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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the We Don't Podcast starring husband and wife
Mojo from Mojo in the Morning and his better half Chelsea.
On this episode.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
On this episode of the Weed Don't Podcast, what are
we going to talk about? Which we talk about meeting
Jacob's boyfriend's family. Yeah, do we like them? I don't know.
Let's find out. Do you like them? Do you like me?
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Speaker 1 (01:04):
Well, all right, all right, all right, without further delay,
here are Mojo and Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
All right, so we got a chance to meet Jacob's
boyfriend Chris and his family.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Actually you've known Chris, we.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Have, but we got to meet his family. Guy. Yes,
I always never know because Chris spells his name differently.
He doesn't spell it.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Traditional traditionally.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
He doesn't. He spells it Cris, which I guess is
the is the is a religious traditional way. I didn't
know that.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I did not either.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I guess it's. Uh, there is a religious meaning to
it that I learned from some listener that sent me.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Okay, But I never know where to put the apostrophe.
Is it apostrophe at the end of the s or
do you do apostrophe.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
S when we're talking about Chris Chris's family at the end,
because that would make it plarial.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Okay, I never know what to do. I don't know
why I'm bringing that up in this point.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Whatever.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
It's So we went to Chicago, and actually this has
been coming. We just didn't haven't done a podcast, you know,
for a little bit, and we wanted to kind of
like spread these things out a little bit. But we
a few weeks ago got a chance to go back
and see Jacob and Chris and then meet Chris's family.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Well, actually we were asked to yes, so they wanted
us to come. Jacob had asked us if we would
come in and meet Chris's family, his parents.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
That's cool, by the way, I like that. Yeah, it was.
It was really wild. Their family is a very I
always say they're a twenty twenty five family because you
and I are kind of like the old school where
it's just you and I. But we got the chance
to meet the stepdad and the mom, the.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Dad and the stepdad and the stepdad and one of
Chris's sisters, his younger sister.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yep, we went to dinner and uh, first off, can
we talk about Chris before we talk about the family.
Of course, this kid is special. Yeah, he's really a
really like he. I know it sounds weird to say
this because you hate that. I always will say that
he you know, like I'll use my family as the barometer.
I felt like he was one of my kids. Like
(03:21):
I feel like he's a he's a carballo, like you
know what I mean, Like you feel I feel like
he's somebody.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Agree with that. But I will say this, Jacob is
a certain way. He's very protective, he's very he doesn't
he'll give you as much information as he wants to
give you. He doesn't give you more. And so, having
said that, we don't really know a lot about his
dating life until he feels we need to know about
(03:48):
his dating life, meaning who he's dating, and he's just
you know, when he was single and you would ask him,
why are you going out on dates? Yeah, and then
that's it, Like he doesn't go on to tell you more,
where the other two boys are very vocal and share
probably too much. So he keeps everything really close to
(04:09):
his chest. And so when he shares with you, you know
it's important to him and it means something to him.
So he's been dating Chris. I don't even know how
long he was dating Chris before we even got to
know his name or you know, get to meet him.
So when we met him, he is just so different
(04:31):
than Jacob and he brings out a different side of
Jacob and it's amazing and it's beautiful and it's so
good to see your child in love with someone who
compliments them so well. And if I had to pick
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out somebody for him, Chris would not have been who
I picked out. It's a crazy thing, but to know,
but to see it now and to see, yeah, we.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Would picked you would have picked out the wrong person
for Jacob.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Well, I just you know, I would have picked someone
who was a little bit more similar to him in
the sense that sometimes I feel that Jacob tends to
go towards people who are a little bit more like him. Yeah,
with but whether it's friends or whatever. And Chris could
not be more opposite. And what a wonderful, perfect compliment
(05:27):
he is to Jacob. And so it just and has
helped calm his anxieties about things and has helped him,
you know, ease up on a bunch of stuff. And
it's just, you know, opposites do truly attract, but with Jacob,
for a while, opposites repelled him. So it's so so
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I would have, again, knowing what I know about him,
and as his mother, I would have picked someone who
was a little bit more like him, because I think
it would have been well cynic like Jakes, a little
bit more easier for him to you do. But man,
I got to tell you, Chris, who is the opposite
in so many ways.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
He's very compassionately kind.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Oh and Jacob is very kind, oh yes, so, but
but Chris is, he's just a perfect compliment to Jacob.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
I don't think I've seen Jacob laugh like he laughs
with him, like smiles like he smiles very happy. It's
really cool.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
And that's a parent it's so wonderful.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I laugh because one of the first times I ever
met Chris, it was actually the second time that I
got spent time with him. There was a family function
that was going out in the suburbs, and Chris reminds
me in certain respects of me that he is. He
love to say that well, because he is. All he
wants is to people to be happy.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
I'm sure Jacob loved to hear that too.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
He hated it when I said it to him and
we had something going on and Jacob was like, I'm
not going. I can't go to it, like whatever. And
I'm like, Jacob, I really want you to go to it,
and He's like, I can't because I already have something
going on. I can't do it. And I'm the type
of person, even if I have like a million things
to go on, I want to make people happy, right,
I'm a you know, one of those people even if
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it hurts my happiness or others or others. And Jacob
is I respect him because he's a lot like you
in regards to the fact that he's like, you know what, no,
I you know, I'm gonna I'm going to protect myself
and Chris was like, oh, he was like and Chris
kind of made me laugh because I was like, this
is so funny because I think that part of it
(07:32):
was Chris doing it because he wanted to make me happy,
and he also wanted to do it because I think
he wanted well, I think he also.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Wanted he wanted to make you happy. He didn't really
know you.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Well, no, but I think he also have in Jacob's dad,
and I think that he also was kind of like,
you know what you know.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Jacob, I do you think Chris would do it? Because
Chris would do it like that's just he doesn't think
about I don't think he's a people pleaser at all.
