hey, you want to
go for a walk and I'm like, oh, like yeah,

(38:02):
maybe a little bit, maybe, like a little later because
it was a huge, gorgeous estate and so I'm just
chatting talk with my friend's fam Alisa finally pulls up
a few hours later and she's like.

Speaker 1 (38:13):
Hey, Sis, oh my gosh, I need to go bathroom.
Want to go to bathroom with me? I'm like yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (38:16):
And so we go to the bathroom and she's like,
look at this lips gloss I just got.

Speaker 1 (38:19):
Don't you like it? I'm like yeah, it's cue. She's like, here,
you want to try it? I'm like sure. So I
put the lip gloss on.

Speaker 2 (38:24):
Lipstick on, and lipstick is very intimate, you know, like
lipstick is you know, everyone has different shades and their
favorites and she is such a good goal mad that
she will share everything and anything with me.

Speaker 1 (38:37):
But I also thought that I thought like, oh wow,
she's overly sharing. She she misses me a lot.

Speaker 2 (38:41):
She wants me to try her new lips to her
lipstick that she got, so she puts the lipstick on me,
and then she's like, are having fun. I'm like, yeah,
I just missed the family. I'm so happy you guys
are here, and I'm so excited to see you guys
tomorrow too for baptism. And obviously we're going to go
help and decorate the house and fix the house later.

Speaker 1 (38:57):
She's like yeah, yeah, like we're so happy the guys
are here too, and all the things.

Speaker 2 (39:01):
And so then we go back where everybody's at and
we're sitting down and Daddy's next to me. He goes, baby,
want to go for a walk. And I'm like, yeah,
let me get my own father. I want them to
come with us too, and he goes, Babe, I'm drunk.
I need to go now, Like I want to go
for a walk now, I'm I drink a little much.
I'm just in my head. I'm like, baby, i've been
watching it. You have not drink not even like a

(39:22):
whole clock. You are not drunk.

Speaker 1 (39:25):
I didn't tell him this.

Speaker 2 (39:27):
Because I was just kind of I don't know why
I didn't tell him that. It's a very I'm usually
very combative with things like that, but I was just like, okay,
like maybe he just wants a little alone time. So
we start going on this walk, and I'm telling you, girl,
this was like a fairy tale dream walk.

Speaker 1 (39:46):
It there's we're.

Speaker 2 (39:48):
Walking through rose bushes, like an isle of rose bushes.
It looks like Alice in Wonderland, paint the roses red.
To the left, there's a huge beautiful water fowlin and
like ducks a a flying and harvesting.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
I don't know what ducks do.

Speaker 2 (40:03):
And then we're just walking and it's so beautiful, and
there's like this really drunk, stumbly girl behind us in
heels and she's like stalking.

Speaker 1 (40:11):
She is not stalking us, but it.

Speaker 2 (40:14):
Seems the way that she's wobbling and just following us
because there's nobody around us that she is. And I
start laughing, like, babe, that she is on one here,
stand right here, like let's let her past us. I
tell him, I'm like, let's let her pass us because
she's right behind us at this point, and we're gagging
at this girl that's like walking all crazy.

Speaker 1 (40:33):
And so I feel the tension between Zaddy and I.

Speaker 2 (40:36):
I feel like he maybe wrote a love letter to
me or just wants to profess his love to me.
But I am telling you, girl, when I had no
idea that I was about to get proposed to. I
had no idea I was going to get proposed to.
So we're walking and I see a huge willow tree
and I look at it. I'm like, babe, I love
willow trees. Let's go look at the willow tree. And

(40:57):
there's really pretty stairs to go down, Like, okay, let's go.
So we're walking down and we stop at the bottom
of the stairs and I'm just staring up looking at
the beautiful willow tree to my left, and I was like, babe,
it's so beautiful. How babe, I'm like babe, and I
usually he's above me because he's really he's a lot
taller than I am, and he his head wasn't there.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
And I look down and he's on one.

Speaker 2 (41:21):
Knee, and I'm confused.

Speaker 1 (41:25):
Again.

Speaker 2 (41:25):
I am not thinking I'm getting engaged. I am very confused.

Speaker 1 (41:30):
So I look down.

Speaker 2 (41:30):
I'm like what's going on? And he's like looking at
me and I'm like no, like no, and he's just
kind of giggling and he's fidgeting in his pocket. And
then I see that he is holding a mahogany wooden
box and I'm just like, hello, no, absolutely not, and

(41:54):
he's looking at me and nodding his head yes, and
he says turn around, and I look behind me in
my big back family is trampling rolling down the hill
and I'm just like, are you serious right now? And
he's like yeah. And then I go into full on
hyperventilation panic mode. I am having a severe panic attack.

(42:18):
My knees are shaking, my hands are going numb. Three
to two one, I'm going to have a full panic attack.
But the shock is so shocking that I can't even cry,
like I'm not even actually like tears are not forming,
because it's more it's beyond tears at this point.

Speaker 1 (42:38):
It's a heave. It is gasping for air.

Speaker 2 (42:41):
And I say, Babey Kittall, like I'm literally having aod
pan attack. I was a Babey Kennel. I'm having a
panic attack. I'm having a panic attack, and he starts
busting out laughing, and again I'm blacked out. I don't
know what's happening. I don't know what he's saying. I've
no no idea of what words he's saying. All I
know is I see him open up a box and
there it is my dream engagement ring that I drew
and have in my Jesus Calling Daily Bible Reading book

(43:03):
on my birthday, like that sketch that I drew the ring.
I had it on the birthday date so that I
can manifest that by then I'll have that ring. And
it is October twelfth, and I'm seeing the ring and
I'm heaving.

Speaker 1 (43:17):
I'm heaving.

Speaker 2 (43:18):
I just like I can't, I cannot breathe. Like he
has to hold me because I'm shaking and I'm about
to fall over, and I just hear like my dad
like is that yes? Is that yes? And I just
kind of like fall into Zaddy's arms as he's putting
the ring on me, and everyone starts cheering. I look
to my right there's photographers and I'm just like, oh
my goodness, this is really happening. I am really a

(43:41):
spoken for a woman. I am engaged to Zaddy to
mister clean, to the man of all of my dreams
and more, and it was just Craig Cray. I mean
now that I mean, I didn't really even cry, Like
it was like spurs of kind of tears, but I
couldn't even really cry because I still really wasn't actual

(44:03):
and utter shock like it was. It was more shock
than anything because I I had to point.

Speaker 3 (44:10):
Zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero
zero zero idea that I would be getting engaged to
that weekend because I knew the next day was for
baby Jojo, and like that was the whole reason that
I was there.