I think he's and if he doesn't want to do something,
he doesn't do it, and he lets things i'd right
off his back.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
No, Chris, Chris, really.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
You think Jacob lets things slide right off his b
Have you met saying?
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Who the are you talking?
Speaker 3 (08:09):
No?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
No?
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Christ is Chris? You know if something is his? From
what Jacob has said and from what I have seen,
he's just like, okay, you know when things happen, like
he just go with the flow, which is opposite of Jacob.
And again, so refreshing for Jacob to see the world
will not crumble if something does not go the way
that it's planned.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
We got to meet Jacob's boyfriend's family again, and so
we went to a restaurant and showed up and their
family dynamic is interesting because mom and dad are divorced.
And what is Chris's ethnicity? Do we know? Is Chris Mexican?
Is he Puerto Rican? Is he Venezuela? I don't know.
(08:53):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
I could be wrong if I'm wrong.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
But Jacob likes them Latin, which is cool because that
would make that would make his grandfather, my dad happy
because my dad was Cuban and he as you know.
So we show up and it's Jacob's it's Chris's mom
and dad and stepfather who has been his dad, you
(09:19):
know for how many years have Matt and j been together.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
So let's just start off with the names that So
Chris's dad is Mariano Okay, okay. The mom is Juanita,
but they refer to her as Jay and her husband
now who she's been married to. The Juanita and Mariano
have been divorced, so she is married to Matt okay,
who is Chris's stepdad, and they've been married, so I
(09:46):
think they've been together. I think Chris said that his
parents got divorced when he was nine. I don't know
why that age.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I thought he was no, no, no, his sister was
was that young? The dad, I think he was like
an high school or something like that.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Oh, okay, okay, so they've been married. I know Jacob
is yelling at the radio because he's listening to us
and telling us how long that they've been together and divorced. Anyway, regardless,
the beauty of their relationship is that they are all friends.
They all get along, they all joke with each other.
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It is what a divorced family, if it can be,
should be. They drove from the suburbs to downtown Chicago
to meet us at a restaurant together in the same car.
Wild And they they always get together and hang out
with each other, and they do it for the kids.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
And when we sat at the restaurant, Chris's parents, his
biological parents sat right next to each other like a
married couple would. Yes, And Matt said, right there next
to you.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Was in between them, yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
And then Chris and Jacob and then Olivia was next
to me, so it was and they were talking, and actually,
to be honest with you, I sat and talked to uh,
Mariano and to Jay. Majority of the time I felt that.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
I just feel like I did not talk to Mariano
at all.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
And it was great though, because he reminded me of
a guy that I hung out with and me he did.
He had a lot of everybody reminds me of me, No,
but he reminded because because they grew up in you know,
I grew up Southside Chicago. They grew up in uh, Brookfield,
you know, which is right there, just outside of you know,
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the South Side, and I had so many friends that
were from the area, and obviously my brothers and sisters
and stuff kind of still lives in the Chicago area.
So it's nice to be able to talk to him
and to relate to some people and even know some
people like uh when he does knew my high school uh,
(11:58):
you know, basketball coach and and.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Well, it's so funny. I think you were trying to
find like one common.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Person there and we finally found it.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
I mean, if it didn't, if it would have boiled
down to oh my god, I went to that seven
eleven too, when I was little like white hen pantry,
but you, I mean, for a minute, I was like,
oh my god, he is digging deep trying to find
that connection. When the connect I mean, it was.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Just that Chicago people do that, though of.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Course everyone does that, but it was funny.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
It was interesting because we sat and we you know,
were around the table and laughed, and I loved how
they all treated Jacob as their own, which I thought
was awesome. You brought up something that I thought was
really important that I think we talk about because if
we have anybody that's listening to the show that is
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gay or has a gay child, I want you to
understand that there's a lot of anxiety that you have
as a parent that you want to you know, and
not that you should have this anxiety for any whether
they're gay or straight. You want to make sure that
your child is loved, but you also want to make
sure that your child's accepted, and that's I think it's
(13:13):
where it's different when you have somebody who have a
son or daughter that is gay.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
So what I said to you, and what I've said
to a couple of my friends when I've they've asked
about what happened, is that as the mother or parents
of a gay child, it is true you do want
you fear that your child will not be accepted. You
know that they're not accepted by a lot of people
in society, so it adds a layer of wanting to
(13:39):
protect them, fear for them. I have fears for all
three of my children, but I have a little bit
more for Jacob because I am afraid of how society
looks at him sometimes, so I fear for his protection.
But having said that, when they get into a relationship
and they go to meet that family, you don't know
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if their significant other is even accepted by their own family.
So because a lot of times they aren't. Just because
we are, it does not necessarily mean that they have
fully accepted you know where they are in that stage
of accepting their child, which is so sad. But to
know that, so one of my fears has always been,
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you know, will Jacob be accepted by his significant other's family?
And when you get to meet them people in person
and you see not only do they love Jacob, but
they probably love him as much as I do, and
it just made I walked away from that night, and
(14:49):
it took me a couple of days to process it.
I didn't even talk to you about it because I
internally had to process it in the sense that how
good I felt because they do love him so much,
and you can tell they are amazing people on their
own obviously, but to see the way that they joke
with him and love him, and they clearly they get
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together a lot, which means so much to me as well.
I'm a little jealous because I'd love to so they
do a lot together. And I also love I will
say this too. I love that Chris has such a
tie to his family and to gatherings and to I'm
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going to do this with my family, and sometimes Jacob
goes and sometimes he doesn't. And I love that family
is super important to Chris. You can take it's so awesome,
and their family, Chris is super important to them. So
it's just so wonderful to have your child be with
somebody that they love them. And again again you worry.
(15:58):
I worried a little about it a little bit more
with a gay child because of acceptance and to know
that they accept him and love him. You know, of
course I love him the most, but that they love
him the way that they love him and how much
they do just it makes me feel so good.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Yeah, it's wild because of where was this show my
two dads. It's not. If Jacob and Chris should decide
that their relationship was going to go towards marriage, they
would have three dads. Oh how amazing with that so amazing,
And I could hang out with Mariano and Matt. I
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don't think Matt wouldn't hang out with me, though, I
think he wants to hang out with you more than
hang out with me.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
We did have fun, Matt and I had fun.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
I think Mariano reminds I'm telling you, Mariano reminds me
of Bread and Brian Yeager.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Doesn't he even get a chance to talk to talk
to him.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Jacob actually brought it up. Jacob goes he reminds me
of the Jaggers, which Jaegers are my best buddies growing up.
And you know, I could totally see that, uh that
he does, you know fit in really well. So okay,
so we so this is interesting because you know, we
got you got some interesting stuff going on in our
(17:12):
family because the dynamics are kind of changing. You know,
Joe is uh, you know, got a very long term
girlfriend and at the time of this taping, who knows,
maybe he's already engaged, we don't know. But he did
buy a ring he told talked about that and he's
you know, had that ring for a while. And then
Jacob with us meeting Chris, is there something like could
(17:34):
is Jacob gonna get married? Do you do you guys
talk about that because.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
I've never had that important to him. Marriage is not
important to him, you know, probably because of ours, but
marriage is not important to him.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
So he fucked him up that much.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Yeah, but he I know, if it's important to Chris,
he has said that he would get married.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
And he doesn't see himself having kids. But if it's
important to Chris, he would probably have a child, which is.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Wild because Jacob's been in relationships before and if it
was important to them, I don't think Jacob would say, yes,
I would do it.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
Here's the thing. If Jacob is in love, which he
is right now with the person and it means something
to him, Jacob would definitely he would. Yeah, I think
he would. He wouldn't listen, he wouldn't be a dad
to someone that he didn't want to be a dad to,
and he wouldn't be married to someone that he didn't
want to be married to. So he really because he's
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he is a kid that he's not doing something. If
he's not doing it, you know, if he doesn't want
to do it. So they're absolutely one hundred percent is
a part of him that would want to be married.
And I am guessing would want to be a dad
if he does become a dad, because he's not going
to just have a kid and let it be out there.
He would put himself into it one hundred percent and
he'd be a phenomenal father if you choose to be honey,
(18:58):
I would be so excited. But I think that or
I know that it would have to be brought up
by the other person first and and then he would
have you know, he would dissect it, he would think
about it, and then he would come to his conclusion.
He would he again, he's not going to do something
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he doesn't want to do. But his goal, what does
he want in life is not to go be married
and have and have kids. That's not that's not his goal.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Does he talk to you about that? Because you guys,
you guys are very close. What is his goal?
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Well, I think his goal is to be a psychologist,
which he is attaining and almost we're at the end
of the tunnel. He wants, you know, he wants to
be happy, and I think he you know, I don't
think that there is this whereas with you know, Joe
has said that he wants to be married and to
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start a family. Jacob is very, very happy where he's at.
I think he just wants to be content and happy
in a relationship and he has found that. And maybe
it is I've not dove so deep with him to
you know, wonder like, is it different with gay couples.
(20:17):
I don't know, there's an extra step in there if
you're going to have kids. I did ask that two
of them cannot have a child without extra help.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I asked him about proposing, and I did. I asked
him this not from it being him proposing to Chris,
I said in general, because he and I were going
to get his car fixed and we were driving and
I asked him the question. I said, so, if you
ever proposed, or who would propose? Like I always wanted
to ask that question because there's always these questions that
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you ask, you know, in gay relationships, to wonder how
it would be And he said to me that amongst
his friends they talked about how if there was a proposal,
the other would propose, then within like twenty four hours
or something like that. Yeah, which I thought was interesting.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
So they proposed to each other.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Yeah, so there'd be like one would propose and then
within twenty four hours the other has to propose. But
I didn't ask him this question. I don't know why
I didn't ask him, but I was like, well, what
happened to the other doesn't propose? Then does that mean
that the proposal had been null and void? Or how
would how would And I know we're definitely put in
the car before the horse, but I thought about this
that night. How would the if say that Jacob and
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Chris were to decide that one day they wanted to
get married, who plans, who pays? Who does? Like, have
you had any of those conversations with him? No, I
have not, because because that's another thing too, because.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
Why does that even matter?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Well, because of I thought I was going to get
off very easily in the fact that I've got three
sons and I didn't have to pay for a wedding.
Speaker 3 (21:55):
Well, he had an education paid for, so happy wedding.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
You know, you know for a fact your son.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
But also Jacob is not the person who wants a big,
huge thing anyway.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Really, I want to walk them down the aisle. Would
you let me? Or would it be you walking them down?
You walking them? I don't know.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
I don't know why you sit here and think about
all this. It's not about us.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
It would be about him no, because well I will
say this, this is.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
The thing that's all his choices.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
I hate the fact that I met these people and
like them because because I've been burned before in uh
with kids relationship.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
By the way you get attached. You get attached to
these people. You start planning their weddings before they even
say I love you to each other. You need to
just you need to just let things be and be
so happy that he and I know that you are,
but just be so happy that Jacob is in a
relationship with someone A that we love and B has
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an amazing family. We need to walk away from that
and just be like, it is what it is. Who
knows what tomorrow can bring. We're not in control anyway.
It is their life. If they happen to want to
have a wedding and they need help with it. That's
something they're gonna have to come and talk to us
about and we'll discuss it then. But to sit there
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and say who pays? I mean, like who knows?