Speaker 2 (44:23):
But then it all kind of made sense, and I
just I really couldn't believe it. And the photographers are
amazing taking photos of all of us. We get group pictures,
and I'm still kind of taking it in. I'm just
keep looking at her, I ring, and I just I
cannot believe. I keep looking at Zaddy and We're all
just kind of laughing. And the fact that they all
had to hide this from me was crazy because my
family has big ass mouths, like they are blobby mouths,

(44:46):
like they can hold secrets. So then I'm asking, like Mom,
like why isn't gove here my bed, my gave the
one who helped me size my bringing all those things,
and she goes, oh, we didn't tell Govi because we
knew that she was going to tell you, so that
I facetimed GOVI and I FaceTime heard the ring and
she's like, oh my god, it happened. I'm like, yeah,

(45:07):
I'm like, I'm so sad that you're not here. My
mom said that no, they didn't want to tell you
because you would have told me, and she says, and
they were absolutely correct, and she goes, enjoy your day,
enjoy the weekend with your family, like I will see
you soon, and we just started laughing.

Speaker 1 (45:21):
And then my little brother Stevan was poosed.

Speaker 2 (45:25):
Sv was pissed because he had no idea they also
all kept the secret from him, and he was so
mad that they didn't tell him.

Speaker 1 (45:34):
And my mom goes, what is Steve On? We couldn't
tell you. We weren't gonna tell you because you were
gonna tell Crystal, and he goes, yeah, I would have.
I would have.

Speaker 2 (45:41):
He said, I would have FaceTime you. And I said,
are you sure you want to do this? Because I
love is Steve On my little brother. He's just it's
hard for him to see me with the man, like
it's hard for my little brother, like my steve On
is my number one in my everything, in my all,
and it's it's been a transition for him to see
me enthralled and in love with another man. And my

(46:03):
mom says that she sees and hears a lot of
signs of is Stevan's jealousy and it's just been hard
for him. So even though Istemon really liked Zaddy and
and thinks he's great, I don't think that Istevan will
ever think anyone is ever good enough for me. So
that is a Stefan. But no, yeah, Steven was so

(46:25):
mad that we didn't tell him. We didn't tell the kids,
my nieces and nephews, because they also would have let
slipped up. And the reason that Zaddi's sister was so
distant at the winery was because she was afraid it
was gonna slip up somehow, that she was going to
mess up and say something, so she didn't even want
to be around me. And the reason that Elisa offered

(46:46):
me her lipstick was because I didn't have lips to
gone and she knew that within those ten minutes there
was gonna be a photographer taking photos of us getting engaged,
and Erica felt bad that there was no pizza for
me when it was engagement, and so she wanted to
scramble and get pizza for me. And my mom called
me like angry about the romper because she didn't want

(47:07):
all those pictures of me in a Barney romper, me
getting engaged in that purple Barney ramper. And so after
I slammed the phone on my mom and verbally assaulted her.
Later I found out that right they were on the
way to the winery in the car, and when I
hung up on my mom, she started bursting into tears
and crying that I was going to ruin my own

(47:29):
engagement because I didn't listen to her. And the reason
that our son ended up staying the night at my
parents' house was one because yes, he did want to,
but two, they were also afraid and he agreed that
he might slip up and tell me that I was
going to get engaged that day.

Speaker 1 (47:43):
So they just wanted to.

Speaker 2 (47:45):
Eliminate any factor that could have spoiled the surprise, because listen,
Zaddi and my mom and my quamadare. Lisa had been
planning our engagement since June after Greece, and I find
all this out later after Greed. Well, okay, Zaddy, according
to him, knew that he wanted to marry me after

(48:08):
our New Year's Eve trip when we came with our
son here to New York City last New Year's Eve.
And mind you, Zaddy came with a busted open thigh
and a broken toe because he got into that accident
on the mini bike, which was a very difficult weekend
to maneuver in New York City with that scooter and.

Speaker 1 (48:29):
His leg like that.

Speaker 2 (48:30):
But he said, after I cared for him that weekend,
and after I cared for him and our son, he
realized that I was the one he wanted to spend
the most of his life with because he knew that
for better or for worse, for sickness and in health,
I would be there for him and for our son.

Speaker 1 (48:45):
So then from there until May, he.

Speaker 2 (48:49):
Was thinking of how he wanted to get engaged and propose,
but wanted to know if I would be open to
it too, And so that's why for our Grease trip
he had planned to ask me if I would be
to be engaged, and I said yes. And then right
when he got back from Greece, he had my whole
family go to his house that weekend and he asked

(49:09):
my mom and dad for my hand in marriage. And
they were talking outside of our backyard for a while,
and then my mom and dad allegedly my mom somebody
that was grilling him and just saying.

Speaker 1 (49:25):
Are you sure this is what you want?

Speaker 2 (49:26):
My daughter is a star and she puts her career
really high up there and there's really no stopping her
in her dreams. Are you sure you can deal with that?
She's in entertainment, and entertainment can be really tough. Her
schedule is not her own schedule. When she's in this
world of entertainment and radio, she gets pulled in different directions.

Speaker 1 (49:44):
Are you okay with that?

Speaker 2 (49:44):
There's a possibility she's going to be living in New
York City for a few more years. Are you okay
with that? She has a very strong personality. She is
a go getter. She wants what she wants. She's gonna
get what she wants no matter what. Are you okay
with that? We have a very hard headed family and
a big family, and it's very important to her, are
you accepting of that? Alex the little duck, her nephew

(50:06):
is like her son. She treats him like her son.
Are you okay with that too? All of these things,
and she was just grilling him and grilling him and
grilling him. According to him, but after they all talk,
I think, like for an hour.

Speaker 1 (50:19):
He was like yeah, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes yes yes.
She was like, okay, you get married.

Speaker 2 (50:26):
And again, if my mom says okay, my dad says okay,
my dad, my dad.

Speaker 1 (50:33):
If I'm happy, he's happy. And that's what he told Zaddy.

Speaker 2 (50:35):
He said, I see my daughter very happy with you,
and I know that you treat her very well, and
if you keep her happy, I will continue supporting you guys.
And then Zaddy came inside and the duck was there,
and our son was there and I'm on a ba
I was there and Stevan and my brother Junior were

(50:58):
there and no.

Speaker 1 (50:59):
No, Sephan wasn't there.

Speaker 2 (51:00):
You know what's crazy is that a Stevan was supposed
to be there, but he cadded he didn't end up going.
He's like, why am I going to Zaddy's house? Is
Crystal is not going to be there, Like there's no point.
That's that's why, that's why Stefan didn't go. That's why
Steman didn't go, and didn't know that Zaddy was gonna
propose to be wanted to get engaged with me.