Speaker 2 (23:19):
I do? But you know what, I really, I don't know.
I vowed myself after past relationships have ended, I vowed
to myself that I wasn't going to get it close
to any of these, you know, people that my kids
bring in. And I get myself caught up in this
crap I do.
Speaker 3 (23:36):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I can't believe men I know, But I will say
this though I get in. I don't know what it
is I fantasize about, like what the future would be.
I think it's the movie thing, you know what I mean?
Like I sit there and I watch movies and I
see how things are, you know what I mean? Like
I picture me answering the door with a big old
gray beard and welcoming my kids and my grandkids and
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all the rest of that stuff, fireplace in the background,
stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
So do you think it's different like with Jacob and
Joe and Luke, so like accepting, Like are your visions
different with the girls versus the boys? Like I think
I am a lot more protective of Jacob than I
am of the other two with who they bring home.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
You are, I don't know if I necessarily.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
I don't think you were at all. I think I'm.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Equal with all of them. You are, Yeah, I mean
because I think Jacob can handle himself.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Well, I know Jacob can for sure, so I know
when he brings someone home.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
Actually, I think Jacob is probably more stable handing in
himself than Joe is, but for sure.
Speaker 3 (24:47):
But I think that, and I know, I just think
I worry about it.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
That's a dip but we can't even we love him for.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
That, Yeah, but I can't even He's not a dip shit.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
That Luke is Honestly, Luke Luke is uh is uh
one of those that I don't If I could live
any of the kid's lives, I'd live Luke's life, because
he's living his best life.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Yeah, I think. I think for me, it's when Jacob
brings someone home. I know that it means something because
he just does.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Not Joe Brock girls home.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
Well, yeah, and then when Joe and Luke Yeah bring
them home, it's like, oh, here's another vaginal walking in
the door, Like I don't. I don't necessarily think, Okay,
I want to make sure I don't necessarily think that
it's you know, they may think that it's serious, like
they they do, you know, they obviously do. Jacob, you
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know that there is intent and thought behind it and
not and again not to knock Joe and Luke because
they just are who they are. But he it's like
he really makes sure that he wants to be with
this person before he introduces us to him.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
I thought it was also sweet. You know, we met
everybody for dinner, but the night before we went to
dinner just with Jacob and Chris, and after dinner we
walked over to their apartment and got a chance to
just go over and see where they live. And it
was cool because Jacob had lived there, you know, through college,
(26:27):
and Chris had just recently moved in with him, and
it was really sweet. Like the walk back from the
restaurant was really interesting. There was something symbolic about it
to me because as we were walking, you and Jacob
were ahead of Chris and I, so Chris stayed with
me and we talked back and forth, and there was
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something about it that made me I was comforted by
the fact that it wasn't like that. Chris was letting
you two guys have your conversation and then he was
you know, talk into the old man, you know what
I mean, And it was great. It was I tear
up when I think about this, and Jacob's probably listening
(27:08):
to Jacob is the only one I think that listens
to this podcast. So Luke wouldn't even hear me call
him a dipshit, but Jacob. That made me realize how
amazing he is. Chris, because we were just having just
conversation about you know, you guys and about the neighborhood
(27:31):
and about what you guys do and all this stuff.
Chris was showing me, you know, things are pointing out
different things, and I thought to myself, I'm like, that
is something I would have done, like with your dad,
you know what I mean, Like if we were walking,
if we were going somewhere, or your mom, I would
have tried to be connected to them. And I thought
that Chris intentionally was doing that.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
And sorry felt left out because Jacob and I walked No,
I think Chris, and I was like, I feel sorry him.
I'm going to walk with him.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Chris is Chris is interesting is an interesting you know
young man and his mom and dad and dad have
and sisters have done an amazing job because he is
there's nothing unintentional about Chris, Like he is intentionally kind
and sweet, but he is also.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Well by nature. He's just kind.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Yeah, he's a he's a really I yeah, listen in
his parents. You know, Uh, we're sweet because they sent
you flowers as a thank you because of us and
both of us. Yeah, but it was smart because they
sent your favorite flowers, which obviously Chris or somebody Jacob
must have said something, but but that was that was
(28:46):
just so. But that was also very Chicago, like I I,
you know, I'm so happy that Jacob has met a
young man from where I grew up because I do think, no,
I really do think that there's something special about the
way that you're raised. And Detroit's like this too, you know,
and I think that for Chris's family, Know, you're getting
(29:08):
a good Midwestern young guy in your son's life. Yeah,
you know that was raised to be doing the right things,
you know, not not raised to be a shithead.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
Yeah. So yeah, it's very good, very nice.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
When are we planning in the wedding? Oh, my god,
I want a big I want one like I want
like a royal wedding, Like I want something.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yeah, I want it's not about you.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
I want something that's so like you.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
Can plan your next wedding.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Then I want it. I want to like set it
over there. I've never been. I don't think I've ever
been to a gay wedding. I'm trying to think. I
don't think so I have you've been to a couple. Actually,
you've been to a gay and a straight wedding for
the same person.
Speaker 3 (29:50):
I have. Yeah, what is she now?
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Do we know what she's decided? She is now, she's gone,
She's had a couple of different marriages.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
Yeah. Whatever.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
By the way, can we have Jacob and Chris on
a podcast like? I would love to be able to
see the dynamic of them talking together.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Can't ask me, you'd have to ask them.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
But yeah, And Chris has his own podcast, which we
would be great because I would love to. I would
love I have never listened to Christmas podcasts.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
And I should listenk about our podcast because he has
people that pay to listen. Has it's pretty important.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
We have advertisers that pay to advertise with us.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
Yeah, and cut us off in the middle of it.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
As a matter of fact, you're going to hear it
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Speaker 1 (01:04):
Well, all right, all right, all right, without further delay,
here are Mojo and Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
All right, so we got a chance to meet Jacob's
boyfriend Chris and his family.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Actually you've known Chris, we.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Have, but we got to meet his family. Guy. Yes,
I always never know because Chris spells his name differently.
He doesn't spell it.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Traditional traditionally.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
He doesn't. He spells it Cris, which I guess is
the is the is a religious traditional way. I didn't
know that.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I did not either.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I guess it's. Uh, there is a religious meaning to
it that I learned from some listener that sent me.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Okay, But I never know where to put the apostrophe.
Is it apostrophe at the end of the s or
do you do apostrophe.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
S when we're talking about Chris Chris's family at the end,
because that would make it plarial.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Okay, I never know what to do. I don't know
why I'm bringing that up in this point.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Whatever.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
It's So we went to Chicago, and actually this has
been coming. We just didn't haven't done a podcast, you know,
for a little bit, and we wanted to kind of
like spread these things out a little bit. But we
a few weeks ago got a chance to go back
and see Jacob and Chris and then meet Chris's family.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Well, actually we were asked to yes, so they wanted
us to come. Jacob had asked us if we would
come in and meet Chris's family, his parents.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
That's cool, by the way, I like that. Yeah, it was.
It was really wild. Their family is a very I
always say they're a twenty twenty five family because you
and I are kind of like the old school where
it's just you and I. But we got the chance
to meet the stepdad and the mom, the.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Dad and the stepdad and the stepdad and one of
Chris's sisters, his younger sister.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yep, we went to dinner and uh, first off, can
we talk about Chris before we talk about the family.
Of course, this kid is special. Yeah, he's really a
really like he. I know it sounds weird to say
this because you hate that. I always will say that
he you know, like I'll use my family as the barometer.
I felt like he was one of my kids. Like
(03:21):
I feel like he's a he's a carballo, like you
know what I mean, Like you feel I feel like
he's somebody.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Agree with that. But I will say this, Jacob is
a certain way. He's very protective, he's very he doesn't
he'll give you as much information as he wants to
give you. He doesn't give you more. And so, having
said that, we don't really know a lot about his
dating life until he feels we need to know about
(03:48):
his dating life, meaning who he's dating, and he's just
you know, when he was single and you would ask him,
why are you going out on dates? Yeah, and then
that's it, Like he doesn't go on to tell you more,
where the other two boys are very vocal and share
probably too much. So he keeps everything really close to
(04:09):
his chest. And so when he shares with you, you know
it's important to him and it means something to him.
So he's been dating Chris. I don't even know how
long he was dating Chris before we even got to
know his name or you know, get to meet him.
So when we met him, he is just so different
(04:31):
than Jacob and he brings out a different side of
Jacob and it's amazing and it's beautiful and it's so
good to see your child in love with someone who
compliments them so well. And if I had to pick
(04:51):
out somebody for him, Chris would not have been who
I picked out. It's a crazy thing, but to know,
but to see it now and to see, yeah, we.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Would picked you would have picked out the wrong person
for Jacob.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
Well, I just you know, I would have picked someone
who was a little bit more similar to him in
the sense that sometimes I feel that Jacob tends to
go towards people who are a little bit more like him. Yeah,
with but whether it's friends or whatever. And Chris could
not be more opposite. And what a wonderful, perfect compliment
(05:27):
he is to Jacob. And so it just and has
helped calm his anxieties about things and has helped him,
you know, ease up on a bunch of stuff. And
it's just, you know, opposites do truly attract, but with Jacob,
for a while, opposites repelled him. So it's so so
(05:47):
I would have, again, knowing what I know about him,
and as his mother, I would have picked someone who
was a little bit more like him, because I think
it would have been well cynic like Jakes, a little
bit more easier for him to you do. But man,
I got to tell you, Chris, who is the opposite
in so many ways.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
He's very compassionately kind.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
Oh and Jacob is very kind, oh yes, so, but
but Chris is, he's just a perfect compliment to Jacob.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
I don't think I've seen Jacob laugh like he laughs
with him, like smiles like he smiles very happy. It's
really cool.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
And that's a parent it's so wonderful.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I laugh because one of the first times I ever
met Chris, it was actually the second time that I
got spent time with him. There was a family function
that was going out in the suburbs, and Chris reminds
me in certain respects of me that he is. He
love to say that well, because he is. All he
wants is to people to be happy.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
I'm sure Jacob loved to hear that too.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
He hated it when I said it to him and
we had something going on and Jacob was like, I'm
not going. I can't go to it, like whatever. And
I'm like, Jacob, I really want you to go to it,
and He's like, I can't because I already have something
going on. I can't do it. And I'm the type
of person, even if I have like a million things
to go on, I want to make people happy, right,
I'm a you know, one of those people even if
(07:11):
it hurts my happiness or others or others. And Jacob
is I respect him because he's a lot like you
in regards to the fact that he's like, you know what, no,
I you know, I'm gonna I'm going to protect myself
and Chris was like, oh, he was like and Chris
kind of made me laugh because I was like, this
is so funny because I think that part of it
(07:32):
was Chris doing it because he wanted to make me happy,
and he also wanted to do it because I think
he wanted well, I think he also.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Wanted he wanted to make you happy. He didn't really
know you.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Well, no, but I think he also have in Jacob's dad,
and I think that he also was kind of like,
you know what you know.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Jacob, I do you think Chris would do it? Because
Chris would do it like that's just he doesn't think
about I don't think he's a people pleaser at all.
I think he's and if he doesn't want to do something,
he doesn't do it, and he lets things i'd right
off his back.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
No, Chris, Chris, really.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
You think Jacob lets things slide right off his b
Have you met saying?
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Who the are you talking?
Speaker 3 (08:09):
No?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
No?