Speaker 1 (51:18):
That is so funny.

Speaker 2 (51:19):
It's his own fault, it's actually and I didn't think
about that until now. It's a Stevan's own fault that
he didn't know that Zaddy.

Speaker 1 (51:27):
Was gonna ask me for my hand in marriage. That's hilarious.

Speaker 2 (51:33):
So oh yeah, I'm man. We're crying and just so
happy and excited. And I mean again, my family loves Zaddy.
Everyone that meets Zaddy knows that he's the one, like
they know that he's the best guy ever, and that
we are so good for each other and commment each other.
So then that happened, and that was the first weekend

(51:56):
of June because we went to we went to Greece
the last week of May for Memorial weekend or whatever
week that was. So then by Prima Gavi was here
with me in June, and that's when she kept counting
me and saying, we need to go look at diamonds,
we need to go figure out your size and all
the things, so that's why it all made sense.

Speaker 1 (52:15):
And then July August, yeah, Barcelona. He was so excited.

Speaker 2 (52:21):
He had already gotten the ring when we went to Barcelona,
and he was so excited that he got the ring,
he wanted to take me on another euro trip. So
that's when he surprised me and booked us a trip
to Barcelona, and so then we did that and then
he since Michael Madre, Alisa was helping plan the engagement,
she was like, she's going to be here for the
christening anyways, why don't we just have her? Why don't

(52:43):
you just do the engagement that Saturday. And Zaddy was like,
I don't know, Like I don't really want to take
away from baby JoJo's thing, like it should be about
him that weekend. She's like, no, this would be great.
This would be an amazing, an amazing celebration of all
of us. It's okay, I don't think it's taken away
from him.

Speaker 1 (52:59):
I would. I think this will be perfect.

Speaker 2 (53:01):
And so that's why they settled on that day, and
it was great that that day is actually October twelfth,
because the twelfth is my favorite number, so that's just
really funny. So then we're all wrapping it up, and
we're getting kicked out of the winery because it's closing,
and everyone starts giving me hugs and saying bye bye,
We'll see you tomorrow, we'll see you tomorrow. And it
was barely five o'clock, and I was just like, in
my head, I was like, see tomorrow. Like we can't

(53:22):
party tonight, Like we can't vibe tonight. I thought some
of us were staying at a casino, Like we're not
going to do dinner, Like I'm in from New York City.
I'm only getting you guys for this weekend, Like I
what bye. Everyone was saying bye, we'll see tomorrow'll see
tomorrow'll see tomorrow and enjoy and enjoy your engagement, will
see tomorrow. And in my head, I'm just like I guess, Like,

(53:44):
I guess this is life now with my husband. I
guess my fiance. I guess it's just gonna be the
two of us, and this is how it's gonna start.

Speaker 3 (53:51):
Now.

Speaker 1 (53:51):
That's not a problem for me.

Speaker 2 (53:52):
I mean, we're alone together a lot all the time
when he's here in New York City, but whenever I'm home,
we're never alone. We're always with our family. So I
just I thought it was weird that everyone was leaving us.
But then I was just like, I guess they just
want to give us alone times as fiance and fiance.
So then I was just asking Zaddie, Oh, you know,
what's the plan, Like, what do we want to do?

(54:13):
We are gonna stay out here, right because Michael Madre
Elisa's they live out there.

Speaker 1 (54:18):
They live closer out there.

Speaker 2 (54:20):
So then he's like, oh, she referred to us to
an awesome winery out here, so let's go check that out.
And I say okay, because mind you, I wasn't drinking.
I had maybe half a glass of wine, and I
wasn't drinking because I knew that I was gonna go
help set up that night and also that next morning,
I was gonna get up early to help with all
the stuff with the christening, so I didn't want to
be groggy for baby JoJo's day. So I wasn't drinking.

(54:43):
And we go to the winery and I was like, okay,
we'll get like maybe a bubbly or something. We're engaged,
let's celebrate with some champagne. So go to this winery
that's on a river bed. It's on a river bed
and our feet are.

Speaker 1 (54:55):
In the sand, and we're sharing.

Speaker 2 (54:57):
Like a pomegranate's sight of palmegran and pumme granted wine.
I don't know, something's sharden it, champagne. I'm clearly not
a wine person, but yeah, we're just sharing that, and
we're just taking videos and pictures of me with my
new ring, and I'm just so happy, and I just like,
I just cannot believe.

Speaker 1 (55:16):
I cannot believe it. And I tell him about the card.
I say, Babe, the.

Speaker 2 (55:20):
Thing with our deck of cars that I was scared
to tell you was that I want to get engaged.
And we were literally on the way to engagement. Is
that funny that I didn't tell you? But that's what
it was. He's like, yeah, it's like you kind of knew,
but you didn't new.

Speaker 3 (55:34):
No.

Speaker 2 (55:34):
I was like, Babe, I zero percent chance knew. I
just didn't ever want to tell you that I wanted
to get engaged because I didn't want to seem thirsty.

Speaker 1 (55:41):
But I did.

Speaker 2 (55:42):
I want to be engaged to you. I feel like
it's so lame that you and I are a boyfriend and girlfriend.
I don't feel like your girlfriend. I feel like we're
beyond that, and I had felt that. I had felt
that for a while, like I felt, I don't know.
I just felt like our love was deeper than boyfriend
and girlfriend, that we should be moving in a forward pace,
and to me, it felt right to be engaged. And

(56:03):
he had felt that too for all those months, and
he was just saying how it just felt so heart
wrenching to have to keep a secret. For me, it
was the hardest secret to keep ever, that they all
had code names and phones so that I wouldn't find
out or look through his phone and figure it out,
because I don't look through his phone, but we have
open phones, as I believe partners and family members should.

(56:27):
But yeah, I know his password, he knows my password.
Sometimes my phone's charging over there and his phone's next
to me, and I'll look through it, or and I
need to find something and I'll look into it or whatever,
or he'll be like, who texted me and I'll check,
or vice versa. So him, Michael mad and my mom
were planning since June. My mom Girl, My mom went
all over with him to find the perfect diamond for me,

(56:49):
the exact diamond that I wanted, the perfect diamond with
no inclusions and the perfect cut and color. And he
did so much research for this. Michael Batherday Anthony, Elisa's
husband helped him too. So I was hearing and finding
out all these things that they were wine hopping, hip hopping,
winery hopping for months, trying to find the perfect winery

(57:13):
to take me to and propose at. That was just
beautiful and gorgeous and all the things. And my mom
said when she went there and saw the fountain and
the weeping willows, she was like, that's the one. That's
the one. And it really was, because even I met,
I poked out that willow. And I think I like
weeping willows because my mom likes weeping willows because she
would always tell me that. So now like I tell
you that, I think it just rubbed off on me,

(57:35):
so that and just so many funny things that like
they just had to keep everything from me. So then
we're talking all about these things at the winery with
me and him, and then he's like, you want to
go check into the hotel because I think your mom
says that they're going to go to at Lisa's house
to help set up for tomorrow.