Speaker 3 (08:10):
Christ is Chris? You know if something is his? From
what Jacob has said and from what I have seen,
he's just like, okay, you know when things happen, like
he just go with the flow, which is opposite of Jacob.
And again, so refreshing for Jacob to see the world
will not crumble if something does not go the way
that it's planned.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
We got to meet Jacob's boyfriend's family again, and so
we went to a restaurant and showed up and their
family dynamic is interesting because mom and dad are divorced.
And what is Chris's ethnicity? Do we know? Is Chris Mexican?
Is he Puerto Rican? Is he Venezuela? I don't know.
(08:53):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
I could be wrong if I'm wrong.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
But Jacob likes them Latin, which is cool because that
would make that would make his grandfather, my dad happy
because my dad was Cuban and he as you know.
So we show up and it's Jacob's it's Chris's mom
and dad and stepfather who has been his dad, you
(09:19):
know for how many years have Matt and j been together.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
So let's just start off with the names that So
Chris's dad is Mariano Okay, okay. The mom is Juanita,
but they refer to her as Jay and her husband
now who she's been married to. The Juanita and Mariano
have been divorced, so she is married to Matt okay,
who is Chris's stepdad, and they've been married, so I
(09:46):
think they've been together. I think Chris said that his
parents got divorced when he was nine. I don't know
why that age.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I thought he was no, no, no, his sister was
was that young? The dad, I think he was like
an high school or something like that.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Oh, okay, okay, so they've been married. I know Jacob
is yelling at the radio because he's listening to us
and telling us how long that they've been together and divorced. Anyway, regardless,
the beauty of their relationship is that they are all friends.
They all get along, they all joke with each other.
(10:22):
It is what a divorced family, if it can be,
should be. They drove from the suburbs to downtown Chicago
to meet us at a restaurant together in the same car.
Wild And they they always get together and hang out
with each other, and they do it for the kids.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
And when we sat at the restaurant, Chris's parents, his
biological parents sat right next to each other like a
married couple would. Yes, And Matt said, right there next
to you.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Was in between them, yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
And then Chris and Jacob and then Olivia was next
to me, so it was and they were talking, and actually,
to be honest with you, I sat and talked to uh,
Mariano and to Jay. Majority of the time I felt that.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
I just feel like I did not talk to Mariano
at all.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
And it was great though, because he reminded me of
a guy that I hung out with and me he did.
He had a lot of everybody reminds me of me, No,
but he reminded because because they grew up in you know,
I grew up Southside Chicago. They grew up in uh, Brookfield,
you know, which is right there, just outside of you know,
(11:37):
the South Side, and I had so many friends that
were from the area, and obviously my brothers and sisters
and stuff kind of still lives in the Chicago area.
So it's nice to be able to talk to him
and to relate to some people and even know some
people like uh when he does knew my high school uh,
(11:58):
you know, basketball coach and and.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Well, it's so funny. I think you were trying to
find like one common.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Person there and we finally found it.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
I mean, if it didn't, if it would have boiled
down to oh my god, I went to that seven
eleven too, when I was little like white hen pantry,
but you, I mean, for a minute, I was like,
oh my god, he is digging deep trying to find
that connection. When the connect I mean, it was.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
Just that Chicago people do that, though of.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Course everyone does that, but it was funny.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
It was interesting because we sat and we you know,
were around the table and laughed, and I loved how
they all treated Jacob as their own, which I thought
was awesome. You brought up something that I thought was
really important that I think we talk about because if
we have anybody that's listening to the show that is
(12:53):
gay or has a gay child, I want you to
understand that there's a lot of anxiety that you have
as a parent that you want to you know, and
not that you should have this anxiety for any whether
they're gay or straight. You want to make sure that
your child is loved, but you also want to make
sure that your child's accepted, and that's I think it's
(13:13):
where it's different when you have somebody who have a
son or daughter that is gay.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
So what I said to you, and what I've said
to a couple of my friends when I've they've asked
about what happened, is that as the mother or parents
of a gay child, it is true you do want
you fear that your child will not be accepted. You
know that they're not accepted by a lot of people
in society, so it adds a layer of wanting to
(13:39):
protect them, fear for them. I have fears for all
three of my children, but I have a little bit
more for Jacob because I am afraid of how society
looks at him sometimes, so I fear for his protection.
But having said that, when they get into a relationship
and they go to meet that family, you don't know
(14:03):
if their significant other is even accepted by their own family.
So because a lot of times they aren't. Just because
we are, it does not necessarily mean that they have
fully accepted you know where they are in that stage
of accepting their child, which is so sad. But to
know that, so one of my fears has always been,
(14:27):
you know, will Jacob be accepted by his significant other's family?
And when you get to meet them people in person
and you see not only do they love Jacob, but
they probably love him as much as I do, and
it just made I walked away from that night, and
(14:49):
it took me a couple of days to process it.
I didn't even talk to you about it because I
internally had to process it in the sense that how
good I felt because they do love him so much,
and you can tell they are amazing people on their
own obviously, but to see the way that they joke
with him and love him, and they clearly they get
(15:11):
together a lot, which means so much to me as well.
I'm a little jealous because I'd love to so they
do a lot together. And I also love I will
say this too. I love that Chris has such a
tie to his family and to gatherings and to I'm
(15:34):
going to do this with my family, and sometimes Jacob
goes and sometimes he doesn't. And I love that family
is super important to Chris. You can take it's so awesome,
and their family, Chris is super important to them. So
it's just so wonderful to have your child be with
somebody that they love them. And again again you worry.