Speaker 1 (57:54):
I said, oh yeah, let's do it. So we go.
We check into the Holiday and Express.

Speaker 2 (57:58):
Yes girl, Me and my man Zaddy the honeymoon suite
at the Holiday and Express. I was rolling, but you know,
in smaller towns like those are like the only hotels
there are.

Speaker 1 (58:08):
But I don't care, like I am on cloud nine.

Speaker 2 (58:12):
I am not too good for Holiday in Express with
my little veil because at least it got me a
little tiny veil that says bride to be and she's
so franky. My mom set up like as she said,
yes sign, which is me and ZADDI agree is a
little cringey. But what's really funny is that the winery
that I got proposed to, they were actually setting up
for a wedding, so there was a DJ there and

(58:32):
when everyone found out that I had just gone proposed to,
they put on the Ed Sharon song.

Speaker 1 (58:37):
Uh perfect, Uh I found a love.

Speaker 2 (58:41):
And me and Zaddy think that Ed Sheer love songs
are kind of cringe. I love Ed Sharon, I've worked
with them a handful of times. He is so sweet,
but we just feel like they're kind of really, really,
really played out, and we don't really care for that
for our intimate stuff, And so when they started playing
ed Sharon and we hear all in like the background

(59:01):
of the videos, we just start laughing that we just
like both agree that we just think that is a
cringey song, but.

Speaker 1 (59:07):
The DJ thought, oh, this is the perfect time to
play right now.

Speaker 2 (59:10):
And we're just dying laughing because they love songs that
me and Zaddy have for each other are like Kendrick
and Jake Cole and Fergie, and it's just so funny,
like Taylor Slit, you know, It's just it's just really interesting.
And you might say that Taylor Swift is a little
cringey too, but everyone has their opinions. So I just
want to take a note of that about the ED

(59:31):
shirt and song. So we go to the holiday in express.
I change into comfy your clothes because again, that really
nice flowery dress that Thank goodness, he told me I
looked like Barney and I was wearing the perfect dress
for my engagement, and I'm really thankful I wasn't wearing
my Barney uniform. So then I change out of that

(59:53):
dress into some comfy sweats and stuff, and then we
get to we're pulling up to Elisa's house to go decorate,
and my going by the text me, He's like, can
you just come through the yard. So we're walking the
path towards the backyard and I say, they put new
lights up on the fence.

Speaker 1 (01:00:06):
I'm like, oh my gosh, these lights.

Speaker 2 (01:00:07):
Looks so nice. Wow, they're decorated. And me and Zadier
walking in and I see a U shape table in
the yard, a huge table and a hibachi grill and
a chef behind it, and my entire family that left

(01:00:27):
the winery in the corner, and they all scream surprise.
And then that Ed Sheeran's song starts playing again, that
perfect song again, and now I'm actually crying, like real tears.

Speaker 1 (01:00:47):
I am like, Babe, did you do this?

Speaker 2 (01:00:49):
And he said yes, and he planned to surprise me
with my whole family a hibachi dinner in the back
of Alisa's and Anthony's home, with our whole family that
had just left the winery.

Speaker 1 (01:01:03):
There's twenty five of us, and I just start crying.

Speaker 2 (01:01:07):
They have a table that my COPAA made a cake
for me and it said just engaged. My mom gives
me and Zaddy wine personalized wine glasses that says like girlfriend, boyfriend,
and it crossed out and says fiances, Oh my gosh,
Like I am just like crying. I am like crying,
and I'm hugging everyone and again that's that e Sherance

(01:01:28):
song is playing in.

Speaker 1 (01:01:29):
The backyard and me and Zaddi.

Speaker 2 (01:01:32):
Are laughing, and I just I don't think I've ever
been so happy in my whole life. I mean, the
proposal an engagement was great, but knowing that now I
get to celebrate with my family with the Hibachi Chef
at a Lisa's house and they decorated it so nice,
engagement decorations everywhere, And in my head, I'm like, you, guys,
we should be setting up for tomorrow, like we have

(01:01:53):
a party tomorrow, Like we should not be partying right now.
And they're like this is a party, Like this whole
weekend is a party, Like this is just for you
and you guys, and we're so happy that we get
to be here and be a part of it. And
I just I could not believe it. I could not
believe it. So this flipping Hibachi chef is hilarious and iconic.

Speaker 1 (01:02:09):
He has a.

Speaker 2 (01:02:10):
Water squirt gun with Saki in it, and he's socking
our mouths like super soakering all of our mouths Ama
does one, My brother Junior is Stevan does one. A
Lisa Anthony, it's my mom, Sandra does one too. My
mom is parting with us with the saki in the
square gun and he's flipping.

Speaker 1 (01:02:29):
Shrimp everywhere, means Zaddy, get on the grill.

Speaker 2 (01:02:32):
We're Oh my gosh, it was so the kids were
there and my nephews were there.

Speaker 1 (01:02:36):
Oh my gosh.

Speaker 2 (01:02:37):
It was so fun and like now we are just
one big happy family. That is my big happy family,
my cousin Eddika, and my Theo Juan and my Theoi
Lena Juvi that came in from Vegas, and it was
I just my little cousin and I. Everybody was there,
everybody that my immediate family was there, and I was
just so shook and just I would not want anything else,

(01:02:59):
Like I couldn't even thought of that for myself, a
Botcher ship. I've never done a haibachi yard before, and
Alisa has done them a few times for her friends,
and I miss them every time because I'm here. But
I've always wanted one of those, and the fact that
my fiance got it for me and us and my
whole family for.

Speaker 1 (01:03:16):
Our engagement. I just I couldn't.

Speaker 2 (01:03:18):
And so yeah, some of our cousins were staying at
the casino, so they went to go party at the casino.

Speaker 1 (01:03:22):
I was so tired.

Speaker 2 (01:03:23):
I knew I had to get up early for the christening.
So we just knocked out at the Holiday Inn and
our honeymoon suite.

Speaker 1 (01:03:30):
And it was the best day. It was the best day.
He really pulled that off.

Speaker 2 (01:03:37):
My mom and Alisa and my whole family that drove
in hours away, and his family that helped with everything,
that his sister getting the photographer, and I just I couldn't.
I could not have asked for a better engagement day.
And then the next oh, and then the kicker was,

(01:03:58):
while we're at dinner, my Grandpathera goes, hey, and you
help me with the drinks real quick. So I go,
and I knew he didn't need help with the drinks,
and we go inside he goes, I don't need help
with the drinks. We actually want to ask you before
we ask Zaddy, but we have thought about it for
the past few months, and we've gotten a lot closer
to him while planning your engagement, and we would like
to ask you if it's Okay, if he is going

(01:04:18):
to be Josiah's god dad tomorrow, so it would be
you and Josiah baptist, you and Zaddy baptizing Josiah, and
I sort of crying again because when I was going
to baptize Josiah, I did feel kind of like, oh,
I would love Zaddy to do that with me too,
But I mean, it's I'm honored that I'm doing it,

(01:04:40):
and Zaddy is not my husband yet and we're not engaged,
and he's just my boyfriend, and so we don't know
if he's going to stay in our lives for the
long run or not. So I completely understand why they
wouldn't ask Zaddy, and I thought that that we had
only hung out with them when Zaddy was around. But
I also didn't know that they were all planning the
engagement with a too.

Speaker 1 (01:05:00):
So they've gone really.

Speaker 2 (01:05:01):
Close to him the past year as well, and so
they're like, we've gotten close to him and we love
him so much, and he's part of our family now too,
and we love how close he is and devoted to God,
and that's what we want for Josiah is godparents that
can help lead him stay close to God and so
we would love to ask Zaddi to be Josiah's god
dad with you tomorrow. And so then we went to
ask Zaddy and he was enthralled. He was just so

(01:05:26):
thankful and happy and excited in him and I together
we were just like, we're gonna be godparents, Like we
are gonna be godparents tomorrow. We this is our first duty,
our first duties as a couple, you know, as a
fiance and fiance and as husband and wife, to be
like we are grown up, like we are old.

Speaker 1 (01:05:42):
Now we are there.

Speaker 2 (01:05:45):
And so the next day was the christening, and oh
my goodness, it was such a great service. They dedicated
the whole first part just to baby Jojo. We were
on the stage with him, putting our hands on him
and making sure that we agreed to protecting him and
helping him stay close to God. And the whole congregation

(01:06:05):
was there and support of us. Our whole families were
there and support of us, and it was just such
a great, great, great, great ceremony. And then we went
back and yeah, we had gone earlier to help decorate,
so everything was set by the time we got back,
and then her friends and other family showed up and
it was so awesome, and we all got to celebrate
baby Jojo together as he's playing with all his other

(01:06:26):
little cousins and friends and there's just babies running around,
and I have an engagement ring now and I'm wearing
my ugly purple romper and it is such a It
was just like a double pack. It was just a
double day of dopamine. Because I was already so excited
to be Josiah's godmom and to be brought into that
family like that, and then on top of it, Zaddie's

(01:06:50):
included in that, and on top of it, I got engaged,
and on top of him, my whole family was there,
and on top of it, I had Habbachi. It was
just it was too much, like it was really really
really really too much. And they had actually called my
boss and asked him if I can get two days off.
And this was actually the same week that Zaddi's grandpa
passed away, so I already asked my boss if I

(01:07:13):
can take bereavement time to spend a little extra time
after the the christening to spend time with Zaddy and
his family since his grandfather passed away. But they had
already called prior my boss and told him, Hey, we're
engaging her, can you give her those two days off?

Speaker 1 (01:07:28):
And he was like, yeah, yeah, totally. So it's like,
it's kind of weird because.

Speaker 2 (01:07:34):
I wasn't lying to my boss, but like it could
look like I was, but I actually wasn't. And I
wouldn't lie to my boss because I actually love my boss.

Speaker 1 (01:07:45):
He's more than a boss to me.

Speaker 2 (01:07:46):
He's my friend and my mentor, and I just I
would never His trust is too important for me to
lie about something like that. But that was just a
weird layer to the onion. It wasn't a big deal
and it wasn't a problem. He obviously never brought it out.
He probably doesn't even remember her cares. But I hated
that that I had already asked for bemorreivement day, but
they had before asked for days off because of the engagement.

(01:08:08):
But I immediately sent photos to my boss and he's like,
I knew, isn't that amazing? I knew, And I was
like yeah, and it was so cool and it was
so fun and fresh, and I was thankful son. That
was that day, and then the next day we drove
back No that night that Sunday night, we drove home
and we had our son, which was great, and I
we went to an escape room. We went to an

(01:08:30):
escape room with my parents, which was so funny. Me Estevan,
the Duck, my nephew, our son, Zaddie, my mom and dad.

Speaker 1 (01:08:38):
So it was six of us.

Speaker 2 (01:08:39):
Oh my gosh, six of us went to an escape
room in Walnut Creek and it was so funny seeing
how everyone worked it together, on the dynamics of it.
All the boys. Our son is just a yap where
he's just gonna yap, but some things he can. He's really, really,
really smart. So sometimes he'll just yap in the escape
room and just be like, oh, look at this, and
I'll be like, oh, okay, but like what does it do?

Speaker 1 (01:09:00):
Like like what?

Speaker 2 (01:09:01):
He'll be like that picture there and we're like, okay,
what about it. He's like I don't know and we're okay.
But then other times he'd be like, oh, but he
helped a lot. My nephew, the little Duck, he's smart too.
He's really smart. He's a little more quiet, he like
analyzes first and then speaks, but he's good too. My
dad is silent. He doesn't know what the heck is

(01:09:21):
going on. He's very confused. He doesn't even know where
to start or where to begin and where to go.
So he just wants to stay out of the way
and not ruin anything. So my dad is just silent.
Met the whole time. Seven wasn't there. It was six
of us. That's Sevan wasn't there. He had to work
or he couldn't get off he was late for work
or something. My mom is a goer. She is a goer.

(01:09:41):
She is smart, she's she's saying things that mean things.
She's at because the first part of the escape room,
it's three and three we're split up. Well, we could
hear each other, but we're split up and each has
clues that the other one's needs. So that was kind
of tough. Zaddy is the smartest one. He I got
triggered at Zadi because he he's hell smart and he

(01:10:02):
could figure out a lot of things and he can
do everything and I would be messing up.

Speaker 1 (01:10:07):
Sometimes he'd like, get out of the way, I'll do it.
I'll do it.