(15:58):
I worried a little about it a little bit more
with a gay child because of acceptance and to know
that they accept him and love him. You know, of
course I love him the most, but that they love
him the way that they love him and how much
they do just it makes me feel so good.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Yeah, it's wild because of where was this show my
two dads. It's not. If Jacob and Chris should decide
that their relationship was going to go towards marriage, they
would have three dads. Oh how amazing with that so amazing,
And I could hang out with Mariano and Matt. I
(16:38):
don't think Matt wouldn't hang out with me, though, I
think he wants to hang out with you more than
hang out with me.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
We did have fun, Matt and I had fun.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
I think Mariano reminds I'm telling you, Mariano reminds me
of Bread and Brian Yeager.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Doesn't he even get a chance to talk to talk
to him.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Jacob actually brought it up. Jacob goes he reminds me
of the Jaggers, which Jaegers are my best buddies growing up.
And you know, I could totally see that, uh that
he does, you know fit in really well. So okay,
so we so this is interesting because you know, we
got you got some interesting stuff going on in our
(17:12):
family because the dynamics are kind of changing. You know,
Joe is uh, you know, got a very long term
girlfriend and at the time of this taping, who knows,
maybe he's already engaged, we don't know. But he did
buy a ring he told talked about that and he's
you know, had that ring for a while. And then
Jacob with us meeting Chris, is there something like could
(17:34):
is Jacob gonna get married? Do you do you guys
talk about that because.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
I've never had that important to him. Marriage is not
important to him, you know, probably because of ours, but
marriage is not important to him.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
So he fucked him up that much.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Yeah, but he I know, if it's important to Chris,
he has said that he would get married.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (17:59):
And he doesn't see himself having kids. But if it's
important to Chris, he would probably have a child, which is.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Wild because Jacob's been in relationships before and if it
was important to them, I don't think Jacob would say, yes,
I would do it.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
Here's the thing. If Jacob is in love, which he
is right now with the person and it means something
to him, Jacob would definitely he would. Yeah, I think
he would. He wouldn't listen, he wouldn't be a dad
to someone that he didn't want to be a dad to,
and he wouldn't be married to someone that he didn't
want to be married to. So he really because he's
(18:36):
he is a kid that he's not doing something. If
he's not doing it, you know, if he doesn't want
to do it. So they're absolutely one hundred percent is
a part of him that would want to be married.
And I am guessing would want to be a dad
if he does become a dad, because he's not going
to just have a kid and let it be out there.
He would put himself into it one hundred percent and
he'd be a phenomenal father if you choose to be honey,
(18:58):
I would be so excited. But I think that or
I know that it would have to be brought up
by the other person first and and then he would
have you know, he would dissect it, he would think
about it, and then he would come to his conclusion.
He would he again, he's not going to do something
(19:20):
he doesn't want to do. But his goal, what does
he want in life is not to go be married
and have and have kids. That's not that's not his goal.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Does he talk to you about that? Because you guys,
you guys are very close. What is his goal?
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Well, I think his goal is to be a psychologist,
which he is attaining and almost we're at the end
of the tunnel. He wants, you know, he wants to
be happy, and I think he you know, I don't
think that there is this whereas with you know, Joe
has said that he wants to be married and to
(19:55):
start a family. Jacob is very, very happy where he's at.
I think he just wants to be content and happy
in a relationship and he has found that. And maybe
it is I've not dove so deep with him to
you know, wonder like, is it different with gay couples.
(20:17):
I don't know, there's an extra step in there if
you're going to have kids. I did ask that two
of them cannot have a child without extra help.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I asked him about proposing, and I did. I asked
him this not from it being him proposing to Chris,
I said in general, because he and I were going
to get his car fixed and we were driving and
I asked him the question. I said, so, if you
ever proposed, or who would propose? Like I always wanted
to ask that question because there's always these questions that
(20:46):
you ask, you know, in gay relationships, to wonder how
it would be And he said to me that amongst
his friends they talked about how if there was a proposal,
the other would propose, then within like twenty four hours
or something like that. Yeah, which I thought was interesting.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
So they proposed to each other.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Yeah, so there'd be like one would propose and then
within twenty four hours the other has to propose. But
I didn't ask him this question. I don't know why
I didn't ask him, but I was like, well, what
happened to the other doesn't propose? Then does that mean
that the proposal had been null and void? Or how
would how would And I know we're definitely put in
the car before the horse, but I thought about this
that night. How would the if say that Jacob and
(21:29):
Chris were to decide that one day they wanted to
get married, who plans, who pays? Who does? Like, have
you had any of those conversations with him? No, I
have not, because because that's another thing too, because.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
Why does that even matter?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Well, because of I thought I was going to get
off very easily in the fact that I've got three
sons and I didn't have to pay for a wedding.
Speaker 3 (21:55):
Well, he had an education paid for, so happy wedding.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
You know, you know for a fact your son.
Speaker 3 (22:05):
But also Jacob is not the person who wants a big,
huge thing anyway.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Really, I want to walk them down the aisle. Would
you let me? Or would it be you walking them down?
You walking them? I don't know.
Speaker 3 (22:16):
I don't know why you sit here and think about
all this. It's not about us.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
It would be about him no, because well I will
say this, this is.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
The thing that's all his choices.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
I hate the fact that I met these people and
like them because because I've been burned before in uh
with kids relationship.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
By the way you get attached. You get attached to
these people. You start planning their weddings before they even
say I love you to each other. You need to
just you need to just let things be and be
so happy that he and I know that you are,
but just be so happy that Jacob is in a
relationship with someone A that we love and B has
(22:55):
an amazing family. We need to walk away from that
and just be like, it is what it is. Who
knows what tomorrow can bring. We're not in control anyway.
It is their life. If they happen to want to
have a wedding and they need help with it. That's
something they're gonna have to come and talk to us
about and we'll discuss it then. But to sit there
(23:16):
and say who pays? I mean, like who knows?
Speaker 2 (23:19):
I do? But you know what, I really, I don't know.