Speaker 2 (01:10:09):
Because he's really good at math, he's good at puzzles.
He's pretty much good at everything, better than me at everything.
So he would like literally booty butt me out the
way and figure out what I was trying to figure
out for the past ten minutes in three seconds, and
it would trigger me. Would I was getting mad and
me like, I think I'm smart and all the things,
But when I see my mom and Zaddie.

Speaker 1 (01:10:30):
Working together, they are very They're.

Speaker 2 (01:10:33):
Smarter than me. Them too, they can now smart me.
And so that was hell of fun even though I
was I was inside triggered. I was triggered.

Speaker 1 (01:10:42):
It's the competitiveness in me. It's the competitiveness in me.

Speaker 2 (01:10:46):
Why am I triggered at my own fiance now for
out escaping rooming me? But also we are competitive, and
that's like, that's the fun of us. I don't think
it's gonna cause a problem in the future because I
always wanted guy that was smarter than me.

Speaker 1 (01:11:01):
I always wanted a man.

Speaker 2 (01:11:02):
That if I I'm not good at like math and
signs and even like words, I'm undiagnosed dyslexic. I have
a lot of issues with words and spelling, and and
Zaddi's really good at all that, Like he spell checks me,
he corrects my math. But I am the creative and

(01:11:24):
funny ones. So and hot one, So I no, but yeah,
when it comes to art stuff and the creativeness of
things like I, I make up for that in those
aspects and abstract thinking and open thinking. But no, the
escape room was so fun. I had my my bridal

(01:11:46):
bride to be veil on the entire time till everyone
knows that I just got engaged two days before.

Speaker 1 (01:11:54):
And then we went to Benny Hanna's.

Speaker 2 (01:11:55):
We went to Benny's right there and conquered and my
favorite place in the entire world. And he did the
little I Love you heart the heartbeat with the soy sauce,
the heart attack of the soy sauce.

Speaker 1 (01:12:06):
We got our engagement picture.

Speaker 2 (01:12:07):
There, and then the next day it was just a
relaxed day because everyone goes to work. And I think
our son, Yeah, we took our son off of school
Monday just so that he could spend time with us
in a family time. And I think it's okay to
take off a day of school every once in a
while if you have a good attendance and you get
good grades. I think you can play hooky every once

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in a while to have some family time. Because I don't.
I'm not out there very often, and so we agreed
on that. But then Tuesday we sent him back to school,
and then we did some errands, and then I wrote
a letter to him, just telling him that I love
him and that I'm so thankful that God is making
him my son, and that I will love him just

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as much or more than I love his dad, and
I always be there for everything that he needs, and
whenever he needs help with something, and whatever the case is,
I am here and just to text me. And so
I left that there for him. I hid that under
his pillow. No, no, I hid it where his toothbrushes,
so that night when he was brushing his teeth, he
would see it when I left for the airport.

Speaker 1 (01:13:11):
So I left for the.

Speaker 2 (01:13:12):
Airport, and then Zaddi Zaddi texted me later on that
night as I was on the flight, that our son
ran into his room with the letter and said, Crystal
wrote me a letter.

Speaker 1 (01:13:24):
And he goes, oh, wow, she did. Can I read it?

Speaker 2 (01:13:26):
Because Zaddy didn't know either, and he's like yeah. He
was really excited and said yeah, and that our son
was just so so so happy about the letter and
that he really loved it. And then he put his
letter up in his room next to this banner, this
prayer banner, which made me feel so happy and thankful
and like I never considered. I never was against ending

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up with a man that had kids already. I was
never against that because my brother was a teen dad.
My brother was a dad at nineteen, so I saw
that in my own family. I never saw after that.
And I also never bashed, like I never bashed women
that got with men that had kids because or vice versa,
because my dad, my own brother, was a teen dad

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and had an accidental pregnancy. So when I met Zaddy
and he told me, and I already told you this story,
but when I met my man Zaddy and first date
he told me he had a kid, I was like, oh,
how old is he?

Speaker 1 (01:14:27):
And he was like, oh, he's like ten.

Speaker 2 (01:14:29):
And I was like, oh, cool, Like I my nephew's nine,
Like they're the same.

Speaker 1 (01:14:33):
It's cool. Like that's awesome.

Speaker 2 (01:14:34):
You know, if you're an involved dad and take care
of your kid, that's all that I could ask for.

Speaker 1 (01:14:39):
And God blessed me in that regard.

Speaker 2 (01:14:41):
Honestly, one of the selling points for Zaddi to about
Zaddy to me was how good of a dad he is,
how involved he is we have our son every other week,
and that is such a blessing because he fought to
be in his kid's life harder than anyon one knows,
and to this day still does. There are so many

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battles that he has just to be a dad in
the co parenting world, or a parent, not even a dad,
just a parent the co parenting world.

Speaker 1 (01:15:10):
On both ends.

Speaker 2 (01:15:11):
It's it could be really difficult co parenting. And so
I'm so thankful that that's a reason that I love
him so much. And our kid is so amazing and
so loving and so great to me. He is so
loving and including to me and respects me and is
a really good kid, a really good kid, and he listens.

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And that's all I can ask for, Like, that's all
I can ask for. And what was really funny is
the next day I was at work on a Wednesday,
and I'm at work here at ZE one hundred and
I get a text from him from our son. He's like, hey, Crystal,
my dad's and not answering the phone, can I go
downtown with my friends. It's like three o'clock in California
and I'm in New York City and I'm like, himiha

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who are you going with? What are you guys gonna
be doing? He's like, Oh, I'm going on blah blah blah,
we're gonna be going here. I'm like, okay, cool, do
need money? And he goes he goes, uh, it's okay,
Like I don't want to take money from you, but
if you're on but if you're offering, okay.

Speaker 1 (01:16:13):
So I said him money.

Speaker 2 (01:16:14):
I'm like, hear me, ole, here some money if you
need for food or whatever. And I just start cackling laughing,
and he really took that seriously, like he you know,
his dad was in a meeting and had his phone
on silent, and his he just wanted to see if
he can go downtown with his friends, and his dad
didn't answer, so.

Speaker 1 (01:16:34):
Stepmam, mom, come here.

Speaker 2 (01:16:36):
So I felt honored that he feels comfortable enough with
me to ask him for things or with help with things,
or for permission for things if his dad doesn't respond
right away.

Speaker 1 (01:16:45):
So that was hilarious.

Speaker 2 (01:16:47):
And yeah, so then I got back here to New
York City and then I was just taking in the engagement,
like I I didn't want to be on my phone.

Speaker 1 (01:16:56):
I didn't want to be like posting.

Speaker 2 (01:16:57):
I like I was already facetiming all all my close
friends one on one with the Ring and with Zaddie, Like,
you know, as the weekend was going on, I was
trying to make my rounds to my primas and my
godparents and you know, the important people that I wanted
one on one to know about the engagement. And so
then when I got back here to work, the same thing,

(01:17:18):
like I wanted to tell my coworkers that I love
face to face. I wanted to tell Shelley in person.
I wanted to tell David in person, and it's really special,
Like it was really special. And then as time went on,
news kind of spread around the office a little bit,
as it does, and everyone's just congratulating me, and it's
just like it was already a lot of dopeamine and

(01:17:41):
endorphins that weekend alone.

Speaker 1 (01:17:44):
So then I just didn't want like.

Speaker 2 (01:17:45):
A whole rush of engagement love right away, because I
really wanted to take it in, you know, And then
I wanted to see how I felt being engaged still
in a long distance situation, because it's it's still hard
being long distance. But soon after Zaddy came to visit,
and you know, the week after that Zaddi came to visit,

(01:18:06):
and then we got to see Essin McCartney together. Jessein
McCartney has a song that I love called Tye the
Knot and sing Jesse McCartney with my ring him singing
Tie the Knat with my fiance. It was, I mean,
it was. I cried like I couldn't, like I just
I literally couldn't. And it was a dream come true
because I love Jesse McCartney. And then did we go

(01:18:29):
somewhere recently? I think, like I think Zaddy came back.
Zaddi came back recently and we went to see my
favorite band in the entire world, Tokyo Hotel.

Speaker 1 (01:18:38):
And I had the funnest time with him. Girl.

Speaker 2 (01:18:41):
We danced and sang all night, and I put him
onto Tokyo Hotel because he didn't know about the band
or care about them. But the week that he was here,
I kept playing their music and Zaddy ended up loving
Tokyo Hotel and he and I like doing that. I
like building up to the concert. I like playing the
playlist and playing the setlist so that when you're there
you know what's going on. And so Zaddy was so

(01:19:02):
happy when we went to the show. I got my
merch t shirt. We're taking photos. I'm seeing my favorite
band from when I was like ten up on stage
in New York City with my fiance, and we've just
been having so much fun and we've been planning our
engagement moon. So literally, in like a few hours, I'm
taking off for my engagement moon and we are going

(01:19:23):
to Switzerland. We're going to Zurich. We're going to Zermatt
where the Matter Horn is. I booked us. I booked
us paragliding off the matter Horn I shirted, I shirted,
or off the mountain next to the matter Horn.

Speaker 1 (01:19:39):
I'm not sure.

Speaker 2 (01:19:39):
I don't know if you can paraglide off the mountain horn.
It might be the mountain next to the matter Horn.
But yeah, I booked us that.

Speaker 1 (01:19:47):
I booked us Disney Paris for our engagement moon. So
we're going to Disney Paris, and I'm so excited.

Speaker 2 (01:19:53):
I've obviously never been to Paris or Switzerland, so we're
doing those things. We're taking trains, so it's gonna be
like wintertime snow during that time. We're going to all
the Christmas markets in Paris and in Switzerland, and we
are still building our relationship. Like even recently, we had
a conversation that was pretty shaky, and I needed some

(01:20:15):
time to kind of digest it and sit in and
really decide how I want to go about this hump
that we're facing, even right now as he's flying all
the way to see me here at JFK, and then
we're going to like we you know, relationships and love,
it's an up and down and you're in a partnership
together and you're trying to navigate how to work these

(01:20:37):
things when you're long distance, when you each have families,
each have very opinionated families. We are both very opinionated people.
You throw your religion into that and the world of
entertainment into that, and it's it's hard, and it's I've
had to talk to myself a lot these past few

(01:20:57):
days about a conversation that we're going to have coming up.
That it's not easy. But what I have said when
we first started dating is that it's never going to
be perfect. We're going to have our ups and downs.
If our life is ninety percent ups and maybe ten
percent downs, I'm going to take that because that's still
an a for me, and nothing will ever be one
hundred percent. So I'm just really thankful. I need to

(01:21:21):
keep staying close to God to help guide me for
those downs and to give me grace and patience, and
pray to God that God opens his heart and gives
him grace and patience with the things that are hard
for him about me and our families and things like that.
So that is where I'm at right now. That's what's
going on. But all in all, I am engaged, and

(01:21:41):
I'm so we are engaged, and I'm so thankful that
I get to talk to you about it. I have
my own show now here on Z one hundred. I
have a lot of plans in the new year that
I want to share with you and get to I
obviously want to bring the Nightcap back in one way
and one capacity or another. It might take a few
weeks so that I can can get the team together
on the most effective things. But the past few months

(01:22:03):
I've just been really focusing on making sure that I
can have my day to day here at Z one
hundred b the best it could be for me. And
that has started with my own show. And then on
top of that, I want to start building now. I
want to make sure that I'm solid with my own show.
I want to do all the engagement things now that
that has been simmering down. What about a wedding or

(01:22:24):
any things like that. A wedding, it's looking like we're
going to do a low key courthouse thing. We're not
sure when, but definitely next year. And then I plan
on going back home when my contract is up, so
into California. So I think that's when we were going
to plan for like a big wedding with our families.
I mean, I don't think it has to be that

(01:22:44):
that big, but big, you know, like because I have
a huge family and he has a pretty big family too.
If he wants to invite all the people that he
wants to invite, so the wedding will be down the road,
ears down the road, but the mayorage he wants to
get married, like he wanted to get married the day
after we got engaged, and I love him and obviously

(01:23:07):
want to marry him, but I also want to take
into my engagement a lot of changes have happened in
my life all at the same time. The blessings came
flooding in, and I want to make sure that I'm
in a good place mentally and calm and with my
job settled in, and I just want to take in

(01:23:29):
our engagement. He just started his new business, so I
want to make sure that he has his things like
he needs to do there settled. And the money's tight
right now because I'm the breadwinner. He doesn't have a
steady income right now, so I'm the one doing the
heavy lifting on that, and so I just want to
make sure that we're we're solid with those things.

Speaker 1 (01:23:49):
So that is what's happening with that.

Speaker 2 (01:23:52):
I hope that I've answered a lot of your questions
of where I've been, what I've been up to. I
hope that you can give me patience and grace as
I'm navigating these new two huge chapters of my lives.
With my own show on ZE one hundred, my own
afternoon show, and now being a taken woman, an engaged
woman at fiance, we're really stepping into snota life.

Speaker 1 (01:24:12):
So that's that.