I vowed myself after past relationships have ended, I vowed
to myself that I wasn't going to get it close
to any of these, you know, people that my kids
bring in. And I get myself caught up in this
crap I do.
Speaker 3 (23:36):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
I can't believe men I know, But I will say
this though I get in. I don't know what it
is I fantasize about, like what the future would be.
I think it's the movie thing, you know what I mean?
Like I sit there and I watch movies and I
see how things are, you know what I mean? Like
I picture me answering the door with a big old
gray beard and welcoming my kids and my grandkids and
(23:59):
all the rest of that stuff, fireplace in the background,
stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
So do you think it's different like with Jacob and
Joe and Luke, so like accepting, Like are your visions
different with the girls versus the boys? Like I think
I am a lot more protective of Jacob than I
am of the other two with who they bring home.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
You are, I don't know if I necessarily.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
I don't think you were at all. I think I'm.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Equal with all of them. You are, Yeah, I mean
because I think Jacob can handle himself.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Well, I know Jacob can for sure, so I know
when he brings someone home.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
Actually, I think Jacob is probably more stable handing in
himself than Joe is, but for sure.
Speaker 3 (24:47):
But I think that, and I know, I just think
I worry about it.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
That's a dip but we can't even we love him for.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
That, Yeah, but I can't even He's not a dip shit.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
That Luke is Honestly, Luke Luke is uh is uh
one of those that I don't If I could live
any of the kid's lives, I'd live Luke's life, because
he's living his best life.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Yeah, I think. I think for me, it's when Jacob
brings someone home. I know that it means something because
he just does.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Not Joe Brock girls home.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
Well, yeah, and then when Joe and Luke Yeah bring
them home, it's like, oh, here's another vaginal walking in
the door, Like I don't. I don't necessarily think, Okay,
I want to make sure I don't necessarily think that
it's you know, they may think that it's serious, like
they they do, you know, they obviously do. Jacob, you
(25:44):
know that there is intent and thought behind it and
not and again not to knock Joe and Luke because
they just are who they are. But he it's like
he really makes sure that he wants to be with
this person before he introduces us to him.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
I thought it was also sweet. You know, we met
everybody for dinner, but the night before we went to
dinner just with Jacob and Chris, and after dinner we
walked over to their apartment and got a chance to
just go over and see where they live. And it
was cool because Jacob had lived there, you know, through college,
(26:27):
and Chris had just recently moved in with him, and
it was really sweet. Like the walk back from the
restaurant was really interesting. There was something symbolic about it
to me because as we were walking, you and Jacob
were ahead of Chris and I, so Chris stayed with
me and we talked back and forth, and there was
(26:48):
something about it that made me I was comforted by
the fact that it wasn't like that. Chris was letting
you two guys have your conversation and then he was
you know, talk into the old man, you know what
I mean, And it was great. It was I tear
up when I think about this, and Jacob's probably listening
(27:08):
to Jacob is the only one I think that listens
to this podcast. So Luke wouldn't even hear me call
him a dipshit, but Jacob. That made me realize how
amazing he is. Chris, because we were just having just
conversation about you know, you guys and about the neighborhood
(27:31):
and about what you guys do and all this stuff.
Chris was showing me, you know, things are pointing out
different things, and I thought to myself, I'm like, that
is something I would have done, like with your dad,
you know what I mean, Like if we were walking,
if we were going somewhere, or your mom, I would
have tried to be connected to them. And I thought
that Chris intentionally was doing that.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
And sorry felt left out because Jacob and I walked No,
I think Chris, and I was like, I feel sorry him.
I'm going to walk with him.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Chris is Chris is interesting is an interesting you know
young man and his mom and dad and dad have
and sisters have done an amazing job because he is
there's nothing unintentional about Chris, Like he is intentionally kind
and sweet, but he is also.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Well by nature. He's just kind.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Yeah, he's a he's a really I yeah, listen in
his parents. You know, Uh, we're sweet because they sent
you flowers as a thank you because of us and
both of us. Yeah, but it was smart because they
sent your favorite flowers, which obviously Chris or somebody Jacob
must have said something, but but that was that was
(28:46):
just so. But that was also very Chicago, like I I,
you know, I'm so happy that Jacob has met a
young man from where I grew up because I do think, no,
I really do think that there's something special about the
way that you're raised. And Detroit's like this too, you know,
and I think that for Chris's family, Know, you're getting
(29:08):
a good Midwestern young guy in your son's life. Yeah,
you know that was raised to be doing the right things,
you know, not not raised to be a shithead.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
Yeah. So yeah, it's very good, very nice.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
When are we planning in the wedding? Oh, my god,
I want a big I want one like I want
like a royal wedding, Like I want something.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yeah, I want it's not about you.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
I want something that's so like you.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
Can plan your next wedding.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
Then I want it. I want to like set it
over there. I've never been. I don't think I've ever
been to a gay wedding. I'm trying to think. I
don't think so I have you've been to a couple. Actually,
you've been to a gay and a straight wedding for
the same person.
Speaker 3 (29:50):
I have. Yeah, what is she now?
Speaker 2 (29:54):
Do we know what she's decided? She is now, she's gone,
She's had a couple of different marriages.
Speaker 3 (29:59):
Yeah. Whatever.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
By the way, can we have Jacob and Chris on
a podcast like? I would love to be able to
see the dynamic of them talking together.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
Can't ask me, you'd have to ask them.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
But yeah, And Chris has his own podcast, which we
would be great because I would love to. I would
love I have never listened to Christmas podcasts.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
And I should listenk about our podcast because he has
people that pay to listen. Has it's pretty important.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
We have advertisers that pay to advertise with us.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
Yeah, and cut us off in the middle of it.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
As a matter of fact, you're going to hear it
from it. Just a second pair, It comes all right.
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