Speaker 2 (01:24:13):
On that, thank you so much for rocking with me,
even though I'm very inconsistent. I hope that you understand
I really want to do the Nightcap in whatever form
We're going to do that right and to the best ability,
and those plans are are bruin and I'm going to
be working on that heavily within the next year. I

(01:24:35):
want to just level everything up. I want to level
everything up, and I want to do that for me
and my brand and what I see for my future.
And I want to do that for you because I
know that you love spending time with me, and I
love spending time with you like you are my bestie.
I'm so, so so grateful and thankful for you, and
I just want to say.

Speaker 1 (01:24:53):
Happy Holidays, Happy New Year.

Speaker 2 (01:24:55):
I hope that you have the best year and have
had the best year ever and have the best New
Year's ever. I'm gonna be again with Ryan Seacrest for
Dick Clark's Rock in New Year's Eve on ABC again,
so make sure that you are hanging out with me.

Speaker 1 (01:25:08):
I think I'm gonna my do one segment again like.

Speaker 2 (01:25:10):
Last year, just after the ball drop, So just wait,
like within the next half hour of the ball drop
on ABC.

Speaker 1 (01:25:16):
Hang in there. Hopefully I'll be there.

Speaker 2 (01:25:18):
But I did get invited to come back, so I
don't know exactly what time or when, but I will
be back for that. Make sure you're posting and taking
snaps of me and tag me so I can repost
and all the things. And so that's something to look
forward to for the new year. Zaddy's coming back, our
son's coming back, and the duck is coming back. My
little cousin I'm not coming with us too, So it's
gonna be really fun for the new year. And I

(01:25:39):
just I have so many blessings. I run a number one.
Thank God, Thank you God, because all of my prayers
were abundantly answered, and contract negotiations were kind of tough,
and I was a little shaky for a second. I
didn't even know if I was gonna stay in New
York anymore. But I I had like this, I had

(01:26:01):
a bare minimum, I had requirements and God provided and
so I'm so thankful for that. And I just want
you to know that God is handling everything that you want.
Just keep praying to your God, keep giving out love
and good vibes and energy. Keep remembering that there is
an energy that loves you no matter what, that you

(01:26:24):
could do anything, You can do anything you want, Keep
at it, keep hoping, keep manifesting, keep praying, keeping the
good person that you are, and good will come back
to you ten times. And I am just so thankful
that you are part of my life and that you
allow me to be part of your life.

Speaker 1 (01:26:44):
And that is that all that.

Speaker 2 (01:26:47):
We're going to close out today's episode like we usually do,
We're getting straight to the prayer because I have to run.
So this is from the book by Sarah Young, Jesus
calling and Joining Peace in His Presence. I know you
may not be religious or believe in that, so don't worry.
This is if the same for you. I will see
you next to your says, don't worry, don't worry. Maybe
you're on the fence.

Speaker 1 (01:27:07):
And you're like, I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:27:08):
Then why don't you to hang out with me and
just see how you feel after I read this to you.
And if you do believe and love these prayers, then
here we go. December fourteenth. Rest in me, my child,
forgetting about the worries of the world. Focus on me, Emmanuel,
and let my living presence envelop you in peace, envelope

(01:27:29):
in you in peace. Let me read that in focus
on me Emmanuel, and let my living presence envelop you
in peace. Tune into my eternal security, for I am
the same yesterday, today and forever. If you live on
the surface of life. By focusing on every changing phenomenon,
you will find yourself echoing the words of Solemn meaningless meaningless.

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Everything is meaningless. Living in collaboration with Me is the
way to instill meaning into your day. Begin each day
alone with me so that you can experience the reality
of my presence. As you spend time with me, the
way before you opens up. Step by step. Arise from
the stillness of our communion, and gradually begin your journey
through me through the day. Hold my hand and deliberate

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dependence on me, and I will smooth out the path
for you. Hebrews thirteen eight, Ecclesiastes one two Proverbs three six. Yeah, girl,
our enemy is stress. Our enemy is anxiety and stress.
And I've been there. I've been in the pits. And
I've been in the pits without a feeling that I
didn't have love, that I wasn't worthy, that I didn't

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want to live anymore.

Speaker 1 (01:28:35):
And that's not true. That's not true. Sis.

Speaker 2 (01:28:38):
There is somebody, and there's energy and love that loves
you boo. And you can believe or not believe. But
if you do believe, you just feel better. I'm just
telling you like you do feel better when you believe
that you were unconditionally loved and and there's someone that
is just that's your safety net that you can just
throw all their worries and stresses to that. Like if

(01:28:59):
you were worse distressed about something, just take a deep
breath and go, God, take it.

Speaker 1 (01:29:05):
It's all you. I'm just giving it to you. I
don't even want it. I don't want to stress. Take it.

Speaker 2 (01:29:09):
Please you take it, and God's gonna say, yeah, that's
why I'm here. I've been waiting for you to say that.
Don't stress, I got it. Why are you always stressing
when I tell you over and over again I love
you and you're gonna be fine and you're gonna be
taken care of.

Speaker 1 (01:29:22):
Got you. Please believe to believe. Believe.

Speaker 2 (01:29:24):
That's what I think is the most important. That I've
learned so much. And even this was my first jingle ball.
Doing all the things alone last night, all of the things,
all of the responsibilities I had with Z one hundred,
I did them alone, and girl, I wasn't stressing. I
was not stressing. I was prepared, I planned ahead, I

(01:29:45):
drink a lot of water. I was not stressed. I
even lost an entire part of my outpha in a
bag at Madison Square Garden. I lost a bag full
of my favorite shoes, my favorite jeans and these things,
and I was like, you know what, I told people,
if they see it, pick it up, it's mine, and
that's all I can do. It might show up and

(01:30:07):
Whiston found who knows, and what happens at the end
of the night. I get a text, Crystal found your bag.
I'll leave you in the studio. See, just don't be
irresponsible like that. But there was gonna be no help, Like,
it wouldn't help me if I would have stressed and
cried about it because there's nothing I can do.

Speaker 1 (01:30:21):
I did everything that I could do to try to
get that back.

Speaker 2 (01:30:23):
That's just like a little tiny first world problem thing
about stress. But I'm just telling you like that was
probably the most stressful part of my night. And I
didn't even really stress that much because I was like,
there's nothing I could do. Already told the people I
can tell and if it works out, cool, cool. If
it doesn't, I'm blessed, and that's okay. I can buy
another pair of jeans. So I love you so so much,
so so so so so much. I think I.

Speaker 1 (01:30:44):
Will post about the engagement, maybe this week. I don't know,
but

Speaker 2 (01:30:50):
I love you and I will see you on the
next one in twenty twenty five, baby,